Innkeeper of Your Soul with Siobhan Nash

In this episode, I share what it means to me to be the innkeeper of my soul now and what that looks like. I also share the essential truths that help me return to my belonging time and again.

Invitation for inquiry

Here are a couple questions to reflect on about being the innkeeper of your soul:

• What does being the innkeeper of your soul mean to you?
• What does that look like for you?
• And what truths have you discovered on your journey that help you return to your own belonging?

My essential truths

Truth #1: I am perfect. Other people’s opinions about how I should look, how I should act, and who I should be are irrelevant. Who I am is exactly who I am meant to be. My opinion of myself is the only one that matters.

Truth #2: Be loyal to myself, always. That means not sacrificing myself or what I know to be right for me—my wants, my needs, my desires, my beliefs, and my boundaries—for anyone else.

Truth #3: Always trust my intuition. I already have the answers I’m looking for. I only need to listen to my intuition and follow its guidance. My intuition always knows the way home to my true self.

Truth #4: Nothing is more important than my connection to myself. Too often I have disconnected from my true self to do what I thought others expected of me and would make them happy. And, as I’ve learned from past experience, what I lose in the process is myself. I can’t connect with others in a meaningful way if I’m not connected to my Self. (That’s “self” with a capital S.)

Truth #5: My worth just is. I don’t need to prove my worth to anyone or rely on others to acknowledge my significance. My value is inherent in who I am.

Truth #6: I owe it to myself to take care of me first. I can’t nourish others if my soul is starving. As my friend Jonathan Foxwell said, “When the well is full, no one worries about spilt water.” When I say yes to me, the abundance flow to others.

Resources

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The quote from Kevin Ngo:

“If you don’t make the time to work on creating the life you want, you’re eventually going to be forced to spend a lot of time dealing with a life you don’t want.”

Invitation for inquiry

If you find yourself feeling unworthy of what you want for yourself and your life, here are a couple questions to help get you unstuck and moving forward toward your desire.

What’s the story or limiting belief you’re telling yourself as to why you’re not worthy of what you want?

And, who does that story belong to?

Taking this a step further, you can ask yourself …

Is this story true?

If your answer is “yes,” ask yourself …

Can I absolutely know this story is true?

Often times, creating doubt about whether or not a false belief is true is enough to create some space for you to consider a different and better possibility for yourself.

If you find your mind is still holding on tightly to the negative story, try turning it around to its opposite. Here’s a simple example:

“I don’t deserve a job I love” would become “I do deserve a job I love.”

And, if you feel inclined, you can write down all the evidence or reasons why that new and better story is true.

The exercise of asking whether a story is true and then turning it around come from Byron Katie’s The Work [https://thework.com/].

Resources

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Invitation for inquiry

Here are a couple questions to reflect on about identifying and embracing your truth …

Where are you ignoring the messages leading you to your truth?

What might open up for you if you embraced an uncomfortable or undesirable truth you’ve been resisting?

Resources from this episode

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Invitation for inquiry

Where are you seeking to satisfy your desire for belonging with something or someone outside of yourself?

What might you do differently if you owned your innate sense of belonging?

Resources