It's an Adult Thing!
By Carla, Azl, Nica, & Podcast Network Asia
It's an Adult Thing!Aug 22, 2021
What Work Life Taught Us
We spend most of our adulthood working, but a salary shouldn't be the only thing we take home while we earn a living.
Here are some of the biggest life lessons we learned as we navigate our work and career.
Harmful Stories in Our Heads
Many of the fake news that we consume are generated NOT by trolls but by OUR OWN MINDS. In this episode, we expose the harmful thoughts that sabotage our happiness, and learn how to fact-check the stories in our heads.
Cited materials:
"Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy" by Dr. David D. Burns
"Cognitive Distortions: When Your Brain Lies to You" (https://positivepsychology.com/cognitive-distortions/)
Fear-Setting concept by Tim Ferris (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5J6jAC6XxAI)
"Brene Brown: The Call to Courage" (available on Netflix)
UP Dragonboat Team Psych Up Webinar (https://bit.ly/30yS4z8)
Radical Acceptance concept by Marsha Linehan
Extreme Ownership concept by Jocko Willink
Spooky Stories
In this Halloween special, we recount the most hair-raising, goosebumps-inducing, and mind-melting experiences that we have experienced first-hand.
ADVISORY: Due to our raw and intense reactions to each other's spooky story, this episode contains more expletives than usual. There may also be parts that might distress people of certain faiths. Pls. know that no offense was intended upon retelling these anecdotes.
How To Rest
Rest is a crucial part of staying healthy. It helps our body heal, strengthens our immune system, boosts our creativity, and improves our mental health. Yet, we still take rest for granted and feel guilty when we're not doing anything.
Listen in to hear different ways on how we can all relax, recover, and rest optimally for our physical, mental, and over-all health.
Building Habits (Phase 2)
Here's an update on the habits we're trying to build. We reflect on what worked, what didn't, and the adjustments we have to make to get closer to making our desired habits stick for good.
Courage
Being courageous doesn't mean being fearless. It's having the strength to do something despite the fear.
In this episode, we talk about the most courageous things we've done as adults. We're joined by Victor Anastacio, a host, actor, and stand-up comedian who makes a living by courageously putting himself in front an audience and making people laugh.
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Hey, fellow adults! October 11 is International Day of the Girl!
We can celebrate and help vulnerable girls thrive and have better opportunities by joining the GIRLS CAN movement of empowering 1,000 Girls.
Sponsor a girl at worldvision.org.ph today.
Long Distance Relationships
Is it possible to stay together while you and your partner are physically apart? How can partners maintain their closeness when distance gets in the way? Hear Kara David and LM Cancio share about their thriving relationship, in spite of being away from each other for long stretches of time.
Age Gap
Does age matter in romantic relationships? We’ll find out as we chat with multi-awarded journalist Kara David and composer-musician LM Cancio. We have them spill out the hesitations, differences, compromises, and surprising advantages that they’ve had as a married couple with a 12-year age gap.
Becoming a Parent
Raising kids is a major responsibility. Parents need all the help they can get to provide the physical, emotional, social, and many other needs of their children.
In this episode, we discuss the joys, challenges, and milestones of parenting with millennial mom Pauline Manus, a mother to twins, a homemaker, and an entrepreneur.
Dear Fellow Adults
In this episode, we read out letters from our fellow adults who are asking for some advice. Hear out their concerns and our attempt to provide road maps that might help them get thru the adulting hurdles that they are facing.
Disclaimer: This episode was recorded before the most current ECQ was declared.
Building Habits (Phase 1)
Creating a great life might sound daunting. But building good habits thru science-based hacks is surely a more doable step towards this goal.
In this episode, we’ll be applying what we’ve been advocating since Episodes 2 and 3. We’re laying out a gameplan to kick off good habits that will nudge us towards becoming better versions of our selves.
Adulting Misconceptions
Growing up, we learned so many "shoulds" and "must haves" in order to live a "normal" adult life.
But as we became our own adults, we were able to debunk some of these faulty beliefs about adulthood and life in general.
Listen in with an open mind as we dispel these adulting misconceptions with Mish Tan of the Mishconceptions Podcast.
Hard Truths
Sometimes the truth can be uncomfortable and difficult to handle, but only when we come to terms with these facts will we be able to truly grow and be free.
Here are some bitter pills about life that we had to swallow so we can become better adults, as well as some tips on how we slowly learned to accept them.
This episode is inspired by a post from Nedra Tawwab, a therapist, boundaries expert, and author: https://www.instagram.com/p/CPBjcssD9XT/?utm_medium=copy_link
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Last few days to register to vote, fellow adults! 'Wag magpahuliiiii!
Click here to begin your registration: https://bit.ly/adultrehistro
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Some references we mentioned in the episode:
- The ONE Thing Book by Gary W. Keller and Jay Papasan
Sex
We say it’s “for adults,” yet many, if not most of us are little informed, misled, and confused about sex. So come with us as we dive into a pleasurable conversation with sex therapist and sex educator, Dr. Rica Cruz. Let’s penetrate this taboo topic, expose the myths surrounding it, and take a peek at the intimate sexual concerns, insecurities, and desires of our adulting tribe.
College Life vs Work Life
Going to college can give us many opportunities, skills, experiences, and connections that can help us create a great career and build a life that we want.
In this episode, we are joined by TV 5 sportscaster Frau Lyn Olavario to talk about how our college adventures turned into life-long learnings.
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Hitting Rock Bottom
In this episode, we are joined with our fellow podcaster Alec Cuenca as we revisit the lowest points in our lives and map out the ways we bounced back from those sh*tholes.
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Download Kumu here: podlink.co/kumu-adultthing
Generation Gap
During these times when cultural norms are evolving faster than ever, generations also seem to drift farther apart from each other. For this, we reached out to our guest Boomer, Ms. Pinky Aseron, to help us bridge the gap between her generation and ours.
Download Kumu here: podlink.co/kumu-adultthing
"It's an Adult Thing" Trailer
Let's figure out adult life together since it wasn't taught in school. Join us, Nica, Carla, & Azl, as we exchange stories, questions, and sometimes expert advice on adulting, self-development, well-being, and more because IT'S AN ADULT THING!
Solving Relationship Issues
It’s normal for any romantic relationship to have troubles and challenges. And it doesn’t always have to end in a break up just because you’re going through a rough patch.
We talk about some common relationship problems that aren’t necessarily deal breakers, and how these can still be solved if you and your partner are willing to work it out.
Download Kumu here: podlink.co/kumu-adultthing
Application for VOTER REGISTRATION: https://bit.ly/adultrehistro
Updated Beliefs
All our beliefs are learned, and as we expand our knowledge and gain more experience, some of our previous beliefs can become obsolete. So to thrive better in life, we need to update our old beliefs, assumptions and convictions that no longer serve us!
Download Kumu here: podlink.co/kumu-adultthing
Coping with Grief
During these disruptive times, many of us have been flooded with the loss of loved ones, jobs, our previous norms, and relationships. Yet not many of us know how to stay afloat when hit by these storms.
We sit with our guest psychologist, Ms. Mara Yusingco, as she guides us through the waves of grief that all adults, at some point in our lives, will have to face.
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10:38 = What is grief? |
14:15 = Why do people grieve? |
17:41 = Different kinds of grief |
23:54 = Stages of grief |
30:00 = Healthy ways of grieving |
48:34 = Self-compassion in times of grief |
58:35= Coping mechanisms to watch out for |
1:01:06 = Seeking support w/o stepping on people’s boundaries |
1:03:00 = Giving support to those who are grieving |
1:07:38 = Toxic positivity |
1:10:31 = Ms. Mara’s request to people in grief |
In Touch crisis line numbers (for emergency):
(02) 88937603 | 09178001123 | 09228938944 |
In Touch Community FB page: https://www.facebook.com/InTouchCommunityServices
Personal Finance
Saving money can be a struggle even if we're working our asses off.
So we asked Kevin De Guia of Kids Who Save We talk to Kevin De Guia of “Kids Who Save” to help us have a healthier perspective on money and on how to spend it wisely.
Listen in and learn how to manage your personal finances, monitor your cash flow, start a saving habit, create income streams, and know the basics of investing.
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Kevin’s Budgeting Worksheet: bit.ly/budgetit
Kids Who Save: www.facebook.com/KidsWhoSave
Subreddits on saving and investing: www.reddit.com/r/phmoneysaving/
www.reddit.com/r/phinvest/
Being Transgender
Women We Look Up To
We’re capping off Women’s Month with a special episode where we share about some of the bad ass women we look up to.
Women can do anything — make history, fight for our rights, tell brave stories, create tech empires, bring social change, spread love, care for the future generation, and even take humanity to outer space. These heroines are breaking barriers, shattering stereotypes and showing the world that we can be great no matter our gender.
Tell us about the inspiring women you idolize on our FB and IG @itsanadultthing !
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Fellow adults, please register now so we can all vote wisely in 2022. Find out how to register here: https://bit.ly/adultrehistro
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We’re having an “Ask Us Anything” episode!
Send us a voice clip or video recording of you asking us a question and we’ll include it on the show.
Excited to hear and see you, guys!
Pekpek Talk
Yes. We said it. This women’s month (and hopefully onwards), let’s normalize talking about the vagina, its related parts, our sexual lives, and our reproductive health. Hear our guest OB-Gyne, Dr. Maan de Castro-Abesamis, answer questions from people who have (and people who love) vaginas. 😉
SHOW NOTES:
00:10:25 = re-examining vagina-related norms
00:14:55 = how to properly clean the vagina
00:21:41 = pubic hair removal
00:27:10 = common clinical concerns
00:47:55 = "virginity"
00:56:40= sex-related concerns
01:14:00 = Doc Maan's top advice
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What Matters Most: Essentialism
We try to identify the things that matter most to us, and check how we can focus on achieving and protecting what is truly essential.
We talk about:
- Essentialism
- societal standards that keep us from being happy
- how to SAY NO to non-essential things in our lives
- how to SAY YES to based on our values
- how we can create systems to get the right things done
Listen to the ideas and wisdom we got from:
- Greg McKeown, author, “Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less”
- Laurie Santos, the Happiness expert
- Tim Ferriss, author, “The 4-Hour Work Week”
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We’re having an “Ask Us Anything” episode! Send us a voice clip or video recording of you asking us a question and we’ll include it on the show. Excited to hear and see you, guys!
Relationship Red Flags & Green Flags
In this episode, Nica, Carla, and Azl warn you about the early signs of possibly toxic relationships and spotlight the signs of promising ones.
SHOW NOTES:
18:00 = Healthy Space 💚
23:15 = Attachment Styles 🔗
37:15 = The 4 Horsemen of Relationships ⚠️
50:45 = Evan Rachel Wood’s Story 👩
55:35 = Pick Up Academy 🤮
1:02:55 = Listening to Our Bodies 🤸
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We’re having an “Ask Us Anything” episode! Send us a voice clip or video recording of you asking us a question and we’ll include it on the show. Excited to hear and see you, guys!
What 2020 Taught Us
SPECIAL 1ST ANNIVERSARY EPISODE
It’s been a year of #adulting conversations that helped us become happier, healthier, and smarter adults!
We survived 2020 together, and we are hopeful that we can make 2021 better.
In this episode, we reflect on what we learned, how we grew, how we can take better care of ourselves, our limiting beliefs, and how we can change our lives.
This episode was inspired by Nedra Tawwab’s IG post: https://www.instagram.com/p/CItDH-djAqZ/?igshid=c7sh9s5am067
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Fellow adults, please register so we can all vote wisely in 2022. Find out how to register here: http://bit.ly/adultrehistro
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We’re having an “Ask Us Anything” episode!
Send us a voice clip or video recording of you asking us a question and we’ll include it on the show.
Excited to hear and see you, guys!
Living Abroad
Ever thought of leaving the Philippines in search for greener pastures?
Hear what it’s like to live in another country from Sophia Balod-Lorenzo, a Filipina journalist in the Netherlands!
We talk about options on how to get visas, how to adjust to different cultures, food, transportation systems, school, work, dumpster diving, weed, and finding friends and family in a foreign land.
And the most important question of all, is leaving home worth it? Pak! Pang-Miss Universe!
Check out Erasmus+ opportunities here: https://ec.europa.eu/programmes/erasmus-plus/about_en
Or check out the Mundus Journalism MA Programme: https://mundusjournalism.com/
Biggest Fears
Aaaaand we’re back!!! In this episode, we open up about our biggest fears and brainstorm on how to avoid or face the things we dread the most.
Making COVID Less Morbid
COVID-19 is deadly. This is the harsh truth. But this doesn’t have to be the case all the time.
Aside from wearing masks and social distancing, there’s a way to protect ourselves from the serious effects of the virus.
We talk to a frontliner/cardiologist about boosting our immune system, avoiding heart disease, steering clear of trans fats, and making COVID-19 less morbid.
Taming the Mind
For many of us, the most challenging battle we fight every day is not out in the arena but within our own heads. In this episode, Nica, Azl, and Carla share about how they try to tame their own inner dragons and regain power over them.
10:30 - realizing the need to tame our minds
16:00 - the Mental Chatter
18:12 - metacognition
21:21 - treating thoughts as they are—just thoughts
25:00 - our “mental workouts”
42:07 - our “mental diets”
46:46 - our brains’ most vulnerable moments
50:30 - reco resources
55:08 - the changes we’ve been noticing so far
59:19 - the finish line
Diet Myths
There are a looot of misconceptions about food, nutrients, and diets, so we decided to consult an expert.
We talk to nutritionist-dietitian, chef, and fitness coach Fia Batua to clear up the most common diet myths, and to answer our crowdsourced questions.
We discuss fad diets, demonizing carbohydrates, intermittent fasting, the sustainability of a plant-based diet, genes vs. lifestyle, and how we can have a better relationship with our food.
Big FAT Lies
Of the few things we knew about FATS, most turned out to be wrong! In this episode, elite fitness coach / registered nutritionist dietician / culinary chef Ms. Fia Batua clarifies some of the misconceptions and confusions that we had about fats.
We talk about good fats and bad fats (trans fats!), cholesterol, fatty organs, and the controversial ketogenic diet!
This episode is produced with the help of:
Trans Fat Free Philippines https://www.facebook.com/transfatfreephilippines
ImagineLaw https://www.facebook.com/imaginelawPH
Probe Media Foundation Inc. https://www.facebook.com/ProbeMediaFoundation
Mental Well-being During The Pandemic
Though it’s normal to feel anxious and stressed during the COVID-19 pandemic, this 6month-long quarantine has definitely strained our mental well-being.
We are joined by Dr. Anna Tuazon of UP PsycServ to help us take better care of our mental health and the people we love.
We talk about mental health hygiene that we can practice everyday, how we can help COVID-19 patients and family members, and even our frontlinters.
If you are in need of psychosocial services and therapy, or if you want to volunteer, contact UP PsycServ at psycserv.upd@up.edu.ph or https://www.facebook.com/updpsycserv/
Stupidest Mistakes
Some of life’s best teachers are our own mistakes. In this episode, we unearthed some cringe-worthy memories that we’ve previously buried, so that we can share some nuggets of wisdom that came along with the dumb things that did in the past.
07:57 - What makes “stupid?”
09:46 - The rebellious 5-year-old Nica
11:35 - Tech boo-boos
18:10 - Stupid love
37:00 - Dangers in dating
39:30 - Costly mistakes. Literally.
48:10 - Blame it on the alcohol
56:10 - Owning up to our mistakes
Know Your Rights with Atty. Chel Diokno
Part of our responsibility and privilege as adults is to know our fundamental rights.
In this episode, we talk to veteran human rights lawyer Chel Diokno about the Anti-Terrorism Law, and how it poses a threat to our most basic freedoms as Filipino citizens.
We discuss our current political climate, debunk the misconceptions about the “Terror Law”, find out how to protect ourselves from abuse, learn about life during Martial Law, and consider the steps we can take in the future.
If you need legal advice or help, you may contact Atty. Chel and the Free Legal Assistance Group (FLAG) at flag.metromanila@gmail.com or flag@flag.com.ph.
Other volunteer legal assistance groups:
UP College of Law: https://law.upd.edu.ph/uplawhelps/ uplawhelps@up.edu.ph
The Ateneo Human Rights Center (AHRC): http://www.ahrc.org.ph/
8:50 - Anti-Terrorism Law Backgrounder
9:06 - Human Security Act
12:52 - vague definition of “Terrorism”
17:40 - Separation of powers + checks and balances
19:35 - unconstitutionality of the “Terror Law”
21:32 - “Bakit ka matatakot kung ‘di ka naman terorista?”
24:00 - Terrorism in Mindanao
25:52 - fixing the justice system
37:39 - what can citizens do to reverse the law
39:04 - how to protect yourself from unlawful arrest
45:50 - Freedom of speech and the press
50:44 - Martial Law
Movies That Changed Our Lives
In this episode, we brought in film and commercial director Randolph Longjas and shared about the movies we think everyone should watch.
04:52 - first movie we watched in the cinema
10:37 - the film we rewatched the most
13:29 - the film we would like to unsee
17:17 - My Love, Don’t Cross That River (Korean Documentary)
21:44 - Respeto (Pelikulang Pilipino, Musical, Rap Battle, Balagtasan)
24:38 - The Matrix (Sci Fi)
29:46 - Rashomon (a 1950 psychological thriller/crime film by Akira Kurosawa)
31:35 - Chicago (American Musical)
36:10 - Barber’s Tales (Filipino Movie)
40:55 - Central Station / Central do Brasil (a 1998 Brazilian–French drama film)
44:38 - Honor Thy Father (thriller crime drama film directed by Erik Matti and starring John Lloyd Cruz)
46:33 - Batas Militar (Filipino Documentary, Martial Law)
53:00 - Lightning Round: 10-sec movie recommendations
Working From Home
Tulad ba namin, your "new normal" includes working or studying from home? Check out this episode as Azl, Carla, and Nica discuss people's biggest concerns when working from home, like time management, work schedules, routines, and functional design! Learn some tried and tested hacks to address them. #WFH
11:03 Pros of WFH
12:38 Time Management
28:14 Workspace & Space Design
34:40 Video Calls & Zoom Meetings
42:46 Slow Internet Connection
47:19 Dealing with isolation
Moving Out
Thinking of getting your own place?
Along with freedom and independence, having your own house also comes with a lot of responsibilities.
To help you out with this major adulting milestone, let’s talk about the things you have to consider before you leave the comfort of your family’s home.
Advice to Our Younger Selves
For our triple birthday celebration, we had our very 1st live stream on Facebook, and shared what we wish we could tell to our younger selves. Here's the audio version of our online mañanita!
Sexual Orientation vs Gender Identity
Everyone has a SOGIE!
So we define these terms, and learn why it’s important that we all try understand and RESPECT each other.
Listen to our interview with Ging Cristobal of OutRight Action International and Ryan Silverio of ASEAN SOGIE Caucus in this very enlightening and judgement-free episode!
Happy Pride, everyone!
Skin Care Q & A
In this episode, we invited dermatologist Dr. Kathy Reyes to answer questions about skin care practices, usual skin issues and their causes, and ways to manage and prevent them.
Quarantine Learnings & Discoveries
Carla, Nica and Azl share their realizations, and discoveries while trying to stay safe from the pandemic.
We also got to hear our listeners’ quarantine thoughts.
When we're growing together, not even lockdowns can bring us down!
Book Recommendations
Looking for good books to read? Here are some of the most awesome books we've read, both in fiction and non-fiction. May pa-summary at commentary pa! With no spoilers, of course. ;) Enjoy!
Money Matters During COVID-19 Part 2: Economic Solutions
In the 2nd part of this special series, we asked Prof. Leila Rahnema how we can recover from this financial blow, and here is her comprehensive summary of the economic recovery plan suggested by economics experts.
Money Matters During COVID-19 Part 1: Effects to our Economy
In this ep, we invited Dr. Leila Rahnema, economist and professor of the UP Diliman, Virata School of Business to help us understand how the pandemic affects not just our wallets but also our national economy and budget.
Note: This episode was recorded last April 10, 2020. Please check the latest news for more updates.
Soothing Anxiety
That’s why managing anxiety is a crucial skill that we all need to learn.
In the 2nd episode of our 2-part special, Nica, Carla, and Azl share techniques to help soothe anxiety.
We can get through this pandemic together.
Remember, this too shall pass.
Understanding Your Anxiety part 1 of 2
As COVID-19 becomes a pandemic, something just as contagious spreads throughout the globe--ANXIETY. In this episode, Carla, Nica, and Azl try to untangle this messy emotion that can overtake our sanity if left unmanaged.
Gaining and Maintaining Friends as Adults
Paano ba mag-small talk? Bakit mas madali makipag-kaibigan nung bata pa tayo? Bakit uso ang “drawing” na lakad lately?
How can we truly support our friends?
Bakit nagbibigay ng kulay sa buhay ng ibang tao si Nica?
Bakit tawa nang tawa si Azl?
At bakit hindi na lang naging singer si Carla?
Lahat ng ‘yan sasagutin natin sa episode na ito!
Salamat kay A @aversionofself for suggesting this fun