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How The F Do I

How The F Do I

By Ben & Marta

Everyone is trying to live their best life. In Today’s world, living your best life is when you are happy, feel purpose and are making progress towards your work, health, relationship, financial, and community goals. This podcast will provide a forum for listeners to learn from their peers, experts and thought leaders on how they’ve achieved success and happiness within one of these areas, and provide actionable takeaways listeners can apply in their daily lives. We are Marta and Ben and hope you enjoy!
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S1 / Ep. 1: Who the F are we?

How The F Do IJan 30, 2019

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S3 | Ep. 6: How The F Do I Write a Resume?

S3 | Ep. 6: How The F Do I Write a Resume?

We interview Michele Lando, a Certified Professional Resume Writer and Personal Branding Expert to learn the dos and don'ts of resume writing. Michele shares tips on how to create a solid and professional resume that will more easily integrate with a recruiter's ATS (applicant tracking system) and increase your chances of landing your next gig.

Feb 15, 202301:02:10
S3 | Ep. 5: How The F Do I Create a Will?

S3 | Ep. 5: How The F Do I Create a Will?

In a HTFDI podcast first, Ben holds down the fort (while Marta attends her son’s baseball game), and has an exchange with Patricia De Fonte, an Estate Planning Attorney, and the owner of De Fonte Law PC, where she and her team practice Estate Planning With Heart (TM), to discuss all things estate planning and how to best protect our assets and surviving loved ones. Patricia provides actionable tips for what to know if you are listed as an executor of a trust, as well as how to create a will, a trust and the difference between the two. Every person over the age of 18 needs an estate plan. It is not something just for rich people or for old people, it is for all people!

Aug 19, 202201:17:28
S3 | Ep. 4: How The F Do I Co-Parent After Divorce?

S3 | Ep. 4: How The F Do I Co-Parent After Divorce?

We have a chat with Shanna and Dylan who divorced in 2020 after 9 years of marriage. Shanna and Dylan open up about how they’ve been navigating co-parenting post-divorce while maintaining a civil and respectful relationship with each other. They share tips and learnings on how to work together to establish new routines, family traditions, and maintain a tight family unit amidst the change.
Dec 29, 202148:58
S3 | Ep. 3: How The F Do I Manage My Anxiety?
Sep 24, 202157:21
S3 | Ep. 2: How the F Do I Adult With My Money?

S3 | Ep. 2: How the F Do I Adult With My Money?

We get buy-in from financial advisor & CFP® Alix Magner on how the f we can adult with our money. Alix shares her approachable overview to personal finance 101 with actional tips for budgeting, paying off student debt, and how to plan for a future that aligns with your financial goals. Additionally, she shares financial advice for a variety of financial challenges for the LGBTQ+ community.

Jun 22, 202147:37
S3 | Ep. 1: How the F Did We Survive?

S3 | Ep. 1: How the F Did We Survive?

WE ARE BACK! It’s been one hell of a year for all of us, but we never intended to end this podcast once COVID hit. Now that life is coming back to some sort of normalcy, we are ready to get back to living our best lives with a new found perspective. Here’s to the beginning of a new chapter as we discuss what the last year has been for both of us and what we are looking for to as we look ahead to another season!
Mar 29, 202131:35
S2 | Ep. 5: How the F Do I talk to my kids about sex?

S2 | Ep. 5: How the F Do I talk to my kids about sex?

We get down & dirty with Julia Feldman, sex educator and founder of "Giving The Talk," on the realities of having the "talk" with your kids in this day and age. Julia gives us tips and insights on how to best approach these conversations and set life up for a healthy view on body image, intimacy and relationships. | @givingthetalk

Apr 24, 202049:01
S2 | Ep. 4: What the F is Tik Tok?

S2 | Ep. 4: What the F is Tik Tok?

We get the download from two super users and experts in the space, Quinn (age 10) and Levi (age 8) to understand what the F TikTok is?! Quinn and Levi break it down for us old geezers, share tips on how to use it and give the 411 on why it’s the hawt new social media platform for “the kids”... literally.

Mar 10, 202037:45
S2 | Ep. 3: How the F do I get started with Cannabis?

S2 | Ep. 3: How the F do I get started with Cannabis?

We sit down with Matt Rosenberg, a cannabis consultant to get the goods and a general overview of cannabis. Matt gives us tips on how to get started with cannabis, and how to identify quality products. We also get a deeper dive into CBD and the health and wellness benefits that many people are experiencing.

Jan 06, 202043:47
S2 | Ep. 2: How The F Do I turn my passion into a career?

S2 | Ep. 2: How The F Do I turn my passion into a career?

We get cheesy with Meg Quinn, “Ain’t to Proud to Meg,” to dig into her story from working for an advertising agency for 13 years, to a self-made food stylist, influencer & content creator. She’s the queen of cheese boards and gives us her tips and tricks on how she transitioned her passion into a full time career. Social Handle: @ainttooproudtomeg
Oct 17, 201949:50
S2 / Ep. 1: How the F do I manifest good energy?

S2 / Ep. 1: How the F do I manifest good energy?

We consult with Savoi Wright aka “Coach Savoi,” a life and energy coach on how we can better tune into our own thoughts to change our energy. Savoi gives us tips to protect our energy and work through emotions, as well as daily habits to keep our energy high and positive, even with busy schedules and lives. Social Handle: @coachsavoi

Sep 20, 201938:17
S1 / Ep. 10: How the F do I balance being a working parent?

S1 / Ep. 10: How the F do I balance being a working parent?

We babble with Geoffrey Fuller, full-time working dad of a 4-year old daughter and President of lifestyle brand turned e-commerce platform Cupcakes and Cashmere. Geoffrey tells us how he manages running a business with his wife, while also being an active dad. He gives us his tips for staying sane, creating routines and how to carve out quality time for yourself and your family as a working parent.

Social Handles: @geofuller | @shopcupcakesandcashmere

Jun 19, 201954:16
S1 / Ep. 9: How the F do I negotiate a job offer?

S1 / Ep. 9: How the F do I negotiate a job offer?

We talk shop with Tony Riggins, natural born negotiator and former music industry marketer turned recruiter on how to negotiate a job offer. Tony tells us what elements of a job offer are actually negotiable, gives pro tips on how to prepare for negotiation, and how to lay out your must-haves before accepting a new job.  Social Handle: @tonyriggins_

May 23, 201937:44
S1 / Ep. 8: How the F do I prep for public speaking?

S1 / Ep. 8: How the F do I prep for public speaking?

We take the floor with Janesh Rahlan, Comedian and featured TEDx Speaker about his entry into the world of stand-up comedy, and how his failures and learnings helped him build a stage presence and become a confident speaker. Janesh gives us pointers on how to get comfortable on a stage and mentally prepare to slay at public speaking. Social Handle: @janeshrahlan

May 09, 201937:35
S1 / Ep. 7: How the F do I buy property?

S1 / Ep. 7: How the F do I buy property?

We compare notes with Aaron Stel, Real Estate Agent and Owner of Stellar Real Estate Group on the trials and tribulations of buying property. Aaron tells us how real estate chose him, and now with over a decade of experience in real estate (and a feature on Bravo’s Million Dollar Listing Los Angeles) gives us his top tips for starting the process, finding the right team to help you and how to go about your next purchase.

Social Handle: @aaronstel | @stellarregroup 

Apr 11, 201938:09
S1 / Ep. 6: How the F do I make it in the music business?

S1 / Ep. 6: How the F do I make it in the music business?

We bulls*** with Nick Miller who has been working in the biz for over a decade. Nick works for one of the the industries top labels and has traveled the world with music’s top artists (you’ll have to listen to find out who). Nick dishes about growing up in Arizona and his early love of music, how he broke into business through a single phone call, and gives us pro-tips for how to make in in the music biz.

Follow nick on instagram: @nickguszmiller

Apr 01, 201934:23
S1 / Ep. 5: How the F do I become a healthy eater?

S1 / Ep. 5: How the F do I become a healthy eater?

We spill the beans with Megan Marlow, Plant-Based Chef and Owner of Citizen Mustard on how her quest to get healthy inspired a 360 career-change. Megan tells us how she helps her clients meal-prep and gives advice on how to overhaul your pantry and sustain healthy eating for the long haul.

Follow Megan on instagram: @meganmarlow | @citizenmustard

Mar 13, 201935:08
S1 / Ep. 4: How the F do I be my authentic self at work?

S1 / Ep. 4: How the F do I be my authentic self at work?

We pontificate over white wine with Sarah Wagener, a veteran HR Leader at top tech companies. Currently Chief People Officer at DoorDash, Sarah breaks the leadership mold of the C-Suite by bringing her own personality and flare to the workplace. Sarah dives into tips on how we can be our authentic selves in the workplace, no matter what level we are at in our careers.  Follow Sarah on instagram: @sarwags

Jan 30, 201941:36
S1 / Ep. 3: How the F do I build self-confidence?

S1 / Ep. 3: How the F do I build self-confidence?

We have a heart to heart with Sparkle Thornton about how she learned to build self-confidence through her journey as a Trans Woman, and how yoga become her body loving medicine. Sparkle gives ideas for how we can all work to practice self-care and learn to be accepting and loving of ourselves.
Follow Sparkle on instagram: @sparkleasyouare
Jan 30, 201930:14
S1 / Ep. 2: How the F do I become a working actor?

S1 / Ep. 2: How the F do I become a working actor?

We chitchat with Rachelle Wood about how she stumbled into a commercial acting job as a teenager, grew to love it and made it her career. Rachelle gives advice on how to get into the business and tips for being a successful ABB (always be booking) commercial actor.
Follow Rachelle on instagram: @itsrachellewood
Jan 30, 201928:31
S1 / Ep. 1: Who the F are we?

S1 / Ep. 1: Who the F are we?

We are Marta & Ben! We are amateur podcasters, but advanced learners. We’re on a mission to help people create their happiness and get actionable advice from real people’s stories. Together let’s figure out how the f@&% you can achieve what you’ve been dragging your feet on in life, whether it be a career change, dream job, life milestones, getting healthy, etc. So who the f*#% are we? Listen and find out! Follow us on instagram: @blfarber | @martariggins 
Jan 30, 201933:09