"Love, Sex, Lies and Reality" Talks
By Kemi Sogunle
We get tired, feel defeated, become overwhelmed and develop fear or ego along the way.
Love, Sex, Lies and Reality deals with real life issues about relationships. It is all about learning to unpack and overcome the challenges you face, learning to live outside the box you may have created and building healthier and purposeful relationships.
Join Kemi Sogunle as she brings clarity and enlightenment to your world.
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"Love, Sex, Lies and Reality" TalksDec 01, 2023
Ep 114 - Happy Mother's Day - Nurturing Yourself!
As a woman, you are a nurturer to so many people. However, you must never forget to nurture yourself so that you don’t get depleted or lost in life’s journey. I share nuggets on how to nurture yourself on today’s episode of “Love, Sex, Lies and Reality” Talks. Let’s connect: https://www.kemisogunle.com Store: https://store.kemisogunle.com #lovesexliesandreality #kemisogunle #selfmastery #selflove
Ep. 113: Stop Hoarding Emotional Pain/Trauma!
We all have gone through some form of emotional pain/trauma whether as a child or as an adult. Reality is that most of us hold on to these emotional trauma and birth different narratives and personas from them. Doing so, robs us of truthful living and being free of pain/trauma. I share nuggets on how to overcome this on today's episode of "Love, Sex, Lies and Reality" Talks. https://www.kemisogunle.com Store: https://store.kemisogunle.com #lovesexliesandreality #kemisogunle #selfhealing #beyondthepain #selfmastery
Ep 112: The Truth About Self-Healing
I’m sure you’ve heard so much about self-healing and you may be wondering why you have to heal yourself. On today’s episode of “Love, Sex, Lies and Reality” Talks, I share nuggets on this topic. Let’s Connect: https://www.kemisogunle.com Shop/Coaching: https://store.kemisogunle.com #lovesexliesandreality #kemisogunle #selfhealing
Ep 111: Why The Relationship Breakup Happened
Breakups are not always a bad thing. Without knowing yourself, you will focus on the negative side of life and forget about yourself. On today’s episode of “Love, Sex, Lies and Reality” Talks, I share nuggets on Why the Breakup Happened for You…Not to You! Share your thoughts on this episode. Connect with me: https://www.kemisogunle.com Store: https://store.kemisogunle.com #lovesexliesandreality #breakup #kemisogunle #relationships
Ep 110: Why You Can't Ignore Your Healing Process
Healing is a lifetime process and we all have something to heal from. If you find yourself running away from healing or suffering silently with emotional pain/trauma, watch this! https://www.kemisogunle.com Store: https://store.kemisogunle.com #lovesexliesandreality #kemisogunle #onbecomingrestored #selfhealing
Ep 109: Before You Take Advice from Someone, Watch This!!!
We all seek advice from others when we are going through life’s challenges.
However, advise is not always what we need and knowing who the advisor is as well as where he/she is operating from, is crucial to making the decision that can alter the course of your journey in a negative or positive manner. On today’s episode of “Love, Sex, Lies and Reality” Talks, I share nuggets on this topic. Let me know what topics you’d want me to explore and I’ll be happy to share nuggets with you. https://www.kemisogunle.com Shop: https://store.kemisogunle.com #lovesexliesandreality #kemisogunle #selfmastery
Ep 108: Getting Back on Track After Breakup or Divorce
I often get asked about how to get back to oneself after a relationship ends. The truth is that everyone’s timing is different for getting back up. On today’s episode of “Love, Sex, Lies and Reality” Talks, I share nuggets on what to do to get back on track with your life when the relationship or divorce happens.
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Ep 107: Why You Must Never Rush Into a Relationship
Getting into a relationship is easy but knowing/understanding what the drive is and how to maintain the relationship can sometimes be challenge. Reality is that you must never rush into a relationship. On today's episode of "Love, Sex, Lies and Reality" Talks, I share some nuggets on this. Listen in and let's talk about this. https://www.kemisogunle.com https://store.kemisogunle.com #dating #love #kemisogunle #lovesexliesandreality #findinglove #healthyrelationship
Ep 106: Transactional vs. Healthy Relationships
There is a huge difference between transactional and healthy relationships.
If you're planning on having a long-lasting relationship, knowing the difference is essential so that you can ensure you are not settling for less than you deserve.
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Ep 105: Things You Must Stop Doing While Dating
As a single person, you may not be consciously aware that you are doing certain things that make you settle for less than you deserve. In today’s episode of “Love, Sex, Lies and Reality,” I share nuggets on “Things You Must Stop Doing While Dating.” Let’s connect: https://www.kemisogunle.com Shop: https://store.kemisogunle.com #lovesexliesandreality #kemisogunle #dating
Ep 104: Disappointments and Expectations
Have you ever been disappointed by someone? Did you have expectations that were never met?
On today's episode of "Love, Sex, Lies and Reality" Talks, I share nuggets on how to discover your inner strengths through disappointments you may face in life.
Read this: Disappointments Are Life's Teacher.
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Ep 103: How to Stop Your Relationship from Failing
Relationships don't have to fail if we take the time to examine ourselves and do the work. On today's episode of "Love, Sex, Lies and Reality" Talks, I share nuggets on how to stop your relationship from failing. Listen in and share your feedback as we break bread together. https://www.kemisogunle.com Shop: https://store.kemisogunle.com
Ep 102: Dear Singles: Final Part - Marriage vs. Wedding
Are you single and desiring to get married someday? Is your desire based on the fantasies and illusions (as well as fairy tales) of a wedding rather than on building a healthy marriage?
On today's episode of "Love, Sex, Lies and Reality" Talks, I share nuggets on reality of the marriage vs. the wedding.
Listen in and share your feedback with me. Let's talk about it!
Connect with me: https://www.kemisogunle.com.
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Ep 101: Dear Singles: Part 3: How to Find Love
Finding love in today's world may be a bit challenging especially when you keep meeting people who we sometimes label as "time wasters."
On today's episode of "Love, Sex, Lies and Reality" Talks, I share nuggets on "How to Find Love."
Reality is that true love is easy when you become the partner you are seeking.
Listen in, share your thoughts as we break bread together on another episode.
Why not schedule a complimentary session with me to learn more about finding true love, dating and relationships?
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Ep 100: Dear Singles Part 2: Dos and Don'ts
It's our 100 episode. Thanks for hanging out with us.
Are you a single struggling with dating, finding yourself or holding on to a relationship?
On today's episode of "Love, Sex, Lies and Reality" Talks, I share nuggets on "Dos and Don'ts" as a Single in 2024."
Listen in, share your feedback and let's keep growing together.
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Ep 99: Dear Singles - Part 1
Are you single and struggling with being in a healthy relationship or with finding a partner?
On this episode of "Love, Sex, Lies and Reality" Talks, I am sharing nuggets with singles who are in a relationship or looking to get in a relationship.
Tune in, leave your feedback and let's break bread together!
Read this: Disappointments Are Life's Teacher.
Connect with me: https://www.kemisogunle.com
You can also learn more about coaching with me or get my books.
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Ep 98: Understanding Core Values
On today's episode of "Love, Sex, Lies and Reality" Talks, I share nuggets on how to understand and maintain your core values.
Listen in and share your thoughts.
Let's connect.
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Ep 97: The Truth About Self-Sabotage
Self-sabotaging often stems from low self-esteem issues, unhealed emotional pain/trauma, negative self-talk and lack of knowledge of one's true self.
On today's episode of "Love, Sex, Lies and Reality" Talks, I share nuggets on how self-sabotage can bring about conscious awareness and help you explore self-discovery avenues in your life's journey.
Listen in and share your feedback with me.
Ep 96: GET READY! How to find your greatness in 2024
Welcome to 2024. There are twelve chapters of life in this year…to write, read, explore and discover your true self. What you choose to do in and with each chapter, can significantly affect the trajectory of your life. Today, I share nuggets of wisdom with you as you explore the thirty-one days of chapter one of 2024. Always remember: “No one can make you great until you realize that there is greatness in you.” - Kemi Sogunle
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Ep 95: 5 Things You Must Do Before 2024
It's the last episode of "Love, Sex, Lies and Reality" in 2023. Thank you all for your support in 2023.
On today's episode, I share with you 5 Things to Set Yourself Up for Success in 2024.
Listen and chime in with your feedback.
Ep 94: How to Stop Self-Betrayal in Your Life's Journey
Have you wondered if you're self-betraying when you get angry, bitter and resentful towards someone?
On today's episode of "Love, Sex, Lies and Reality" Talks I share nuggets on how to stop self-betrayal in your life's journey.
Listen in and share your thoughts, ask questions and leave your comments. Let's keep growing together!
Let's connect: https://www.kemisogunle.com
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Ep 93: How to Find Your Uniqueness and Attract the Partner You Need in Life
Finding your uniqueness is essential to establishing a solid foundation for yourself that will result in you attracting the partner you need in your life.
On today's episode of "Love, Sex, Lies and Reality," I share nuggets on ways to connect to your true and unique self and attract the partner that will complement you for a lifetime.
Listen in and share your thoughts with me.
Connect with me: https://www.kemisogunle.com.
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Ep 92: Understanding Frustration in Relationship
Have you ever been in a relationship and found yourself frustrated with your partner?
On today's episode of "Love, Sex, Lies and Reality," I share nuggets on how to understand frustration in your relationship.
Listen in and share your thoughts.
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Ep 91: The Huge Difference Between Falling in Love and Loving Someone
So many of us want to fall in love but we quickly fall out of love because we don't truly know and understand the difference between falling in love and loving someone.
As a coach, I often come across potential clients and clients who don't fully know the difference between falling in love and loving someone.
On today's episode of "Love, Sex, Lies and Reality" Talks, I share some nuggets to help you gain an insight into what it truly means to love someone.
I have also written an article on this topic. You can find it here on my website.
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Ep 90: How to Consciously Date in Today's World
Have you been on a date and didn't have a way to vet the partner based on your relationship goals and life's vision?
Always remember:
"Dating is a vetting and sorting game and not a relationship." - Kemi Sogunle, excerpt, "On Becoming Restored." Copyright ©2014. All Rights Reserved.
Listen in and let's talk about it.
Let's connect: www.kemisogunle.com
Ep 89: Is Your "Spec" in Your "Specs?"
Dating doesn't have to be complicated if you ensure that your "spec" is in your "specs."
On today's episode of "Love, Sex, Lies and Reality," I dive into how to make sure that your "spec" is in your "specs" when evaluating potential partners so you are not your own heart breaker.
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Ep 88: Dating Myth vs. Dating Reality
So many people believe that dating is a relationship. However, that is a myth.
Reality is that: "Dating is a vetting and sorting game that allows you evaluate potential partners and ensure whoever you choose to move into courtship with is in alignment with your life's vision and goals." - Kemi Sogunle, excerpt, "On Becoming Restored." Copyright ©2014. All Rights Reserved.
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Ep 87: How Long Should You Date Your Partner?
Welcome back to another episode of "Love, Sex, Lies and Reality" Talks. I often get asked the question, "How long should I date before taking the relationship to the next level?"
I share my answer on today's episode.
Leave your comments as we talk about this.
Let's connect:
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Ep 86: 5 Things That Prevent You from Having a Healthy Relationship
Have you ever wondered why you keep attracting unhealthy partners in relationships?
On today's episode of "Love, Sex, Lies and Reality" Talks, I share 5 things that prevent us from having a healthy relationship with ourselves and others.
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Ep. 85: Why You Struggle with Letting Go After a Relationship Ends
Have you found yourself struggling to let go of a relationship that ended?
On today's episode of "Love, Sex, Lies and Reality" Talks, I share nuggets on why we struggle of letting go when a relationship ends.
Listen in to learn more on what to do to help you move on after a relationship ends.
Read this: How to let go of anything that no longer serves you.
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Ep 84: Why You Need to Stay Single if You Are Emotionally Unhealthy
Staying single when you are emotionally unhealthy is important until you discovery your true self. Trying to be in a relationship when you are emotionally unhealthy will result in acquiring emotional pain/trauma and build another layer of buried/unhealed pain/trauma.
On today's episode of "Love, Sex, Lies and Reality" Talks, I share nuggets that will help you as you discover your true self while staying single.
Listen in and share your thoughts.
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Ep. 83: Relationship and Confirmation Biases
Relationship and confirmation biases are birthed from limited beliefs created out of buried/unhealed emotional pain/trauma. These biases hold you up in bondage and result in you self-sabotaging. I share nuggets with you on this topic to help you understand why eliminating these biases will liberate you and help you discover your true self. Always remember that nothing can hold you captive for long except you choose captivity as your only option.
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Ep. 82: Love is Worth the Wait!
On today's episode of "Love, Sex, Lies and Reality" Talks, my guests, Lakeisha and Korey Matthews share nuggets on why "Love is Worth the Wait."
Listen to the unedited episode via Facebook Live to learn more.
Ep 81: Why You Shouldn't Rush into a Relationship
Rushing into a relationship while single can bring you emotional pain/trauma that will delude your decision making when it comes to finding a partner.
On today's episode of "Love, Sex, Lies and Reality" Talks, I share some nuggets that will help you evaluate your life and relationship goals prior to going into a relationship.
Read this: The Truth About Singleness
Ep 80: Dating Myths
Going on a first date can bring about a lot of mixed feelings. You worry about what to wear, how you look and try to get ready to impress the partner.
Reality is that focusing on impressions can easily result in you missing out on the red flags.
On today's episode of "Love, Sex, Lies and Reality" Talks, I share with you 3 dating myths that can help you plan better when going on dates.
Listen in and let me know what topics you'll like me to share on for future episodes.
New Episodes Coming in August
Ep 79: How Expectations, Entitlement and Emotional Pain/Trauma Affect Our Lives
Expectations bring us a lot of emotional pain/trauma but without gaining a conscious awareness as to how they affect us, we tend to feel entitled to certain things and end up becoming disappointed while also acquiring emotional pain/trauma.
On today's episode of "Love, Sex, Lies and Reality" Talks, which happens to be the last episode before the Summer, I share nuggets that can help you gain a conscious awakening and lead you to shift towards healing and becoming the best version of yourself while still breathing and living.
By the way, don't forget to get the books I mentioned on today's episode: "Beyond the Pain" and "On Becoming Restored."
Books are available on Amazon and my website.
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Ep 78: Is Marriage Really an Institution?
On today's episode, I share nuggets on marriage and how the building a solid foundation for a marriage begins with each partner being healthy and living purposefully.
Share your thoughts on this topic as we learn from each other and evolve to build healthier relationships and evolve in life's journey.
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Ep 77: Your Heart is Not Broken!
Have you ever had your heart broken by the person you thought would be the best partner for you? On today’s episode of “Love, Sex, Lies and Reality” Talks, I share my thoughts on what happens to you when you #experience a heartbreak. Listen in and share your thoughts. Connect with me on my website: www.kemisogunle.com. #lovesexliesandreality #findinglove #kemisogunle #beyondthepain #onbecomingrestored #healthyrelationship
Ep 76: Why You May Be Struggling to Find a Partner
Have you found yourself going on dates but never feeling that you are able to pull through after a few dates?
Finding a partner to spend your lifetime with requires time and understanding of both parties.
You have to be open to learning new ways and seeing things from different perspectives especially when you both are not brought up in the same environment and may have different perspectives about life.
On today's episode of "Love, Sex, Lies and Reality," I share 2 nuggets that will help you explore how to navigate the dating arena and find a partner that will evolve with you and you both commit to a lifetime.
Always remember that a relationship requires two people who are ready to explore and commit to each other.
"Never stop loving while living...when you stop loving, you stop living." - excerpt, "Love, Sex, Lies and Reality." - Kemi Sogunle. Copyright ©2014. All Rights Reserved.
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Ep 75: The "Why" Questions in Relationships
At every point in our lives, we all ask the "why" question in relationships or experiences.
The "why" question can hold us back from experiencing a conscious awakening when we get stuck with it.
On today's episode of "Love, Sex, Lies and Reality" Talks, I share some tips on how to gain a conscious awakening when you find yourself asking "why."
Always remember that the goal of every relationship is to help you evolve...not become stagnant or stuck in life.
Leave your feedback on what topics you'll like me to share on future episodes.
Yours truly,
Kemi Sogunle
Ep 74: The Romance Myth
Why do we focus so much on romance in a relationship?
Is romance the key to a healthy relationship?
On today's episode, I share my realistic view on romance in a relationship. I believe a lot of couples miss out on building a solid foundation for their relationships when the primary focus is romance.
Listen in and share your thoughts on this episode as we build together and as learn the true foundation of a healthy relationship that will last a lifetime.
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Ep 73: Things You Should Stop Doing and What You Should Start Doing as a Single Woman
As a single woman who may have unhealed emotional or father wounds, it is easy to create a transactional relationship that will not last for a lifetime. Such relationships stem from the need to have a partner who can fill the void that exist as a result of the emotional/father wounds.
On today's episode, I share 3 tips/nuggets that can help you as a single woman if you are going through this.
The goal of a healthy relationship is to create a supportive environment where you can feel safe, thrive and evolve while supporting your partner to do the same.
Ep 72: Understanding Why We Struggle in Life's Journey
Understanding the root causes of why we struggle in life’s journey is key to discovering and tapping into our inner strengths.
Struggling is a test we all have to face in life’s journey in order to thrive and evolve.
Today, I share how to understand your struggles and turn them into positive outcomes that will #help you evolve and #discover your inner strength.
“Every #struggle is a source of life’s tests. The tests we face in life’s journey are not to reveal our weaknesses but to help us discover our inner strengths. We can only know how strong we are when we strive and thrive beyond the challenges we face.” - Kemi Sogunle, excerpt, “Beyond the Pain.” Copyright ©️ 2014. All Rights Reserved.
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Ep 71: Is Love Truly in the Air?
So many people are looking to get gifts from their partners and it's all about transactions mostly than it is love.
What happens if you don't get a gift, or you don't have a Valentine's Day partner? Does this mean that love is dead?
Watch or listen to today's episode of "Love, Sex, Lies and Reality" Talks to learn more...
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Ep 70: What is Your Body Language?
Love is in the air!
With Valentine's Day around the corner, singles are looking to connect with a potential partner.
However, without knowing your body language or understanding how your body communicates with you (by sending warning signals via your intuition and nervous system, you may hook up with someone who not meant for you.
Our body sends us signals as warning signs all the time via our intuition and nervous system. Without understanding what your body is communicating, you may self-sabotage.
Listen to today's episode of "Love, Sex, Lies and Reality" Talks to learn more.
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Ep 69: Why Relationships Fail/Setting Yourself Up for a Successful Relationship
Every phase in life comes with different goals and needs.
At teenage years, you don't even understand yourself to know exactly what you are looking for in a partner. As you grow older and begin to get a sense and understanding of who you are, your perspective on life and relationships, change.
You begin to discover yourself, meet your needs, heal from the past and set goals as well as purpose for your life and relationship.
I discover further on today's episode.
Listen in, chime in and share your views by sending me your thoughts.
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Ep 68: How to Begin the Journey of Self-Discovery
Ep 67: The Perfect Partner Myth
Is there such a thing as a "Perfect Partner?"
On episode 67 of "Love, Sex, Lies and Reality," I shed light into the "Perfect Partner" myth.
There is no such thing as a perfect partner. We are all flawed and on the journey to discovering who we are and were created to be.
To have an idea that a partner is perfect, is birthed out of fantasies and illusions that we create from mirroring other people than being true to ourselves.
Wishing you a Happy Holiday season. See you all in 2023!
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Ep: 66 Understanding the Root Causes of Suicide
Suicide has become so prevalent in our society today.
According the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention, the following facts are documented about suicide in the US:
- The age-adjusted suicide rate in 2020 was 13.48 per 100,000 individuals.
- The rate of suicide is highest in middle-aged white men.
- In 2020, men died by suicide 3.88x more than women.
- On average, there are 130 suicides per day.
- White males accounted for 69.68% of suicide deaths in 2020.
- In 2020, firearms accounted for 52.83% of all suicide deaths.
(Credit/Source: AFSP.org)
Most suicidal thoughts emerge from emotional pain/trauma that has significantly resulted in a mental shift than remaining true to oneself. This also affects the character.
There are people who are also still very much high functioning yet suicidal or depressed.
On today's episode, I share on the root causes as well as steps to begin to overcome emotional and mental challenges.
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