LILY Pod
By Jeff and Cathy Teichert
LILY PodMay 14, 2024
160. Olive Trees, Birthrights, Curses, & Covenants
159. Balance, Bridges, and Building a Beautiful Life
158. Exposing Relationship Realities
Dive deep with us into the intriguing question: Is there a difference between "relationship people" and others? What drives us towards or away from relationships? Listen as we dissect the common belief that at our core, everyone needs connection. Learn new insights that challenge views on love, commitment, and companionship. If familiarity breeds contempt, how can we love ourselves and those closest to us? #love #relationship #belonging
loveinlateryears.com, Related Video: "Matthew Hussey - What People Get Wrong About Self Love"
157. Transforming Minds, Unlocking Joy
Lifestyle: Rational Approach to Romance
156. Deciding About Divorce in 3 Steps
Lifestyle: Dinner Date Etiquette
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155. Encore Marriage: Love's Resilient Journey
Jeff & Cathy discuss relationship navigating concepts from the Netflix film Queen Bees, a romantic comedy set in a retirement community, which introduces the term "Encore Marriage" and portrays cultivating intentional joy, embracing love, and finding new beginnings at any age. #marriage loveinlateryears.com
Lifestyle: Working From Your Strengths
154. What Most Couples Fight About
Lifestyle: Bringing out Strengths in Others
Welcome to "LILY Lifestyle Tips," where we give you quick and simple hacks for creating a happy life and healthy relationships. #strengths #lawofattraction #focus
153. The Only 3 Options in Relationships
Lifestyle: Swapping Childcare
Welcome to "LILY Lifestyle Tips," where we give you quick and simple hacks for creating a happy life and healthy relationships. #childcare #tribe #support loveinlateryears.com
152. Marriage Without Fighting with Karen & Trace Tiberius
Jeff & Cathy interview later married couple Karen & Trace (after both experienced divorce from other people). They proudly proclaim that in the 8 years they've been married and blending their families that they've NEVER had a fight! Learn their secrets to success to build a "fight free" marriage. #marriage #couple #fight #love #relationship loveinlateryears.com Referenced Resources 📖 Intentional Courtship: A Mid-Singles Guide to Peace, Progress, & Pairing Up by Jeff & Cathy Teichert Divorce Poison: How to protect your family from bad mouthing and brain washing by Richard Warshak 36 Questions That Lead to Love by New York Times Things I Wished I’d Known Before We Got Married by Gary Chapman The Five Languages of Apology by Gary Chapman
Lifestyle: Grocery Budget Hacks
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151. Transparent Communication for Couples
Jeff & Cathy explore what gets in the way and what is required to enjoy the blessing of transparent communication in a connected, committed, whole-hearted relationship. 106. "Dating Naked," is the "SINGLES" version of this episode for couples (and for singles who anticipate couple-ship in the future). #couples #communication #connection loveinlateryears.com
Lifestyle: Dating for Single Parents
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150. Moving into a New Year
Jeff & Cathy reflect on the past year and share insights for moving into the new year with an inspired focus that will bless you in 2024 and beyond. #newyear #focus #power
51. The Power of One Word (referenced podcast)
Strength in Adversity (referenced keynote by Jeff)
Lifestyle: Motivation to Exercise
NEW on LILY Pod: "LILY Lifestyle Tips," where we give you quick and simple hacks for creating a happy life and healthy relationships. #physical #exercise #motivation loveinlateryears.com
149. New Testament Latter-day Saints
Lifestyle: Responding to a Grieving Friend
NEW on LILY Pod: "LILY Lifestyle Tips," where we give you quick and simple hacks for creating a happy life and healthy relationships. #grief #healing #friendship loveinlateryears.com
148. Grief Recovery with Connie Irick
Lifestyle: Spiritual Promptings
NEW on LILY Pod: "LILY Lifestyle Tips," where we give you quick and simple hacks for creating a happy life and healthy relationships. #spiritual #promptings loveinlateryears.com
147. Gratitude for our Guests
146. Would You Rather be Right or Happy?
145. Thanking God in Advance
144. Overcoming the FEAR of Intimacy with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife
In this Halloween special, Jeff & Cathy interview Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife about Overcoming the FEAR of Intimacy - which is her specialty as an LDS relationship and sexuality coach with a Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology! Learn what intimacy really is and how to know if you fear it. For INDIVIDUALS - she shares her views on sexuality being paired with sin to scare adolescents into waiting until marriage, what our theology really teaches about our bodies, how to be knowable while living the law of chastity, and when in the dating process to talk about sex. FOR COUPLES - she offers suggestions for dealing with fear that can come from former marital problems, how to co-create a new marriage that will stand the test of time, and what you can look forward to if you do the personal required to achieve true intimacy. #intimacy #sexuality #interview #therapist #singles #couples
Listen to her other interview with us here on LILY Pod: 24. Wisdom from Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife for Single Adults: spotifyanchor-web.app.link
Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife's coaching and teaching focus is on helping individuals and couples achieve greater satisfaction and passion in their emotional and sexual relationships. She has five empowering online courses packed full of tools requisite to create healthier lives and stronger intimate relationships. She offers workshops and retreats where she teaches these life-changing principles in person. She is a frequent guest on LDS-themed podcasts on the subjects of sexuality, relationships, mental health, and faith. She created and hosts "Room for Two," a popular sex and intimacy coaching podcast. Learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife and her work here: finlayson-fife.com
Learn more about Love In Later Years (LILY) and the resources Jeff & Cathy Teichert offer here: loveinlateryears.com
143. Dating Formulas - What To Do With Them
142. Working With Your Rebel Side
141. Falling in Love with Conference
140. Single Adults in the Church with Kathryn Reynolds
Kathryn Reynolds was sustained this past weekend in General Conference as a member of the Young Women General Advisory Council (with President Emily Belle Freeman) for The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. She has served in many other church capacities, including Relief Society General Advisory Council (with President Jean Bingham, 2020-22). Kathryn earned an associate degree in health science from BYU–Idaho, a bachelor’s degree in family and human development and a master’s degree in marriage and family therapy from BYU. She currently works as a licensed marriage and family therapist (LMFT).
When Cathy was a single mom, she met Kathryn in a large Single Adult Ward in Bountiful, Utah (2015). Kathryn is not yet married and is a passionate advocate for single adults in the church. Having served closely with many well known church leaders, she knows first hand they are not out of touch with the trials and disappointments we face. In association with the single adult initiative, we are reaching out for constructive feedback. If you would like to share your thoughts as a single member, email us at loveinlateryears@gmail.com. We need your voice!
Enjoy this illuminating dialogue about faith, confidence, ambiguous loss, trusting heaven, thinking about our various life circumstances in ways that affirm our unique paths, attracting people into our lives who are good for us, and knowing that God cares about our joy and our wants. #single #church #interview
139. Vitamin D for the Soul
138. When One Door Closes
Jeff & Cathy discuss how loss often opens the way to even greater opportunity as we learn how to let go and see the many doors opening because of the one door that closed. As we accept that a door has closed, we are free to embrace compensatory blessings that God wants to bless us with. Related podcast episode 80. "Love at Last with Dan & Emily." #love #loss #lettinggo loveinlateryears.com Let us support you in finding the open doors worth exploring in new relationships with our NEW COURSE: Courting with Confidence
137. Running Toward Your Goals with Nate & Beckie Lambert
Jeff & Cathy speak with newlyweds Nate & Beckie Lambert, successful real estate investors and former single parents. They share their journeys in the singles world after divorce, along with their love story and ultimately how they came together in marriage to blend a family of eight children. This is a high energy couple who were strong on their own and even stronger together. Both of them have found that intentional personal self-care helps them lift and care for those around them. Nate literally runs (on a treadmill) towards his goals (on a vision board) everyday! We encourage our listeners to also run towards their goals and actively create their own opportunities. Movement creates progress! Signup to take our Courting with Confidence 12-Week Course - we will help you run towards your dating & relationship goals this Fall (Sept-Dec)! Also mentioned in the podcast: the Big 5 Personality Test by Jordan Peterson. #divorce #remarriage #blendedfamily #ambition #joy #interview loveinlateryears.com
136. Love and Shakespeare
Jeff & Cathy discuss Shakespeare's interesting views on love and passion and how they apply in our world today. We encourage you to also listen to 80. Love at Last with Dan & Emily and we invite you to watch our Courting with Confidence FREE WEBINAR. #love #shakespeare #wisdom
135. The Stewardship of Human Interaction
Jeff & Cathy discuss the various aspects of human interaction and how to show up as wise stewards. Who is responsible for hurt feelings? Listen to learn about that and more -- including 3 principles that will support your own interaction stewardships. We have power, influence, and agency to show up in life the way we want to! This episode pairs well with: 54. Mental Health Stewardship with Ganel-Lyn Condie, 127. The Benefits of Indifference, 134. The Law of Choice, 117-119. Rejection Series (3) #stewardship #interaction #relationships
134. The Law of Choice
Jeff & Cathy explore the ramifications of the universal law of choice (agency) and how we can wisely apply it to all our relationships. To enjoy the gift of REAL love, freely given, without manipulation or coercion - we must honor this law (which takes time and effort to master). Let go of control and take back your own power to choose. Episode 59. Real Love with Dr. Greg Baer pairs well with this episode. #choice #agency #relationships loveinlateryears.com
133. Dating a Widow with Lori Carr
Last week Lori talked about how she went about finding stability after the loss of her late husband. In this thought provoking conclusion, she dives into the challenges she has encountered since re-entering the dating world as a widow - particularly in the Latter-day Saint community. We can show up better for our widowed members. Please share this podcast with your widowed friends and listen to understand them better. 🎧 Referenced in the interview that pair well with this episode: 132. Finding Stability After Loss with Lori Carr and 34. Thoughtful Labeling and LILY Tube Video on "Emotional Sunburns" #dating #widow #interview
132. Finding Stability After Loss with Lori Carr
Finding "stability in singleness" after losing her husband to an unexpected tragic death is something Lori Carr knew would be hard AND that it was something she needed to do before looking to replace what she lost in terms of companionship. Over the following year, she did things to intentionally heal from that loss before she started dating. If you can relate to relationship loss and figuring out how to be single again and find stability in your life, you'll love this episode! Enjoy the thought-provoking conclusion of our conversation with Lori: 133. Dating a Widow with Lori Carr #loss #healing #widow #interview
131. Life Design After Divorce
Jeff & Cathy share their thoughts about "life design" and the importance of using deliberate design methods to recreate your life after divorce. They briefly share the 6 modules they created to help people recover from divorce and design a life they love. Want more in depth information, tools, strategies, and personalized support? We invite you to take our self-paced COURSE on LifeDesignAfterDivorce (now available on demand) and enroll in one of our coaching groups, which are NOW OPEN (Aug) for Fall Enrollment (Sept-Dec). Space is limited, first come first serve. Join the Knights of the LILY (for men) OR LILY Ladies (for women). Interested in our next course coming up this fall (Sept-Dec)? Sign up for the FREE WEBINAR on CourtingWithConfidence.
Episodes that pair well with this: 24. Wisdom with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife & 59. Real Love with Dr. Greg Baer #course #life #divorce loveinlateryears.com
130. Taking Leaps of Faith
Jeff & Cathy speak on a topic closely related to their recent keynote address for the "Victory in Christ" Twin Falls Single's Conference. In this episode you will be encouraged to take the leaps of faith necessary to fulfill your divine potential and allow God's favor to enter your life. From divorce recovery to remarriage and everything in-between, we can have Victory in Christ as we take the leaps of faith we feel inspired to take. The Savior's atonement will be there to catch us when we fall and carry us through to our glorious destination. #faith loveinlateryears.com
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129. Beyond Relationship Failure: Learning from Success
Jeff & Cathy discuss what they learned from failed marriages and what they are learning now in their 5+ year marriage that feels a lot more successful and solid. We all learn from failures, but we also learn from triumphs. That is what we wish for each of our listeners - a future full of learning from relationship success! Related podcasts: 24. Wisdom from Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife & 59. Real Love with Dr. Greg Baer #relationship #success loveinlateryears.com
128. Healing Trauma with Holly Voisin
Jeff & Cathy are joined by special guest Holly Voisin, former mid-single and Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor at Therapy Utah. We discuss the effects of trauma and how to heal it. She is certified in the modalities of EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization & Reprocessing), ART (Accelerated Resolution Therapy), and EFT (Emotion Focused Therapy). This interview is packed with helpful insights - take notes! We did. #healing #trauma #interview
127. The Benefits of Indifference
Jeff & Cathy discuss common emotions that come as we transition from marriage into a co-parenting relationship with our former spouse. Trying to love or giving into hate can keep things tense and difficult. Letting go and allowing some indifference towards a former spouse has great potential for creating peace and harmony as you move forward with your life. Related podcasts: 69. Radical Acceptance & 45. The Serenity Prayer #emotion #balance #peace loveinlateryears.com
126. Make Dating Fun!
Jeff & Cathy tackle the sometimes dreaded topic of dating and how to make it fun and enjoyable. The process of getting to know a variety of people in search of your forever companion can offer some of the greatest joys life has to offer. Push past the fear of rejection and seize the opportunity for excitement and profound joy! Related podcasts: 86. The Law of Attraction & 72. Being a Chooser #dating #fun loveinlateryears.com
125. Why Fathers Count
Jeff & Cathy highlight the importance of fatherhood. One of America's greatest social problems is fatherless homes. In this episode, we discuss how we can all support fathers in staying involved in their children's lives, even after divorce. #singledad #fathersday loveinlateryears.com
124. Blending Families with Brittney Phillips
Jeff & Cathy talk with Brittney Phillips, stepparent educator at Blending Bravely about remarriage, successfully blending families, adoptive parenting, biological parenting, and step parenting - she has done it all! Now it's her passion to support and cheerlead others who are doing the same. You can find her at blendingbravely.com #blendedfamily #parenting #adoption #remarriage #support #interview
123. Healthy Remarriage
Jeff & Cathy explore the factors that contribute to healthy remarriage -- including emotional self-regulation, growing in our capacity to be seen and known, and being open to the influence of our spouse in creating a collaborative partnership and intimacy-based marriage. #healthy #remarriage
122. Dating Before Your Divorce is Final
Jeff & Cathy discuss the vulnerability that can lead many Latter-day Saints to date or develop new relationships before their divorce is final. Explore with us the complications and consequences of dating before a marriage is really over and how to fill the need for companionship in healthier ways. We make an exciting announcement for a new course coming this fall so be listening for that. Gain full access to our "Life Design After Divorce" 12-week course (now available on demand): https://lilywebinars.com/order-page #course #dating #divorce #singles loveinlateryears.com
121. Creating Abundant Options
Jeff & Cathy Teichert discuss the role of faith in co-creating with God more abundance and good options in our lives. #create #abundance #options loveinlateryears.com