The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
By Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
Redo vs. Second Act Vision Of Remarriage
I work with many couples who are in their second marriage, and often the man is older and has kids already. In some of these marriages, the woman views the second marriage as a "redo" and he views it as a "second act," which can lead to conflict and hurt feelings. Today's episode goes into depth about these perspectives, helping each partner empathize with the other, and giving you helpful reframes to make your relationship the best it can be!
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The Transition From A Woman's 30's To Her 40's
The transition from women's 30's to 40's can feel very significant. Here's a deep dive into aging, how couples can accept the reality of life moving in one direction, how our larger social and family context can help or hinder our ability to navigate this transition, and how happy couples stay close and connected in their 40's and beyond!
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Deromanticize Your Life
Thanks for subscribing! The "romanticize your life" idea is all over social media... but this idea can be unhealthy for people who struggle with depression or anxiety or who are highly sensitive! Listen for my take on why the opposite, deromanticizing your life, can actually be the best approach... and at the end, I discuss who actually can benefit from the romanticizing approach!
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In Their 40's, Many Women Stop Being The Preoccupied Attachment/Pursuer Partner
Why do pursuing women stop in their 40's? How does the avoidant attachment man feel about it? And what else characterizes the post-pursuing midlife woman? All this and more on today's episode!
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Divorce From Each Attachment Style
What is it like to be divorced from someone who is secure, avoidant, preoccupied, or fearful avoidant? Today's episode goes into depth about what I've seen in 15 years of practice about the easiest and most difficult, as well as details about how each partner operates in terms of conflict, remarriage and more!
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The Passive Aggressive "Shock" Reaction To Your Partner Doing Something Nice
If your partner does something nice, like doing the laundry or giving you a kiss, and you react with TREMENDOUS SHOCK, this is passive aggressive. Your partner feels reprimanded and is much less likely to do this nice thing again. Here's why you do this and what to do instead!
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Mental Load? Or Depression/Anxiety?
In today's episode, I go in depth into one of my favorite topics: mental load. Is the problem really mental load/emotional labor? What is underneath this convenient trope in many couples that I see? Often depression, anxiety, ADHD, codependency, and enabling. Great episode if you hate the term "mental load"... even greater if you love it but want to interrogate that love a little more in case it's covering up things that you would benefit from thinking harder about!
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"She Divorced Me Because I Left Dishes By The Sink".... Interview With Matthew Fray!
Today we have a special treat! An interview with Matthew Fray, who wrote the viral post that every woman my age remembers.... "She Divorced Me Because I Left Dishes By The Sink"! We discuss relationships, divorce, ADHD, male and female perspectives on relationships, and more!
Matthew Fray is a relationship coach and author of the book This is How Your Marriage Ends. His down-to-earth approach to human relationships and personal reflections on his own marriage and divorce have been featured in The New York Times, The Atlantic, The Wall Street Journal, The Sunday Times (London), on The Tamron Hall Show, On Air with Ryan Seacrest, BBC Radio, and dozens of relationship podcasts. He’s a father to a teenage son, a long-suffering Cleveland sports fan, a bourbon whiskey collector and enthusiast, and he lives near Cleveland, Ohio.
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The Random Couple Reframe: How To Gain Objectivity About Your Belief System
Thanks for subscribing! If you wouldn't pay some random boomer couple to tell you how to live your life... you owe it to yourself to interrogate your belief system on a deeper level!
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When A Parent Commits Suicide... Or When You Yourself Feel Suicidal
After reading the book Us, After by Rachel Zimmerman (https://amzn.to/4239BfW), I wanted to dive into the topic of when a parent commits suicide and how this impacts adult children later on. In today's episode, we cover how kids think of this, how depression hijacks your brain to make this seem like the best option, what to do if you are severely depressed and have had these thoughts, and a reframe that has been useful for many of my clients over the years who have kids and who struggle with suicidality.
IF YOU HAVE SUICIDAL THOUGHTS, CALL 988, THE SUICIDE AND CRISIS HELPLINE.
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Are You Really An Introvert Or Do You Have Social Anxiety?
Introverts aren't scared of people or embarrassing themselves. If you are, you likely have social anxiety, which can constrict the lives of your children and spouse. Here's a different perspective on social anxiety vs introversion, how to work on it using exposure principles, and how to eventually learn to engage in a more open and enthusiastic way vs being paralyzed by the thought that you may do something wrong or weird.
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How Do Real Women Initiate Sex?
If you're used to the initiation style that women use in porn, and don't have much non-honeymoon stage experience with other women, you may well miss the signals that your wife is open to having sex. Covered in this episode: how she may be initiating, the impact of confident momentum in bed, and the limitations of some men's demand that their wives "communicate more directly."
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Jealousy Isn't All Bad
Thanks for subscribing! Some people act like they don't notice or care when a partner gets hit on or talks to someone else at a party. There are basic evolutionary and emotional reasons to notice and mention this! All covered in today's episode.
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Parentified Children/Surrogate Spouses
Some children have to act like parents or even spouses to their own parents. How and why does this manifest, and how does it impact later adult intimate relationships for these kids?
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"I'm Depressed Because Of My Spouse"
No, your spouse doesn't make you depressed or not depressed. If you think this, it is related to your attachment style, not your depression or even your relationship. One of the hardest things to learn for people with preoccupied or fearful-avoidant attachment, but the only thing that can actually help you heal and grow as a person.
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How Do Securely Attached People Feel About The Decrease In Sex/Romance In A Long Relationship?
Often preoccupied attachment men think that the only possible response to a sex decreasing in frequency over a long relationship is depression and panic. This isn't the case, nor is that a healthy response when preoccupied attachment women think that their husband needs to listen to them talk for hours so that they don't get upset. What is a more balanced and healthy view of relationships over time?
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People Pleasing Parentified Daughters Of Covertly Narcissistic Mothers
Thanks for subscribing! This bonus episode is an in depth look at parentified daughters of difficult mothers, and how the people pleasing behaviors that they learn in the home impacts their lives and relationships. Including: which men do they pick? When does the dynamic change? And what to do if this episode sounds like you!
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How To Message On Dating Apps For My Listeners In Their 50's And Up!
My experience helping a friend message on Bumble! Very practical dating advice if you struggle with having your guard up or with anxiety.
Here's Carol!! She lives in Maryland and is looking forward to hearing from you :)
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Preoccupied Attachment Men: Stop Doing Things That Make Your Relationship Worse
A really practical and direct overview of how many preoccupied men (and women) make their relationships worse without understanding how. And of course, what to do instead!
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Walking On Eggshells: Who Does It, Why, And How To Get Healthy
Walking on eggshells: how does this dynamic originate on both sides, how do I see it manifest, and what can you do about it in order to break the cycle for your kids?
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How To Recognize An Eating Disorder In Your Partner And How To Support Them To Get Help... With Jen Rollin, LCSW!
Awesome video podcast with my friend and respected colleague Jen Rollin! It's a myth that only teenage girls have eating disorders. In fact, as we discuss in this episode, eating disorders are highly linked to OCD and prevent many partners from tasting food, going on date nights, and engaging in a relaxed way in the relationship overall.
Jennifer Rollin, MSW, LCSW-C is an award-winning therapist and founder of The Eating Disorder Center in Rockville, Maryland, who specializes in working with adolescents and adults with eating disorders including, anorexia, bulimia, binge eating disorder, body image issues, and compulsive exercise, & eating disorders co-occurring with OCD. Follow her podcast Eating Disorder Recovery Chat! And visit her practice: theeatingdisordercenter.com
Vibrators: Are They Contributing To Distance In Your Sexual Relationship?
Thanks for subscribing! This bonus episode is an in depth look at how I've seen vibrator use impact couples. As with all relationship topics, this is multifaceted and the effect can vary based on the couple. However, if you've gotten to a place where you need the vibrator every time, this episode will give you something to think about!
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The Luteal Phase (The Two Weeks Before Her Period) Sucks
The midpoint of her cycle starts The Bad Time. Here is a very practical overview of what this feels like for women, why, and how to deal with it!
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When Your Partner Needs To Walk On Eggshells Around You, They Can't Also Be Romantic Or Sexual
Some people think that their moodiness is just who they are, and completely fail to understand that no healthy person is able to be vulnerable and open with them if they are easily angered, hurt, or annoyed. This means that their romantic and sex lives suffer because of their moodiness, but they never work on their moodiness... at least not until this episode gives them a wake up call!
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"You Shouldn't Talk About Body Count When Dating" NOPE DISAGREE!
Special treat! A little response to A Little Nudge's post. Woman asked her, "Guy I like has slept with 61 ppl compared to my 6. Are we doomed?" She replied: "I truly believe neither of you should know this information. It is personal and past and irrelevant." Disagree and here's why!
Working On Your Marriage Benefits Your Kids In Ways You've Never Considered
Specifically, it is way harder for your kids to have successful and happy adult romantic relationships if they have learned implicitly that their role models are not romantically viable entities! Seeing a happy marriage is the best and easiest way for your kids to have a positive self concept about their own ability to give and receive love!
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When Sex Is More About Your Self Concept As A Good Lover Than Connecting With Your Wife
Thanks for subscribing! Your wife picks up on whether sex is about close connection with her or whether she is the sole audience member in your "Best Lover Ever" one man show. Listen and learn about how women feel when they are the recipient of anxious overfunctioning in bed!
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How To Help Your Kids Turn Into Sex Positive Adults
Two common situations: how to model sex positivity for your kids, and how to talk to a spouse about this if they are terrified of discussing sex in your house. The latter is linked to anxiety and childhood trauma!
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"Why Can't She Just Give Me A Blowjob When She Doesn't Want Sex?"
For a million reasons that I describe! And if you are in the mood to try, the link to the Blow His Mind Instructional video (and the others I reference) is here: https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/videos
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"Menopause Is Nature's Bait And Switch" NOPE
Here is a better way to understand menopause within the context of evolutionary biology! I also cover: were you really happy until menopause struck? And of course, what to do about the impact of menopause on your relationship!
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"Workhorse" Men: Why You Put Work, Service, And Family Above Your Own Happiness
I realized I never did a full episode on workhorse men, even though I reference them a lot in my episodes! All about the man who is taught to keep his head down and focus on others' needs instead of his own. Great companion piece to the subscriber episode coming out in April about the female version: people pleasing daughters of difficult mothers.
Here's my seminar coming up on Friday for ADHD men and anxious wives! Hope to see you there!
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And here is our new hire Dr. Thomas Ballas, he's great!
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How Can You Draw On Your Own Self Knowledge To Help You Empathize With Your Partner?
Thanks for subscribing! Today we discuss what empathy really means in two major areas I see in couples therapy... and of course vis a vis sex as well! And follow me on Substack! https://substack.com/@drpsychmom1!!
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If You Would Skip Work/Anything Else For Sex... This Is Why She Doesn't Want Sex
If you would leave/stop any other activity to have sex, you do not value anything in your life as much as sex. This is a turnoff for any woman. Here's why! And follow me on Substack! https://substack.com/@drpsychmom1!!
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Your Wife Can't Be Open About Sex/Aging If You Won't Be
Some guys are dishonest with themselves/their wives about sex, saying things like "my drive at 50 is the same as it was at 18" and pretending they are in the best shape of their lives at 70. If you do this stuff, she can't be open and honest with you. Join and empathize like a friend versus being defensive and delusional, and your marriage will improve!
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Don't Friendzone Your Marriage!
If you tell your wife "that's a nice shirt, is it new?" instead of "you look hot".... this episode is for you! I differentiate between friendship as a core healthy foundation for your marriage and friendship as the entirety of your marriage, which isn't healthy. And of course, why you do this and concrete and practical scripts for change!
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The Meaningless Thank You.... Or "Thank You" Isn't A Compliment!
Thanks for subscribing! Here is why getting thanked for stuff you do every day rubs you the wrong way, and all of the interesting couples dynamics that are going on behind the scenes when this happens! Also: how to get more comfortable with giving real compliments.
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Be An "And" Person, Not An "Or" Person... Especially Not Where It's You Vs The Kids
Some guys put their wives into situations where she has to choose between them and the kids in a zero sum kind of way... here's why this happens and why it's so unhealthy, as well as what to do instead! I also discuss when women do this in a different way.
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Emotional Labor vs Anxiety And The ADHD Husband/Anxious Wife....
Facebook live turned into video podcast for your viewing and listening pleasure! Here's the upcoming ADHD husband and anxious wife seminar coming up 12p ET Friday March 7:
https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/adhd-husband-anxious-wife
And here's a link to the new therapist/coach I mentioned, Paula Pate!
Stop Saying You Want Words Of Affirmation When You Actually Want Verbal Ability
You may be saying you want words of affirmation because that seems like something that your partner could improve on... but you may actually just wish your partner was a "words" person overall. This episode helps you figure out what you actually mean and a path forward no matter what you uncover!
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The Guinea Pig Principle... Or What Does My Guinea Pig Have To Do With Feminine Energy?
Got this title from a follower when I posted a reel about my delightful guinea pig.... this episode can help you understand your wife's subconscious in a whole new way... and possibly help your sex life as well!
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Can Attachment Style Change In Different Relationships And At Different Stages?
Today's Facebook live uploaded here as a surprise! Follow me for more of these!
When The Elephant In The Room Is You And Your Partner Would Never Be Best Friends
Sometimes you had a best friend before your spouse even came on the scene, but if that person vaporized, your spouse would be next in line to be your best friend. This episode is not about that situation, but the awkward one that most people try to ignore... when you do not "click" with your spouse's personality/sense of humor and therefore they could never be your best friend, and you try to ignore this problem.
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Monday Morning Quarterbacking Of Sex: Why The Recap Convo Is A Huge Turnoff To Women
Why your wife hates talking about sex after it's over and how to figure out what she likes and doesn't like in the absence of the detested recap conversation!
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If You Suck, You Will Think The Opposite Gender Sucks, Here's Why
Which people think the opposite gender sucks, why, and what is actually behind this? A rollicking journey through your psyche as per usual!
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Stop Trying To Make Monthly Awesome Sex Into The Norm
Some men get obsessed with the idea that if their wives can deeply enjoy sex at certain times (e.g., vacation, ovulation), they should be able to "hack" this so that their wives can act this way during all encounters. Hell to the no, and this is why, covering habituation, attachment theory, and your favorite culprit, your childhood!
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Associative Learning And How It Impacts Your Sex Life, OR Never Have Sex When Your Wife Is Nauseous
An experience with antibiotics gave me a whole new way to explain the impact of associative learning on sex lives! Every day is a learning opportunity, guys! Covered: that bridge experiment I always talk about, why she won't just go down on you when she doesn't want sex, and more!
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Why Your Wife Is Turned Off By You Sitting Around
Many men don't realize how sitting around and not doing things in the house is a huge evolutionary turnoff for their wives, and also tends to create kids who don't respect you. This episode addresses this and also discusses a bit about the flip side, when women just lay around on their phones.
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When You Find Yourself Thinking You're Better Than Your Spouse And They Should Be Grateful
Some people come into marital therapy assuming the therapist will recognize that they are awesome, far more awesome than their spouse, and they are hoping that the therapist metaphorically slaps some sense into their spouse, saying something like, "Don't you know how lucky you are to be married to this person?" Instead, the therapist usually ends up feeling bad for the spouse of this paragon of perfection, and helping this perfect being see their own faults and appreciate their spouse more. Today's episode can help you see the error of your ways if you find yourself thinking how lucky your spouse is! And follow me on Substack! https://substack.com/@drpsychmom1!!
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When You Make More Money And Expect Your Wife To Change Her Whole Value System
Often, men think that after they make a bunch of money, their wives should change their daily activities from laundry and book club to HRT and screwing. This doesn't work, and threatens the entire structure of the marriage! Today, how to make sure you have empathy toward your wife's struggles with your success and don't engage in the cognitive distortion that money is only good!
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Gifts Love Language Isn't What Some People Think
Thanks for subscribing! Many men look down on the gifts love language in the same way that many women look doen on physical touch. As always, looking down on your partner's preferences is never a winning strategy. In this episode, I explain what this love language is really about, and how you can improve on it if you're not good at it yet! With concrete helpful things to try!
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