KElevate

If you've said things like…

“I know they probably don’t hate me… but I FEEL like they do.”

“I know everything will be ok… but I FEEL like it won’t be.”

“I know I am good enough for them… but I don’t FEEL like I am.”

“I know I am loved… but I don’t FEEL loved.”

“I know I am capable of achieving more… but I FEEL so incapable…”

And maybe you’ve questioned why “knowing better” isn’t enough to shift how you’re acting in world and how you’re perceiving yourself...

In this episode, I explore why we can't integrate a better mindset / higher perspective on a situation when we FEEL some strong feelings about it.

*IMPORTANT NOTE* - If you have a strong resistance towards being in your body and feeling, this could be a sign of unintegrated Trauma. The kind of work talked about in this podcast could take you out of your window of tolerance and that could be unsafe for you. If you want to do deep healing work around Big-T Trauma, work with a professional who's trained to work with Trauma, like a Somatic Psychotherapist.

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Have you been practicing more balance and flexibility in the way you approach nutrition + fitness but you’re STILL taking forever to get ready because you’re incessantly body checking, constantly comparing yourself to other women + determining how you see and treat yourself based on the results of that comparison, and letting fearful thoughts about what might happen to your body because of what you ate or how little you exercised rob you of your ability to be present?

In this episode, I explain a similar place we find ourselves in when we try to fix our relationship with food by adopting more "flexible", "balanced" and "intuitive" ways of controlling your food, and how these issues will only perpetuate until you feel-to-heal your negative relationship with yourself + your body.

Don't you just hate that your mind always tends to go to those negative, worst-case scenario places?

Even though you try to think more positively (and everyone in your life has told you to in one way or another)...

You can't seem to stop yourself from catastrophizing most things, and that drives you CRAZY, doesn't it?

In this episode, I share some insights as a several year long recovering worse-case scenario thinker, and what I needed to learn to overcome the impact that my perpetual anxiety was having over my life.

Have you noticed that you have a lot of negative thoughts and limiting beliefs that you “know” aren’t true?

Maybe thoughts about yourself or your body that get you down, like I’m ugly or I’m not good enough or no one could ever really love me this way… and when you recognize those thoughts happening you hear repeats in your head of every self love and healing inspired quote that tells you that that thought you were thinking is simply a self-abusing lie? 

And even though you KNOW that, and believe that negative self talk isn’t true… or at least want to believe it’s not true… those same self-abusing whispers seem to be the filter you experience much of your life and yourself through? 

In this episode, I explain why simply "knowing better" and deciding that you want to believe something more positive about yourself / your life often isn't enough to transform the impact these "negative" beliefs have on your life, your self-esteem, your relationships, etc.

And then I take you through a process of reprogramming your unconscious mind to allow a positive shift in your belief systems to happen more permanently and organically.

What if everything you dislike and disprove of in your life... you actually want in some really deep, weird, f*ked up way?

After my 25 hour itinerary to Australia turned into a 5 day disastrous journey of getting stranded in India without a passport... looping in my anxiety and stress over all of the powerlessness and uncertainty that continued presenting itself in different ways... the long stretches of waiting for answers became time spent in introspection (as I do)

and I began to apply a concept I have heard about + worked with many times in my life; Having is evidence of wanting.

If I'm stuck in a situation I really, REALLY do not like... I've learned to use this as an invitation to explore if there's any part of me that I'm unaware of that actually, weirdly, is getting something desirable from this situation I don't like.

And through this curiosity I received many insights detailing my deep, weird, f*ked up desire to be a victim and receive others' pity...

I know... gross.

In this episode, I explore the importance in recognizing, owning and embracing that the very thing you don't want... is actually something that you DO want, no matter how "wrong" it feels to want it.

And how you can USE this awareness and these tools to align your unconscious + conscious minds and more easily get what you DO want (and get out of your own way!)

In this episode, I talk about food freedom + intuitive eating, the fears that hold us back from adopting it, the consequences of clinging onto food rules and the long-term benefits of learning to trust yourself around food.

In this episode, I’m doing deeper into the idea that confidence does NOT equal the absence of insecurity… by sharing some personal experiences that led me to discovering an authentic sense of self-confidence. 

This episode is a behind-the-scenes clip of a powerful coaching session. I coached someone into their clarity around what to do with their current financial and business situation. We discovered that her confusion was rooted in her ego disguising itself as intuition, which was making it hard for her to connect with what felt right and true for her.

This episode is a recording of a group coaching session I lead for a group of coaches and entrepreneurs in a community called The Secret Garden. This session, I take you through a powerful tool called The Deeper Desire (reference: Alyssa Nobriga and Institute for Coaching Mastery) which helps you reprogram the pattern of going outside of yourself to get what you want and shift out of disempowered ways of being so you can more easily step into what you want. For the first half of the session, you can follow along and answer the prompts so you have a reference point for the spot coaching that follows. 

This episode is a behind-the-scenes recording of a group coaching experience I lead inside of The Secret Garden called Doing The Work. Any time you're leaning into an edge that challenges who you've previously believed you are and what you're capable of... ALL of the patterns that have been conditioned into you to keep you safely in what's familiar are going to come online. This never goes away, as it shows up at every new level you expand into... and that's good news. Even though you can clearly see how insecurity, doubt, fear and perfectionism slow you down or hold you back from having what you want and feeling how you want to feel... you don't need these patterns to go away in order to have what you want. It's about changing your relationship with these patterns so that when they come up, they no longer take you out of the game. Today's session leads you to experience the power of acceptance over all of the blocks, patterns and resistance that shows up in your life and business. 

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