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It's Soul Real Podcast

It's Soul Real Podcast

By Rocqi and Oso

With Rocqi & Oso. We're Millennials. We're Therapists. We're Black. We're Real. It'sSoulReal is the podcast that challenges the norms, deconstructs our reality, and questions your thinking. The podcast that celebrates our Blackness, is real about our challenges, and discusses everything in between. #thesearethethingsthatithinkabout #ItsSoulReal #podcast
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It's Soul Real Podcast Jul 19, 2021

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The Culture of Overcorrection

The Culture of Overcorrection

In this episode, Rocqi and Oso explore Cancel Culture, Dave Chappelle's last special, and the goals of progress.


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Oct 18, 202101:01:50
Create YOUR Heaven on Earth

Create YOUR Heaven on Earth

As Rocqi launches her business Manifest Realities Happiness Coaching, Rocqi and Oso explore how exactly to create one's own Heaven on Earth while also exploring why people don't do it more often. Have you created yours? Maybe you need some guidance on the how. Visit manifestrealitieshc.com to Design and Align a Life of Light, Freedom, and Truth. 


To see the FULL video of this episode as well as clips, please Subscribe to our YouTube Channel.

Oct 11, 202101:03:29
Entanglements Part II

Entanglements Part II

And we are back with more of the Will and Jada story! In this episode, we explore nonmonogamy at length including the different types of nonmonogamy that are out there. Check out Entanglement Jada? for the previous episode.


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Oct 04, 202143:09
Winter Is Coming! How To Prepare For S.A.D.

Winter Is Coming! How To Prepare For S.A.D.

WE ARE BACK! And we are coming back to our It'sSoulReal family with preparation and discussion of Seasonal Affective Disorder.  Learn Oso's tips and tricks for how to cope with the change of the seasons. 


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Sep 27, 202154:21
What Do We Bring to the Table?

What Do We Bring to the Table?

Women today are commonly being asked "What do you bring to the table?" So in this episode, Rocqi and Oso explore what that question actually means, what they actually bring, and how to strive to be a better partner. 


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Aug 30, 202101:08:05
WTF Do You Do AFTER Getting Engaged?

WTF Do You Do AFTER Getting Engaged?

We got engaged! So now what? What has changed since our engagement? What are some of the stresses of wedding planning? And how are we embarking on this new journey together? Rocqi and Oso explore all of this and more on their latest podcast episode. 


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Aug 23, 202156:11
We Got ENGAGED!!!!

We Got ENGAGED!!!!

YES it FINALLY happened!!! Oso asked. And Rocqi, of course said, YES! It'sSoulReal Family, please celebrate our Engagement with us, hear the lessons we learned to get to this moment, and of course listen to how Oso proposed!


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Aug 16, 202101:27:08
The Black Man's Role Part II

The Black Man's Role Part II

Part II of What is the Black Man's Role in the Family? 

With the glamorization of single motherhood and absence of Black fathers, many are left wondering (or blatantly disregarding) what the Black man's role is within the family. In this episode, Rocqi and Oso use their own life's examples of how Black men have showed up in their lives and explore why it is beneficial to have a Black man in your life.




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Aug 09, 202157:35
What is the Black Man's Role in the Family?

What is the Black Man's Role in the Family?

With the glamorization of single motherhood and absence of Black fathers, many are left wondering (or blatantly disregarding) what the Black man's role is within the family. In this episode, Rocqi and Oso use their own life's examples of how Black men have showed up in their lives and explore why it is beneficial to have a Black man in your life.


To watch the FULL video of this episode & more, please SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube Channel. 

Jul 26, 202159:56
Why Modern Women Don't Submit

Why Modern Women Don't Submit

In this episode, Rocqi and Oso explore the resistance of modern women submitting within their relationships as well as the roles many modern women don't seem to want to have. 


Please Subscribe to our YouTube Channel and watch this episode's FULL video!

Jul 19, 202101:28:09
Black AND Queer

Black AND Queer

Happy Pride Month! In this episode, Rocqi and Oso explore some past and current Black AND Queer figures as well as exploring why there is such a problem with the LGBTQ+ community within the Black community. We also discuss how we can move forward and break the stigma. 


You can watch the FULL podcast video on our YouTube Channel. Please Subscribe!

Jun 07, 202101:03:20
Ugly Truth and Beautiful Lies

Ugly Truth and Beautiful Lies

After being inspired from a question from our audience, not only did we answer their question, but Rocqi and Oso explored honest communication in relationships as well as our own experiences with lying and deception. 


Remember our FULL podcast video will be on our YouTube Channel. Please Subscribe!

May 31, 202144:40
Insecure

Insecure

In this episode, Rocqi and Oso explore their insecurities throughout their childhood, adolescence, adulthood and the lessons they learned from them. Let's reflect on our insecurities and grow together. 


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May 17, 202101:19:25
The Challenges of Polyamory

The Challenges of Polyamory

In this episode, Rocqi and Oso explore some of the less discussed experiences of polyamory including dating separately vs triads, lack of compersion, emotions when your partner's on a date and more! Hear more about Rocqi and Oso's relationship as they discuss their own experiences and challenges within polyamory. 


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May 10, 202101:20:26
Emotional Babies

Emotional Babies

In this episode, Rocqi and Oso explore the emotional maturity and growth of adults as well as the childhood messages received about emotions. 


Remember to SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube Channel. We are now uploading our FULL Podcast videos on there.

May 03, 202155:09
I Am NOT Settling! Single AND Happy

I Am NOT Settling! Single AND Happy

In this episode, Rocqi and Oso explore the possibility of being single forever and still finding your Happily Ever After. 


You can now watch our FULL podcast videos on our YouTube Channel.

Apr 26, 202154:31
How To Date A Bisexual Woman

How To Date A Bisexual Woman

As a sort of follow up to our Bi Pride (Bi Bi Bi) episode, Rocqi and Oso now explore the specific challenges and experiences of bisexual women while also exploring the experiences of someone who dates bisexual women.


Please Subscribe to our YouTube Channel for video clips of this episode as well as the FULL video podcast. 

Apr 19, 202101:19:30
The Power of NO

The Power of NO

In this episode, Rocqi and Oso explore the power of boundary setting, consent, and staying true to yourself. 


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Apr 05, 202157:16
Who Taught You To Be Great?

Who Taught You To Be Great?

In this episode, Rocqi and Oso explore who gave them permission to step into their greatness and questioned what greatness even looked like. Take a moment to reflect on your own journey, mentors, and role models and see if you can discover your greatness. 


Remember to Subscribe to our YouTube Channel to watch video clips of this episode.

Mar 29, 202101:05:33
A World Out Of Balance: Finding Balance Series

A World Out Of Balance: Finding Balance Series

In Part V of our Finding Balance Series, Rocqi and Oso explore how the world is out of balance within politics, work environments, nature, and more. We also answer how the world can become balanced. Check it out!


Remember to check out Part IV of our Finding Balance Series, where Rocqi and Oso explore what is a Balanced Relationship, how to balance your relationship, and how to decide the roles within a balanced relationship. 


Remember to check out Part III of our Finding Balance Series, where Rocqi and Oso explore what makes a woman Balanced within her masculine and feminine energy and challenge norms associated with Traditional and Modern women. 


Remember to check out Part II of our Finding Balance Series, where Rocqi and Oso explore what makes a man Balanced within his masculine and feminine energy and challenge norms associated with Traditional and Modern men. 


Remember to check out Part I of our Finding Balanced Series, Divine Masculine and Feminine Energy where Rocqi and Oso explore the duality of energy that exists in each of us. 


Please Subscribe to our YouTube Channel to watch video clips of this episode.

Mar 22, 202101:31:60
How To Have A Balanced Relationship: Finding Balance Series

How To Have A Balanced Relationship: Finding Balance Series

In Part IV of our Finding Balance Series, Rocqi and Oso explore what is a Balanced Relationship, how to balance your relationship, and how to decide the roles within a balanced relationship. 


Remember to check out Part III of our Finding Balance Series, where Rocqi and Oso explore what makes a woman Balanced within her masculine and feminine energy and challenge norms associated with Traditional and Modern women. 


Remember to check out Part II of our Finding Balance Series, where Rocqi and Oso explore what makes a man Balanced within his masculine and feminine energy and challenge norms associated with Traditional and Modern men. 


Remember to check out Part I of our Finding Balanced Series, Divine Masculine and Feminine Energy where Rocqi and Oso explore the duality of energy that exists in each of us. 


Please Subscribe to our YouTube Channel to watch video clips of this episode.

Mar 15, 202101:22:38
How To Become A Balanced Woman: Finding Balance Series

How To Become A Balanced Woman: Finding Balance Series

In Part III of our Finding Balance Series, Rocqi and Oso explore what makes a woman Balanced within her masculine and feminine energy and challenge norms associated with Traditional and Modern women. 


Remember to check out Part II of our Finding Balance Series, where Rocqi and Oso explore what makes a man Balanced within his masculine and feminine energy and challenge norms associated with Traditional and Modern men. 


Remember to check out Part I of our Finding Balanced Series, Divine Masculine and Feminine Energy where Rocqi and Oso explore the duality of energy that exists in each of us. 


Our upcoming episode in the series, premiering next week, will be How To Have A Balanced Relationship. 


Please Subscribe to our YouTube Channel to watch video clips of this episode.

Mar 01, 202101:16:33
How To Become A Balanced Man: Finding Balance Series

How To Become A Balanced Man: Finding Balance Series

In Part II of our Finding Balance Series, Rocqi and Oso explore what makes a man Balanced within his masculine and feminine energy and challenge norms associated with Traditional and Modern men. 


Remember to check out Part I of our Finding Balanced Series, Divine Masculine and Feminine Energy where Rocqi and Oso explore the duality of energy that exists in each of us. 


Our upcoming episode in the series, premiering next week, will be How To Become A Balanced Woman. 


Please Subscribe to our YouTube Channel to watch video clips of this episode.

Feb 22, 202101:04:14
Divine Masculine & Feminine Energy: Finding Balance Series

Divine Masculine & Feminine Energy: Finding Balance Series

How does masculine and feminine energy present in nature? What are the qualities of masculine and feminine energy in humans? In our new Finding Balance Series, Rocqi and Oso dive into exploring masculinity and femininity and question how it exists in our society. 


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Feb 15, 202150:29
Myths of Marriage

Myths of Marriage

This is our FIRST Marriage episode and we start it off with a BANG! Rocqi and Oso address some of the generational lessons of marriage and question the validity of passing down these traditions.


Please help us get to 100 YouTube Subscribers for Rocqi's Birthday!

Feb 08, 202101:39:10
New Year, Pick Me! He Toxic, She Toxic, They Toxic Series

New Year, Pick Me! He Toxic, She Toxic, They Toxic Series

In this episode, Rocqi and Oso explore the trending mentality of a pick me.


Be sure to Subscribe to our YouTube Channel to watch video clips of this episode. 

Feb 01, 202101:12:39
Attraction 101

Attraction 101

What attracts you to people? What draws you to connect? Join Rocqi and Oso as we discuss the various levels of attraction.

Jan 25, 202101:06:35
2 Therapists Answer YOUR Relationship Questions

2 Therapists Answer YOUR Relationship Questions

We wanted our Podcast Listeners to know what we were up to. This isn't our usual podcast episode and you should definitely check out and Subscribe to our YouTube Channel which this was intended for. If you want Rocqi and Oso to answer YOUR relationship questions, please become a member on our Patreon.

Jan 11, 202121:15
Dear Our International Listeners Part I

Dear Our International Listeners Part I

Our International Listeners, WE SEE YOU! And we want to hear from you! This episode is dedicated to you. 


Remember to check out our YouTube Channel. https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGDhy3a50Pg0jKO5lByGy7g?view_as=subscriber

Dec 21, 202045:46
The Transition to Sex Positivity

The Transition to Sex Positivity

How do you become sexually liberated in a world that shames sex? In this episode, Rocqi and Oso discuss sex education, sexual exploration, and sexual liberation. We want to hear about your experiences too!

Dec 07, 202001:15:46
Dear Younger Me

Dear Younger Me

What would you tell your younger self if you could? What would you say about love and relationships? What would you say about the world today? Would you tell your younger self NOT to do something? In this episode, Rocqi and Oso answers these questions and more while acknowledging the lessons they learned along the way.

Nov 30, 202058:32
An Indigenous Thanksgiving

An Indigenous Thanksgiving

Do you give thanks for the land you're on and the food you eat that is native to this land? Do you pay tribute to the lives lost for you to celebrate this holiday? This Thanksgiving, Rocqi and Oso honor the Indigenous and not through the colonized lens.

Nov 23, 202053:20
Hindsight is 2020: Year in Review

Hindsight is 2020: Year in Review

This year has been hard. We were looking forward to so much and had to drastically adjust. What were some of the challenges and blessings of 2020 for you?

Nov 16, 202055:45
Election Day: Evolve Or Repeat

Election Day: Evolve Or Repeat

In this episode, Rocqi and Oso discuss how to move forward in America's corrupt political system. Remember to check out our episode, America is #1 in our Political Series.

Oct 26, 202001:21:33
Men, You Are More Than ATMs: He Toxic, She Toxic, They Toxic Series

Men, You Are More Than ATMs: He Toxic, She Toxic, They Toxic Series

In this episode, Rocqi and Oso question the gender roles, challenge the objectification of men, and deconstruct financial stability in relationships. Remember to check out our Healthy Relationships Series.

Oct 19, 202001:25:08
Toxic Femininity: He Toxic, She Toxic, They Toxic Series

Toxic Femininity: He Toxic, She Toxic, They Toxic Series

Yes just as there is toxic masculinity, there is also toxic femininity. Y'all don't want to miss this episode. It gets spicy! Remember to check out our Healthy Relationships Series. 

Oct 12, 202001:33:02
F*ckboy Philosophy: He Toxic, She Toxic, They Toxic Series

F*ckboy Philosophy: He Toxic, She Toxic, They Toxic Series

Check out Part II in our He Toxic, She Toxic, They Toxic Series, where Rocqi and Oso dive into the mentality of a fuckboy. Remember to check out our Healthy Relationships Series. 

Oct 05, 202048:48
HBCU: Family, Friends, Home

HBCU: Family, Friends, Home

In honor of Hampton University's canceled homecoming (due to COVID), we are re-releasing this episode on all of our platforms. 


Join us as we reflect on the HBCU experience: the good, the bad, the changes, and the Blackness.

Oct 03, 202001:07:35
Ladies, You Decide Your Own Pain: He Toxic, She Toxic, They Toxic Series

Ladies, You Decide Your Own Pain: He Toxic, She Toxic, They Toxic Series

This episode, Rocqi and Oso discuss the power in our choices. When choosing yourself first, you choose who you allow into your life. And who remains. Remember to check out our Healthy Relationships Series.

Sep 28, 202001:06:47
Bi Pride (Bi Bi Bi)

Bi Pride (Bi Bi Bi)

In honor of Bi Visibility Day, Bi Awareness Week, and Bi Pride Month, this episode we discuss bisexuality. Why are bisexual men viewed as less masculine? Are bi people monogamous or nonmonogamous? And we definitely had to record a Deep Dive ONLY AVAILABLE ON PATREON to discuss some definitions, some history, and some Bicons! 

Sep 21, 202001:22:48
Lovers & Friends

Lovers & Friends

Can you be lovers and friends? This episode we discuss the friendship within our partnership, friend break-ups, and shooting your shot from within that friendzone!

Sep 14, 202001:11:14
Laugh At My Pain

Laugh At My Pain

As we continue to bear the pain of being Black in America, this episode we explore how we have found resilience through our humor, laughter, and comedy. Black Stand Up Comedians, Sitcoms, and Rom Coms, tell us your top 5!

Sep 07, 202001:17:29
Tory Lame: Domestic Violence in the Black Community

Tory Lame: Domestic Violence in the Black Community

In this episode, we discuss Meg Thee Stallion's IG Live and the broader impact of Domestic Violence in the Black Community. Remember to become a member on our Patreon, so you can check out our Deep Dive where we go over actual red flags of DV that not everyone may know.  If you need support, you can call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233.

Aug 31, 202056:34
Black Panther - Reflection and Review (2.18.18)

Black Panther - Reflection and Review (2.18.18)

We honor the memory and legacy of Chadwick Boseman with the re-release of this episode to all of our streaming platforms. 

The impact, the meaning, the inspiration... why we needed Black Panther.

Aug 29, 202001:01:05
Entanglement Jada?

Entanglement Jada?

Y'all know we HAD to talk about that Red Table Talk. Hear what two therapists have to say about that whole...entanglement and don't forget to check out our Deep Dive on Patreon to hear even more! 

Aug 24, 202053:19
Women Need to Take TF Over! (9.30.18)

Women Need to Take TF Over! (9.30.18)

Women have to deal with some bullshit smh.... We found an old episode that we never uploaded to our other platforms. So here ya go!

Aug 23, 202001:16:06
WAP: Women Abolishing Patriarchy

WAP: Women Abolishing Patriarchy

You already know we had to give our 2 cents on Cardi B and Megan Thee Stallion's newest song, WAP. Then all that controversy that went with it?! We're glad to be back!

Aug 17, 202058:45
Dating a Woman or Dating a Man? You Decide. (3.8.2020)

Dating a Woman or Dating a Man? You Decide. (3.8.2020)

In this queer episode, we answer the question if women dating women is more fun than women dating men with Rocqi's experiences and a few of our audience's own.

Mar 09, 202046:04
Is Bernie Sanders The 2nd Coming Of Jesus (3.2.2020)

Is Bernie Sanders The 2nd Coming Of Jesus (3.2.2020)

What are the similarities between Bernie Sanders and Jesus Christ? And are we actually in Apocalyptic Times? Super Tuesday is here and of course, we have to talk about politics.

Mar 02, 202057:30
We Took A Break to Fall In Love (2.16.20)

We Took A Break to Fall In Love (2.16.20)

WE ARE BACK! And we are giving out all the details on our relationship: how it started, how we ended up in ethical non-monogamy, and where we are now. And definitely don't miss out on the Q&A from our It'sSoulReal family. Y'all were CONCERNED! lol

Feb 17, 202002:13:56