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Held and Healed with Heather Elizabeth

Held and Healed with Heather Elizabeth

By Heather Elizabeth
Held. Healed. Looking back over my life, I see the evidence of God’s presence. I have always been held. In recent years, I began a journey of healing. Healing takes time. I have come so far and there is so much to learn. Join me as I share my story and the stories of others who are held and healed. I am surrounded by a village of fellow warriors. We are using our voices to raise awareness and advocate for survivors. We will explore the realities of sexual abuse, domestic violence and spiritual abuse and glean from resources that will bless you on your healing journey.
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Episode 51: Meet Debra Doak (Survivor, Author, Divorce Coach)
Debra is a separation/divorce/life renovation coach who has a lot of wisdom about navigating finances during these transitions. We discuss financial abuse, spousal starvation, parallel planning, waiting with intention, financial planning, mediation, choosing a lawyer, and more. Learn more about Debra’s book, coaching, and courses at: https://www.debradoak.com/. Join my Rebuilding: Finances Course at: https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/rebuilding-finances. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/.
48:41
June 17, 2022
Episode 50: Meet Luke & Lauren Smallcomb (Survivors, Advocates, Therapist, Nurse)
In this episode, I talk with my dear friends, Luke & Lauren Smallcomb. They have combined their skill sets (trauma therapist and mind-body practitioner) to create Flourish Therapy. I learn new things from them every week and am excited to introduce you to them. Find their contact info for Facebook, Instagram, YouTube or their podcast through https://flourishtherapy.co/. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/.
50:07
June 09, 2022
Episode 49: Abuse/Trauma-Informed Boundaries
In this episode, I share some tips for setting and holding boundaries. As you rebuild after trauma and abuse, you will find your voice. Setting boundaries is a way to respect yourself and honor your healing journey. I offer Boundaries Group Coaching where we discuss these truths and apply them in everyday situations. For registration information, go to Heatherelizabeth.org and choose the Boundaries Group Coaching option. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/.
32:52
June 02, 2022
Episode 48: A Week of Truth
What a heartbreaking and gut-wrenching week for the survivor community. Everywhere we turn, there are stories that shake us. In this podcast, I share about a Round Table discussion I participated in with Thomas Pryde (Psalm 82 Initiative) and Sarah McDugal. We went through the video from the Indiana pastor’s “confession” of “adultery” with a 16 year old girl. Watch here: https://www.facebook.com/sarahmcdugalauthor/videos/686921625944312/. The releases of this video, the sexual abuse data base by SBC, and the docu series “Sins of the Amish” and the Josh Duggar sentencing all occurred within three days. I offer suggestions for taking care of ourselves, honoring boundaries and limitations, and practicing self-care during these trying times. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. For a list of my services: https://heatherelizabeth.org/.
49:33
May 26, 2022
Episode 47: Held & Healed Update
Moving forward, I will be recording twice a month on this podcast. I am adding more services and invite you to go to HeatherElizabeth.org and click on tabs to learn more. I offer group coaching, a rebuilding finances course, a retreat, and a summit. Coming soon, I will launch the Held & Healed Haven membership group. We will create community, learn more about rebuilding the body, mind, and spirit and hear from guest speakers. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/.
34:43
May 13, 2022
Episode 46: Finding Your Lane
What makes you feel alive, energized, and excited? What gifts and skills do you enjoy using to bless others? What is one thing you’ve dreamed of doing? Learning to recognize and stay in your lane is so freeing! Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. For info about the Safer Spaces Summit, Held & Healed Retreat, Held & Healed Haven, Boundaries Group Coaching and more: https://heatherelizabeth.org/.
40:07
April 15, 2022
Episode 45: Healthy Habits
In this episode I share nine of my favorite healthy habits and encourage you to choose one to focus on. Little steps taken over time create big changes. You matter and your health matters. Take care of yourself, dear one. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/.
39:02
March 11, 2022
Episode 44: If He Hurts You, He Hurts Your Kids
“He’s a bad husband, but he’s a good dad” is not true. If a man abuses the mother of his children, he abuses his children. Period. In this episode, I discuss the heartbreaking, gut-wrenching reality so many women and children are facing. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/.
37:27
March 04, 2022
Episode 43: Meet Andrew Bauman (Counselor, Author, Advocate, Survivor)
Andrew is the Founder & Director of the Christian Counseling Center: For Sexual Health & Trauma. In this episode we discuss some of his story, his work and his most recently released book, How Not to Be an *ss: Essays on Becoming a Good and Safe Man. To learn more about his counseling services go to https://christiancc.org/. For his personal website go to https://andrewjbauman.com/. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, register for my group coaching or the Safer Spaces Summit at https://heatherelizabeth.org/.
43:02
February 23, 2022
Episode 42: A Plea to Christian Authors, Bloggers, Podcasters, Influencers and Leaders
From an Open Letter to Christian Authors, Bloggers, Podcasters, Influencers, and Leaders, I come to you on behalf of countless women who are suffering from destructive marriages… My first plea is that you become familiar with the patterns and systems of abuse… Based upon my personal experience and the hundreds of women that I encounter daily, my gut tells me that 50-75% of women within faith communities are experiencing multiple forms of abuse on a regular basis. These women read your books, blogs, and social media posts. These women listen to your podcasts and sermons. These women have endured years, even decades, of heartbreaking, gut-wrenching, soul-crushing abuse. Some are aware that they are being abused, and many are yet aware. We can no longer say, “But my message was directed at healthy couples.” Many marriages are not healthy. Most women who are seeking out help are not in healthy marriages and the messages they hear cause more harm. When you speak on these topics and do not include a warning about abuse, these women feel blamed, shamed and responsible for the abuse they are enduring…Read full letter here: https://heatherelizabeth.org/blog/31502/an-open-letter-to-christian-authors-bloggers-podcasters-influencers-and-leaders. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. For more information about Safer Spaces Summit: https://heatherelizabeth.org/.
25:30
February 18, 2022
Episode 41: Let Me Tell You ‘Bout My Jesus
In this episode, I share about the felt presence of Jesus that has carried me through every season of my life. I boldly speak out against spiritual abuse, and pray that survivors can distinguish who God is from the ways others have misrepresented Him and His Word. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Coaching, summit, retreat links and more are at https://heatherelizabeth.org/.
40:13
February 11, 2022
Episode 40: Self-Compassion
Compassion is a deep awareness of the suffering of someone and the desire to alleviate that suffering. Self-compassion is learning how to turn understanding, acceptance and love inward (good therapy.org). In this episode, I share practical ways to exercise self-compassion, to set boundaries and practice healthy habits. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. For info about group coaching or the summit, visit https://heatherelizabeth.org/.
40:15
February 04, 2022
Episode 39: My Story (Part 2)
In this episode, I share more of my story and focus on the past six years. I have been rebuilding (body, mind and spirit) and I am passionate about helping others do the same. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find links for group coaching, the Safe Spaces Summit and Held & Healed Retreat at https://heatherelizabeth.org.
46:55
January 28, 2022
Episode 38: My Story (Part 1)
In this episode, I share some of my story. While there are many details I choose not to share publicly, I have experienced the thirteen patterns/systems of abuse in childhood and adulthood. I am grateful to God for His presence, peace, protection and provision through it all. Surely, He has held and healed me. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. For Group Coaching and Safer Spaces Summit links, go to https://heatherelizabeth.org.
47:43
January 21, 2022
Episode 37: Peace (My One Word 2022)
In this episode, I share why I chose my one word for 2022. I’ve been battling some intense anxiety over the past several months and know that I am not alone. I am pursuing peace that passes understanding. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth. (You can register for the summit and the retreat at this link)
28:45
January 14, 2022
Episode 36: Laziness Versus Exhaustion
In this episode I share some of my personal experience with exhaustion and grief. I pray that this encourages you on your healing journey. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. You can also find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. To register for the Safer Spaces Summit, go to https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/safer-spaces-summit-2022. To register for Held & Healed Retreat 2022 go to https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/held-and-healed-retreat-2022. I look forward to learning and growing with you in 2022.
26:06
January 08, 2022
Episode 35: One Word 2022
Each year (since 2006), I choose ONE WORD to focus on. One area I want to grow in. One word that will help me become more like Jesus. In this episode, I share the progression of my words and the outline of my story that unfolds. I invite you to choose a word for 2022 and we’ll grow together. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. On January 15, I’ll go live in that group and we’ll share our words together. You can also find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. To register for the Safer Spaces Summit, go to https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/safer-spaces-summit-2022. To register for Held & Healed Retreat 2022 go to https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/held-and-healed-retreat-2022. I look forward to learning and growing with you in 2022.
33:28
December 30, 2021
Episode 34: Holiday Check-In
For many, this is NOT the most wonderful time of the year. I am praying for you as you navigate hard things and encourage you to hold boundaries during the holiday season. To learn more about Twelve Truths Group Coaching: https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/copy-of-12-truths-group-coaching-3?fbclid=IwAR1Fmag_A22WVjyu8B91k-UW__F6zx88wKRR-wMHL-S1Zj-esF504-pvtcQ. For early-bird registration to Safer Spaces Summit: https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/safer-spaces-summit-2022. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/.
32:18
December 10, 2021
Episode 33: Untwisting Scriptures (Book 3) with Rebecca Davis
I am blessed to call Rebecca my friend. She is my go to when I am being triggered by Bible verses that have weaponized against me. She has released the third book in her Untwisting Scriptures series, Untwisting Scriptures That Were Used to Tie You Up, Gag You and Tangle Your Mind: Your Words and Emotions. She does a fantastic job of explaining God’s word in light of context, culture and the character of our loving Father. In this episode, we unpack the first part of the book and focus on words. Grab her book on Amazon, and check out her website: https://heresthejoy.com/. Join us for Safer Spaces Summit: https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/safer-spaces-summit-2022. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/.
53:54
December 02, 2021
Episode 32: Meet Cindy Burrell (Author/Advocate/Survivor)
Cindy is a survivor of a 20-year abusive marriage. She has so much wisdom to share with survivors and advocates. She has written several books, this episode highlights Reformulating the Christian Marriage Counseling Model Where Abuse Is Involved. This book is a valuable resource for spiritual leaders. You may find her at at http://www.hurtbylove.com/. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/.
52:34
November 18, 2021
Episode 31: Held & Healed Holidays
The holiday season is upon us. For many, this is NOT the most wonderful time of the year. As we are rebuilding our lives after abuse, holidays can be painful reminders of what we’ve lost. In this episode I share some tips that have helped me navigate painful family dynamics for the past 25 years. I encourage maintaining healthy habits, setting a realistic budget, blessing those in need, enforcing low/no contact with abusive people, surrounding yourself with safe people and focusing on traditions and foods that matter to you and your kids. These tips are also organized here: https://heatherelizabeth.org/blog/29360/held-healed-holidays. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/.
29:17
November 11, 2021
Episode 30: Twelve Truths to Renew Your Mind as You Rebuild After an Abusive Marriage
In this episode I share twelve truths that will help you heal after an abusive marriage. These are truths I have learned over the past five years and I wish someone had shared with me decades ago. I offer group coaching for women and we unpack each truth together and find practical application for each one. If you are interested in learning more about Twelve Truths Group Coaching, please message me at info@heatherelizabeth.org. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/.
38:09
November 04, 2021
Episode 29: Meet Patrick Weaver (Survivor/Pastor/Advocate/Author)
Patrick Weaver is a survivor of childhood abuse. His mother endured hellacious abuse and no one intervened. As an adult, Patrick began using his voice to raise awareness and to call the church to care for the oppressed. His platform on social media reaches 70,000+ and the women in my community are so grateful for his voice. He authored He Walks With Me, which is an unforgettably heartfelt and transformational walk with God for victims and survivors of toxic, narcissistic and abusive relationships. Purchase here: https://patrickweaver.org/hewalkswithmebook/. Follow Patrick at https://patrickweaver.org/ or on Facebook or Instagram. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/.
53:50
October 21, 2021
Episode 28: Know Better, Do Better (What Helps/Heals)
In Episode 26, I shared harmful phrases that re-victimize survivors. In this episode, I share phrases that help/heal as well as offer suggestions for tangible ways to support survivors as they rebuild their lives. 13 Patterns/Systems of Abuse (Episode 19), also on my blog at https://heatherelizabeth.org/blog/27114/13-systems-patterns-of-abuse. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/.
41:59
October 20, 2021
Episode 27: Meet Clara Hinton (Survivor/Author/Advocate)
Clara Hinton has been a grief facilitator, speaker and writer for over thirty years. She is a mother of 11 and a grandmother of 24 (so far!). She co-hosts the Speaking Out on Sex Abuse Podcadt with her son Jimmy. https://jimmyhinton.org/podcast/ Together, they educate anyone who is willing to learn about the heinous reality of sexual abuse in churches and beyond. This is a fire their family has walked out of, when her ex-husband (also an ex-pastor) was convicted of horrific crimes against children. I am grateful for this mighty woman of God. She is helping others find safety and healing. Check out her blog here: https://findingahealingplace.com/. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.
43:26
October 07, 2021
Episode 26: Know Better, Do Better (Harmful Phrases)
Words are powerful. I have polled women in groups that I am a part of and asked for harmful phrases that were used by spiritual leaders when they disclosed abuse. This list is not exhaustive, but I pray that it helps us to be mindful of what we say to victims of abuse. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/.
39:42
October 03, 2021
Episode 25: Meet Dale and Faith Ingraham (Author/Advocates/Survivor)
Dale and Faith are gentle and humble warriors who speak boldly against abuse in Faith communities. Dale has been a pastor for decades and Faith is a survivor of childhood sexual abuse. They founded Speaking Truth in Love Ministries and they educate individuals and churches on the realities of abuse inside church walls. Dale wrote Tear Down This Wall of Silence: Dealing with Sexual Abuse in Our Churches (An Introduction For Those Who Will Hear). Learn more at https://speakingtruthinlove.org/. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/.
47:12
September 30, 2021
Episode 24: Reflections from the Held & Healed Retreat
It was an honor and a joy to host the first annual Held & Healed Retreat in Virginia. 60 ladies from 8 or more states came together to laugh, cry, worship, learn, heal and connect. It was a beautiful sight to behold. Rebecca Davis shared a powerful message about Spiritual Warfare, as outlined in her book Prayer Armor for Defense (https://www.amazon.com/Prayer-Defense-Against-Enemys-Flaming-ebook/dp/B08P166PJS?crid=ODXOVSSTB2TB&dchild=1&keywords=prayer+armor+for+defense&qid=1631573680&sr=8-2&linkCode=sl1&tag=rebeccajoydav-20&linkId=95094a019ae48ed0809941c394c1f2e4&language=en_US&ref_=as_li_ss_tl&fbclid=IwAR1lcf--9DM6At12n_4fdYtaY3lN-UtA6iAwfu-678t8jiTuVQlvBwXzVVI). Joy Forrest of Called to Peace Ministeries shared her story and the hope and healing she found through scripture and worship (https://www.amazon.com/Called-Peace-Survivors-Finding-Domestic/dp/1948449013/ref=mp_s_a_1_3?crid=ZMO9DEZLJC9O&dchild=1&keywords=called+to+peace+joy+forrest&qid=1631793090&sprefix=called+to+peace&sr=8-3). Ladies, plan now to attend the second annual Held & Healed Retreat September 9-11, 2022. Register here: https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/held-and-healed-retreat-2022?fbclid=IwAR1-v87R2kNxtRboN__ekIUPSDJHTMDppBXcULQmxyAb4GLQxZ1ERrFeedU Join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org
33:51
September 16, 2021
Episode 23: Boundaries
Setting and maintaining boundaries will accelerate your healing journey. In this episode, I share quotes and tips to help you on your healing journey. For more resources, ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org. For more about the 12 Truths Group Coaching Course, https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/12-truths-group-coaching-1?fbclid=IwAR0s_SX6V9Ojj3MXL8rmXT-k1ki6ai_1INZqdfSa7zIZP20NC-KuzRo5QbE
40:18
August 27, 2021
Episode 22: Self-Care Isn’t Selfish
In this episode, I share some of my story and self-care tips I have learned as I have been rebuilding my body, mind and spirit. Sister, you are valuable. You are priceless. You give and give and give to others. It’s time to take care of yourself. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Happie, Hippie, Healthie Hangout https://www.facebook.com/groups/2874298529497171/ and at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/.
38:46
August 05, 2021
Episode 21: Meet Bella Hope Shiloh (Survivor/Author)
Bella is a survivor of every form of abuse imaginable. She wrote her story in Prisoners in the Shed (buy it here: https://www.amazon.com/Prisoners-Shed-Harrowing-Journey-Captivity/dp/1734594519/ref=mp_s_a_1_3?dchild=1&keywords=prisoners+in+the+shed&qid=1627575025&sprefix=prisoners+in+&sr=8-3). Bella is tenacious, courageous and articulate as she uses her voice to expose evil. I thank God for her life and her voice. Our prayer is that this episode helps to turn the light on for many. If you are living under an abuser’s control, we pray for you to come into the light. Reach out to the domestic abuse hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE or https://www.thehotline.org/. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/.
48:55
July 29, 2021
Episode 20: Meet LeAnne Parsons (Advocate/Coach)
LeAnne is energetic and passionate and she loves helping women rebuild their lives. She is a Certified Professional Coach, learn more here: https://www.thewalkyourtalkcoach.com/. In this episode, we discuss relationships, truth telling and danger assessment. DANGEROUS acronym: https://leslievernick.com/signs-danger-mean-time-flee/. Party Barge story: https://heatherelizabeth.org/blog/27227/party-barge. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/.
48:22
July 21, 2021
Episode 19: 13 Patterns/Systems of Abuse
Abuse is so much more than broken bones and bruises. Today, I share 13 patterns/systems of abuse, as outlined in the book Safe Churches by Sarah McDugal, Jennifer Jill Schwirzer and Nicole Parker. For more in depth instruction, Sarah had a playlist on YouTube: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL9WSC9P1z2VeGeak1Id8gsioSdaKnYGBI. You can also find helpful resources at https://www.wildernesstowild.com/. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. I also list the systems/patterns of abuse here: https://heatherelizabeth.org/blog/27114/systems-patterns-of-abuse.
41:43
July 19, 2021
Episode 18: Meet Lauren Rose (Survivor/Advocate)
Lauren is a survivor of domestic abuse and spiritual abuse. As a young woman, she was affiliated with Bill Gothard and the Institute in Basic Life Principles (IBLP). In this episode she shares about the brainwashing that happened in her faith community and marriage and how she was left feeling worthless and suicidal. By God’s mercy, she was led to the Recovering Grace website, http://www.recoveringgrace.org/ which is a place where Gothard victims share their stories. Lauren was also led to a therapist who introduced her to https://www.calledtopeace.org/ and her healing journey continues. I thank God for His redemption in her life and for the passion she has to help see others set free. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/.
48:28
July 15, 2021
Episode 17: Meet Elle Renee (Advocate/Parental Alienation)
Elle served as the technical director for Give Her Wings and coaches women through the muddy waters of parental alienation/DV by proxy. In this episode, we discuss terminology, define the roles of alienating parent, targeted parent and victimized child and give practical advice for mamas who are experiencing this harrowing reality. We also make suggestions for what to/not to share on social media (to protect you and your children) and Elle shares some of her favorites resources. Find Elle at https://www.ellereneestudio.com/. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/.
43:38
July 08, 2021
Episode 16: Meet Sarah McDugal (Adocate/Author)
Sarah is a powerhouse of passion and knowledge. She is bold and tackles topics that most Christian leaders would shy away from. She’s a wealth of information about spiritual abuse, porn addiction, sexual abuse and so much more. In this episode, we discuss how rampant porn addiction is within the faith community. We also preview two books she has co-authored, Safe Churches and Myths We Believe, Predators We Trust. To see the 37 myths that Sarah tackles, check out my blog post: https://heatherelizabeth.org/blog/26497/making-churches-safe-for-youth-part-1. I recommend that EVERY ministry leader, first responder, educator, medical provider, parent and grandparent read these books as soon as possible. Sarah’s website is filled with resources: https://www.wildernesstowild.com/. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.
48:19
July 02, 2021
Episode 15: Grieving the Living
Grieving the living. It’s a thing. A very real thing. Because of abuse, there are times we must set boundaries with friends and family, and go low or no contact. Many mamas are experiencing parental alienation from their children. Many women are cast out by their families, churches and social communities. I pray this brings clarity to those who are hurting and gives us all greater understanding of how to walk this road of grief together. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse. https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. For tips for rebuilding your physical body, join us at Happie, Hippie, Healthie Hangout https://www.facebook.com/groups/2874298529497171/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/.
34:54
June 25, 2021
Episode 13: Meet Mindy Williams (Advocate)
Mindy has has been advocating for woman for over twenty years. She thought she understood what abuse was, but one day a light went on and she began digging deeper. She is now trauma-informed, domestic violence-informed and she has helped her church to implement systems for helping survivors. She also serves on the board with Called to Peace Ministeries. If you and/or your church would like to receive training to help make your church safer, we highly recommend Called to Peace Ministries (https://www.calledtopeace.org/), Chris Moles with Peace Works University (https://www.chrismoles.org/coaching-with-chris) and Psalm 82 Initiative (https://psalm82initiative.wordpress.com/). Ladies, you are welcome to join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse (https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/). Or, contact me at (https://heatherelizabeth.org/).
44:02
June 10, 2021
Episode 12: Meet Joy Forrest (Called to Peace Ministries)
Joy shares some of her story and the hope and healing she has found through Jesus. Her book, Called to Peace, is a memoir as well as a guidebook to healing. Find more resources at https://www.calledtopeace.org/. Ladies, if you would like more information about the Zoom book club I am facilitating or the Held & Healed Retreat I am hosting, message me at info@HeatherElizabeth.org. And, find us on Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/.
41:29
June 03, 2021
Episode 11: Family Scapegoat
Are you the family scapegoat? This episode defines the role of a scapegoat and offers suggestions for breaking free. I learned so much from Glynis Sherwood’s lesson in Give Her Wings Academy. Learn more at https://glynissherwood.com/12-steps-for-family-scapegoat-healing/ and https://www.giveherwings.com/curriculum. Ladies, join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse. www.HeatherElizabeth.org
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May 31, 2021
Episode 10: Meet Rebecca Davis (Author of Untwisting Scriptures)
Rebecca Davis is an author, co-author, and editor. She has a heart for survivors and her Untwisting Scriptures series is a healing balm for the soul. In book one, she untwists passages about yielding rights, bitterness and taking up offenses. You can find her at http://heresthejoy.com/ and https://www.rebeccadaviswordworking.com. I am so grateful for her obedience to write and her compassion for the oppressed.
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May 27, 2021
Episode 9: Meet Neil Schori (Pastor/Advocate/Coach)
Neil Schori is a pastor and a survivor advocate. His life was radically changed after he walked with a couple through a harrowing situation. He has grown in his understanding of domestic violence and is available to help coach survivors. Learn more about the Drew Peterson case here: https://youtu.be/74Eb1xqaiAg Neil’s website/info on his coaching business: https://m.facebook.com/SchoriCoaching/ More about Document the Abuse (created by Susan): https://documenttheabuse.com/ My website: heatherelizabeth.org Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/
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May 21, 2021
Episode 8: Processing the Called To Peace Retreat
In this episode, I share three main personal takeaways from the Called to Peace Ministries 2021 Retreat. For more info about CTPM: https://www.calledtopeace.org/. I am called to help women see and speak the truth about their circumstances, connect them to resources and help them find healing community. Join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse. https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Visit my website at heatherelizabeth.org
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May 17, 2021
Episode 7: Meet Gretchen Baskerville (Author of The Life-Saving Divorce)
Gretchen is the author of The Life-Saving Divorce. In this episode, she debunks some of the myths that keep Christians from pursuing life-saving divorces. Learn more at http://lifesavingdivorce.com/. Please share this episode with anyone who needs clarity and truth. If you are a woman who is rebuilding your life after abuse, join us on Facebook at Held & Healed. https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/
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April 29, 2021
Episode 6: Meet Jimmy Hinton (Author of The Devil Inside)
I met Jimmy a year ago through the Give Her Wings Academy. Since that time, I have listened to every esisode of the podcast he and his sweet mama, Clara, have recorded. This family had been through the fires of hell and chose to come out and carry back buckets of water for the masses still consumed by flames. They speak out against sexual abuse and call the church to do the same. In this episode, Jimmy shares some of his story, and speaks of the foundation of God’s kingdom (righteousness and justice). He also shares how churches should respond to abusers (wolves) based on that foundation. For more resources, go to https://jimmyhinton.org/. Episodes 33-37 give Biblical perspective on forgiveness.And, ladies, you are welcome to join us on Facebook at Held & Healed https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/ or contact me at heatherelizabeth.org
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April 22, 2021
Episode 5: Bye-Bye Bullies
In this episode, I describe some characteristics of bullies. It’s time to say “Enough is enough.” Find me at heatherelizabeth.org Ladies join us at Held & Healed on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/
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April 16, 2021
Episode 4: Difficult, Disappointing and Destructive Marriages
In this episode, I share some differences between difficult, disappointing and destructive marriages. This outline comes from a lesson taught by Leslie Vernick. https://leslievernick.com/ If you would like to learn more about Give Her Wings Academy, https://www.giveherwings.com/curriculum. Join me at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, message me at heatherelizabeth.org
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April 09, 2021
Episode 3: Power & Control Wheel
Abuse is so much more than broken bones and bruises. In this episode, I break down specifics of The Power & Control Wheel. For more information, go to https://www.theduluthmodel.org/wheels/understanding-power-control-wheel/. Ladies, you are welcome to join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse. Or, contact me at heatherelizabeth.org
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April 05, 2021
Episode 2: Spiritual Abuse
In this episode I share several blog posts I’ve written that outline some of my story, “That’s Not God,” “I Survived Spiritual Abuse” and “I Left Church to Follow Jesus. For more, go to heatherelizabeth.org Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse. https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/.
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April 02, 2021
Episode 1: Held & Healed Introduction
I am held and healed. I am a survivor of domestic violence and spiritual abuse and I am passionate about helping others find hope and healing. In this introduction episode, I share a bit of my story and the plan for this platform. If you are an abuse survivor, you will be blessed by the guests I interview and the stories I share. Visit my website at heatherelizabeth.org Ladies, you are welcome to join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/
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March 29, 2021