Women With an Effed Up Mind
By J Marie
We’re unfiltered and full of passion, to make things happen. We’re a place for women & men, to be able to speak their stories without being judge, “highlighted,” or worry about repercussions in the military. When it comes to sexual assault, harassment, lack of mental health help and domestic violence in the military, we’re not just bringing awareness, we’re doing the d*mn thing. We’re full of the good, the bad, and the ugly. We are here as a safe haven, to be heard and be goofy too.
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Women With an Effed Up MindNov 19, 2021
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54:33
Let’s Go & Watch It
If you haven’t already seen it, it’s time we riss up and speak out like Battle Cry: Fighting Assault In The Military. I’ve been MIA for my own sake of mental health. But this was the fire I needed. I’ve missed y’all and hope you’re still here
Dec 09, 202309:41
It’s Been Awhile
Hey hey hey! It’s J Marie here. It’s been a whole year since the last episode dropped in, so I wanted to just drop in so hi and that’s we’re here and ready to do the damn thing! New intro, new vibe, everything especially with gearing up to get out of the military. If you’re new here, welcome!
Aug 22, 202310:23
I. Need. You.
Hiiii I’m still here and I told y’all we’re still doing work outside of just social media. This is a HUGE opportunity for us to be the voice and I want to continue to be your voice even outside of the podcast.
Aug 22, 202210:51
No Accountability
Well well well… case is officially officially closed with my domestic violence and the good ol boys club wins again… so here ya go
Jul 13, 202213:24
“You’re Not Gonna Report It, Are You?”
It’s the million dollar douche question to ask, ain’t it? You’ve probably seen her TikTok or news showings, but Kacie is an AD Airman, who’s seeking justice in a corrupt criminal justice system inside the military and out. She has the courage to speak out given all the hardships, and discusses HER story and uses HER voice to make change. Lots of educational resources as well, that myself never knew about. WE’RE BACK and in this fight ladies & gents! And Kacie is here to ruffle all the the feathers!
Jun 22, 202201:00:53
I’m Still Here
Here’s what I’ve been up too. I know it’s been awhile but bare with me. Just wanted to let y’all know I have not gone anywhere, just handling life by the balls.
May 15, 202216:19
Who Are YOU Outside of The Uniform?
We welcomed back Lani from Kruse Corner and Six from Cancelled for Maintenance to bring back our monthly Roundtable! What could this month entail? How about just being YOU. Recognizing your own self and identity outside of the uniform, the rank and being more to it because one day you will hang that uniform up. Why be such a hater? Hurt people hurt people but why are we still doing that? It’s no longer an awareness stage of anything. That mission is over. Your trauma do not make you valid anymore than healing and be a better person. It’s okay to heal!
Apr 06, 202201:02:33
Gender Doesn’t Change Human Status
I know I know, it’s been awhile… but I had the pleasure of speaking with Army veteran James who served over the course of 10 years in active duty and reserves. He’s also an MST survivor who is finally sharing his story!
Mar 23, 202201:40:25
New News. I’m okay. Life’s a Beech.
Sometimes life just happens and gets the best of us, but here we are. Life changes, green weenie strikes again and so much more. Thank you for all who have reached out and so much more. We’re not out of the fight, but things are just changing is all.
Mar 03, 202213:31
Growth Exists, Even When You Don’t Think So
time for the random rambling talks with yours truly. Realizing self growth is needed and working towards it. Reminding you, that it work out. It will get better. There is light. I believe in you. But also welcome to my squirrel episode, and crappy sound quality 😆
Feb 09, 202215:54
Changing The Narrative With Injustice
Our biggest motto is we’re here to ruffle feathers and this episode might just do that. We were joined with former LtCol Stu Scheller, who asked for accountability with the tragic event in Afghanistan in August of 2020. Were not here to discuss that though. We changed the narrative and got a different perspective from him given the positions he’s held and at such a top leadership position. All the way down to his perspective on taking sexual assault out of the commands hands, mental health, equality vs equal opportunity and more. Of course we’re not 100% serious during the discuss, but who likes that?
Feb 02, 202201:15:21
Drop Pack & Smell The Roses
Finishing the month out with our faves, on our monthly Roundtable. Joined again by Lani from Kruse Corner and Six from Cancelled For Maintenance for some much needed therapy to discuss how tired of we are of the clout chases using the same unoriginal ways to do nothing. The vet community is it’s worst enemy. We need to take a step back, look at life vs hiking to the top without stopping to see what you’re surrounded by.
Jan 28, 202201:46:04
Taking on Vegas with Bourbiz
Spotlight Sunday we’re going to showcase Bourbiz! A 501(c)(3) nonprofit that partners with the Veterans Success Resource Group, and brings camaraderie and resources for all across the military community. Jess from Resilient & Rowdy joined us to spotlight such an awesome thing. The episode does NO justice to what it really does, but this type of thing needs to be more known about. They’re defining the real community of what it should be amongst veterans and their families.
Jan 23, 202232:37
New Year, New Things Coming
HERES TO 2022! Coming up on our one year, new series & many things including getting out of the military! So small chat to bring in the new year. So hope y’all enjoy going back to work after the leave block and holidays!
Jan 05, 202209:57
Intro triggered !
Welcome to the podcast! A podcast for women, by women. Here’s to a beginning of bringing awareness of an ongoing issue with women in the military. Today’s episode is introducing us, and discussing an issue of one of the hosts, and Sgt who’s being ridiculed by the military community over her TikTok of coming out about her pain.
Jan 05, 202216:06
“Be The Change You Want To See” & This Is Your Sign.
Rolling into the holidays, joined by Zach aka Veterans With a Sign. What a good conversation, that had me in tears from laughing but SO many good points made. Ranging from generational military change, mental health, brovet culture, and just life. Enjoy the shenanigans
Dec 22, 202158:17
We Aren’t The Cookie Cutter Type, We’re Also Using The Extra Dough
Finally a collab episode with Jess, from Resilient & Rowdy podcast! She’s an Army Veteran, MST Survivor, Mental Health Advocate and just as ready to make things change like we are! We discuss the Military Justice Improvement & Increasing Prevention Act. Our thoughts and long behold, the questions nobody wants to ask or talk about. Why though? Not trendy enough for y’all? Well that what we’re here for. To ruffle the feathers and open y’all’s eyes.
Dec 15, 202101:03:48
There’s Life Outside the Uniform
THERES MORE TO LIFE OUTSIDE THE UNIFORM. This months Roundtable with Lani from Kruse Corner and Six from Cancelled for Maintenance, we discuss that nobody gives af when you leave the military. Utilize the resources to build your future and be a better YOU. Your shiny medals, your stripes, none of that will mean much in the real world. Even as lifers, you’ll hang up what you do one day. It boils down to who you are as a person, and be a better person for yourself.
Dec 11, 202101:22:10
*tap* *tap* IS THIS THING ON?!
Santa came early so we decided to test our new toy from an oh so gracious human. WE’VE GOT US A NEW MICROPHONE. So gooood byeeeee echos and hello some good ol sound quality mixed with my Monday rant of shenanigans. Also…. Daily reminder to not judge us from our first episode and sound quality. We were new and still figuring it out
Dec 06, 202115:40
This Isn’t a Sunshine & Rainbows Type of Step
What does the title mean? It means this step in change isn’t ready to be made. It isn’t going to be all “sunshine & rainbows” because there are steps that need to be addressed. So with the Military Justice Improvement & Increasing Prevention Act, why do we think we can sprinkle big picture things in without take certain steps first? I’ve preached this 101 times that y’all aren’t asking the right questions… so if it doesn’t pass, it just means we can make improvements vs causing more harm to victims.
Dec 02, 202123:17
Case Closed
I’m sad. I’m mad. I’m confused, but not surprised. My case has finally been closed and no notification of it until my VLC had to make some phone calls. So it might be triggering for people
Nov 23, 202114:15
Dancing Frog, & Burning Turkeys Kind of Therapy
It’s time for our monthly Roundtable with Lani from Kruse Corner & Six from Cancelled for Maintenance. What’s this months shenanigans entail? Well whole lot of randomness, singing and your friendly reminder to not set your house on fire with a frozen turkey. You’re welcome.
Nov 19, 202154:33
Burnt Out and It’s Okay.
Sometimes life gets the best of us, and I’m here to tell you that it’s okay to take care of you. If you get burnt out, burn out. It happens, but you’ll get back on the saddle. Take care of YOU. Some welcome to my rambling
Nov 15, 202120:23
IM BACK With a Random Ted Talk
Hello peoples. Personal life took priority to wrap school up, and a bunch of other things. So here’s a 10 minute ted talk randomness
Nov 01, 202109:18
Since When Is It A Competition To Just Not Be A D*ck?
ROUND TABLEEEE TIME! With Lani from Kruse Corner and Six from Cancelled For Maintenance Podcast. This month we discuss more so on the fact that people don’t really mean what they put out. It’s a business to people, not the matter of legitimacy of helping people. Exploiting them and more. So happy monthly therapy of rants ;)
Oct 15, 202101:06:52
Dive Down The Rabbit Hole: PFC LaVena Johnson.
PFC LaVena Johnson was only 19 years old when she was murdered in Iraq. One of the biggest cover ups in the military, yet her family still can’t find justice after 15 years. Why is that? How was the Army able to rule this a suicide STILL? How are people not more upset and talking about this just as much as we are Vanessa Guillen? Dive into this rabbit role with Lani and I and let’s bring justice for this family.
Oct 13, 202141:28
“You’re Not As F*cked Up As a Football Bat, As You Think You Are.”
This week we were joined by Virgina Cruse who is the author of, “The Soldier’s Guide to PTSD: How to No-Sh*t Reclaim Your Life,” a Soldier-to-Soldier guide for overcoming PTSD and Moral Injury that gives step-by-step guidance on how Service Members can take their lives back. Virginia is a Soldier-turned-therapist. She is former active duty Army (1997-2006), current Commissioned Navy Reserve Officer (2006-present), Masters-level Licensed Professional Counselor & National Certified Counselor specializing in Military Issues and Combat-Related Trauma. We discuss her book that is relevant to ALL and not just combat related. Normalizing that it’s okay to not be okay, but here to guide you to get better.
Oct 06, 202101:12:34
Just Saying The Words, Domestic Violence, Doesn’t Do Justice
First off… kind of wonky at the end. My b but October brings Domestic Violence Awareness Month and that is exactly where we’re at with this ‘forgotten crisis,’ the awareness stage. It’s not enough. Where’s the policies? Then you want to add it into the NDAA and out of commands hands, then who takes care of it? Where’s the transitional plan? It’s time to go into full gear on this. We were joined by one of our faves, Lani Hankins and discuss her new book, The Gaslight Heart. Listen closely and you’ll be able to win your own 😉
Oct 01, 202140:45
Take Care of YOU
Need a little pep in your step? Some extra motivation? Or somebody to just remind you that it’s okay to take care of YOU? Welcome to this weeks random episodes of updates, motivation, and just rambling with yours truly
Sep 22, 202119:47
“Here’s Your Straw, Now Suck It Up.”
It’s that time for our Effed Up Friday Segment and monthly Roundtable with Lani from Kruse Corner Podcast, Six from Cancelled For Maintenance Podcast, with our special guest Rachelle from The Enduring Campaign. We’ve turned this into a therapy session with good friends, how to decide if someone’s true and genuine, being a woman in the military, being Beta vs Alphas and so much more. With this month being Suicide Prevention, things like this is SO important. Just being raw, about raw topics and just being surrounded by genuine people.
Sep 11, 202101:25:58
You’re More Likely To Be Convicted For a Speeding Ticket, Than Rape.
Caity is standing up and speaking about her rapist, who is now fighting for an appeal for his ONLY 3 year sentence after sexually assaulting 6 women. She’s calling on those to start standing up for ACCOUNTABILITY. That’s all we want, is accountability for those who do wrong. To give the victims/survivors some sort of relief, because there’s a bigger after math than most realize. Here’s the link for her petition! https://www.change.org/p/u-s-army-court-of-criminal-appeals-deter-the-appeal-of-convicted-sex-offender-nelson-o-rodriguez?utm_source=share_petition&utm_medium=custom_url&recruited_by_id=0969ba10-0af2-11ec-965b-0f09dfea1199
Sep 08, 202145:17
Preventing Veteran Suicide, One Step At A Time
If there’s an organization I love to talk about, it’s Irreverent Warriors. They’re doing the damn thing, and organizations like this are so important, ESPECIALLY given the times. It’s all about camaraderie, meeting new people, and enjoying each other’s company. Forgetting the negativity in the world, and yourself. Hiking and just surrounding each other with positivity. I’ve had the privilege to go on 2 silkie hikes so far, and was able to catch some testimonials. There’s so much more to be said though. So check out their website www.irreverentwarriors.com for their merchandise and closes silkie hike near you! It’s free or you can choose to donate to the cause!
Sep 01, 202125:08
Don’t Be Afraid To Talk About It…
We’re continuing to bring awareness that it is okay to get help. Mental health matters and it does not discriminate, no matter the branch, gender or what your experience is. It is not dedicate to one set thing. We brought on Ernie Mariscal, who is a 21 year combat Army vet, and motivational speaker who speaks on mental health. How it’s okay to not be okay, but it’s up to you “whether you’re a victim or a victor,” as he says. He’s shedding more light that even as a man, it’s okay to get help.
Aug 25, 202138:49
6 MONTH ANNIVERSARY
I can’t believe we made it this far already, but we couldn’t have done it without our listeners and followers! Y’all are so amazing and helping us grow and do the damn thing! We’re just getting started and even announced a new step we’re taking soon 😉 so here’s to you all for letting us be your voice, a part of your healing and sending the message out!
Aug 21, 202111:57
F*ck The Stigma, Go Get The Treatment
This week we talk to Jasmine, another female Marine, who stood up and said.. “I need to do this for ME,” after experiencing MST. She helps shine the light on ending the stigma on getting the proper help you need. You won’t wear the uniform forever, so you have to peal the layers to know YOU. If we stand up together to end the highlighted, terrible stigma of mental health, we can encourage more and more to get other service members the help they need.
Aug 17, 202143:37
Bro, Do You Even Vet?
FIRST EDITION ROUND TABLE! With my favorites, Lani from Kruse Corner Podcast and Six from Cancelled For Maintenance Podcast. Exposing the truth of BroVet culture and how they just suck. The mental health stigma as well. So we ask… what’re you ACTUALLY doing to help change the culture?
Aug 13, 202101:26:15
“You’re On a Military Base, You’d Think You Were Safe.”
Lauren was a Sgt in the Army who knew that for her sake mentally and physically, med board was the best route. Even though one of the worst feelings is grief, and watching you career and goals just crumble with no control. She’s an MST Survivor, who’s raising her voice to ruffle feathers for change!
Aug 11, 202149:10
Since When Do We Have To Rate Mental Health?
Effed Up Friday brought the fumes of bs that Friday entails and bad leadership… mainly just ranting and b*tching, sorry not sorry. This is a coping mechanisms.
Aug 06, 202113:05
“I Found My Purpose… I Live To Serve.”
Not only is Kara a Marine sister, but she was also Ms Veteran America Finalist in 2020, that help homeless women, even with dependents. Sharing her story with many resources with it as well. Kara is such a strong, genuine person, who turned dark times into light, surviving from child abuse, MST Survivor, to help others and to continue giving back. Check it out!
Aug 04, 202101:08:47
“We Already Know You’re a Barracks Bunny, & Your Hair Doesn’t Help.”
Effed Up Friday brings you another glorious and just effed up story. It’s different than most, but that’s what we’re here for. To give a platform to share your story & experience within the effed up system of our US Military. Autumn shares her story of an illegal discharge from the Navy. Received an Other Than Honorable for drug usage that was never tested or found. Instead they went off an old roommates statement of a suspicion. Crazy right?
Jul 30, 202146:26
“Military & Mental Health, Just Don’t Seem To Work Together.”
We brought on a fellow Marine sister, Shannon. Who not only has made history for women in the Artillery field of the Corps, but she’s now helping those that need help when battling mental health and homeless by coffee! Her non-profit, Happy Bean Project is doing the d*mn thing. Also thanks to Shannon we were able to find WorthTen20, create a partnership with them among many other organizations by the amount of resources she shares!
Jul 28, 202130:39
“I’m Finally In a Good Place to Stand Up.”
If it wasn’t for this woman, we don’t know if Women With an Effed Up Mind would even be a thing. Dalina was a huge push for us to kick it and do what we do. We were angry for her and needed to speak, which later turned into doing what we do. Her viral TikTok crying, because justice wasn’t served, turned into another nightmare. She’s finally speaking on what she can, to tell her story and we’re extremely grateful she gave us the opportunity to be a part of her healing. Letting us be a platform to finally stand up and speak.
Jul 23, 202156:15
“This Isn’t Just Data For a PowerPoint Slide.”
Rambling on to summarize the subcommittee meeting (07/20) in regards of the findings and recommendations of the Independent Review Committee on Sexual Assault in the military. We’re quite impressed with the IRC and that Congress is recognizing that Domestic Violence is an issue as well. We ramble, rant, and give our opinion as well.
Jul 21, 202130:55
“Instead Of Addressing The Issue, I Was Kicked Out Of The Platoon.”
This week we brought light to an organization, founded by Smiles called, Vigilant Valkyrie. That bring women together, to show the camaraderie to each other as active duty women and veterans. She also brought a different perspective as an MP (Military Police) and having a first look of how flaw the system truly is, even as proper authority trying to handle it! Being told she’s “too motivated” or have too much initiative, SAY WHAT?! She stands up to the problem, as all should, so thank you Smiles for sharing this with us and bringing a new light! Her website is www.vigilantvalkyrie.org or you can look them up on Facebook and Instagram!
Jul 14, 202146:52
“He Was Issued a Ruc Sac, Not You.”
Service members have it hard enough when they encounter domestic violence, but what about military spouses? Nobody cares about them, because they don’t wear the uniform. To kick of Season 2, we brought on Operation Foxhole, who’s doing the d*mn thing to help military spouse domestic violence survivors. They provide MANY resources to help them leave and get on their own feet. We’re officially selling tshirts to give back to them as well! We look forward to working with them and helping them continue to do the d*mn thing!
Jul 07, 202101:01:20
Don’t Be a Dick Cheese, We’re All Americans.
That’s a wrap for Season 1! Take this weekend to remind yourself, that at the end of the day, We. Are. All. Humans. We’re Americans. We all have different views, different experiences, it just boils down to be a decent effing human. Happy 4th of July weekend! Enjoy it and be safe.
Jul 02, 202114:22
“I Turned My Trauma Into Art Therapy”
We wrapped up PTSD Awareness Month with… HEALTHY COPING. One big thing we preach is treating trauma in a healthy way. We brought on Amanda, who’s a MST and PTSD Survivor that turned trauma into beautiful jewelry. We showcased her beauty at Bead Priks, to show another outlet of healthy coping. We also call out bs on the 22 a day movement. Sorry not sorry.
Jun 30, 202156:12
“I Was Retaliated Against For Exposing The Sexual Assault Problem.”
Adam Derito is probably the saltiest of all salt dogs. Air Force Academy, Marine Corps OCS, and now a paratroop in the Colorado National Guard. He’s been fighting his case for YEARS now after being retaliated against for exposing the problem of sexual assault for over 30 people, including sports members. He lost his commission just days of getting it. So we felt his story needed to be shared more. Look up Operation Grid Iron and you’ll see what I mean. He was and is doing the d*mn thing!
Jun 25, 202159:11
“I Tried To Leave, Then He Boot Stomped Me Into The Curb.”
This week we welcomed Jessica, who is a member of the Royal Canadian Air Force, and came on to share her story. We’re trying to make a change here in the states, but we recognize this is a global issue. She suffered through a lot, for the sake of job, just to be rammed roded, and not get the position. So she’s now telling her story of her domestic violence.
Jun 23, 202102:45:38
On The Path To Make Sh*t Happen, Will You Be Joining Us?
BIG ANNOUNCEMENT AND A WHOLE LOT OF KNOWLEDGE ON THIS EPISODE!!! Brought back Army Veteran, Lobbyist, and podcast host of Carry On, Lindsey Rowland! We discuss the Military Justice Improvement & Increasing Prevention Act, as well as, the Military Family Violence Prevention Act. What they entail, what our recommendations are, and what’s the big announcement? Listen closely! We’re on the path to make a difference, and this episode is SUPER important. If there’s one episode you should listen too, it’s this one, because this is the beginning of making REAL change, ladies and gents!! This is just the beginning. It’ll take time, but it’s steps in the right direction!
Jun 18, 202101:09:33