Great Date Guy
By Rob Wang
This is a living exploration of how to be honest and still get the woman (or man) you want. And what actually matters if you're looking to establish financial independence. Proven tools from the schools of psychology, counseling, neurology, CBT, IFS/partswork, shamanism, and more.
New episodes every Thurs 8:00 am Pacific.
Great Date GuyJul 02, 2020
176 - Asian and Dating: Dating apps different for minorities?
Being an ethnic minority can come with extra dating challenges - from unfair stereotypes to plain old prejudice. But are those externally imposed hurdles really the key factor holding you back?
In this episode...
- Why my race really WASN'T the issue with my dating struggles.
- The uncomfortable stereotypes Asian men face (and what I did).
- How to spot if you're blaming race instead of lacking skills.
- Why I'm grateful for discrimination in dating (controversial).
- How to accept an imperfect dating world and still date exactly who you want.
175 - These Mind Viruses Are Killing Your Dating Life - Here's How to Cure Them
This episode is for anyone still struggling with those stubborn mental blocks to finding the partner they desire and deserve.
- The 9 mind viruses that made me undatable (and how I cured them)
- Why you need to stop consuming dating advice.
- The 5-minute face meditation that removed my anxiety around hot women.
- How staring at a woman’s photo could save your dating life.
- Why you secretly believe you don’t belong with attractive women (and how to fix it).
- Why working relentlessly to find dating success is a huge mistake.
- The counterintuitive path to massive personal change.
174 - Billie Eilish Is So Wrong It Hurts My Face.
In this episode...
- The incredibly B.S. Billie Eilish quote about how men don't have to live up to any societal standards about their bodies.
- What research is revealing about what women ACTUALLY choose when it comes to their romantic partners (it's not dad bods).
- 3 painfully obvious ways women choose men based on appearances.
- Why even if Billie was right, this why no one wants her version of "nice".
- Why we need to stop the Oppression Olympics between genders.
173 - If I had to start dating all over again, this is what I'd do.
Candid insights and practical strategies for anyone seeking a fresh perspective on revamping their dating life. Tune in to uncover the secret to a game changing dating reset.
- The #1 thing I'd do before dating again (hint: most guys don't do this and it's not good)
- Why social shotgunning is better than Tinder for 80% of men.
- Why I stopped playing it cool with women
- The step-by-step way to build social momentum (and attract better options)
- What to do when dating apps start making you miserable
- Why reading just 1 book a month leveled up my dating game dramatically
- How I solved my neediness/urgency problem.
172 - The Billionaire's Guide to Getting Rich
A quick dive into Morgan Housel's Psychology of Money.
- What it actually takes to start earning billions.
- How to invest like Warren Buffet (without being a genius investor).
- The real reason you keep giving up, instead of breaking through.
- What everyone gets wrong about going viral (or making a LOT of money).
- The actual secret to beating your fear of failure.
- 1 simple mistake you need to avoid if you ever want to make it big.
171 - How to stop being unattractive
- Where she's actually looking at when she sees you
- Why you keep getting ghosted
- How to become 2x more attractive without changing anything about yourself
- The little known secret that makes men more attractive to single women.
- The real reason it feels like all the dating advice you're getting contradicts itself
- How to pick clothes that make you stand out to girls
170 - Signs You're Dating the Wrong Girl (Or Guy)
Not sure you're supposed to be with the person you're dating?
Here are some major signs you need to gtfo.
- Why it's so hard to leave abusive relationships (and what actually qualifies?)
- Signs your partner is never going to change (even if they keep promising you that they will)
- Why liars lie, and how to spot them.
- The no. 1 trait you DO NOT want your partner to have (it can be tricky to spot)
- The biggest sign that you've found a keeper
- How a sneaky part of your personality might be keeping you stuck dating the wrong people
169 - How to stop going on tilt (dating apps)
This is why you keep getting worse and worse results on that dating app you love/hate. (Hint: it doesn't have shit to do with your rizz)
Been awhile, gang. But we're back.
In this episode...
- The real reason why you're still single (and hating it)
- The sinister design of dating apps, how that makes it harder to find real connection, and how to beat the system.
- Five ways to instantly improve your mood (and massively improve your dating results)
- The biggest mistake people make when they start searching for love (and/or sex) online.
- How to become the most attractive person in any room.
168 - What I wish I'd been taught about dating [Final Episode For Now]
Thought about just leaving the podcast as it was, but that woulda been wierd.
Leaving without saying goodbye.
As a special thank you for listening, I thought I'd record a podcast where I taught everything I wish I'd learned the moment I hit 18.
Inside...
- The difference between a steamy vs. platonic date
- How to stop being so outcome dependent
- The one thing you must avoid if you don't want dating to get harder over time
- The step by step on how to rewire your brain to become a fearless risk taker
- Why most recovering "nice guys" will still get horrible results with women, and what they're doing wrong
- And of course, a whole lot more...
167 - How to go from Scrub to Seductive
In this episode:
1. The no. 1 reason you aren't getting better with women.
2. Why most men get stuck settling for less and how to stop the cycle.
3. How to know if you're thinking like a boy vs. thinking like a man.
4. The biggest thing you need to change today if you're still taking rejection personally.
5. Why self compassion is one of the most, if not THE most important skill you can learn on your dating journey.
6. Two little habits that will immediately improve your dating results.
166 - Blow Her Mind - 5 Rules For Better, Hotter, and MORE Sex
In this episode...
- She wants sex! We talk about how to create conversations and environments that help her have sex with YOU.
- What to do when sex starts to feel like WORK and STRESS
- Why your fear of rejection is running the show in the bedroom (in the worst possible way) and how to erase it
- How to create the kind of juicy emotional intimacy that women crave
- The ONLY mindset that will consistently give way to the kind of juicy sweaty ravishing sex that you both want
- Why you need to slow down during sex (95% of men get this wrong and women hate it)
- Sexual tension - what it is, and how to create it
- And obviously more...
If you're looking to connect with Scott for coaching, find him at www.scottpagliaccio.com
165 - Ten Commandments For Dating 10s
You want to date out of your league? This is everything I've learned in the past month about attracting and dating gorgeous women. Once you've listened to this podcast you will understand...
- The optimal way to structure your profile
- Absolute dos and don'ts when writing your "about me"
- The types of women to absolutely avoid when you're swiping online
- How women assess men for dating and relationship worthiness
- How to cultivate the REQUIRED mindset to date someone very attractive
- The trick to stopping when you keep obsessing over a girl
- How to and why you need to build sexual tension
- Why ONLY using pro photos for your dating shots is a mistake
- One huge difference between online dating "game" vs. in-person "game"
- How to stop being your own worst enemy
- And a sh*tton more.
This is a solo episode. Scott will be rejoining us next week.
If you want to connect with us, you hit up www.greatdateguy.com
If you want to work with Scott, visit www.scottpagliaccio.com
Don't forget to subscribe and rate us if you got something out of this ep.
This podcast features profanity, strong opinions, and a male narrative.
If you don't like it, GTFO.
164 - This is why she's crap at texting you back
Welcome to the horror show that is online dating. Today we cover off on why so many women seem to be so damned skittish and unavailable (there's actually a good reason for that. Surprised? I was, too). And maybe more importantly, what we can do about that. If you're tired of feeling rejected, unattractive, or just plain resigned about your online dating experience, dis one for you.
163 - Attractive Leadership - Here's Where Most Men F*ck Up
By now you've probably had it drilled into your skull that as a man you need to be more dominant in the bedroom, boardroom, and apparently everywhere else you're expected to show up. While dominance is an important thing, most experts never bother explaining that dominance is what naturally happens when someone is an effective leader. People surrender their power to you.
Now there are MANY ways to take this on, but fair warning, many of them are about just trying to force your will on other people through fear and trickery. Fuck that noise. Not only is it unattractive, it will get you in some deep sh*t in the long run. In this ep, Scott and I walk you through what attractive leadership looks like, the skills it requires, how to train those specific skills, and how it looks like to apply them to dating life, business, and beyond.
This is not a Buzzfeed article. This is about setting you up to win the long game, not give you a small fistful of "life hacks" / band-aid solutions that will fall apart at the first sign of challenge.
162 - A Therapist Teaches Us How To Date Better
Mary walks us through how to stop self sabotaging (and why it happens) when the stakes are high...
A quick, 3 minute exercise to stop approach anxiety and other strong, unpleasant emotions...
Why you should be paying more attention to your own body, especially when with someone you're interested in...
Why women don't like being around men who feel "misaligned" (and what that means)
And a whole lot more
Who is Mary-Lucinda Palmieri?
I am a licensed clinical social worker that works in private practice in Buffalo, NY. I am formally trained in evidence based practices: trauma focused cognitive behavioral therapy, aka TF-CBT, Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, also known as DBT, and currently in the process of being trained in Eye movement desensitization reprocessing trauma model, also known as EMDR.
You can reach her at...
www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/mary-lucinda-palmieri-buffalo-ny/878987
Instagram.com/marylupalmieri
Instagram.com/free2be_dancecommunity
161 - How to Break up Without Living to Regret It
Today we talk about breaking up with honor. In a world of ghosting and silent resentment, this is how you show up as a goddamn warrior. This is how you break up without living to regret it - AND we'll show you how to do it with the utmost compassion and love for yourself, the other person, and the relationship you shared.
Inside...
- What to do when things get too spicy and you're ready to snap?
- How to become emotionally bulletproof and non-reactive.
- The 5 minute practice anyone can learn to immediately begin quenching reactivity.
- How to fully close the door when you keep coming back and getting hurt again and again.
- The blueprint to breaking up with honor and examples of how it's done.
For those of you who want a refresher on the VEVOOM method...
- VOLUME - how loud are my emotions. 1-10?
- EMOTION - what emotion am I feeling?
- VIBRATION - where do I feel this emotion?
- OKAY TO OBSERVE - can I give myself permission to experience this fully?
- METHOD - what can I use to recover?
160 - Conflict Breaker: A 45 Min Guide On Keeping Your Cool
In this episode, we share the exact step by step method to become a conflict breaker. Someone who can halt big ugly fights and confrontation in their tracks - before they cross the point of no return. This is among one of the most attractive skills you can ever learn as a romantic partner.
Today we share…
- 3 skills that will immediately de-escalate conflict
- The one thing you absolutely need to avoid during conflict if you want to keep your romantic partner
- Two practices you can start TODAY to become bulletproof when she starts to bring the heat.
Scott’s VEVOOM system:
VOLUME - how loud are my emotions. 1-10?
EMOTION - what emotion am I feeling?
VIBRATION - where do I feel this emotion?
OKAY TO OBSERVE - can I give myself permission to experience this fully?
METHOD - what can I use to recover?
159 - She Doesn't Actually Want a Badboy, Here's Why...
I think by now, most men have learned that being told they're *nice* is the kiss of death. It's almost worse than being told you aren't tall enough...
But what does it actually mean to be a "nice guy" and is being a bad boy actually any better? As ye olde adage goes, "women love a**holes"...but is that actually even true?
In this episode, we talk about the pros and cons of each approach, how to recover from being a nice guy without turning into an insufferable douche, and how to walk the secret third path of the Laughing Warrior to become instinctively and effortlessly attractive to women.
158 - Men, when life is intent on putting you down...STOP! Do this.
This episode is for you if…
Life feels like Groundhog Day. The problems and challenges won’t stop coming, and worst of all, it feels like they’re on repeat. You keep dating the same horrible people. You keep getting steamrolled or taken advantage of at work. You keep trying to start a business and they just keep on failing.
By the time you finish, you’ll get…
- Two foolproof approaches to breaking the cycle of pain
- The fastest way to go from thinking like a boy to thinking like a man (and why it matters more than you think)
- The one and only true key to success (80% of people have got it completely wrong...)
- Why most people fail when they try to change their life circumstances
- And how to make yourself insanely attractive with the Warrior Mindset
If you're interested in connecting more with Scott, you can find him at...
https://www.scottpagliaccio.com/
https://www.instagram.com/scottpags/?hl=en
157 - (Interview) Breaking The ‘Nice Guy’ Curse w/ Ashley Cox, founder @NiceGuyReformSchool
What's up baddies.
Got a sizzling hot take from our guest today Ashley Cox.
In this episode:
- What keeps nice guys trapped in a cycle of endless painful relationships?
- How this relationship dynamic forces women to occupy a masculine role (that they hate!)
- How to stop your partner from unconsciously manipulating you and ignoring your boundaries
- The easiest way to shed your nice guy tendencies and start showing up powerfully and attractively masculine in relationships...
- And more...
Ashley Cox helps "nice guys" from the bedroom to the boardroom.
She uses neurolinguistic programming and her 10+ year background in trauma and teaching to help ‘nice guys’ find and have healthier love and more wealth.
In addition to blowing womens' minds, her clients have gone from $40,000 - 100,000 and 3,000,000 - 10,000,0000 in a few months after tackling subconscious blocks of fear, doubt, shame, guilt, anger, self-love deficit disorder and pain with her.
Instagram: www.instagram.com/niceguyreformschool
Facebook: www.facebook.com/theniceguyreformschool
TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@niceguyreformschool
Youtube Channel: www.youtube.com/c/AshleyCoxCoaching
Private Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/1521917324634479
Schedule a Consultation: https://go.oncehub.com/privateassessmentforme
156 - Mixed Signals & You: What to do when they're hot and cold?
Welcome to the sh*tty part of dating. Where we've built up this story in our head of how things are ending happily ever after, only to be greeted by silence, loss of communication, and pain.
One moment they're in love with us. The next, they won't call us back.
In this episode we discuss exactly what to do..
How to stop the pain..
What causes this behavior..
And what to expect if you continue.
155 - How to chat up your gym crush
In this episode, Scott gets interviewed on exactly how he gets so many dates just by talking with strangers. This is a skill that mystifies me, too - so we've got almost an hour of content here for you today on the step by step, how to cultivate the proper mindset, and a few examples of how a good approach would look.
154 - How to stop caring what your haters think about you...
153 - Help I'm taking things too personally!
152 - The New Years Ritual You Cannot Afford To Ignore
Clean your space.
Look at the areas in your home and in your life you have been consciously or unconsciously avoiding.
And start feeling everything that comes up.
An important distinction here. What do we mean by feel your feelings?
Emotions always come with a sensation in the body. That's why we call em feelings.
If you want to have emotional mastery, the first place to look is...
Can I just observe the physical sensations of this emotion?
Can I feel them fully without rejecting them?
Once you get good at this skill (doesn't take very long - a few days max), you can begin to deal with some of the reactiveness you experience in life.
Theory:
The more bottled up emotions we have, the more triggered we get.
Most people tend to be defined by 2-3 unpleasant emotions - for me it's guilt or anger.
We keep storing up these emotions and putting them under more and more pressure and control, in order to keep them at bay...
Until eventually they start to leak out - that is where the self sabotage happens.
(Think of anytime you got into a fight with your significant other over something idiotic. Odds are, the process above is exactly what happened)
In order to escape this endless cycle of pain...
It's important to identify which emotions are showing up on repeat, and begin to empty your cup by feeling them without engaging in the thought patterns around them. Stick with how it feels in your body.
Mastering this skill means you get to reach a level bulletproof that most people don't get access to.
And when you have this resilience, it means you stop being afraid of rejection.
It means you stop worrying about whether or not you made the right choice.
It means you stop *needing* that next success, because you're capable of feeling good no matter what happens.
Other important notes:
Most businesses without huge overhead costs fail because the founders simply gave up.
About 50% of businesses fail in 2 years.
About 70-80% fail in 5.
This is largely the reason why - hustle culture tells us to toughen up and just soldier on.
This is a surefire recipe for burnout - it is not sustainable.
High level success requires your ability to effectively manage your emotions - OR they will manage you.
That goes for business, dating, and any other high stakes venture you can think of.
It's also really important to find a way to make each step of whatever you're up to, enjoyable.
If you cannot find the joy in what you're doing, if you do not know how to source your own happiness, you will quit and fail because the task in front of you is too punishing.
Whether you succeed or fail, your emotions are one of the biggest deciding factors.
So clean your f***ing room.
Start sorting through all the muck and sludge that you've been trying to avoid.
You can thank us in 2022.
If you're interested in connecting with Scott, you can find him at:
www.scottpagliaccio.com
For general inquiries, find us at:
www.greatdateguy.com
151 - Introvert Problems: How do I approach attractive women?
How to rapidly advance your social skills with attractive women
What pitfalls to avoid if you want to learn to be good as quickly as possible
The secret to minimizing your discomfort while maximizing your growth
What I do with my eye contact to completely avoid coming across creepy
And of course, there's more...
150 - This Is How I Annihilated My Social Anxiety Around Women
- How come it's so hard to talk to women I'm really attracted to?
- How do I stop coming across weird and nervous?
- How can I get her to chase me, instead of spending all my time trying to convince her that I'm the right choice?
- How do I stop needing so much social validation from women?
In this bonus episode, I answer all these questions and more.
149 - Here's what everyone gets wrong about making BIG money...
In this episode…
- What mindsets increase your worth? What mindsets are secretly setting you back?
- Increasing your earning potential through non-neediness and a step by step on how that’s done
- How to self diagnose (and fix) your money wounds.
- How much happier does money make us anyway?
- The real reason why you aren’t making more…
148 - How We Break Addictive Patterns (and How You Can Too)
Sup brotherhood,
Welcome back to the fold. Today we shed some light on the following:
1. Why our brains get stuck repeating harmful behaviors, even when we know they're bad for us.
2. 3 simple ways to break free the next time you're in a self destructive loop.
3. One thing you absolutely should not avoid when you catch yourself self sabotaging
Here are some resources to help you get re-regulated if you're feeling like everything is going wrong.
Breathwork
https://youtu.be/I578H4VoZiY?t=527
Stress Relief Breathing
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FJJazKtH_9I
Loving-Kindness Meditation
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1eLKEuJkggw
Intro to Mirror-Work
https://youtu.be/VZFcN5qB8yM?t=58
147 - We Asked A Woman To Critique Our Flirting
What is flirting?
When is it okay to simply tell a woman you're attracted to her?
What does good flirting look like?
How can you tell a woman isn't interested in your advances?
When does flirting become creepy?
Today, Scott & I answer all these questions (and more) and Joanne keeps us honest.
146 - I Asked 4 Love Coaches What They're Currently Learning About Dating & Love...
The Questions:
- What's the most embarrassing thing you've ever believed about dating?
- What lesson are you currently learning about love?
- What's your greatest dating tip?
The Coaches:
Liv Pavlov:
Liv is a sex and intimacy coach who supports men women and couples to have relationships and love that work for them. She’s a tantric healer and is nomadic, so check her Instagram to see her next stop!
https://www.instagram.com/theoliviarules/
Ana Ruiz:
As a Relationship Coach, Ana helps couples and individuals turn relationship pain and frustration into love and connection.
www.anaruiz.life
Macy Matarazzo
Helping smart, single, creative successful women find “unicorn” love. Featured on the New York Times, NBC, and MeetMindful.Com
www.GetSuperLOVED.com
Scott Pagliaccio
Men’s Mentor, transformational coach, and cohost to the greatest podcast on earth.
https://www.instagram.com/scottpags
https://www.scottpagliaccio.com/
145 - Do these 5 things for better conversations with women
144 - Becoming A Sex God - This Will Make Her Into a Dripping Puddle
143 - The 34 Min Guide To Masculinity & Dominance
Masculinity lately is almost a 4 letter word. Triggering to many and with every passing day, the rules feel harder and more complicated to navigate. Who are we as men? How do we reclaim our masculinity powerfully? What does it take to respect women, without losing ourselves in the process. We answer all that and more in this episode.
142 - How to Stop Lashing Out - A 30 Min Guide to Conflict.
Back from the dead.
I needed to take some time off from this podcast to deal with the other things happening in my life. Among many other things, I was given a chance to deliver a TEDx talk and I took it. That led to some MASSIVE stress and anxiety. With that complete, I've invited my good friend and Men's Coach, Scott Pagliaccio to co-host this podcast with me.
Today we talk about sitting in the fire, and being with what comes up when we're stressed...and how that process hacks the nervous system, and has us show up in a more masculine, confident, and attractive way - no matter what.
141 - How to stop putting her on a pedestal
You find yourself instinctively, or reflexively avoiding women who are "too attractive"
You find yourself getting shy, robotic, shut down, or trying too hard when you run into someone you're actually interested in dating
You have ever struggled with your worth as a man and have doubts about whether or not an attractive woman would have you
140 - Make Her Laugh - Everything You Were Never Taught About Humor
In this podcast...
- Hacking the rule of 5 to effortlessly become funnier
- How to stop coming across like you're trying too hard
- When you should NEVER text her
- And a secret bonus tip that I typically only give to my private coaching clients
139 - Interview: The Magic Of Ghosting👻 (feat Macy Matarazzo of SuperLOVED)
What does it take to not only shrug off ghosting like it doesn't matter, but actually feel like it's legitimately a good thing?
How do we begin showing up in the dating space, bulletproof, beautiful and sexy AF?
Joining me this session is Macy Matarazoo, Love Coach on how she would approach taking someone who is having an awful time dating, to having the time of their lives.
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Macy has been featured on NBC, FOX, Meetmindful, and CBS as an expert.
To get in touch, visit her website www.getsuperloved.com
To take the Love Quiz and get the definitive guide on your strengths and weaknesses when it comes to dating and relationships, jump to www.lovevibequiz.com/
138 - How Psychedelics Made Me A Better Date (And Increased My Income)
137 - Interview: Exploring Tantra & Four Hour Orgasms (feat. KC Taylor)
136 - Learning To Erase My Neediness (Advanced)
<li>Neediness is based off a lack of fulfillment of needs (physical / emotional)<br />
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<li>In order to effectively combat neediness we need to notice the signs - nervousness, urgency, treating each interaction like it's going to be our last, etc.<br />
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<li>Understand too that neediness can show up in other areas of life, even if we lack neediness in another area<br />
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<li>For instance, you can be great with client acquisition, but horribly needy when it comes to dating<br />
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<li>In general, the solution is look and see - what emotional payoff do I think I'm going to get, if I'm successful? Will I get to feel sexy? Wanted? Attractive? Manly? Etc.<br />
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<li>From there, look to find ways to create that emotional state for yourself.... WITHOUT needing other people to do it. (exercise in podcast)<br />
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<li>Once you can successfully do that, you don't NEED anything - and at that point, the process of dating, growing your business, etc. will become VERY easy and straightforward.<br />
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135 - How To Stop Being Unattractive
134 - How I Solved My Marketing Problem As A New Business
133 - Flirting: Everything You Weren't Taught About Seduction
132 - Online dating is a clusterf***, here's how I'm gaming the system
131 - One Business Skill You *Need* To Succeed In 2021
130 - Settling in Dating? Here's How to Stop. (No Cold Approach Method)
129 - What to do when you lose someone you love (feat. Katie Strand)
When loss comes, it takes away our sense of the world being a hospitable and welcoming place. And in my experience, simply leaves behind one unanswerable question in the smoldering ruins. Why.
In this episode we interview Katie Strand on how to move forward from this devastation, without falling into an inescapable pit of despair.
For those of you interested in hearing more from her, and/or connecting, you can find her at:
katiestrand.com/