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Love in Dating Shows

Love in Dating Shows

By Melissa Minkow
What is love? Honestly, who the hell knows, but we sure have been trying to figure it out through dating shows like “Love Island,” “Are You the One?” The Bachelor” and “Love is Blind” to name a few. This podcast will examine the different formulas and theories pop culture dating shows seem to think are the recipe for finding your soulmate.
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Love vs relationships with relationship therapist Anita Chlipala

Love in Dating Shows

Love vs relationships with relationship therapist Anita Chlipala

Love in Dating Shows

Healthy boundaries and healthy relationships with Gianna
Is it true that if you love someone you'll let them go? Could you date yourself? Does anyone go on a dating show for "the right reasons?" My incredibly insightful guest, Gianna Leonard, RN and I discuss the answers to these questions and so many others. Gianna is a boundary-setting and self-care queen who's great at giving empowering advice and delivering the hard truths we could all benefit from hearing when it comes to dating and relationships. I took so much away from this conversation, and I know you will too xoxo
March 24, 2022
Expectations vs reality with Dana Omari
When it comes to exposing the truth behind the pop culture we're consuming, Dana's skills are unmatched. Creator of the popular instagram account @igfamousbydana and host of the Serial Fillers podcast, Dana is well-known for pulling the curtain back on which cosmetic procedures your celebrity favorites have had done. Dana's critical eye and affection for dating shows made her a super fun guest to have on the show. We discuss her takes on Hollywood's most famous couples, F***boy Island, Love is Blind, Love Island, and more.
March 04, 2022
Love and understanding with Case Kenny
Mindfulness and unintentional relationship expert Case Kenny sat down to discuss why loneliness is actually a good thing, how perfect love does in fact require some work, the importance of empathy, and the power of mutual understanding. This episode will bring you peace of mind, while simultaneously helping you think differently about love and dating. If you haven't already come across Case's viral wisdom on Instagram, you can find him @Case.Kenny, check out his thought-provoking journals at, or listen to his podcast "New Mindset, Who Dis?" 
February 23, 2022
Love vs romance with Louise
I finally sat down with close friend and pre-licensed family & couples therapist, Louise Helferty to discuss the recent media attention on lusty celebrity couples, how you can tell whether a relationship is set up for success, and so much more. Is a hot and heavy connection sustainable over time? Does your soulmate have to be your romantic partner? Can unconditional love exist in a healthy way? Are crushes Kosher in a monogomous relationship? This is a super full episode...It will definitely change your thinking 👀
November 12, 2021
90 Day Fiancé with Amanda and Chris
If you aren't willing to sacrifice for your partner, do you really love them? Does upbringing matter as much as culture when it comes to compatibility? Does your soulmate have to be the person you end up with? In my first episode with a married couple, I'm joined by Amanda and Chris to unpack these questions, and many others!
June 08, 2021
Married At First Sight with Tal
How long does it take to fall in love with someone? Would you date yourself? Is it realistic to never fight? These are just a few of the topics Tal and I cover while we analyze the Australian Married At First Sight
April 08, 2021
Dating Around with Mere
In the one year anniversary episode, Mere and I chat Netflix's "Dating Around." A few questions we cover: Is it beneficial to know much about the person before a date? What defines compatibility? Can you embrace 'the one' if you're not ready for them? So grateful to be able to celebrate this milestone with my best friend. Enjoy and thank you for a year of listenership!
March 01, 2021
Love on the Spectrum with Holly Lechniak
If you've watched Netflix's "Love on the Spectrum," or if you've just ever wondered how you could be a better human/dater/partner, this episode is worth a listen. Join Holly Lechniak, Outreach Director at Autism Assessment, Research, Treatment, and Services (AARTS) Center at Rush and myself as we discuss dating, relationships, and sexuality for those with Autism. There is so much to learn from in these 40 minutes- I truly believe listening to this conversation would make anyone a better significant other.
February 14, 2021
Love vs intimacy with Andrea and Josh
How long does it take to fall in love? What topics should still be off limits on a second date? Does chasing validation make you emotionally unavailable for true love? These are just a few of the questions we deep dive while unpacking Modern Love episode, "At the Hospital, an Interlude of Clarity." Josh and Andrea are two of my closest friends, with whom I'm always discussing dating culture and relationship dynamics, so naturally we had a lot to say on this one.
January 27, 2021
Love vs compatibility- Indian Matchmaking with Aashay
If you haven't been living under a quarantine rock, you likely got hooked on the Netflix sensation, Indian Matchmaking. In this episode, my dear friend Aashay walks me through how reflective the show is of dating culture in urban India. Aashay is a product management professional based in Bangalore, India. He loves to learn about cultures, people, and food. He has been a part of the match making process for ~2 years now and was happy to share his views on the topic. I guarantee he answers just about every question you may have had while watching the show!
January 10, 2021
Love vs time with Abby Pierce
Abby Pierce is a Director, Artist, Teacher, Actor, and Writer, whom I discovered by way of her submission to the Midwest Film Festival's Female Filmmaking night. Abby's film, "Go Ahead, Grab Time by the Throat" grabbed my attention with its uniquely moving story line about an "engagement break-up." I couldn't believe she responded to my DM slide after the festival, let alone agreed to be on the podcast to talk about love, time, and the pursuit of a good story. You can find her @plainoldabby on Instagram or connect with her via her website But, do you yourself a favor, and watch her movie first!
September 13, 2020
Season 1 Finale
And that's a wrap on Season 1! Join me for a reflective fireside solo chat to recap this wild ride. I'm so grateful for you, and I can't wait for Season 2 ❤️ Fantastic Black Podcasts to Listen to: Still Processing, Hoodrat to Headwrap, The Read, 2 Dope Queens Museum of Broken Relationships: A great article on how the beginning of defunding the police could happen:
June 21, 2020
20/20 On Love is Blind with Zoe
Should one person love the other person more in a relationship? Can attraction grow? Is love blind? These are just a few of the questions Zoe and I address in the context of the viral sensation "Love is Blind."
May 24, 2020
Love vs sex: Too Hot to Handle was a little too mild, with Shivani
Is sex distracting from personal growth? What's the difference between romance, emotional connection and physical connection? How do you define "genuine connection?" Shivani Banfal is back for another unpacking session. This time, of the viral sensation "Too Hot to Handle."
May 17, 2020
A closer look at Love Island with Noah
Is love different with each partner? How rational is falling for someone? Does having a type hurt you more than help you? These are just a few of the questions Noah and I address as superfans of Love Island.
May 10, 2020
Special Edition: Not a dating show, but a docuseries, "Sex and Love Around the World" with Susan
We break down Christiane Amanpour's "Sex and Love Around the World."  Some of the questions we tackle: How impactful are your parents' expression of love to you as a child on your love life? How pivotal is women's decreasing financial reliance on men in the dating world? How important do you consider the physical aspect of a relationship? Is it a crucial part of how we define and experience love?
May 03, 2020
How "Next" was actually first, with Ilyssa
What's the difference between validation and visibility? Is it a sacrifice if it's for the one you love? Was MTV's "Next" our first look at dating app culture? Two years ago, I had the opportunity to guest on Ilyssa Meraki's "Weirdly Specific Podcast." Now, I'm honored to have her guest on mine...and she somehow convinced me that timing actually matters when it comes to love. 
April 26, 2020
Talking Terrace House with Allen, Hugo and Shivani
Is the best model for a dating show the one where it isn't meant to be a dating show? How does love differ in Japanese culture vs US culture? What are the pros and cons of having cast members isolated from society vs fully integrated while filming? Do the five love languages exist for Japanese daters? This episode compares and contrasts American relationship norms with Japanese relationship norms.
April 19, 2020
Is "Are You the One?" THE One? With Suzie
If an algorithm can tell you who your perfect match is, should you abide by it? How might an entirely sexually fluid cast change the dating show dynamics? At what point do you lose the chance at being more than friends? These are just a few topics Suzie and I explore in the context of MTV's Season 8 of "Are You the One?"
April 12, 2020
Allow me to sell you on Love Island UK
In this episode, I rave on about Love Island and the questions it poses with respect to how we think about love. I highlight similarities and differences between the show and other shows as far as the various assertions each are essentially making about love. There will be more Love Island-dedicated episodes with guests in the future, but I felt that given my obsession with the show, it was only right that I start the conversation solo, first.
April 05, 2020
Love vs marriage with Divorce Lawyer Debra DiMaggio
How are love and marriage different? Why do marriages fail? How have relationship dynamics changed over the years? These are just a few of the questions Divorce Lawyer Debra DiMaggio and I tackle in this week's episode. Debra has been a practicing Divorce Lawyer for over 30 years, and she has even represented some dating show participants! 
March 29, 2020
Love vs relationships with relationship therapist Anita Chlipala
Does age matter? Is timing everything? Are soulmates a thing? Which dating shows have the best formula for finding true love? These are just some of the questions we address in today's episode of LIDS with relationship therapist, founder of relationship counseling practice, Relationship Reality 312 and author of "First Comes Us: The Busy Couple's Guide to Lasting Love," Anita Chlipala. If you've ever wanted a peek into what relationship therapy could look like, as a single person or a partnered person, this conversation is a gold mine of answers. Anita can be found on instagram @Anitaonlove, on Twitter @Anitaonlove or via her website, www.relationshipreality312
March 22, 2020
How tempting is Temptation Island? With Mere and Barflaan
Which is worse- emotional or physical cheating? How does your upbringing and culture influence your approach to love? What are the similarities and differences in fan culture surrounding sports vs dating shows? These are just a few questions I tackle with special guests and Temptation Island stans, Barflaan Tedoe and Meredith Minkow
March 15, 2020
A linguistics lesson in love with Dr. Jason Riggle
How can we search for something we can’t define? Does the language we speak limit our ability to find love by providing finite ways of defining it? Are different cultures looking for different types of love? Which country's dating show is getting it right? Dr. Jason Riggle is an Associate Professor at the University of Chicago, the director of the Chicago Language Modeling Lab, and the Resident Dean of The Max Palevsky Residential Commons. In this episode, Jason takes me on a tour of the language surrounding love and how that informs the way we express our feels. Let's just say my world was rocked during this interview.
March 08, 2020
Why am I talking about this?
In this very first episode, I explain why I’m even doing this and what you can expect from future episodes ❤️
March 01, 2020
Love in Dating Shows Trailer
A super short synopsis explaining what this podcast is about
March 01, 2020