Money Equals...with Millie Gormely
By Millie Gormely
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Money Equals...with Millie GormelyAug 18, 2023
Overworking or completely burnt out...what's the diff, how to fix
Melissa Anders is my guest today, she's a life coach specializing in overwork and burnout, and we had a great discussion about recognizing the signs that you're working too hard (swearing at your phone may be one of them), and how to fix the situation before you burn out...or lose it...or snap! She works with corporate employees, academics and entrepreneurs...find her at https://melissaeanders.com/
This time I'm the guest!
Maggie Perotin is a business and leadership coach who uses her own extensive business knowledge and experience to help her clients grow their business in a strategic and innovative way. Her podcast helps service-based entrepreneurs attract paying clients consistently and without overwhelm, and she's been helping me for a while now. In today's fantastic episode of her Diamond Effect podcast, she's interviewing me!
Maggie and I talk about Value, Time, and Money. We approach our conversation from two perspectives: your personal finances and your business that generates income.
We're getting divorced - what about the house?
My guest today is Robyn Yack, a real estate agent specializing in divorce sales. We discuss the process of selling the matrimonial home, pitfalls to avoid (because divorce is tough enough) and finding that new place for a fresh start. Find her here: https://www.robynandcheryl.com/divorce
Creating Safe Spaces
Sandi Boucher is a dear friend of mine, an internationally recognized speaker, a traditional knowledge keeper, and a best-selling author. She offers you the chance to experience Canada and the challenges cross-cultural relationships present from the INDIGENOUS perspective. She provides safe spaces and encourages people to actively engage in the reconciliation process on both sides of the feather. Find her at sandiboucher.com!
Bookkeeping isn't even the half of it...
Elizabeth O'Neill, CPA joins me this week to talk about what a Certified Public Accountant can do for your business (hint: it's way more than tracking receipts!). We'll also talk about the basics of the new FHSA (First Home Savings Account) and how you can use that and other tax strategies as part of your overall financial plan. You can find Elizabeth here: https://www.eocpa.ca/
My Money Story - for full disclosure
Book a chat with me here or email millie.gormely@ig.ca for my calendar link.
Your "money story" is how your relationship with money develops throughout your life, starting in very early childhood (or earlier - your parents' and grandparents' attitudes towards money will affect you too!). You observed and learned from your family and community what money is, how you get it, how you handle it, and what it's for. Your early money story has a huge impact on how you handle your money today, and it's something I explore with clients when we're building a plan.
Well, as an advisor/planner/financial advice-giving person, my money story is reflected in how I look at a given situation, and it seems fair to share that with you.
So...here's my "money story".
You need a mortgage expert!
Your mortgage is a huge part of your overall financial plan, so my discussions with clients will include all kinds of ways of working it into your individual plan. Having said that, they can get really complicated really quickly and I don't "do" the technical aspects of setting them up (what's with all the damn paperwork, anyway?). My guest Christina Demarinis is a mortgage expert and broker, and she's here to demystify and educate us about the biggest single purchase many people make in their lives. Find her at https://www.cadproperty.ca/about-me or email at christina@thefinancialforum.ca.
What's your "money language"?
This episode was inspired by an article I featured in my enews last week from Entrepreneur magazine about the the concept of four "money languages" that influence the way we think and talk about our financial lives. I went down a bit of a rabbit hole with this one as there are a BUNCH of different ways that people interpret their money languages, but this article seems like a good place to start conversation.
If you'd like a copy of the article, email me at millie.gormely@ig.ca and I'll get it out to you.
Should I stay or should I go?
My guest today is Wendy Rovers, founder of Divorce Thrive. She's a coach helping her clients navigate the emotional and the "business" of divorce - but that doesn't always mean ending the marriage! When your relationship status is "it's complicated", having someone to help you figure out your next steps can be a huge help. You can find her at wendyrovers.com.
Do you need a money coach?
Freebie Alert! Read on to get yours!
My guest is Allison Pilling, a transformational life coach who does a lot of mindset work. We talk about coaching vs. therapy, how mindset is built and affects our decision making, and how we can get out of a mindset loop to better our lives.
She's also an author and is very kindly sharing .pdf copies of her book "R.I.P. - Restoring Inner Peace: A Young Widow's Story of Being Transformed by L.O.V.E." It's a best seller on Amazon, and you can get yours FREE here: https://allisoncoaches.activehosted.com/f/9
She's also sharing how she was able to complete her book with the assistance of The 30 Day Book Writing Challenge by Joshua Sprague - https://minimalistmrktg.samcart.com/referral/QRut8W1A/hLzRGsiEL3Xii4rC
Lots of great conversation in this episode, join us!
Boundaries, boundaries, boundaries
We went DEEP in this interview really quickly! Lauren Millman is a Relationship and Marriage Coach who does a lot of work around this. We talked about how to create sustainable boundaries, speak up, be heard, and restore peace and wellness. We have the power to protect ourselves - we should use it!
Summer thoughts and my 5 "whys"
I have a post-it on my office printer that reminds me why I do what I do, and all the good things I want for myself and my clients. Sharing!
We all make mistakes...
When we screw up (financially or otherwise) we don't need to beat ourselves up...but that doesn't mean we shouldn't try to do better. Today's episode talks about shopping online, predicting the future, and how you (yes, you!) are exactly like Warren Buffett.
Life after work doesn't mean being put out to pasture...unless you want it to.
My guest Marilyn Hintsa is a retirement readiness/post career pathways coach, we had a great conversation about how we're starting to hate the word "retirement", ways we can emotionally prepare for life after work, and her research into attitudes around retirement.
Link to Marilyn's retirement attitudes survey here: https://www.jotform.com/form/231294622804050
Find Marilyn here: https://www.uleadu.ca/
Find me here! https://linktr.ee/MillieGormely
Health = Wealth
My very first podcast guest - and I couldn't be happier with how this turned out!
Annie Gaudreault is a nutritionist and science-based health coach who specializes in mid-life women. She's also a lovely person, and we had a great conversation about why some people can get away with poor food choices and others can't, how to apply the 80/20 rule to health, and how we can approach aging in a really healthy way. She also offers free consultations to new potential clients (as do I). Check out her website at veev.ca.
How much is "enough"?
Inspired by an article in a recent edition of my enews (forgive the long ugly link address),
and current re-reading of a personal development classic: "Wherever You Go, There You Are" by Jon Kabat-Zinn.
Blast from the (somewhat recent) past (during Covid, so another world entirely, really).
I was privileged to be one of the featured speakers at an international yoga retreat over Zoom during Covid (January 2022)- this recording is the result. We're discussing all the aspects of a full financial plan, how planning for women is different than planning for men (in general terms), and how a very "male, pale and stale" industry is changing (for the better, imho). The audio is a little rough, but it was a really good conversation, so I hope you'll be forgiving of the technical quality.
As part of that retreat, I offered attendees a chance to book a chat with me, and several people took advantage of that. We had some great conversations! If you'd like to do the same - please, be my guest. Here's a link to my calendar; find a time that works for you and we'll talk.
https://outlook.office365.com/owa/calendar/MillieGormelyCFPIGWealthManagement@igmfinancial.net/bookings/
What's your "rest ethic"?
We're all familiar with "work ethic": those values that we have around work. This is usually centred around the idea that "working hard is GOOD" and "not working hard is BAD". But rest is just as important as work...isn't it? Some philosophical musings around these ideas and why I believe having a "rest ethic" is just as important.
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Planning Process - what happens if you meet with me
I wanted to put out a good description of my financial planning process - partially to give prospective clients an idea of what actually working with me looks and feels like, and partially to get it all "on paper", as it were, for myself. I go by feel and intuition a lot, especially in the early stages of a client relationship, so every client experience is a little bit different and a little bit unique...just like every client.
Want to see my process in action? Book a free, no obligation call to check it out here: https://outlook.office365.com/owa/calendar/MillieGormelyCFPIGWealthManagement@igmfinancial.net/bookings/
Networking meeting presentation - live and "in person"!
This episode is a recording of a presentation I made at a recent networking meeting with the lovely Christine Fernandes and the Toronto Professional Women's Meetup. I talk about women and finance, and why we're different, and why it matters. I had a great time, thought you'd enjoy hearing it!
Authenticity, Critical Illness & ChatGPT
Critical Illness insurance - what it is, what it does, and how it could possibly save your @$$ even if you don't get it. Also some thoughts on authenticity and ChatGPT - it's getting crazy good, but humans aren't quite replaceable yet (at least, I'm not!).
Driving, a van with a bed in the back and sexist salesmen
I had to renew my vehicle plates this month (the silliness of the Ontario licensing system, oy), and that got me reminiscing about the cars that shaped my travels over the years. On reviewing this episode, I misremembered something...it was the Dodge Omni that brought the U-Haul from Southern Ontario to Thunder Bay, not the Chevy Sprint. But...the metaphors still hold.
I can't fix it if it's on fire
"Life moves pretty fast. If you don't stop and look around once in a while, you might miss it." - the enduring wisdom of Ferris Bueller
"Life moves pretty fast. If you don't stop and look at your financial situation once in a while, you might miss an opportunity to make it better." - Me.
(I'm no scriptwriter, eh).
We make decisions throughout our lives, and sometimes it turns out we should have done "the other thing". We're afraid to ask for help when things start getting nasty, and then we get caught up in blaming ourselves instead of getting help and fixing it.
Let's get this clear: A bad financial situation does not make you a bad person, and you can change your future if you get help sooner rather than later. Let's talk about it.
Budgets and diets...they have a lot in common (not just that they suck)
Having some thoughts around the ways we "punish" ourselves in an attempt to do something good (saving money, getting healthy). Starving yourself isn't a great way to lose weight in the long term, and trying to stick to a strict budget can also be an exercise in futility. Why do we do this to ourselves, and how can we take a healthier approach to long term success? And if you had to choose either living under a strict budget or a strict diet, which would you choose?
For the love of...why am I doing this?!
A few reasons, really...
- A chance to connect
- A chance to provide information and entertainment (but not advice, listen to find out why)
- A chance to resurrect ancient skills, be creative
- Shameless self-promotion!
Coffee, procrastination, little birdies and continuing education
Sometimes it's good to get out of the office and let your creativity flow...sharing thoughts on working in coffee shops, continuing education, and whether animals procrastinate. Spoiler alert...come on, this episode is less than 8 minutes long, go ahead and hit "play" to find out. ;)
Spring Cleaning and Book Recommendations
General thoughts about the change of seasons, spring cleaning, and some books I've really enjoyed that you might like as well (no recommendations for trashy romance novels, those you'll have to find on your own).
On my Kindle as we speak:
A personal development classic Think & Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill
Not everything has to be so hard: Effortless by Greg McKeown
You're not lazy, you're burnt out and you deserve a break! Really loved this one: Laziness Does Not Exist by Devon Price, PhD
Mortgage insurance is crap. (There. I said it.)
I'm pretty passionate about having that insurance conversation with clients. There's so much "information" out there, but it can be hard to get actual advice...and the person doing your mortgage isn't the right person to fill your insurance needs. Listen to find out why.
I'm SO passionate about insurance that I'll help you with it even if you're not a client! If you want to talk about what you MIGHT need (not everybody needs everything that's out there) and how I could help, use this link to book a chat. No cost, no obligation, no worries!
https://outlook.office365.com/owa/calendar/MillieGormelyCFPIGWealthManagement@igmfinancial.net/bookings/
(I got so fired up I forgot to record the extro - so here it is:)
Money isn't the most important thing in life, but getting your money $#@! can improve a whole lot of other things in your life. If you want (and/or NEED) a financial planner, and you want to work with someone who GETs you, let's see if we're that perfect fit.
Book a chat, let's get to know each other, and we'll see if working with me is something that might work for you.
Post-Vacation Clarity - do we really have to go back to "normal"?
Thoughts from the beach chair...(I wish!) No, this was recorded back home after returning from a week in the sun. Taking time away, getting a little perspective on your life, and coming up with fresh ideas are all topics we'll explore, also sunscreen tips (that I wish I'd followed myself, ow) and the idea of "getting back to normal" vs. "getting back to reality" as a way of processing the fact that eventually, you have to come home.
Insurance is FASCINATING! (I'm serious.)
Do you hear the word "insurance" and think "ew, boring"? Listen to find out why I totally disagree. As a former property/casualty claims adjuster, I've handled everything from potholes to floods, fires, sewer backups (a personal fave), slip and falls, whiplash injuries and auto fatalities. I learned a ton and gained some amazing skills that I use to this day. Let me know if you want to hear some fun claims stories - I've got a bunch of 'em!
Confessions of a lousy marketer
Trade show Crocs, IRL vs. online networking, and things I've learned trying to market myself over the years.
This is an earlier recording, more "getting to know you" conversation.
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Working yourself to death...or why I don't have a side hustle
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More unedited (not that editing would have shortened this much) chat. Part origin story, part "why I do what I do" and many of the reasons I don't work multiple jobs (anymore). By the way, if you're a single woman in Ontario looking for a financial advisor and think we might click, book a chat with me and we'll see if there's something there. It's always free, no obligation, no worries if it doesn't work out.
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The truth about women, their partners and financial planning...
At some point in our lives, whether widowed, divorced or never married, 8 in 10 of us women will be solely responsible for our finances. Here's why it's important to have a handle on "that stuff" before you HAVE to.
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OMG the Acronyms - Part 2!
Patience - the sound off the top is very low, it picks up about 30 seconds in. I tried to incorporate a sound effect (didn't really work). My bad! Here's more of those mysterious terms your advisor may not have explained to you - I'll hook you up. In this episode I'll explain ETF, CPP, OAS, DC, DP, DCA, GIC, KYC and KYP. (OMG!) Book a chat or sign up for my weekly enews here: https://linktr.ee/MillieGormely
OMG the acronyms! Part 1
Here's a list of common (to financial planners) acronyms that I still get asked about on the regular. In any industry, the insiders can assume "everybody knows what that means" and no, not everybody does. So, let's clear the air!
(turns out it takes time to explain these things...so I'm breaking it into two parts. Stay tuned!)
Today we'll go over RRSP, RRIF, LIRA, LIF and variations on that theme (LRIF, PRIF, LRSP), TFSA, RESP, and RDSP, bonus explanation of what a "mutual fund" actually is.
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DIY...but why?
We all make choices about what we do ourselves and what we delegate to others. You don't have to do it all yourself - I'm here to help! (not with your haircut, though...)
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So here's what I'm thinking...
The pod is starting to take shape, just a little bit...thanks to everyone for your feedback on the last episode! Details on what you can expect from me going forward, social media opinions, and why I don't dance (in public, anymore). For future reference, here's my Linktree if you'd like to sign up for my weekly email or contact me for a chat. https://linktr.ee/MillieGormely
Just the intro...more to come!
I've gone down a technical rabbit hole...more to come when I get all this $#*! figured out!