You're Double (by Find My Parent)

In this episode of You're Double Podcast, we speak to John Sichi, an American father of two children who were abducted to South Korea in 2019. In this episode. John shares more about the abduction, why his children have yet to be returned despite Hague rulings in favor of return, and what needs to change in South Korea.

Donna was a young mother looking forward to a bright future with her husband and young son. One day, that bright future turned into a dark nightmare when her husband whisked their son off to his native country, Pakistan, and announced that the young boy would remain there. Effectively kidnapped, the boy had no idea where his parents were nor the anguish his mother was going through. We are all led to believe that our government is there for us. Donna immediately went through "the system" of government help and found stone wall after stone wall. With no other choice, she took matters into her own hands. Donna tells a stirring and compelling story of clandestine meetings, tense moments with gun-toting Pakistani officials, and a lot of prayer. The happy ending reunites Donna with her son. Seeing my God part the sea, knowing faith opened every door along the way!

In today’s episode, Astrid Johnson shares the story of how her two daughters were abducted to the United Arab Emirates while visiting their father on what was supposed be just a vacation. This was despite the fact that Astrid and her ex-husband had a very strong child custody agreement.

Listen as Astrid discusses the challenges she faces dealing with the State Department, especially with abduction to a non-Hague country. You can follow Astrid and her daughters’ story on her Facebook page.

In this episode, we speak with Jolly Bimbachi – the mother of two boys abducted from Canada to Lebanon in 2015. In this episode Jolly shares details of the abduction and how she has struggled to reunite with her children over the years, including when she tried to bring them back to Canada through Syria in 2017 only to be taken hostage by an al-Qaeda-affiliate militant group.

In this episode, we speak with Dr. Noelle Hunter. Noelle and her daughter were victims of international parental abduction in 2011. Thankfully due to Noelle’s persistence and her strong support system, her daughter Muna was returned home to the US from Mali three years later.

In this episode, Noelle shares her story and what factors led to the return of her daughter home. She also discusses her advocacy work as president emeritus and co-founder of iStand Parent Network Inc as well as a Lecturer at The University of Alabama in Huntsville where she has taught classes on International Parental Abduction.

In today’s bonus episode of You’re Double, we feature Japanese attorney at law Shuntaro Ogawa. Ogawa works at MIRAIO law firm founded in 2009 by attorney Kenshi Nishida. With the philosophy of "A Future for All," the firm provides legal services that give peace of mind to all people and companies. MIRAIO has handled numerous disputes, including debt settlement cases, hepatitis B lawsuits, divorce cases, and inheritance cases. To date, the company has consulted on more than 400,000 cases

In today’s episode, in Japanese, Ogawa speaks about what exactly custody means under the Japanese Civil Code and how it is decided when parents divorce.

In today’s episode of You’re Double, we host Claire Colbert founder and specialist mediator at Family Mediation & Mentoring in the UK.

In 2018, Vincent Fichot came home to an empty house in Tokyo, Japan. His wife, 3-year-old son and 11-month-old daughter had vanished. All he had done was suggest that he might want a divorce. He hasn't seen or heard from his family since, and every effort to contact or reunite with his family has been blocked by his wife, her lawyers, Japanese courts, the police, policymakers from Japan and even his own country of origin - France. This includes Emmanuel Macron, French President and Josep Borrell, Spanish politician serving as High Representative of the European Union.

With nowhere else to go, Vincent started a hunger strike in a desperate attempt to reunite with his kids. In this podcast, you will hear the extent a dad will go to reunite with his kids, the gross negligence of the Japanese courts on the rights of children to have both of their parents, and above all, this reality of child abduction when it comes to Japan.

The name You’re Double was inspired by the fact that children are made up of two parents, two families, two cultures, two backgrounds and this makes children who they are. This is what we believe makes children amazing – their double experiences, double cultures, and sometimes double languages. And this is why children deserve the love of both parents!

In 2018, Vincent Fichot came home to an empty house in Tokyo, Japan. His wife, 3-year-old son and 11-month-old daughter had vanished. All he had done was suggest that he might want a divorce. He hasn't seen or heard from his family since, and every effort to contact or reunite with his family has been blocked by his wife, her lawyers, Japanese courts, the police, policymakers from Japan and even his own country of origin - France. This includes Emmanuel Macron, French President and Josep Borrell, Spanish politician serving as High Representative of the European Union.

With nowhere else to go, Vincent started a hunger strike in a desperate attempt to reunite with his kids. In this podcast, you will hear the extent a dad will go to reunite with his kids, the gross negligence of the Japanese courts on the rights of children to have both of their parents, and above all, this reality of child abduction when it comes to Japan.

The name You’re Double was inspired by the fact that children are made up of two parents, two families, two cultures, two backgrounds and this makes children who they are. This is what we believe makes children amazing – their double experiences, double cultures, and sometimes double languages. And this is why children deserve the love of both parents!

In this episode of You're Double podcast, we are speaking to Ashley-Nicole Russell, Esq. an award-winning family law attorney, author, and speaker who is changing the way divorce is perceived around the world. As a child of divorce and divorcee, she brings a unique, relatable, and personal understanding to her clients and the communities she serves. With more than a decade of experience in collaborative law, Ashley-Nicole knows first-hand how this model benefits families during separation and divorce. This method, which Ashley-Nicole used in her own divorce, allows the couple to move forward peacefully with understanding and respect for each other. Of course, we talk at length about this process in this episode. She is the author of The Cure for Divorce Culture and the host of the Divorce, Healthy! podcast. She is an advisor for co-parenting app Fayr and is a member of the national board of directors for the National Parents Organization. I am also joined by Tomas Savickas in this podcast. Tomas is a left behind parent from Lithuania and currently residing in Japan.

In this episode of You're Double Podcast, We are speaking to the CEO of Fayr, Michael David Daniels. Fayr is a co-parenting app that allows co-parents to effortless communicate, create a shared calendar while keeping track of expenses. It also helps co-parents to prepare legal documents and much much more. In the first part with Michael, we talk a lot about the app and how it helps in reducing conflicts between co-parents. In the second part, we talk broader topics such as choosing the right partner, managing conflict with your children and co-parent, introducing new partner to your ex-spouse, and so much more.

Fayr was born out of two desires: to become a better co-parent, and to make the experience of co-parenting better.

In this episode of you're double podcast, we are speaking to retired US Navy Officer Captain P. Paul Toland Jr. whose daughter was previously abducted by her Japanese wife, and then now following the demise of his ex-wife,being kept away from him by his ex-wife's grand parents in Japan.

Paul's story have been covered by the media through the last decade as he has been trying to reunite with his daughter for more than a decade. He is also the co-founder and national director of Bachome, an organization with the goal of bringing back abducted children from Japan.

I am also joined by Tomas Savickas who will be my cohost for this podcast episode. If you want to know more about Tomas, you can listen to our previous two episodes.

In this episode of you're double podcast, we are speaking to retired US Navy Officer Captain P. Paul Toland Jr. whose daughter was previously abducted by her Japanese wife, and then now following the demise of his ex-wife,being kept away from him by his ex-wife's grand parents in Japan.

Paul's story have been covered by the media through the last decade as he has been trying to reunite with his daughter for more than a decade. He is also the co-founder and national director of Bachome, an organization with the goal of bringing back abducted children from Japan.

I am also joined by Tomas Savickas who will be my cohost for this podcast episode. If you want to know more about Tomas, you can listen to our previous two episodes.

In this episode of You're Double podcast we are speaking to Scott Putnam. His kids were abducted from him by his wife almost 4 years ago and you will hear his story in this episode. Most people think that abduction and alienation only happen in young marriages where the couple have been married for less than a decade. Scott's story proves that it can happen to anyone even if you have been married to someone for decades.

In this episode of You're Double podcast we are speaking to Scott Putnam. His kids were abducted from him by his wife almost 4 years ago and you will hear his story in this episode. Most people think that abduction and alienation only happen in young marriages where the couple have been married for less than a decade. Scott's story proves that it can happen to anyone even if you have been married to someone for decades.

The Ushiku immigration center near Tokyo holds people seeking refuge in Japan. Using a hidden camera, award-winning filmmaker Thomas Ash interviewed inmates there from late 2019. In his documentary based on the conversations that he had with the inmates and detainees, he portrays the lack of a refugee policy in Japan, how the media is unwilling to talk about it, the same for worldwide organizations like United Nations, and concludes that this is Japan's biggest human rights violation.

In this documentary, Louis Christian was featured heavily and his story is one of the most heartbreaking one. The Japanese immigration department not only coerced his wife coerced into divorcing him but also to abort his second child and alienate him from his first wife. In this podcast we talk to him about all that and more. I am also joined by Enrique, the founder of Find My Parent in this episode.

The Ushiku immigration center near Tokyo holds people seeking refuge in Japan. Using a hidden camera, award-winning filmmaker Thomas Ash interviewed inmates there from late 2019. In his documentary based on the conversations that he had with the inmates and detainees, he portrays the lack of a refugee policy in Japan, how the media is unwilling to talk about it, the same for worldwide organizations like United Nations, and concludes that this is Japan's biggest human rights violation.

In this documentary, Louis Christian was featured heavily and his story is one of the most heartbreaking one. The Japanese immigration department not only coerced his wife coerced into divorcing him but also to abort his second child and alienate him from his first wife. In this podcast we talk to him about all that and more. I am also joined by Enrique, the founder of Find My Parent in this episode.

In this episode of You're double podcast we are speaking to Kris who is from Netherlands and he has an extensive legal experience especially nationality law. How we at FMP got connected to Kris is a pretty interesting story. Kris heard about the hunger strike that Vincent did through the news and decided to come forward with his own story and how his son was abducted to Thailand almost 2 decades back.

He wrote a blog post about his own experience with the abduction, the trauma that he felt, and also the Hague Convention. What was special about the article is that he was able to break down how Japan can systematically adopt the Hague convention. So, we reached out to invite him to share his story with us.

Now, before we get to the episode, I would like to inform all our listeners that Glen Wood, someone we have had in this podcast, is retrying his paternity harassment or Patahara case in the Tokyo High Court and at the Labor Relationship Commission of Tokyo in September.

Bienvenidos nuevamente a  You’re Double en español, conducido por Antonio Maculus. 

Hoy vamos a Hablar con Carlos Salgado y un padre que no ve a su hija hace años porque fue secuestrada por su ex esposa y llevada a Kirguistán, un país asiatico que ignora las demandas de los tribunales españoles y le prohibió la entrada a Carlos. 

This is the Japanese version of our previous two episodes with Akiko from Japan, Hosted by Nao.

In this episode of You're double podcast, we are speaking to Akiko from Japan. Her daughter was kidnapped by her ex husband almost 2 years ago, and she has been battling the case and trying to gain custody through the family court and Supreme Court of Japan.

We recently launched a petition targeted at the Japanese government to stand up for the 3million kids who are trafficked in Japan since 1991, legally with the help of single custody laws in Japan. Japan does not recognize joint custody. laws as the lawyers and judges profit from it and receive up to 30% of child support payments until the child reaches 20 years of age! While it’s a gain for the lawyers and judges, this is a loss-loss situation for the children and parents affected by the single custody law.

In this episode of You're double podcast, we are speaking to Akiko from Japan. Her daughter was kidnapped by her ex husband almost 2 years ago, and she has been battling the case and trying to gain custody through the family court and Supreme Court of Japan.

We recently launched a petition targeted at the Japanese government to stand up for the 3million kids who are trafficked in Japan since 1991, legally with the help of single custody laws in Japan. Japan does not recognize joint custody. laws as the lawyers and judges profit from it and receive up to 30% of child support payments until the child reaches 20 years of age! While it’s a gain for the lawyers and judges, this is a loss-loss situation for the children and parents affected by the single custody law.

In this episode of you're double podcast, we are speaking to Dan Hund, a left behind parent from Seattle, United States.

We have made this conversation with him into three parts as we spoke for more than 12 hours on various topics related to parental alienation. Now, Dan's situation is pretty unique and you will see soon enough that he has the ability to verbalize and explain what he had gone through very well.

With that said, the stories that he told us explain deeply about things that are mentioned by experts that we have spoken to before in this podcast. I implore you to listen and try to relate back to things mentioned in our previous episodes with the experts as you will see obvious signs of narcissistic behaviour, manipulation and gaslighting, alienation happening while still being married, and so much more.  

In the first part of this three part series with Dan, we talk about everything that led to his divorce and separation. We go in detail about every event that resulted in his ex-wife getting pregnant, how he was controlled through his relationship with her and how does it feel to be alienated while you are still married.

We have purposely marked this episode as explicit because we do go into some adult themes through this episode. For those of you who are younger than 18 years old or a minor, I strongly suggest that you get the guidance of someone knowledgeable if you are not sure about things we are talking about.

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I would like to remind everyone that our goal here is to share knowledge with you guys and show that you are not alone in this. With that said, if you need specific legal advice, please get independent advice from a qualified legal practitioner.