Living With Your Child's Addiction
By Heather Ross
Heather went through the same thing with her own daughter’s addiction until she found a new approach. She teaches you a collaborative compassionate approach to support yourself, reduce conflict, encourage change in your child, and even repair your relationship. Learn how to set the tone for your family's healing.
Living With Your Child's AddictionMay 13, 2021
EP97 Saving Lives: The Never Use Alone Hotline’s Role In Overdose Prevention with Guest Mike Brown
In this podcast episode, guest Mike Brown, president and founder of the Never Use Alone Hotline (NUA), shares his journey from substance use to becoming a recovery advocate. Mike started NUA in response to his experience with the treatment industry, focusing on harm reduction and overdose prevention. NUA operates as a peer-led nonprofit, offering support to individuals using substances alone through human connection and non-judgmental assistance. NUA operates nationwide and has partnered with emergency services to ensure timely assistance if needed.
Mike addresses common barriers to calling the hotline, such as lack of trust, and emphasizes the importance of trusted sources sharing information about NUA. He also discusses misconceptions about harm reduction and enabling, highlighting the service's focus on providing connection, support, and hope to callers.
Throughout the discussion, Mike emphasizes the critical role of human connection and compassion in supporting individuals struggling with substance use, challenging traditional approaches to addiction treatment, and advocating for harm reduction practices.
In this episode you will learn:
- The importance of human connection and non-judgmental support in harm reduction and overdose prevention.
- Details about the services provided by NUA and how callers are assisted during substance use.
- Misconceptions about harm reduction and enabling, are clarified through Mike's perspective.
- Success stories from NUA, showcasing the impact of the hotline in saving lives.
Contact Never Use Alone
Call Never Use Alone 877-696-1996 your Overdose Prevention Lifeline.
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching GROUP COACHING PROGRAM - Peace of Mind Group for moms https://heatherrosscoaching.com/peace-of-mind-community/ Get answers and support to help you and your child Sign up for a 45-minute $17 Road to Recovery call with me using the link below https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery Invitation to Change Learning/Support Group Use the link below to find out about the group Heather is hosting. https://heatherrosscoaching.com/invitation-to-change-group/ Guide about enabling - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you! https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
EP96 Respecting Autonomy While Positively Influencing Your Child with Guest Lara Okoloko LCSW
She shares personal insights, reflecting on the power dynamics and responsibilities that come with being a helper, the importance of respect and autonomy in relationships, and the need for a balanced approach to supporting loved ones with substance use disorder.
Her passion for reducing stigma and respecting self-determination in supporting individuals with substance use disorders is evident.
With Lara's expertise and relatable experiences, this episode offers valuable insights and a fresh perspective on navigating the complexities of parent-child relationships and supporting loved ones through their recovery journey.
In this episode, you will be able to:
Uncover the impact of mixed messages when supporting a
loved one with substance use disorder, and how to navigate them effectively.
Embrace humility and respect in relationships to
strengthen your role in your loved one's recovery journey.
Explore the influence and autonomy in parent-child
relationships, and how to strike a healthy balance.
Discover the profound impact of helpers' words and
actions on the recovery journey of their loved ones.
Contact Lara: www.caresnw.com/
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
GROUP COACHING PROGRAM - Peace of Mind Group for moms
heatherrosscoaching.com/peace-of-mind-community/
Get answers and support to help you and your child Sign up for a 45-minute $17 Road to Recovery call with me using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery
Invitation to Change Learning/Support Group Use the link below to find out about the group Heather is hosting.
heatherrosscoaching.com/invitation-to-change-group/
Guide about enabling - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!
heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
The key moments in this episode are:
00:00:02 - Introduction to Laura Okoloko
00:01:26 - Mixed Messages for Parents
00:02:52 - Lack of Positive Influence Recognition
00:05:43 - Influence vs. Control
00:16:36 - Balancing Autonomy and Support
00:18:57 - The Importance of Humility in Coaching
00:22:04 - Finding the Balance of Influence
00:23:36 - Using Influence Deliberately
00:26:33 - Understanding Power Dynamics
00:29:51 - Defining Success in Relationships
00:36:39 - The Power of Words in Helping Relationships
00:38:53 - Power Dynamics in Relationships
00:40:12 - Normalizing Control in Uncontrollable Situations
00:41:45 - Redesigning Support for Substance Use Disorders
00:43:16 - Closing Thoughts and Reflections
EP95 Nourishing Hope: An Expert's Compassionate Approach to Eating Disorders with Guest Alice Baker
Your Questions Answered. A few months back, Heather reached out to her Facebook group to inquire about their burning questions on eating disorders. Why? Because navigating a child's struggle with both substance use and an eating disorder can feel like playing an endless game of whack-a-mole. Just as you address one issue, another one seems to surface. Eating disorders are often as misunderstood as substance use, which is why Heather has been on the lookout for the perfect expert to address your concerns.
Our guest, Alice Baker, is a seasoned professional in the field of eating disorders and is a registered dietitian, licensed therapist, and certified eating disorder specialist with more than 27 years of experience. Alice's personal journey of recovery has fueled her unwavering commitment to supporting individuals on their path to healing. She embraces a weight-inclusive approach and trauma-informed practice, advocating for a peaceful relationship with food and body. Additionally, Alice has adapted the Invitation to Change approach to provide education and support to the families she works with.
From this episode you will:
- Understand different approaches to eating disorder treatment and find what works best for your loved one.
- Discover the impact of parental influence on eating disorders and how to support positive change.
- Learn how to model healthy behaviors for children to promote a positive relationship with food and body image.
- Prioritize self-care as a parent to better support your child's healing process.
Alice Baker contact information:
Provides therapy for residents of Arizona and Florida.
As a dietician, she can work with anybody in Arizona, Florida, Colorado, Virginia, and Michigan.
Website: https://alicelbaker.com/
Instagram: @alicebakerrd
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
BOUNDARIES THAT CREATE CONNECTION MASTERCLASS
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/boundaries-masterclass/
GROUP COACHING PROGRAM - Join the waitlist - New Group Starting soon! Be the first to get details.
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/peace-of-mind-community/
Get answers and support to help you and your child Sign up for a 45-minute $17 Road to Recovery call with me using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery
Invitation to Change Learning/Support Group Use the link below to find out about the group Heather is hosting.
Learn More & Sign Up For The ITC Group
Guide about enabling - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
The key moments in this episode are:
00:00:00 - Introduction to Alice Baker's background
00:02:59 - Adapting "Invitation to Change" for eating disorders
00:04:12 - Personal experience with daughter's eating disorder and substance
use
00:09:48 - Importance of supporting those with co-occurring eating and
substance use disorders
00:18:11 - Eating disorders in boys and men
00:19:17 - Underlying Causes of Eating Disorders
00:21:35 - Effective Treatment Approaches
00:22:43 - Empowering Parents
00:29:48 - Overcoming Malnourished Brain
00:35:31 - Supporting Families
00:37:41 - Changing Relationship with Food
00:38:29 - Setting Boundaries
00:39:42 - Tailoring Approach for Older Children
EP94 Regret Free Interactions and The Art of Connection
Do you want regret free interactions and a stronger connection with your child? The art of authentic communication takes you from resentment to connection. You can find out how to achieve this result while taking care of yourself.
This podcast episode takes an emotional turn, as the host shares her journey of self-awareness and vulnerability. The episode doesn't just offer valuable advice for parents; it's a deeply personal exploration of the nuance of connection.
In this episode, you will:
- Learn how nurturing personal needs cultivates self-awareness and helps us deal with discomfort without reacting negatively.
- Uncover the key to building meaningful connections with your child.
- Understand your child's unique definition of connection and how it can strengthen your bond.
- Learn how to communicate your feelings respectfully and responsibly.
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
GROUP COACHING PROGRAM - Join the waitlist - New Group Starting soon! Be the first to get details.
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/peace-of-mind-community/
Get answers and support to help you and your child Sign up for a 45-minute $17 Road to Recovery call with me using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery
Invitation to Change Learning/Support Group Use the link below to find out about the group Heather is hosting.
Learn More & Sign Up For The ITC Group
Guide about enabling - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
Timestamped summary of this episode:
00:00:00 - The Power of Connection
Heather discusses the importance of connection in relationships, especially when dealing with a loved one struggling with addiction. She emphasizes the art of connection and its influence.
00:02:25 - Updates to the Peace of Mind Program
Heather shares updates to her group coaching program, making it more accessible and accommodating for members in different time zones. She also highlights the added benefits for members, including recorded calls and a free boundary master
class.
00:06:14 - Redefining Connection
Heather explores a mother's guilt about not connecting with her son and shares
her own experience with her daughter, Helena. She emphasizes the importance of
taking time for oneself and sharing feelings from a clean space to foster a
healthy connection.
00:08:24 - The Power of Vulnerability
Heather shares a personal story about expressing her disappointment and worry
to Helanna in a calm and loving manner, which led to a deeper connection and
open communication. She contrasts this with unhealthy ways of expressing
emotions, highlighting the power of vulnerability in building connections.
00:19:24 - The Impact of Words on Connection
Heather reflects on how her past words and actions affected her daughter, Helanna, and acknowledges her responsibility in managing her emotions for a deeper connection.
00:22:07 - Definition of Connection
Heather shares her definition of connection, emphasizing trust, respect, and self-awareness in maintaining a meaningful bond with a child struggling with substance use.
00:23:32 - Importance of Self-Care in Connection
Heather highlights the importance of self-care and authentic communication in maintaining a strong connection with a child, even in challenging circumstances, and understanding their perspective on connection.
00:26:35 - Acceptance and Support
Heather discusses the importance of accepting a child's behavior and providing unwavering support, even during times of substance abuse, to establish a connection based on love and understanding.
00:27:46 - Compassion and Awareness
Heather encourages self-compassion and self-awareness, urging parents to acknowledge their areas of improvement in connection with their child and to show compassion for themselves in this difficult situation.
EP93 Cultivate Connection, Effective Communication, and Insight With Your Child by Understanding Memory Distortion and Recollection
The pain of feeling disconnected from your child can be overwhelming, but there are powerful ways to shift your approach and create the deep, meaningful connection you desire. Empathy, compassion, and effective communication are at the root of human connection. They’re also a critical component of shaping your experience of your child’s addiction.
When you access painful memories with feelings of guilt, blame, and shame you block connection because that creates cycles of defensive behaviors, avoidance, negative self-perception, and emotional withdrawal. Every time you access a memory you distort it. That means you can increase the negative emotional charge of a memory as you ruminate about it creating a profound impact on your relationship with your child, your past, present, and your future. In this episode, Heather illustrates how to break free from those negative patterns and shape your experience intentionally to create a connection with yourself and your child.
In this episode, you will learn:
- How distorting your painful memories perpetuates suffering and what to do instead.
- Why your brain likes to blame.
- How to take control of your own experiences to positively influence your relationship with your child.
- The power of thoughts, beliefs, and memories to transform your parenting approach.
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
If you want answers and support to help you and your child Sign up for a 45-minute $17 Road to Recovery call with me using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery
Invitation to Change Learning/Support Group Use the link below to find out about the group Heather is hosting.
Learn More & Sign Up For The ITC Group
GROUP COACHING PROGRAM - Join the waitlist - New Group Starting soon! Be the first to get details.
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/peace-of-mind-community/
Guide about enabling - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
Timestamps:
00:00:00 - The Power of Thoughts and Memories
Heather discusses the power of thoughts, beliefs, and memories, especially in the context of processing trauma, such as the loss of her daughter, Helanna. She emphasizes the impact of memories on our experiences and the potential for distortion.
00:01:00 - Distorted Memories and Trauma
Heather delves into the idea of distorted memories, highlighting how recollections of events can become less precise with each retrieval, potentially leading to the formation of false memories. She also discusses how trauma amplifies this distortion.
00:06:43 - The Impact of Thoughts and Beliefs
Heather explores the connection between thoughts, beliefs, and memories, emphasizing their influence on our recollection of past events. She highlights the potential for changing past perceptions and how it can shape our present and future experiences.
00:17:41 - Transforming Memories with Compassion
Heather encourages intentional thought choices to infuse past experiences with empathy, leading to a more optimistic
present and future.
00:20:31 - Managing Emotional Triggers Heather discusses the impact of negative memories triggering emotional responses. She contrasts two scenarios, highlighting the importance of curiosity and compassion in managing emotional triggers.
00:21:38 - Reliving the Past Heather explains how reliving negative memories can perpetuate anger and emotional turmoil.
00:22:58 - Shifting Perspectives Heather delves into the power of intentional thinking and reflective processing.
00:23:40 - Taking Control Heather emphasizes the control individuals have over their experiences, despite not being able to control their children's behavior. She highlights the importance of intentional thoughts, feelings, and actions in effecting positive change.
EP92 Unlearning Shame: A Mom's Path to Harm Reduction with Guest Kathleen Cochran
Does this sound familiar? As a parent of a child struggling with addiction, you may have been told to use tough love and set strict rules to help them recover. However, this approach can often lead to feelings of guilt, frustration, and helplessness as you watch your child continue to struggle or get worse. It's time to discover a more effective and compassionate approach to supporting your child in their recovery journey.
Join us as we explore Kathleen Cochran's journey of navigating her child's addiction. Find out how her maternal instincts led her to embrace harm reduction principles. Kathleen's story offers a unique perspective that resonates deeply with parents facing similar struggles. Listen in to uncover the powerful impact of Kathleen's journey and discover how her newfound understanding can offer support and empathy to parents navigating similar paths.
In this episode, you will be able to:
- Discover effective addiction recovery and support strategies for parents.
- Learn how to apply a harm-reduction approach to support your child.
- Explore the benefits of online support for parents in similar situations.
- Learn how to guide your child through addiction with love.
Kathleen's FB Group Moms for All Paths to Recovery https://www.facebook.com/groups/momsforallpaths
Kathleen's blog https://momsforallpaths.substack.com/
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
If you want answers and support to help you and your child Sign up for a 45-minute $17 Road to Recovery call with me using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery
GROUP COACHING PROGRAM - Join the waitlist - New Group Starting in January! Be the first to get details.
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/peace-of-mind-community/
Guide about enabling - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
Invitation to Change Learning/Support Group Use the link below to find out about the Invitation to Change support group Heather is hosting or sign up for the waitlist.
Learn More & Sign Up For The Invitation To Change Group
Follow Heather on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching
Follow Heather on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/
BONUS Episode: Happy Enough Holidays
Do you have a child or loved one struggling with addiction or mental health issues? Are you dreading the holidays?
Happy Enough Holidays is an interactive workshop hosted by Heather Ross and Beth Syverson on Tuesday, November 14th, 4:30 -6:00 pm PST / 7:30 - 9:00 pm EST $20 for a 90-minute interactive workshop.
Here's What You Get:
- A Supportive Immersive Experience: Curate your holiday experience with other parents who face similar challenges and understand you during this live workshop. Custom exercises tailored to your needs and situation to help you create a clear vision for supporting yourself and your child through the holidays.
- Reimagine Your Holidays: Rewrite the rules and set your own standards for the holidays. Uncover newfound clarity, embrace realistic expectations, and let your holiday season be a uniquely crafted experience that’s entirely your own.
- Unlock Your Inner Strength and Resilience: Resilience isn't a fixed trait It's a muscle that can be strengthened. Together we will unlock the power within you to face holiday uncertainty head-on.
- Two Inspiring Coaches: Heather Ross and Beth Syverson are your seasoned guides through this journey. They bring years of expertise and a wealth of knowledge in helping families navigate addiction.
Register at https://heatherrosscoaching.com/happy-enough-holidays-2/
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
If you want answers and support to help you and your child Sign up for a 45-minute $17 Road to Recovery call with me using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery
Invitation to Change Learning/Support Group Use the link below to find out about the Invitation to Change support group Heather is hosting.
Learn More & Sign Up For The Invitation To Change Group
GROUP COACHING PROGRAM - Join the waitlist - New Group Starting in January! Be the first to get details.
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/peace-of-mind-community/
Guide about enabling - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
Follow Heather on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching
Follow Heather Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/
EP91 Discover the Healing Power of Personal Stories: Empowerment Through Embodiment With Author Debby Kerr-Henry
In a world full of responsibilities and societal expectations you may find that instead of the self-discovery and empowerment you crave, you're left feeling disconnected and unseen. It's all too common for women to lose themselves in their various life roles, especially under the immense pressure of helping a child struggling with substance use. Yet, this journey of being lost can often serve as the catalyst for finding your true self, awakening to your heart’s desires, and ultimately unleashing your empowerment as you embrace the path aligned with your true desires for yourself.
Author and speaker Debby Kerr-Henry empowers women to embrace their true selves and live a life of authenticity with embodied storytelling. Through her own personal journey of self-discovery, she has gained valuable insights into the challenges and rewards of embracing one's identity. Debbie's dedication to personal growth and her commitment to continuous learning make her a trusted resource for women seeking self-discovery and empowerment.
In this episode:
- Cultivate a healing environment in your family by embracing personal stories and fostering understanding and empathy.
- Release your conditioning about self-care being selfish and experience the benefits of daily wellness practices and receiving support.
- Discover your inner strength and unlock your full potential through self-empowerment and personal growth.
- Step out of the scripted narrative about who you're supposed to be and embrace embodiment as a transformative tool for self-discovery.
Contact Debby:
Website: https://momentousliving.com/momentous-health/debby-kerr-henry/
Embodiment: https://momentousliving.com/embodiment/3/
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
If you want answers and support to help you and your child Sign up for a 45-minute $17 Road to Recovery call with me using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery
September Invitation to Change Learning/Support Group Use the link below to find out about the Invitation to Change support group Heather is hosting.
Learn More & Sign Up For The Invitation To Change Group
GROUP COACHING PROGRAM - Join the waitlist - New Group Starting in January! Be the first to get details.
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/peace-of-mind-community/
Guide about enabling - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
Follow Heather on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching
Follow Heather on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/
Important moments in this episode are:
00:00:00 - Introduction
00:01:27 - Empowering Others
00:03:39 - Losing Yourself in Caregiving
00:07:34 - Identity and Awakening
00:11:02 - Daily Practices and Support
00:16:58 - The Importance of Personal Change
00:18:23 - Learning from Mistakes and Seeking Self-Improvement
00:19:35 - Balancing Self-Reflection and Self-Acceptance
00:21:47 - The Importance of Family Recovery
00:25:28 - Overcoming Beliefs and Conditioning
00:33:34 - Importance of Prioritizing and Decluttering
00:34:13 - The Wholeness of Embodiment
00:37:14 - Scars as Symbols
00:40:08 - Empowering and Supporting Others
00:42:22 - Everyone Can Write
00:48:55 - Embodiment Workshops
00:49:16 - Show Notes and Updates
00:49:16 - Accessing Information
00:49:16 - Importance of Show Notes
EP90 Understanding The Back and Forth of Ambivalence in Recovery with Guest Pam Lanhart
Heather and Pam Lanhart from Thrive Family Recovery Resources dive deep into a topic that's often misunderstood in the world of recovery: ambivalence. It can be one of the most challenging aspects that families face when dealing with a loved one's journey towards change. Ambivalence is complex but often oversimplified and stigmatized which leads to shame, blame, and labeling. Open and honest conversations about ambivalence are crucial in normalizing it within the change process. It’s important to look at our own struggles with ambivalence to help us understand the struggles and the challenges faced by our loved ones.
Some topics covered in this episode include:
- When your child asks for treatment but doesn’t follow through
- How to respond to the call that your child wants to leave treatment early
- What drives the motivation for change
- Strategies for responding to a return to use
Learn more about Pam and Thrive Family Recovery Resources
https://thrivefamilyrecoveryresources.org/support
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
September Invitation to Change Learning/Support Group Use the link below to find out about the Invitation to Change support group Heather is hosting.
Learn More & Sign Up For The Invitation To Change Group
GROUP COACHING PROGRAM - Join the waitlist - New Group Starting in October! Be the first to get details.
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/peace-of-mind-community/
Guide about enabling - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
If you want answers and support to help you and your child Sign up for a 45-minute $17 call with me using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery
Follow Heather on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching
Follow Heather on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/
EP89 How To Find Peace And Possibility Beyond The Pain With Author Barb Klein Part 2 of 2
Living your life fully and wholeheartedly even when you're in a challenging place. That's the focus of part 2 of Heather's conversation with Barb Klein, Family Recovery Coach and the Author of 111 Invitations Step Into the Full Richness of Life.
Topics covered in this episode:
- How not to abandon yourself
- Honoring yourself
- Cultivating a heart that can hold it all
- The importance of daily practices that work for you
Learn more about Barb Klein
Website https://www.inspiredpossibility.com/resources.html
Book https://www.amazon.com/111-Invitations-Barb-Klein/dp/1504355261/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1470745309&sr=8-1&keywords=111+invitations
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
September Invitation to Change Learning/Support Group Use the link below to find out about the Invitation to Change support group Heather is hosting.
Learn More & Sign Up For The Invitation To Change Group
GROUP COACHING PROGRAM - Join the waitlist - New Group Starting in October! Be the first to get details.
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/peace-of-mind-community/
Guide about enabling - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
If you want answers and support to help you and your child Sign up for a 45-minute $17 call with me using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery
Follow Heather on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching
Follow Heather on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/
EP88 How To Find Peace And Possibility Beyond The Pain With Author Barb Klein Part 1 of 2
Author of 111 Invitations Step Into the Full Richness of Life and Family Recovery Coach Barb Klein shares her experience loving and supporting her son Nate through his struggles with substances and an eating disorder for over 13 years. She shares how it’s important to live your life fully and independent of your child’s experience and find peace and possibility beyond the pain.
Topics covered in this episode:
- Barb’s son Nate and her experience parenting him
- The significance of the words you use to describe your child
- Viewing your child as an empowered adult rather than a sick child
- The challenges of eating disorders
Learn more about Barb Klein
Website https://www.inspiredpossibility.com/resources.html
Book https://www.amazon.com/111-Invitations-Barb-Klein/dp/1504355261/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1470745309&sr=8-1&keywords=111+invitations
International Overdose Awareness Day Website
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
NEW GROUP COACHING PROGRAM - Join the waitlist - New Group Starting Soon!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/peace-of-mind-community/
Guide about enabling - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
If you want answers and support to help you and your child Sign up for a 45-minute $17 call with me using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession
New Learning/Support Group Use the link below to find out about the Invitation to Change support group Heather is hosting.
Learn More & Sign Up For The Invitation To Change Group
Follow Heather on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching
Follow Heather on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/
EP87 Addiction, Recovery, and The Human Condition with Guest Mary Tilson
Mary Tilson is a Certified Professional Recovery Coach, Trauma-informed Yoga and Meditation Teacher, the Founder of Sun & Moon Sober Living, and a person in long-term recovery. There is so much you can learn by listening to Mary's journey from substance use to recovery. Instead of focusing on your differences, Mary’s story offers a chance to recognize our shared human experiences. Look for your common ground, and discover the similarities that connect us all.
In this episode, you'll uncover valuable insights on healing, support, and connecting with your child to create lasting changes within your family.
Topics covered in this episode:
- Mary’s journey to recovery
- How to create the space between impulse and action
- Supporting someone through a reoccurrence of use
- What makes Mary feel supported in recovery
Contact Mary
Website: https://sunandmoonsoberliving.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sunandmoon.soberliving/
Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sun-moon-sober-living-podcast/id1603805157
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
NEW GROUP COACHING PROGRAM - Join the waitlist
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/peace-of-mind-community/
Guide about enabling - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
If you want answers and support to help you and your child Sign up for a 45-minute $17 call with me using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession
New Learning/Support Group Use the link below to find out about the Invitation to Change support group Heather is hosting.
Learn More & Sign Up For The Invitation To Change Group
Follow Heather on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching
Follow Heather on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/
EP86 CRAFT's Family-Centered Healing Approach With Guest Gail Embt From Recovery Club America
Learn the unique advantages of using Community Reinforcement and Family Training (CRAFT) to support your child’s recovery journey with guest Gail Embt, a Certified CRAFT Clinician. CRAFT offers powerful tools, yet many professionals and parents who need it don’t know about it. Whether you’re seeking solutions or understanding, this episode offers valuable insights to support your family.
Topics covered in this episode:
- CRAFT overview
- The benefits of CRAFT for you and your child
- Using existing knowledge to support change
- Navigating setbacks
Contact Gail/Recovery Club America to learn more about Parent Inner Circle
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
NEW GROUP COACHING PROGRAM - Join the waitlist
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/peace-of-mind-community/
Guide about enabling - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
If you want answers and support to help you and your child Sign up for a 45-minute $17 call with me using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery
New Learning/Support Group Use the link below to find out about the Invitation to Change support group Heather is hosting.
Learn More & Sign Up For The Invitation To Change Group
Follow Heather on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching
Follow Heather on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/
EP85 Regulating Emotions to Cultivate Connection with Author Susie Armstrong
In this episode, we hear from Susie Armstrong, a multi-talented writer, healer, actor, artist, mother, and one of the key figures in Heather’s recovery journey for 8 years. Every time you've heard Heather refer to her counselor, she’s talking about Susie.
Susie's journey has been shaped by her unique experiences and her commitment to sharing love through various mediums. As a Life Coach, Certified Hypnotist, and Certified EFT Practitioner, she has guided countless individuals on their paths to self-discovery and personal growth.
Some of the topics discussed in this episode are:
- The difference between reactions and responses and why that matters
- How to regulate your emotions when you feel reactive
- How to identify when you’re triggered and how it affects your relationships
- How triggers relate to beliefs about ourselves
This episode offers a rich tapestry of wisdom and practical advice, meant to inspire you to navigate life's challenges with love, mindfulness, and authentic self-discovery. Whether you're seeking to deepen your connections, overcome triggers, or start your journey of self-forgiveness, Susie's insights provide valuable guidance for all aspects of personal growth.
How to Contact Susie or Find Her Books:
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
NEW GROUP COACHING PROGRAM - Join the waitlist
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/peace-of-mind-community/
Guide about enabling - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
If you want answers and support to help you and your child Sign up for a 45-minute $17 call with me using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery
New Learning/Support Group Use the link below to find out about the Invitation to Change support group Heather is hosting.
Learn More & Sign Up For The Invitation To Change Group
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Join the free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction
EP84 Closing The Gap Between Havoc and Hope With Author Michelle Weidenbenner
Heather talks to Michelle Weidenbenner the founder of Moms Letting Go and the All-Mighty Mom Tribe. Michelle is a passionate advocate, podcaster, and author dedicated to stopping the stigma of substance use disorder and providing hope, courage, and support to moms with addicted loved ones. Her latest book, "Unhackable Moms of Addicted Loved Ones, Closing the Gap between Havoc and Hope," offers a 30-day program for healing.
Topics discussed in this episode:
- Coping with relapse and supporting long-term recovery
- Helping your child see you aren’t blaming or shaming them
- Raising grandkids while also maintaining a connection with your child
- Taking a team approach to recovery
- Self-leadership for moms finding their true purpose
Contact Michelle
Michelle’s free guide https://michelleweidenbenner.com/momslettinggo/
TEDx talk 1 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cnhupByVZew
TEDx talk 2 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V-FBPjseJPM&t=8s
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
NEW GROUP COACHING PROGRAM - Join the waitlist
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/peace-of-mind-community/
Guide about enabling - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
If you want answers and support to help you and your child Sign up for a 45-minute $17 call with me using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery
New Learning/Support Group Use the link below to find out about the Invitation to Change support group Heather is hosting.
Learn More & Sign Up For The Invitation To Change Group
Follow Heather on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching
Follow Heather on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/
Join the free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction
EP83 Practicing Conscious Bravery with author Pamela Brinker
In this episode, we have the pleasure of speaking with author Pamela Brinker, whose book "Conscious Bravery: Caring for Someone with Addiction” explores the intersection of parenting and substance use. Pamela shares her personal experiences and insights, starting with her journey that led her to write the book. We dive into the concept of conscious bravery and how it relates to her work, emphasizing the importance of personal growth even when faced with a child struggling with substance use. We explore the profound impact that her experience with her son's substance use had on her parenting style and the transformative power of waking up to a more conscious way of living.
A few of the topics covered in the episode:
Cultivating conscious bravery
Building discomfort tolerance
Discovering and connecting with your essence
The impact your personal growth has on your child
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
NEW GROUP COACHING PROGRAM - Doors close July 10th so click the link to get all the details and sign up!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/peace-of-mind-community/
Guide about enabling - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
If you want answers and support to help you and your child Sign up for a 45-minute $17 call with me using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery
New Learning/Support Group Use the link below to find out about the Invitation to Change support group Heather is hosting.
Learn More & Sign Up For The Invitation To Change Group
Follow Heather on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching
Follow Heather on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/
Join the free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction
EP82 Your Anger Is A Powerful Messenger
In this episode, Heather discusses the misunderstood emotion of anger and explores its valuable purpose. The discomfort that anger causes can lead to numbing and distracting behaviors that keep you from tapping into anger’s powerful messages. Heather offers 5 insights about anger to help you embrace and learn from it, and a 3 step process to move through your anger. Listen and gain a new perspective on anger and learn to unlock its hidden wisdom.
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
New Support Group Starting in June Use the link below to find out about the Invitation to Change support group Heather is hosting.
Learn More & Sign Up For The Invitation To Change Group
If you're interested in working with me Sign up for a 45-minute $17 Road to Recovery call using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery
GUIDE ABOUT ENABLING - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
Follow Heather on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching
Follow Heather on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/
Join the free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction
EP81 "The Enabler" Stigmatized Just Like Addiction with Guest Andrea Seydel from Saving You is Killing Me
Join Heather and guest Andrea Seydel from the Saving You is Killing Me podcast as they delve into the challenging world of supporting loved ones struggling with addiction. In this episode, they share their experience with the stigmatized beliefs surrounding the term "enabling" and offer alternative perspectives that prioritize compassion, support, and understanding.
Together they explore the negative connotations associated with the term "enabler" and challenge the beliefs that perpetuate shame and judgment. Heather and Andrea invite listeners to reframe their perspectives in order to create an environment that fosters healing, growth, and positive change for both their loved ones and themselves.
Tune in to discover how shifting our mindset and embracing compassionate support can transform the way we approach recovery. A few topics covered in this episode:
· Rethinking the term enabling
· Heather and Andrea’s personal experiences
· The dangers of shame, silence, and stigmatized help
· Helpful vs unhelpful helping
· Normalizing the desire to help
· The importance of self-care
Previous episodes Andrea was on :
Episode # 15 Saving You is Killing Me
Episode # 48 The Struggle is Real, How to do it Well
Learn more about Andrea & SYKM: https://www.savingyouiskillingme.com/starthere
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
New Support Group Starting in June Use the link below to find out about the Invitation to Change support group Heather is hosting.
Learn More & Sign Up For The Invitation To Change Group
If you're interested in working with me Sign up for a 45-minute $17 Road to Recovery call using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery
GUIDE ABOUT ENABLING - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
Follow Heather on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching
Follow Heather on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/
Join the free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction
EP80 Transforming Together - A Mother's Personal Recovery Process with Guest Marcie Steinberg
Heather and guest Marcie Steinberg discuss her journey of reliance and transformation. Hear her heartfelt account of learning that attending a wilderness program was just the first step in her son’s recovery journey and how she pivoted to learn the skills she needed to walk beside her son on her own recovery journey.
Some topics discussed in this episode:
Learning that addiction/recovery is a marathon, not a sprint
Coping with your adolescent child being away from home while attending a long-term recovery program
Lessons learned when her son came home from treatment without enough support
The services Marcie used to help her navigate supporting her son
Marcie’s personal journey of recovery and finding hope
Contact Marcie:
msteinberg0204@gmail.com
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
GUIDE ABOUT ENABLING - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
If you want answers and support to help you and your child Sign up for a 45-minute $17 call with me using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery
GROUP COACHING PROGRAM – Peace of Mind Group for moms
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/peace-of-mind-community/
New Learning/Support Group Use the link below to find out about the Invitation to Change support group Heather is hosting.
Learn More & Sign Up For The Invitation To Change Group
Follow Heather on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching
Follow Heather on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/
Join the free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction
EP79 From Grandparents to Parents, Navigating the Complexities of Relative Caregivers With Guest Catherine Becker
In this episode, Heather speaks with Catherine Becker, founder of the nonprofit group Joys and Challenges of Relative Caregivers, along with her daughter Katie, who shares her perspective as someone in recovery from substance use disorder and a mother whose children were adopted by her parents.
Catherine shares her experience of becoming a full-time parent to her grandchildren. She explains how she started her nonprofit group to provide support and connection for relative caregivers, and how it has grown to provide financial assistance, programs for families, and a 24/7 online interactive forum.
Katie shares her emotional experience of losing her children when her parents adopted them, how her mother's love and support helped her get into recovery, and how her recent recovery has brought her back into co-parenting with her mother. Catherine and Katie also discuss how this situation affects relationships with other family members and offer advice for other relative caregivers.
Website: Joys and Challenges of Relative Caregivers
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
GUIDE ABOUT ENABLING - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
If you want answers and support to help you and your child Sign up for a 45-minute $17 call with me using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery
GROUP COACHING PROGRAM – Peace of Mind Group for moms - Join the waitlist
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/peace-of-mind-community/
New Learning/Support Group Use the link below to find out about the Invitation to Change support group Heather is hosting.
Learn More & Sign Up For The Invitation To Change Group
Follow Heather on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching
Follow Heather on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/
Join the free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction
EP78 Mom, Wife, and Addiction: The Ripple Effect of Stigma, Shame, and Values with guest Amanda Lockyer from Addiction Makes Three
Addiction within a family can be a challenging experience, particularly when more than one family member is affected. Whether it's a child or a spouse, the common thread is the experience of stigma and shame. In this episode, guest Amanda Lockyer from Addiction Makes Three, shares her experience as a wife, and Heather shares her experience as a mother. They candidly discuss how shame and stigma made everything harder for them at the beginning of their journeys with their loved ones. Both women felt isolated without support and disconnected from their loved ones. As they reflect on their journeys, they discuss how shame, stigma, and fear caused them to stray from their values as a wife and mother. Despite these challenges, Amanda and Heather share their journeys towards self-compassion and self-forgiveness, which helped them become better support systems for their loved ones. They reflect on how getting back in touch with their values helped them tap into their internal guidance systems and support their loved ones from a place of compassion and understanding. Tune in to this episode to learn more about the challenges that families face when living with substance use, and how it's possible to overcome shame and stigma to become a better support system for your loved ones and yourself.
Amanda Lockyer is an addiction relationship coach for women. She helps women who have been impacted by their partner's addiction find inner peace and take back control of their lives. You can find Amanda and follow her on Instagram or go to her website .
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
GUIDE ABOUT ENABLING - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery
GROUP COACHING PROGRAM – Peace of Mind Group for moms
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/peace-of-mind-community/
New Learning/Support Group Use the link below to find out about the Invitation to Change support group Heather is hosting.
Learn More & Sign Up For The Invitation To Change Group
Follow Heather on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching
Follow Heather on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/
Join the free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction
EP77 Q&A with Jeff Foote, PhD author of Beyond Addiction How Science & Kindness Help People Change
Jeff Foote, PhD co-founder of the Center For Motivation and Change and author of Beyond Addiction How Science and Kindness Help People Change answers questions submitted by members of Heather's Invitation to Change groups and Facebook group.
Topics covered in this episode:
- Talking to your child about substance use when there are no green light moments
- How parents can use Motivational Interviewing in conversations with their child
- Processing fears about relapse and helping with relapse prevention
- How to introduce mental health professionals to the concepts in Beyond Addiction
- Why your child that's using substances can't show gratitude for the help you offer them
You can download the first chapter and purchase the Beyond Addiction Workbook here: https://beyondaddictionworkbook.comLearn more about CMC Foundation For Change
Relapse prevention book mentioned in the episode
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
GUIDE ABOUT ENABLING - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
GROUP COACHING PROGRAM – Peace of Mind Group for moms
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/peace-of-mind-community/
If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery
There's a new parent support group in Town. Use the link below to find out about the Invitation to Change support group Heather is hosting.
Learn More & Sign Up For The Invitation To Change Group
Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching
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Join the free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction
EP76 Why Emotional Eating Doesn't Fix Worry, Stress, or Anxiety with guest Corinne Crabtree
Prioritizing your physical, emotional, and mental health is essential when navigating the challenges of supporting a child struggling with substances. Taking care of yourself is not selfish, but rather necessary for your own well-being so you can support your child in a sustainable way. Today's guest Corinne Crabtree is a master weight and life coach. Her program isn’t about WHAT you eat, it’s about WHY you eat when you’re not hungry and how to take better care of yourself. Self-care encompasses various aspects, including how you eat, sleep, and think about yourself. It's important to practice self-compassion, forgive yourself for any perceived failures, and cultivate positive self-talk. Your mindset and self-perception play a crucial role in your overall well-being. Developing a healthy self-concept can greatly contribute to your ability to manage the difficult circumstances you face when you have a child struggling with substances.
Topics covered in this episode:
- How to take care of yourself during hard seasons in life
- What emotional eating is and why we do it
- How eating and thoughts are connected
- Why it's hard to stick with behavior changes
Link to Corinne’s Free Weightloss Course & WebsiteListen and Subscribe to the Losing 100 Pounds Podcast
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
GUIDE ABOUT ENABLING - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
GROUP COACHING PROGRAM – Peace of Mind Group for moms
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/peace-of-mind-community/
If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery
There's a new parent support group in Town. Use the link below to find out about the Invitation to Change support group Heather is hosting.
Learn More & Sign Up For The Invitation To Change Group
Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching
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Join the free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction
EP75 Challenging Beliefs About What "It Works" Means With Guest Cordelia Kraus from Helping Families Help
Heather and guest Cordelia Kraus talk about addiction, recovery, and parenting while challenging traditional beliefs and exploring alternative perspectives and approaches to what “it works” means. Their hope is to provide insights, information, and support while encouraging thoughtful reflection and understanding in navigating the complexities of addiction and recovery within a family context.
The statement "it works" generally implies that a particular approach or strategy is effective in achieving its intended outcome. Many parents’ only intended outcome is for their child to achieve and maintain abstinence or sobriety. This may not be applicable or effective for everyone though. Recovery from substance use disorder is a complex and individualized process, and different approaches may be more appropriate for different people based on their unique circumstances, motivations, and preferences.
It's crucial for parents to be open to understanding and respecting their children's perspectives and desires, and to consider a range of approaches that may be appropriate for their child's unique needs, rather than imposing a one-size-fits-all approach based on preconceived notions of what "it works" means. An effective response to substance use involves flexibility, adaptability, and a willingness to collaborate with your child to find approaches that truly work for their well-being and growth. Cordelia Kraus, LPC, CADC- became passionate about working with families struggling with their loved one's substance use after going through her own experiences as a mom. Cordelia runs the website HelpingFamiliesHelp.com: a website that connects families with CRAFT-based resources and offers community and support for the providers who serve them. She has a private practice in Portland, Oregon.
Topics discussed in this episode:
- What “it works” means
- How to show up with love in times of fear
- What the CRAFT 70% number really means
- A more inclusive definition of recovery
- The pitfall of wanting to go back to your pre-substance use life
Check out the website Helping Families Help
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
NEW GUIDE ABOUT ENABLING - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery
There's a new parent support group in Town. Use the link below to find out about the Invitation to Change support group Heather is hosting.
Learn More & Sign Up For The Invitation To Change Group
Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching
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Join the free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction
EP74 The Compassion Antidote With Guest Cathy Taughinbaugh
Heather Interviewed parent coach Cathy Taughinbaugh. As a result of her journey with her own child's drug use, Cathy wanted to become an advocate for parents and create awareness about substance use disorder. Cathy is the author of The Compassion Antidote: A Path to Change for You and Your Child Struggling with Substance Use. She is also the creator of the Regain Your Hope online course. Cathy has Level 1 Certification in Invitation to Change and facilitates ITC groups. Her mission is to support parents through the struggle of having a child misuse drugs or alcohol.
A Few Topics Covered in This Episode:
- What family recovery is
- The unique perspective of Cathy's book The Compassion Antidote: A Path to Change for You and Your Child Struggling with Substance Use
- How Cathy helps parents work through their fears about enabling
- Lessons Cathy has learned over the many years she's been parent coaching
- What to do when nothing has helped your family so far
Learn more about Cathy Tuaghinbaugh:
Website: www.cathytaughinbaugh.com
Book: https://cathytaughinbaugh.com/books/
Course: https://cathytaughinbaugh.com/regain-your-hope/
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
NEW GUIDE ABOUT ENABLING - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery
GROUP COACHING PROGRAM – Join the waitlist – New Group Starting soon! Be the first to get details. https://heatherrosscoaching.com/peace-of-mind-community/
There's a new parent support group in Town. Use the link below to find out about the Invitation to Change support group Heather is hosting.
Learn More & Sign Up For The Invitation To Change Group
Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching
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Join the free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction
EP73 Testing Genetics & Biochemical Pathways Leads To Individual Treatment Rather Than A One Size Fits All Approach With Dr. Evelyn Higgins
Addiction is influenced by bio-psycho-social factors, yet biology has been mostly left out of treatment considerations - until now. Dr Evelyn Higgins from Wired For Addiction® created a genetic test that measures brain chemicals, hormones, and specific genes linked to risk taking, impulse control, addiction, depression, and anxiety. Measuring those risk factors takes the guesswork out of treatment and make it specific to each person’s individual needs.
In this episode you will learn:
How the Wired For Addiction genetic test works
How the results of the test are used to form an individualized holistic approach to treatment
How our environment impacts our genetic expression
Find out more about Wired For Addition:
Website https://www.wiredforaddiction.com/
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
NEW GUIDE ABOUT ENABLING - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
GROUP COACHING PROGRAM – Join the waitlist – New Group Starting soon! Be the first to get details. https://heatherrosscoaching.com/peace-of-mind-community/
If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery
There's a new parent support group in Town. Use the link below to find out about the Invitation to Change support group Heather is hosting.
Learn More & Sign Up For The Invitation To Change Group
Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching
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Join the free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction
EP72 How Adoption Trauma Can Contribute To Substance Use With Guest Beth Syverson
Adoptees are almost twice as likely to develop substance use disorder. That statistic gave Beth Syverson insight into why her adopted son Joey was struggling with substances. Beth is using her lived experience to help adoptive parents who are coming "out of the fog" and realizing the adoption that created their family also created trauma for their child. Even if you haven't been touched by adoption this episode will give you insight into the impact of trauma and mental health struggles.
Learn more about Beth Syverson, the Unraveling Adoption podcast, and APtitude support group:
https://www.unravelingadoption.com/
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
NEW GUIDE ABOUT ENABLING - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
GROUP COACHING PROGRAM – Join the waitlist – New Group Starting soon! Be the first to get details. https://heatherrosscoaching.com/peace-of-mind-community/
If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery
There's a new parent support group in Town. Use the link below to find out about the Invitation to Change support group Heather is hosting.
Learn More & Sign Up For The Invitation To Change Group
Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching
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Join the free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction
EP 71 What To Do With The Shame Piles In Your Mind & Closet With Guest Judith Gaton
Shame doesn't just show up in your mind, it shows up in your closet too. When you're struggling with your child's addiction and life is throwing challenge after challenge your way; self-care and what you put on your body might not be a priority. Heather talks with master certified coach and personal stylist Judith Gaton about how your thoughts and feelings about yourself are reflected in what you wear and how you care for yourself.
A few of the topics covered in the episode:
- Nothing is wrong with you if the pants don't fit
- Going through your closet & thoughts to decide what to keep
- It's not about dressing up, it's about taking care of yourself
Want to learn more about Judith?
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
NEW GUIDE ABOUT ENABLING - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
GROUP COACHING PROGRAM – Join the waitlist – New Group Starting soon! Be the first to get details. https://heatherrosscoaching.com/peace-of-mind-community/
If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery
There's a new parent support group in Town. Use the link below to find out about the Invitation to Change support group Heather is hosting.
Learn More & Sign Up For The Invitation To Change Group
Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching
Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/
Join the free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction
EP70 How to Forgive Yourself
Do you feel guilty or blame yourself a lot? Forgiving yourself is the path to emotional freedom and connection. If you feel guilty about something you did or didn't do or you're blaming yourself for your child's substance use then forgiving yourself is how you work through it. If you don't forgive yourself, the guilt and blame keep you stuck. In this episode, Heather gives you 5 steps to self-forgiveness.
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
NEW GUIDE ABOUT ENABLING - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
GROUP COACHING PROGRAM – Join the waitlist – New Group Starting soon! Be the first to get details. https://heatherrosscoaching.com/peace-of-mind-community/
If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery
There's a new parent support group in Town. Use the link below to find out about the Invitation to Change support group Heather is hosting.
Learn More & Sign Up For The Invitation To Change Group
Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching
Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/
Join the free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction
EP69 How To Get Relief From Your Anxiety TODAY
Every parent experiences anxiety worrying about their kids, but parents who are watching a child struggle with substance use experience even more intense levels of anxiety and more instances of it.
It doesn't have to be that way though. You can start changing your anxiety experience today. All you have to do is take the time to bring yourself into the present moment so you can define the emotion under the anxiety, listen to what that emotion is telling you, process it, and reframe your thoughts about it.
In this episode you will learn:
- What anxiety is and why it's important
- The four ways we react to anxiety
- The source of anxiety
- The steps you can take to manage it TODAY
This episode was previously published 1/21/21
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
New Support Group Starting in June Use the link below to find out about the Invitation to Change support group Heather is hosting.
Learn More & Sign Up For The Invitation To Change Group
If you're interested in working with me Sign up for a 45-minute $17 Road to Recovery call using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery
GROUP COACHING PROGRAM – Join the waitlist – New Group Starting soon! Be the first to get details. https://heatherrosscoaching.com/peace-of-mind-community/
GUIDE ABOUT ENABLING - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
Follow Heather on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching
Follow Heather on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/
Join the free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction
EP68 Sober Powered Support Group With Guest Gillian Tietz
Heather talks to guest Gillian Tietz who is the host of Sober Powered, a top 50 mental health podcast, and the founder of Sober Powered Media, a podcast network with 5 other top mental health podcasts. Gill was Heather's first guest on the podcast for episode #9. In that episode, they talked about some of the science behind substance use. This time Gill is here to talk about her Living a Sobered Powered Life support group. Many parents feel like they are their child's only support person. Family support is critical, but your child needs additional support options from people who understand them if they are struggling.
In this episode we discuss:
- Details about the Living a Sober Powered Life support group
- Why all paths to recovery are valid and important
- The value of support on the recovery journey
- A peak behind the scenes of Sober Powered Media
Episodes To Listen To Next:
Episode 9 The Science and Psychology of Addiction with Gill from The Sober Powered Podcast
EP 58 How To Remove Barriers To Your Child's Recovery
EP 56 Rehab Expectations VS Reality From A Mother's Perspective
Learn More about the Living a Sober Powered Life Support Group
https://www.instagram.com/sober.powered/
Listen to the Sober Powered Podcast on Apple
Listen to the Sober Powered Podcast on Spotify
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
NEW GUIDE ABOUT ENABLING - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
GROUP COACHING PROGRAM – Join the waitlist – New Group Starting soon! Be the first to get details. https://heatherrosscoaching.com/peace-of-mind-community/
If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery
There's a new parent support group in Town. Use the link below to find out about the Invitation to Change support group Heather is hosting.
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EP67 Are You More Influenced by Stigma Than Science?
Today marks one year since Helanna passed away from a fentanyl overdose. This podcast would not exist without Helanna so her interview is being released again to honor her memory. It is one of the most listened-to episodes on the podcast. Heather also shares some of the realizations she's had since Helanna passed, in an updated intro to the episode.
Link to find Naloxone If you can't find Naloxone using the link, search for a recovery alliance or harm reduction organization in your county.
Original Episode Show Notes: This week I got to interview my daughter. You've been hearing my experience of her addiction so I think that it's important to hear what her experience was like.
Some of the questions I asked:
- I learned a few new things and had some realizations while listening to her insight and I ended up sharing some things I've never shared before.
- What was it like when I expected her to be ok to make me feel better instead of me being stable for her?
- What else did I do that wasn’t helpful to her?
- What did I do that was helpful to her?
- Is there anything I could have done differently to help her not struggle with addiction?
- What did she get out of using substances?
- What made her want to get sober?
- What has relapsing taught her?
- What makes her feel supported in sobriety?
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
NEW GUIDE ABOUT ENABLING - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
GROUP COACHING PROGRAM – Join the waitlist – New Group Starting soon! Be the first to get details. https://heatherrosscoaching.com/peace-of-mind-community/
If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery
There's a new parent support group in Town. Use the link below to find out about the Invitation to Change support group Heather is hosting.
Learn More & Sign Up For The Invitation To Change Group
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EP66 What if your child Says They Want to Quit Using Substances, but doesn't quit?
Did you know we can want two things that contradict each other at the same time? It's called ambivalence and it's a complex emotion. It’s part of the messiness of being human. When we feel complex competing emotions the last thing we want is someone to minimize how we feel by oversimplifying it, yet that’s what we do when we label our kid’s ambivalence about substances as denial or accuse them of not being serious about recovery. It's possible for your child to want to quit using substances and keep using them.
3 things you’ll learn in this episode:
- Ambivalence is normal
- Ways we all experience ambivalence
- How to leverage understanding your child’s behavior
Episodes to listen to next:
EP 58 The 6 Stages of Change and Strategies for Motivating Change in Each Stage
Ep 54 Harm Reduction with guest Lara Okoloko, LICSW
3 Steps To Create Holiday Peace & Maybe Even Some Joy Blog Post
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
NEW GUIDE ABOUT ENABLING - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
GROUP COACHING PROGRAM – Join the waitlist – New Group Starting soon! Be the first to get details. https://heatherrosscoaching.com/peace-of-mind-community/
If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery
There's a new parent support group in Town. Use the link below to find out about the Invitation to Change support group Heather is hosting.
Learn More & Sign Up For The Invitation To Change Group
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Join the free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction
EP65 How Breathwork Eases Stress and Helps You Stay in The Present Moment
Heather interviewed Certified Master Breathwork Facilitator Victoria Starr. Your breath is your body's only system that is voluntary and under your control. Intentional breathing can reduce anxiety, help with sleep and digestion, increase energy, boost the immune system, and lower blood pressure. You experience the most peace in the present moment, even during stressful situations. Projecting into the future, getting stuck in negative thought loops, and disconnecting from your body changes your breathing and keeps you stuck in fight or flight. Changing your breathing pattern has an immediate impact on your mind and body.
A few things you'll learn from the episode:
- What RESET breathwork is and how it is different from other breathwork
- The difference between the sympathetic and parasympathetic nervous system and why understanding them matters
- How we store unprocessed emotions in our body and the problems it causes
Episodes to listen to next:
EP 29 How To Quiet Your Mind Without Meditating in Silence
EP 38 How To Have Self Compassion
How to contact Victoria:
Sign up for virtual breath work: Virtual Breathwork page
Website: victorialeestarr.com
FB: Victoria Starr
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
NEW GUIDE ABOUT ENABLING - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
GROUP COACHING PROGRAM – Join the waitlist – New Group Starting soon! Be the first to get details. https://heatherrosscoaching.com/peace-of-mind-community/
If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery
There's a new parent support group in Town. Use the link below to find out about the Invitation to Change support group Heather is hosting.
Learn More & Sign Up For The Invitation To Change Group
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Join the free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction
Ep 64 The Difference Between Worry, Stress, Anxiety, and Overwhelm and How To Regulate Them
Do you know that the amount of stress you feel and the intensity of the emotions you feel along with it are based on your beliefs about your ability to handle the situation? The amount of stress you feel comes from your thoughts rather than the situation. That means stress can be reduced by gaining the skills you need to handle the situation and being intentional with how you think about it. Otherwise, you get stuck worrying, not learning the skills you need and you increase your stress instead of regulating it. When you understand the difference between worry, stress, anxiety, and overwhelm and understand where they happen in your body and how they affect you, you are no longer at the effect of them. Understanding these nuances creates emotional intelligence. This helps you relieve stress, diffuse conflict, and overcome challenges when you're living with your child's addiction.
Episodes to Listen to next:
EP 10 How To Create Authority Over Your Anxiety
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Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
If you want answers and support to help you and your child Sign up for a 45-minute $17 Road to Recovery call with me using the link below
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September Invitation to Change Learning/Support Group Use the link below to find out about the Invitation to Change support group Heather is hosting.
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GROUP COACHING PROGRAM - Join the waitlist - New Group Starting in January! Be the first to get details.
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/peace-of-mind-community/
Guide about enabling - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
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Ep 63 Family Recovery, A Return to Health and Well-Being with Guest Pam Lanhart
In celebration of National Recovery Month, Heather talks to guest Pam Lanhart about her own family's recovery and how she supports other families in their recovery. Pam is passionate about helping families use evidence-based best practices to help families find peace, stay regulated, create the conditions that support recovery and move their loved ones toward change. She believes that a healthy family gives their loved ones the best opportunity to activate recovery. Pam is a certified family recovery coach, peer recovery specialist, Invitation to Change and CRAFT practitioner and Arise trained interventionist.
3 topics you'll hear in this episode:
1. What recovery as a parent means to Pam
2. How her recovery has changed her life
3. Pam's advice for parents that feel like things will never get better
Pam's Resources:
Thrive Family Recovery Resources: https://thrivefamilyrecoveryresources.org/
Pam's website and book https://pamlanhart.com/
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Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
New Support Group Starting in June Use the link below to find out about the Invitation to Change support group Heather is hosting.
Learn More & Sign Up For The Invitation To Change Group
If you're interested in working with me Sign up for a 45-minute $17 Road to Recovery call using the link below
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GUIDE ABOUT ENABLING - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
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Free CRAFT Workshop - Make Sure You Sign Up!
Heather is hosting a free CRAFT workshop about positive communication Wednesday, September 21st at 7 PM EST. Studies show that 70% of people who use CRAFT are likely to get their loved ones to seek treatment within a year. CRAFT also helps family members improve their own lives whether their loved one seeks treatment or not.
CRAFT is an acronym for Community Reinforcement And Family Training - a scientifically supported, evidence-based, clinically proven approach to helping families of substance users. CRAFT originated at the University of New Mexico and was developed by Robert Meyers, Ph.D., and colleagues. Research and clinical trials have given evidence that with the right tools, families can effect change.
CRAFT has 3 goals:
1. Teach you skills to take care of yourself
2. Teach you skills to help your loved one change
3. To reduce substance use
Ep 62 How CRAFT and Coaching Transform Relationships With Guests Beth Syverson and Joey Nakao
Beth, Joey, and Heather talk about how CRAFT (Community Reinforcement and Family Training) and coaching transformed their family so you can hear real-life examples of how this work can change your family too. The highlights of this episode are hearing how Joey feels about the changes he made and how Beth's mindset has shifted about Joey's substance use and the peace of mind she creates for herself. Joey doesn't know how CRAFT or coaching works, but he knows how it feels to him. That's a beautiful testament to how much impact and influence you can have as a parent.
Some of the main topics discussed:
- How taking the focus off your child and putting it on yourself impacts your family's experience of your child's addiction.
- It's important to redefine parenting when your child is struggling with addiction - what worked before will no longer work.
- Connection is the goal instead of sobriety.
Episodes to listen to next:
- Ep 40 Supporting your child's healing journey with Guests Beth Syverson, Joey Nakao, and Jan Mabie From Safe Home Podcast
- Ep 22 What if you didn't have a child struggling with addiction?
- Ep 41 Interview With My Daughter Helanna Johnson Part 1
Listen to the Safe Home Podcast
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
NEW GUIDE ABOUT ENABLING - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
GROUP COACHING PROGRAM – Join the waitlist – New Group Starting soon! Be the first to get details. https://heatherrosscoaching.com/peace-of-mind-community/
If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery
There's a new parent support group in Town. Use the link below to find out about the Invitation to Change support group Heather is hosting.
Learn More & Sign Up For The Invitation To Change Group
Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching
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Join the free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction
BONUS Why You Should Focus On Your Similarities With Your Child Instead of Your Differences
On August 31st, 2021 Heather spoke at the Volusia County Recovery Alliance Keeping Hope event. It was their 4th annual overdose awareness and remembrance day held in Daytona, Florida. The event is in honor of International Overdose Awareness Day which acknowledges the grief felt by families and friends and remembers those who have died due to drug overdose. The day helps reduce the stigma of Substance Use Disorder (SUD), showing that recovery is possible and that overdoses can be prevented.
Heather's speech focuses on:
1. Remembering and honoring Helanna
2. What Heather wants others to know regarding the stigma associated with overdose
3. Her encouragement and guidance for others who have lost a loved one
https://www.overdoseday.com/
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Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
NEW GUIDE ABOUT ENABLING - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
GROUP COACHING PROGRAM – Join the waitlist – New Group Starting soon! Be the first to get details. https://heatherrosscoaching.com/peace-of-mind-community/
If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery
There's a new parent support group in Town. Use the link below to find out about the Invitation to Change support group Heather is hosting.
Learn More & Sign Up For The Invitation To Change Group
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EP 61 A Mother's Search For Peace With Guest Susan Lynch
Heather Interviews author Susan Lynch. Her memoir Life After Kevin A Mother's Search for Peace and the Golden Retrievers that Led the Way is a story about finding meaning when life challenges you in the hardest ways, healing through community, spiritual connection, and the transformation that comes from learning how to sit with intensely painful emotions to gain answers and clarity.
Susan’s son Kevin died from multiple drug intoxication in 2015. She kept the cause of his death a secret for 2 years because of shame and stigma. Shame separates us from community and connection. It also keeps us from seeing that we need help.
3 Things you'll learn in this episode:
- How Shame kept Susan silent and the impact it had on her grief
- How Susan's dogs helped her heal
- Connecting with and receiving guidance from someone that has died
If you would like to pre-order Susan's book use this link www.susan-lynch.com/book-order.
To learn more about Susan go to her website www.susan-lynch.com.
Episodes to Listen to next:
Ep 51 How to Stop Fixing Your Child and Start Connecting With Them
Ep 52 Why Parents Need Recovery Too
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Additional resources:
GROUP COACHING PROGRAM – Join the waitlist – New Group Starting soon! Be the first to get details. https://heatherrosscoaching.com/peace-of-mind-community/
Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY
http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/
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EP 60 Sobriety Can't Be Your Only Measure For Success
Do you feel like you're failing because your child isn't sober yet? Supporting your child through their addiction is a marathon, not a sprint. The belief that "it's not working" can be very painful and cause you a lot of frustration. It can also make it harder for you to regulate your emotions around your child. When you have other measures for success on your journey, then you create rewards for yourself for the changes you're making and the tools you're learning and using. Those rewards give you the momentum you need to keep moving forward. They also make it easier for you to connect with your child.
Episodes to Listen to next:
Ep 5 Control - Why You Do it and How To Stop
Ep 54 Harm Reduction with guest Lara Okoloko, LICSW
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Additional resources:
Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY
http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/
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EP 59 What To Do BEFORE You Set A Boundary
Heather shares 3 steps that will set the tone for how you and your child experience the boundaries you set. These steps will also make it easier for you to uphold the boundaries after you set them.
This episode is a prequal to episode #10 about how to set boundaries. It’s what you need to do BEFORE you set a boundary.
The 3 steps are:
1. Like your reason for setting the boundary
2. Decide ahead of time what you think about the boundary
3. Know your yes
Episodes to Listen to next:
2. Episode #27 Approaching Addiction With Love
3. Episode #21 How To Create Relationships That Serve You
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Additional resources:
Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY
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EP 58 Motivating Change: Insights Into The Stages of Recovery
Heather talks about the stages of change model. Making major changes that last concerning substance use is not easy for our kids. Knowing and understanding the stage of change your child is in will help you know what to do to support them and remove barriers to make it easier for them to move to the next stage.
3 things you’ll learn from the episode:
The 6 stages of change
What happens in each stage
Strategies for motivating change and offering support at each stage
Episodes to Listen to next:
2. Episode #24 Mastering Your Response To Your Child’s Addiction
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Additional resources:
GROUP COACHING PROGRAM – Join the waitlist – New Group Starting soon! Be the first to get details. https://heatherrosscoaching.com/peace-of-mind-community/
Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY
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EP 57 Why Early Recovery Is So Challenging With Guest Nicole Miller
Heather and guest Nicole Miller who is a certified drug and alcohol counselor and teaches addiction pharmacology to college students talk about how the brain is affected by substance use. The better we understand addiction the easier it is for us to collaborate with and support our kids. It also helps us take it less personally and have more compassion. 3 things you’ll learn from the episode: How drug use affects the reward center of the brain Why early recovery is so challenging What Medication Assisted Treatment (MAT) is and how it helps someone in recovery. Episodes to Listen to next: Episode #27 Approaching Addiction with Love Episode #7 The Difference Between Discomfort And Suffering Episode #26 The Benefits of Making Decisions and How To Get Started Nicole Miller’s Email - nic.triplett@gmail.com If this podcast has helped you, please help Heather reach other parents by leaving a review. Leaving a review is like referring the podcast to someone who needs it. You can also share the podcast directly with other parents or share it on social media. Make sure you're subscribed so you don't miss any new episodes. If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery Additional resources:
GROUP COACHING PROGRAM – Join the waitlist – New Group Starting soon! Be the first to get details. https://heatherrosscoaching.com/peace-of-mind-community/ Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/ Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/ Join the free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction
EP 56 Rehab Expectations VS Reality From A Mother's Perspective
Heather and returning guest Kelly Hatcher talk about what it was like when their kids went to rehab. They both experienced a major gap between their expectations about what rehab and sobriety would be like vs reality. Addiction and recovery are complex. Rehab and sobriety are stops on a lifetime journey. They are not destinations. Heather and Kelly hope that that by sharing their experience it will make rehab and sobriety easier for you and help you support your child as well.
3 things you’ll take away from the episode:
The unrealistic expectations Heather and Kelly had before their kids went to rehab (maybe you have the same expectations)
Their reality check – what the experience was really like
Heather & Kelly’s advice for you based on their experiences with multiple rehabs
Episodes to Listen to next:
Episode #34 What To Do When You’re In A Funk (guest Kelly Hatcher)
Episode #52 Why Parents Need Recovery Too
Episode #30 Celebrating Your Life In The Middle of Addiction (guest Kelly Hatcher)
Kelly Hatcher’s Website:
https://newdayfamilyrecovery.com/
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Additional resources:
GROUP COACHING PROGRAM – Join the waitlist – New Group Starting soon! Be the first to get details. https://heatherrosscoaching.com/peace-of-mind-community/
Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY
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EP 55 90 Seconds To A Life You Love With Dr. Joan Rosenberg
When you're supporting your child through addiction, there are many uncomfortable and even painful experiences. The more capacity you have to tolerate emotional pain, the more capable and confident you feel about yourself and your ability to support your child. A willingness to learn from any experience, openness to change, and the capacity to express unpleasant feelings leads to emotional strength and resilience. Being able to experience your own emotional pain also makes it easier for you to tolerate the discomfort of your child's emotional pain as well. It also makes it easier to engage in difficult conversations. Emotional mastery is an essential skill to help you through your journey with your child's addiction.
Topics Discussed In This Episode:
How emotions only last 90 seconds
Why some emotions seem to last longer than 90 seconds
How allowing and feeling your unpleasant emotions leads to a life you love
Why we use distractions to avoid feelings
Buy 90 Seconds To A Life You Love
Episodes to listen to next:
Episode 16 Self Coaching Model
Episode 17 Processing Feelings = High Quality of Life
Episode 18 Understanding Buffering Can Help You Understand Addiction
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GROUP COACHING PROGRAM – Join the waitlist – New Group Starting soon! Be the first to get details. https://heatherrosscoaching.com/peace-of-mind-community/
Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY
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Ep 54 Harm Reduction with guest Lara Okoloko, LCSW
Harm reduction is a set of practical strategies and ideas aimed at reducing negative consequences associated with drug use. It incorporates a spectrum of strategies that includes safer use, managed use, abstinence, meeting people who use drugs “where they’re at,” and addressing conditions of use along with the use itself. Harm reduction is critical to keeping people who use drugs alive and as healthy as possible. Some of the topics discussed in this episode: The 8 principles of harm reduction Examples of harm reduction strategies for family members How harm reduction helps with stigma Boundaries Links from this episode: Lara Okolo's Website Article by Pat Denning about Harm Reduction in The Journal of Clinical Psychology The National Harm Reduction Coalition Episodes to listen to next: Episode 35 Releasing Judgement Episode 36 What to do about all the lies If this podcast has helped you, please help me reach other parents by leaving a review. Leaving a review is like referring the podcast to someone who needs it. You can also share the podcast directly with someone or share it on social media. If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below: https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery
For additional resources:
GROUP COACHING PROGRAM – Join the waitlist – New Group Starting soon! Be the first to get details. https://heatherrosscoaching.com/peace-of-mind-community/
Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/ Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/ Join the free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction
Ep 53 The Lie That We Can Only Help Ourselves
How many times have you heard you can only help yourself? It's critical to help yourself, but it's not the only thing you can do. You can invite change in your child and create space for them to decide they want to change. We're constantly told that our kids won't change unless they want to, but we're rarely told that we can create favorable conditions for them to want to change. You can help your child.
Episode to listen to next:
Episode 49 Beyond Addiction How Science and Kindness Help People Change author Nicole Kosanke PhD
Episode 41 Interview With My Daughter
Links that were mentioned in this episode:
Al-Anon’s core purpose, mission, and strategic goals
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For additional resources:
GROUP COACHING PROGRAM – Join the waitlist – New Group Starting soon! Be the first to get details. https://heatherrosscoaching.com/peace-of-mind-community/
Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/
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EP 52 Recovery, Connection, and Healing Through Love
Join Heather as she explores three vital messages that can transform your perspective and help you navigate your journey with renewed strength and resilience:
1. Your Personal Recovery Matters: Discover the significance of your own healing journey and why it's equally important alongside your child's recovery. Heather shares insights into dispelling the stigma surrounding addiction and the transformation of understanding.
2. You Are Not Alone: Suffering in silence is a heavy burden. Explore the healing power of community and the importance of connecting with others who share similar experiences. Together, we find solace and support.
3. Connecting Through Love: Learn why connecting with your child through love, not guilt or shame, is paramount. Through personal stories, Heather illustrates the profound impact of love in building resilient relationships.
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
If you want answers and support to help you and your child Sign up for a 45-minute $17 Road to Recovery call with me using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery
September Invitation to Change Learning/Support Group Use the link below to find out about the Invitation to Change support group Heather is hosting.
Learn More & Sign Up For The Invitation To Change Group
GROUP COACHING PROGRAM - Join the waitlist! Be the first to get details.
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/peace-of-mind-community/
Guide about enabling - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
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EP 51 How To Stop Fixing Your Child And Start Connecting With Them
We're always dancing with the fine line between help and support that comes from a place of love and fixing that comes from a place of fear. Fear can show up in such sneaky ways that you don't realize you're trying to fix your child again. The way out of that is going to the "safe zone" of focusing on connection. In this episode I give you 4 ways to identify that you're in fear and 3 ways to stop fixing and start connecting again.
If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery
For additional resources:
GROUP COACHING PROGRAM – Join the waitlist – New Group Starting soon! Be the first to get details. https://heatherrosscoaching.com/peace-of-mind-community/
Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY
http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/
Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching
Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/
Join the free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction