The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten

Today we have a special treat! An interview with Matthew Fray, who wrote the viral post that every woman my age remembers.... "She Divorced Me Because I Left Dishes By The Sink"! We discuss relationships, divorce, ADHD, male and female perspectives on relationships, and more!Matthew Fray is a relationship coach and author of the book This is How Your Marriage Ends. His down-to-earth approach to human relationships and personal reflections on his own marriage and divorce have been featured in The New York Times, The Atlantic, The Wall Street Journal, The Sunday Times (London), on The Tamron Hall Show, On Air with Ryan Seacrest, BBC Radio, and dozens of relationship podcasts. He’s a father to a teenage son, a long-suffering Cleveland sports fan, a bourbon whiskey collector and enthusiast, and he lives near Cleveland, Ohio.Substack newsletter: https://matthewfray.substack.com/Website: matthewfray.comInstagram: @frayrelationships

After reading the book Us, After by Rachel Zimmerman (https://amzn.to/4239BfW), I wanted to dive into the topic of when a parent commits suicide and how this impacts adult children later on. In today's episode, we cover how kids think of this, how depression hijacks your brain to make this seem like the best option, what to do if you are severely depressed and have had these thoughts, and a reframe that has been useful for many of my clients over the years who have kids and who struggle with suicidality.IF YOU HAVE SUICIDAL THOUGHTS, CALL 988, THE SUICIDE AND CRISIS HELPLINE.Follow me on Substack!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://substack.com/@drpsychmom1⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://creators.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: "Jealousy Isn't All Bad."For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to numerous members: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/drpsychmom⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/For therapy or life coaching, contact us at https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/

Introverts aren't scared of people or embarrassing themselves. If you are, you likely have social anxiety, which can constrict the lives of your kids and spouse. Here's a different perspective on social anxiety vs introversion, how to work on it using exposure principles, and how to eventually learn to engage in a more open and enthusiastic way vs being paralyzed by the thought that you may do something wrong or weird. Follow me on Substack!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://substack.com/@drpsychmom1⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://creators.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: "Jealousy Isn't All Bad."For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to numerous members: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/drpsychmom⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/For therapy or life coaching, contact us at https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/

The transition from women's 30's to 40's can feel very significant. Here's a deep dive into aging, how couples can accept the reality of life moving in one direction, how our larger social and family context can help or hinder our ability to navigate this transition, and how happy couples stay close and connected in their 40's and beyond.Follow me on Substack!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://substack.com/@drpsychmom1⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://creators.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: "Jealousy Isn't All Bad."For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to numerous members: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/drpsychmom⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/For therapy or life coaching, contact us at https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/

If you're used to the initiation style that women use in porn, and don't have much non-honeymoon stage experience with other women, you may well miss the signals that your wife is open to having sex. Covered in this episode: how she may be initiating, the impact of confident momentum in bed, and the limitations of some men's demand that their wives "communicate more directly."Follow me on Substack!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://substack.com/@drpsychmom1⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://creators.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: "Jealousy Isn't All Bad."For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to numerous members: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/drpsychmom⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/For therapy or life coaching, contact us at https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/

Some children have to act like parents or even spouses to their own parents. How and why does this manifest, and how does it impact later adult intimate relationships for these kids?Follow me on Substack!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://substack.com/@drpsychmom1⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://creators.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: "People Pleasing Daughters Of Covertly Narcissistic Mothers"For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to numerous members: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/drpsychmom⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/For therapy or life coaching, contact us at https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/

No, your spouse doesn't make you depressed or not depressed. If you think this, it is related to your attachment style, not your depression or even your relationship. One of the hardest things to learn for people with preoccupied or fearful-avoidant attachment, but the only thing that can actually help you heal and grow as a person.Follow me on Substack!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://substack.com/@drpsychmom1⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://creators.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: "People Pleasing Daughters Of Covertly Narcissistic Mothers"For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to numerous members: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/drpsychmom⁠⁠⁠⁠For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/For therapy or life coaching, contact us at https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/

Often preoccupied attachment men think that the only possible response to a sex decreasing in frequency over a long relationship is depression and panic. This isn't the case, nor is that a healthy response when preoccupied attachment women think that their husband needs to listen to them talk for hours so that they don't get upset. What is a more balanced and healthy view of relationships over time?Subscribe here to get 200 extra episodes! Latest is "People Pleasing Parentified Daughters Of Covertly Narcissistic Mothers": https://creators.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribeFollow me on Substack!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://substack.com/@drpsychmom1⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to numerous members:⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/drpsychmom⁠⁠⁠For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/For therapy or life coaching, contact us at https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/.

My experience helping a friend message on Bumble! Very practical dating advice if you struggle with having your guard up or with anxiety.Here's Carol!! She lives in Maryland and is looking forward to hearing from you :)https://www.instagram.com/thehungryfoodiesmom?igsh=eGxveG1jeXdwbmp2&utm_source=qrFollow me on Substack!⁠⁠⁠⁠https://substack.com/@drpsychmom1⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: "Vibrators: Are They Contributing To Distance In Your Sexual Relationship?"For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to numerous members: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/drpsychmom⁠⁠⁠For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/For therapy or life coaching, contact us at https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/

A really practical and direct overview of how many preoccupied men (and women) make their relationships worse without understanding how. And of course, what to do instead!Follow me on Substack!⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://substack.com/@drpsychmom1⁠⁠⁠⁠Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: "Vibrators: Are They Contributing To Distance In Your Sexual Relationship?"For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to numerous members:⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/drpsychmom⁠⁠For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/For therapy or life coaching, contact us at https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/

Walking on eggshells: how does this dynamic originate on both sides, how do I see it manifest, and what can you do about it in order to break the cycle for your kids?Follow me on Substack!⁠⁠⁠ https://substack.com/@drpsychmom1⁠⁠⁠Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: "Vibrators: Are They Contributing To Distance In Your Sexual Relationship?"For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to numerous members:⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/drpsychmom⁠For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/For therapy or life coaching, contact us at https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/

Awesome video episode with my friend and respected colleague Jen Rollin! It's a myth that only teenage girls have eating disorders. In fact, as we discuss in this episode, eating disorders are highly linked to OCD and prevent many partners from tasting food, going on date nights, and engaging in a relaxed way in the relationship overall. Jennifer Rollin, MSW, LCSW-C is an award-winning therapist and founder of The Eating Disorder Center in Rockville, Maryland, who specializes in working with adolescents and adults with eating disorders including, anorexia, bulimia, binge eating disorder, body image issues, and compulsive exercise, & eating disorders co-occurring with OCD.  Follow her podcast Eating Disorder Recovery Chat! And visit her practice: theeatingdisordercenter.com

The midpoint of her cycle starts The Bad Time. Here is a very practical overview of what this feels like for women, why, and how to deal with it! Follow me on Substack! ⁠⁠https://substack.com/@drpsychmom1⁠⁠ Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: "When Sex Is More About Your Self Concept As A Good Lover Than Connecting With Your Wife!" For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to numerous members: https://www.facebook.com/groups/drpsychmom For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy or life coaching, contact us at https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/.

Some people think that their moodiness is just who they are, and completely fail to understand that no healthy person is able to be vulnerable and open with them if they are easily angered, hurt, or annoyed. This means that their romantic and sex lives suffer because of their moodiness, but they never work on their moodiness... at least not until this episode gives them a wake up call! Follow me on Substack! ⁠https://substack.com/@drpsychmom1⁠ Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: "When Sex Is More About Your Self Concept As A Good Lover Than Connecting With Your Wife!" For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to numerous members, go ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/376126477688726/?mibextid=uJjRxr! Or click blue subscribe button on www.facebook.com/drpsychmom. It's $4.99/mo. For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy or life coaching, contact us at https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/.

Special treat! A little response to A Little Nudge's post. Woman asked her, "Guy I like has slept with 61 ppl compared to my 6. Are we doomed?" She replied: "I truly believe neither of you should know this information. It is personal and past and irrelevant." Disagree and here's why!

Specifically, it is way harder for your kids to have successful and happy adult romantic relationships if they have learned implicitly that their role models are not romantically viable entities! Seeing a happy marriage is the best and easiest way for your kids to have a positive self concept about their own ability to give and receive love! Follow me on Substack! https://substack.com/@drpsychmom1 Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: "When Sex Is More About Your Self Concept As A Good Lover Than Connecting With Your Wife!" For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to numerous members, go ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/376126477688726/?mibextid=uJjRxr! Or click blue subscribe button on www.facebook.com/drpsychmom. It's $4.99/mo. For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy or life coaching, contact us at https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/.

Two common situations: how to model sex positivity for your kids, and how to talk to a spouse about this if they are terrified of discussing sex in your house. The latter is linked to anxiety and childhood trauma!Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: "How Can You Draw On Your Own Self Knowledge To Help You Empathize With Your Partner?"For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to numerous members, go ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/376126477688726/?mibextid=uJjRxr! Or click blue subscribe button on www.facebook.com/drpsychmom. It's $4.99/mo.For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/For therapy or life coaching, contact us at https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/.Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ

For a million reasons that I describe! And if you are in the mood to try, the link to the Blow His Mind Instructional video (and the others I reference) is here: https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/videos Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: "How Can You Draw On Your Own Self Knowledge To Help You Empathize With Your Partner?" For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to numerous members, go ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/376126477688726/?mibextid=uJjRxr! Or click blue subscribe button on www.facebook.com/drpsychmom. It's $4.99/mo. For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy or life coaching, contact us at https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/. Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ

Here is a better way to understand menopause within the context of evolutionary biology! I also cover: were you really happy until menopause struck? And of course, what to do about the impact of menopause on your relationship! Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: "How Can You Draw On Your Own Self Knowledge To Help You Empathize With Your Partner?" For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to numerous members, go ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/376126477688726/?mibextid=uJjRxr! Or click blue subscribe button on www.facebook.com/drpsychmom. It's $4.99/mo. For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy or life coaching, contact us at https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/. Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ

I realized I never did a full episode on workhorse men, even though I reference them a lot in my episodes! All about the man who is taught to keep his head down and focus on others' needs instead of his own. Great companion piece to the subscriber episode coming out in April about the female version: people pleasing daughters of difficult mothers.Here's my seminar coming up on Friday for ADHD men and anxious wives! Hope to see you there!https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/adhd-husband-anxious-wifeAnd here is our new hire Dr. Thomas Ballas, he's great!https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/dr-thomas-ballasFollow me on Substack!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://substack.com/@drpsychmom1⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: "People Pleasing Parentified Daughters of Covertly Narcissistic Mothers."For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to numerous members: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/drpsychmom⁠⁠⁠⁠For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/For therapy or life coaching, contact us at https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/

If you would leave/stop any other activity to have sex, you do not value anything in your life as much as sex. This is a turnoff for any woman. Here's why! And follow me on Substack! ⁠https://substack.com/@drpsychmom1⁠!! Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: "The Meaningless Thank You.... Or "Thank You" Isn't A Compliment!" For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to numerous members, go ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/376126477688726/?mibextid=uJjRxr! Or click blue subscribe button on www.facebook.com/drpsychmom. It's $4.99/mo. For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy or life coaching, contact us at https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/. Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ

Some guys are dishonest with themselves/their wives about sex, saying things like "my drive at 50 is the same as it was at 18" and pretending they are in the best shape of their lives at 70. If you do this stuff, she can't be open and honest with you. Join and empathize like a friend versus being defensive and delusional, and your marriage will improve! Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: "The Meaningless Thank You.... Or "Thank You" Isn't A Compliment!" For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to numerous members, go ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/376126477688726/?mibextid=uJjRxr! Or click blue subscribe button on www.facebook.com/drpsychmom. It's $4.99/mo. For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy or life coaching, contact us at https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/. Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ

If you tell your wife "that's a nice shirt, is it new?" instead of "you look hot".... this episode is for you! I differentiate between friendship as a core healthy foundation for your marriage and friendship as the entirety of your marriage, which isn't healthy. And of course, why you do this and concrete and practical scripts for change! Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: "The Meaningless Thank You.... Or "Thank You" Isn't A Compliment!" For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to numerous members, go ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/376126477688726/?mibextid=uJjRxr! Or click blue subscribe button on www.facebook.com/drpsychmom. It's $4.99/mo. For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy or life coaching, contact us at https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/. Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ

Some guys put their wives into situations where she has to choose between them and the kids in a zero sum kind of way... here's why this happens and why it's so unhealthy, as well as what to do instead! I also discuss when women do this in a different way. Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: "When The Elephant In The Room Is You And Your Partner Would Never Be Best Friends... Or Even Friends." For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to numerous members, go ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/376126477688726/?mibextid=uJjRxr! Or click blue subscribe button on www.facebook.com/drpsychmom. It's $4.99/mo. For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy or life coaching, contact us at https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/. Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ

Facebook live turned into video podcast for your viewing and listening pleasure! Here's the upcoming ADHD husband and anxious wife seminar coming up 12p ET Friday March 7:https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/adhd-husband-anxious-wifeAnd here's a link to the new therapist/coach I mentioned, Paula Pate!https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/paula-pate-lcmft

You may be saying you want words of affirmation because that seems like something that your partner could improve on... but you may actually just wish your partner was a "words" person overall. This episode helps you figure out what you actually mean and a path forward no matter what you uncover! Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: "When The Elephant In The Room Is You And Your Partner Would Never Be Best Friends... Or Even Friends." For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to numerous members, go ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/376126477688726/?mibextid=uJjRxr! Or click blue subscribe button on www.facebook.com/drpsychmom. It's $4.99/mo. For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy or life coaching, contact us at https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/. Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ

Got this title from a follower when I posted a reel about my delightful guinea pig.... this episode can help you understand your wife's subconscious in a whole new way... and possibly help your sex life as well! Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: "When The Elephant In The Room Is You And Your Partner Would Never Be Best Friends... Or Even Friends." For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to numerous members: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/drpsychmom⁠ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy or life coaching, contact us at https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/. Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ

Why your wife hates talking about sex after it's over and how to figure out what she likes and doesn't like in the absence of the detested recap conversation! Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: "Associative Learning And How It Impacts Your Sex Life, OR Never Have Sex When Your Wife Is Nauseous!" For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to numerous members, go ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/376126477688726/?mibextid=uJjRxr! Or click blue subscribe button on www.facebook.com/drpsychmom. It's $4.99/mo. For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy or life coaching, contact us at https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/. Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ

Which people think the opposite gender sucks, why, and what is actually behind this? A rollicking journey through your psyche as per usual! Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: "Associative Learning And How It Impacts Your Sex Life, OR Never Have Sex When Your Wife Is Nauseous!" For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to numerous members, go ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/376126477688726/?mibextid=uJjRxr! Or click blue subscribe button on www.facebook.com/drpsychmom. It's $4.99/mo. For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy or life coaching, contact us at https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/. Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ

Some men get obsessed with the idea that if their wives can deeply enjoy sex at certain times (e.g., vacation, ovulation), they should be able to "hack" this so that their wives can act this way during all encounters. Hell to the no, and this is why, covering habituation, attachment theory, and your favorite culprit, your childhood! Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: "Associative Learning And How It Impacts Your Sex Life, OR Never Have Sex When Your Wife Is Nauseous!" For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to numerous members, go ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/376126477688726/?mibextid=uJjRxr! Or click blue subscribe button on www.facebook.com/drpsychmom. It's $4.99/mo. For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy or life coaching, contact us at https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/. Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ

Many men don't realize how sitting around and not doing things in the house is a huge evolutionary turnoff for their wives, and also tends to create kids who don't respect you. This episode addresses this and also discusses a bit about the flip side, when women just lay around on their phones. Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: "Gifts Love Language Isn't What Some People Think!" For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to numerous members, go ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/376126477688726/?mibextid=uJjRxr! Or click blue subscribe button on www.facebook.com/drpsychmom. It's $4.99/mo. For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy or life coaching, contact us at https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/. Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ

Some people come into marital therapy assuming the therapist will recognize that they are awesome, far more awesome than their spouse, and they are hoping that the therapist metaphorically slaps some sense into their spouse, saying something like, "Don't you know how lucky you are to be married to this person?" Instead, the therapist usually ends up feeling bad for the spouse of this paragon of perfection, and helping this perfect being see their own faults and appreciate their spouse more. Today's episode can help you see the error of your ways if you find yourself thinking how lucky your spouse is! And follow me on Substack! ⁠⁠https://substack.com/@drpsychmom1⁠⁠!! Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: "Gifts Love Language Isn't What Some People Think!" For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to numerous members, go ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/376126477688726/?mibextid=uJjRxr! Or click blue subscribe button on www.facebook.com/drpsychmom. It's $4.99/mo. For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy or life coaching, contact us at https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/. Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ

Often, men think that after they make a bunch of money, their wives should change their daily activities from laundry and book club to HRT and screwing. This doesn't work, and threatens the entire structure of the marriage! Today, how to make sure you have empathy toward your wife's struggles with your success and don't engage in the cognitive distortion that money is only good! Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: "Gifts Love Language Isn't What Some People Think!" For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to numerous members, go ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/376126477688726/?mibextid=uJjRxr! Or click blue subscribe button on www.facebook.com/drpsychmom. It's $4.99/mo. For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy or life coaching, contact us at https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/. Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ

This can be a huge wakeup call if you're someone who looks down on your spouse for not trying individual therapy. If you're the critical partner... this episode is for you! Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: "A New Year's Pep Talk For My Subscribers!" For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to numerous members, go ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/376126477688726/?mibextid=uJjRxr! Or click blue subscribe button on www.facebook.com/drpsychmom. It's $4.99/mo. For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy or life coaching, contact us at https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/. Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ

This is just nonsensical and crazy-making for him and for you! How to be real with yourself and what to say instead, with scripts! And here's our upcoming groups! Reach out to join: info@bestlifebehavioralhealth.com. Accountability In The New Year: https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/accountability-in-the-new-year Better Breakup: https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/better-breakup-group Embracing Sex After 50! https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/embracing-sex-after-50 Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: "A New Year's Pep Talk For My Subscribers!" For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to numerous members, go ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/376126477688726/?mibextid=uJjRxr! Or click blue subscribe button on www.facebook.com/drpsychmom. It's $4.99/mo. For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy or life coaching, contact us at https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/. Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ

Thankfully I see this ideology very infrequently in practice but it's all over internet comments. Here's a helpful reframe if you've ever thought she deserves less because she was at home with the kids! And here's our upcoming groups! Reach out to join: info@bestlifebehavioralhealth.com. Accountability In The New Year: https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/accountability-in-the-new-year Better Breakup: https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/better-breakup-group Embracing Sex After 50! https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/embracing-sex-after-50 Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: "A New Year's Pep Talk For My Subscribers!" For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to numerous members, go ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/376126477688726/?mibextid=uJjRxr! Or click blue subscribe button on www.facebook.com/drpsychmom. It's $4.99/mo. For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy or life coaching, contact us at https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/. Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ

Are you really? Or could it be one of these issues underlying what seems to be a fear of hard work? Today's episode also includes an epiphany about overpreparing from my own earlier life! Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: "I Am What I Am." For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to numerous members, go ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/376126477688726/?mibextid=uJjRxr! Or click blue subscribe button on www.facebook.com/drpsychmom. It's $4.99/mo. For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy or life coaching, contact us at https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/. Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ

Got this question as well as the second one, "If you never used porn but want to start using it after a while in your relationship, isn't that the woman's fault?" I explain everything about porn and its impact on relationships at various stages, including some useful analogies as always, in this awesome episode! Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: "I Am What I Am." For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to numerous members, go ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/376126477688726/?mibextid=uJjRxr! Or click blue subscribe button on www.facebook.com/drpsychmom. It's $4.99/mo. For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy or life coaching, contact us at https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/. Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ