Musings of a Former Overachiever
By Holly Lewis
This way of life leads to burnout. Even though outward appearances say you have it all, you wonder why you are not happy. Something is missing.
This podcast will help you learn ways to have a healthier relationship with work and achievement so that you can create a life that's balanced, healthy, and full of joy.
Musings of a Former OverachieverJan 09, 2024
The Attention Deficit Overworker with ADHD Coach Jen Jacobsen
I can't wait for you to hear this amazing interview with my brilliant friend Jen who coaches people over 40 with ADHD. We talk about the intersection of ADHD and overachieving/overworking and get into the nitty gritty of how we helped ourselves with this dilemma.
You might be an overachiever/overworker if you have performance issues at work, relationship issues or you just plain ignore your own health.
Jen can be found here. She's got an amazing video series here.
PS. Get signed up for the Overachiever's Manifesto. What are you waiting for? Click here.
Overachiever Myth #2: Busy equals important
Busy is seen as success. Is it really? This episode discusses busyness and why you should embrace a bit of idleness.
PS: Sign up for the Overachiever's Manifesto here.
Overachiever Myth #1: Working More Hours Increases Productivity
I spent most of my life believing that I had to work long hours to be the most productive I could be.
I was wrong.
This episode will tell you why and give you some things to experiment with in regards to time efficiency.
PS: Come on over and join the Overachiever's Burnout Recovery lab here.
If you're not on Facebook, email me at holly@hollywlewis.com to sign up for the Overachiever's Manifesto which is a weekly newsletter full of tips to redefine success in a health and balanced way.
10 Signs That You May Be Addicted to Work
Are you addicted to work? Do you find yourself working more and more hours just to get that great feeling that you used to get?
Let's talk about it!
PS: If you're interested in experimenting with ways to recharge your life, join me in my FB Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/170227661008215
Leaving Work at Work When You Work Remotely
Working from home has lots of great benefits, but it also has a dark side in terms of how much you work and how much energy you expend.
In this episode I'll cover 10 tips to get more control around your work day and learning to leave work at work.
PS: I invite you to join us in the fb group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/170227661008215
Using a Game to Break the Overthinking Cycle
You know when you get in that loop of overthinking and you can't seem to get out? Here's an experiment to try.
Design Your Day Around your Strengths to Prevent Burnout
Burnout can sometimes be caused because we are spending all day doing things that we hate to do. You might think that there's nothing you can do about this, but I'm here to tell you that it's quite simple to start infusing your day with things that light you up. First you have to figure out what those things are!
The 3 Things Method of Time Prioritization
We all have 24 hours. Time is not to blame for us not getting things done. Our use of time is the culprit. It's so easy to get distracted and lose focus. This episode discusses some mindset changes to consider and a method to prioritize your use of time and improve your focus.
PS: If you are ready to take your leadership to the next level, I'm ready to show you how. Email me at holly@hollywlewis.com to set up some time to talk.
80-20 Rule of Work Stress
20% of your thoughts are causing 80% of your stress responses. What you believe about work is driving the stress response you are having. This episode talks about the way to find the thoughts that are driving the majority of your stress at work.
PS. I would love to meet you! Schedule a free session here!
Getting Out from Under Overwhelm
Overwhelm is so common these days. You feel frozen and like you are drowning in all the to dos and problems in your life. This episode covers some practical strategies to get yourself on top of things.
PS: I'd love to meet you and talk about your work life! It's totally possible to not be stressed all the time about work. Let's talk!
S2:E1 Using Delegation to Free Up Time
I coach a lot of people on time anxiety. One way to free up time is to delegate, but a lot of people have a fear of doing so. Let's talk about 7 beliefs that might be holding you back and what to do about them.
E22 Creating Trust With Your Boss
Do you dread dealing with your boss? If this is true for you, I suspect you have a trust issue. Here are some things to think about when it comes to building trust with your boss.
PS. If you are stuck and stressed at work, I'd love to talk to you about it. I offer a free session with no strings attached. We'll talk about your issues and I'll give you some tools to get you moving again. Schedule a session here.
E21 Mind Reading Causes Anxiety
Do you find yourself spending a ton of time trying to manage what other people are thinking and feeling? Do you say "what if" to yourself.....a lot? I totally get it and I do this as well. In this episode, I talk about why you might do this and what to do about it.
PS: Does your work feedback include the fact that you need to be better about managing your frustration? Is it common for you to "lose it" when things aren't going your way? I can help you with this. We will find your triggers and work on changing your perspective in these situations to lessen how much frustration you feel. Schedule a call with me now to talk about what's going on for you!
E20 What do to when you are triggered
Just because I'm a coach doesn't mean that I don't get triggered sometimes and act in ways of which I'm not proud. It's all about calming your nervous system and figuring out a protocol to deal with it better next time.
PS. If you are ready to reduce your work anxiety by 80% and still thrive at work, I'm ready to help you get there. Book a call with me today to discover what it looks like to work with me.
E19 My Burnout Story
In 2019 I had an epiphany that I needed to change my life. I was burned out and thought it was my weight and the hours I worked. It was not. It was the way I was using my time and my energy. Here's what I changed to change my life.
PS: If you're stressed to the hilt and are ready to change, schedule a free session here! I can't wait to meet you.
E18 Do people at work stress you out?
When I ask the question what stresses you out a work, most people answer with some flavor of "the people". This episode discusses the three areas I believe are crucial to our relationships at work.
PS. Take me up on a free session now because the more you wait to do something about all that stress, the more it will accumulate. Click here to schedule your spot!
E17 On Time Anxiety
Do you hear yourself saying "I'm so far behind" or "there's not enough time in the day to get it all done"? This is what time anxiety sounds like. Listen on for more insights about time anxiety and some suggestions on how to reprogram your beliefs around time.
PS. I can help you reduce your anxiety around time by 80% and help you free up 90 hours in 90 days. Schedule your pro bono session now!
E16 Overthinking is a Time Thief
Do you find your self stuck in an overthinking loop sometimes? Do you look at the clock and wonder how hours have gone by when you were stuck what if'ing in your head?
Yeah, me too. Here's what I've tried that has worked to minimize the amount of time I spend overthinking.
PS. If you're ready to free up 90 hours in 90 days by finding and reprogramming all of your time thieves, I'm ready to help you do it. Schedule a call with me here.
E15 Learning How to Say No at Work
Do you find yourself with back to back meetings and then working halfway into the night to catch up on your own work? My guess is you aren't saying no when you need to. Listen on to learn how to do it.
PS: Are you the person who constantly says no to impromptu invitations because you have too much work to do? Wouldn’t it be wonderful to have spaciousness in your life to be able to accept these kinds of invitations with no guilt? I can help you free up 90 hours in 90 days so that this and other fun things are a possibility. Book a conversation today!
E14 When Feedback Lights Your Nervous System on Fire
Do you go into a fight or flight response any time you get feedback? Do you start blaming other people and doing all kinds of things to defend yourself? Me too. Here's how I've toned down my automatic response and I'm sure it will help you too.
PS. Take me up on a complimentary session. Your response to feedback could be a sign of perfectionism and that may be causing you to overwork. Click here to schedule.
E13 No One Listens to me at Work
Are you frustrated because no one at work listens to your opinion? Listen on for 3 areas to consider when formulating your communication strategy.
PS: Schedule a complimentary coaching call or get my new masterclass on how to Take Control of your Email here: https://linktr.ee/hollylewiscoaching
E12 Thoughts About the Behavior of Others
Other people's behavior can be a big trigger for stress. Here are my thoughts about that and what you can consider when it happens to you.
If you want to take me up on a free coaching session, click here. Life is too short to be burned out and miserable at work.
E11 Breaking the Habit of Being Annoyed
Everything we do subconsciously is a habit. My intention for the year is to break up with my habit of being annoyed. Listen on to see how I'm doing it.
If you are ready to break up with your work stress, I offer a free coaching session! You should definitely take me up on it.
https://linktr.ee/hollylewiscoaching
E10 Your Default Stress Response
It's really important to be aware of what your default stress response is. We all have a default that we learned as children. Once you know what it is, you can choose to change it if it's not working for you. It's a beautiful thing!
If you want to stop overworking right now, schedule a free session with me so we can change that habit right now!
https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=19590650&appointmentType=36586843
E9 Enculturation
Have you heard of the concept of enculturation? I find it fascinating how this process influenced what I believed about work and how those beliefs were causing me a great deal of stress.
Curious about coaching and how it can help you recover from burnout and create resilience to chronic stress at work? I offer a free session where we will find one of your mindsets that is causing you stress at work. I'll give you some tools to rewire this belief so you can stress less and get back to enjoying your life! Schedule yours here!
https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=19590650&appointmentType=36586843
E8 Dealing with Difficult People at Work
E7 The Sneaky Side Effects of Task Switching
E6 Over Responsibility
E5: Making Friends with the Inner Critic
Ep4 The Background Music of Your Life
You have a background mindset running on repeat in your life. Is yours one of scarcity or of abundance? In today's episode, I talk about the difference between the two mindsets and how to cultivate a daily practice to keep gravitating towards the joy.
PS: Join the Burned Out Overachiever's Recovery Lounge to learn more about this and other topics that are causing you stress at work. We'll share useful practices to change your relationship with work. https://www.facebook.com/groups/17022...
EP3 All about Procrastination
Procrastination is not a character flaw. It's a tool that our really smart brains use to avoid a feeling. Find your pattern and redirect your brain.
PS: Join the Burned Out Overachiever's Recovery Lounge to learn more about this and other topics that are causing you stress at work. https://www.facebook.com/groups/170227661008215
E2 Thoughts about Urgency
Our brains think that urgency makes us more productive. Unfortunately, that's not true. Urgency is a habit. This episode covers some food for thought about urgency and some particular topics you can investigate to change your relationship with urgency.
If you're a burned out overachiever who is looking for ways to calm the hell down and increase the spaciousness and creativity in your life, I invite you to join the Burned Out Overachiever's Recovery Lounge here.
E1: Why we Overachieve
In this episode, we'll cover what overachievement looks like, why we do it, why it is a problem and a couple of things to consider to get you on the path to a better relationship with achievement.