Living In The Third Degree With BPD

After receiving an email from a listener asking if I thought my relationship with my wife was a trauma Bond relationship but I had never heard of that before so I had done some reading and figured I would bring to you what I learned about a drama relationship.

This is the worst episode of recorded to date... My wife just went through extremely tragic event and because we were fighting she refused to allow me to be involved in this incident and pushed me away and I haven't spoken to her and afraid of going to be a long time they're so sweet to me and that's even if she ever will again.

This is very special episode I never ever thought that I could get my wife Michelle up to have an interview with me considering I kept this podcast hidden for over a year from her.... Unfortunately this supposed to be a part two to her interview but there was an argument after part one but at least I want to put up what I got put of her for now...

I hope you find this episode interesting I figured three different ways of approaching the same kind of situation and it actually made my wife open up and tell me the one approach not to take because it actually hurt worse than me denying an accusation I think you'll find it very interesting and helpful.

This episode is about her being a hypochondriac but got so much worse once she was diagnosed with BPD and when stresses come on it triggers more of her hypochondriac behavior.

This episode is a follow-up from a couple of episodes back where I said I have not had contact with my wife and almost 2 months and the next time I did have contact with her that I would do a follow-up episode to let my listeners know what transpired and what came about during the visit and how it ended I think you'll enjoy this one obviously by the name of the title 9 hours in heaven it was an excellent excellent visit and ending.

So in this episode I talk about an embarrassing thing I've been doing and I created a second personality which I call my digital personality it's the only way that I can find out the true feelings of how my wife thinks about me I think you'll enjoy this episode but it was very hard for me to admit this kind of deceptive but useful tool I've been doing with all good intentions.

In this episode this is a part one of a part 2 episode of taking advice of family members and staying away for at least a month with no communication and see if she can appreciate all the things I was doing for her including love and attention and financial support....

Hey listen I sent you an email on how he had made the conscious decision to make her see how it felt to get hurt with words as soon backfired on him I think you'll find this episode very intriguing and insightful as I did.

I'm passing on my advice on the outline that I use that's been mostly effective when we're not together it's not so much an apology letter but it's a general letter outlining that I don't like arguing not putting anybody at flame but saying how much I love her and how I'm willing to discuss things proactively before they turn into an argument hopefully this could work for you.

After 6 weeks of being together and most of it being like heaven she opened up to me we had great talks and the worst time in her life she did everything she could to make me leave so I did.

This episode is what I've been experienced over the past 6 weeks since me and my wife have gotten back together.

This episode deals with the incidents on my last visit at my wife's house after almost 4 months of not seeing her and having her ignore any of my phone calls text and attempts to visit her it lasted less than 72 hours of her sending me away once again only because I repeated myself twice which is part of her delusions that if I'm repeating myself I'm repeating it for somebody else other than her, PLUS we met June 20th 1987 so this was our 34 year anniversary! ****** Please feel free to send me an email with questions, comments or feedback to thirddegreepodcastnh@gmail.com ******** AUDIBLE.COM SPECIAL FOR MY LISTNERS ******* Click the link below for a special for our listeners! ONE FREE MONTH of audible.com and 2 FREE AUDIBLE BOOKS which are YOURS TO KEEP FOREVER even if you decide to cancel! https://www.amazon.com/hz/audible/mlp/membership/plus?ref_=assoc_tag_ph_1524216631897&_encoding=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&linkCode=pf4&tag=eggshellpod09-20&linkId=c2ccdbcfbc874edb7e88243891afdc1d

This is my FIRST INTERVIEW and it happens to be with my son Matthew who is 26 years old and happens to be an inmate at the NH State Prison For Men in Berlin, NH. He speaks about his childhood through adulthood growing up and having to deal with the turmoil and chaos of having a parent with BPD. This was probably the most interesting episode I've ever done, so PLEASE listen as as stated in the episode that if you are interested in ASKING A SPECIFIC QUESTION for Matthew or if you would like him to touch on a specific subject that you would like me to read on the air and have him answer for you, I will do that in the next episode with him. ALSO... If you would like to write Matthew a letter or become his pen pal, please Email me an I will forward you his information. THANK YOU FOR MAKING THIS ALL POSSIBLE!!!  EMAIL: thirddegreepodcastnh@gmail.com ****** Please feel free to send me an email with questions, comments or feedback to thirddegreepodcastnh@gmail.com ******** AUDIBLE.COM SPECIAL FOR MY LISTNERS ******* Click the link below for a special for our listeners! ONE FREE MONTH of audible.com and 2 FREE AUDIBLE BOOKS which are YOURS TO KEEP FOREVER even if you decide to cancel! https://www.amazon.com/hz/audible/mlp/membership/plus?ref_=assoc_tag_ph_1524216631897&_encoding=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&linkCode=pf4&tag=eggshellpod09-20&linkId=c2ccdbcfbc874edb7e88243891afdc1d

This is a few tips and tricks you can try to use that work for me when you're being accused of something before it actually happens it's kind of a reverse psychology but letting her know however she wants to take it but to look at reality and it can prove if you're guilty but also it can prove how much you really love him/her.  ****** Please feel free to send me an email with questions, comments or feedback to thirddegreepodcastnh@gmail.com ******** AUDIBLE.COM SPECIAL FOR MY LISTNERS ******* Click the link below for a special for our listeners! ONE FREE MONTH of audible.com and 2 FREE AUDIBLE BOOKS which are YOURS TO KEEP FOREVER even if you decide to cancel! https://www.amazon.com/hz/audible/mlp/membership/plus?ref_=assoc_tag_ph_1524216631897&_encoding=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&linkCode=pf4&tag=eggshellpod09-20&linkId=c2ccdbcfbc874edb7e88243891afdc1d

I'd like to give some advice to win somebody with BPD or even doesn't have BPD and when they're accusing you rather than blasting back at them and having an unnecessary argument try to take these tips that I'm giving you it's worked in many times that I've had arguments with my wife about her accusing me of cheating I'm not saying it'll work 100% of the time but even if it works once that's one less fight you have to have with somebody that you love.  ****** Please feel free to send me an email with questions, comments or feedback to thirddegreepodcastnh@gmail.com                                                                    ******** AUDIBLE.COM SPECIAL FOR MY LISTNERS *******  Click the link below for a special for our listeners! ONE FREE MONTH of audible.com and 2 FREE AUDIBLE BOOKS which are YOURS TO KEEP FOREVER even if you decide to cancel! https://www.amazon.com/hz/audible/mlp/membership/plus?ref_=assoc_tag_ph_1524216631897&_encoding=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&linkCode=pf4&tag=eggshellpod09-20&linkId=c2ccdbcfbc874edb7e88243891afdc1d

This is a very special episode to me, this is a listener who's email I read on a previous episode and he tells me the abuse is not my fault even though I have blamed myself even publicly. I want to thank him for his thoughtful response! ****** Please feel free to send me an email with questions, comments or feedback to thirddegreepodcastnh@gmail.com ******** AUDIBLE.COM SPECIAL FOR MY LISTNERS ******* Click the link below for a special for our listeners! ONE FREE MONTH of audible.com and 2 FREE AUDIBLE BOOKS which are YOURS TO KEEP FOREVER even if you decide to cancel! https://www.amazon.com/hz/audible/mlp/membership/plus?ref_=assoc_tag_ph_1524216631897&_encoding=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&linkCode=pf4&tag=eggshellpod09-20&linkId=c2ccdbcfbc874edb7e88243891afdc1d

Men by societies standard are supposed to e strong, not cry, deal with not being loved or having affection, that is all women stuff right? WRONG! Men are equal with needs and hurt and sometimes leads to suicide because of having to hide or suppress those feelings of shame. ****** Please feel free to send me an email with questions, comments or feedback to thirddegreepodcastnh@gmail.com ****** **  AUDIBLE.COM SPECIAL FOR MY LISTNERS ***  Click the link below for a special for our listeners! ONE FREE MONTH of audible.com and 2 FREE AUDIBLE BOOKS which are YOURS TO KEEP FOREVER even if you decide to cancel! https://www.amazon.com/hz/audible/mlp/membership/plus?ref_=assoc_tag_ph_1524216631897&_encoding=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&linkCode=pf4&tag=eggshellpod09-20&linkId=c2ccdbcfbc874edb7e88243891afdc1d

After listening to many other podcasts and reading material not just on BPD but marriage in general I have some tips that I picked up in pieces to put together in one episode to share with you. ****** Please feel free to send me an email with questions, comments or feedback to thirddegreepodcastnh@gmail.com                                                         ******** AUDIBLE.COM SPECIAL FOR MY LISTNERS *******  Click the link below for a special for our listeners! ONE FREE MONTH of audible.com and 2 FREE AUDIBLE BOOKS which are YOURS TO KEEP FOREVER even if you decide to cancel! https://www.amazon.com/hz/audible/mlp/membership/plus?ref_=assoc_tag_ph_1524216631897&_encoding=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&linkCode=pf4&tag=eggshellpod09-20&linkId=c2ccdbcfbc874edb7e88243891afdc1d

We dont understands all the time how to communicate with our loved ones and its even harder with BPD! I have put together some facts and personal feelings into making wrongs into rights, it maybe be too late for mem, but I hope it's not for you. ****** Please feel free to send me an email with questions, comments or feedback to thirddegreepodcastnh@gmail.com ****** ** AUDIBLE.COM SPECIAL FOR LISTNERS ***  Click the link below for a special for our listeners! ONE FREE MONTH of audible.com and 2 FREE AUDIBLE BOOKS which are YOURS TO KEEP FOREVER even if you decide to cancel! https://www.amazon.com/hz/audible/mlp/membership/plus?ref_=assoc_tag_ph_1524216631897&_encoding=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&linkCode=pf4&tag=eggshellpod09-20&linkId=c2ccdbcfbc874edb7e88243891afdc1d

We dont understands all the time how to communicate with our loved ones and its even harder with BPD! I have put together some facts and personal feelings into making wrongs into rights, it maybe be too late for mem, but I hope it's not for you. ****** Please feel free to send me an email with questions, comments or feedback to thirddegreepodcastnh@gmail.com ****** ** AUDIBLE.COM SPECIAL FOR LISTNERS ***  Click the link below for a special for our listeners! ONE FREE MONTH of audible.com and 2 FREE AUDIBLE BOOKS which are YOURS TO KEEP FOREVER even if you decide to cancel! https://www.amazon.com/hz/audible/mlp/membership/plus?ref_=assoc_tag_ph_1524216631897&_encoding=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&linkCode=pf4&tag=eggshellpod09-20&linkId=c2ccdbcfbc874edb7e88243891afdc1d

no matter how much you speak or write to someone with BPD about anything between the black and white they will ignore due to there is no middle ground with BPD. ****** Please feel free to send me an email with questions, comments or feedback to thirddegreepodcastnh@gmail.com ****** ** AUDIBLE.COM SPECIAL FOR LISTNERS ***  Click the link below for a special for our listeners! ONE FREE MONTH of audible.com and 2 FREE AUDIBLE BOOKS which are YOURS TO KEEP FOREVER even if you decide to cancel! https://www.amazon.com/hz/audible/mlp/membership/plus?ref_=assoc_tag_ph_1524216631897&_encoding=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&linkCode=pf4&tag=eggshellpod09-20&linkId=c2ccdbcfbc874edb7e88243891afdc1d

These are emails that listeners send in to let me know how my show have impacted their lives and relationships. ****** Please feel free to send me an email with questions, comments or feedback to thirddegreepodcastnh@gmail.com ****** ** AUDIBLE.COM SPECIAL FOR LISTNERS ***  Click the link below for a special for our listeners! ONE FREE MONTH of audible.com and 2 FREE AUDIBLE BOOKS which are YOURS TO KEEP FOREVER even if you decide to cancel! https://www.amazon.com/hz/audible/mlp/membership/plus?ref_=assoc_tag_ph_1524216631897&_encoding=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&linkCode=pf4&tag=eggshellpod09-20&linkId=c2ccdbcfbc874edb7e88243891afdc1d

My wife had paranoid delusions and it would be the silliest noise, sound or situation that would send her into a whirlwind and argue sometimes embarrassing us both in public and sparking a stormy fight that sent me sleeping in my car or elsewhere. This will be just one of many collections of stories that I will include in my collection. ****** Please feel free to send me an email with questions, comments or feedback to thirddegreepodcastnh@gmail.com ****** ** AUDIBLE.COM SPECIAL FOR LISTNERS ***  Click the link below for a special for our listeners! ONE FREE MONTH of audible.com and 2 FREE AUDIBLE BOOKS which are YOURS TO KEEP FOREVER even if you decide to cancel! https://www.amazon.com/hz/audible/mlp/membership/plus?ref_=assoc_tag_ph_1524216631897&_encoding=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&linkCode=pf4&tag=eggshellpod09-20&linkId=c2ccdbcfbc874edb7e88243891afdc1d

I figured I would start with Family and children affected by BPD, with the statistics of my listeners age group and emails that I have gotten Im surprised that I mostly hear about a girlfriend/boyfriend or husband/wife but very, very rarely talk about family life and/or children involved and the impact that BPD has had on them or even the fact of listeners who were affected living in a household with BPD affected one of their parents or even one of the children being diagnosed with BPD. ****** Please feel free to send me an email with questions, comments or feedback to thirddegreepodcastnh@gmail.com ****** ** AUDIBLE.COM SPECIAL FOR LISTNERS ***  Click the link below for a special for our listeners! ONE FREE MONTH of audible.com and 2 FREE AUDIBLE BOOKS which are YOURS TO KEEP FOREVER even if you decide to cancel! https://www.amazon.com/hz/audible/mlp/membership/plus?ref_=assoc_tag_ph_1524216631897&_encoding=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&linkCode=pf4&tag=eggshellpod09-20&linkId=c2ccdbcfbc874edb7e88243891afdc1d

This episode is about a listener who his girlfriend had paranoia and delusional thoughts and actions and related to my mentioning how my wife had the same actions and he requested that I record episodes sanded on this subject. ****** Please feel free to send me an email with questions, comments or feedback to thirddegreepodcastnh@gmail.com ****** ** AUDIBLE.COM SPECIAL FOR LISTNERS ***  Click the link below for a special for our listeners! ONE FREE MONTH of audible.com and 2 FREE AUDIBLE BOOKS which are YOURS TO KEEP FOREVER even if you decide to cancel! https://www.amazon.com/hz/audible/mlp/membership/plus?ref_=assoc_tag_ph_1524216631897&_encoding=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&linkCode=pf4&tag=eggshellpod09-20&linkId=c2ccdbcfbc874edb7e88243891afdc1d

This episode is how I compare someone that is diagnosed with cancer, they are given a time that their life might expire and both of you are prepared and see the physical downhill of losing their life, but with BPD it takes their life away from you mentally but they continue to live on just like being an empty shell of someone you don't know anymore! After my wife was diagnosed I slowly saw her slipping away into someone I didn't know after 34 years being completely a stranger and Finally someone completely different. ****** Please feel free to send me an email with questions, comments or feedback to thirddegreepodcastnh@gmail.com ****** ** AUDIBLE.COM SPECIAL FOR LISTNERS ***  Click the link below for a special for our listeners! ONE FREE MONTH of audible.com and 2 FREE AUDIBLE BOOKS which are YOURS TO KEEP FOREVER even if you decide to cancel! https://www.amazon.com/hz/audible/mlp/membership/plus?ref_=assoc_tag_ph_1524216631897&_encoding=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&linkCode=pf4&tag=eggshellpod09-20&linkId=c2ccdbcfbc874edb7e88243891afdc1d

This episode touches on my thought that the longer that me and my wife were apart from an argument that the time apart collected negative boundaries that makes it harder and harder to return back into her life even when the negatives have nothing to do with me. ****** Please feel free to send me an email with questions, comments or feedback to thirddegreepodcastnh@gmail.com ****** ** AUDIBLE.COM SPECIAL FOR LISTNERS ***  Click the link below for a special for our listeners! ONE FREE MONTH of audible.com and 2 FREE AUDIBLE BOOKS which are YOURS TO KEEP FOREVER even if you decide to cancel! https://www.amazon.com/hz/audible/mlp/membership/plus?ref_=assoc_tag_ph_1524216631897&_encoding=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&linkCode=pf4&tag=eggshellpod09-20&linkId=c2ccdbcfbc874edb7e88243891afdc1d

My wife had paranoid delusions and it would be the silliest noise, sound or situation that would send her into a whirlwind and argue sometimes embarrassing us both in public and sparking a stormy fight that sent me sleeping in my car or elsewhere. This will be just one of many collections of stories that I will include in my collection. ****** Please feel free to send me an email with questions, comments or feedback to thirddegreepodcastnh@gmail.com ****** ** AUDIBLE.COM SPECIAL FOR LISTNERS ***  Click the link below for a special for our listeners! ONE FREE MONTH of audible.com and 2 FREE AUDIBLE BOOKS which are YOURS TO KEEP FOREVER even if you decide to cancel! https://www.amazon.com/hz/audible/mlp/membership/plus?ref_=assoc_tag_ph_1524216631897&_encoding=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&linkCode=pf4&tag=eggshellpod09-20&linkId=c2ccdbcfbc874edb7e88243891afdc1d

Most people with BPD have a favorite person which I use to be my wife's FB but since we separated and got a divorce she had a new FP and even thopugh it was a 6 month fling this person has threatened the polic on her, called her every name in the book and begged her to stay away but she is obsessed with this person and it is inhibiting us getting back together because she wants more than anything for this FP instead of me. ****** Please feel free to send me an email with questions, comments or feedback to thirddegreepodcastnh@gmail.com ****** ** AUDIBLE.COM SPECIAL FOR LISTNERS ***  Click the link below for a special for our listeners! ONE FREE MONTH of audible.com and 2 FREE AUDIBLE BOOKS which are YOURS TO KEEP FOREVER even if you decide to cancel! https://www.amazon.com/hz/audible/mlp/membership/plus?ref_=assoc_tag_ph_1524216631897&_encoding=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&linkCode=pf4&tag=eggshellpod09-20&linkId=c2ccdbcfbc874edb7e88243891afdc1d

These are a collection of some tips that I gathered by researching online or listening to audio books that I have tried in situations with my wife (who has BPD) and they have worked many times and I wanted to offer them to you. If YOU HAVE BPD: I would suggest that you think of situations in the past or that may arise and try turning the tables and think of the examples I put in place and IF YOU ARE A NON-BPD maybe you should try these tips if you care enough about the person in your life with BPD and if you ant to end a cycle of the same outcome. These tips may not only help upcoming situations BUT they may end a situation that is a reoccurring situation but you can try to end the cycle with a new approach for a better outcome. Good luck to all and remember... If you have BPD, you are still a good person, you are special and beautiful! You are loving, caring and compassionate but what might make you question all these good things about yourself is people with BPD generally have a more harsh side then people who don't so with the over the top tantrums, the nasty harsh things you say to your partner it may overshadow the good person that you really are, so if you want to feel better about yourself and have a happier and healthier relationship you need to work on yourself and then the good in you will shine!   ****** Please feel free to send me an email with questions, comments or feedback to thirddegreepodcastnh@gmail.com ****** *** AUDIBLE.COM SPECIAL FOR LISTNERS ***  Click the link below for a special for our listeners! ONE FREE MONTH of audible.com and 2 FREE AUDIBLE BOOKS which are YOURS TO KEEP FOREVER even if you decide to cancel! https://www.amazon.com/hz/audible/mlp/membership/plus?ref_=assoc_tag_ph_1524216631897&_encoding=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&linkCode=pf4&tag=eggshellpod09-20&linkId=c2ccdbcfbc874edb7e88243891afdc1d

It's true that you cannot change someone else, but you can change yourself and how to cope and work better with the person with BPD as well as changing the circumstances and the situation to an extent. But I have always believed that when 2 people love each other you don't always have to sacrifice because its easier to compromise. This episode also has some tips on little things I have done to help add some spark into the relationship which does NOT always have to be with a partner who has BPD, listen and you will see it can help ANYONE! ****** Please feel free to send me an email with questions, comments or feedback to thirddegreepodcastnh@gmail.com ****** *** AUDIBLE.COM SPECIAL FOR LISTNERS ***  Click the link below for a special for our listeners! ONE FREE MONTH of audible.com and 2 FREE AUDIBLE BOOKS which are YOURS TO KEEP FOREVER even if you decide to cancel! https://www.amazon.com/hz/audible/mlp/membership/plus?ref_=assoc_tag_ph_1524216631897&_encoding=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&linkCode=pf4&tag=eggshellpod09-20&linkId=c2ccdbcfbc874edb7e88243891afdc1d

This episode covers the extremes that someone with BPD will go through to avoid being abandoned. This is one of the most confusing traits to someone with BPD.... Very confusing for the other person like me! *** AUDIBLE.COM SPECIAL FOR LISTNERS ***  Click the link below for a special for our listeners! ONE FREE MONTH of audible.com and 2 FREE AUDIBLE BOOKS which are YOURS TO KEEP FOREVER even if you decide to cancel! https://www.amazon.com/hz/audible/mlp/membership/plus?ref_=assoc_tag_ph_1524216631897&_encoding=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&linkCode=pf4&tag=eggshellpod09-20&linkId=c2ccdbcfbc874edb7e88243891afdc1d

If you have BPD or if you live with someone who has BPD and would like to be a guest on our show please send me an email on what you think you could bring to the show and how you can help other listeners... Email: thirddegreepodcastnh@gmail.com ****** Please feel free to send me an email with questions, comments or feedback to thirddegreepodcastnh@gmail.com ****** *** AUDIBLE.COM SPECIAL FOR LISTNERS ***  Click the link below for a special for our listeners! ONE FREE MONTH of audible.com and 2 FREE AUDIBLE BOOKS which are YOURS TO KEEP FOREVER even if you decide to cancel! https://www.amazon.com/hz/audible/mlp/membership/plus?ref_=assoc_tag_ph_1524216631897&_encoding=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&linkCode=pf4&tag=eggshellpod09-20&linkId=c2ccdbcfbc874edb7e88243891afdc1d

This episode covers the subject I have researched yet when I'm with my wife she acts jealous possessive and loving as well and asked me not to abandon her but when she sends me away all those things disappear she could care less if I'm with somebody else or even if I died. *** AUDIBLE.COM SPECIAL FOR LISTNERS ***  Click the link below for a special for our listeners! ONE FREE MONTH of audible.com and 2 FREE AUDIBLE BOOKS which are YOURS TO KEEP FOREVER even if you decide to cancel! https://www.amazon.com/hz/audible/mlp/membership/plus?ref_=assoc_tag_ph_1524216631897&_encoding=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&linkCode=pf4&tag=eggshellpod09-20&linkId=c2ccdbcfbc874edb7e88243891afdc1d

This is a Listener Email, His name is Daryll and wants to get my opinion that it is OK for him to "Self Medicate" himself with Heroin ONLY BECAUSE he is just using it to deal with the bitching, complaining, accusing and turmoil so he thinks it is OK. But to make matters worse he tells his wife this as his excuse thinking she will forgive him and he thinks she will allow him to use heroin because its her fault anyway! But I reply telling him he is so lucky because rather than telling him to pound sand and get lost NOT JUST FOR using drugs, but blaming her and saying hey let me keep using so I can deal with you! She actually was nice enough to give him the chance to clean up and come back home!!! You will find this my LONGEST EPISODE and I really get into the nitty gritty! Contact Us: thirddegreepodcastnh@gmail.com *** AUDIBLE.COM SPECIAL FOR LISTNERS ***  Click the link below for a special for our listeners! ONE FREE MONTH of audible.com and 2 FREE AUDIBLE BOOKS which are YOURS TO KEEP FOREVER even if you decide to cancel! https://www.amazon.com/hz/audible/mlp/membership/plus?ref_=assoc_tag_ph_1524216631897&_encoding=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&linkCode=pf4&tag=eggshellpod09-20&linkId=c2ccdbcfbc874edb7e88243891afdc1d

Julie a 34 year old married female wants to explain how she makes nasty comments about why her husband has to work late, but she never gets the response she expects. I try explain that "For every action, there is a reaction." and that "Like attracts like". I feel that I offer a better and more rational response that she can offer to the situation. If you would like to submit a question that you would like read on the air, please REQUEST SPECIFICALLY that you would like to either have it read on the air or kept private. Email: thirddegreepodcastnh@gmail.com *** DISCLAIMER: Any emails sent to me, I reserve the right to have it read on the air even without requesting to do or not do. I WILL NEVER REVEAL ANY PERSONAL OR REVEALING INFORMATION UNLESS YOU SPECIFICALLY REQUEST TO DO SO.    * Thank You for listening and possibly participating  *** AUDIBLE.COM SPECIAL FOR LISTNERS ***  Click the link below for a special for our listeners! ONE FREE MONTH of audible.com and 2 FREE AUDIBLE BOOKS which are YOURS TO KEEP FOREVER even if you decide to cancel! https://www.amazon.com/hz/audible/mlp/membership/plus?ref_=assoc_tag_ph_1524216631897&_encoding=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&linkCode=pf4&tag=eggshellpod09-20&linkId=c2ccdbcfbc874edb7e88243891afdc1d

This is a theory that I designed just a short time ago that will allow you to show your person with BPD pros and cons of their good side and bad side give them credit where credit is due but explain it to them the cons of the bad side and the description and chaos that it causes and the lives around them.  *** AUDIBLE.COM SPECIAL FOR LISTNERS ***  Click the link below for a special for our listeners! ONE FREE MONTH of audible.com and 2 FREE AUDIBLE BOOKS which are YOURS TO KEEP FOREVER even if you decide to cancel! https://www.amazon.com/hz/audible/mlp/membership/plus?ref_=assoc_tag_ph_1524216631897&_encoding=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&linkCode=pf4&tag=eggshellpod09-20&linkId=c2ccdbcfbc874edb7e88243891afdc1d

This episode shows the narcissistic and selfish side of BPD which makes any relationship hard when it's one way street but extremely hard when somebody has BPD. It's hard enough to please somebody when it's going to be all about them but it's even harder when BPD is the main ingredient in the relationship. *** AUDIBLE.COM SPECIAL FOR LISTNERS ***  Click the link below for a special for our listeners! ONE FREE MONTH of audible.com and 2 FREE AUDIBLE BOOKS which are YOURS TO KEEP FOREVER even if you decide to cancel! https://www.amazon.com/hz/audible/mlp/membership/plus?ref_=assoc_tag_ph_1524216631897&_encoding=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&linkCode=pf4&tag=eggshellpod09-20&linkId=c2ccdbcfbc874edb7e88243891afdc1d

This episode deals with the analogy of off road 4 wheeling when it comes to our situations and emotional rollercoaster. *** AUDIBLE.COM SPECIAL FOR LISTNERS ***  Click the link below for a special for our listeners! ONE FREE MONTH of audible.com and 2 FREE AUDIBLE BOOKS which are YOURS TO KEEP FOREVER even if you decide to cancel! https://www.amazon.com/hz/audible/mlp/membership/plus?ref_=assoc_tag_ph_1524216631897&_encoding=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&linkCode=pf4&tag=eggshellpod09-20&linkId=c2ccdbcfbc874edb7e88243891afdc1d

This episode is about dealing with somebody who has BPD and has delusions and hallucinations and I'll give some tips on giving them some rational explanations on what they accuse you of and maybe how you can get through it. *** AUDIBLE.COM SPECIAL FOR LISTNERS ***  Click the link below for a special for our listeners! ONE FREE MONTH of audible.com and 2 FREE AUDIBLE BOOKS which are YOURS TO KEEP FOREVER even if you decide to cancel! https://www.amazon.com/hz/audible/mlp/membership/plus?ref_=assoc_tag_ph_1524216631897&_encoding=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&linkCode=pf4&tag=eggshellpod09-20&linkId=c2ccdbcfbc874edb7e88243891afdc1d

this episode is about somebody with BPD how they live in the past and during an argument sometimes we'll bring up the same things that hurt them in the past episode will help you to try to overcome those repeated hurts and try to make them feel more loved by validating their feelings and attacking the subject and apologizing and explaining because they're bringing it up because it hurt them in some way that you never validated their feelings of how bad it hurt them in affected them but they can bring it up years later sometimes even 30 years later *** AUDIBLE.COM SPECIAL FOR LISTNERS ***  Click the link below for a special for our listeners! ONE FREE MONTH of audible.com and 2 FREE AUDIBLE BOOKS which are YOURS TO KEEP FOREVER even if you decide to cancel! https://www.amazon.com/hz/audible/mlp/membership/plus?ref_=assoc_tag_ph_1524216631897&_encoding=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&linkCode=pf4&tag=eggshellpod09-20&linkId=c2ccdbcfbc874edb7e88243891afdc1d

I applied the 17 second rule to my wife with borderline personality disorder to get her to realize that I do love her and to get her thoughts away from a relationship she had when we were apart hopefully you can apply this to a situation in your own life. *** AUDIBLE.COM SPECIAL FOR LISTNERS ***  Click the link below for a special for our listeners! ONE FREE MONTH of audible.com and 2 FREE AUDIBLE BOOKS which are YOURS TO KEEP FOREVER even if you decide to cancel! https://www.amazon.com/hz/audible/mlp/membership/plus?ref_=assoc_tag_ph_1524216631897&_encoding=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&linkCode=pf4&tag=eggshellpod09-20&linkId=c2ccdbcfbc874edb7e88243891afdc1d

This episode explains that this could be the end of my marriage for the last time after being with my wife for 33 years after I found out some information and realizing my life is Merry-Go-Round and will never change being in the situation with her not wanting to change herself.

And listeners submitted a comments and questions in regards to her thinking she has paranoia along with BPD. *** AUDIBLE.COM SPECIAL FOR LISTNERS ***  Click the link below for a special for our listeners! ONE FREE MONTH of audible.com and 2 FREE AUDIBLE BOOKS which are YOURS TO KEEP FOREVER even if you decide to cancel! https://www.amazon.com/hz/audible/mlp/membership/plus?ref_=assoc_tag_ph_1524216631897&_encoding=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&linkCode=pf4&tag=eggshellpod09-20&linkId=c2ccdbcfbc874edb7e88243891afdc1d

Do as I say not as I do deals with exactly what the title is it is okay for my wife to do things but if I do just repercussions for it so since she makes the rules that's exactly how it is do as I say not as I doI have told her before you make the rules so you can bend the rules you can change the rules because you make the rules *** AUDIBLE.COM SPECIAL FOR LISTNERS ***  Click the link below for a special for our listeners! ONE FREE MONTH of audible.com and 2 FREE AUDIBLE BOOKS which are YOURS TO KEEP FOREVER even if you decide to cancel! https://www.amazon.com/hz/audible/mlp/membership/plus?ref_=assoc_tag_ph_1524216631897&_encoding=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&linkCode=pf4&tag=eggshellpod09-20&linkId=c2ccdbcfbc874edb7e88243891afdc1d

When it comes to someone with borderline personality disorder it's hard for them to apologize because they feel shame and guilt this episode covers why it's so hard for a person with BPD to apologize about the ax they commit when they have an episode. *** AUDIBLE.COM SPECIAL FOR LISTNERS ***  Click the link below for a special for our listeners! ONE FREE MONTH of audible.com and 2 FREE AUDIBLE BOOKS which are YOURS TO KEEP FOREVER even if you decide to cancel! https://www.amazon.com/hz/audible/mlp/membership/plus?ref_=assoc_tag_ph_1524216631897&_encoding=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&linkCode=pf4&tag=eggshellpod09-20&linkId=c2ccdbcfbc874edb7e88243891afdc1d

And this episode I'll be discussing how bad people with BPD can rip words out of their mouth before they think that are unnecessary and completely unforgivable can cause so much havoc that it can ruin a completely broken relationship and possibly take somebody's life. *** AUDIBLE.COM SPECIAL FOR LISTNERS ***  Click the link below for a special for our listeners! ONE FREE MONTH of audible.com and 2 FREE AUDIBLE BOOKS which are YOURS TO KEEP FOREVER even if you decide to cancel! https://www.amazon.com/hz/audible/mlp/membership/plus?ref_=assoc_tag_ph_1524216631897&_encoding=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&linkCode=pf4&tag=eggshellpod09-20&linkId=c2ccdbcfbc874edb7e88243891afdc1d

This episode deals with people with BPD that have paranoia and detailed delusions and the confusion between slight delusions that include jealousy and stories opposed to deep full-blown detailed delusions. *** AUDIBLE.COM SPECIAL FOR LISTNERS ***  Click the link below for a special for our listeners! ONE FREE MONTH of audible.com and 2 FREE AUDIBLE BOOKS which are YOURS TO KEEP FOREVER even if you decide to cancel! https://www.amazon.com/hz/audible/mlp/membership/plus?ref_=assoc_tag_ph_1524216631897&_encoding=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&linkCode=pf4&tag=eggshellpod09-20&linkId=c2ccdbcfbc874edb7e88243891afdc1d

This isn't really an episode as it is a sneak peek into what I plan on putting in for content and structure for episodes going into season 2. I encourage you to listen and then send me your comments or emails into suggestions on how I can structure my episodes and content better to help you if you have BPD or if you are someone who has a loved one with BPD. *** AUDIBLE.COM SPECIAL FOR LISTNERS ***  Click the link below for a special for our listeners! ONE FREE MONTH of audible.com and 2 FREE AUDIBLE BOOKS which are YOURS TO KEEP FOREVER even if you decide to cancel! https://www.amazon.com/hz/audible/mlp/membership/plus?ref_=assoc_tag_ph_1524216631897&_encoding=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&linkCode=pf4&tag=eggshellpod09-20&linkId=c2ccdbcfbc874edb7e88243891afdc1d

This episode focuses on the question that we always get from other people asking us why we keep going back to the person and situation! and at the same time people with BPD may ask their rather have why they keep coming back to them and the same situation. *** AUDIBLE.COM SPECIAL FOR LISTNERS ***  Click the link below for a special for our listeners! ONE FREE MONTH of audible.com and 2 FREE AUDIBLE BOOKS which are YOURS TO KEEP FOREVER even if you decide to cancel! https://www.amazon.com/hz/audible/mlp/membership/plus?ref_=assoc_tag_ph_1524216631897&_encoding=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&linkCode=pf4&tag=eggshellpod09-20&linkId=c2ccdbcfbc874edb7e88243891afdc1d

In this episode will be discussing matches that hurt that is inflicted on somebody by the person who has BPD but the additional hurt on top of that which brings up the term and so the injury. *** AUDIBLE.COM SPECIAL FOR LISTNERS ***  Click the link below for a special for our listeners! ONE FREE MONTH of audible.com and 2 FREE AUDIBLE BOOKS which are YOURS TO KEEP FOREVER even if you decide to cancel! https://www.amazon.com/hz/audible/mlp/membership/plus?ref_=assoc_tag_ph_1524216631897&_encoding=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&linkCode=pf4&tag=eggshellpod09-20&linkId=c2ccdbcfbc874edb7e88243891afdc1d

This episode deals with my experience and I fight with my wife during a BPD episode she literally acts like a broken record and brings up the same stuff during every single argument which is completely irrelevant to the initial argument.

This episode is about frustration even though I don't like I understand and try to apply rules when it comes to BPD with my wife. I'm only human and sometimes you have to apply those rules. *** AUDIBLE.COM SPECIAL FOR LISTNERS ***  Click the link below for a special for our listeners! ONE FREE MONTH of audible.com and 2 FREE AUDIBLE BOOKS which are YOURS TO KEEP FOREVER even if you decide to cancel! https://www.amazon.com/hz/audible/mlp/membership/plus?ref_=assoc_tag_ph_1524216631897&_encoding=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&linkCode=pf4&tag=eggshellpod09-20&linkId=c2ccdbcfbc874edb7e88243891afdc1d

This episode is my experience with dealing with someone with borderline personality disorder applying skills tips and tricks on dealing with somebody with borderline personality disorder and sometimes it put you ahead one 1 step and then a day later you can have been put two steps back. *** AUDIBLE.COM SPECIAL FOR LISTNERS ***  Click the link below for a special for our listeners! ONE FREE MONTH of audible.com and 2 FREE AUDIBLE BOOKS which are YOURS TO KEEP FOREVER even if you decide to cancel! https://www.amazon.com/hz/audible/mlp/membership/plus?ref_=assoc_tag_ph_1524216631897&_encoding=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&linkCode=pf4&tag=eggshellpod09-20&linkId=c2ccdbcfbc874edb7e88243891afdc1d

This episode describes the difference between conforming and tiptoeing I believe that can for me is being proactive in tiptoeing is being in the moment. ** AUDIBLE.COM SPECIAL FOR LISTNERS ***  Click the link below for a special for our listeners! ONE FREE MONTH of audible.com and 2 FREE AUDIBLE BOOKS which are YOURS TO KEEP FOREVER even if you decide to cancel! https://www.amazon.com/hz/audible/mlp/membership/plus?ref_=assoc_tag_ph_1524216631897&_encoding=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&linkCode=pf4&tag=eggshellpod09-20&linkId=c2ccdbcfbc874edb7e88243891afdc1d

This episode has to do with a person who has borderline personality disorder that has a best person in their life which can be a boyfriend or girlfriend a husband or wife and the problems and stresses by being that this person. *** AUDIBLE.COM SPECIAL FOR LISTNERS ***  Click the link below for a special for our listeners! ONE FREE MONTH of audible.com and 2 FREE AUDIBLE BOOKS which are YOURS TO KEEP FOREVER even if you decide to cancel! https://www.amazon.com/hz/audible/mlp/membership/plus?ref_=assoc_tag_ph_1524216631897&_encoding=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&linkCode=pf4&tag=eggshellpod09-20&linkId=c2ccdbcfbc874edb7e88243891afdc1d

This episode deals with the subtypes involved with borderline personality disorder that make the disorder that much more difficult to deal with. *** AUDIBLE.COM SPECIAL FOR LISTNERS ***  Click the link below for a special for our listeners! ONE FREE MONTH of audible.com and 2 FREE AUDIBLE BOOKS which are YOURS TO KEEP FOREVER even if you decide to cancel! https://www.amazon.com/hz/audible/mlp/membership/plus?ref_=assoc_tag_ph_1524216631897&_encoding=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&linkCode=pf4&tag=eggshellpod09-20&linkId=c2ccdbcfbc874edb7e88243891afdc1d

This is a very special episode that I hope people with BPD and those who don't have it but live with somebody who'd BPD can listen to this and understand a lot more that not only do we fight with the evil side and the good side but how I think they're splitting size fight against each other and actually have jealousy I can see each other considering they have two separate personalities. *** AUDIBLE.COM SPECIAL FOR LISTNERS ***  Click the link below for a special for our listeners! ONE FREE MONTH of audible.com and 2 FREE AUDIBLE BOOKS which are YOURS TO KEEP FOREVER even if you decide to cancel! https://www.amazon.com/hz/audible/mlp/membership/plus?ref_=assoc_tag_ph_1524216631897&_encoding=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&linkCode=pf4&tag=eggshellpod09-20&linkId=c2ccdbcfbc874edb7e88243891afdc1d

This episode is about a NON-BP that displays the guilt and sorrow felt after an argument with somebody that has borderline personality disorder.

This episode cover the subject of how the person who is with someone who has BPD finds themselves always being the one having to apologize for getting the person with BPD upset or they are told to apologize for getting the person with BPD upset, which puts a burden on the non-BPD thing they always at fault for triggering their episodes.                                                               *** AUDIBLE.COM SPECIAL FOR LISTNERS *** Click the link below for a special for our listeners! ONE FREE MONTH of audible.com and 2 FREE AUDIBLE BOOKS which are YOURS TO KEEP FOREVER even if you decide to cancel! https://www.amazon.com/hz/audible/mlp/membership/plus?ref_=assoc_tag_ph_1524216631897&_encoding=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&linkCode=pf4&tag=eggshellpod09-20&linkId=c2ccdbcfbc874edb7e88243891afdc1d

There are a variety of triggers that can set up somebody with borderline personality disorder and sometimes those same triggers do not set them off into an episode and other times they will hence walking on eggshells around someone with somebody with borderline personality disorder. Click the link below for a special for our listeners! ONE FREE MONTH of audible.com and 2 FREE AUDIBLE BOOKS, which are YOURS TO KEEP even if you decide to cancel! https://www.amazon.com/hz/audible/mlp/membership/plus?ref_=assoc_tag_ph_1524216631897&_encoding=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&linkCode=pf4&tag=eggshellpod09-20&linkId=c2ccdbcfbc874edb7e88243891afdc1d

My name is Brad, I'm 52 and have been with my wife, Now (ex-wife) for 34 years but she decided to divorce me in 2019. We met when I was 18 and she was 16 and she started to have symptoms of some sort of personality disorder and was diagnosed with BPD in 2012 and since then just like most people I was confused on what was going on and dealing with the turmoil that followed. But rather than leave or demand her to be the one to get help, I got a counselor myself and also learned as much as I could about BPD and how I can help her deal with it and how I can deal with in on every level of our lives. this podcast is the first episode to introduce myself and what my purpose is behind this podcast as well as my background, how I obtain my information all to be as helpful and supportive to others like myself who has a lived one who suffers from borderline personality disorder otherwise known as BPD. Click the link below for a special for our listeners! ONE FREE MONTH of audible.com and 2 FREE AUDIBLE BOOKS, which are YOURS TO KEEP even if you decide to cancel! https://www.amazon.com/hz/audible/mlp/membership/plus?ref_=assoc_tag_ph_1524216631897&_encoding=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&linkCode=pf4&tag=eggshellpod09-20&linkId=c2ccdbcfbc874edb7e88243891afdc1d

This episode will discuss triggers associated with borderline personality disorder sometimes they get new triggers which sometimes replace old ones and other times they just add to the old ones making the disorder that much harder to handle for those who are associated with the person that has borderline personality disorder. Click the link below for a special for our listeners! ONE FREE MONTH of audible.com and 2 FREE AUDIBLE BOOKS, which are YOURS TO KEEP even if you decide to cancel! https://www.amazon.com/hz/audible/mlp/membership/plus?ref_=assoc_tag_ph_1524216631897&_encoding=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&linkCode=pf4&tag=eggshellpod09-20&linkId=c2ccdbcfbc874edb7e88243891afdc1d