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Back to Basics for Parenting Teens

Back to Basics for Parenting Teens

By Fern Weis
It was so much easier when they were little. Now they're teens and the stakes are higher.

Join me for skills that work, guest experts and new perspectives to help you navigate the baffling teen years.

With communication skills, relationship-building, boundaries and self-care, it's never too late to turn things around, and you don't have to do it alone. We’re in this together, because it takes a village to raise parents, too.
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#15 - The Boiled Frog
The Boiled Frog is a short story with a big lesson. It illustrates what it takes for us to see what's really going on in our family, and tips to avoid reaching a crisis point. Preparation is key. I've also included a mini-script you can adapt for your individual situation. Foundations: Communication, Prevention, Awareness
September 9, 2021
#14 - Hearing Children's Voices
Do you hear your child? Really hear them? Or are you caught up in the business of living and don't have the patience or time to be still and listen? Our children are desperate to be heard. They are human beings, just like you. In this episode we'll go deeper into what it really means to hear your child, and how you can become the one they turn to. Foundations: Communication, Relationships, Mental Health
August 24, 2021
#13 - #1 Tip to Get Out of Your Funk
It's too easy to stay in a bad mood and wallow. Know that it's okay to feel sorry for yourself, and that it's not healthy or helpful to stay there for too long. Here's my #1 tip to get out of your funk faster, and to teach this to your kids. Foundations: Mental Health, Boundaries, Role Model DISCLAIMER: These are coaching strategies, and are NOT a substitute for mental health care. If you struggle with anxiety, depression or other mental health issues, please consult with medical/mental health professionals.
July 14, 2021
#12 - Privacy - What do you share about your kids?
This is a reminder that our kids can be uncomfortable, or even distressed, about our sharing the difficult details of their life with others. Here's my firsthand experience with my daughter and what I learned. Foundations: Relationships, Boundaries
June 14, 2021
#11 - P is for People Pleaser
People pleasing was my M.O. It meant avoiding conflict at all costs, and impacted all my relationships. Being a people pleaser also affects how you parent, and not in a good way. Enjoy some personal insights into the world of being a PP. You're not alone, and you can change. Foundations: Relationships, Self-Care
April 27, 2021
#10 - The 'F-Bomb'
When I was a kid, only serious risk-takers would use that word with their parents. It's a different story today, because our kids use it in a completely different way. Learn how to turn the 'F-bomb' into a conversation that brings you and your teen together. Thanks for listening. Foundations: Relationship-building, Communication    Questions? Write to me at
February 22, 2021
#09 - We gave them the tech. Have we lost our kids?
Parent Coach, Rhonda Moskowitz, shares that every family she works with is concerned about their kids and screen time. Remote learning has intensified the concern. Today we're discussing the impact on the whole family. Listen for actionable tips to reduce screen time and rebuild loving parent-child relationships. Foundations: Communication, Relationships, Boundaries
February 1, 2021
#08 - Gayle Gruenberg, Professional Organizer
Gayle shares her top strategies for parents and kids to begin the process of paring down and organizing.  In addition to her training and many qualifications, Gayle's super powers are compassion and acceptance of each individual. This allows her clients to release any guilt or shame they may be carrying around clutter, and to create a more peaceful environment. More information at
January 10, 2021
#07 - Your Children Are not Your Children
At some point we launch our children into their future and their life is no longer in our hands. The poet-philosopher Kahlil Gibran speaks for all parents in "On Children" (commonly known by the first line, Your Children Are not Your Children). I encourage you to find it online and read along with me. I was introduced to this poem at a difficult time in our family's life, and it spoke deeply and profoundly to me. Stay with me as I share its meaning to me. Foundations: Relationship Building, Self-Care
December 22, 2020
#06 - Respectful Conversation is Key to Reach Your Teen
Parents usually go from recognizing there is a problem to deciding on consequences. Having a conversation with your teen first is essential. Learn 4 tips to craft your message in a way that your teen will hear it without getting defensive and shutting you down. Foundations: Communication, Relationship Building
December 19, 2020
#05 - R is for Rules (and Principles) for Better Results
We tend to parent with rules, and more rules, until there's a pile of rules and little to no cooperation or compliance. Add principles to the mix. You'll get better results and have an easier time getting them.   Foundations: Communication, Boundaries
December 7, 2020
#04 - A is for Anxiety
When you're feeling anxious, does that make you anxious, too?  Energy shift questions and activities to help you gradually move out of anxiety.  TIP: It's more than meditation and yoga!
November 14, 2020
#03 - What keeps you up at night?
A lot of what we do as parents we call love; however, all too often it's fear motivating us. Today we'll explore fears that every parent has. You are not alone! (Foundations: Communication, Relationship-Building)
October 28, 2020
#02 - Stop talking about school!
When you talk mostly about school, grades and chores, a wall comes up between you and your child. Here’s how to build bridges instead. (Foundations: relationship-building and communication)
October 22, 2020
#01 - Parents and the college decision
Many students are told to apply wherever their heart desires. When the acceptance letters arrive, some parents reconsider what they're willing to pay for, how far the college is, and whether their student is truly prepared to be successful. Start planning for this as early as middle school, and avoid the tension and drama later on. (Foundations: boundaries, communication)
October 20, 2020
Introduction to the 3 Foundations of Parenting
October 18, 2020