Millennial Life School

What is the root of a criminal behavior? Why do people commit crime and what is the mindset and the thinking pattern of someone living in a criminal and gang lifestyle?

After spending 26 years in prison, John Doan sat down with me to share his story of why he lived a criminal lifestyle, how he learned to transform his mindset, redefine his identity, and rewire his value system.

In this episode, you’ll learn about the criminal mindset he had when he committed the crime that got him a sentence of 15 years to life in prison, the biggest lesson he learned in prison, and the inner work he did to make the decision to transform his way of thinking and behaving.

Have you ever wished there was a safe, encouraging environment to dream, learn, and grow together with a small intimate group of like-minded people to help you activate your life’s calling and purpose?

About 4 years ago, I had this wild idea of creating a "life school" where we go step-by-step, following a curriculum, to explore important life topics like self-esteem, purpose, faith, life-vision, and setting goals for the future.

Fast forward to now, I'm so happy to create a program to give people the opportunity I wish I had! — Life Mastery Bootcamp.

Can you love someone you disagree with? Especially on controversial topics like politics, abortion, vaccines, gun control, etc.? This episode is all about the things I’ve learned as I wrestled with this question on how I can love someone despite our differences.

This was a challenging topic to tackle, and I’m still learning in this area, but I hope this episode will help you in your journey of learning how to navigate relationships with people who have different opinions than you with more love, grace, and understanding. 🤍

Thank you for being here and for listening!

Love,

SKH

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(Korean episode!*) Real, raw conversation with Onyu Kang on what it's like to be an ROTC foreign exchange student in America! In this episode, we talk about the things Onyu found to be good, difficult, and surprising about the cultural differences between Korea and America! We talk about the differences of how college students have fun in Korea vs. in America, the things she's learned in America. etc! 

*This is a once a month Korean episode. English episodes will resume starting next week!* 

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If you’ve been struggling with performance mindset, perfectionism, people pleasing, doing things to try to prove your worth to yourself and to other people… This one is for you. Actually, this one is for everyone. The main message of this episode is this: Give yourself permission to just BE.

In this episode, I also talk about some of the things I've learned from the book The Courage to Be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga. 

Thank you for being here and for listening!

- SKH

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Jaslene Gonzalez, Winner of Cycle 8 of America’s Next Top Model and the Founder of On Set With Jaslene (OSWJ) is back on the podcast! In this episode, we talk about the things Jaslene is learning in this current season of life, about learning to find your unique individuality, and how to let your inner beauty shine forth!

We also talk about the mindset to have during your singlehood, dating, and about our visions for how to find the “right guy” as Christians. 😉

I also asked her about her advice to girls who are struggling with self-image.

Listen to hear all about it!

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In a world full of brokenness, war, injustice, and sicknesses... can we still love, dream, and be happy? In this episode, I sat down with Bonnie Kim and we talk about pain, suffering, and how we can navigate through these difficult moments in life. 

Wherever you are at in life, hope you guys find this episode to be strengthening! 🤍

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“Never worry about numbers. Help one person at a time and always start with the person nearest you.” - Mother Teresa

Why do things like war, murder, stealing, and lying exist? What's the root of all this? This episode is about some of the things I've been processing and thinking about in light of the current events with what's going on with Russia's invasion of Ukraine, the cost to freedom, the unfortunate consequences of a rapacious heart of a person in power, and on the importance of focusing on the one.

삶이 즐거운 가장 큰 이유? 20대 때 꼭 읽어야 할 책 추천! This is Millennial Life School's once a month Korean episode. This is a Q & A episode, answering some of the questions I received from my listeners. Enjoy~

"The strongest force in the human personality is the need to stay consistent in how we define ourselves.” (Tony Robbins)

The question is, what do you believe is true about who you are?

This episode is all about reflecting on the things that may be shaping the way you see yourself so you can recognize what disempowering beliefs you might have about yourself and start your journey of building a healthier belief of who you are!

Who pays on the first date? What are your dating turn ons and turn offs? How often should you text in between dates? Can girls initiate? In this episode I share some of the answers I received from the guys vs. the girls on these questions, as well some of my personal thoughts and experiences with dating. 

So if you were looking have some of your dating questions answered, give this episode a listen! 

*Disclaimer, I am not an expert in dating and relationships, so take what's helpful and make your best judgment on what's not for you~*

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Happy 2022 Lunar New Year! According to the lunar calendar, this year is the year of the tiger. Specifically the water tiger. But what does "the year of the water tiger" even mean? Listen to find out my take on it! 

This is MLS's once a month Korean episode! In this episode, we talk about the current concerns of Korea's 20-somethings, about the risk we can be taking in our 20's, and about how we can start to build a brighter future for our generation and the generations to come after us. 

이번 episode 에 참여해주신 김현진, 김태현, and 최진우님께 감사드립니다.

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In this episode, Lana (Finnish) and Sharon (Korean-American) talk about their thoughts on Netflix's Single's Inferno! For Lana, this was her very first time consuming Korean media so we talk about the different things she found to be interesting/different culturally as she was watching.

3 end of the year self-reflection questions to set you up for success in 2022! Happy New Year everyone~

올해를 마무리하고 새해를 맞이하면서 마음이 뜨겁게 불타오르는 사람으로 사는 3 가지의 법! 🔥🎉

Why celebrating is important to build success habits and how you can celebrate not just your successes, but also live a lifestyle of celebrating who you are, the special moments in life, and the people you get to do life together with!

Episode about my honest thoughts, feelings, struggles, and the realizations I'm having as I'm learning how to love myself better. 

Whoohoo! Welcome back everyone! This is the first episode of Season 2 on the MLS podcast!! 🎉

A letter to our generation from millennials, to millennials. THANK YOU SO MUCH for listening and for being part of this journey as we figure life out together. A huge thank you also to all the guests who made this podcast possible.

Ep 42 Dear Millennials: A Letter to Our Generation *Season 1 Finale*

IN THIS EPISODE: 

• AKEEM HAYNES, EP 3 (1:43)
• ARAN KIM, EP 5 (2:27)
• JOHANA HERNANDEZ, EP 7 (2:51)
• CALVIN CHU, EP 9 (3:07) 
• PAUL SOHN, EP 11 (3:34) 
• BONNIE KIM, Ep 13 (3:59)
• TAMMY CHO, EP 15 (4:04)
• DAVIS NUNEZ, EP 17 (4:26)
• ALICE AN, EP 21 (4:43)
• AMI PARK, EP 23 (4:55)
• JOANNE CHO, EP 25 (5:10)
• SALLY OH, EP 25 (5:25)
• HEEJIN PARK, EP 25 (5:36)
• EUNBEE KIM'S DAD, EP 27 (5:55)
• EUNBEE KIM'S MOM, EP 27 (6:00)
• SHARON'S DAD, EP 27 (6:12)
• SHARON'S MOM. EP 27 (6:20)
• KIERAN HEDLEY, EP 31 (6:41)
• JASLENE GONZALEZ, EP 33 (6:48)
• JOSEPH/JANG, JAE HOON 장제훈 EP 37 (6:54)
• NIYAH RAHMAAN, EP 29 (7:13)
• SHARON'S LETTER TO THE MILLENNIALS (8:51) 

Thank you everyone so much for being with me in Season 1 of the Millennial Life School podcast! 

Various speakers from previous guests on the show talking on the topic of identity, and how we can get to learn more about who we are, and how we can walk that out.

**Special Announcement: The last episode of season 1 of the MLS podcast will be this Friday! Follow me on IG @sharonkilon to stay up to date on when Season 2 will launch!**

IN THIS EPISODE:

• Akeem Haynes from MLS Ep 3 (2:39)
• Aran Kim from MLS Ep 5 (4:42)
• Calvin Chu from MLS Ep 9 (7:06)
• Paul Sohn from MLS Ep 11 (7:30)
• Sharon Kilon Han, MLS host (10:10) 

Ep 41 Know Who You Are and Walk In It

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If you have big dreams and ambitious goals in life and are feeling burnt out or overwhelmed from trying to chase after those goals, chances are, you are making this goal mistake when setting your goals. This is something I learned from the book, "The Bullet Journal Method" by Ryder Carroll, and this small shift on how you set your goals will make even your biggest, most ambitious goals seem much more manageable and actionable~ 

Key Takeaways: 

• Focus your goals on PROCESS vs. an OUTCOME that's outside of your control.
• Break down your goals into small, actionable tasks that are within your control.

Ep 40 A Common Goal Setting Mistake Most People Make

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EP 39// Seven Main Life Areas: Goal Setting Tips for a Balanced Life! How are you doing on a scale of 0-10 (10 being the most satisfied and healthy) for each of these life areas?

Ep 39 Seven Main Life Areas: Goal Setting Tips for a Balanced Life

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Finding life's vision through a time of emptiness, loneliness, and depression. Interview with Joseph/Jang, Jae Hoon. 

IN THIS EPISODE: 

• 군대에서 느꼈던 인생의 허무함과 외로움 , 인생의 목적과 방향에 대해서 생각하게 되기까지 (8:20)
• 군 면제에도 군대를 가고 싶었던 이유 (10:32)
• 최선을 다해 그 자리에서 살아내는 것. (16:14)
• 바위 위에한 줌에 흙이 있더라도 자라나는 소나무 (16:55)
• 성공의 과정에서 겪는 고난과 실패.(19:03) 
• 한국 자기 계발서와 미국 자기 계발서의 차이점 (25:48) 
• 대한민국 청년들이 겪는 어려움 (26:27) 
• 재훈님의 현재 삶의 비전 (30:3) 
• 비전을 갖기 위해선 어디서부터 시작해야 되는지 (35:50) 
• 재훈님의 시간 관리 노하우 (41:08) 
• Flywheel 선순환의 법칙 (45:59) 
• 나를 알고 세상을 안다는 것. (51: 21) 
• 재훈님이 2-30대 밀레니얼 세대에게 편지를 쓴다면? (54:34) 

Ep 37 Finding Life's Vision Through a Time of Emptiness, Loneliness, and Depression (인생이 허무하고, 외롭고, 우울한 시기를 통해 찾은 삶의 비전) 

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What are the 10 marks of maturity? In this episode, we go over 10 helpful vs. unhelpful attitudes that build up our character development. Take a listen and do a self-assessment on where you are with each of these points! 

Ep 36 Ten Marks of Maturity and Character Development

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How do I stay motivated to keep on going? Do I feel fulfilled with where I am at? How do we find the right career path for us? In this episode, I answer these questions in a Q&A with students in Brazil! 

IN THIS EPISODE:

• What keeps you doing what I'm doing and how do you lead various different people? (3:57)
• How it is for me to lead and work with different people. (7:50)
• How did you know what to study and what to do? (9:57)
• Make the best decision based on what you know about yourself. (10:24)
• 3 P's to finding your sweet spot (10:55)
• How to handle pressure—Enjoy the hustle of putting in the work and the process of growing. (16:41)
• Do you feel fulfilled in what you do and how do you change your plans without feeling like you are giving up? (20:28)
• What do you think about depression, stress, overworking, and anxiety? (23:32)
• What do you think are the strengths that come from being a Korean-American? (28:59)

Ep 35 My Q&A Session with Students in Brazil

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Does public speaking scare you? It scares me. But I feel the fear and do it anyway. This Monday, June 22nd, I got to speak at a Storytelling event hosted by Dojo Bali, Open Space, and Keynote Worthy, and share my story on vulnerability. In this episode, I'm sharing the audio from this event, about my greatest weakness, and how I learned to find meaning and purpose behind my weakness. I hope you enjoy this one and feel empowered to also face your fears after! 

Ep 34 Vulnerability - Finding Purpose in Our Weaknesses

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Special episode with Jaslen Gonzalez, the winner of Cycle 8 of America's Next Top Model and the Founder of On Set With Jaslene (OSWJ).

IN THIS EPISODE:

• What does it take for someone to be a top model? (11:05)
• What’s the difference between a top model vs. a super model? (12:26)
• What’s the biggest lesson you learned about beauty? (19:07)
• How did you overcome being rejected on national television? (32:03)
• Jaslene’s experience with being in an abusive relationship. (33:06)
• Where does your confidence come from? (46:06)
• One piece of advice for girls who are just starting out on their modeling career? (49:20)

Ep 33 How to Find Beauty From Within With Jaslene Gonzalez

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Thoughts and reflection on Juneteenth, truth, and freedom. 

Ep 32 The Power of Truth to Set People Free

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I’m so excited to share with you this podcast episode with Anxiety Coach, Kieran Hedley, on how you can heal your anxiety and find freedom! 

IN THIS EPISODE:

• How did you become an anxiety/mental health coach? (7:29)
• What living in numbness was like. (10:10)
• Kieran's journey of becoming an Anxiety Coach. (17:16)
• 2 factors that allow you to make a proper shift in mindset: (22:39)
• How to gain greater insight to create clarity. (33:31)
• Clarity Exercise (37:19)
• Feelings don’t define your worthiness. (45:04)
• Surrender to unconditional love for yourself (50:25)
• How to do future journaling to create new patterns in your brain. (52:11)
• Why do you think so many young people struggle with anxiety?? (1:00:04)
• Find abundance in yourself first. (1:04:27)

Ep 31 Heal Your Anxiety and Find Freedom with Kieran Hedley

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“Time is a gift. it’s a resource that is decreasing every single moment that we’re alive. We don’t have all the time in the world to follow our dreams to tell people we love how we feel, to honor our heart to shine to be who we are to be.” (Bronnie ware) In this episode, I share with you guys key insights from Bronnie Ware's famous memoir, “The Top Five Regrets of the Dying.” 

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We are the "justice generation"! This episode is with Niyah Rahmaan, a leader at Hillsong LA, and a power woman of our generation.

IN THIS EPISODE:

• “Social earthquake”(15:25)
• Being a "justice generation" (17:00)
• How the media shapes our culture and our concept of race. (20:06)
• What “colorism” is and how it plays out in our society. (31:11)
• “code-switching” (44:05)
• Learning to sit in pain with our black brothers and sisters (47:59)
• Living with a double conscious (48:56)
• What is unique about the millennial generation. (52:46)
• If you were to write a letter to the millennials, what would you write? (57:54)
• Don’t let this moment of history pass you by. (1:03:35)

Ep. 29 Don't Let This Moment of History Pass You By 

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“The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy.” (Martin Luther King Jr.) 

As this year is proving to be a year full of challenges, my hope is that each of us can stand in a position that is honorable, just, compassionate, and one that when we look back years later, we can proudly tell our grandchildren about.

Ep 28 Choosing Where to Stand at Times of Challenge and Controversy

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*This is MLS's Monthly Korean Episode* 엄마 아빠가 20대 너희에게 꼭 해주고 싶었던 말? In this episode, me and Millennial Life School intern, Eunbee Kim, interview our parents about their 20s! 

QUESTIONS ASKED: 

• If you can go back in time, what advice would you give to your 20-something-year-old self?
• What's something you feel the proudest about in your 20s?
• What do you regret the most about your 20s? 
• If you were to write a letter to the millennials in their 20s and 30s, what would you like to write on there? 

Ep. 27 (KOR VER) Korean Parents' Advice for People in Their 20s - 엄마 아빠가 20대 너희에게 꼭 해주고 싶었던 말

NOTE* Every first Tuesday of each month will be an episode in Korean. Regular English episodes will resume on Friday. Thank you. :) 

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"If we don't stand for anything, we fall for everything." My heart has been very heavy this week after Derek Chauvin, a white police officer, pinned George Floyd, a black man, to the ground with putting his knee on Floyd's neck for more than 7 minutes, resulting in the death of Floyd. I'm horrified by the video that's been circulating around. This is my personal reflection on this situation and the 3 questions that I think we all should be asking ourselves with a humble, repentant heart, seeking to bring humanity one step closer to justice and love than hate and division. I know this is an emotional subject, and I want to acknowledge that I may not have all the facts and that I may not be seeing the full picture, so I apologize in advance is there is anything that I say in my own ignorance and lack of understanding. My prayers go out to George Floyd, his family and friends, and for America.

"In the end, we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends."  Martin Luther King Jr. 

Please stand up and let your voice be heard for justice. 

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4 Korean-Americans chatting about what growing up in America as an ethnic Korean is like! Joining in on this call are my hometown girls from Chicago suburbs, Joanne Cho, Sally Oh, and Heejin Park!! 

QUESTIONS ASKED:

• Can we go around and introduce ourselves? (4:34)
• If you were to put a percentage on how Korean you feel vs. how American you feel, what would those percentages be, and why? (10:41)
• Do you feel more comfortable in a diverse group setting or amongst other Koreans? (16:19)
• Do you feel like you act differently around Korean speaking people vs. English speaking people? (24:34)
• It seems like a lot of Korean parents who immigrated to America in the late '90s or early 2000's are still stuck in the old Korean mindset of those days. What are your thoughts on that? (30:55)
• As a Korean-American do you feel more comfortable having another Korean as your significant other or does race not matter? (34:13)
• What’s the best of each 2 cultures? (38:04)
• If you grew up in Korea do you think you would be different, and how so? (45:48)
• If you were to write a letter to our generation, what would you write? (49:02)

Ep. 25 What Growing up as a Korean-American Is Like

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Use the science of neuro-associative conditioning (NAC) to replace your bad habits with good habits! This episode is based Ch. 6 of Tony Robbins' book, Awaken The Giant Within, "How To Change Anything In Your Life: The Science of Neuro-Associative Conditioning." 

6 Steps of NAC:

1. Decide what you really want and what’s preventing you from having it now.

2. Get leverage: associate massive pain to not changing now and massive pleasure to the experience of changing now.

3. Interrupt the limiting pattern.

4. Create a new, empowering alternative.

5. Condition the new pattern until it’s consistent.

6. Test it and see if it works.

This technique is something I walk my coaching clients through when they want to stop their bad habits and start forming healthier ones. I want to encourage you to take some time to go through these 6 steps yourself to "train your brain" for transformation! 

Ep 24 How to Replace Bad Habits With Good Habits 

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The month of May is AAPI (Asian American and Pacific Islander) Heritage Month! In celebration of AAPI heritage month, I will be featuring powerful Asian voices in our community throughout this month! 

First up is ALICE, a Korean American R&B/Pop singer breaking stereotypes in the American music industry. Her goal is to help elevate the portrayal and views of Asians in America by being a powerful and vocal influence in the media. She’s been interviewed with Teen Vogue, sang guide vocals for a YG entertainment artist, and won the CCM songwriting competition in South Korea. I first met ALICE in Boston when she was attending Berklee College of Music and she’s one of the most confident people I know, but in this episode, she opens up about feeling limited and unwanted in the American music industry for being Asian, being bullied and dealing with racism growing up, and through it all, learning to find confidence and self-worth in who she is, and not on what other people say and think about her.

This is a refreshing, powerful episode that would give a lot of inspiration for those with big dreams who want to break stereotypes!

EP 21 Do Not Limit Your Dreams to Asian Stereotypes with ALICE 

QUESTIONS ASKED

What was the transition like for you moving from Boston to LA to pursue your dream to be a singer? (7:39)

What kind of influence and impact do you want to have on your fans/listeners? (1:14:52)

If you were to write a letter to the millennials, what would you say? (1:18:50)

YOU WILL LEARN

How she began her personal journey to become a singer in LA. (7:44)

How society affects people's confidence with unrealistic beauty standards. (36:50)

The power of encouraging and speaking love into the younger generation. (42:03)

All of us are meant to better the world with our purpose and our gifts. (51:33)

Look at what you love and expand on it. (52:55)

A new perspective on how personal pains can become our empowering backstories. (56:14)

How she finds herself challenged as an Asian American artist, treading in between cultures. (1:02:53)

A letter to the millennials from Alice. (1:19:04)

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Ever feel LOST in life? Well if you've been feeling that way, it actually might be a good thing! This episode is all about why this season of "being lost" is such a powerful one! Listen to learn more about the power of being lost and what are some practical steps you can take to navigate through this season. 

Ep. 20 The Power of Being Lost

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This is a special episode for the millennials in Korea! This episode is in Korean. (Regular English episodes will continue on Friday!) I will be reading some messages I received from my listeners in Korea regarding the difficulties of finding a job after college, I'll be sharing my own personal story of struggles with finding a job after college, and the lessons I learned during this time! Disclaimer, my Korean is not the best, so please be understanding if I make any language errors.

Ep. 19 Dear Millennials in Korea (한국 밀레니얼 세대들에게)

What brings you the greatest sense of fulfillment? This episode is all about happiness. The research and science behind happiness and how we can have more of it in our life. This week, I've been learning a lot from a Science journalist and author, Emma Seppala. She wrote a book titled, The Happiness Track: How to Apply the Science of Happiness to Accelerate Your Success, and also gave a TEDx talk called "The Power & Science of Social Connection," which I’ll be sharing a lot from in this episode! Really some interesting stuff here! 

Ep. 18 The Science of Happiness: The Survival of the Kindest 

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Davis Nunez is the founder and CEO of Flowhance, a premiere digital marketing agency! He is also the friend who has mentored and coached me and has had a significant impact on how I got to where I am today! With his digital marketing agency, he's earned over 6 American Advertising Awards and Flowhance has generated over 5M dollars just in the past 2 years for some of their clients! Flowhance is Davis' 7th incorporated company, and with all this experience, he offers a lot of great insights and shares the best lessons he's learned in his journey with us in this episode!

Ep. 17 Focus on the Vision with Davis Nunez

QUESTIONS ASKED

• When you first started your company and what was that process like? (17:48)
• What's the number one thing you look for when hiring people? (29:34)
• What's something that has helped you the most in your own personal growth journey? (40:54)
• What advice would you give to those who don't know what their big picture vision is? (42:51)
• How do you work on your inner self? (46:19)
• If you were to write a letter to the millennials, what would you write? (1:08:35)

YOU WILL LEARN

• How he started his first entrepreneurship journey at the age of 18. (14:33)
• The importance of focusing on the big picture. (22:27)
• Importance of personal development as a leader. (36:40)
• Advice for people who don't know what their big picture vision is yet. (43:14)
• How fear disrupts and distracts you. (55:35)
• The mindset of thinking of yourself as a franchise builder. (59:25)
• The positive cycle of creating waves. (1:03:43)

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Are you a leader? This week's Friday Catch-Up Session is all about LEADERSHIP. In this episode, I share 3 main points about our call to leadership. I also share a bit from one of my favorite books on this topic, The Leadership Challenge by James Kouzes and Barry Posner. Whether you've never thought of yourself as a leader or you are currently in a position of leadership, this episode will help you understand how you can start walking out as a leader in your daily life.

Ep. 16 Becoming A Leader: Our Call To Leadership 

Y'all I'm SO excited to share with you this episode with my dear friend, Tammy Cho! Tammy Cho is a tech startup founder who transitioned into the world of social justice and nonprofits. She is currently the CEO and co-founder of BetterBrave, a nonprofit that fights workplace sexual harassment, discrimination, and retaliation. She is also the co-organizer of #HATEISAVIRUS, which is a movement to combat racism and xenophobia against Asians fueled by COVID-19, and the co-producer of Hidden Narratives podcast.

Ep. 15 Choosing Impact Over Profit with Tammy Cho

QUESTIONS ASKED

• Can you walk us through your personal journey of dropping out of college to work on your company full time? What it was like when you were making that decision? (5:41)
• What led you to start BetterBrave, a non-profit organization that fights against sexual harassment in the workplace? (22:11)
• What made you decide to do a non-profit model instead of a for-profit model? (24:32)
• How are you tackling the issue of racism and xenophobia with the #HATEISAVIRUS movement? (35:40)
• How do you think you've personally transformed in your journey as an entrepreneur? (42:35)
• What are some of the biggest insecurities you've seen come up in your journey? (47:37)
• What were some failure moments that you learned from? (50:52)
• What was your biggest faith over fear moment? (1:00:48)
• If you were to write a letter to the millennials, what would you write? (1:10:13)

YOU WILL LEARN

• Generational gap and cultural gap between our parents and us (15:47)
• Downsides of the tech start-up culture with sexism and discrimination she experienced as a young female founder (18:03)
• How she decided to optimize for impact over profits (24:43)
• The primary campaign goals of #HATEISAVIRUS movement (37:25)
• Importance of not grounding your worth on work and taking time for yourself (42:46)
• How she learned to transform her insecurities into strengths (47:48)
• Failures she learned from (51:01)
• Her biggest faith over fear moment (1:01:00)

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