Soul To Soul

💠 Parenting is one of the most rewarding yet challenging journeys. In this video, I’m sharing my best parenting tools that have helped me create a strong, loving, and supportive connection with my children.💠 Whether you're navigating discipline, communication, or emotional support, these strategies will empower you to guide your kids with confidence and love.🔹 How to foster trust and open communication🔹 Effective discipline without power struggles🔹 Encouraging independence and emotional intelligence💠 Every parent wants the best for their children—let’s make parenting easier and more fulfilling together!

What do you resonate with more: being a victim/survivor of abuse or ownership?

I've never considered myself a victim of abuse. I was trained to take ownership of my role in every situation that comes into my life. This creates empowerment. I always ask myself and my clients, what is the lesson we are learning from any difficult situation that we could learn in no other way?

This was life changing for me. Drama or abusive situations stopped coming into my life as I learned to ask for help in creating boundaries and how to stick up for myself.

There is always a way out. I learned this from working with teenage girls at an orphanage in Mexico who escaped with their little brothers from being trafficked in their own homes. I’d love to hear your thoughts on what you have learned from your challenging situations. Have taken ownership of what your lesson or role is in challenging situations?

If you want more help or support in this area of being abused or stuck in unhealthy patterns and what to know what you can do.

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💠 Fun Fact: Next week, I’ll be sharing never-before-seen videos from four years ago! In this one, I was completely out of breath—just a week before I found out I was pregnant. Now I know why! 😅🚨 Struggling with trauma, emotional pain, or betrayal? You're not alone. Healing takes effort, and sometimes, outside support is the missing piece. If you're feeling stuck, physically or emotionally, it may be time to explore new tools.3 Steps to Start Making a Change:1️⃣ Awareness – Recognizing that something feels off is the first step toward change.2️⃣ Acceptance – Get real with yourself and those who support you. Truth leads to transformation.3️⃣ Ask for Help – Seeking support isn’t a weakness; it’s a game-changer. We all need it!💡 A Lesson from Peter Levine: Never think you've arrived. Whether you’re just beginning or deep into your healing journey, there’s always room for growth. Stay humble, stay open, and keep striving to be better.

🔗 Need more support? Check out my links below for tools to help you on your journey!💠Online Program:👉 https://pages.holdenreleasemethod.com/program-enrollment💠 Free Guide:👉 https://pages.holdenreleasemethod.com/guide-1💠 Books: Amazon 👉 https://www.karleeholden.com/books-2🔥 DON’T FORGET:Get Connected with me on Various Platforms. Follow on-- 👇email - holdenrelease@gmail.comInstagram - @karlee.holdenFacebook - 👉 https://www.facebook.com/karleeholdenpodcastLinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/karlee-holden-a88a4149/X - https://x.com/HoldenKarl14900Your Soul knows there is a way out. Check out my tools in the links below. Ask me a question in the comments or email me.

💠 An example of what I did wrong and how I switched my life and attitude around. My dreams got smashed. I allowed my light to be taken away. I needed to heal the pattern of competition. I believed in others but I didn't know how to believe in myself. And my relationships weren't supporting me the way I supported them. Uh oh!!! 💠 This was a blessing for me that I didn't see at the time. Instead of money or fame I got spiritual growth. I knew I didn't suck but I couldn't figure out why everyone around was succeeding but me.How to keep your cup full. There is plan for your best interest.

Dreams are fun. Desires feel like we don't have something and pain and struggle start to come in. Then we become disappointed by life and others. How do we get back to the joy of enjoying the dreams and creating from the dream place so we don't go into struggle and disappointment from the ego.

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More about my PTSD and how I had no boundaries in relationships so I found myself being abused many times, until I hit my bottom. I had no way to go but up. Relationships show where we need to work. Being in love with yourself is more important than anything on the outside. It is good to hit bottom. The only way is up. First getting real about our problems so we can address them and call in the tools we need. There is a way out of the darkness of trauma. I found my role and owned my part. Every family has issues and dysfunction. How to chose yourself over everything else to break our patterns. Issues can lay dormant and then get triggered. Your Soul knows there is a way out. Check out my tools in the links below. Ask me a question in the comments or email me.Online Program:https://pages.holdenreleasemethod.com/program-enrollmentFree Guide:https://pages.holdenreleasemethod.com/guide-1Books:Amazon https://www.karleeholden.com/books-2Audible:https://www.audible.com/pd/B0912KBSTT?source_code=ASSORAP0511160006&share_location=library_overflow00:00 Intro, Healing What Feels Like Impossible 1:30 We Don't Get What We Want, We Get What We Are3:00 More About My Symptoms and PTSD and dark thoughts4:35 How Having No Boundaries Created PTSDRelationships show where we need to work.5:30 Faith, no matter how dark our lives get, it's for a reasonBeing in love with yourself is more important than anything on the outside6:45 It's Good to Hit Bottom7:40 Waking Up, C-PTSD vs. PTSD8:30 There is a way out of the darkness of trauma10:00 I Chose Myself11:15 Get Real, Support and Honor Experience, Childhood Patterns Play out until healed and changed12:00 Soul picks parents, we keep attracting the same relationships until we break the pattern14:00 Ask for support15:40 Pain is relative16:40 Don't give up on yourself17:40 You don't have to take shit anymore, Unhealthy love attachments makes you feel like you have to keep taking it18:40 Discernment, there is no right or wrong, only feedback21:00 Pain body was haunting me, steps back and then forward, don't give up on yourself

00:00 Intro

00:25 #1. Don't be so hard on yourself, lighten up, we all make mistakes, forgive yourself

1:15 I have made plenty of embarrassing mistakes, my Souls journey to learn what I needed

2:10 Every Saint was once a sinner, learning your lesson will help you forgive yourself

2:30 #2. Believe in yourself, there are ups and downs, we are all one

5:20 #3. Don't Compare, don't compete, everyone starts somewhere

6:00 #4. Have a spiritual routine, deepen your connection

6:20 #5. Follow your heart, find your passion in your internal state

00:00 Intro: Something great is inside of you.

1:35 Clarify : What is a Soul, Higher Self, and Spirit

2:40 Mystical Experience: How to have a connection to God through meditation

4:30 Why do we want to connect, Self Realization Fellowship

5:05 Attunement, prayer, focus, Dr. Joe Dispenza. Parmahansa Yogananda

6:30 Bootcamp for your Soul, What we are here to achieve

7:15 Cut through the noise

8:00 Bring breath up the spine to the heart and brain, to stillness

9:00 Yes mediation is hard, takes practice, reap the amazing benefits

10:00 Hard to connect when we are in pain

11:30 Raise your frequency to connect to someone you have lost

12:20 Old wounds come up that are triggered by loss, transforming your pain

13:00 Guided Mediation

https://drjoedispenza.comhttp://yogananda.org

It's important to address our triggers and old hurts. If not they get worse over time. Time does not heal. Support, going within, honoring and feeling what we need to release does.

For tools click here.

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Hang onto the love, let go of the old, reconnect with the Soul. It’s ok to let go of old friends. It’s inevitable as you grow and change. Not all of your friends are going to be on the same page. Grief and loss are normal. It’s hard when the ones you love don’t get you. But remember creating a better you for a better world is your number one priority and that can mean letting go of old relationships. Abraham and Wayne Dyer talk.https://youtu.be/Pqbv1JxdWQw?si=GIO43p3ybUnyyRPO

Don't wait to start your podcast and/or you tube channel. Just do it and make it fun.

What do you want to share with people? How can you change someone's life?What excites you about life and what you have learned? How can you serve?

Don't let personal barriers and what people think stop you. It's ok if it's not perfect. You learn as you go.

Don't care what others think.

Have your bullet points. Be your authentic self.

Be Consistent. Follow Your Heart. You Are More Than Worth It

After many years of healing heartbreak, trying to find love and happiness I discovered the truth about love and happiness. I don't want you to suffer any longer. Joy and happiness are yours to claim now! I share how I lost my joy and happiness and what I needed to do to get it back. You too can get back your joy, love and happiness once you learn a few tools I share in this video. What would make you feel love and happy? Do you know what is stopping you from finding love and happiness? Would love to hear.

A way to look at chaos and discord. Why people do what they do. How can we bring more understanding to others in conflict from a higher place of love even when we don't agree. We can still speak truth from love for positive correction. Allowing others to be where they are and still standing our ground.

For more about my books, my program for donation on healing anxiety, overthinking and chronic pain click here. 

https://www.karleeholden.com/books-2

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More on understanding your Vessel. 

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-school-of-greatness/id596047499?i=1000676224700

Allow yourself to feel what you need to. Honor your emotions, your heart. Don’t live in denial and make everything ok when it’s not. You can’t change for the best without truth first being honored. Your emotions are your signals to best take care of yourself. You are your best guidance.

Your perfect timing. There’s a beautiful guidance when it comes to the right timing. Lessen your struggle in life and trust more in the faith of your guidance system.

🙏Prayer for LA fires. Take a moment with me to send out love and light to the Los Angeles area with all your Might!

Your heart is your Pot of Gold. The external world has its up and downs. It’s losses and gains. Love and lost. But what always stays unchanged is your internal, eternal Divine state of Love in the Highest Form. This is where you are Free and connected to the most High. For more on learning to go within checkout Paramahansa Yogananda @selfrealizationfellowship, https://yogananda.org or @drjoedispenza, https://drjoedispenza.com #foryou #selflove #meditation #grief #heartbroken #transformation

It's not fun to live with confusion and feeling stuck. When we wake up to why it's so freeing because now we can do something about it. A little bit about sex and dating in this too.

Releasing old emotional energy and creating healthy boundaries are the ways to overcome anxiety, depression and overthinking. Medication is like putting a bandaid on an infected wound. It needs to be cleaned out at the root. We all have patterns we learn from childhood. Becoming aware of these patterns to learn our valuable lessons so we can make changes, finding what is and isn't acceptable in our lives. For some of us we have never had boundaries or even know that we have a choice to refuse unacceptable behaviors. This is essential for our growth and our overall health.

“Don’t be a doormat.” Parmahansa Yogananda. Your body, your gut, your emotions will let you know when you are going against your own wishes. Go within. Learn to listen to your signals like you are giving someone you care about your undivided attention. Be the person you care the most about. Take action to do what’s best for you and watch how you feel better and then are better for others. https://www.karleeholden.com/books-2

Try this exercise. Give yourself all the things you want from others and see what happens in your relationships.

Jamie talks about healing her trauma pattern of being told she's, "not good enough for anything." She spent her childhood and teenage years being mistreated by family and school teachers. She was hit with a paddle by a biblical teacher and her father threatened her with a gun. Jamie overcame what could ruin a person. If you are feeling lost, listen to Jamies vulnerability and attitude. She is happily married with three kids and works hard as a nurse helping others. She is a true inspiration for overcoming what could feel impossible.

I'm sharing an example of one of our weekly classes from my Holden Release Program. This shows how I work one on one with clients to help them overcome their overthinking, overwhelm and stress to get unstuck. Not everyone comes to class. They are recorded for people in the group to watch later. 0:00 the one thing I constantly hear that people struggle with, boundaries 0:18 guided meditation going within, putting yourself first 6:00 example session working with Chris 8:00 stuck in the head, where is my body 8:45 getting out of the head exercise 15:50 sharing two fun thoughts from my yoga teacher 19:15 getting specific with what Chris's thoughts are 26:23 getting out of the head and let the emotion happen 30:00 understanding our parents, the good and the bad 30:40 Chris sharing about his dad and what he didn't get 35:10 Chris getting calmer 39:00 Chris and Linda sharing how it was living with checked out parents 42:00 understanding the nervous system, giving ourselves what we never got 45:00 catching triggers, tools for doing the work or getting support you need 47:00 Closing meditation, asking for what you need, and the right timing If you want to know more you can always book a brief call with me here. https://link.flowi.io/widget/bookings/holdenrelease-enroll Get my Free Guide: https://pages.holdenreleasemethod.com/guide-1 Or read more about some daily tools you can use here in my Books: https://www.karleeholden.com/books-2https://www.facebook.com/getanswerspodcast/https://www.karleeholden.com

I have only been working with Sandra a few months. She immediately started to use the tools for self care, and how to implement boundaries. Her life and her relationships are changing fast, all for the better. If you want more information how to work with me, you can book your Free Call here. https://link.flowi.io/widget/bookings/holdenrelease-enroll If interested in more information on calming the nervous system sign up for my mailing list. https://pages.holdenreleasemethod.com/guide-1 Moving Forward From Trauma Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/795941618322128 My personal trauma healing journey and tips on self love https://www.karleeholden.com/books-2

How come Mothers affect us so much? They have the power to help us or hurt us. Here are some tips to heal our relationships with our Mothers, so we can understand what they go through and what we go through, since we all have Mothers.

I discuss in the first chapter of my book (Can You Please Talk To My Trauma) what I learned from the rich and famous people I had relationships with. I quickly learned that they weren't happy and why this was the case.   The ego makes us feel like whatever we achieve isn't enough. The present spiritual moment is enough, where true happiness resides. How do we get more of that.  The joy really is in the journey. The destination is not the happiness.

We carry tension and pain in our bodies when we are stressed and our nervous system goes into fight flight freeze mode. Tension in the body is from the emotions we hang onto. Our emotions rest in the body and they can lay dormant unaware to us.   How we can start to unwind our emotions and tension:  1. Be aware of what is happening in the body, the heart, the gut. There are lots of signals. Strengthen intuition to take care of yourself. 2. Get to the root of what is bothering you from the present and the past. 3. Release the stress hormones by asking for support and getting the right tools.  This strengthens our immune system and changes our environment, our reality.  For more information about my Holden Release Program where I work side by side with you, schedule a Free call with me. Click HERE to schedule. https://link.flowi.io/widget/bookings/holdenrelease-enroll

What can we take away from every experience we go through?   How can we learn to be better through any incident or circumstance that comes our way. No matter how hard a situation may seem there is a lesson, a growth, a beautiful light at the end of the tunnel.   We found one after a burglar came to our house yesterday. I looked at myself and asked how can I grow from this and what can I teach my daughter. I believe whatever is coming into my reality is showing me something important and something to learn.  Have you been through something difficult and relaized it was a blessing? Please share!

Don't wait when to reach out and get some guidance when you don't feel good. Your body, your feelings, your sensations, like anxiety and fear will let you know when something needs to be addressed, needs attention, support and healing.  I recently had this happen. To hear more watch this video on what happened to me and what I did to fix it.  

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It's important to find what gives you energy and makes you happy. Putting yourself first so you are fulfilled and full of ambition and joy radiates that love and joy to all others. We want peace, we must start with ourselves.   Lori Kennedy's Wellness Business Hub to do an online course. https://thewellnessbusinesshub.com

Interview with my client Gloria on how she healed her seizures by understanding her seizures were connected to her abusive childhood.  She transformed her pain to purpose by working with me and on herself. She’s brave and powerful with all she faced to change her past and her present life. She used the tools and did the work and is now living a better life and creating a brighter healthier future.

Talking to my Dad about the power of clearing out old emotional and mental programming and pain that gets locked in us. Sometimes we don't even know that it is there. What we can do to start to get clear and feel better is ask for support and get tools to release the pain.

I would have liked to know that I could stick up for myself and have healthy responses like saying, “No, that is not ok.”

• Walk away.
• Ask for support when bullied or mistreated.
• Get away from unhealthy situations instead of staying in them. I would have made better choices about what friends, teachers and sports to be in to support my wellbeing.

I remember being a kid/teen like it was yesterday. I love being a parent and giving my kids all the tools I wish I would have known.

Would you like to give your kids more helpful tools now?

Come to my Masterclass this Monday Feb 6th and hear about the tools I learned the last twenty years in my career that transformed my life and my clients. Click link to register and save your spot.

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This is what I teach teens now so they can have a better adult life.

When I worked in the film industry in Hollywood I immediately learned about celebrities depression and suicide. These days I am hearing about teens and suicide. The media portrays suicide as the event of what happened, the overdose etc. What I always wondered is why the media doesn’t show the deeper root cause of why people take their lives? Even people who have so much going for them, love, money, fame, attention, families, do this?   On my journey to becoming a trauma practitioner I learned people don’t want to kill themselves, they want to kill the pain that is not resolved. What is unresolved pain?   I write about this in the first chapter of my book Can You Please Talk To My Trauma.  By the end of the book I explain how I woke up to what my trauma was and what I did to heal my symptoms.   The deeper root of all of our pain goes back to childhood. Unless the pain patterns we learned from growing up are addressed they get worse the older we get. They lay dormant and then get triggered. For example, Robin Williams pain goes back to being bullied and physically harassed in 6th grade. And at home in order to connect with his mother he had to make her laugh, it wan’t enough to just be Robin. Our school life is a reflection of our home life. Both need to be addressed.   I have a 7th grade daughter and watching kids be bullied and mean without knowing what to do is so hard. This is when the tools to have healthy responses to know how to stick up for oneself or ask for support are deeply needed in order to prevent a life of more bullying, depression and suicide. If a person is not getting the love and support they need at home and are bullied, they don’t have the tools to release that emotional pain. This pain gets trapped in the body creating trauma symptoms that can lead to suicide.   There are tools out there to release this pain, not just from the mind, it has to be released from the body, the nervous system. Fight flight freeze completion is vital to moving forward in life with peace and grace. This completion can happen anytime with the right support and guidance.   

To hear more about this join me for my Live Masterclass this Monday Feb. 6th, 12pm PST. Click link to register and get the link to join.  https://karleeholden.click/live-training?fbclid=IwAR1sba_NBMhec-xb5JhKcanz_1nIVJtK1MzOJ_ie5o5aeu_kK7-aA1fAWDI 

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I am talking to my client and friend Connie I have known for over ten years. She learned to walk again when all doctors and others told her she wouldn't be able too. This is when I met Connie. She shares what she has learned and how she has overcome her trauma to continuing growing gin her remarkable life she has created today.

I used to get so nervous every time I went to be worked on in my Somatic Experiencing training as I was the demonstration in front of a big group of people doing the training with me. I was working on my pain with many eyes watching me. I knew they were loving supportive eyes as they were on the same page as me. I felt grateful and scared.  I even felt this way in my one on one therapy sessions. I literally felt like running. I knew it wasn't the help I was running from. I was running from my past. A past I still needed to get away from. Knowing this kept me going and asking for help, plus the relief and clarity I felt every time I worked on myself was amazing.  It is totally normal to feel scared or anxious when asking for help. Here's how I look at it. The body and emotions get excited that we are giving it attention, to honor all we have been through.  It is like a little kid jumping up and down with excitement saying, "Yay, you are finally looking at me. I need you. I have some things to say and feel. Please hear me."    Have you felt this way?

Wellness Wednesday!

How To Start Cultivating Self Love - Even A Little Bit Goes A long Way.  Are you tired of feeling broken hearted, having low self-esteem, wanting love from outside sources and not receiving it? Start giving it to yourself now.Be gentle with yourselves. You've been through a lot. This human experience isn't easy.

Marissa Castello is interviewing me about why it is so important and how to heal trauma!

It's important to remind ourselves and our bodies we are safe. We come from thousands of years of fight, flight, freeze, responses. Plus a lot of us have gone through something, stress is normal. Feeling scared and unsafe is not. Do whatever you can to make yourself feel safe and bring your awareness to this peaceful safe feeling you conjure up. When we calm ourselves we improve our health and immune systems. Remember things like denial and manipulation can make you feel very unsafe. Truth set us free and makes us safe because we know what we are dealing with.

I am reading from page 40 of Can You Please Talk To My Girlfriend Book. It is about determining your value first on the inside. Don't let the outer world determine your value. You decide who you are and what you want to be first! Then let the outer world reflect that!

Start to build that bridge between what is happening in your body and what is happening in your life. Sometimes when energy starts to move it can feel scary. Reframe it to energy in my body is moving and it is excited to come out and get the love and support it needs to be heard. 1. Notice what your breath is doing instead of trying to force a deep breath. Where are you holding tension, and what sensations are doing in your body. For example anxiety may feel tight and bubbly in your stomach. 2. Observe your breath, the tension and sensations that are coming up. Don't try and change them. Watch them and see what happens next. Something may shift, some tension may dissolve or emotion come up. 3. Tell those parts I am listening, I love you, I am here. Soften and ground into what is. In this state we can start to draw in the resources and support we need to feel safe and release the stress to move on and be free.

Take a few minutes everyday to connect to your beautiful Self. I'll guide you through a brief mediation, that you can pause and spend more time on, or just do a few minutes to start and end your day. Open up to the possibility of feeling the bliss within your Soul, within you.

Lonely vs. alone. What's the difference? I found out the difference when I was at a movie theater by myself, it hit me, the joy of being alone rather than the pain of being lonely. Lonely is an old trauma pattern that can be banished once and for all. We can step into and embrace the independence and love of being alone with our beautiful selves. Book available on Amazon and Audible. https://karleeholden.com/books-2

It's normal to feel like we need to defend or explain ourselves. The good news is we don't need to. Most people don't care what are explanations are anyways. It is a waste of energy to explain or defend yourself. Of course there are times and certain circumstances this may be necessary. I am talking about why you missed someones call or you didn't want to go out. Honor yourself and know it's ok to say no, no thank you. You can return a call or text when you are ready and be present. Bring awareness to yourself and others when you notice unnecessary defending happening.

There is a way to heal stress and trauma, symptoms of anxiety, suicidal thoughts, overwhelm, depression, ocd, ptsd, and get to a place where you are feeling free, peaceful, and happy. I share how I did this. My online course, books, and videos will give you information to understand and release your pain, and get to a place where you can sit in stillness and feel connection and love for yourself, the Divine (God) and others.

How can we find balance in our life and relationship with social media and tv. Here's a challenge I like to do. However much time I spend on social media or tv, I spend mediating and self reflecting. Give it a try and tell me what you think.

The truth does set us free. It's helpful to know why our lives and emotions are the way they are. Understanding our patterns from where we grew up and what triggers us, helps us on our way to becoming free. What can we do right away to change. Become aware and real about what is.

The book Don't Be Nice, Be Real by Kelly Bryson explains what happens to us when we are nice and not real. How our emotions get stuffed down and this lead to all sorts of problems. You're not doing yourself or anyone else any favors by being nice. Being real is healthy and what is best for us.