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TBH with Madeleine Setiono

TBH with Madeleine Setiono

By Madeleine Setiono

Opinions on all things life from adulting to infidelity, idealism to boobs. With highly opinionated friends, wherever they are. Mostly unplanned and uncensored.

If you like brutally honest, uncharted, two-glasses-of-wine-in kind of conversations (that are not always politically correct)-- do give this a shot.


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Ep 11 - NIKAH MUDA(H)? 21 and Married with Gaby Widjaja

TBH with Madeleine SetionoJun 13, 2020

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Ep 20 - Dikira blasteran: Kenapa orang indo suka mendewakan luar negeri? with Azalea Johannes

Ep 20 - Dikira blasteran: Kenapa orang indo suka mendewakan luar negeri? with Azalea Johannes

Waktu kecil mungkin kalian pernah nonton High School Musical. Gua juga. Sejak itu jadi pengen high school di US karena berharap bisa ketemu Troy Bolton. Azalea malah kebalikannya. Setelah tinggal di US dari kecil, Lea malah pindah ke Indo buat ngerasain SMA di Jakarta sampe-sampe dikira blasteran... Listen to Azalea's story being an American teenager in SMA Negeri, involvement in the Indonesian diaspora community in KBRI Washington D.C., and the profound question: Why Indonesians think so highly of foreign things? With activist Azalea Johannes

Oct 03, 202056:46
Ep 19 - IS PASSION OVERRATED? with Karina Augustine

Ep 19 - IS PASSION OVERRATED? with Karina Augustine

Why are we told to "find your passion"? How do we know if we've found that "passion"? Is it a modern-day myth? Lama-lama cape juga kalo yang dicari gak ketemu-ketemu kan.

Join our discussion of the frustrating idea of "passion" and work. You decide if it's overrated! With long time friend/engineer girl Karina Augustine.

Sep 01, 202030:04
Ep 18 - Deep but Not Really: Quarter Life BS with Adella Adinda

Ep 18 - Deep but Not Really: Quarter Life BS with Adella Adinda

There is a fine line between being deep and being... bacot. Listen to us thread that line on this episode.

Memasuki Waktu Indonesia Bagian Overthink, gua dan Dinda membahas perspektif hidup, lifestyle choices, and our overthinking "milennial" minds. Excuse our know-it-all-ness karena kita memang sok tau (biarpun banyak benernya). Join us share our thoughts as early-to-mid 20 women looking at life so far and the life that is to come. With cool artsy designer girl Adella Adinda.

Aug 23, 202041:07
Ep 17 - LET'S TALK ABOUT SEX with Yorin Anggari
Jul 23, 202032:05
Ep 16 - Mental Health Myths with Tania Purnomo

Ep 16 - Mental Health Myths with Tania Purnomo

What in the world is mental health day? Why is netflix and ice cream suddenly perscription for sadness? 

Gua conflicted sama trend "mental health" di social media dan diantara teman-teman "milennials" jaman sekarang. While mental health awareness is important, lately I feel that the conversation has gone out of topic. Too much wellness quotes, too much "it's OK to cry" quotes, and too little real solutions. Apalagi, source buat beginian biasa gak jelas. 

So I contacted an expert.

Di episode ini, join me discuss what mental health awareness REALLY is with a REAL expert. Here we also discuss resources to get help, how to pick a therapist, what are reliable sources for mental health inquiries and the tested methods to deal with mental health issues-- semuanya dari lulusan S2 psychology yang udah kuliah 6 tahun dan praktek kerja juga. BUKAN dari influensyer ala-ala. With Tania Purnomo psikolog yang akhirnya bisa cabut dari desa Michigan.

PS: Follow @satupersenofficial on Instagram for reliable mental health info! Really good resource

Jul 11, 202032:13
Ep 15 - Obsesi Pacaran: Dating in your 20s with Nico Doang

Ep 15 - Obsesi Pacaran: Dating in your 20s with Nico Doang

Lingkungan kita sebagai orang Indonesia selalu ngebawa-bawa status relationship sebagai sesuatu yang penting banget. Bahkan rasanya tiap hari pasti gua liat meme yang ada hubungannya sama ngatain orang yang "jomblo". 

Sebenernya kenapa sih anak muda ngebet banget punya pacar? And what are the implications ketika kita pacaran karena ngebet? In this episode, Nico Doang answers it all... with Nico Doang yang namanya cuma Nico (doang).

Jul 07, 202035:15
Ep 14 - Mis(s)understood Feminism with Natasha Hertanto

Ep 14 - Mis(s)understood Feminism with Natasha Hertanto

Beberapa tahun terakhir ini, feminsime rasanya jadi hits banget terutama di sosial media. Mostly, in the form of cute instagram posters and images of cool "independent" women who hate men. Dan gua pikir gua gak cukup "keren" dan "feminist" kalau gua membahas topik-topik seperti pernikahan dan motherood, sampe gua kira Natasha akan kritik gua for posting an episode about those two... But I was wrong.

Di episode ini, join Natasha and I as we discuss about what feminism and being a woman mean to us. We will also talk about milk flavors. With cool writer girl Natasha Hertanto. 

Jun 27, 202027:50
Ep 13 - Ph.D Life and the Economics of Discrimination with Allen Hardiman

Ep 13 - Ph.D Life and the Economics of Discrimination with Allen Hardiman

Bener gak sih cewe lebih susah naik pangkat di kantor? Apakah orang African Americans itu lebih susah kaya?

Kali ini gua membahas isu-isu sosial yang sering kita lihat di mana-mana, but with science instead of aesthetic quotes (yus). Selain itu, Allen juga akan cerita kenapa dia memilih sekolah Ph.D 6 tahun and the importance (and beauty) of economics.  Join us go beyond Instagram activism to explore the numbers behind discrimination-- one experiment at a time. With mahasiswa abadi/gym boy Allen Hardiman.

Jun 19, 202039:02
Ep 12 - INSECURITIES with Angel Lukito and Mustika Wijaya

Ep 12 - INSECURITIES with Angel Lukito and Mustika Wijaya

Di dunia ini banyak orang-orang hebat. To be precise, orang-orang yang lebih hebat dari gua. Contohnya cici cantik jago basket ketua Permias sampe engineer yang berhasil bikin nonprofit sendiri (iya sendiri) sambil kerja di engineering firm di US. Dan masih banyak lagi.

Join me as I get up close and personal about my own ~insecurities~ dan di konsultasi sama 2 teman gua ... Yang ternyata sama-sama insecure. Trying to answer why the heck are we insecure, and how to best handle it.  With cici bandung Angel Lukito and calon influencer Mustika Wijaya.

Jun 17, 202043:15
Ep 11 - NIKAH MUDA(H)? 21 and Married with Gaby Widjaja

Ep 11 - NIKAH MUDA(H)? 21 and Married with Gaby Widjaja

Sejak jaman SMA, Gaby selalu cerita kalo dia pengen nikah muda. Gua gak pernah percaya, until she asked me to be one of her bridesmaids (!!!) in 2019. Di mana saat itu banyak teman-teman gua yang heran dengan pernikahan dini ini (LOL).

Tune in to find out kenapa Gaby nikah muda, bedanya pacaran sama nikah, and to answer the big question: how do YOU know if you're ready for marriage? with calon Mahmud-influencer Gaby Widjaja.


Jun 13, 202038:23
Ep 10 - I STAND CORRECTED: Netijen Twitter and Freedom of Speech with Nabilla Gunawan

Ep 10 - I STAND CORRECTED: Netijen Twitter and Freedom of Speech with Nabilla Gunawan

Di Episode sebelumnya, gua dan teman-teman membahas soal ke-bawelan orang Amerika, dan nyerempet-nyerempet dikit sama freedom of speech. Ternyata ada pandangan gua yang DIKRITIK sama Nabila... Jeng jeng.

On this episode, join us debate and discuss the merits and boundaries of Freedom of Speech, Democracy dan kejamnya dunia netijen Twitter-- uncensored. With climate change master Nabilla Gunawan.

Jun 11, 202034:14
Ep 09 - Kenapa orang Amerika tuh, Amerika banget? On Speech & Polarization with Sean and Josh

Ep 09 - Kenapa orang Amerika tuh, Amerika banget? On Speech & Polarization with Sean and Josh

Kenapa orang Amerika tuh... gitu banget? AKA sangat "pede", sangat opinionated, dan sangat bersuara. Join us to ramble about what makes Americans the way they are dan bedanya sama budaya Indonesia. Tenang, gak berat kok. Cuma tiga ex-college students yang suka bacot (biarpun gak punya jawabanya). With Joshua Sinamo and Sean Vieri.


(This episode was recorded at the beginning of the #BlackLivesMatter protests)

Jun 07, 202034:12
Ep 08 - #BlackLivesMatter PSA-slash-Musings

Ep 08 - #BlackLivesMatter PSA-slash-Musings

Jun 07, 202015:54
Ep 07 - Girl meets New York: Movies vs Reality with Debra Patricia

Ep 07 - Girl meets New York: Movies vs Reality with Debra Patricia

Banyak banget film Hollywood tentang cewe muda yang pindah to New York to chase her big dreams...  If you're like me, pasti ada suatu masa di mana kita pengen rasain juga kerja di area Times Square/Manhattan (Devil Wears Prada), duduk(/dipropose) di bench Central Park (Enchanted/Gossip Girl), naik subway (too many examples), tinggal di apartment ala New York (Friends)... Tapi apakah reality seindah film?

Join me to hear Debra share about her personal experience "merantau" di New York with literally 1 suitcase and a one-way ticket. Someone make her a movie.

May 29, 202032:51
Ep 06 - Dibalik Pecicilan: Life with ADHD with Clara Benecia

Ep 06 - Dibalik Pecicilan: Life with ADHD with Clara Benecia

Apa sih yang ada di otak orang ADHD (Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder)?

Dari kecil gua selalu dibilang sering "gak fokus" dan ganti topik saat lagi ngobrol sama... siapapun. In 2018, I found out that I have ADHD-- and with it a bunch of things I hadn't noticed before. 

Join us for an up close and personal confessions of 2 ADHD girls. From being called "bawel" and "pecicilan" all our lives, to mental health and the journey of self-acceptance. With Clara Benecia, adek kelas berisik yang ternyata ADHD juga. 

May 23, 202040:45
Ep 05 - Career FOMO? Workplace reality with Gavin Adrian

Ep 05 - Career FOMO? Workplace reality with Gavin Adrian

Tune in to find out what we think about the "Startup vs Corporate" jargon,  what I wish I knew when choosing my first job, and why I left my first job after JUST 6 MONTHS. Also, hit minute 28 to listen to Gavin explain his ~financial analysis~ on startups (keren deh).

Basically a  real talk, No-BS version of webinar-webinar yang lagi hits jaman sekarang. Gratis lagi. With Gavin Adrian Professional Budak Korporat and Koko Finens.


May 21, 202041:12
Ep 04 - #PLSFIX: Imposter syndrome and more with Clarin and Micang

Ep 04 - #PLSFIX: Imposter syndrome and more with Clarin and Micang

Pernah merasa useless di kantor? Linkedin envy sama coworker atau classmates? 

Have you ever thought: "Is what I'm working on that difficult, or am I just dumb?"

You're probably not alone.  Episode ini akan ngebahas why we feel like crap...especially when entering the workplace.  With duo consultant-slash-budak korporat Clarin Florentyna and Michelle Anggadjaja. Untung nggak pake powerpoint. 

May 18, 202029:49
Ep 03 - KENAPA KITA SELINGKUH? On cheating and being cheated on with Izzy, Raissa, Shiella & Vania

Ep 03 - KENAPA KITA SELINGKUH? On cheating and being cheated on with Izzy, Raissa, Shiella & Vania

Why do people cheat? Better yet, why do WE cheat? 

"Perselingkuhan" adalah kata yang berat banget sampe seringkali jadi shame untuk dibahas (terutama buat sisi cewe, ntar dikatain pelakor). Sebenernya normal gak sih orang selingkuh? Can infidelity be justified? Are you even ready for a committed relationship? Is monogamy IDEAL?

Kali ini gua membahas "perselingkuhan" in a humane, honest way... Lengkap dengan personal experience teman-teman gua sendiri (!!!) with relationship expertS dadakan Izzy Wijaya, Anastasia Raissa, Shiella Almira dan Vania Petra. 



May 14, 202030:37
Ep 02 - Daughterhood, Jadwal Mandi dan Ortu Bawel with Izzy, Raissa & Shiella

Ep 02 - Daughterhood, Jadwal Mandi dan Ortu Bawel with Izzy, Raissa & Shiella

Tentang independence,  arti menjadi dewasa di mata orang tua, dan teenage angst.
Dari ex-angsty teenagers a.k.a temen-temen SMA; Izzy Wijaya, Anastasia Raissa dan Shiella Almira-- yang sekarang udah dewasa.

May 13, 202036:35
Ep 01 - So Far, For Good? Komentar Tante-Tante & Un-Angry Feminism with Yorin Anggari

Ep 01 - So Far, For Good? Komentar Tante-Tante & Un-Angry Feminism with Yorin Anggari

Curhatan seorang anak kuliahan yang baru forgood ke Indo karena pandemi Covid.
Dari cara menghadapi komen nyinyir tante-tante yang tidak diundang sampai ideologi un-angry feminism with mahasiswa hampir lulus Yorin Anggari.

May 13, 202021:14
Ep 00 - Intro

Ep 00 - Intro

I am joining the quarantine podcast bandwagon!

May 13, 202005:02