In The Raw with Mark LeBusque
By Mark LeBusque
In The Raw with Mark LeBusqueApr 20, 2023
Building Trust and Creating Safe Spaces
In this first episode of the In The Raw podcast, Mark answers questions from listeners:
- How much sharing is enough, or too much?
- How much of myself shoudl I bring to work?
He discusses the topic of sharing personal stories and emotions in the workplace, emphasizing the importance of finding the right balance and creating a safe space for vulnerability.
Mark also explores the idea of consistency in how we show up at work and the impact it has on relationships. He provides practical advice on regulating our emotions and adjusting our behavior to be helpful rather than harmful in different work situations.
Real Human Stuff At Work
Excessive Meetings, Engagement Surveys, Narcissism and the difficulty of practising true Human Leadership are all questions thrown at Mark in this weeks podcast.
As usual Mark gives his unfiltered and unplanned perspective on each of the topics as a way of provoking you to think a little outside the square on popular workplace topics.
Go on have a listen.
Ask Mark Anything - Part 3
Micromanagers, Trust, Change Resistance and Molding My Manager all get a run in this weeks episode.
Be provoked and perhaps pleasantly surprised by the 'Purposeful Provocateurs' take on these topics.
Ask Mark Anything (again)
Mark was flooded with questions after his last "Ask Mark Anything' Poddy so he's had another 'off the cuff' crack at answering questions about workplaces as 'families', first impressions and the importance of gut feel, how to be bold and keep your boss onside when you want to make a career move, dealing with 'idea stealers' and those who 'want to always be in the photo' and taking control of your life design (aka work-life balance). You may agree or disagree with Mark's perspectives here and you'd both be right!!
Ask Mark Anything
I love questions with very little notice, and in this weeks episode I share my 'truth' on questions relating to workplace bullying, teaching leadership, leading when there's a personality and values clash, changing a deeply ingrained shitty culture and the mandate to return to the office (good or bad).
Oh and there's even a cheeky question about age appropriateness to wear a 'man-bun'. Have a listen, get triggered or nod your head (or both) as I give it my best shot.
Julie Hyde - You Always Have A Choice
Author and Leadership Coach Julie Hyde's cancer diagnosis sent her into a dark place and she knew she had to make a choice there and then.
In this episode Julie shares her inspirational story of choosing victim or victor, the difference between a choice and a decision, why busyness is a 'jailor for choice', and how one can create their own hope.
Check out Julie's new book 'You Always Have A Choice' by clicking here https://youalwayshaveachoice.com.au/
Tiff Cook: Who Are You To Judge?
Tiff Cook is back again and we reflect on the helpfulness and/or harmfulness of data around a range of related topics in this chat, along with how and why we judge people (motorbike riders for me), what makes us like (or dislike) them, and how understanding our strengths and personality styles (more data, incidentally) can help us work, grow, connect and conquer.
Again this is 'Podcast freestyling' at its very best. Take a listen - I dare you (and will judge you if you don't).
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Sarah Norman - From Rocks to Futuristic Stuff
Director of the Futures Practice Sarah Norman joins me and we go 'full freestyle' discussing sympathy and empathy, impostor syndrome, how a futurist thinks, slip-ups, stuff ups, connection as humans, creativity, variety and why measuring everything to an inch of its existence is not the answer. Go on have a listen - I know you'll learn something from this amazing human.
Dr. Tanvi Gautam - Going Deep or Skimming The Surface on Collaboration
In this episode self-confessed 'rebel on the pathway of human centered leadership', Dr. Tanvi Gautam delves deeply into a choice of going deep or skimming the surface on collaboration, the importance of not being afraid to be stupid, how to upgrade your leadership, the difference between forced and genuine collaboration and why all humans must be aware of the 5 Essential Conversations in order to 'go deep'. Tanvi's energy and drive to disrupt really shines in this episode.
Reflecting on 2023 - Where Did It Go?
Mark finishes the year with some reflections on highlights, challenges, the questions he was asked most, and his 'gift' to you is an opportunity to embrace what he calls 'The 6R's' as you steam off into 2024.
Before you get into 2024 'busy fool' mode have a crack at your own 6R's Checklist/Reflect list and keep yourself accountable and on track for a ripping year.
Click the link here to access the editable PDF: https://marklebusque.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/12/6RChecklist-Reflectlist.pdfhttps://bit.ly/6RChecklist-Reflectlist
Thanks all for supporting the SPH Poddy and see you in 2024.
Tiff and Mark - Poor Me, That Bad Person and Other Stuff
Tiff Cook is back and as usual we are going around the world on topics, especially around the stories we tell ourselves that allow us to practice victimhood and how to break the cycle on this.
There's always a 'no holds barred, everything's on the table' approach when we get together and you might just wee some of yourself when we share storied about our 'bad' selves.
Buckle yourself in for the ride.
Ben Guttmann - Simple Is Hard Work
Award Winning Marketer, Educator, and Author Ben Guttmann joins me to share his wisdom on effortless communication, why our brains are programmed to complicate, and how using five design principles you can better inform and win whenever communicating.
Ben will encourage you to play the game of 'word Jenga' and help you to understand why 'bullshit is an offramp', a friction, and a way of veering off the simple message.
His book 'Simply Put - Why Clear Messages Win and How to Design Them' is a must-read along with his '3 Simple Things' newsletter can be accessed here: https://www.benguttmann.com/
Jason Arnold - Why Connection Matters
Jason Arnold is the founder of True Blue Swim Schools and an Aussie who has found himself living in Canada and running a successful business.
Roll back over 35 years I met Jason at College, and we reconnected some 5 years back and started a conversation about why humans choose to reconnect and at times choose not to. Indulge us as we chat about College days and the importance of connection as a leadership tool as well as a tool that is essential for humans to thrive at work, in their family, and in their community.
Prof Thomas Will - Leadership Can Be Taught (and other Human Stuff)
I met Prof. Thomas Will at Harvard Kennedy School of Govt. in Boston in 2014, and we have built a deep connection based around our diversity of backgrounds.
In this episode Tom shares the importance of having a ‘leadership can be taught’ mindset and we shoot the breeze on some important ways to teach leadership.
Craig Harper - Being Wrong And Other Human Stuff
Harps and Me chatting about all sorts of human stuff including being wrong (and admitting it), the cult of thought, acting on lightbulb moments, and a bit of corporate mischief that's been happening with our national carrier recently.
Always exciting and very unexpected (including some explicit language that is not unexpected). Go on I dare you......
Melissa Ingram - Making Men Comfortably Uncomfortable
In mid-October, Mark will be collaborating with the Elysia Wellness Retreat in the Hunter Valley NSW, and delivering his 'Fortress Man' specialty retreat session that is designed for men who are ready to benefit from self-reflection, goal setting, and looking into their mirror to break some old habits and introduce new ones. In this episode he talks with CEO Melissa Ingram about the specialty add on and Melissa shares why it's so important for men to embrace some 'comfortably uncomfortable' time. If you're interested in attending or know someone who could benefit the details can be found at the Elysia Wellness retreat website https://www.elysiaretreat.com.au/
How's Perfectionism Going For You?
I muse about the desire to pursue perfectionism and the impacts it has on humans when they put pressure on themselves to be perfect or pressure on others to do the same. Oh and I share some real life stuff ups and how I've learned from them, and why perfectionism and procrastination go hand-in-hand.
Simone Herbert-Lowe - Cyber Resilience Is Human
Founder of Law & Cyber Simone Herbert-Lowe is determined to move cyber resilience and security from a compliance-based 'tick the box' education to organisations of all sizes to create a cyber-aware culture. As a practicing lawyer, Simone witnessed firsthand the impact on humans of cyber hacking and now leads a business that educates humans to move from blame to empowerment and prevents 'cyber' strangers from opening the door to important data.
Check out her Podcast offer for 15% off her highly regarded online program 'Cyber In Your Business' by adding the Code: HUMAN
https://lawandcyber.thinkific.com/courses/cyber-risk-and-your-business
Damon Lembi - Learn It All or Know It All
CEO of LearnIt and Author of Learn It All Leadership Damon Lembi brings a refreshingly simple and common sense view on the importance of having a beginners mind, making mistakes, focusing on strengths and why it's critical to hold your strong opinion lightly.
From an early pursuit of an elite sports career in baseball to working from the Reception Desk to CEO in the business his father Walter created, Damon has a whole raft of life and work lessons that will reinforce why we should embrace lifelong learning.
Oh and check out the great training offers that Learnit provides and Damon's first book 'Learn It All Leadership' here: https://www.learnit.com/learn-it-all-leader-book-by-damon-lembi
Colin Newlyn - Decrapifying Work
Colin Newlyn - Decrapifying Work
Martin G Moore - The No Bullsh!t Leader
Martin G Moore has over three decades of working in multiple industries and roles experiencing the theatre and patterns within organisations that have led him to a desire to help remove the bullish!t from leadership.
We chatted about the common leadership myths, avoidance and ignorance, respect before popularity, and that there's never 'too much empathy' that can be displayed.
If you are after a little bit of 'truth telling' and 'sense making' that could 'sting' a bit then make sure you listen to this episode and check out Martin's 'No Bullsh!t Leadership Podcast'.
Tiff Cook - Holidays, Holding Back & Other Human Stuff
Regular guest and fellow podcaster Tiff Cook had me on recently for a chat about holidays, holding back information, and other human stuff that might get you thinking a little differently. Oh.... and as usual there's a bit of back and forth trying to trip each other up with some coaching moments. This is our latest co-share effort.
Mark C. Crowley - It's Humane To Lead From The Heart
Award-winning Author and Podcaster Mark C. Crowley is back and boy has he got some new human stuff to share that supports the importance of leading from the heart.
We chat about the detractors who constantly belittle the importance of compassion, care, empathy and vulnerability as important leadership skills, the impact of the last four years on leadership, why there's a place for hybrid working (and one size doesn't fit all), how the old system is looking to reclaim it's 'rightful place' and what leaders can do right now to combine leading from the heart with leading from the head. Oh, and the research is overwhelming - everything starts from the heart (if you're human of course).
Leadership and 'Little White Lies'
It's appropriate sometimes to bend the truth and tell a little white lie at the moment - isn't it?
Here's my take on a real-life situation that demonstrated that leadership and little white lies can co-exist when it meets certain criteria.
I share the criteria and the reality of what I recently experienced when swimming with whale sharks (and possibly other varieties) in Western Australia.
Robin Rice: Certainty Is Death
Author, Mentor and a 'Human Being That Shows Up Consciously' Robin Rice joins me to talk about all things unknown, uncertain and undiscovered.
I first met Robin 6 months ago and among many gems of wisdom she shared was this one 'certainty is death'. Today we dig a little deeper into leaving room for mystery, the power in saying 'I don't know', the soul is a chaos seeker and we even touch on AI Chat GPT and the need to open our minds to the good it can bring.
The podcast was a great example of the practice of not quite knowing what was coming next. Enjoy the uncertainty.
Not Those Bloody 1:1's
Mark reflects on why 1:1 catch ups seem to be so bloody hard to schedule, maintain and prioritise, and he shares the approach that he used that was created by his team and set them up for success.
If you are creating a story about why 1:1 catch ups are challenging to sustain, then Mark calls bullshit on the usual excuses you use and the impact this has on team performance and engagement.
To access Mark's 1:1 editable meeting template click here: http://bit.ly/3XDftIK
Bill Stierle Reshare - The Magic of Scary Honesty
Here's a great chat from late 2021, with communications expert and high conflict mediator Bill Stierle. Bill shares his wisdom about scary honesty, telling bad news early and making it safe to do so, language strategies, first impressions, the neurons in different parts of the brain, and why ice cream is good or not so good depending upon the stories we tell ourselves.
Fortress Man - Elysia Workshop
In mid-October, Mark will be collaborating with the Elysia Wellness Retreat in the Hunter Valley NSW, and delivering his 'Fortress Man' specialty retreat session that is designed for men who are ready to benefit from self-reflection, goal setting, and looking into their mirror to break some old habits and introduce new ones. In this episode he talks with CEO Melissa Ingram about the specialty add on and Melissa shares why it's so important for men to embrace some 'comfortably uncomfortable' time. If you're interested in attending or know someone who could benefit the details can be found at the Elysia Wellness retreat website https://www.elysiaretreat.com.au/
What's Your Out of Office Message?
Mark is off on two weeks' holiday and shares his thoughts on why we don't let go and go on holidays when we all deserve to. From FOMO to fear of relevance, he explores how human hardwiring kicks in, and shares three simple tips to make sure you take that well deserved Life Design break. Oh and he also shares his out of office message that will be live from midday June 9th (which goes against the experts OOO guidelines).
Tiff Cook - Abandonment Trauma and Other Human Stuff
Tiff Cook, the host of Roll With The Punches Poddy, and regular SPH guest and I talk about lifting the cognitive load and having the courage to shine a light on and name and deal with some personal trauma. We explore how an identical form of trauma plays out differently for us both, as well as some ways to challenge your paradigms and make hard changes. Oh, and we're both talking from a lived experience not an expert in the field angle.
Uncovering the Unwritten Rules
Ever been blindsided by the organisational 'unwritten rules'? Mark shares five common unwritten rules and some tips on how to be politically savvy and aware of them so you don't go from the 'penthouse to the shithouse' in one fell swoop. What are your organisations 'unwritten rules'?
Craig Harper - Digging Deeper Into His Whiteboard Lessons
Fellow Opsimath (go google it) and bloody good human Craig Harper is back and he peels some layers off the 'Whiteboard Lessons' onion to unpack topics such as being the painter of your life canvas, embracing the certainty of uncertainty, showing the selfie of your mind and watching out for the quiet ones, not the chest beaters. Lots of gold here from one of the world's great thinkers about thinking.
Convenient Lies or Inconvenient Truths?
Why have humans built an aptitude to tiptoe around some workplace truth? Survival and fitting in come to mind. In this episode, Mark shares a real example where he was given an inconvenient truth that helped him to see what he was starting to see. Three words that changed something for the better. He gives you 3-4 tips on what to watch out for and how to bring up inconvenient truths in a very human way.
Sophie Scott - Be The Architect of your Health
After two decades as an award-winning broadcaster, Sophie Scott is now helping humans to maximise their human potential. In this episode Sophie shares how perfectionism and people pleasing result in burnout, why practicing the 3C's is vital, and how our language holds us back from being the best human we can be.
Check out Sophie's socials:
Website: https://www.sophiescott.com.au/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sophiescott2/?hl=en
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCrscfB-ELC9paFawlWVaGzA
Who Am I To Judge?
Mark explores why and how we humans make quick judgments and shares some recent examples of where he was judged as a bracelet-wearing, incense-burning hippie surfer dude who might also be pretty handy with a camera.
Nigel Marsh - reshare - A Good Dose of Reality
Award-winning Author, Speaker, and Podcaster Nigel Marsh and I chatted way back in 2020 and his refreshing take on giving oneself a good dose of reality is well worth listening to. This is a story of how a very successful corporate high-flyer started to look at his reality and not like what he was seeing. His latest book 'Smart, Stupid and Sixty' is well worth a read and follows on from 'Fit, Fifty and Fired Up' and 'Fat, Forty, and Fired https://nigelmarsh.com/books/
Are You a Rescuer?
Mark explores why we tend to go into rescue mode for others, when it would be better to let them sit in their catastrophe and feel it. He shares some real examples and some tips to stop rescuing others so they can learn and grow.
Mark C. Crowley - Leading From The Heart (reshare)
Mark C. Crowleys powerful podcast with me three years ago is getting a re-run as I think now more than ever we need to embrace heart based leadership and Mark has both lived it and now teaches it to humans across the world. Listen how Mark took a traumatic life experience and used it to shape up the human he became when leading others. This is one inspiring story from a human being that knows heart based leadership is not all 'warm and fuzzy, kumbuyah stuff'. How are you approaching leadership?
Stay In The Moment of Now
Distracted Much? With between 12,500-60,000 thoughts per day what chance do we humans have of being present with another human when it matters most? In this short episode, Mark shares five simple and practical tools and tips that will help you to stay in the moment, build trust and a deeper connection with another human, and make sure that this human feels important and not usurped by the 'shiny things' you are being distracted by such as technology, what's for dinner tonight or a need to be needed by your boss so you feel important.
Is This It? With Wellness Coach & Therapist Loren Miller
Each month I catch up with my wellness coach, therapist, and holistic healer Loren Miller and I decided to hit record on the session and share it with you on the SPH Podcast. From a question I've been asking myself which is "Is this it?" came a deeper conversation about loneliness, how abandonment shows itself in many forms for me, and why I use sweet stuff to escape from more significant issues. Loren is an incredible human who has been helping me over the past 16 months do the 'work of Mark'.
Find Your Voice
Have you ever experienced a situation where you wanted to find your voice but something inside told you to 'stay quiet'? This week Mark shares some real examples of what happens when we choose to speak up or shut up and some simple and practical ideas that will give you the courage to find your voice and be helpful to you and others in the process.
Jeanette Laffan - Tales of a Courageous Career Transition
From Medical School Dropout, Successful Career Executive to an award-winning Principal and Licensed Real Estate Agent, Jeanette Laffan shares some amazing life lessons about the courage to shift careers. Being told that she was making a backward step going into a 'mum job' that involved going out to "get the milk" was the catalyst for Jeanette to build self-belief and get mentally on top of her game to achieve incredible self growth. This is well worth a listen for any human considering their next move.
Flip It And Be Human
I’m all about flipping stuff to bring more human into the workplace and share some ways to flip ‘doing and being’ and ‘enjoyment and achievement’ to create deeper connection and reduce harmful assumptions. Give it a go humans!
Tiffanee Cook - The 3 T's of Change
Roll With The Punches' amazing host is back and we're talking about the seasons, her rediscovered natural talent for sketching, Easter egg consumption and most importantly the 3 T's of change. Transactional, transitional and transformational. They're all important and we challenge ourselves and you to dig a bit deeper into what drives each one.
What Camping With Kids Taught Me
Mark was reflecting on an Easter camping trip from 8 years back where he learned some valuable lessons from the playfulness, sense of adventure, freedom, lack of judgment, and sense of fun that young kids have in them and why it helped him to not worry about whether he was 'good enough' playing the guitar in front of grown-up kids (adults). These lessons apply as much in the workplace as they do in life.
Ask Mark Anything, featuring Alex Bakowski
Friend, occasional mentor and owner of Possibility Arena, Alex Bakowski, joins me on this poddy. Only, she didn't know she was on a podcast until after we'd started recording!
Tiff Cook - Watch Your Language
Roll With The Punches Poddy Host Tiff Cook and I are back chatting and I'm pushing her buttons again about all things human including why your choice of words can define you, how I'm seeing Tiff's evolution right before me and of course, I check in on her progress on outsourcing as part of her Immunity to Change challenge.
Luke Iorio - On This Walk Called Life
Coach and Host of the 'On This Walk' Podcast Luke Iorio epitomizes a human that walks the talk. He shares how significant life experiences coupled with researching various cultural modalities have impacted his desire the redefine success, overcome the need to fit in, redefine what identity means, embrace vulnerability and simply walk with being in the moment of 'right now'. This is a deep dive into self, masculine vulnerability, and recognizing the importance of indigenous teachings that everything is life.
Is Your Vulnerability Conditional or Convenient?
I sent out my fortnightly 'Mark's Musings' newsletter on the topic of vulnerability this week and it has had quite the response on how humans are starting to 'game' vulnerability. I share today why faking it, forcing it, measuring and comparing it are damaging the power of the 'V' word. Oh......and perhaps the most vulnerable thing we can do is often missed so I shine a light on it here. Are you a vulnerability faker and think you're getting away with it? Think again.
Hortense le Gentil - From Hero to Human Leader
Executive Coach and Author of Aligned Hortense le Gentil joins me and we chat all things alignment, and why it is a critical leadership focus today. Hortense shares her own pathway to alignment and freedom and why courage is the leadership trait where all alignment begins. Her share on the relationship of power and force and the relative energy expended when you're aligned or misaligned is not to be missed. Check out Hortense's website https://hortenselegentil.com/ and you can get a copy of 'Aligned' via Amazon.