"Love, Sex, Lies and Reality" Talks

We all seek advice from others when we are going through life’s challenges.

I often get asked about how to get back to oneself after a relationship ends. The truth is that everyone’s timing is different for getting back up. On today’s episode of “Love, Sex, Lies and Reality” Talks, I share nuggets on what to do to get back on track with your life when the relationship or divorce happens.

There is a huge difference between transactional and healthy relationships.

If you're planning on having a long-lasting relationship, knowing the difference is essential so that you can ensure you are not settling for less than you deserve.

Have you ever been disappointed by someone? Did you have expectations that were never met?

On today's episode of "Love, Sex, Lies and Reality" Talks, I share nuggets on how to discover your inner strengths through disappointments you may face in life.

Are you single and desiring to get married someday? Is your desire based on the fantasies and illusions (as well as fairy tales) of a wedding rather than on building a healthy marriage?

On today's episode of "Love, Sex, Lies and Reality" Talks, I share nuggets on reality of the marriage vs. the wedding.

Listen in and share your feedback with me. Let's talk about it!

Finding love in today's world may be a bit challenging especially when you keep meeting people who we sometimes label as "time wasters."

On today's episode of "Love, Sex, Lies and Reality" Talks, I share nuggets on "How to Find Love."

Reality is that true love is easy when you become the partner you are seeking.

Listen in, share your thoughts as we break bread together on another episode.

It's our 100 episode. Thanks for hanging out with us.

Are you a single struggling with dating, finding yourself or holding on to a relationship?

On today's episode of "Love, Sex, Lies and Reality" Talks, I share nuggets on "Dos and Don'ts" as a Single in 2024."

Listen in, share your feedback and let's keep growing together.

Are you single and struggling with being in a healthy relationship or with finding a partner?

On this episode of "Love, Sex, Lies and Reality" Talks, I am sharing nuggets with singles who are in a relationship or looking to get in a relationship.

Tune in, leave your feedback and let's break bread together!

Self-sabotaging often stems from low self-esteem issues, unhealed emotional pain/trauma, negative self-talk and lack of knowledge of one's true self.

On today's episode of "Love, Sex, Lies and Reality" Talks, I share nuggets on how self-sabotage can bring about conscious awareness and help you explore self-discovery avenues in your life's journey.

Listen in and share your feedback with me.

Welcome to 2024. There are twelve chapters of life in this year…to write, read, explore and discover your true self. What you choose to do in and with each chapter, can significantly affect the trajectory of your life. Today, I share nuggets of wisdom with you as you explore the thirty-one days of chapter one of 2024. Always remember: “No one can make you great until you realize that there is greatness in you.” - Kemi Sogunle

It's the last episode of "Love, Sex, Lies and Reality" in 2023. Thank you all for your support in 2023.

On today's episode, I share with you 5 Things to Set Yourself Up for Success in 2024.

Listen and chime in with your feedback.

Have you wondered if you're self-betraying when you get angry, bitter and resentful towards someone?

On today's episode of "Love, Sex, Lies and Reality" Talks I share nuggets on how to stop self-betrayal in your life's journey.

Listen in and share your thoughts, ask questions and leave your comments. Let's keep growing together!

Finding your uniqueness is essential to establishing a solid foundation for yourself that will result in you attracting the partner you need in your life.

On today's episode of "Love, Sex, Lies and Reality," I share nuggets on ways to connect to your true and unique self and attract the partner that will complement you for a lifetime.

Listen in and share your thoughts with me.

Have you ever been in a relationship and found yourself frustrated with your partner?

On today's episode of "Love, Sex, Lies and Reality," I share nuggets on how to understand frustration in your relationship.

Listen in and share your thoughts.

So many of us want to fall in love but we quickly fall out of love because we don't truly know and understand the difference between falling in love and loving someone.

As a coach, I often come across potential clients and clients who don't fully know the difference between falling in love and loving someone.

On today's episode of "Love, Sex, Lies and Reality" Talks, I share some nuggets to help you gain an insight into what it truly means to love someone.

Have you been on a date and didn't have a way to vet the partner based on your relationship goals and life's vision?

Always remember:

"Dating is a vetting and sorting game and not a relationship." - Kemi Sogunle, excerpt, "On Becoming Restored." Copyright ©2014. All Rights Reserved.

Listen in and let's talk about it.

Dating doesn't have to be complicated if you ensure that your "spec" is in your "specs."

On today's episode of "Love, Sex, Lies and Reality," I dive into how to make sure that your "spec" is in your "specs" when evaluating potential partners so you are not your own heart breaker.

So many people believe that dating is a relationship. However, that is a myth.

Reality is that: "Dating is a vetting and sorting game that allows you evaluate potential partners and ensure whoever you choose to move into courtship with is in alignment with your life's vision and goals." - Kemi Sogunle, excerpt, "On Becoming Restored." Copyright ©2014. All Rights Reserved.

Welcome back to another episode of "Love, Sex, Lies and Reality" Talks. I often get asked the question, "How long should I date before taking the relationship to the next level?"

I share my answer on today's episode.

Leave your comments as we talk about this.

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Have you ever wondered why you keep attracting unhealthy partners in relationships?

On today's episode of "Love, Sex, Lies and Reality" Talks, I share 5 things that prevent us from having a healthy relationship with ourselves and others.

Have you found yourself struggling to let go of a relationship that ended?

On today's episode of "Love, Sex, Lies and Reality" Talks, I share nuggets on why we struggle of letting go when a relationship ends.

Listen in to learn more on what to do to help you move on after a relationship ends.

Staying single when you are emotionally unhealthy is important until you discovery your true self. Trying to be in a relationship when you are emotionally unhealthy will result in acquiring emotional pain/trauma and build another layer of buried/unhealed pain/trauma.

On today's episode of "Love, Sex, Lies and Reality" Talks, I share nuggets that will help you as you discover your true self while staying single.

Listen in and share your thoughts.

Relationship and confirmation biases are birthed from limited beliefs created out of buried/unhealed emotional pain/trauma. These biases hold you up in bondage and result in you self-sabotaging. I share nuggets with you on this topic to help you understand why eliminating these biases will liberate you and help you discover your true self. Always remember that nothing can hold you captive for long except you choose captivity as your only option.

On today's episode of "Love, Sex, Lies and Reality" Talks, my guests, Lakeisha and Korey Matthews share nuggets on why "Love is Worth the Wait."

Listen to the unedited episode via Facebook Live to learn more.

Rushing into a relationship while single can bring you emotional pain/trauma that will delude your decision making when it comes to finding a partner.

On today's episode of "Love, Sex, Lies and Reality" Talks, I share some nuggets that will help you evaluate your life and relationship goals prior to going into a relationship.

Going on a first date can bring about a lot of mixed feelings. You worry about what to wear, how you look and try to get ready to impress the partner.

Reality is that focusing on impressions can easily result in you missing out on the red flags.

On today's episode of "Love, Sex, Lies and Reality" Talks, I share with you 3 dating myths that can help you plan better when going on dates.

Listen in and let me know what topics you'll like me to share on for future episodes.

Expectations bring us a lot of emotional pain/trauma but without gaining a conscious awareness as to how they affect us, we tend to feel entitled to certain things and end up becoming disappointed while also acquiring emotional pain/trauma.

On today's episode of "Love, Sex, Lies and Reality" Talks, which happens to be the last episode before the Summer, I share nuggets that can help you gain a conscious awakening and lead you to shift towards healing and becoming the best version of yourself while still breathing and living.

By the way, don't forget to get the books I mentioned on today's episode: "Beyond the Pain" and "On Becoming Restored."

Have you found yourself going on dates but never feeling that you are able to pull through after a few dates?

Finding a partner to spend your lifetime with requires time and understanding of both parties.

You have to be open to learning new ways and seeing things from different perspectives especially when you both are not brought up in the same environment and may have different perspectives about life.

On today's episode of "Love, Sex, Lies and Reality," I share 2 nuggets that will help you explore how to navigate the dating arena and find a partner that will evolve with you and you both commit to a lifetime.

Always remember that a relationship requires two people who are ready to explore and commit to each other.

At every point in our lives, we all ask the "why" question in relationships or experiences.

The "why" question can hold us back from experiencing a conscious awakening when we get stuck with it.

On today's episode of "Love, Sex, Lies and Reality" Talks, I share some tips on how to gain a conscious awakening when you find yourself asking "why."

Always remember that the goal of every relationship is to help you evolve...not become stagnant or stuck in life.

Leave your feedback on what topics you'll like me to share on future episodes.

Yours truly,

Kemi Sogunle

Why do we focus so much on romance in a relationship?

Is romance the key to a healthy relationship?

On today's episode, I share my realistic view on romance in a relationship. I believe a lot of couples miss out on building a solid foundation for their relationships when the primary focus is romance.

Listen in and share your thoughts on this episode as we build together and as learn the true foundation of a healthy relationship that will last a lifetime.

As a single woman who may have unhealed emotional or father wounds, it is easy to create a transactional relationship that will not last for a lifetime. Such relationships stem from the need to have a partner who can fill the void that exist as a result of the emotional/father wounds.

On today's episode, I share 3 tips/nuggets that can help you as a single woman if you are going through this. 

The goal of a healthy relationship is to create a supportive environment where you can feel safe, thrive and evolve while supporting your partner to do the same.

Understanding the root causes of why we struggle in life’s journey is key to discovering and tapping into our inner strengths.  

Struggling is a test we all have to face in life’s journey in order to thrive and evolve.  

Love is in the air!

With Valentine's Day around the corner, singles are looking to connect with a potential partner. 

However, without knowing your body language or understanding how your body communicates with you (by sending warning signals via your intuition and nervous system, you may hook up with someone who not meant for you.

Our body sends us signals as warning signs all the time via our intuition and nervous system. Without understanding what your body is communicating, you may self-sabotage.

Listen to today's episode of "Love, Sex, Lies and Reality" Talks to learn more.

Is there such a thing as a "Perfect Partner?"

On episode 67 of "Love, Sex, Lies and Reality," I shed light into the "Perfect Partner" myth. 

There is no such thing as a perfect partner. We are all flawed and on the journey to discovering who we are and were created to be.

To have an idea that a partner is perfect, is birthed out of fantasies and illusions that we create from mirroring other people than being true to ourselves.

Wishing you a Happy Holiday season. See you all in 2023!

Suicide has become so prevalent in our society today. 

According the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention, the following facts are documented about suicide in the US:

• The age-adjusted suicide rate in 2020 was 13.48 per 100,000 individuals.
• The rate of suicide is highest in middle-aged white men.
• In 2020, men died by suicide 3.88x more than women.
• On average, there are 130 suicides per day.
• White males accounted for 69.68% of suicide deaths in 2020.
• In 2020, firearms accounted for 52.83% of all suicide deaths.

(Credit/Source: AFSP.org)

Most suicidal thoughts emerge from emotional pain/trauma that has significantly resulted in a mental shift than remaining true to oneself. This also affects the character.

There are people who are also still very much high functioning yet suicidal or depressed. 

On today's episode, I share on the root causes as well as steps to begin to overcome emotional and mental challenges.

How often do you think about how you are honoring yourself? 

Honor is part of commitment and self-respect. 

Not knowing and understanding the true self makes it easy to dishonor ourselves. 

If you find yourself people please, begging, chasing or allowing others to abuse, control or manipulate you, you are dishonoring yourself. 

Learning to honor yourself allows you to gain perspectives into how you practice self-abuse or self-sabotage without being consciously aware of it.

I share tips and nuggets in Episode 65 of "Love, Sex, Lies and Reality" Talks. Listen in and let me know what you think.

So many of us desire a relationship or marriage but this requires a lot of work in our individual lives as well as with the relationship.

A healthy marriage or relationship requires 100% from each partner. However, if only one person is doing the work, it's not going to be a healthy relationship.

Love requires work and it begins with working on yourself first. 

I share more on today's episode of "Love, Sex, Lies and Reality" Talks.

"Every relationship you have, is a reflection of the relationship with yourself." - Kemi Sogunle