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Forever Love

Forever Love

By Lily Mtongwiza

Pursue your God-given desire for a Christ-centered marriage.

Lily Mtongwiza walks with you during your season of singleness to help you renew your mind so that you can date deliberately and court with confidence.

Lily offers single women a balanced approach to modern dating with Christ-centered principles.

The Forever Love podcast is where you can tune in and get advice on your love life (or lack thereof) that honors your relationship with God.




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Moving from Impossible to Inevitable
Moving from Impossible to Inevitable
There are four stages that we will pass through when trying to accomplish a seemingly impossible goal. In today's episode, I'm going to teach you about the four stages.  Impossible  Possible  Probably  Inevitable Understanding where you're at and how to get to the next stage is essential for getting unstuck and achieving your God-given desire. Today's episode is from our most recent Free Group Coaching Call, and you're invited to join us next week. Get the link by subscribing to my Newsletter here https://www.proverbs2426.com/subscribe If you're ready to take this work to the next level, I want to encourage you to check out The Foundations For Love Program, where you get Private coaching with me, plus instant access to all my relationship courses and bonus material. Sign up for the Foundations For Love Program Here>> Proverbs2426.com/love
01:05:23
November 24, 2022
Digging yourself out of a hole
Digging yourself out of a hole
Some of your own making and some you've been pushed into.  On your journey with God, you will find yourself in some deep holes. Here's how to get out. In this group coaching session, we openly discussed what it's like to feel stuck in a hole and how to navigate those painful situations. First, you need to know that some of the unfavorable circumstances you will inevitably find yourself in have nothing to do with you. Pandemics, hurricanes, floods, fires, and droughts, have nothing to do with you. Sometimes the holes we find ourselves at the bottom of are self-created. Indulging in toxic behaviors, action out negative emotions, and not taking responsibility for your thoughts, feelings, and actions will have consequences. But no matter how you got there, it's important to know that there is a way out. Listen in as we talk about what to do when you've hit rock bottom and how to move forward with grace and dignity. We're talking about: Learning HOW to make peace with where we're at without losing momentum to change things Why you must take the pressure off yourself to get out as fast as possible Critical actions that will make all the difference What not to do when you're at the bottom of the hole DID YOU KNOW??? I do a FREE Group Coaching Call weekly, and I want you to be there! Subscribe to the newsletter, and I'll send you the weekly invite: https://www.proverbs2426.com/subscribe If you're ready to take your relationship journey straight to the heart of God, I'm here to help. Build a Christ-centered relationship with God by adopting the mind of Christ and cultivating the fruit of the Holy Spirit. Join the Foundations For Love Program today and get the coaching, resources, tools, and guidance you need to not only endure the journey toward marriage but actually enjoy it. Everything you need to know to honor your God-given desire for a Christ-centered marriage is right: Join Today.
53:14
November 03, 2022
Financial Independence For Single Christian Women with Delores Mckenzie
Financial Independence For Single Christian Women with Delores Mckenzie
Managing your money is not a skill most women are taught. But it's never too late to learn.  Have you ever thought about marrying for money? Don't worry, it's okay to admit that you'd like your Christ-centered marriage to come with an upgrade in finances too.  If you haven't, that's normal too.  What's important is that you're being honest with yourself about your money goals and the best ways to achieve them.  Here's the thing, getting your money to work for you, rather than against you, doesn't have to be complicated - and my guest on this episode, Delores McKenzie is here to share how.  Delores McKenzie is a Licensed Financial Educator and enjoys sharing her knowledge and helping families build a stronger financial foundation. Her Vision is to help families and individuals build a solid financial foundation. In this episode, she shares why you might want to consider working on your financial goals now while you're single, plus:  How to decide what the focus of your money should be What you need to know about the modern financial industry Her step-by-step process on how to get started with your financial plan Three ways you can improve your finances without having to cut out the things your enjoy This was a really enlightening conversation, and I’m excited for you to hear it! Delores is on a mission to create dynamic and easy-to-follow steps, programs, system, workshops, and support, that offers solutions to help families and individuals achieve their financial goals and build a legacy. She is the author of “The Heart of Obedience”: 10 Biblical Financial Principles to Change Your Life and “7 Steps for Mastering The Money In Your Relationships.” She loves to travel the world, meet new people and experience different cultures. Her goal is to inspire you to rise above your circumstances by opening your mind to envision and embrace the promises of the Creator to become financially independent and live a life of abundance! Her motto can be found in Philippians 4:13: “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me." Links Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/deloresmckenzie/ Book a Strategy Session with Delores: https://calendly.com/mckenzie-delores/financial_strategy Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCzQ9g2yFoGPB-RlRGdg3gkA Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/savvyretirementadvisor DID YOU KNOW??? I do a FREE Group Coaching Call weekly, and I want you to be there! Subscribe to the newsletter, and I'll send you the weekly invite: https://www.proverbs2426.com/subscribe   If you're ready to take your relationship journey straight to the heart of God, I'm here to help.  Build a Christ-centered relationship with God by adopting the mind of Christ and cultivating the fruit of the Holy Spirit. Join the Foundations For Love Program today and get the coaching, resources, tools, and guidance you need to not only endure the journey toward marriage but actually enjoy it. https://www.proverbs2426.com/love
46:07
October 27, 2022
Participating In Miracles
Participating In Miracles
You have an active part to play in the miracles of God. What do you need to be doing? What expectations do you have for prayer? How do you cooperate with the process? Who gets to experience the miraculous power of God? This is fun stuff!  A LOT of brilliant, passionate Christian women miss out on miracles every day because they don't understand the role they play in the creation process.  Even with an active prayer life, a servant's heart, and big faith, it can still feel like the presence and power of God is evasive. So let's talk about what's going wrong.  Using The Life Code, we can begin to see how to step into cooperation with the creative power of God and alignment with His Kingdom. I'll show you examples, and you'll hear me coaching women through their unique situations.  If you like this episode, you'll love joining us LIVE. I do a FREE Group Coaching Call every week, and I want you to be there! Subscribe to the newsletter, and I'll send you the weekly invite: https://www.proverbs2426.com/subscribe
01:13:40
October 20, 2022
Understanding Your Why
Understanding Your Why
What's motivating you?  What's driving your desire for love and marriage? In today's episode, we're talking about understanding your why.   Why do you want to get married? In our last group coaching session, we addressed this question, and the underlying motives were revealed. Sometimes we can be pleasantly surprised by our own answers. But we may also uncover some dark truths as well. Listen to this conversation and join us for the next FREE group coaching session. Every Friday at 1pm. EST The link to join the weekly zoom meeting will be sent out Friday morning, 2 hours ahead of time.  Subscribe to the email list to make sure you get your invite: proverbs2426.com/subscribe 
01:00:32
October 13, 2022
The Secret To Avoiding Self Sabotage
The Secret To Avoiding Self Sabotage
The Secret To Avoiding Self Sabotage This is an extra special episode for me because I'm bringing back one of my favorite people to talk about how to not sabotage your efforts on your journey towards Christ-centered love. You'll love this episode because my guest Vanessa is here to share the pivotal decisions she made that helped her stay grounded in love when she was scared of getting hurt. Not only that, but she also asked me some great questions that I think you'll be curious to hear the answers to. So much love and connection are available to you, and it's within reach. In fact, it's just a click away. Join us in the Foundations For Love Program, and let your love story be the next one I share on the podcast.  https://www.proverbs2426.com/love Don't wait a minute longer. We've got lots to do, and I'm here to support you every step of the way.
56:36
October 06, 2022
Notes on scripts 💬
Notes on scripts 💬
Let’s talk about the benefits and drawbacks of having conversation scripts.
05:40
October 04, 2022
Your life is your story
Your life is your story
Join the Foundations For Love Program at proverbs2426.com/love Meet Carmela. She is an amazing woman who has gone from feeling hopeless and wondering if she would ever be loved to enjoying a thriving relationship that is positioned for marriage.  Carmela is here to share what she has learned along the way. From how to deal with bone-deep sadness to embracing new ideas such as "there will be someone else." Today's episode is a heartwarming reminder that your desire for love is from God, and you're not alone on the journey. We also get into some very serious subject matter around creating physical safety in a relationship and what to do when you're afraid of getting hurt. She has some wise insights to offer that have served her well in her own life.  Not only that, but she gets really honest and describes what it was like to be sitting at home twiddling her thumbs waiting for someone and being broken-hearted about life, and feeling like she never really grew up because she hasn't done the married with kids thing yet. This moving conversation will help you stand firm in your commitment to love and embrace the challenges of such a valiant and Godly desire.  Foundations For Love is now open for enrollment. Learn more and join today https://www.proverbs2426.com/love
19:47
October 03, 2022
[Case Study] Overcoming Obsticles
[Case Study] Overcoming Obsticles
If you would like to be invited to our next FREE Group coaching call please subscribe to the newsletter to get an invite  Proverbs2426.com/subscribe
46:56
September 29, 2022
Notes on offers 📝
Notes on offers 📝
Learn to separate your worth as a human from the value you want to offer within a relationship
03:49
September 28, 2022
(Client Journey) How to trust the voice within
(Client Journey) How to trust the voice within
This is a very special episode with my beloved client Michele. She's here to share the insights and wisdom she has gleaned on her journey towards a Christ-centered marriage.  After a full year of intentionally walking out what it means to pursue marriage from a place of love, Michele will tell us what she learned about being authentic, owning her emotions, and believing in the possibility of love.  I appreciate Michele so much for her vulnerability and candor. She is a single mom trying to do the right thing and be honest about her challenges. From dysfunctional relationships, domestic abuse, and poverty, she understands what it means to start from the bottom. Michele has been extremely open about her experiences being coached and was one of the first to volunteer the video recording of her coaching session to the rest of the community. That coaching session can be found here>> If you would like to book a private coaching session, please take advantage of the September 2022, Pay-What-You-Want coaching offer. A private 60-minute coaching session at a price point that makes sense for you.  Book a private Pay-What-You -Want coaching session  https://proverbs-24-26.ck.page/products/coaching-session
44:57
September 22, 2022
📚Book notes
📚Book notes
A quick peek into my morning routine and what I’m reading. It resonated with me so much I wanted to share it with you. This passage comes from Simple Abundance by Sarah Ban Breathnach.
03:25
September 19, 2022
Notes on seemingly innocent 😇 expectations
Notes on seemingly innocent 😇 expectations
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03:21
September 16, 2022
Group Coaching: Understanding fear and how to use it
Group Coaching: Understanding fear and how to use it
You deserve to be coached. ​ But, private coaching sessions are a luxury not everyone can afford, even when it's Pay What You Want. That's why I'm doing a free group coaching call this Friday, and I want you to come.  Subscribe to my newsletter, and I will send you an invitation to join us. https://www.proverbs2426.com/subscribe There will be a FREE Group Coaching session on Friday at 1 pm on Sept 16, 23, 30 It will be a small group of women, some are my private clients, and others are podcast fans. Women from around the world, of different ages and stages, who all share a common God-given desire for marriage. ​ It will be a 60-minute call, and we'll start with prayer. Then, I'll talk about understanding and overcoming fear for a few minutes. Afterward, I want to coach you and answer your questions. ​ Of course, you're welcome to come and just listen, but I want you to experience the benefits of being coached.
01:07:36
September 15, 2022
🚌 Bus notes
🚌 Bus notes
A quick check in and an easy body scan to help boost your emotional awareness.
01:38
September 14, 2022
Love notes 💌
Love notes 💌
Quick thoughts during my morning coffee.
03:15
September 13, 2022
Unfavorable Circumstances
Unfavorable Circumstances
Join my newsletter and take advantage of exclusive offers Subscribe here: https://proverbs-24-26.ck.page/bdaf846c77 In today's episode, I'm sharing an inside scoop into how my summer went staying in a tiny house with my parents, 2 kids, husband, and sometimes brother. It was a full house, to be sure, and many opportunities for negative emotions. While my coaching skills couldn't prevent me from experiencing discomfort, they did help me manage my mind and process my emotions much more effectively. I'm sharing my takeaways on... 1. Dealing with a long-distance relationship 2. Being a people pleaser - especially with Mom 3. The importance of embracing reality I'd love to invite you to take advantage of my Pay-What-You-Want coaching offer available throughout Sept 2022. You can purchase a private 60-minute coaching session here and a price that works for you.  https://proverbs-24-26.ck.page/products/coaching-session
49:04
September 08, 2022
Dangers in Dating
Dangers in Dating
This episode could save your life! Today we're talking about Gavin de Beckers' work The Gift Of Fear because understanding the signals (or red flags) of a predator can save your life.  Charm and the importance of recognizing WHY he is being charming.  Typecasting and why a predator will try to give you a negative label. Forced teamwork and how these men attempt to turn you into a collaborator in their plans Too many details and the unsolicited promise  Refusal to accept NO.  These are strategies that predatory men will use to gain an advantage over their victims. Being aware of them can increase your chance of survival in a life-threatening situation.  You can watch Gavin de Becker's FREE Masterclass on Personal Safety here: https://giftoffear.com Gavin de Becker is widely regarded as the nation’s leading expert on violence and safety. This master class is based on the concepts in his book, The Gift of Fear, the #1 bestseller on violence for 25 years. Helping women avoid and escape domestic violence is at the heart of my work. As a child, I grew up in a very violent home and watched my mother endure years of emotional and mental abuse. My husband lost his sister to a violent partner, and we are painfully aware of how dangerous a romantic attachment can become. I hope that as I encourage you to overcome many of your fears, like the fear of failure, loss, rejection, and loneliness, that you will NEVER ignore the voice of true fear, which is a gift from God.  Please join me in spreading this life-saving information so that we can keep ourselves and others safe from senseless violence. 
48:42
August 25, 2022
How To Bring Out Your Best Femininity Without Losing Your Strength In God
How To Bring Out Your Best Femininity Without Losing Your Strength In God
Let's look at the definition of femininity. What does Biblical femininity look like, and where does our current idea of strength come from? In this episode, we'll talk about embracing your strength and expressing your beauty without compromising your relationship with God. There are so many examples of women in the Bible who do not conform to our modern-day idea of how a "good Christian woman" should behave. 
14:44
August 18, 2022
Self esteem and trying too hard
Self esteem and trying too hard
Part of the summer shorty series, this week we're talking about the problem with trying too hard and what you can do instead. 
20:04
August 10, 2022
Am I settling?
Am I settling?
I know God has forgiven him for his past, but I'm struggling and hope God has a different person for me. Am I settling while I consider this person? - Apryl Just because God has forgiven them doesn't mean you should ignore his past behavior.  In this episode, we'll talk about listening to our inner guidance system and the importance of not ignoring that still small voice. I'd also like to remind you that God is good and doesn't use relationships to hurt us. If there is pressure to pursue this relationship, where is it coming from? 
19:59
August 04, 2022
How do I know if he's the right one?
How do I know if he's the right one?
Let's explore the idea of "The Right One." First of all, where does this idea come from? Is it Christ-centered? In my experience as a relationship coach, I've seen that many women in relationships operate under the false assumption that there's one man for each of us.  In today's episode, we will explore the idea there is no "right one" and consider some alternative questions that will better serve you on your journey towards a Christ-centered marriage. Questions like: Is this a healthy relationship?  How will I know whether I am feeling physically unsafe or experiencing a trigger it's safe to work through? Where is God in this relationship? The main problem with asking, "Is he the right one? is this; it implies that your ability to choose a marriage partner is a test and that the answers lie outside of you and Christ.  Do you want me to help you achieve your God-given desire for marriage personally? Suppose you're ready to take the next step and commit to doing the work as long as it's in alignment with the will of God. In that case, I can help you start a healthy relationship, transition through the various phases, and ultimately enjoy a Christ-centered marriage. You can be a Godly wife, and I want to help you succeed. Book your free coaching consultation to get started >> Rate, Review, and Subscribe on Apple Podcasts! ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ "I love Lily and the Forever Love Podcast!" If this sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing my show. Your kind words help more women like you get the support and encouragement they need during their season of singleness. Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select "Write a Review." Then be sure to let me know what you loved most about the episode! Also, if you haven't done so already, subscribe to my newsletter. I'm always adding bonus episodes, offering free masterclasses, coaching opportunities, and other bonuses, and if you're not subscribed, you might miss out on some of the best stuff. Subscribe now!
20:32
July 28, 2022
Why Bother Hoping To Be In A Relationship?
Why Bother Hoping To Be In A Relationship?
A summer shortie episode about choosing to believe in your God-given desire for marriage
19:41
July 21, 2022
How Do I Overcome My Fear Of Choosing The Wrong One?
How Do I Overcome My Fear Of Choosing The Wrong One?
"I'm happy in my singlehood and have a desire for a Christ-following man. I've been divorced for 6 years from a toxic marriage. I still have fears about finding the right man for me that is on the same spiritual path as me. How do I overcome those fears? - Angie The Bible tells us to "fear not". This command does not come from God because He expects us to never experience fear. The emotional experience of fear is a physical sensation that helps us in survival situations. The key is to teach our brains to recognize real dangers and stop reacting to imagined fears.  Fear can be paralyzing or it can put us into fight or flight mode. When we are scared we have a tendency to cancel plans, avoid confrontations and be defensive.  In today's episode, I'll share 10 ways to help you overcome fear. The first is counterintuitive. To win the battle over fear we must stop vilifying fear. It's not a bad thing.  Secondly, we can learn to more accurately identify what we are really afraid of.  Third, we can pause and learn what our fear is there to tell or teach us. There are often great revelations to be discovered in the face of fear. So rather than continuing to avoid it, I want to encourage you to befriend it. This simple act is essential to neutralizing its power over you.  Next, we will talk about take about letting go of the fears surrounding your God-given desires. Rather than wishing for something we'll talk about how to get your brain on board with achieving your goals. This episode is loaded with quick, powerful, and Christ-centered ways to help you move through fear and embrace your God-given desires. I can't wait to share them with you. Also, I want you to consider how much time you spend on your phone. Go check your activity data and decide if that's the amount of time you want to continue to spend scrolling this summer, or whether you might like to take a digital break instead. Want to reset your relationship with tech and start meeting men in the real world? Register now for the 31-Day Challenge. The next one starts on August 1st ✅ Sign up here: https://www.proverbs2426.com/31daychallenge
22:04
July 13, 2022
What's my role in advancing a Christ-centered relationship?
What's my role in advancing a Christ-centered relationship?
What is my role in going from just talking to a Christ-centered relationship that leads to marriage? In today's episode, we're going to talk about the importance of intention. If you would like to make an offer of your love, time, and affection towards another person, you must be clear about your intentions. Sadly, single women often negate their responsibility in nurturing a relationship because they are afraid of experiencing rejection. They are afraid of doing too much and instead do too little. Kgala asked a great question; "What is my role in going from just talking to a Christ-centered relationship that leads to marriage?"  To answer that, we are going to look at a few examples of women in the Bible who did not shy away from having hard conversations. Also, I want you to consider how much time you spend on your phone. Go check your activity data and decide if that's the amount of time you want to continue to spend scrolling this summer, or whether you might like to take a digital break instead. If you want to reset your relationship with tech and start meeting men in the real world register now for the 31-Day Challenge. https://www.proverbs2426.com/31daychallenge
20:35
July 07, 2022
Why Do I have To Wait?
Why Do I have To Wait?
I saw a man whose wife died and within 3-5 months he was remarried. They say that God did the whole thing and I don't really doubt it. Why do some people attract a mate so readily while others might wait a lifetime? In this episode, we're going to talk about the problems that arise when we over-commit to a particular thought and how to determine which thoughts are worth dwelling on. I'll explain why some people appear to be able to have a relationship with very little effort and why others experience the opposite. I'd also love to invite you to join us for the 31-Day Challenge. The next one starts on July 1st and another starts on August 1st. Sign up here: https://www.proverbs2426.com/31daychallenge
19:53
June 30, 2022
Are Non Negotiables Ruining My Chances Of Marriage?
Are Non Negotiables Ruining My Chances Of Marriage?
Is having a non-negotiable list ruining my chances of marriage?  Thank you so much Kimmie for asking this question. The short answer is NO! BUT... You need to evaluate your list of non-negotiables and make sure they really are non-negotiable. Sometimes we have a habit of collecting a lot of ideas and expectations about what a relationship should look like and we turn this into a laundry list of non-negotiables that are getting in the way of honoring that God-given desire for marriage.  In this episode, we will talk about your freebie non-negotiables that are a bare minimum standard for any Christ-centered relationship to take place, and then how to determine what your non-negotiable list should look like.  We will also talk about the underlying fear of judgment that usually sparks the creation of exceptionally long and unhelpful lists.  I'd also love to invite you to join us for the 31-Day Challenge. The next one starts on July 1st and another starts on August 1st. Sign up here:  https://www.proverbs2426.com/31daychallenge
20:09
June 23, 2022
How To Recognize Triggers
How To Recognize Triggers
Welcome to Season 4 Summer Shorties. This summer, I will be dropping short and sweet episodes every week that are based on questions that are being asked in the community. Today's question comes from Apryl. She asks; "When your date triggers you, is it a red flag to get out, or is it a sign to work on something within?" I love this question, and in today's episode, we're going to break it down. I'll share a few quick tips on how to identify triggers and what to do with them when you feel them in your body. Are you excited about the coming summer months? If you're ready to show up for love in a very real way, I'd love to invite you to participate in the 31-day challenge. Each day I will help you to show up for love with intention and purpose. I will help you take a break from your digital distractions so that you can embrace the real-life possibilities for love and connection that are available all around you. The next challenge begins on July 1st so be sure to sign up today! https://www.proverbs2426.com/31daychallenge 
19:16
June 16, 2022
Know Your Priorities
Know Your Priorities
It's important to figure out what's most important to you and start making decisions for yourself that honor your God-given desires. In this episode, I share: how to figure out an action plan Consider your time, money, and energy as tools and resources How to avoid turning money into an idol Determine how you want to live in a way that is good for you and brings glory to God.  I also want to invite you to join me inside my signature program Ready For The One.  Enroll closes June 10th at 5 pm  PT - Join Now: https://www.proverbs2426.com/enroll
24:54
June 09, 2022
Get The Love You Long For Audio Masterclass
Get The Love You Long For Audio Masterclass
Honor Your God-given desire for marriage by learning how to identify the 5 ways you might be trying to spiritually bypass important opportunities for growth. Discover the Christ-centered path to showing up for love and romantic relationships without fear, anxiety, or self-sabotage. If you would like to attend the next [FREE] Masterclass Live, please sign up here right away  https://www.proverbs2426.com/Getthelove
01:33:55
June 02, 2022
Self Sabotage
Self Sabotage
"A wise woman builds up her house but the foolish pulls it down with her own hands" Proverbs 14:1 We all engage in self-sabotage from time to time. It's one of the ways we attempt to protect ourselves in the moment, but end up inadvertently hurting ourselves in light of eternity. In today's episode, I'm sharing my own experience of self-sabotage as well as how to manage and avoid it in the future. We're going to talk about a few simple Christ-centered practices that you can incorporate into your life to help you manage your mind and emotions so that you don't act out in negative, self-sabotaging ways. Get the show notes here: Proverbs2426.com
43:22
May 26, 2022
Blind Spots
Blind Spots
We all have blind spots in our lives. Today, I wanted to share how coaching can help hold up a mirror for our minds so that we can see the blind spots. In order to do that I decided to share my own of my own coaching sessions with you. In this episode, you'll hear me get coached on the feelings of panic and anxiety I've been feeling in the absence of my husband. Towards the end, you'll also discover the real emotion that I was trying so hard to avoid. Sharing this with you feels incredibly vulnerable. I think that some people are going to judge, leave negative comments and unsubscribe. I decided to do it anyway because I would rather you know the truth about who I am, and the things I struggle with than let you believe I've got it all figured out. I don't. I'm reliant on Jesus. I use my tools; prayer, coaching, journaling, exercise, and more to help keep me on track and I still fail sometimes. And so will you. I want you to know, that it's okay to be honest about it.
45:58
May 19, 2022
Boundaries vs Ultimatums
Boundaries vs Ultimatums
As I’ve said before, the emotion that is driving an action can make a world of difference. In the life code the action might be the same, Saying, if you do X I will do Y… But if that statement is being fueled by fear… it’s probably being used to control or manipulate the other person into doing what you want. In today's episode, we are looking at the differences and similarities between boundaries and ultimatums. I'll share some of the boundaries we have in our marriage and what it might look like if we turned them into ultimatums. Check out the show notes and all the details at https://www.proverbs2426.com/blog/2022-05-071
22:15
May 12, 2022
Just Be Upset About It
Just Be Upset About It
Be angry and do not sin - Ephesians 4:26 The mental gymnastic we go through to avoid a perfectly healthy normal emotional experience, are endless. But it doesn't have to be that way. In fact, if you will simply allow yourself to feel a negative emotion and be upset you will bounce back to your regular self. In today's episode, we're going to talk about the dangers of avoiding negative emotions and what to do instead. If you don't like feeling scared, angry, lonely, sad, or discouraged then this episode is for you! Get the full show notes here:  https://www.proverbs2426.com/blog/2022-05-070
36:16
May 05, 2022
Changing Your Mindset
Changing Your Mindset
If you're ready to grow spiritually and emotionally as you pursue your God-given desire for marriage, listen to this! If you've been with me for a while, you know that one of my favorite things to do is coach privately. Coaching is my jam and I absolutely adore my clients. I have the honor of witnessing their growth and development and I get to use my superpowers which are 1. Identifying and exposing lies and 2. metaphors. (You'll see what I mean) In today's episode, I get to share one of my recent coaching sessions with you. This is so much fun because it was a breakthrough session for my client Debbie in which she understood some key elements in her journey in a whole new way. Listen in on our conversation and see what parallels you can draw from your own life. For all the details and relevant links from this episode head over to the show notes here:  https://www.proverbs2426.com/blog/2022-04-069 
01:02:53
April 29, 2022
How do I trust him?
How do I trust him?
How do you trust your husband when you're not together? In today's episode, I want to share with you how we made the very difficult decision to spend such a significant amount of time on opposite sides of the world.  I'll share with you HOW I avoid getting such down the negative vortex of worst-case scenarios, and more importantly, I'll explain WHY I choose to trust him.  While I'm definitely doing something that is way outside my comfort zone, it doesn't mean that I'm making myself miserable. In fact, the insights and mindset shifts I'm about to share with you will help you embrace your God-given desires no matter how scary the circumstances might seem. I can't say I know what it's like to experience the anguish of being cheated on firsthand, but I can assure you that I have gone there in my mind and I know it's an extremely unpleasant place to be. What I do know is this... We have a God-given ability to manage our minds and recognize our thoughts for what they are. They're just thoughts. And sometimes they're straight-up wrong. That's why I'm so excited to let you into my head as I answer one of the number one questions I've been getting lately. "How do you trust a man when you're apart?" For more details, check out the full show notes at Proverbs2426.com 
50:41
April 21, 2022
Loving More
Loving More
Are you afraid of loving harder? If so, you're not alone. We all have a tendency to believe that loving more, or loving harder also means that we will increase our experience of pain and heartache. But unlike many, I believe that it's always worth it! Today, I am sharing about my latest transition from Africa to Canada and what it means to love someone more when they are far away. I'm going to share with you the love letter I wrote myself on my husband's behalf and why I recommend you try it too. This is a personal episode because I miss you and wanted to reconnect and let you know where I'm at now. I hope you can glean some words of wisdom that will serve you on your journey towards forever love. I would love to help you achieve your God-given desire for Christ-centered love and marriage. To hire me please go to https://www.proverbs2426.com/private-coaching
37:05
April 14, 2022
Interracial Relationships
Interracial Relationships
In this episode, my husband and I discuss the blessings and challenges of interracial relationships. We will be answering some questions and hope that our dating and marriage experience will encourage you on your journey.  Learn more at www.proverbs2426.com
46:48
March 10, 2022
Digital Distractions
Digital Distractions
I know that’s your dream right, not to use dating apps, but to meet that special someone organically, preferably in church, and to know that God has placed him in your life, right on time. But what if your online activities and digital devices are sabotaging your ability to connect and enjoy that serendipitous moment. Well, that’s why I want to invite you to join our 31-day dating (without the apps and digital distractions, challenge. Join Here>> https://www.proverbs2426.com/offers/v54Gmqn2
30:46
March 03, 2022
Dating (Without The Apps) Challenge
Dating (Without The Apps) Challenge
In this episode, we are addressing some of the problems that can occur in your journey towards marriage when tech becomes an obstacle. That's why I am inviting you to join me in March for a 31-day digital detox so that you can show up for relationships and make meaningful connections in the real world. Register for the challenge here>> https://www.proverbs2426.com/offers/v54Gmqn2 Let's talk about what happens when we spend 11 hours/ day connected to various screens and why you might be feeling addicted to your phone. These behaviors have an impact on our ability to socialize, sleep, regulate our mood and so much more. I would like to offer you an opportunity to take a break from it all and make some important decisions about the role tech plays in your life. Get off the dating apps for a moment and see what happens when you show up for love intentionally and effectively. Inside the 31-day challenge, I will be giving you a guided path to manifesting a relationship with clear intentions and Holy Spirit-inspired direction. Plus I will be supporting you with short, daily audio lessons, journal prompts, meditations, and more. It's a beautiful bundle of ways to explore your journey towards love without the interference of notifications, alerts, and more.
01:03:24
February 26, 2022
Your Best Year Ever!
Your Best Year Ever!
What does it mean to have your best year ever? For me, it means; experiencing as much growth as possible, spiritually, mentally, and emotionally, and embracing all the discomfort and growing pains along the way. In this episode, we are going to explore the topic of letting go of the thoughts that we think sound nice, like "I'm a naturally happy and optimistic person" because they no longer serve you. It was my birthday this past Sunday, and I want to share with you my journey over the past 10 years of having a major u-turn, getting sober, and becoming a personal development junkie.  I've learned some important lessons, but I still struggle with some heavy stuff. It's important for you to know that in the midst of achieving your dreams you can still experience a nightmare of emotions that scare you so much you will want to run back home and hide under the covers.  That's why today we are going to talk about: How to identify thoughts that don't serve you Why some affirmations don't work and what to do instead What my definition of my best year ever looks like Why Walmart is the epitome of my comfort zone And much more! This is a really personal episode and it's hard to share some of this stuff publicly, but I believe that if I am honest about my hardships, it creates more space for you to be honest about yours as well. Make sure you subscribe to the Podcast because the next few episodes are going to be epic. We are going to talk about committing to dating and taking action whether it's online or in the real world, and I have a very special challenge for you that will help you start seeing some major progress especially if you've been struggling to get the ball rolling.  Plus, I will be talking about interracial relationships, this is an episode I will probably invite my husband to join us for, but I would love to start that conversation now. Please join me in our Facebook community and send me a message if you would like to discuss this topic. I've got some funny stories to share and some really helpful insights you won't want to miss. Do you want me to personally help you achieve your God-given desire for marriage?  If you're ready to take the next step and commit to doing the work as long as it's in alignment with the will of God, I can help you start a healthy relationship, transition through the various phases, and ultimately enjoy a Christ-centered marriage. You can be a Godly wife and I want to help you succeed. Book your free coaching consultation to get started >> https://www.proverbs2426.com/
29:30
February 17, 2022
Amplifying Positive Emotions + Bonus Meditation
Amplifying Positive Emotions + Bonus Meditation
This weekend my first client got married! Watching her walk down the aisle and say her wedding vows was so much more emotional than I ever could have anticipated. The emotions were extremely powerful and I knew immediately that I want to create the same result for thousands of other women, and more importantly, that I could. In today's episode, I have two very special things to share. The first is how to amplify a positive emotion and use it as fuel to co-create your God-given desires. The second is a guided meditation from our Free Self Love Challenge. If you haven't already joined us for the challenge you can do so here>> https://www.facebook.com/groups/christiancoachingforsinglewomen I am so excited to share this episode with you because I know that it will be the boost of motivation and inspiration you need. When you're ready, I would love to welcome you to coach with me and take the same journey towards a Godly marriage. Head over to Proverbs2426.com to book a free coaching consultation today https://www.proverbs2426.com/private-coaching
40:30
February 10, 2022
Planting The Intention To Get Married
Planting The Intention To Get Married
There are only 3 reasons why you’re not already married and in this episode, I am going to share with you what those reasons are and why it’s so important to understand them if you want to honor your God-given desire for a Christ-centered marriage. If you’re anything like me, you probably struggle with holding space in your heart to believe you can achieve something and surrender it to God. That’s why it’s important to plant the intention. Make the decision that you’re going to do something and then get out of the way. This can be tricky. How do you plan to do something and at the same time, surrender it and get out of the way? That’s why in addition to sharing with you the three reasons you’re not on track with where you want to be in your journey towards marriage, I’m also going to show you how to plant the intention that you are going to get married without any of that pushy energy. This episode is full of ah-ha moments, so remember, sharing is caring. Forward this to other single Christian women you know who also want to enjoy a healthy Christ-centered marriage with an equally yoked partner. And let’s show the world what Godly love really looks like. To book your Free Coaching Consultation go to >> https://www.proverbs2426.com/private-coaching
29:41
February 03, 2022
How To Heal Your Heart After A Breakup
How To Heal Your Heart After A Breakup
Learn how to get over an ex and heal your heart after a breakup  In this episode, I want to share with you the secret to healing your heart and ending your suffering in an instant. Let me explain why time does not heal all wounds and what you can do instead.  Your heart needs to hear and know the truth because that is the only thing that has the power to set you free. Grab your headphones because I have put together a few truths for you to try on. Get Shownotes here>> https://www.proverbs2426.com/2022-01-060
37:28
January 27, 2022
Fornication and Disappointment
Fornication and Disappointment
Have you ever set limits and boundaries for yourself and then bulldozed right through them?  I certainly have, and it can be hard to understand why we do that. I used to think that I was just doing what I honestly wanted and then a lot of shame would rise up because I was so conflicted. What I didn't realize was the driving force behind a lot of those decisions.   It wasn't loving, even though it sometimes felt like it should have been. The truth? Fear was running ramped.   In this week's episode, I want to talk about the connection between fear of disappointment and fornication. Whether you’re a virgin or not, this is an important conversation that will enable you to have higher levels of sexual satisfaction, better communication, and an overall more enjoyable romantic relationship both before and after marriage. This episode is short and sweet and I want to address the following traps that I see my students and clients fall into. Hyper anti-sexual Fear of disappointment Boundaries from fear I don't get into anything too graphic but you might still want to grab your headphones for this one. 🎧  When you're ready to take the next step, you can book a private coaching session with me and I will help you work through any issues that are standing between you and your God-given desire for marriage. Book Here>> https://www.proverbs2426.com/private-coaching
22:60
January 20, 2022
3 Secrets To Overcoming Sexual Urges + Masturbation
3 Secrets To Overcoming Sexual Urges + Masturbation
In this episode, I will teach you the 3 secrets to overcoming unwanted sexual urges, especially masturbation. My goal is to help you stop in a way that is gentle, loving, and more effective than anything else you've tried. When you know where the urge is coming from and understand why it's there, you will begin to undo the wiring in your brain that makes you feel powerless. I can help you overcome this temptation so that you can focus your energy on your God-given desires rather than wasting time indulging in false pleasures. This episode is for any woman who does not want to want this. Let me show you how you can take back control without exhausting yourself through sheer white-knuckle willpower. If you would like to coach with me, book your introductory coaching session at Proverbs2426.com https://www.proverbs2426.com/private-coaching
01:03:55
January 13, 2022
Bonus Episode: Masturbation Q&A
Bonus Episode: Masturbation Q&A
Welcome behind the scenes. This is a sneak peek into my Group Coaching / Live Q&A sessions.  Masturbation is so common and yet we all feel like we are alone in this struggle. We are coming together as Christian women to talk about the challenge and what on earth we are supposed to do with these kinds of demanding temptations. Is it that bad? How do you deal with your nerves? What's the point in trying to stop? A very candid conversation about the reality of masturbation temptation and how to address it with love and compassion for yourself. If you would like to attend the next group coaching session, make sure you're on my email list so that you can get an invite. Sign up here>> https://proverbs-24-26.ck.page/bdaf846c77
58:13
January 11, 2022
Dealing With Sexual Urges: Masturbation Temptation
Dealing With Sexual Urges: Masturbation Temptation
Dealing with sexual urges as a single woman can feel extremely challenging. For one thing, these urges can be very strong and demanding. Plus, it's a hard topic to discuss, especially when it comes to masturbation. I frequently get asked these 2 questions; Is it a sin?  How do I stop?  In today's episode, I want to begin to address this issue and by helping us get clear and honest about what's going on so that you can decide what to do about it. We are going to focus on sexual temptation for single women throughout the month, so be sure to subscribe. 
26:43
January 06, 2022
Processing and Cultivation Emotions To Achieve Your God-given Desires
Processing and Cultivation Emotions To Achieve Your God-given Desires
In this episode, I talk about the importance of processing negative emotions before cultivating positive emotions. Processing negative emotions is a critical step that creates the space you need to honor your God-given desires. I'll share with you the negative emotions I had to process over the holidays and why it was extremely difficult. Plus, I'll let you know which word I chose as my word of the year for 2022 and why I picked it, then we will explore some questions to consider as you prepare for the year ahead. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.proverbs2426.com/blog/2021-12-055 Book a private coaching session here: https://www.proverbs2426.com/private-coaching
44:21
December 30, 2021
Becoming you in 2022
Becoming you in 2022
In this episode, let’s talk about who you want to be in the coming year. Especially as it pertains to becoming a Godly wife. Today, I want to remind you not to get hung up on your current identity because through our relationship with Christ, we have the opportunity to reinvent ourselves daily. When we die to self daily,  we have the ability to become the next version of ourselves. This involves deciding on purpose who you want to be and understanding what’s different about who you are and who you are becoming Remember that you have to teach yourself what’s possible. Your brain doesn’t know. It's up to you to inform it based on what you can envision about your future. I'm also going to offer you some advice on how to be different without being fake or inauthentic.  Plus, I want to share with you an exclusive coaching offer to help you as you enter into the new year with confidence and clarity. I've blown open my calendar to make sure that you can get coached at a time and price that is convenient for you. Until Jan 9th, 2022 you can access a private coaching session at over 40%. ​Choose between a cost-effective 20-minute session or an in-depth 60-minute session and get the insights and encouragement you need to embrace the coming year with arms wide open. Reach out to me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/Proverbs2426 or on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/lilymtongwiza/ and send me a DM to discuss this opportunity. You can also book your coaching session HERE>> https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=15270757
45:02
December 23, 2021
The Most Dangerous Question You Can Ask
The Most Dangerous Question You Can Ask
Not every question is a good question for you to use your brainpower on. And there’s one question, in particular, that is especially dangerous. “What’s wrong with me? This question has undoubtedly kept you up many a night, searching for the answers in some vain hope of finding the problem and being able to fix it. This is one of the biggest traps of the enemy. To keep you diving deep into that pool of insecurities searching endlessly for some solution that will make you more worthy of all the love you desire. It’s a fool’s errand because there is nothing wrong with you. I know, I know, we’ve all fallen short and no one is perfect. But that doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you. If you would like to learn more about working with me please visit https://proverbs2426.com
55:04
December 16, 2021
Ready For The One Revealed
Ready For The One Revealed
An exclusive behind-the-scenes look at what's inside my signature course Ready For The One. In this episode, I'm breaking down my paid program RFTO, module by module so that there is no doubt in your mind that this program is for you.  It's an extra special episode because I want to show you exactly why this is such an exciting opportunity for you to learn everything you need to know to make the transition from single to married.  I'll walk you through my powerful program - module by module- and explain exactly what makes it so special. I'll be sharing the lessons, mindsets, and results you can anticipate while answering your questions along the way.  Including: What is RFTO? Who’s right for RFTO? What exactly does RFTO teach? How long does it take to go through RFTO (and when can I expect to see get married?) Does RFTO teach me the mindset shifts required to make it all happen? What kind of results can you actually expect to see after the program? I'm really proud of this episode because it will bring a lot of hope to so many women who are feeling unseen, discouraged, and discounted.  But all that is about to change! Sit back and enjoy a cup of hot cocoa, because this is going to be a treat.  To join us inside the program, head over to https://www.proverbs2426.com/join before Dec 9th at 8PM Mt.  We begin Monday morning on Dec 13 and I hope to see you there.  Enroll now at https://www.proverbs2426.com/join
28:39
December 02, 2021
How To Deal With Loneliness + Disappointment During The Holidays
How To Deal With Loneliness + Disappointment During The Holidays
https://www.proverbs2426.com/secrets being alone is a powerful choice you’ve made and you can honor where you’re at while also preparing for your future as a wife. Being alone may not be amazing. You might be bored. But it can be honest and clean Don’t make being alone worse by comparing yourself to people in relationships. In this episode, I talk about how to deal with loneliness in a way that is healthy and constructive and prevents that emotion from turning into something scary. Stay turned in 'till the end because I also have a very special invitation to my new masterclass.  To register for this FREE Masterclass Go To >> https://www.proverbs2426.com/secrets
34:39
November 25, 2021
From A Man's Perspective: With Special Guest Lovingson Mtongwiza
From A Man's Perspective: With Special Guest Lovingson Mtongwiza
This is a very special episode because it’s our 50th episode and to celebrate, I wanted to introduce you to the love of my life, my husband Lovingson Mtongwiza. Lovingson has been my biggest supporter and best friend along this journey and today I thought it would be fun to let him answer some of your questions. Thanks for joining me today, and I'd be so grateful if you can share this episode with a friend or a loved one. Let's get to it. Last week in our Free Facebook Community, I asked the ladies if they had any questions they’d like my husband to tackle. And of course, you’re all so good at helping me brainstorm and collaborate, so we have some really good topics we’re going to cover here today. And if you’re not in the Facebook community yet, what are you waiting for? It’s a really special Free community designed for women who are committed to honoring their God-given desire for a Christ-centered marriage. If you have questions you’d like me to answer, it’s the best place to ask them because I love coaching in a way that supports the entire group. There’s a link in the show notes or in my bio on Instagram. Come check it out! Now, in case you don’t know, Lovingson and I have known each other for over 9 years, been married for 7, and have two beautiful little girls together. We are also a blended family and an inter-racial family. We met in Canada and moved to Zimbabwe two years ago so that we could give our daughter’s the best of both worlds. We are both very entrepreneurial and committed to living Christ-centered lives and being a blessing to others. In today's episode I asked him the following questions:  What does being a partner mean to you? What qualities does a Godly man look for in a wife? Are there certain things women should avoid when trying to attract a Godly husband? Are there any myths that women tend to believe about marriage or men that actually hold them back from getting married? Do you think there’s any kind of link between a man’s calling in life and marriage? If so, how? Does it matter who he marries? What makes a man want to commit? What makes a man want to cheat? Do you have any advice on managing a long-distance relationship? How does a man want to be loved by a woman? - Vague? What makes you feel most loved by me? What are some of the signs that a man is actually trustworthy? How can you tell? If you haven't already, please share this episode with a friend or with a loved one. And if you'd be so kind and leave me a review, I'd be so grateful. I love reading what you like hearing on this episode so I can tailor each and every episode for you.
40:54
November 18, 2021
How To Overcome Feelings Of Unworthiness
How To Overcome Feelings Of Unworthiness
Who am I to deserve love? Who would want to be with someone like me? What kind of man would want to spend his life with me?  In today's episode, I'm talking about the ways in which those feelings of unworthiness creep into your life and sabotage your efforts to honor your God-given desire for a Christ-centered marriage. I'll show you where that feeling is coming from and what you can do about it. I also have a very special request, so be sure to stay tuned to the very end. 
24:27
November 11, 2021
Restore Amor After an Affair: How she prayed through 4 years of separation
Restore Amor After an Affair: How she prayed through 4 years of separation
How are you preparing for the challenges of marriage? Are you terrified of making a mistake and making a fool of yourself? Or do you believe that no matter what, you and your husband will find a way? The unfortunate reality of marriage is this, on the other side of that altar, you're still going to be human. You're still going to face all the challenges and trials of life on Earth, and that doesn't mean marriage is any harder than being single. It simply means that you will encounter different problems. But you don't have to be blindsided by the ups and downs of the road ahead. That's why I'm so excited to share my conversation with the faithful Meghan Villatoro. Meghan is a relationship coach for women who have experienced trauma in their marriage, either through infidelity, addiction, or other actions that destroy the fabric of trust between husband and wife.  As someone who has experienced being left for another woman, Meghan understands the deep pain, frustration, and confusion of women go through as they prayerfully wait for the Lord to restore their marriage. By the end of today's episode, you'll have a deeper appreciation for the power of prayer in seemingly hopeless situations. Plus, you're invited to join us at the Love & Marriage Conference, Nov 5 & 6 Get your ticket here: https://restoreamor.com/love-marriage-conference/ Links Mentioned in this Episode:  Scotlyn Strong Facebook Page Restore Amor Facebook Group Coaching with Meghan Villatoro Love and Marriage Conference Sign Up 
49:31
November 04, 2021
Let Your No be No: How to make decisions
Let Your No be No: How to make decisions
Should we work together? Welcome to the Forever Love Podcast; I’m your host and relationship coach Lily Mtongwiza Have you been thinking about working with me? If so today, I wanted to talk with you about what being a coaching client is all about. In this episode, I’m going to share with you a process for making important decisions about how and where you invest your time, energy, money, and effort. Then, I’m going to give you the details about all the things you get when you become a VIP coaching client with me. Then I’m going to answer some questions that come up most often. And I’m going to talk to you about why your brain might be freaking out right now when you think about committing yourself to the journey of building a Christ-centered marriage. If you're ready to honor your God-given desire for marriage and say yes to a year of coaching sign up here today  https://www.proverbs2426.com/2022
50:60
October 28, 2021
Moving Forward With Someone New
Moving Forward With Someone New
Kaity left her last relationship over 5 years ago. There is a new man in her life, but there's still a question of whether or not God is calling her back to her past. She feels scared and doesn't want to make the wrong decision. She came to me because she believes that she hasn’t gotten a green light from God to move forward with this new relationship. But as we peel back the layers, you’re going to discover, through listening to these clues, that the real problem here is actually not about getting God’s blessing, it’s about something much, much deeper. Let’s listen. If you're interested in coaching with me: Please check out my VIP 2022 Private Coaching Offer before Oct 29, 2021 https://www.proverbs2426.com/2022 Or my standard coaching packages here>> https://www.proverbs2426.com/private-coaching Rate, Review, and Subscribe on Apple Podcasts! "I love Lily and the Forever Love Podcast!" If this sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing my show. Your kind words help more women like you get the support and encouragement they need during their season of singleness. Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select “Write a Review.” Then be sure to let me know what you loved most about the episode! Also, if you haven’t done so already, subscribe to the podcast. I’m always adding bonus episodes to the feed and, if you’re not subscribed, you might miss out on some of the best stuff. Subscribe now! Want to be part of the show? Record a voice message and ask a question, comment, or share an insight, and I will play it and respond to it in an upcoming episode. https://anchor.fm/foreverlove/message
43:51
October 21, 2021
Evaluating what you have and honoring your desire for marriage
Evaluating what you have and honoring your desire for marriage
Norma wants Herman, but Herman is a widower who needs time to grieve. She also has a couple of suitors who have been interested in her for some time. Should she be patient and understanding as she waits for Herman to go through the grieving process? Or should she explore other options? Norma is 57 years old and wants to be married again. She has very strong feelings for Herman and believes he is the one for her, even though he has told her that she should be dating other men, cause he's been dating other women. This sort of willingness to be patient and understanding often disguises itself as a feminine virtue, but is that what's really going on here?  I coach Norma to see the bigger picture and help her through what it means to establish a want match and share her true desire for a Christ-centered marriage. Pay particularly close attention to our discussion around dating and courtship at the end of the episode. If you'd like to take the next step and work with me privately, I have a special offer for those who want to prioritize their God-given desire for a Christ-centered marriage in 2022. Check out the details here>> https://www.proverbs2426.com/2022
46:48
October 14, 2021
The Journey From Single To Married: An Interview With My Newly Engaged Client
The Journey From Single To Married: An Interview With My Newly Engaged Client
How to make the transition from banging your head against the wall, because nothing you're doing with regards to love is working, to being engaged to an equally yoked and Christ-centered partner. Today I brought on a very special guest, my client Vanessa, who recently got engaged. She's here to tell her story and talk about how coaching made a difference in the way she showed up for love and honored her desire for marriage.  For more information about my Christ-centered coaching practice for single women, please visit Proverbs2426.com and click on the "Get Coached" tab. https://www.proverbs2426.com/private-coaching
39:06
October 07, 2021
Behind The Scenes Coaching Session
Behind The Scenes Coaching Session
Oftentimes, people assume that the best part about being a relationship coach must be working from home or setting my own hours.  While those are both true, and AMAZING perks of this job, I’d have to say that my very favorite thing is bearing witness to the transformative journey my clients take when they work with me. They almost always come in thinking there's something wrong with them and within a few sessions they begin to see the world in a whole new way. As we work together and they begin to adopt the mind of Christ, the heavy chains that they have been carrying begin to break free and they start to grow and evolve into who they are in Christ.  This is an astounding privilege and I wanted to share it with you. That's why, this week, I am giving you a behind-the-scenes peek of what it's like to work with me. One of my clients graciously agreed to share her private coaching session because she knows that you are going to be incredibly blessed just by listening in on our conversation. This was a tremendous act of courage and vulnerability on her part because we talk about all the things and she is about to share with you some deep fears and insecurities. I am beyond words when it comes to the level of gratitude and appreciation I have for her and what she has provided for this community. Get your notebook and a box of tissue because you're going to need them both.  And when you're ready to take the next step and invite me to share in your journey, please check out all the details here>> https://www.proverbs2426.com/private-coaching If you’ve enjoyed the show, why not leave a review? I would love to hear how The Forever Love Podcast is making a difference in your life.
01:14:52
September 30, 2021
The Facts Vs. The Truth
The Facts Vs. The Truth
Today I want to talk about our attachment to our stories. I talk to clients all the time who are extremely sentimental about their stories even though they are painful and holding them back. Just the other day, I was working with someone who wanted to tell me all about how everything was against them. Statistics, the church, friends, books, podcasts, everyone, and everything. This viewpoint was clearly painful and holding her back from pursuing her God-given desire for love and relationship, but she was reluctant to let it go because it seemed true. And I want to share with you what I told her. And that is this… Get your pen and paper out because it’s worth writing down. There is a difference between facts and truth. Let me say that again! There is a difference between facts and truth. Today’s podcast is brought to you by Digital Course Academy. I'm excited to let you know that the doors to Amy Porterfield's Digital Course Academy have officially OPENED!​​​​​​​​ And? I've created a BONUS PACKAGE that goes hand-in-hand with Digital Course Academy and will help you speed up your way to course creation success...but you *have* to click here (this is my personalized link) to get your hands on it. ^^^ With that link, you'll have the opportunity to snag a very special gift from me, so you can create your course fuelled by the fruit of the Holy Spirit and serve others while creating more wealth in your life. As a business owner and course creator, I know that I have to do this through Christ to be truly victorious. I'm here to help you succeed, and that's why you're going to get 6 private coaching sessions with me. ​ The first as soon as possible after you enroll! 3 More during each of the Implementation weeks in DCA 1 When you open your cart and start selling 1 Right after cart close. ​ These are the pivotal moments during the course creation process, and I will personally be there for you to help you with your mindset, overcome obstacles and stay on track. Pick my brain, ask questions and get the support you need as you go through this process, as someone who has walked this path, I know how to help you manage all the scary emotions that are bound to come up along the way. ​My Bonus Coaching Package comes at NO ADDITIONAL cost! It's my gift to you when you enroll for DCA through my affiliate link ❤️ ​ Joining Digital Course Academy last year turned out to be a GAMECHANGER for my business. Within three months of joining, I'd created and launched my signature course Ready For The One, and made my first $15,000 I know that you have gifts, talents, and skills that others would love to learn from, and a digital course is the best way to serve others and build wealth in your life. Amy will help you with the How-To, and I will help you with the mindset. Together we will help you reach your goals, make an impact and do so in a way that honors your relationship with God and others. But hurry, doors are only open for a very limited time. Send me a DM @lilymtongwiza to get my affiliate link or find it in the show notes wherever you listen to this podcast. I promise you’ll walk away from DCA feeling confident that the days of guesswork are behind you (because you have a proven plan to get your digital course launched before 2021 wraps up.) Enroll In DCA + My Course Creation Coaching Package HERE>>
18:59
September 23, 2021
Choosing Marriage And Trusting Christ Within
Choosing Marriage And Trusting Christ Within
There comes a time in every woman’s life where she finally believes wholeheartedly that she is going to be a wife. Sometimes it happens on her way up down the aisle. But usually, it happens somewhere between heartbreak and daydream. For me, it happened while I was still very young and naive. I just knew that I was meant to be married. That the best version of myself happened to include being a wife and mother. But that awareness was often also driven by fear. Because I also thought that being a wife and mother was somehow better than being me here and now. That it was better than being single. As a result, I had a tendency to rush. I threw myself into relationships and went on crazy wild searches for my better half. You must be wondering, how did I make that transition from desperate searching to a solid Christ-centered relationship? Well my friend, it all started when I learned how to listen to and trust Christ within, instead of all the voices on the outside. It all boils down to this… My mom, friends, mentors, and pastors all love me deeply and want the very best for me. There are books and sermons, Youtube videos, and courses that will teach you how to prepare for marriage. But at the end of the day, there is Christ on the inside who is willing and able to direct your steps. In today’s episode, we’re going to talk about how to stop listening to the world and start listening to Christ within.
15:37
September 16, 2021
Money, Marriage And Ministry. Serving From A Place of Abundance.
Money, Marriage And Ministry. Serving From A Place of Abundance.
What’s your favorite excuse? For me, it’s that I don’t have enough. I hate to admit this, but I wake up in the morning, and the first thing I think is, “I didn’t get enough sleep last night.” Then it’s “there’s not enough coffee or milk for breakfast.” So now I’m not going to have enough energy to do all my work. And I don’t have enough time to go get more. And even if I did have the time, I don’t have enough money right now. And that’s why I need to get busy with work because if I don’t, my husband will think I’m not doing enough. And if he thinks I’m not doing enough, he won’t love me enough. And if he doesn’t love me enough, then I won’t be enough. And if I’m not enough, What’s the point? Most days it doesn’t usually go to that extreme, but it’s not hard to see how we get there right? And that’s why today I want to talk with you about scarcity in money, marriage, and ministry. I'm also going to share with you some very important questions you need to ask yourself in order to get into alignment with the truth, especially in relation to your God-given desires. Let me be real with you about my own excuses and what I'm doing to lay them down before the Lord and I'm going to invite you to do the same. My prayer is that as we get honest about these issues we will be able to not only heal but thrive.
11:48
September 09, 2021
Joy In The Moment
Joy In The Moment
In today's episode, we're talking about how to pause and embrace joy in the moment. Allowing ourselves to experience joy often seems self-indulgent, but I want to assure you that it is one of the most effective ways to enter into a place of worship and praise.  The second benefit is the amount of clarity we can gain. Our vision of the future is often clouded with fear and worry, but joy actually helps us to see things from a more realistic point of view. Please enjoy today's episode.  Rate, Review, and Subscribe on Apple Podcasts! "I love Lily and the Forever Love Podcast!" If this sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing my show. Your kind words help more women like you get the support and encouragement they need during their season of singleness. Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select “Write a Review.” Then be sure to let me know what you loved most about the episode! Also, if you haven’t done so already, subscribe to the podcast. I’m always adding bonus episodes to the feed and, if you’re not subscribed, you might miss out on some of the best stuff. Subscribe now! Want to be part of the show? Record a voice message and ask a question, comment, or share an insight, and Lily will play and respond to it in an upcoming episode. https://anchor.fm/foreverlove/message
21:29
August 31, 2021
How to Serve Others by Creating and Selling a Digital Course with Amy Porterfield
How to Serve Others by Creating and Selling a Digital Course with Amy Porterfield
I wanted to help women prevent divorce ever since I realized how good the right relationship could me. But learning how to pursue such an important ministry didn't come easily. But God always provides teachers and opportunities to learn from those who have gone before us. That's why it is my pleasure to introduce you to my friend and mentor, Amy Porterfield. Amy is the brains behind Digital Course Acadamy, the program joined in 2020 that allowed me to create and sell my signature course Ready For The One. Her program has helped me in ways I could’ve never predicted, but more on that later.  Today, Amy and are talking about how owning your own business can be a blessing for your marriage, why alpha-type men are attracted to boss ladies, how entrepreneurship can strengthen your relationships skills and so much more! Amy is known to be a step-by-step kind of girl and she tests everything she teaches first-hand, so when I joined her FREE Bootcamp in 2020, I knew I was in good hands. And guess what? Amy is offering (for FREE) another Digital Course Kickstarter: 30 Day Bootcamp. And because I know digital courses *might* be something on your mind, I wanted to make sure you could join right away! So even if you’re not 1000% sure a digital course is right for you, that’s ok -- the bootcamp is FREE and it’s a great way to discover that the ideas you’ve been sitting on are *actually* great ideas. Sign Up Today at Proverbs2426.com/freedom
30:52
August 24, 2021
The Importance of Habits
The Importance of Habits
Do you ever feel like you’re constantly trying to figure out how to overcome the overwhelm? Each week, Lily Mtongwiza, your favorite relationship coach for women pursuing their God-given desire for marriage, shares her best coaching tools and insights to help you navigate this season of your life. Whether you’re single as a pringle, falling head of heels, or hearing wedding bells, this podcast is for you. In this episode, I want to share why establishing good habits is an essential first step to achieving your God-given desires. I also have an extra special bonus I want to share with you today from one of my own mentors and the woman who helped me create my digital course, Ready For The One. You're definitely going to want to get your hands on this! If you’re ready to create habits that will begin a brand new chapter for you… one that sets you up to pursue the kind of freedom that would change the game forever, grab your 6 Daily Habits To Create More Freedom & Live Your Best Life Today.
23:48
August 03, 2021
The Modern Christian Bachelorette With Thobile Mogorosi
The Modern Christian Bachelorette With Thobile Mogorosi
Getting tired of the waiting game? Sometimes it can feel like you are stuck spending some of the best years of your life just waiting for your "real life" to begin. But, Thobile Mogorosi, my guest for this episode, and I are determined to show you that there is a better way. Talking about your desire for marriage shouldn't be something we hush or try to hide. I know... You've been told to just wait and let it happen. But as I've said before, marriage is not something that just happens to you. Marriage is something you co-create with Christ. And along the way, it's a good idea to get some Christ-centered input from those who have achieved what you'd like to create. That's why Thobile has put together a very special Summit with over 25 guest speakers including myself and Stephan Speaks, to equip and encourage you on the road ahead. In this episode, Thobile gives us the inside scoop as to how her personal journey, which took over 40 years, inspired her to turn around and help others achieve a Christ-centered marriage with more grace and freedom. Click Here To Register For The Modern Christian Bachelorette Summit The Modern Christian Bachelorette Summit will be Featuring 25+ Experts In Navigating Life As A Single Christian Woman Desiring Marriage This is a FREE 5-day online summit on top practical strategies to owning your worth and positioning yourself for marriage, so you can find love without losing yourself Register Now
25:07
July 29, 2021
Err On The Side of Love
Err On The Side of Love
As a human, you are bound to make mistakes. You will sin, fall short and fail. And chances are, you'll do it over and over again.  Each week, Lily Mtongwiza, your favorite relationship coach for women pursuing their God-given desire for marriage, shares her best coaching tools and insights to help you navigate this season of your life. Whether you’re single as a pringle, falling head of heels, or hearing wedding bells, this podcast is for you. In this episode, we’re talking about how to err on the side of love and why trying to live our lives Biblically isn't always a great strategy, and what we can do instead.  Make sure you check out the Free Masterclass at https://www.proverbs2426.com/healing-prayers If you’ve enjoyed the show, why not leave a review? Lily loves to hear how The Forever Love Podcast is making a difference in your life. Want to be part of the show? Record a voice message and ask a question, comment, or share an insight, and Lily will play and respond to it in an upcoming episode. https://anchor.fm/foreverlove/message
20:16
July 27, 2021
Core Values
Core Values
There's nothing more important in a Christ-centered marriage than having compatible core values.  Each week, Lily Mtongwiza, your favorite relationship coach for women pursuing their God-given desire for marriage, shares her best coaching tools and insights to help you navigate this season of your life. Whether you’re single as a pringle, falling head of heels, or hearing wedding bells, this podcast is for you. In this episode, we’re talking about why your core values are so important to know and honor within the context of a romantic relationship. If you've ever been disappointed by someone else's behavior and felt that anger rising up within, this episode will help explain why that's happening and what to do about it.  Make sure you check out Lily’s Free Relationship Starter Course to take the next step towards enjoying a Christ-centered relationship. https://www.proverbs2426.com/Start If you’ve enjoyed the show, why not leave a review? Lily loves to hear how The Forever Love Podcast is making a difference in your life. Want to be part of the show? Record a voice message and ask a question, comment, or share an insight, and Lily will play and respond to it in an upcoming episode. https://anchor.fm/foreverlove/message
18:38
July 22, 2021
Feeling Better
Feeling Better
Want to embrace this season of singleness, instead of just enduring it?  Each week, Lily Mtongwiza, your favorite relationship coach for women pursuing their God-given desire for marriage, shares her best coaching tools and insights to help you navigate this season of your life. Whether you’re single as a pringle, falling head of heels, or hearing wedding bells, this podcast is for you. In this episode, we're talking about why it's so important to feel better if you want to actively pursue marriage. Your emotions are fueling everything you do, and when you're feeling discouraged, dubious, fearful, and frustrated, creating your God-given desire becomes that much harder.  You're invited to Lily's [FREE] 5 Healing Prayers that Ease the Pain of Being Single Masterclass   Register Here: https://www.proverbs2426.com/healing-prayers If you’ve enjoyed the show, why not leave a review? Lily would love to hear how The Forever Love Podcast is making a difference in your life. Want to be part of the show? Record a voice message and ask a question, comment, or share an insight, and Lily will play and respond to it in an upcoming episode. https://anchor.fm/foreverlove/message
15:26
July 20, 2021
Identity In Christ
Identity In Christ
Knowing who you are in Christ is an essential step in your journey towards a Christ-centered marriage.  Each week, Lily Mtongwiza, your favorite relationship coach for women pursuing their God-given desire for marriage, shares her best coaching tools and insights to help you navigate this season of your life. Whether you’re single as a pringle, falling head of heels, or hearing wedding bells, this podcast is for you. In this episode, we’re talking about how to let go of the idea of who you are and begin to embrace the truth about who you are in Christ. We're also going to discuss your core values and why it's essential to identify them for yourself so that you can find someone with compatible values.  Make sure you check out Lily’s Free Relationship Starter Course to take the next step towards enjoying a Christ-centered relationship. https://www.proverbs2426.com/Start If you’ve enjoyed the show, why not leave a review? Lily loves to hear how The Forever Love Podcast is making a difference in your life. Want to be part of the show? Record a voice message and ask a question, comment, or share an insight, and Lily will play and respond to it in an upcoming episode. https://anchor.fm/foreverlove/message
12:53
July 13, 2021
Embracing The Unexpected
Embracing The Unexpected
A candid conversation about some of the unexpected twists and turns that have occurred along Lily's path towards a Christ-centered marriage.  Each week, Lily Mtongwiza, your favorite relationship coach for women pursuing their God-given desire for marriage, shares her best coaching tools and insights to help you navigate this season of your life. Whether you’re single as a pringle, falling head of heels, or hearing wedding bells, this podcast is for you. In this episode, you will hear Lily share how her husband's 50th birthday is causing her to pause and reflect upon the power of imagination and letting go of expectations in favor of embracing the journey.  Interested in working privately with Lily? Applications are currently being reviewed for one-on-one coaching spots. Get all the details here Make sure you check out Lily’s Free Relationship Starter Course to take the next step towards enjoying a Christ-centered relationship. https://www.proverbs2426.com/Start If you’ve enjoyed the show, why not leave a review? Lily loves to hear how The Forever Love Podcast is making a difference in your life. Want to be part of the show? Record a voice message and ask a question, comment, or share an insight, and Lily will play and respond to it in an upcoming episode. https://anchor.fm/foreverlove/message
11:20
July 08, 2021
Highlights From The Advanced Boundareies Workshop
Highlights From The Advanced Boundareies Workshop
The Advanced Boundaries Workshop made a huge impact on the lives of those who attended. Today, you will have an opportunity to enjoy the highlights.  Each week, Lily Mtongwiza, your favorite relationship coach for women pursuing their God-given desire for marriage, shares her best coaching tools and insights to help you navigate this season of your life. Whether you’re single as a pringle, falling head of heels, or hearing wedding bells, this podcast is for you. In this episode, you'll hear snippets on how to identify red flags, setting and maintaining boundaries, and answers to the participant's most important questions during the advanced boundaries workshop.  If you'd like to purchase a recording of the full workshop, please send Lily a DM @LilyMtongwiza Make sure you check out Lily’s Free Relationship Starter Course to take the next step towards enjoying a Christ-centered relationship. https://www.proverbs2426.com/Start If you’ve enjoyed the show, why not leave a review? Lily loves to hear how The Forever Love Podcast is making a difference in your life. Want to be part of the show? Record a voice message and ask a question, comment, or share an insight, and Lily will play and respond to it in an upcoming episode. https://anchor.fm/foreverlove/message
16:29
July 06, 2021
Honoring The Desire With Victoria
Honoring The Desire With Victoria
Victoria is one of the very first ladies to go through my signature course Ready For The One, and today she is here to tell us about her experience.  Each week, Lily Mtongwiza, your favorite relationship coach for women pursuing their God-given desire for marriage, shares her best coaching tools and insights to help you navigate this season of your life. Whether you’re single as a pringle, falling head of heels, or hearing wedding bells, this podcast is for you. In this episode, Victoria is sharing how she used the road map inside my signature program Ready For The One, to heal wounds, overcome obsticals and get clarity on her path towards a Christ-centered marriage.  If you would like to participate in the Ready For The One program, get started today by signing up for  Lily’s Free Relationship Starter Course to take the next step towards enjoying a Christ-centered relationship. https://www.proverbs2426.com/Start Did you enjoy the show, why not leave a review? Lily loves to hear how The Forever Love Podcast is making a difference in your life. Want to be part of the show? Record a voice message and ask a question, comment, or share an insight, and Lily will play and respond to it in an upcoming episode. https://anchor.fm/foreverlove/message
34:39
July 01, 2021
Boundaries
Boundaries
Boundaries are the key to intimacy, vulnerability, and ultimately submission. You can’t have a healthy Christ-centered marriage without beautiful boundaries that keep you safe and protect your integrity. Each week, Lily Mtongwiza, your favorite relationship coach for women pursuing their God-given desire for marriage, shares her best coaching tools and insights to help you navigate this season of your life. Whether you’re single as a pringle, falling head of heels, or hearing wedding bells, this podcast is for you. In this episode, we’re talking about what boundaries are, why they're so essential to a healthy relationship, and how to establish them.  Links Mentioned: ✅ 1. Join The Facebook Group and turn on your notifications 🛎  https://www.facebook.com/groups/christiancoachingforsinglewomen There is an opportunity to win a 1-on-1 coaching session with me this week, and the more you participate the more chances you have to win. ✅ 2. Download the Boundaries Devotional. 📍 This devotional is part of the Ready For The One Program and I'm giving you free access to it. It will help you establish boundaries while adopting the mind of Christ. Download the Devotional Here 📍 https://www.proverbs2426.com/devotional ✅ 3. Attend the Daily Live Q&A's June 28 - July 2: 2 Pm EST | 11 Am PDT These are quick 20-minute Live Q&A sessions inside the F.B Group, where we will go over the daily devotional, answer questions and do a bit of coaching. ✅ 4. Sign up for the Advanced Boundaries WorkShop 🙌 For those who want to take this training to the next level, there will be an advanced interactive workshop on Boundaries and Red Flags this SATURDAY, JULY 3RD. Get coached and learn how to apply these lessons to your own circumstances. 👉Register Here: 📍 https://www.proverbs2426.com/workshop Make sure you check out Lily’s Free Relationship Starter Course to take the next step towards enjoying a Christ-centered relationship. https://www.proverbs2426.com/Start If you’ve enjoyed the show, why not leave a review? Lily loves to hear how The Forever Love Podcast is making a difference in your life. Want to be part of the show? Record a voice message and ask a question, comment, or share an insight, and Lily will play and respond to it in an upcoming episode. https://anchor.fm/foreverlove/message
27:26
June 29, 2021
Taking Ownership
Taking Ownership
Desire is good for you. Instead of trying to want less, I encourage you to want more!  Each week, Lily Mtongwiza, your favorite relationship coach for women pursuing their God-given desire for marriage, shares her best coaching tools and insights to help you navigate this season of singleness. Whether you’re single as a pringle, falling head of heels, or hearing wedding bells, this podcast is for you. In this episode, we’re talking about how to take ownership and responsibility for the outcomes you are creating in your life. The harvest you reap will be a result of the seeds or thoughts you sow and allow to grow in your mind.  You're invited to attend a live workshop with Lily on Establishing Boundaries and Spotting Red Flags. To enroll, go to Proverbs2426.com/workshop If you’ve enjoyed the show, why not leave a review? Lily loves to hear how The Forever Love Podcast is making a difference in your life. Want to be part of the show? Record a voice message and ask a question, comment, or share an insight, and Lily will play and respond to it in an upcoming episode. https://anchor.fm/foreverlove/message
17:29
June 24, 2021
Being Human
Being Human
Being a human can feel overwhelming sometimes. There are so many decisions to be made.  Each week, Lily Mtongwiza, your favorite relationship coach for women pursuing their God-given desire for marriage, shares her best coaching tools and insights to help you navigate this season of your life. Whether you’re single as a pringle, falling head of heels, or hearing wedding bells, this podcast is for you. In this episode, we’re talking about what it means to be human, and how you can embrace that reality along the path to marriage, rather than resisting it.  Make sure you check out Lily’s Free Relationship Starter Course to take the next step towards enjoying a Christ-centered relationship. https://www.proverbs2426.com/Start If you’ve enjoyed the show, why not leave a review? Lily loves to hear how The Forever Love Podcast is making a difference in your life. Want to be part of the show? Record a voice message and ask a question, comment, or share an insight, and Lily will play and respond to it in an upcoming episode. https://anchor.fm/foreverlove/message
20:26
June 22, 2021
This Is Life
This Is Life
Life is neutral and nothing has gone wrong. I know that's hard to believe when you look at the evidence around you, but if you take a step back, you'll gain a heavenly perspective that comes with a lot more peace.  Each week, Lily Mtongwiza, your favorite relationship coach for women pursuing their God-given desire for marriage, shares her best coaching tools and insights to help you navigate this season of your life. Whether you’re single as a pringle, falling head of heels, or hearing wedding bells, this podcast is for you. In this episode, we’re talking about how to embrace life for what it is and change the quality of your life simply by examining the quality of your thoughts and adopting the mind of Christ. Mentioned Links: Episode 5: The Life Code Check out Lily’s Free Relationship Starter Course to take the next step towards enjoying a Christ-centered relationship. https://www.proverbs2426.com/Start If you’ve enjoyed the show, why not leave a review? Lily loves to hear how The Forever Love Podcast is making a difference in your life. Want to be part of the show? Record a voice message and ask a question, comment, or share an insight, and Lily will play and respond to it in an upcoming episode. https://anchor.fm/foreverlove/message
24:49
June 17, 2021
First Dates
First Dates
First dates can be so AWKWARD!! Let's talk about how to make it a little easier to show up with calm, joyful confidence. Each week, Lily Mtongwiza, your favorite relationship coach for women pursuing their God-given desire for marriage, shares her best coaching tools and insights to help you navigate this season of your life. Whether you’re single as a pringle, falling head of heels, or hearing wedding bells, this podcast is for you. In this episode, we’re talking about what is a first date, how to prepare for it, and why you should lower your expectations.  Make sure you check out Lily’s Free Relationship Starter Course to take the next step towards enjoying a Christ-centered relationship. https://www.proverbs2426.com/Start If you’ve enjoyed the show, why not leave a review? Lily loves to hear how The Forever Love Podcast is making a difference in your life. Want to be part of the show? Record a voice message and ask a question, comment, or share an insight, and Lily will play and respond to it in an upcoming episode. https://anchor.fm/foreverlove/message
16:13
June 15, 2021
Your Comfort Zone Pt. 2
Your Comfort Zone Pt. 2
Your comfort zone is keeping you stuck. In this week's episode, you'll learn how to step outside it and expand it so that you can pursue your God-given desire for a Christ-centered marriage. Each week, Lily Mtongwiza, your favorite relationship coach for women pursuing their God-given desire for marriage, shares her best coaching tools and insights to help you navigate this season of your life. Whether you’re single as a pringle, falling head of heels, or hearing wedding bells, this podcast is for you. Make sure you check out Lily’s Free Relationship Starter Course to take the next step towards enjoying a Christ-centered relationship. https://www.proverbs2426.com/Start If you’ve enjoyed the show, why not leave a review? Lily loves to hear how The Forever Love Podcast is making a difference in your life. Want to be part of the show? Record a voice message and ask a question, comment, or share an insight, and Lily will play and respond to it in an upcoming episode. https://anchor.fm/foreverlove/message
14:01
June 10, 2021
No Good Men
No Good Men
Do you believe that there are no good men left to marry? If so, this toxic thought is creating a lot of unnecessary pain and suffering. Each week, Lily Mtongwiza, your favorite relationship coach for women pursuing their God-given desire for marriage, shares her best coaching tools and insights to help you navigate this season of your life. Whether you’re single as a pringle, falling head of heels, or hearing wedding bells, this podcast is for you. In this episode, we’re talking about how to let go of the toxic belief that there are no good men, and how to adopt the mind of Christ and believe new thoughts that help you attract an equally yoked and good husband. Links mentioned in this episode: Episode 1: Creating Space Episode 5: The Life Code Episode 19: Narcissistic men Connect with Lily on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/lilymtongwiza/ Make sure you check out Lily’s Free Relationship Starter Course to take the next step towards enjoying a Christ-centered relationship. https://www.proverbs2426.com/Start If you’ve enjoyed the show, leave a review. Lily loves to hear how The Forever Love Podcast is making a difference in your life. Want to be part of the show? Record a voice message and ask a question, comment, or share an insight, and Lily will play and respond to it in an upcoming episode. https://anchor.fm/foreverlove/message
21:49
June 08, 2021
Online Dating Tips
Online Dating Tips
What does your selfie say about you? The online world is a part of our digital society and that means at least a portion of our dating experience is going to take place using the internet. Each week, Lily Mtongwiza, your favorite relationship coach for women pursuing their God-given desire for marriage, shares her best coaching tools and insights to help you navigate this season of your life. Whether you’re single as a pringle, falling head of heels, or hearing wedding bells, this podcast is for you. In today's quick tip episode, Lily shares what you need to consider about your online persona both on dating apps and in everyday social media.  Special Announcement: Forever Love is up for a Spark Media Award! Vote for Most Binge-Worthy Show Here: https://www.sparkmedia.ventures/site/awards Make sure you check out Lily’s Free Relationship Starter Course to take the next step towards enjoying a Christ-centered relationship. https://www.proverbs2426.com/Start If you’ve enjoyed the show, please leave a review? Lily loves to hear how The Forever Love Podcast is making a difference in your life. Want to be part of the show? Record a voice message and ask a question, comment, or share an insight, and Lily will play and respond to it in an upcoming episode. https://anchor.fm/foreverlove/message
13:15
June 03, 2021
Toxic Love Language
Toxic Love Language
The way in which we talk about love and romance impacts the way we feel about it. If our language around dating is toxic, the relationship it produces will be poisoned as well. Each week, Lily Mtongwiza, your favorite relationship coach for women pursuing their God-given desire for marriage, shares her best coaching tools and insights to help you navigate this season of your life. Whether you’re single as a pringle, falling head of heels, or hearing wedding bells, this podcast is for you. In this episode, we're talking about 3 common metaphors and ideas that are circulating in today's church culture. Let's look at how these words are killing, stealing, and destroying our ability to have and enjoy healthy Christ-centered love.  Make sure you check out Lily’s Free Relationship Starter Course to take the next step towards enjoying a Christ-centered relationship. https://www.proverbs2426.com/Start If you’ve enjoyed the show, why not leave a review? Lily loves to hear how The Forever Love Podcast is making a difference in your life. Want to be part of the show? Record a voice message and ask a question, comment, or share an insight, and Lily will play and respond to it in an upcoming episode. https://anchor.fm/foreverlove/message
23:23
June 01, 2021
Modesty
Modesty
Modesty isn't about the length of your hemline or the tightness of your pants. It's about seeing yourself and others the way God sees you.  Each week, Lily Mtongwiza, your favorite relationship coach for women pursuing their God-given desire for marriage, shares her best coaching tools and insights to help you navigate this season of your life. Whether you’re single as a pringle, falling head of heels, or hearing wedding bells, this podcast is for you. In this quick tip episode, we’re talking about your relationship with your appearance and getting the shame out of your wardrobe. This is a short and sweet message to remind you what you really look like.  Make sure you check out Lily’s Free Relationship Starter Course to take the next step towards enjoying a Christ-centered relationship. https://www.proverbs2426.com/Start If you’ve enjoyed the show, why not leave a review? Lily loves to hear how The Forever Love Podcast is making a difference in your life. Want to be part of the show? Record a voice message and ask a question, comment, or share an insight, and Lily will play and respond to it in an upcoming episode. https://anchor.fm/foreverlove/message
06:58
May 27, 2021
Narcissists
Narcissists
Narcissists prey upon women with low self-esteem and self-worth. The best way to ensure that you do not become a victim of their behavior is by practicing self-love and knowing who you are in Christ.  Each week, Lily Mtongwiza, your favorite relationship coach for women pursuing their God-given desire for marriage, shares her best coaching tools and insights to help you navigate this season of your life. Whether you’re single as a pringle, falling head of heels, or hearing wedding bells, this podcast is for you. In this episode, we're talking about how to protect yourself from getting into a toxic relationship with someone who exhibits narcissistic personality traits. Tune in to find out what makes you vulnerable to these types of men and get some tips on how to heal if you've been in this type of relationship.  Make sure you check out Lily’s Free Relationship Starter Course to take the next step towards enjoying a Christ-centered relationship. https://www.proverbs2426.com/Start If you’ve enjoyed the show, why not leave a review? Lily loves to hear how The Forever Love Podcast is making a difference in your life. Want to be part of the show? Record a voice message and ask a question, comment, or share an insight, and Lily will play and respond to it in an upcoming episode. https://anchor.fm/foreverlove/message
25:04
May 25, 2021
Dating Deliberately
Dating Deliberately
Dating deliberately can feel dangerous and defiant. Especially if you're concerned about maintaining a healthy relationship with Christ.   Each week, Lily Mtongwiza, your favorite relationship coach for women pursuing their God-given desire for marriage, shares her best coaching tools and insights to help you navigate this season of your life. Whether you’re single as a pringle, falling head of heels, or hearing wedding bells, this podcast is for you. In this quick tip episode, we’re talking about what it means to date deliberately and how it can help you deepen your relationship with God while you actively pursue marriage.  Make sure you check out Lily’s Free Relationship Starter Course to take the next step towards enjoying a Christ-centered relationship. https://www.proverbs2426.com/Start If you’ve enjoyed the show, why not leave a review? Lily loves to hear how The Forever Love Podcast is making a difference in your life. Want to be part of the show? Record a voice message and ask a question, comment, or share an insight, and Lily will play and respond to it in an upcoming episode. https://anchor.fm/foreverlove/message
08:31
May 20, 2021
Trust
Trust
Trust is hard to gain and easily broken.  Each week, Lily Mtongwiza, your favorite relationship coach for women pursuing their God-given desire for marriage, shares her best coaching tools and insights to help you navigate this season of your life. Whether you’re single as a pringle, falling head of heels, or hearing wedding bells, this podcast is for you. In this episode, we’re talking about trust and how to establish it as a core relationship skill when developing a romantic and equally-yoked relationship.  Make sure you check out Lily’s Free Relationship Starter Course to take the next step towards enjoying a Christ-centered relationship. https://www.proverbs2426.com/Start If you’ve enjoyed the show, why not leave a review? Lily loves to hear how The Forever Love Podcast is making a difference in your life. Want to be part of the show? Record a voice message and ask a question, comment, or share an insight, and Lily will play and respond to it in an upcoming episode. https://anchor.fm/foreverlove/message
19:12
May 18, 2021
Copying
Copying
There’s a big difference between acting Christ-like and adopting the mind of Christ. One is always a performance, the other will transform your life. Each week, Lily Mtongwiza, your favorite relationship coach for women pursuing their God-given desire for marriage, shares her best coaching tools and insights to help you navigate this season of your life. Whether you’re single as a pringle, falling head of heels, or hearing wedding bells, this podcast is for you. In this episode, we’re talking about the difference between “What Would Jesus Do?" and "What Would Jesus Think?" Make sure you check out Lily’s Free Relationship Starter Course to take the next step towards enjoying a Christ-centered relationship. https://www.proverbs2426.com/Start If you’ve enjoyed the show, why not leave a review? Lily loves to hear how The Forever Love Podcast is making a difference in your life. Want to be part of the show? Record a voice message and ask a question, comment, or share an insight, and Lily will play and respond to it in an upcoming episode. https://anchor.fm/foreverlove/message
09:11
May 13, 2021
Wait on the Lord
Wait on the Lord
Waiting on the Lord is essential when it comes to establishing a Christ-centered marriage. But are you sure you’re doing it right? Each week, Lily Mtongwiza, your favorite relationship coach for women pursuing their God-given desire for marriage, shares her best coaching tools and insights to help you navigate this season of your life. Whether you’re single as a pringle, falling head of heels, or hearing wedding bells, this podcast is for you. In this episode, we’re talking about what it really means to wait on the Lord and how you can determine whether or not you’re doing it in a way that is Biblical. Make sure you check out Lily’s Free Relationship Starter Course to take the next step towards enjoying a Christ-centered relationship. https://www.proverbs2426.com/Start If you’ve enjoyed the show, why not leave a review? Lily loves to hear how The Forever Love Podcast is making a difference in your life. Want to be part of the show? Record a voice message and ask a question, comment, or share an insight, and Lily will play and respond to it in an upcoming episode. https://anchor.fm/foreverlove/message
18:56
May 11, 2021
Sex Before Marriage
Sex Before Marriage
Sex outside of marriage is pretty common these days, and no one seems to expect you to wait, except you and Jesus. With over 60,000 thoughts per day, you can’t control every single thing that pops into your head. Each week, Lily Mtongwiza, your favorite relationship coach for women pursuing their God-given desire for marriage, shares her best coaching tools and insights to help you navigate this season of your life. Whether you’re single as a pringle, falling head of heels, or hearing wedding bells, this podcast is for you. In this Quick Tip Bonus episode, I want to talk about 3 common mistakes Christian women make when they give in to temptation and have sex with their romantic partner outside of marriage.  Make sure you check out the full-length blog post for more details about what you can do after the fact, instead of falling into the 3 common mistakes. https://www.proverbs2426.com/blog/sexbeforemarriage If you’ve enjoyed the show, why not leave a review? Lily loves to hear how The Forever Love Podcast is making a difference in your life. Want to be part of the show? Record a voice message and ask a question, comment, or share an insight, and Lily will play and respond to it in an upcoming episode. https://anchor.fm/foreverlove/message
09:04
May 06, 2021
Taking Thoughts Captive
Taking Thoughts Captive
With over 60,000 thoughts per day, you can’t control every single thing that pops into your head. Each week, Lily Mtongwiza, your favorite relationship coach for women pursuing their God-given desire for marriage, shares her best coaching tools and insights to help you navigate this season of your life. Whether you’re single as a pringle, falling head of heels, or hearing wedding bells, this podcast is for you. In this episode, we’re talking about how to take every thought captive in a very practical way, while tackling the biggest challenge women face when letting go of beliefs that no longer serve them.  Make sure you check out Lily’s Free Relationship Starter Course to take the next step towards enjoying a Christ-centered relationship. https://www.proverbs2426.com/Start If you’ve enjoyed the show, why not leave a review?  Lily loves to hear how The Forever Love Podcast is making a difference in your life. Want to be part of the show?  Record a voice message and ask a question, comment, or share an insight, and Lily will play and respond to it in an upcoming episode. https://anchor.fm/foreverlove/message
11:27
May 04, 2021
Stop Being Selfless
Stop Being Selfless
There’s a lot of fear that comes up for women around being perceived as selfish. Each week, Lily Mtongwiza, your favorite relationship coach for women pursuing their God-given desire for marriage, shares her best coaching tools and insights to help you navigate this season of your life. Whether you’re single as a pringle, falling head of heels, or hearing wedding bells, this podcast is for you. In this episode we’re talking about the important distinction between self-centered and selfishly Christ-centered, to help ensure that you stay emotionally, mentally, and spiritually safe and healthy. Make sure you check out Lily’s Free Relationship Starter Course to take the next step towards enjoying a Christ-centered relationship. https://www.proverbs2426.com/Start If you’ve enjoyed the show, why not leave a review? Lily loves to hear how The Forever Love Podcast is making a difference in your life. Want to be part of the show? Record a voice message and ask a question, comment, or share an insight, and Lily will play and respond to it in an upcoming episode. https://anchor.fm/foreverlove/message
11:24
May 04, 2021
Self Coaching
Self Coaching
Understanding how your thoughts impact your life is key to adopting the mind of Christ. Each week, Lily Mtongwiza, your favorite relationship coach for women pursuing their God-given desire for marriage, shares her best coaching tools and insights to help you navigate this season of your life. Whether you’re single as a pringle, falling head of heels, or hearing wedding bells, this podcast is for you. In this episode, Lily shares her daily self-coaching practice which includes reading the Bible and journaling. Discover why this combination makes pursuing your God-given desire so much easier.  Make sure you check out Lily’s Free Relationship Starter Course to take the next step towards enjoying a Christ-centered relationship. https://www.proverbs2426.com/Start If you’ve enjoyed the show, why not leave a review? Lily loves to hear how The Forever Love Podcast is making a difference in your life. Want to be part of the show? Record a voice message and ask a question, comment, or share an insight, and Lily will play and respond to it in an upcoming episode. https://anchor.fm/foreverlove/message
14:23
May 04, 2021
Comparison
Comparison
Comparison is the thief of joy. Each week, Lily Mtongwiza, your favorite relationship coach for women pursuing their God-given desire for marriage, shares her best coaching tools and insights to help you navigate this season of your life. Whether you’re single as a pringle, falling head of heels, or hearing wedding bells, this podcast is for you. In this episode, we’re talking about how to take every thought captive in a very practical way, while tackling the biggest challenge women face when letting go of beliefs that no longer serve them. Make sure you check out Lily’s Free Relationship Starter Course to take the next step towards enjoying a Christ-centered relationship. https://www.proverbs2426.com/Start If you’ve enjoyed the show, why not leave a review? Lily loves to hear how The Forever Love Podcast is making a difference in your life. Want to be part of the show? Record a voice message and ask a question, comment, or share an insight, and Lily will play and respond to it in an upcoming episode. https://anchor.fm/foreverlove/message
15:18
May 04, 2021
What is love?
What is love?
What is love? That's a loaded question.  Each week, Lily Mtongwiza, your favorite relationship coach for women pursuing their God-given desire for marriage, shares her best coaching tools and insights to help you navigate this season of your life. Whether you’re single as a pringle, falling head of heels, or hearing wedding bells, this podcast is for you. In this episode, we're talking about how to experience more love in your life and what's getting in the way.  Make sure you check out Lily’s Free Relationship Starter Course to take the next step towards enjoying a Christ-centered relationship. https://www.proverbs2426.com/Start If you’ve enjoyed the show, why not leave a review? Lily loves to hear how The Forever Love Podcast is making a difference in your life. Want to be part of the show? Record a voice message and ask a question, comment, or share an insight, and Lily will play and respond to it in an upcoming episode. https://anchor.fm/foreverlove/message
13:34
May 04, 2021
Empathy
Empathy
Shame is rooted in lies and does not serve you. Empathy is the antidote.  Each week, Lily Mtongwiza, your favorite relationship coach for women pursuing their God-given desire for marriage, shares her best coaching tools and insights to help you navigate this season of your life. Whether you’re single as a pringle, falling head of heels, or hearing wedding bells, this podcast is for you. In this episode, Lily breaks down how you can use empathy to release judgment and shame in every area of your life.  Make sure you check out Lily’s Free Relationship Starter Course to take the next step towards enjoying a Christ-centered relationship. https://www.proverbs2426.com/Start If you’ve enjoyed the show, why not leave a review? Lily loves to hear how The Forever Love Podcast is making a difference in your life. Want to be part of the show? Record a voice message and ask a question, comment, or share an insight, and Lily will play and respond to it in an upcoming episode. https://anchor.fm/foreverlove/message
09:44
May 04, 2021
The Life Code
The Life Code
Understanding The Life Code is one of the most foundational tools you'll ever learn.  Each week, Lily Mtongwiza, your favorite relationship coach for women pursuing their God-given desire for marriage, shares her best coaching tools and insights to help you navigate this season of your life. Whether you’re single as a pringle, falling head of heels, or hearing wedding bells, this podcast is for you. In this episode, Lily can't wait for you to experience the awareness and understanding you will have as you learn to observe your mind and choose your thoughts, emotions, and actions intentionally. Make sure you check out Lily’s Free Relationship Starter Course to take the next step towards enjoying a Christ-centered relationship. https://www.proverbs2426.com/Start If you’ve enjoyed the show, why not leave a review? Lily loves to hear how The Forever Love Podcast is making a difference in your life. Want to be part of the show? Record a voice message and ask a question, comment, or share an insight, and Lily will play and respond to it in an upcoming episode. https://anchor.fm/foreverlove/message
22:60
May 04, 2021
Cultivating The Fruit of The Holy Spirit
Cultivating The Fruit of The Holy Spirit
The fruit of the Holy Spirit is your best source of energy to fuel your pursuit of a Christ-centered relationship.  Each week, Lily Mtongwiza, your favorite relationship coach for women pursuing their God-given desire for marriage, shares her best coaching tools and insights to help you navigate this season of your life. Whether you’re single as a pringle, falling head of heels, or hearing wedding bells, this podcast is for you. In this episode, Lily shares how you can begin to intentionally cultivate the fruit of the Holy Spirit.  Make sure you check out Lily’s Free Relationship Starter Course to take the next step towards enjoying a Christ-centered relationship. https://www.proverbs2426.com/Start If you’ve enjoyed the show, why not leave a review? Lily loves to hear how The Forever Love Podcast is making a difference in your life. Want to be part of the show? Record a voice message and ask a question, comment, or share an insight, and Lily will play and respond to it in an upcoming episode. https://anchor.fm/foreverlove/message
16:14
May 04, 2021
Wanting So Bad It Hurts
Wanting So Bad It Hurts
There's a difference between your wants, needs, and God-given desires.  Each week, Lily Mtongwiza, your favorite relationship coach for women pursuing their God-given desire for marriage, shares her best coaching tools and insights to help you navigate this season of your life. Whether you’re single as a pringle, falling head of heels, or hearing wedding bells, this podcast is for you. In this episode, we're talking about what happens when we acknowledge these differences between wants, needs, and God-given desires.  Lily also shares what you need to do to focus on getting your needs met by God while focusing your energy on co-creating your truest desires. Make sure you check out Lily’s Free Relationship Starter Course to take the next step towards enjoying a Christ-centered relationship. https://www.proverbs2426.com/Start Did you enjoy the show, why not leave a review? Lily loves to hear how The Forever Love Podcast is making a difference in your life. Want to be part of the show? Record a voice message and ask a question, comment, or share an insight, and Lily will play and respond to it in an upcoming episode. https://anchor.fm/foreverlove/message
12:15
May 04, 2021
Your Comfort Zone
Your Comfort Zone
When fear is the primary emotion fueling your life, you will never be able to live outside your comfort zone.  Each week, Lily Mtongwiza, your favorite relationship coach for women pursuing their God-given desire for marriage, shares my best coaching tools and insights to help you navigate this season of your life. Whether you’re single as a pringle, falling head of heels, or hearing wedding bells, this podcast is for you. In this episode, I'm Lily gives you a little bit of the back story as to how she met her husband Lovingson, why she married my high school boyfriend, and what happened when she realized she needed to step outside of her comfort zone.  This episode is brought to you by my Free Relationship Starter Course.  Sign up today at https://proverbs2426.com/start If you’ve enjoyed the show, why not leave a review? Lily loves to hear how The Forever Love Podcast is making a difference in your life. Want to be part of the show? Record a voice message and ask a question, comment, or share an insight, and Lily will play and respond to it in an upcoming episode. https://anchor.fm/foreverlove/message
10:34
May 04, 2021
Wanting More and Letting Go
Wanting More and Letting Go
Wanting is not the problem. Not being honest about our deepest God-given desires is causing us to settle for too little. Each week, Lily Mtongwiza, your favorite relationship coach for women pursuing their God-given desire for marriage, shares her best coaching tools and insights to help you navigate this season of your life. Whether you’re single as a pringle, falling head of heels, or hearing wedding bells, this podcast is for you. In this episode, I want to continue my story of emptying myself out by letting go of the objects around me that kept me tied to my past. I'll share how I made some difficult decisions and what you can do to begin embracing your God-given desire for a Christ-centered relationship.  This episode is sponsored by my FREE Relationship starter course. Sign up today at https://proverbs2426.com/Start If you’ve enjoyed the show, why not leave a review? Lily loves to hear how The Forever Love Podcast is making a difference in your life. Want to be part of the show? Record a voice message and ask a question, comment, or share an insight, and Lily will play and respond to it in an upcoming episode. https://anchor.fm/foreverlove/message
15:04
May 04, 2021
Create Space for a Christ-Centered Relationship
Create Space for a Christ-Centered Relationship
Your season of singleness is a personal journey that has the power to transform you into a Godly wife. But, it is often filled with loneliness, discouragement, confusion, and heartache.  You long to feel seen, known, loved, and understood, but it's hard to know how to take the next step. Each week, Lily Mtongwiza, your favorite relationship coach for women pursuing their God-given desire for marriage, shares her best coaching tools and insights to help you navigate this season of your life. Whether you’re single as a pringle, falling head of heels, or hearing wedding bells, this podcast is for you. Being intentional about creating space for a Christ-centered relationship is key to moving forward in faith and love. In today's podcast episode, I share how my journey began, back in 2013, on the floor of my basement apartment. I'll teach you the 3 ways you can pour yourselves out in an act of pure surrender and embrace what our Lord Jesus Christ has to offer you. The 3 ways are:  Spontaneous Situational Intentional I'll also show you how to embrace this experience and allow it to set you free as you pursue your God-given desire for a Christ-centered marriage. Get ready for a heartfelt start to your incredible journey of romantic love. Make sure you check out Lily’s Free Relationship Starter Course to take the next step towards enjoying a Christ-centered relationship. https://www.proverbs2426.com/Start If you’ve enjoyed the show, why not leave a review? Lily loves to hear how The Forever Love Podcast is making a difference in your life. Want to be part of the show? Record a voice message and ask a question, comment, or share an insight, and Lily will play and respond to it in an upcoming episode. https://anchor.fm/foreverlove/message
10:14
May 04, 2021
Forever Love Trailer
Forever Love Trailer
Come on a journey with me and pursue your God-given desire for a Christ-centered marriage. This is where single women come to get encouragement, inspiration, tools, and strategies to help them renew their minds and release the toxic thoughts that are keeping them stuck.  I'm your host, Lily Mtongwiza, a wife and mother of 2. I'm also a Christ-centered relationship coach who will teach you how to adopt the mind of Christ so that your thoughts are serving you and helping you achieve all your relationship goals.  Let me walk with you in this season of singleness and help you see the blessing and promises all around you.  Subscribe to this brand new podcast and come experience Forever Love: love that is intimate, equal, intentional, unconditional, and most importantly, founded upon a relationship with Christ.
03:03
April 08, 2021