Unsilence Grief

I was listening to an audio book today, when a certain story about the "what if" came up.

For the first time I realised, that "what if" can literally tear us apart - or help us grow! I found this truly fascinating!

October 2021 Whitney Lyn Allen’s happiness came screeching to a standstill. Stunned by her husband's rare allergic reaction to a bee sting, the 35y/o felt hopeless after Ryan succumbed to irreversible brain damage. With his unexpected death, leaving a massive gap in their close-knit family, she feared she would never be enough to raise their two young boys.
Whitney shares about the challenges of going through grief with young children, having difficult conversations, finding peace and some comfort in loss, and even the challenging topic of dating in grief.
She recently wrote a book called "Running in Trauma Stilettos: A Raw Glimpse at Grief and Life After Loss."
Note: These interviews are recorded & shared on various platforms to spread positive & inspiring impulses around the globe on how to deal with loss differently to what society currently has on offer!

My godfather has always been an incredible influence in my life.

By far the steadiest, as I just realised while writing this!The other day he asked me how life's been treating me, as we hadn't connected for a few months.

My response was "It's been a bit exhausting the last 2 months", to which he responded "Exhausting is only the Story we tell ourselves!"

Something I have heard a few times when talking about a late husband, is the term "he left me".

This is the most beautiful and recent gift I received... it came to me when I thought about the statement "never take life for granted".

I hear people talk about "controlling emotions" way too often. In particular when it comes to children.

"Learning how to control our emotions" feels quite counter intuitive to me, after all the experiences I've had over my life time so far.

Carrie grew up in a middle class home as an only child. This created a relationship with her mother as a mother, sister, and friend. In 2009 her Mom ascended.

Carrie was in shock! She suddenly came to realise that the relationship she had believed to be healthy, had left her paralysed in fear. She did not know what to do or where to go. It took several years, and eventually on a Women’s retreat she discovered that she had identified all her mothers feelings as her own.

Carrie has come to understand that she could use the love her mother taught her to love herself!! This allowed her to experience love with her family even BIGGER than before.

Note: These interviews are recorded & shared on various platforms to spread positive & inspiring impulses around the globe on how to deal with loss differently to what society currently has on offer!

Have you ever experienced an uneasy feeling when being on the receiving end of a "giver"? I am talking about a person who just loves to give, but can't really allow him/herself to receive?

It tugs on my heartstrings every time I see somebody struggling to allow themselves JOY in the process of grief.

Join us in our next episode of "Ask the Expert"! This time Adrian Hanks and I will be addressing the very common emotions of guilt & shame in grief.

Many people I speak to feel guilty about healing or feeling something we refer to as "survivor's guilt" - and then there's a shame about things we feel or think... this topic goes deep and spreads over a wide range of situations and emotions.

I can't wait to ask the expert. I love these conversations, keeping it real...
Feel free to watch us live, where you can comment or ask questions - we also welcome them when you watch the replay!

Note: These interviews are recorded & shared on various platforms to spread positive & inspiring impulses around the globe on how to deal with loss differently to what society currently has on offer!

This one sentence "He's in a better place!" holds so much.

Let me be super blunt and very direct here: do not ever tell anyone... it makes my blood boil when I hear it. It is hurtful beyond measure and can be quite damaging.

In our final #MeaningfulMindset of 2022 I will explain WHY - and what to say instead!

Come and join us - and most importantly, feel free to invite people into our movement - and share the Love.

Jennifer Tracy is on a mission to save lives.

With courage and grit, she continues to inspire high-functioning leaders to stop struggling silently and teaches the necessary steps it takes to find life on the other side of - Grief, Trauma, Depression, Anxiety, PTS(D), Perfectionism, and possibly even thoughts of suicide.

Jennifer knows pain, the pain of burying a husband and child. The pain of being diagnosed with PTSD and the silent pain that she describes as 'Scars That People Can't See.'

Eight years after her loved ones died in a horrific car crash, Jennifer faced yet another battle surviving traumatic brain surgery, and undergoing a Chiari I Brain Malformation Decompression.

Real-life adversity has not let up for her.

Her message for you: pain is universal - what you choose to do with it is powerful. Resiliency comes from mastering the necessary skills it takes to endure, grow and never give up.

She is the bestselling author of "From The Deepest Darkness To The Light of Hope".

In spite of hardships from a very early age, she graduated a year early from high school with a 4.0 GPA.

Since 2009 she has positively influenced countless thousands with her community programs, speech books, and her online social presence.

In 2016, Jennifer worked her way off disability and re-entered the workforce.

Her life's purpose is to help others never give up and find life on the other side of grief, thoughts of suicide, pain, regret, and adversity.

Note: These interviews are recorded & shared on various platforms to spread positive & inspiring impulses around the globe on how to deal with loss differently from what society currently has on offer!

Join us in our new series "Ask the Expert"! I am delighted to introduce you to Adrian Hanks, who has worked as a holistic counselor and psychotherapist, for over 20 years. We will be talking about Antidepressants & Grief - a topic so close to my heart. Come and bring your questions!

Adrian loves to help and inspire people to live their lives with more passion, purpose, and joy, particularly in the field of adversity. This is often the time when people need professional counseling support the most.

Adrian’s lifestyle and work are focused on living a holistic lifestyle, physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. He has chosen to live experientially with what he learns.

He is married and has six adult children and four granddaughters. He loves to spend time walking on the beach, in the bush or to the top of some mountain range, playing his didgeridoo, bodysurfing, swimming in the ocean, meditating, and being with family and friends.

This is all part of Adrian’s focus to stay clear of depression, anxiety, fear, doubt, guilt, and self-hatred, which he knows are easy to succumb to if not focused and watchful.

Note: These interviews are recorded & shared on various platforms to spread positive & inspiring impulses around the globe on how to deal with loss differently to what society currently has on offer!

Robert is one of those rare individuals whom I am lucky to call my friend.

Rob truly embraces change and now shares the many life lessons he’s learned through his work; he fashions his life as an example of a philosophy he calls Possibility in Action™.

After his young wife passed away of metastatic breast cancer, Rob re-imagined his life to achieve new dreams. He chose to leave his comfort zone by changing absolutely everything.

He is a three-time Best Selling Author, compelling International Keynote Speaker, Transformational Life Coach, and Adjunct Professor.

Prior to his dramatic life change, Robert was a Senior Portfolio Manager for the Abu Dhabi Investment Authority, Co-Founder of Evolvence Capital, and mentor to many young business executives.

Robert provides an array of interesting personal growth experiences such as intimate retreats, facilitated discussion groups, and video modules.

Note: These interviews are recorded & shared on various platforms to spread positive & inspiring impulses around the globe on how to deal with loss differently to what society currently has on offer!

Darren Evans is the CEO of After Cloud. After Cloud is a business for social good and positive purposeful impact, providing technology that helps us to celebrate and share our individual moments, create our unique life story and preserve our rich family history across three intuitive apps - Journals, Moments and Timelines.

He will be further introducing us to an amazing app, that I believe makes such a difference in leaving your legacy - I will be using it, for my sons and future generations to come!

Darren Evans has spent the last 25 years working for and leading companies that provide software solutions for organisations that provide care.

During this time, he saw the huge impact that could be made to people’s lives by using digital technology but realised that much more could be offered on mobile platforms and following lived experience, resolved to develop his own apps.

Note: These interviews are recorded & shared on various platforms to spread positive & inspiring impulses around the globe on how to deal with loss differently to what society currently has on offer!

You never know when the day comes when you need your Support Network more than anything.  

Dan Maigler is a therapist, school social worker, Mental Health Director for Paws for Patrick and host of the podcast Not Allowed to Die, where he and his dog Mariska answer listener questions and explore dilemmas he is seeing in his work.  

Dan has endured the complex grieving of a mental health professional who has lost both clients and his own family members to suicide.  

He has found his healing in volunteering for non-profits and is passionate about teaching grievers to channel their pain into helping others.  

Note: These interviews are recorded & shared on various platforms to spread positive & inspiring impulses around the globe on how to deal with loss differently to what society currently has on offer!  

Douglas E. Noll, Esq is an award-winning lawyer-mediator who has mediated thousands of conflicts. His calling is to serve humanity, and he executes his calling at many levels.

Doug is an award-winning author of three books, a teacher, speaker, and a trainer. His fourth book De-Escalate was published by Beyond Word’s Publishing in September of 2017.

De-Escalate is now in four languages and in its second printing.

Doug’s work carries him from international work to helping people resolve deep interpersonal and ideological conflicts. He is the co-founder of Prison of Peace, and creator of the Noll Affect Labeling System.

In 2012, Doug was honoured by California Lawyer Magazine as California Attorney of the Year.

I am personally fascinated by the work Doug offers - please come and join us live!

Note: These interviews are recorded & shared on various platforms to spread positive & inspiring impulses around the globe on how to deal with loss differently to what society currently has on offer!

"No I won't" my mind answered, every time somebody suggested this after Rob died. Because we all know we won't.  

"Call me if you need anything!" is one of the most useless attempts to help. Yet not many people know that - until you are on the other side...  

Shannon Traphagen is the host of the Game On Glio Podcast, a podcast focusing on education and advocacy surrounding brain cancers and stories around young grief and loss.

In it, Shannon shares her own journey through loss and how her grief helps her.

Now in its second season, "Game On Glio" is a top rated and unique podcast in the brain cancer, grief and loss communities.

Shannon is also the founder of Traphagen's Trail Ride 4 Brain Cancer, Write Life Media Marketing and the author of the series "The LeFay Trilogy" (Finding Morgan).

Note: These interviews are recorded & shared on various platforms to spread positive & inspiring impulses around the globe on how to deal with loss differently to what society currently has on offer!

A decade ago, when Lucas Pierce was 17, his mother died of a Glioblastoma multiforme (a rare terminal brain tumor). Since then he has taken the lessons from his personal grief journey and shared them with others who are experiencing similar life events.

Currently residing in Philadelphia, Lucas lives with his girlfriend Nina, and their two dogs Barron and Joni.

He has been an avid volunteer in the pediatric oncology space for the last eight years through Penn State’s THON, Camp Can Do, Camp Kids Are Kids Chicago, and Camp H-Town.

Lucas is also a volunteer counsellor at Camp Erin NYC’s grief camp for kids 8-17 and is currently an Assistant Director of Camp Can Do’s Sibling Camp program. He also works as a coach for Guild Education.

Note: These interviews are recorded & shared on various platforms to spread positive & inspiring impulses around the globe on how to deal with loss differently to what society currently has on offer!

Toni Mills pivoted when Covid hit from being a former flight attendant to certifying as a Clinical EFT Practitioner.

She lost her mum in February 2021 and found out the year before she passed that she had autism, which changed their whole relationship from one that was very rocky to one of deep compassion and understanding.

The grief process has been layered with a grieving of what the relationship would have looked like had she known of her mother's autism earlier. Toni truly believes that EFT Tapping has been the saving grace in her grieving process.

Join us live for the entire transformation story!

Note: These interviews are recorded & shared on various platforms to spread positive & inspiring impulses around the globe on how to deal with loss differently to what society currently has on offer!

I love it when I walk with my headphones in and choose the soundtrack to my walk... 

Jas Rawlinson is an award-nominated book coach, resilience speaker, and best-selling author who empowers female change-makers to transform their stories into books that create global impact.

Often sought out for her empathetic leadership and unapologetic advocacy for stigmatised issues such as domestic violence and child abuse, Jas has worked with everyone from high-profile figures in the music industry, to everyday people and entrepreneurs.

She is highly respected for her unique ability to strategically and emotionally lead her clients through the writing and publishing process and has featured across global outlets such as Business Insider, ABC and news.com.au.

Note: These interviews are recorded & shared on various platforms to spread positive & inspiring impulses around the globe on how to deal with loss differently to what society currently has on offer!

Jeff Johnston finished his LIVING UNDETERRED - US tour a couple of weeks ago and I couldn't wait to have him back to hear the highlights - and even more so: What's next?

I heard there are some very exciting projects in the pipeline and I'm literally on the edge of my seat to hear about them...

Tune in to be the first one to catch it live!

Note: These interviews are recorded & shared on various platforms to spread positive & inspiring impulses around the globe on how to deal with loss differently from what society currently has on offer!

Did you know that we often trigger unhealed childhood-related trauma or even just challenges when going through adversity? 

Dylan Sessler is a mental health coach, professional speaker, podcast host of The Dylan Experience, entrepreneur, combat veteran, and author of the book, Defy the Darkness: A Story of Suicide, Mental Health, and Overcoming Your Hardest Battles.

In January 2020, Dylan began speaking on TikTok about mental health and trauma. By 2022, he has accumulated more than half a million followers supporting his daily content centred around having a real conversation about things like mental health, abuse, trauma, self-harm, and suicide.

His relentless pursuit has allowed him to impact the lives of millions while also developing a platform to help society rethink human connection and mental health.

Note: These interviews are recorded & shared on various platforms to spread positive & inspiring impulses around the globe on how to deal with loss differently from what society currently has on offer!