John and Matty discuss the very common Imposter Syndrome amongst jiu jitsu students, and how it can wreak havoc on your ability to learn, as well as the enjoyment you derive from your practice of the gentle art.
It's Self Awareness
Being critical is a strength when you seek out what to improve on, and look to refine the parts and benefit the whole. In this way there is no limit to how good you can be. With the right effort in the right areas you can do anything you like.
But there is a fine balance to be had here. Issues arise when you expect too much too soon. When you aren't patient with the learning process, you set yourself up to fail.
Learn to pay attention to what you are thinking, so that when those thoughts come about, you can consciously replace them with a different story for yourself. Instead of being that guy who doesn't know anything, you're the student who is coming in all ears ready to learn.
Focus on Others
The fact that you have done even one class means you know more than others. Those others are relying on you to show them the way. You’re the example of how to be a jiu jitsu practitioner. And when you’re nervous within yourself, everyone feels it around you. In turn it makes them nervous.
Give yourself a break from the internal talk - divert it toward others around you, look to be of service, and show them the way instead of picking out all of your flaws.
Seek Out the Positives
There's already enough suck in the Imposter's brain. Instead of focusing on what you aren't doing well, make a habit of seeking out the things that you do well.
You tapped early to an oncoming submission. Good for you, note it down. You helped a beginner learn something. Write it down. You prepared a delicious meal for lunch at work? Note it down. Revel in the joys of your good work. These are what you can seek out and learn from and take satisfaction in.
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John & Matty & HJJ.
John and Matty discuss the coaching process happening at Higher and what it takes to be a good coach.
We chat about the importance of staying a learner for life, and being guided through the jiu jitsu journey in a way that offers structure and freedom at the same time.
Points of Note:
+The importance of the environment around you to maintain curiosity and stay safe as you explore the lands of jiu jitsu.
+ Why we organise regular jiu jitsu camps and seek knowledge from everywhere.
+ How Rylan Lizares demonstrated what it's like to be a supercoach on and off the mats.
+ 'Let's See if it's True' mentality and why Professor Sauer is a wizard on and off the mats.
+ The things we will focus on in the future as we look to go Higher with the students of our school.
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Matty and I recorded this two weeks ago and it was scheduled to be released at the end of August.
In light of the recent Sydney Stabbing Attacks that occurred on the 13th August, I feel like it's important to bring up these points of discussion today.
Yesterday Sydney's CBD was faced with a random act of violence by a knife yielding, mentally unstable man. It resulted in the loss of a life, multiple injuries, and innumerable trauma amongst those who were amongst it, and beyond.
It's another example of how unlikely situations can arise from normal circumstances.
You Never Know
Why do you wear a seat belt when you go driving?
The ratio of you getting to a destination safely vs crashing is hopefully way more in favour of not crashing. Maybe you're like me and you've never crashed at all. But we still sit in our seats and automatically reach for the belt.
Also, why does your workplace have such a resolute fire safety plan?
It's extremely unlikely that your building will ever catch fire. But still there are extinguishers marked clearly throughout the building.
It's because there are inherent risks in everything we do, even though they're not immediately apparent to us. Just because there are options that happen regularly doesn't mean there isn't any other way of things going down.
LIFE ISN'T AN IBJJF TOURNAMENT
Most people in Sydney are nice, and friendly, and accomodating. Of the 5 million people living in this city, let's be kind and say 99% of them would not even think about starting a fight or being aggressive to someone else.
That leaves us with 1% of others. These others don't care for your feelings, they've grown up in very hostile environments, and fights are something they derive lots of satisfaction from. The murderers, and the gang members, and the rapists are all part of this 1%. So are those deluded ones that enjoy punching people in random attacks, and those who even think of harming others.
This 1% actually works out to 50,000 people across the city. That's an Allianz stadium full to the brim of people who are ready, and willing to harm you for whatever purpose it serves for them.
DO IT FOR OTHERS
It's easy to think you're on your own in this big world, but you're really not. You have friends, and loved ones all around you, and there may be times they'll need your help.
When you learn self defence you can be the person to improve on precarious situations, rather than sitting back and watching or being part of the problem. In order to help others, you need the skills to help yourself, and stay safe. This is where self defence training comes in.
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Curiosity On the Mats Doesn't Kill the Cat.
John and Matty as we discuss how to stay curious on the mats, and learn for a lifetime.
If you want to do jiu jitsu well, you need to learn how to do it.
So, what's the best way to learn? First, be curious.
You're not curious when you're under pressure to perform, or when you're worried about being flattened or broken.
You're curious when you play with possibilities, and differentiate between each of their outcomes. It's how you can determine the most effective, and efficient way forward, and that's how you find improvement.
Survival mode usually looks like very heavy and abrupt breathing, scrunched up faces, loud bangs and stomps, and heavy amounts of effort. This is also around the time the injuries start to happen.
When you're learning WITH your partner, you work with eachother. You understand what each of you are looking for, and you're on the same path practicing and trading moves.
When you play jiu jitsu like this, you can be curious and ready to learn at any moment.
And if you want to do jiu jitsu for a lifetime, this is the only you’ll get there.
Original article can be found here.
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"Beware the barreness of a busy life."
Join Coach John and Matty as they talk about how to 'Stop Busy. Start Jiu Jitsu".
The more attention you give to something, the more it will flourish.
This is why you need to proactively plan your jiu jitsu time.
A regular practice of jiu jitsu will not happen by accident. Time will not leap up and bite you in the butt. Nobody will give it to you, they'll only try to take it away.
That's why you need to anticipate, plan, and strategise. Seek out time, snatch it, and hold onto it for dear life.
1. Be Realistic To Be Consistent
You may want to aim high shoot for the stars. But in this case aim for what you think will be easy, and achievable. It’s important to set the right expectations from the start. Consistent training is what will create progress, and give you the most joy.
2. Get A Calendar & Practice Defence
Use your schedule planner. Carve out those times in your week that you’ll be going to jiu jitsu class. Render yourself unavailable during those times.
Think ahead. You know your routines. Few chores are truly surprising.
3. Know Thyself
You are in the best place to create your plan because you know what suits you. If you hate mornings, don’t expect to go to jiu jitsu for 6am class.
It is never a good idea to work against your habits and nuances. This will only further ingrain them into your psyche. Listen, and look around. See how you work best. And do that.
You know what makes you tick. Work with yourself.
4. When the Time Comes, Go To Jiu Jitsu.
It’s not easy. You may not be perfect. But when you plan ahead, and you make the necessary arrangements beforehand, you can make it work for you.
Consistency is contagious.
Soon you will realise that jiu jitsu times becomes less of an expense, and more of an investment. When this happens, you know your jiu jitsu journey is well and truly under way.
Sit back, show up, and enjoy the ride.
Original blog post link:
Stop Busy. Start Jiu Jitsu.
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Join Coach John Smallios, Prof Phillip Grapsas, and purple belt extraordinaire Roger Dio as we discuss how to take your practice of jiu jitsu and turn it into a study of science.
The beauty of jiu jitsu means that there are countless choices in any one moment in time. From each position, you can pick and choose many different options to move forward. And with every second of motion, these choices change.
Dissect the parts, uncover the patterns, test the results, do it for life.
This is also how the martial arts can infiltrate life outside of the dojo too. When you are used to forcing your way through jiu jitsu, you will also be forcing your way through the world. After some time that becomes tiring and unsustainable. Work with things. Take your time to understand them, because it’s this search for understanding that helps to discover the gold of jiu jitsu, off the mats, and in everyday life.
Doing jiu jitsu in a way that helps you take lessons off the mats too.
The difference between sport jiu jitsu and self defence.
How to look for leverage on the mats.
Where we would be today without jiu jitsu?
Original Blog Post
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Coach John & Team HJJ!
Injuries suck. I hate them. If you're a human being, you do too.
Your training methods should be focused on improving your capacity to live, perform, and have fun. Not hurt you. If you're frequently getting injured, it may be time to consider your program.
Join Coach John and Matty as we discuss the perils of injury, and what to do in order to minimise the risks of them, on the mats and off.
Shit Happens - Some things are out of our control. Living in a bubble would be 0 fun. But this doesn’t give us an excuse to be negligent with our bodies. Captain Obvious says they are the only ones we’ll ever get.
Prehab Before Rehab - Be proactive in minimising your injuries. Look after yourself. Do what's necessary in order to keep yourself in the best shape possible, so that you remain resilient and ready for whatever comes at you.
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Life is busy and you're a little under the weather.
You're tired, a little bored of your current routine, and just want to do something fun and fresh.
This is around the time that jiu jitsu can help.
You do a trial at HJJ, you meet new friends, you learn self defence, and have fun, all at the same time.
You're now hooked, you have the bug. You haven't been this excited in a long time.
And there you have it, jiu jitsu has saved the day.
Join John and Brad as we discuss the joys and delights of Gracie Jiu Jitsu.
Gracie Jiu Jitsu means self defence via leverage where smaller, weaker people can defend themselves against bigger, and stronger aggressors. So then why are the everyday people doing jiu jitsu predominantly men? The gentle art is the perfect martial art for women to learn because it doesn't rely on physical attributes. You don't need big muscles, or lots of fitness to make it work.
Ladies, with jiu jitsu you no longer need to feel defenceless against anyone, fearful of your safety, or scared of being yourself in confrontation. It's how the women of our community can rise from feeling scared and overwhlemed to being empowered and free and ready to live to your fullest potential.
But first, you need to get started.
So join John and Emma as they discuss the ins and outs of women in jiu jitsu.
Ladies, it's time!
John and AJ sit to discuss the entire ethos of Gracie Jiu Jitsu.
When you first start jiu jitsu, and your understanding is lacking, you see one move after the other. When you've been training for a while, you start to consider the strategy that connects all of these techniques together.
The Perils of Poker - On the poker table, if you show your hand to your opponent, you'll get burned. The same thing applies on the mats. It's best to make your opponent show his hand to you first, so that you can counter and do what's necessary to come over the top of it. Don't show your cards.
Counter Attack as the Way - It's why you need one half of your brain involved in your actions, and the other half observing and feeling where your opponent is going. It's why you want to be soft, and supple, and able to move in any direction without hesitation. It's because you never know when that moment to counter attack will come, and you want to be ready, and able to pounce.
Maintain good frames - Be connected to your partner and to the ground, and be safe and ready to counter attack the moment it comes up.
This is the strategy of survival. Find the blog post here.
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