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In this podcast, we'll cover everything from what domestic violence is, what it looks like, and how it affects not only survivors but the community they live in. By having these discussions, we can work towards breaking the cycle of violence. Welcome to the discussion.
Team TEADDec 14, 2020
Black History Month: Book Recommendations
Dismantling DV includes dismantling racism. As Black History Month comes to a close, here are our top recommendations for learning more about Black feminism, violence against Black women, nonbinary and trans people, and discussions about how to talk about race.
Fearing the Black Body by Sabrina Strings
Consumed by Aja Barber, Instagram @ajabarber
Hood Feminism by Mikki Kendall Instagram @karynthia
So You Wanna Talk About Race by Ijeoma Oluo Instagram @ijeomaoluo
Queer and Trans Artists of Color by Nia King Instagram @manifestotv Podcast We Want the Airwaves
Feminism is for Everyone by bell hooks
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Opening Track: Ambient Inspiration, The Mountain
The Super Bowl and Domestic Violence
Today we analyze an episode of emotional and physical abuse triggered by... the super bowl tubi commercial.
We also examine stereotypes about domestic violence that are exposed within this incidence, such as victim blaming and the normalization of aspects of physical abuse.
Trigger warming for discussions of abuse!
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Red Flags for Dating Violence: The Big 3
Happy Valentines Day all! For this lovely holiday, we decided to revisit an important topic: red flags in dating violence. Although we all understand it is not our fault if our dating partners (or friends) abuse us, knowing how to identify early warning signs of a toxic or abusive person can be a helpful tool and way to build confidence in navigating relationships.
In this episode, we look at 3 major categories and give examples and digressions to help you in your dating journey. These are also handy for personal friendships as well!
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Happy New Year! Goals to be a better ally and advocate
Welcome to 2023! 新年快乐!
With the new year comes goals and resolutions. In this episode, I am sharing mine and how they relate to my overall goals of ending domestic violence and violence against women and marginalized groups. I hope they inspire you and encourage you in your journey as an ally and advocate in 2023.
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And happy Lunar New Years Eve! 新年快乐! Don't forget to clean your house and wear red this weekend to bring good luck and a fresh start to the new year. Eating dumplings, fish, noodles, and chicken are also traditional, and considered to bring happiness, money, and longevity.
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The Slit-Mouthed Woman and other cultural stories of domestic violence
For fans of horror and folklore, we present an audio experience featuring 10 ghost stories from around the world.
Each story has deep cultural roots in East Asian, South Asian, and El Salvadorian folklore and touch on elements of domestic violence. We embark on an exploration and celebration of cultural storytelling, while inviting the audience to engage with the deeper themes of violence against women of color.
Listen to the first story now! Please visit teamtead.org and download today! Available with a donation of $5 or more. All funds go to our mission of ending domestic violence.
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Please Stop Giving Me Gifts
Abusive individuals can use gifts as a tool of control and cruelty. Which makes things difficult for survivors living in a society where gift giving is so expected.
TW for stories of abuse.
If you're looking to give, consider donating to the show
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We wish you and your loved ones a happy and safe holiday season,
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There's No Pain Like Home for Setting Boundaries.... for the Holidays
We're back and coming in hot just in time for the holiday season with a special episode all about BOUNDARIES
Because what holiday isn't complete without spending time with people who love to push your buttons.
Also, why are boundaries so hard to set and tips for how to do so.
Plus digressions on The Shining and James sings a Christmas carol. Sort of.
Guest: J.B. Web (he/they)
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How Do I Stop Blowing Up My Life?
Self sabotage. Getting in your own way. Blowing up your life.
What is it? How does it harm you? How can I begin to stop?
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Do I Have to Forgive My Abuser?
No. Not unless YOU want to. Not unless you are ready. Not unless it will help YOU in your healing goal.
Also... make sure to show the same compassion and forgiveness towards yourself.
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Why Do I Miss My Abuser?
Whenever I am asked this question, its usually with a sense of dread, self loathing, or disbelief... or all 3 and more! Its hard coping with the sense of loss and grief of someone who was horrible to you.
It is ok to miss an abusive partner. It is ok to grieve the loss of that relationship. Missing an abuser doesn't mean you deserve the abuse, or made it up.
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Am I Being Emotionally Abused?
Episode 1 of our Holiday Stocking Stuffer series... Am I Being Emotionally Abused?
Bottom Line.... trust your gut!
MORE RESOURCES:
if you are questioning if you are being emotionally abused, we have a free tool that could help: QUIZ
More Podcast Episodes on Emotional Abuse: Part 1, Part 2
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Combating Self Hate After Abuse... or that episode where I go to therapy
Self hate is an issue I have been combating for years since my abuse. After countless times of being torn down, broken, and encouraged to hate myself, breaking the habit is difficult.
Today, I am joined by Nancy Paloma, licensed therapist and mental health expert for a therapy session about self hate. Why do we feel it? How do we move on?
You can find Nancy on Instagram @paloma_therapy and her website https://palomatherapy.com/
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How Can I Help? AAPI Edition
How can I help? Help myself as a survivor. Help my friend. Help my family.
Knowing how to help survivors of emotional abuse and domestic violence is challenging. Especially when the survivor is AAPI.
Today, we break down how you can help.
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AAPI Specific resources:
Asian and Pacific Islander Institute on Domestic Violence
1-415-954-9988
www.apiidv.org
Committee Against Anti-Asian Violence (CAAAV)
1-212- 473-6485
www.caaav.org
Manavi
1-732-435-1414
www.manavi.org
Shame on You
Many AAPI survivors face emotional abuse their families. From a single perpetrators, or many at once.
The pressure they face leads to them hiding abuse to avoid community shame, stay in violent relationships, or continue the cycle in the future after years of the abuse being normalized.
It is a major aspect of AAPI abuse we don't talk about. For week 8 of our AAPI Army Campaign, we tackle this issue as well as reflect on the ways societal abuse mirrors cultural and community abuse.
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Important Dates!
Giveaway 1: September 13, 2021 via Instagram & Facebook
Beers, Cheers, & Charity Fundraiser: October 2, 2021 @ Postdoc Brewing
Giveaway 2: October 25, 2021, via Instagram & Facebook
AAPI Toolkit Launch: October 28, 2021
Judged For Existing in My Body: Unpacking the Crouching Tiger-Lady, Hyper-Sexualized Asian Geisha Doll Stereotype.
For week 7 of our AAPI Army campaign, we are joined by TEAD teammate Julia Grindstone for a deep drive into the Crouching Tiger-Lady, Hyper-Sexualized Asian Geisha Doll Stereotype.
Because although our culture has normalized the ¨I like Asians¨ fetish, this objectification of AAPI women adds layers of violence and vulnerability to our lives and has roots in racism, American Imperialism, and misogyny.
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Americas Next Top MODEL MINORITY
Anti-Asian hate crimes rose nearly 150% in 2020 according to NBC.
A mass murder in Georgia left 6 Asian women dead.
Structural racism against AAPIs routinely erases and minimizes our struggles and trauma.
For week 6 of our AAPI Army Campaign, we examine how society's treatment of AAPIs… and how it perpetuates violence against us.
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Giveaway 1: September 13, 2021 via Instagram & Facebook
Beers, Cheers, & Charity Fundraiser: October 2, 2021 @ Postdoc Brewing
Giveaway 2: October 25, 2021, via Instagram & Facebook
AAPI Toolkit Launch: October 28, 2021
What If I Don´t Know How To Ask For Help?
For week 5 of our AAPI Army Campaign we welcome Yi Lam of the Asian Task Force Against Domestic Violence.
As an advocate who works with AAPI clients, Yi Lam shares her experience and offers insight into specific barriers they face from their families, culture, and American culture. Among them: language barriers, Anti-Asian Hate Crimes, and cultural normalization.
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Giveaway 1: September 13, 2021 via Instagram & Facebook
Beers, Cheers, & Charity Fundraiser: October 2, 2021 @ Postdoc Brewing
Giveaway 2: October 25, 2021, via Instagram & Facebook
AAPI Toolkit Launch: October 28, 2021
I Healed My Sexual Trauma and Took My Power Back
Welcome back to week 4 of our AAPI Army Campaign.
Our next survivor has overcome child trafficking and familial abuse.
As a child she was sold to a sweatshop. As an adult, she worked as a stripper. Today she works with clients on emotional and spiritual healing.
We tend not to validate survivors who choose to participate in sex work... or sex in general. However this is extremely important for the AAPI community due to historical and ongoing objectification and sexualization.
Whatever a survivor chooses, it is their choice. They have agency over their bodies and lives.
And as allies and survivors… we are all about helping people recover and embrace their agency.
Welcome Neiva
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Giveaway 1: September 13, 2021 via Instagram & Facebook
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Giveaway 2: October 25, 2021, via Instagram & Facebook
AAPI Toolkit Launch: October 28, 2021
You Try to Defend Yourself...but You're Labeled as ¨Disrespectful¨
Welcome back to week 3 in our AAPI Army Campaign.
Our next survivor was fundamental to our campaign. Stories like hers are what helped us contextualize and analyze our experiences. Stories like this help us find words to convey and relate our trauma. Realizing you are not the only one, and that someone else has felt what you felt and that you are not crazy… Stories like these help you find the words you are looking for.
Today we speak to Filipino survivor Naomi, who tells her story of familial emotional abuse, how she was able to validate her trauma, and the need to look at a survivor's experience from within their cultural framework.
Welcome to Week 3 of our AAPI Army Campaign.
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Giveaway 1: September 13, 2021 via Instagram & Facebook
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Giveaway 2: October 25, 2021, via Instagram & Facebook
AAPI Toolkit Launch: October 28, 2021
Survivors are Beat Down Before They Are Beat Up
Ignored, Minimized, Invisible: The AAPI Experience
To be Asian American Pacific Islander (AAPI) in this country is to feel ignored, minimized, and invisible.
It's to feel like you don't belong anywhere. You're too white for other Asians, and too Exotic for Americans.
For myself, my team, and countless survivors, being AAPI is an inseparable part of our experience, affecting how we were abused, how we were treated as survivors, and how we process our trauma.
For the next 9 weeks, we will be sharing stories of AAPI survivors, as well as deep diving into the history of racism and objectification of Asians in the US, explore the unique barriers Asians face, and how to navigate it as a survivor and an ally.
This is our AAPI ARMY Fall 2021 Campaign.
It is our way of filling in the gaps we see in resources and tools for Asian Americans. We are trying to create what we ourselves needed as survivors, to combat abuse from outside our communities.. And within it.
We are creating what we wish we had. And we hope you will join us.
Welcome to the AAPI Army.
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Important Dates!
Giveaway 1: September 13, 2021 via Instagram & Facebook
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Giveaway 2: October 25, 2021, via Instagram & Facebook
AAPI Toolkit Launch: October 28, 2021
Welcome to the AAPI Army
大家好. We have officially kicked off our AAPI Army Campaign for 2021! For the next 9 weeks we are bringing you survivor stories, research and analysis, concluding with the launch of our AAPI Army Survivor Toolkit.
The name of our campaign, AAPI Army, is a tribute to us, survivors and allies, boldly advocating to break the cycle of violence and abuse in the AAPI communities, seeking to share the educational tools and bravely begin the discussions that we wish we had as survivors.
Each week is a new survivor story or a deep dive into emotional abuse and domestic violence in AAPI communities.
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New video uploaded every Tuesday on YouTube: User/TheEmotionalAbuseDiscussion
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New Blog on our website every Thursday
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40 Years Later She Is Still Threatening Me
Today's guest is an incredibly brave survivor. Her story is one we do not hear often. It is from a woman of color. A queer woman of color. A survivor of same sex abuse, still being contacted by her abuser 4 decades late.
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This survivor is now an advocate, having volunteered at the National Domestic Violence Hotline and rape crisis centers. Despite her amazing work, she stated during our interview that they still lack information on how to aid same sex domestic violence survivors.
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This is why she is sharing her story. It is her belief, and mine, that by listening to and amplifying the voices of same sex DV survivors, we can create a space where more survivors feel empowered to come forward... and we as a culture can begin to accept, embrace, and aid them properly.
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Thank you to this brave woman for trusting me, and you the audience, with this story.
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If you are in a same sex domestic violence relationship, you can call the LGBT National Helpline at 1-888-843-4564. Their hours are: Monday through Friday, 4pm - 12am ET. Saturday and Sunday, 12pm - 5pm ET. You can also email them at: help@lgbthotline.org
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If you are an LGBTQIA youth in a domestic violence relationship, you can call the LGBT National Youth Hotline at 1-800-246-7743
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Why I am Coming Out as Bi
Happy I am officially coming out as Bisexual!
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I had a recent revelation that I had lingering internalized trauma from my homophobic abuser... as well as internal shame from a society that depicts bisexual women through the male gaze.
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But I realized that being Bi is who I am. And I chose to annouce it not only because I am proud to be a Bi woman of color, but for others like me who are experiencing similar trauma.
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This is my story and my revelation and part of my healing journey.
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I Thought I Was Crazy, But I Wasn't The Only Survivor
I was sexually assaulted in my early twenties while training Krav Maga, a story I shared in my recent episode, Hey Martial Arts, Time to Break Up With Toxic Masculinity
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After the episode aired, a woman with a similar story reached out. This woman and I, we trained together. We were friends. And we both were victimized by the same organization.
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Hearing her story brought me a sense of relief I hadn't realized I needed. She agreed to share it on the podcast (under the condition of anonymity) in hopes that it will encourage and inspire other survivors.
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The Legal System Can Be Empowering...And Traumatizing
Navigating the legal system is challenging. Not knowing what to expect is intimidating. And its not for everyone.
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The legal system can be traumatic. But it can also provide a sense of validation and empowerment.
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Today we break it down. Where to start, what to expect, and how to prepare.
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Featuring Riddhi Mukhopadhyay, the Executive Director of the Sexual Violence Law Center.
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SV Law Center provided free legal services and advocacy for survivors in WA state. Contact them through their website: http://www.svlawcenter.org/ or call toll free (844) 991-7852
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If you are outside the state of WA and require legal services, you can search for services by state at https://www.womenslaw.org/
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You can also call the National Domestic Violence Hotline to be referred: 1.800.799.SAFE (7233) or visit their website at thehotline.org
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I Knew I Was Unhappy, But I Could Not Leave
I knew I was unhappy, but I could not leave my abuser. The thought made me anxious and panicked. At the same time, the thought of being near him made me physically sick. Why?
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Today I break down the phenomenon behind this. Trauma Bonding.
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Here to help explain what Trauma Bonds are, and why this is crucial to understanding how to help survivors, welcome Dr. Michelle Finneran. Check out Dr. Finnerans book ¨Surviving Domestic Abuse: Formal and Informal Supports and Services” (link: https://www.drmichelefinneran.com/)
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Non Fatal Does Not Mean Non Dangerous
Symptoms of strangulation can appear weeks or hours after the initial incident. Death can occur within minutes, or weeks later. An incident of non-fatal strangulation increases the risk of extreme violence. It increases the risk of being killed by an intimate partner by 10 times.
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Despite the terrifying consequences, many cases do not involve physical marks or visible signs. Which means, first responders who attend survivors of non-fatal strangulation may miss opportunities to help survivors.
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Today we talk about how one state became the first to provide trained specialists for survivors of non fatal strangulation, and the potential for other states to follow.
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Featuring Senator Manka Dhingra.
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When They Made Wonder Woman A Rapist
TW: Rape, sexual assault, and I say the word penis more times than intended.
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For the end of Sexual Assault Awareness Month, I wanted to explore the consequences of our cultural gender norms and toxic masculinity on men and boys.
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The fallout for girls and women (trans women are women, trans rights are human rights) are obvious. Think Chanel Miller and Trans Panic Defense.
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However, if we want to break the cycle of violence, we must also examine how toxic masculinity is harmful to men and boys. As the recent WW84 movie depicts, male survivors are often parodied and overlooked.
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Today, we explore this intersection of a system that sets men and boys up to perpetuate violence, while also subjecting them to abuse as well.
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We examine how they made Wonder Woman a rapist.
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How to Be Safe While Online Dating, or the Best Kind of FourPlay
Spring has sprung, and Covid vaccinations are rolling out at a slightly better than expected pace (yes I realize the bar is super low but...its the little victories I guess).
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While we are all starved for human interaction, we must also recognize the dangers in dating. Particularly, online dating. In our society especially, we tend to romanticize toxic behavior that are red flags for abuse.
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Today, we talk about these red flags. Because I am also in need of socializing I brought on 2 amazing women, Danielle Dietzek and Julie Griggs, the founders of Fourplay Social.
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For more Fourplay: https://www.fourplaysocial.com/
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They Groomed Me, They Passed Me Around
Happy Sexual Assault Awareness Month!
To celebrate we are welcoming the incredible John-Michael Lander. As an athlete, Lander was groomed and sexually abused by his coaches, benefactors, and medical team which resulted in years of PTSD, depression, anxiety, and suicide attempts. He is now an advocate, speaker, and author, breaking his silence to help other survivors. His research, The Grooming Trifecta, provides how grooming effects everyone no matter their sexual orientation, gender, or religious beliefs.
Check out John-Michael Lander´s work at https://anathletessilence.com/
This episode was made in collaboration with Break The Silence Against Domestic Violence. To learn more about Break The Silence Against Domestic Violence, check out their website at https://breakthesilencedv.org/ and their Insta @BTSADV
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Hey Martial Arts, Time to Divorce Toxic Masculinity
I used to think teaching self defense was the answer to domestic violence, until I was confronted with the reality that the martial arts world is more focused on embracing toxic masculine traits than preaching peace.
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So what are the options for survivors who want to learn self defense, but need trauma informed training and an empathetic instructor?
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Today we speak to two instructors from Sleeping Tiger Fitness, who discuss what trauma informed self defense training looks like, how to become trauma informed as a self defense instructor, and why traditional ¨stress drills¨ are more harmful than confidence building. Also a digression or two into waterboarding and strobe lights.
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How Can You Teach Something You Never Learned?
Last episode we discussed the importance of self love for survivors. But how do we learn self love? Many of us grew up watching our parents deal with a lack of self love, and this was passed to us. So how do we begin to understand it as adults?
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To speak on this topic, we welcome self love expert, life coach, and the incredible inspiration Latarsha Haughton of Break the Silence, Healing the Pain.
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To learn more about Latarsha Haughton, check out her wesite www.btshtp.org and on FB and Insta @bts_healingthepain. Latarsha offers self-love support groups, coaching sessions, and more.
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The Public Health Issue 80% of Parents Don't Believe In
80% of parents do not believe Teen Dating Violence is real. However, 1 in 3 teens reports being physically or sexually abused by a partner. More than half of women and men who have been physically or sexually abused, or stalked by a dating partner, first experienced abuse between the ages of 11-24.
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So why? Why do so many youth and teens experience dating violence? How is Teen Dating Violence different from Domestic Violence? And why has Teen Dating Violence only recently been recognized?
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This episode was made in collaboration with Break The Silence Against Domestic Violence. To learn more about Break The Silence Against Domestic Violence, check out their website at https://breakthesilencedv.org/ and their Insta @BTSADV If you want to join the Discussion please write in. Email us at thedvdiscussion@gmail.com or connect on Facebook, Instagram , Twitter, and Tik Tok @theDVDiscussion. We all have our stories. And they deserve to be heard.
When Menstruation is a Barrier
How many times have you used toilet paper, anything in reach because you did not have anything?
How often have you needed to use something unsanitary because you could not afford it?
When we discuss safety planning and packing emergency kits, menstruation products aren't typically mentioned. However, proper hygiene during menstruation is critical to prevent illness, long term health issues, and infertility.
For survivors facing domestic violence, these products can be scarce due to financial abuse, lack of resources, and a million other reasons. It's another barrier to thriving, and another source of shame.
As today's guest speaker, Madeline Barrasso PM of the D.A.S.H. Kit for I Support the Girls says, ¨A woman shouldn’t have to choose between feeding herself and her personal health. Every woman should have the ability to maintain her dignity.¨
Barrasso shares her program ¨D.A.S.H. Kit¨, a program dedicated to providing free menstruation products to survivors in need.
Visit isupportthegirls.org/ for more information.
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CALLING ALL ALLIES! We have an opportunity for change.
Do you wish you could help survivors of domestic violence?
Do you think survivors deserve protection from abusers with access to guns?
And do you agree that survivors should not sacrifice employment opportunities and child care in order to access legal help that could potentially save their lives?
GREAT NEWS
There is something you can do to help!!!!
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THRIVE
Happy Anniversary! This episode is the 1 year anniversary for the Domestic Violence Discussion...and we have so many reasons to celebrate! This year the DV Discussion is collaborating with Break The Silence Against Domestic Violence, an International nonprofit organization led by survivors, with a goal of serving victims, survivors, and families affected by domestic violence. BTSADV has a huge community of survivors who are empowered to share their stories, connect with fellow survivors, and heal after abuse. For 2021, DVD and BTSADV are working together to share resources and stories to help inspire, empower, and help survivors. Today, our inaugural collab episode, we are sharing what it means to THRIVE. What does it mean to Thrive? What does it look like? Happy 2021. To learn more about Break The Silence Against Domestic Violence, check out their website at https://breakthesilencedv.org/ and their Insta https://www.instagram.com/btsadv/ If you want to join the Discussion please write in. Email us at thedvdiscussion@gmail.com or connect on Facebook, Instagram , Twitter, and Tik Tok @theDVDiscussion. We all have our stories. And they deserve to be heard.
S3, E12: Will the Abuse Get Worse?
What are the warning signs the abuse will get worse? What are the warning signs the abuser may try to kill? Although there is no way to know for sure, there are warning signs that can indicate the violence will get worse. Today, we discuss these warning signs, as well as read through Jacqueline Campbell's Danger Assessment .
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BONUS EPISODE: How Can We Reduce Domestic Violence Homicides?
Over half of all female murders are by current or former intimate partners. This year, the COVID-19 pandemic has driven rates of domestic violence and DV related homicides.
We know this trend exists. But what can we do about it?
Today we welcome special guest Kathryn Jacob, the CEO and President of Safe Haven of Tarrent County. Kathryn Jacob is an expert in her field with over 20 years experience, and is a leader in the development of early intervention techniques to reduce domestic violence fatalities.
We discuss her work at Safe Haven, the results of the 2019 Fatality Report, what its like working with law enforcement amid the murders of Breonna Taylor, George Floyde, etc, and how the COVID 19 pandemic has effected fatality rates in Tarrant County.
Learn more about Safe Haven of Tarrant County at https://www.safehaventc.org/. Download their 2019 Fatality Report at https://www.safehaventc.org/safehaven-presents-the-2019-tarrant-county-fatality-review/
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S3, E11: How Do I Know I Am Being Abused?
Today, we discuss warning signs and red flags that indicate abuse may start to occur, or is possibly already happening.
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S3, E10: How Do You Feel When You Leave an Abusive Relationship?
This is a question we do not address enough. I have never been asked this. The survivors I have interacted with have never been asked.
I think people assume that once a survivor leaves, they feel relieved, happy, joyous…
Partly, yes. But in reality, its so much more complicated.
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S3, E9: What is Self Care?
Today we discuss self care. What is is, how to practice is, and why it is an important tool for everyone.
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S3, E8: What is the Fawn Reaction?
Today, we discuss the 4th.
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S3, E7: What is Trauma?
The topic of trauma appears often because understanding trauma, how common it is, how it works, and how it affects the way a survivor interacts with the world is crucial in being an ally.
Not only is trauma more common than historically viewed, it has long lasting consequences for those who experience it. Trauma can permanently alter the way a person acts, thinks, feels, and responds, even in ways that we don't expect.
However, we as a society still have yet to fully understand, utilize, or even acknowledge the cause and effect of trauma on survivors.
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S3, E6: What Is A Trigger?
The internet loves to label someone as TRIGGERED The colloquial internet definition has become shorthand for: I am upset But when discussing survivors of domestic violence, being triggered means something extremely different and a lot more nuanced And knowing what a trigger is, and how to respond can be the difference between supporting a survivor, or echoing their abuser.
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S3, E5: Queen Nobles for Senate
Hey guys! Couple announcements and an incredible guest interview!
Once again, we are in voting season! For those of us who have mail in ballots, no excuses. Time to get out out vote!
And if you are looking for an incredible candidate who will be a fierce advocate for Washington...
T’wina Nobles is running for State Senate in the 28th district. Nobles is an advocate for representing, empowering, and elevating women and girls, especially young women of color. She is the founder of Ladies First (@Ladies1stOrg) and if elected, will be the sole Black voice in the Washington State Senate.
We discuss her work with Ladies First, her reaction to the recent Black Lives Matter protests, and her thoughts around ¨Defund the Police.¨
Check out her website https://twinanobles.com/ and Twitter: @TwinaNobles
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S3, E4: What is the Plan?
Today, we talk about what a safety plan is and how to make your own.
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S3, E3: A Discussion with Sharlett Mena
In the next couple months, our nation will reach a critical moment that could redefine our lives for the next few years.
We have an opportunity to voice our concerns about diminishing women's rights, channel our anger and frustration over our country's failure to reckon with White Supremacy, and reshape the governing body to those who we believe represent our values and morals.
Today, a discussion with a candidate who´s issues reflect the intersection of homelessness, racism, immigration, and domestic violence.
Sharlett Mena is running for the 29th Legislative District in Washington State. Find out more at her website https://www.sharlettmena.org/
Check her out on Instagram: @electsharlett and Twitter: @ElectSharlett
S3, E2: Where Can I Go?
As fond as we are of asking ¨Why doesn't she just leave?¨, it's hard to find shelter if you’re a domestic violence survivor.
In the US, the first battered women's shelters did not exist before 1970. Fast forward to 2020, and the demand still outweighs the available resources.
The perception that finding emergency shelter is "easy" is dangerously misleading.
Today we discuss the reality.
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S3, E1: Who You Gunna Call?
Welcome back! This season we are going back to the basics, tackling questions about available resources for survivors and allies. Questions such as, what is a Helpline? What is a women's shelter? How can I help?
Today, we are starting with all things Helpline. What is it? Who answers the phone? Who is allowed to call?
Welcome back to season 3.
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