The Things We Don't See
By Fern Lulham
The Things We Don't SeeDec 11, 2019
Can A Relationship Survive Sight Loss? - The Things We Don't See
In this episode, I chat to the lovely, Hollie Hawkridge, whose relationship with her partner Dan got put to the test when she started losing her sight and found out that she may one day go completely blind. Hollie shares her story of dealing with the initial reaction after being told such life-changing news, how the couple coped as a result and what had to change in order for them to make their relationship work. Hollie learnt lessons which were invaluable to her, but could also be applied to any relationship in one way or another.
Lockdown Arguments
What do you do when tensions start running high between you and your beloved during lockdown? in this episode, I ask the internet to find out!
Strength In Insecurity / The Things We Don't See
This week, I took to the internet to find out what people's biggest insecurities are and whether there is any strength to be found in insecurity itself.
What To Do When Your Partner Breaks Their Promises
How do you deal with consistently broken promises in a relationship?
The Freelance Flutters ~ Letters to January #2
I am a freelancer, which can - at times - be a very inconsistent lifestyle to lead, full of ups and downs. In today's entry, I talk a little bit about how this affects me in my everyday life.
Monkey Minded TEDx Speaker ~ Letters to January #1
Test Your Relationship at Christmas ~ Letters to December #7
The fun and games of exploring a Christmas market when you can't see!
You Can HEAR Rolls of Eyes! ~ Letters to December #6
When you dress up as an elf and suddenly people start reacting to you differently!
Shmooze ~ Letters to December #5
My experience looking in the Men's Department!
Wasted Time? ~ Letters to December #4
today, i spent HOURS working on a project which didn't really pay off for me at all. It was a long and arduous process, but i think i managed to learn some things from it along the way!
Unexpected Visitors ~ Letters to December #3
We all like to pretend that our houses are pristine - but i had NO opportunity to do that when some unexpected visitors arrived. Here is the utter chaos which ensued.
How should I have handled this?
Learning by Doing ~ Letters to December 2019 #2
Ever copped out of doing something because you didn't know how and convinced yourself you would break things if you tried? Sure, me too.
Today was a day of technological challenges OVERCOME! Sometimes small victories are the very best kind.
Editing is not Honesty ~ Letters to December 2019 #1
I have many thoughts which come up throughout my day, so I decided to brain dump them onto a fun little chatette of a podcast. Each day i record will have its own little nugget of my very own brand of wisdom for your listening consumption.
This episode was inspired by the fact that when I came into record this evening, (following my brilliant lightbulb moment) the technology was very much against me and I had to push through that so I could crack on anyway. i also discuss the temptations of editing ANY imperfections out f my work and hence decreasing the authenticity. As you can hear, somehow I resisted the temptation and made the podcast happen! :)
How My Stepdad's Death Changed My Life ft. Charlotte O'Callaghan
Charlotte came home from work one day to discover her stepdad dead inside their living room. In the first of a two-part interview, I talk to Charlotte about the impact that had on her then, the emotional journey she has been on since that point and the important role which counselling has played in her life.
Why You Aren't Moving Forward // The Things We Don't See
It is so easy to stay stagnant on a project, idea or in a part of your life you were once so excited about. Today I discuss how you can break out of this funk and how to start moving forward again. Are you the one holding yourself back?
How People Get Away With Treating You Badly // The Things We Don't See
Why Loss Is Important To Life // The Things We Don't See
In this episode, I discuss what it is like to go through the loss of a loved one. I tell ny own personal story of this, (regarding the recent passing of my aunty) talk about how those who succeed in life are not necessarily better than we are, explore our need for extreme bravery in certain situations where we don't have a choice but to rely on this, express some of my own personal coping strategies and some suggestions of how to help others through loss and what we must rememver of those who we are no longer able to be with.
Why You Can't Accept Yourself // The Things We Don't See
Let me know your thoughts on the topic. What are you trying to accept and what helps you to come to terms with difficult situations?
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The Psychology of Fear // The Things We Don't See
In light of Halloween, I decided to make this episode all about fear. I talk about my own emotional fears involving sight loss, the psychology behind fear and where phobias come from, tools to help you start to navigate your way through situations in which you are afraid and how we can best tackle our own and others fears. I would also love to hear from you about what it is that you fear and any strategies which help you overcomes your fears. Get in touch! 💚 Email: fernlulham@gmail.com 💙 Twitter: @MissFernLulham 💜 Facebook: www.facebook.com/fernlulham 💛 Instagram: @FernLulham ♥️ YouTube Search: Fern Lulham 💖 Blog: www.withlovefromfern.tumblr.com
Blindness and Mental Health // The Things We Don't See
In this episode, I talk about my own, personal experience of how my sight has impacted on my mental health, lay out the premise for the podcast and introduce the idea that there are many things in life which we don't see, both in other people, as well as in ourselves.
I discuss my journey and how I have changed from when I was young, to going to university and finding indepence and acceptance as a young woman. I explain how my confidence has been shaken at times and how depression and anciety have played a part in making me who I am today. I highlight how my blindness has always been something I have wanted to hide from other people, so that it would not taint how they viewed me as a person.
I also want to hear from you about what it is that you are hiding from the world. What is it which you wish nobody else could see?
Get in touch!
💚 Email: fernlulham@gmail.com
💙 Twitter: @MissFernLulham
💜 Facebook: www.facebook.com/fernlulham
💛 Instagram: @FernLulham
♥️ YouTube Search: Fern Lulham
💖 Blog: www.withlovefromfer.tumblr.com
I'd love to hear from you!