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lovejames Podcast

lovejames Podcast

By Andrew and Juli-Anne James
We are Juli-Anne and Andrew James. A couple of bold, eternal optimists who believe in old school love.

We don't have all the answers about love and marriage, but through our podcast, we hope to share perspectives with you that will help inspire healthy growth and evolution in your relationships.

We've been married for 11 years, known each other for 18, and counseled couples into and through marriage. We've put in some hours.

On top of all of that, our parents have been married for a combined total of 98 years and counting!

Talk to us! Follow @formorelovejames on Instagram.
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Season 3 - Episode 8: Life & Business Partners
Let's get married, build a house, buy a business and have a baby all at the same time! This season we are talking with couples from all over who have been married for various different lengths of time. These are all couples that we've journeyed with in some way or another, and we want you to hear from them about what's really real when it comes to being married. We'll discuss their greatest marital challenge, how they are working to overcome it and what they've learned about themselves and about marriage. ----- In this episode, we talk to Reanna & Michael 
45:35
April 2, 2021
Season 3 - Episode 7: Love & Basketball
Let's bet on us.  This season we are talking with couples from all over who have been married for various different lengths of time. These are all couples that we've journeyed with in some way or another, and we want you to hear from them about what's really real when it comes to being married. We'll discuss their greatest marital challenge, how they are working to overcome it and what they've learned about themselves and about marriage. ----- In this episode, we talk to Sherelle & Justin
36:35
March 27, 2021
Season 3 - Episode 6: Just learn to like each other
"It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages." – Nietzsche This season we are talking with couples from all over who have been married for various different lengths of time. These are all couples that we've journeyed with in some way or another, and we want you to hear from them about what's really real when it comes to being married. We'll discuss their greatest marital challenge, how they are working to overcome it and what they've learned about themselves and about marriage. ----- In this episode, we talk to Meisha & Justin
37:33
March 20, 2021
Season 3 - Episode 5: Patience & Forgiveness
Patience is a virtue but be quick to forgive. This season we are talking with couples from all over who have been married for various different lengths of time. These are all couples that we've journeyed with in some way or another, and we want you to hear from them about what's really real when it comes to being married. We'll discuss their greatest marital challenge, how they are working to overcome it and what they've learned about themselves and about marriage. ----- In this episode, we talk to Liz & Greg aka #TeamGriz
47:34
March 13, 2021
Season 3 - Episode 4: Learn & Unlearn
Marriage is as much about learning as it is about unlearning. This season we are talking with couples from all over who have been married for various different lengths of time. These are all couples that we've journeyed with in some way or another, and we want you to hear from them about what's really real when it comes to being married. We'll discuss their greatest marital challenge, how they are working to overcome it and what they've learned about themselves and about marriage. ----- In this episode, we talk to Noni & Kai
48:54
March 6, 2021
Season 3 - Episode 3: Push & Pull
Can you compromise? This season we are talking with couples from all over who have been married for various different lengths of time. These are all couples that we've journeyed with in some way or another, and we want you to hear from them about what's really real when it comes to being married. We'll discuss their greatest marital challenge, how they are working to overcome it and what they've learned about themselves and about marriage. ----- In this episode, we talk to Rochelle & Chris
37:16
February 27, 2021
Season 3 - Episode 2: Beauty & The Beast
Are you a beast??? This season we are talking with couples from all over who have been married for various different lengths of time. These are all couples that we've journeyed with in some way or another, and we want you to hear from them about what's really real when it comes to being married. We'll discuss their greatest marital challenge, how they are working to overcome it and what they've learned about themselves and about marriage.  ----- In this episode, we talk to Monique and Kyle. 
41:37
February 20, 2021
Season 3 - Episode 1: Rice & Peas
Welcome (back) to the lovejames Podcast! This season we are talking with couples from all over who have been married for various different lengths of time. These are all couples that we've journeyed with in some way or another, and we want you to hear from them about what's really real when it comes to being married. We'll discuss their greatest marital challenge, how they are working to overcome it and what they've learned about themselves and about marriage. On this episode, we talk to Lisa and Andre.
41:09
February 15, 2021
Season 2 - Episode 8: Why Did I Get Married?
It's an important question that we are really only thinking about 11 years later. We're inviting you to ask yourself and your spouse this question also. And, if you're not married yet, we're giving you the scoop on what we think is the ONLY reason that you should ever get married. Curious? Hit play and let's talk! Talk back to us through email (podcast@thejameses.ca), Facebook (lovejames Podcast), or Instagram (@formorelovejames). Stay in love.
42:12
October 16, 2020
Season 2 - Episode 7: Money Matters
We've all heard the stats. Finances, and arguments about money are one of the most consistent leading causes of divorce and marital stress and failure. So, we're sharing our perspective with you on this major issue. As always, we're sharing some of our personal experiences and views, with the hope that something we say is helpful. Don't forget to talk back to us through email (podcast@thejameses.ca), Facebook (lovejames Podcast), or Instagram (@formorelovejames). Stay in love.
45:31
October 13, 2020
Season 2 - Episode 6: Family Matters
On this episode we discuss the positive and negative role that can be played by your family of origin, and the boundary line in between those two roles. We share some of our own personal experiences with each other's parents, and the strategies we employ as a couple to stay within the boundary. 
47:33
September 25, 2020
Season 2 - Episode 5: True Partnership (Anniversary Special)
On this episode of lovejames, we're reflecting on the last eleven years together, the years preceding those eleven years, some lessons learned, and the difference between a relationship and a true partnership. Connect with us on social media @formorelovejames  |  lovejames podcast. Email us at podcast@thejameses.ca
45:03
September 12, 2020
Season 2 - Episode 4: God and Marriage w/Rev. Marva Tyndale
This week we sit down with Reverend Marva Tyndale to discuss faith, and the role of God in marriage. Rev. Tyndale, or “auntie Marva” as we call her, has been a great support for us from the beginning of our own marriage. We hope her words also encourage you.
52:42
September 4, 2020
Season 2 - Episode 3: #BigFight
Why do we assume that having knock-down, drag-out fights is a natural and even necessary part of being married? I mean, sure, we will disagree, but can we disagree productively? On this episode, we share our fight history, and what we've learned from it. Disclaimer: On the lovejames podcast, we talk about love. Abuse is not love. It is one person in a relationship having power and control over the other person. The strategies we discuss for resolving conflict and working through the challenges of relationships assume that both people are willing and well-meaning. If you are in an abusive relationship, we encourage you to seek help in safely getting out of it.
45:12
August 28, 2020
Season 2 - Episode 2: Are you self-aware?
In season one (episode 2), we talked about doing a whole episode on self-awareness. Well, here it is! Self-awareness is defined as "conscious knowledge of one's own character, feelings, motives, and desires." We'll talk about some of our own personal definitions of self-awareness, but more importantly, why we believe it is critical to great relationships. Don't forget to talk back to us. Let us know your thoughts and perspectives on the topic! Disclaimer: On the lovejames podcast, we talk about love. Abuse is not love. It is one person in a relationship having power and control over the other person. The strategies we discuss for resolving conflict and working through the challenges of relationships assume that both people are willing and well-meaning. If you are in an abusive relationship, we encourage you to seek help in safely getting out of it. 
43:20
August 21, 2020
Season 2 - Episode 1: Let’s talk about compatibility.
In the era of COVID-19, we’re hearing that lots of couples are feeling the burn of having to be locked down together. Is this highlighting previously ignored issues around compatibility? We explore this idea and talk about what compatibility means, how to assess it and how to create it! Yes. You can create compatibility. Take a listen.
47:14
August 14, 2020
lovejames - Episode Eight: The Singles Episode part 2
PART TWO: By popular request--the singles episode! We sit down with two twenty-somethings to get a sense of what it's like to be single in today's environment. Danielle and O'Shane share their perspectives and their questions, and we end up recording two whole episodes. Take a listen and tell us what you think about these two.
01:11:19
April 3, 2020
lovejames - Episode Seven: The Singles Episode
By popular request--the singles episode! We sit down with two twenty-somethings to get a sense of what it's like to be single in today's environment. Danielle and O'Shane share their perspectives and their questions, and we end up recording two whole episodes. Take a listen and tell us what you think about these two.
01:05:34
March 27, 2020
lovejames - Episode Six: Communication
We hear it all the time--"communication is everything". It's good advice I suppose--but what is communication really? In this episode, we talk about issues of communication and trust. Take a good listen and see if you recognize yourself anywhere at all in this conversation. Disclaimer: On the lovejames podcast, we talk about love. Abuse is not love. It is one person in a relationship having power and control over the other person. The strategies we discuss for resolving conflict and working through the challenges of relationships assume that both people are willing and well-meaning. If you are in an abusive relationship, we encourage you to seek help in safely getting out of it.
01:03:04
March 20, 2020
lovejames - Episode Five: Karen & Chris
This week, we chat with Karen and Chris. They bring their unique experience and perspective to the discussion about what it takes to make a great relationship. How much of a role does your upbringing play? How does human evolution shape our behaviour in relationships? How realistic are your expectations? And does faith play a role? We discuss all of this and more as we explore this crazy little thing called love! Disclaimer: On the lovejames podcast, we talk about love. Abuse is not love. It is one person in a relationship having power and control over the other person. The strategies we discuss for resolving conflict and working through the challenges of relationships assume that both people are willing and well-meaning. If you are in an abusive relationship, we encourage you to seek help in safely getting out of it.
55:24
March 13, 2020
lovejames - Episode Four: Respect
Lauryn Hill said “it’s just a minimum” and Aretha Franklin was only asking for a little. This week on the podcast we’re talking about respect. Not just respect on the surface level, but we discuss how nurturing deep respect for your spouse can serve as a safeguard for your relationship. We also explore how easily and silently respect can slip away. As always, we welcome your thoughts and comments. Disclaimer: On the lovejames podcast, we talk about love. Abuse is not love. It is one person in a relationship having power and control over the other person. The strategies we discuss for resolving conflict and working through the challenges of relationships assume that both people are willing and well-meaning. If you are in an abusive relationship, we encourage you to seek help in safely getting out of it.
01:02:38
March 6, 2020
lovejames - Episode Three: Natanya & Tristan
This week, we are chatting with a guest couple--Tristan and Natanya Barrocks. September 2020 will mark their 10th year of marriage and they stop in to share their thoughts about what the journey of marriage has been like for them so far.  Among other things, we discuss the notoriously precarious first year of marriage, and boy, do these two have a really interesting story to share about that!  You'll laugh, and hopefully learn something through their experience. We are definitely glad they stopped by. Be sure to encourage them by commenting, emailing, sharing, liking, waving, poking, snapping, tik tok-ing and whatever else the kids are doing these days.  Thanks for listening... Peace and lovejames! Disclaimer: On the lovejames podcast, we talk about love. Abuse is not love. It is one person in a relationship having power and control over the other person. The strategies we discuss for resolving conflict and working through the challenges of relationships assume that both people are willing and well-meaning. If you are in an abusive relationship, we encourage you to seek help in safely getting out of it.
57:31
February 28, 2020
lovejames - Episode Two: Capacity
Can You Stand The Rain? Are You That Somebody? How Deep Is Your Love? How Will I Know?  In this week's episode, we discuss the quality of capacity. What it is, why it's important, how you can assess it, and why and how you can work to build it so that your relationships can be stronger. Disclaimer: On the lovejames podcast, we talk about love. Abuse is not love. It is one person in a relationship having power and control over the other person. The strategies we discuss for resolving conflict and working through the challenges of relationships assume that both people are willing and well-meaning. If you are in an abusive relationship, we encourage you to seek help in safely getting out of it. 
57:56
February 21, 2020
lovejames - Episode One - Just a little introduction
We are Juli-Anne and Andrew James. A couple of bold, eternal optimists who believe in old school love. We don't have all the answers about love and marriage, but through this podcast, we hope to share perspective with you that will help inspire healthy growth and evolution in your relationships. We've been married for 10 years, known each other for 18, and counseled couples into and through marriage. We've put in some hours. On top of all of that, our parents have been married for a combined total of 98 years and counting!  Here's to the start of our conversation with you. Episode one introduces us, our Executive Producer Tristan, and goes into some foundational thoughts and perspectives on love and marriage.  We want to hear from you. So be sure to follow us on Instagram @formorelovejames, tell us what you think by dropping us a line at podcast@thejameses.ca, or by visiting thejameses.ca/lovejames. Peace & lovejames.  Disclaimer: On the lovejames podcast, we talk about love. Abuse is not love. It is one person in a relationship having power and control over the other person. the strategies we discuss for resolving conflict and working through the challenges of relationships assume that both people are willing and well-meaning. If you are in an abusive relationship, we encourage you to seek help in safely getting out of it.
43:60
February 14, 2020