The Emotional Freedom Podcast
By Luke Bong
The Emotional Freedom PodcastOct 18, 2019
#50 Falling Into The Perfection Trap
Perfection is the surest way to procrastination. Too often, people use perfection as an unconscious excuse that stops them from taking action. In this episode, I talk about the perfection trap and how to avoid it.
#49 Why Trying to Find the Root Cause of Your Emotional Suffering is a Waste of Time
I've met many people who are preoccupied with the reason why they are suffering emotionally. Unfortunately, it is a never ending process. Instead of finding the solution, they usually end up with more possible trigger points to reinforce their suffering. In this episode, let's look at why trying to find the root cause of your emotional suffering may just make it worse.
#48 How to Snap Out of a Limiting Thinking Pattern
Ever found yourself feeling trapped in your own thinking? It's like you are stuck in a rut and everything seems like it is a problem. Let's explore how you can snap out of a limiting thinking pattern in this episode.
#47 The Map Is Not The Territory
What we see is not necessarily real. In this episode, I talk about an embarrassing experience I had when I visited Wellington, New Zealand in 2018. Clue, it has got to do with a map.
#46 Is It Selfish To Love Yourself
Growing up, I've been taught to love others first. But is this really the best advice to give to a kid? There are many people who give till it hurts, literally and they are suffering inside. In this episode, let's look at what happens when we love others at the expense of ourselves.
#45 Do You Really Have An Enemy Within
We hear people say that we must deal with the enemy within. But is there really an enemy within? What if this type of thinking is the very thing that is causing all the problems in the first place? In this episode, find out how do deal with a part of you that seems to be doing what you know you shouldn't.
#44 Is It Truly Better To Give Than To Receive
Episode 44: It is often said that it is truly better to give than to receive. But, is it true? If it is, then why are so many people who give freely of themselves to others feel resentful inside? You see, there is the right way of giving and the wrong way of giving. In this episode, I talk about how giving is not necessarily better than receiving, but it's not what you think.
#43 Be Do Have or Have Do Be
Episode 43: Why do we feel as if we are hitting a brick wall when it comes to chasing our dream? One of the biggest lies that the world has sold us on is that in order to be the person we want to be, we must first have what the world considers as success first. But, that is just going to make the journey that much harder. In this episode, let's explore the philosophy of 'Be Do Have'.
#42 Does Time Heal
Episode 42: People often say, time will heal all things. However, that's not always the case. Often, the opposite happens. The passage of time makes matters worse. But why is that so? Doesn't a memory of a past hurt get dimmer with time? In this episode, I explore why time is not the healer... you are.
Ep41 Unconscious Programming and Why It's Not Your Fault
Episode 41: Programming - it's not just a computer term. It is actually an integral part of our existence. Your behaviour is a result of your programming, both conscious and unconscious. Usually, it is not an issue. But when you find yourself unconsciously sabotaging your own life, that usually points towards unconscious programming that are not congruent with who you are. Find out in this episode.
Ep40 The Power of I AM
Episode 40: There are 2 tiny words in any language which hold the power to transform a person's destiny. They are the words 'I AM'. Whatever you say after 'I AM' becomes your reality. It doesn't matter whether it is real or imaginary. That's why you must be mindful of what you use these 2 words with. In this episode, we explore just how powerful these 2 words can be.
Ep39 How to Get Good Sleep Part 2
Episode 39: In this episode, I talk about Sleep Hygiene, what it is and why you need to pay attention to it. I also talk briefly about mindful meditation, which is a simple technique that helps to quiet down your mind so that you can fall asleep easily.
Ep38 How To Get Good Sleep Part 1
Episode 38: Sleep - it is such an important part of life but it is also elusive to many people nowadays. There are various factors that contribute to getting good sleep and in this episode I will break them down for you so that you can take the right steps to getting the sleep your body deserve.
Ep37 The Top 10 Emotional Needs In a Marriage
Episode 37: In the last episode, I discussed about the book 'His Needs, Her Needs'. In this episode, I will share about the top 10 emotional needs in a marriage. Meeting this needs will do wonders to your marriage. If you are currently experiencing challenges in your marriage, there is a high probability that you are not meeting one or more of these emotional needs of married couples.
Ep36 His Needs, Her Needs
Episode 36: Is it possible to make a marriage affair-proof? In this episode, I talk about a little book which has helped me in my marriage. When I got married in 2002, I had absolutely no clue as to what the realities of married life is. But I chanced upon the book 'His Needs, Her Needs' by Willard F. Harley Jr. which is filled with practical wisdom to make a marriage lasts. In this episode, I talk about what I've learned from reading this book.
Ep35 The Social Media Trap
Episode 35: Social media is so ingrained in our life today that it is very difficult to imagine what life is like without the existence of social media. For better or for worse, it has transformed how people communicate with each other. However, there is a dark side to social media that I call the Social Media Trap. This trap is sinister but alluring. In this episode, I discuss about what the dangers of social media are and what are the precautions to take where your mental wellness is concerned.
Ep34 An Exercise To Heal The Wounded Inner Child
Episode 34: If you have a wounded inner child, this simple exercise may be very helpful to start you on a journey of self-healing. This was the same exercise I did when I dealt with my own depression.
Important disclaimer: The exercise presented in this episode is for informational purposes only and are not intended to assess, diagnose, or treat any medical and/or mental health disease or condition. This episode does not imply nor establish any type of therapist-client relationship. Furthermore, the information obtained from this episode should not be considered a substitute for a thorough medical and/or mental health evaluation by an appropriately credentialed and licensed professional.
Ep33 The Vulnerable Inner Child
Episode 33: Why do many adults have issues that are related to their inner child? Well, it turns out that many of the unconscious behaviors in adults originated from the programming that they received when they were still children. Every good and bad incident leaves a mark on one's inner child. In this episode, I talk about the most common examples of actions that hurt a child.
Ep32 What's An Inner Child?
Episode 32: Every adult has an inner child in them. When there are issues with the inner child, it manifests itself in the forms of disruptive behaviors, usually unconsciously. In this episode, I talk about the idea of the inner child and why it turns into an issue with some people.
Ep31 What Is Parts Therapy?
Episode 31: Have you ever experienced situations whereby you felt as if you were pulled by different parts in you to do conflicting things or feel conflicting emotions? That's because people have multiple parts with differing priorities in their psyche. In this episode, I briefly explore why there are parts in you and what happens when these parts are not congruent.
Ep30 Why Do You Need A Coach?
Episode 30: Do you need a coach? It's the in thing nowadays and there are coaches for everything you can think of. But, seriously... do you need a coach? In this episode I explore what coaching is and whether you need to have one.
Ep29 Dealing With Frustrations
Episode 29: Sometimes misfortunes just happen and when they happen all at once, it can be extremely frustrating. In this episode I talk about the series of misfortunes that happened to me recently and how I dealt with them, without losing my sanity.
Ep28 Forgiveness
Episode 28: Why do people find it so hard to forgive? In this episode I explore the obstacles that prevent people from forgiving those who have wronged them, why it's important that one chooses forgiveness over grudge and how one can forgive and let go of a wrong that has been done onto them.
Ep27 The Standard You Hold Yourself To
Episode 27: Whenever we hear about double standards, all types of negative feelings emerge. But, in this episode, I share about an instance where double standard is not only necessary, but also important if you want to achieve excellence or mastery in your craft.
Ep26 The Measurement of Success
Episode 26: Modern day society seems to be obsessed with one type of success - material success. Which is why everywhere you look, you see all sorts of references that point towards being more, having more and doing more. But is that truly what you want? In this episode, I ask the question about what is the measurement of success that you use and also whether it truly matters to you. After all, chasing after what you don't really want may very well be a complete waste of time.
Ep25 Why Things Happen
Episode 25: Often when things happen, we don't really know the meaning or the significance behind it. Sometimes, things which seem bad at first end up as blessings in disguise. The key is to not judge the things that happen in our lives too quickly. What we don't understand now, doesn't mean it is necessarily bad for us. Conversely, seemingly good things happening now doesn't mean it's ultimately a blessing.
Ep24 The Traffic Lights of Life
Episode 24: There is a time for everything. Just like on the roads, the traffic lights signal when to move and when to stop. Similarly, we also have a traffic light for our life. How do you know it's there? And more importantly, what do you do with it? In this episode, I share about what you can do at the different phase of Life's traffic light.
Ep23_The Law of Advancement
Episode 23: We often hear people saying, what goes up must come down. But have you ever heard anyone say, to go up, you must first come down. I recently came across a very interesting man, Myron Golden and his teaching really blew me away, particularly his sharing on The Law of Advancement. In this episode I talk about my takeaway from Myron.
Ep22 Learn From Failure
Episode 22: In this episode, I talk about what makes people so afraid of failures. I also explore the 2 levels of a failure which we can learn from by using my own business failure as a case study.
Ep21 Will You Be There To Answer When Opportunity Calls
Episode 21: People are all looking for opportunities. But the big question is are we ready for the opportunity? What if when opportunity calls, we are not there to answer it? In this episode, I also look at value traps, which are opportunities which snares you.
The Formula For Luck
Episode 20: Believe it or not, luck has a formula. In this episode I break it down for you. Listen to a story which I first heard from Steve Chen, one of China’s top motivational speakers, which shed light on how to create your own luck.
The Way We See Things
Episode 19: Anais Rin said that we don’t see things the way they are. We see things the way we are. In this episode, I share about a recent experience where emotionally I went into a very dark place and how a careless accident snapped me out of it.
Comfort Zone
Episode 18: The Comfort Zone is a scary place. It drains motivation and momentum. But it is also a nice place to be in. So, how do you avoid the trap of the comfort zone in your life? In this episode, I share about how I fell into the trap of the comfort zone, early on in my business.
The Mentors In Our Lives
Episode 17: Mentors are the special people who give unto others, oftentimes without getting anything back, other than a sense of satisfaction. They are the ones who have helped us to get to the next level. In this episode, I share about the 2 mentors who have helped shaped the way I do things today.
Taking Care of Inside and Outside
Episode 16: We live in a world that places greater emphasis on the external appearance of people and things. However, what is the effect of this mentality? In this episode, I give an example of what it means to take care of the inside and outside of yourself.
Ep15_Resources Vs Resourcefulness
Episode 15: What do you do when you don’t have the necessary resources? Well, it’s time to get resourceful instead. In this episode I share an experience I had when I was still in secondary school. It was one of the a-ha moments that made me realise the power of resourcefulness.
When Positivity Turns Toxic
Episode 14: I’m all for positive thinking and positive action. But what if people become disillusioned by positivity? So much so that they begin to believe that positivity alone is enough to solve all their problems? That’s when positivity turns toxic. In this episode, I talk about what toxic positivity is and how you can avoid falling victim to it. Cheers!
What Is Emotional Freedom?
Episode 13: I made this episode because one of my friends asked me what exactly is Emotional Freedom? The short answer is it’s the most important thing in life. But I know that answer doesn’t cut it so just watch this episode to learn about what emotional freedom is all about. Cheers!
Why Are There Obstacles In Your Life?
Episode 12: Don’t you sometimes just wish there is no obstacle in your path? You know, smooth sailing all the way. But, life seems to think differently. Obstacles abound and they can potentially derail you from your goals. In this episode, I talk about what obstacles are and why they can be a very good thing for you. Enjoy!
Why Fake It Till You Make It Is So Overrated
Episode 11: Fake it till you make it is a very popular, almost cliché saying that people use to motivate themselves. However, there is a wrong way and a right way for using this principle. In this episode, I talk about how most people are using this idea wrongly and how you can avoid that. Enjoy!
Lessons I Learned From Climbing Mount Kinabalu
Episode 10: Mount Kinabalu is the tallest mountain in Malaysia. In 2017, I climbed it for the very first time. It was an amazing experience, to say the least. In this episode I talk about 5 precious lessons I learned from this climb that apply to daily life. Enjoy!
Can You Reverse Bad Luck?
Episode 9: Is it possible to reverse bad luck in one’s life? I know there are many people who believe in and practise Fengshui. But, I’m not talking about Fengshui. Instead, I think it is something that you can do on your own. In this episode, I talk about the concept of the Downward Spiral and how you can make a U-turn in your life. Enjoy!
How to Handle Unexpected Turn Of Events
Episode 8: In this episode, I look at how to handle unexpected turn of events. Recently, I had a day where a major event that I had planned couldn't be done because of circumstances beyond my control. Here was how I dealt with it.
How to Get Stuff Done
Episode 7: Have you ever wanted to do something so bad, yet you procrastinated? You tell yourself that you will do it but history repeated itself over and over again. Well, for me, I've always wanted to be an author since I was 10. Yet, I procrastinated for 26 years before I finally published my book 'Entrepreneur DNA'. In this episode, I talk about how I finally overcame my procrastination and also what I learned in the process.
Should You Say "I'm sorry" When You Are Not Wrong
Episode 6: Whenever I conduct classes on relationships, the discussion on who should be the one to say "I'm sorry" gets quiet heated. After all, both sides are always right... RIGHT? In this episode, I share on why it's a good idea to say "I'm sorry" even when you know for sure you are not the one who is wrong.
How to Not Suck At What You Do
Episode 5: "You suck!" These are 2 words which have probably stopped many people from taking action in their lives, especially when they were just starting out. But let's face it. It's impossible to be good at something without first going through a period of being bad at it. So, how do you not suck at what you do? Listen to find out.
Haters: How To Deal With Them
Episode 4: Haters! Don't you just hate them (LOL)? Why do they even exist? And why do we even bother ourselves with them? And no, they won't magically disappear. In fact, they probably have longer staying power than us who are sincerely trying to make the world a better place. In this episode I share about my own experience dealing with haters early on in my social media journey.
The Time I Almost Gave Up On My Dream
Episode 3: Experiencing a burnout can be a frightening experience. You don't feel like continuing, you feel demotivated, tired for no reason... even though you totally loved what you are doing. Basically, you feel like shit. In this episode, I share about my experience of burnout, how it nearly caused me to quit my career as a trainer and what I did to recover from it. Burnouts are real and don't ever think you are immune to it.
Teach Kids To Deal With Rejection
Episode 2: My daughter, aged 7, was rejected by her school's dance teacher after the second day. All because she couldn't open the Chinese folding fan with one hand while dancing. Naturally, she was dejected and as her father I had to do something. In this episode I talk about how to approach disappointment in life and why it could be a good thing for kids.
Inaugural Episode
Episode 1 - Welcome to The Emotional Freedom Podcast! Luke talks candidly about why he makes this podcast and what he hopes to share with all listeners.