Mostly Dating
By Carleigh
A Roadmap For The Anxious Generation with Carrie Berk
Welcome back! Today we're joined by Carrie Berk, author and creator, to discuss her latest book, Mindfire: Diary of an Anxious Twentysomething.
If you're a Gen-Z or Millennial and you've ever struggled with anxiety, OCD, or another mental health obstacle, this one is for you.
Find Carrie on Instagram @carrieberkk and TikTok @carrieberkk and check out her first book, My Real-Life Rom Com.
As always, find me on Instagram @mostlydating. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review!
To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, submit it here or email carleigh@mostly-dating.com.
Red Flags You Only See In Hindsight with Monica Danus of Love Is Blind
Welcome back! Today we're joined by Monica Danus, who is opening up about her whirlwind experience on Love Is Blind Season 8 (+ the aftermath that's unfolded since it aired).
what we talk about:
- Monica's break from dating before going on the show
- Her experience in the pods (including her other connections we didn't see on-screen)
- Red flags she sees more clearly now + how it felt watching the show back
- Opening up about past trauma in a new relationship **TW: nonconsensual sex**
- Finding out about Joey's relationship with Sarah
- The tea on Monica's current relationship status
& more!
As always, find me on Instagram @mostlydating. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review!
To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, submit it here or email carleigh@mostly-dating.com.
Stop Waiting For A Relationship For Your Life To Start
Welcome back! In today's episode, Carleigh is back with the new segments. We're chatting about conversations to have before getting engaged, advice for bringing up difficult conversations, dating hard truths, & more.
As always, find me on Instagram @mostlydating. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review!
To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, submit it here or email carleigh@mostly-dating.com.
Is Comparison Killing Your Friendships?
Welcome back! Today we're doing things a little differently. In this solo episode, Carleigh introduces six new segments:
- "what should I say?" where a listener asks what to say to their partner, friend, family member, coworker, etc. in a certain situation.
- "keep going or call it?" where a listener describes their scenario and ask whether they should stay in a relationship/go on another date/continue a friendship/etc.
- "expanders" dating/relationship success stories to help be each other's expanders
- "a letter to my younger self" where a listener writes the advice they'd tell their younger self about dating/life
- "friendship files" specific to friendship dilemmas/conflicts
- "not proud of it" anonymous confessionals of the things we do that we wish we didn't
As always, find me on Instagram @mostlydating. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review!
To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, submit it here or email carleigh@mostly-dating.com.
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The Best Boundaries To Set On Early Dates + How To Do It
Welcome back! Today's episode is all about *boundaries*: how to set boundaries in early dating, what boundaries you should set for a relationship that lasts, signs you need to set better boundaries, and what to do when someone isn't respecting your boundaries.
We also chat about green flags in an argument with your significant other and we answer a wide range of listener questions about dating and relationships.
As always, find me on Instagram @mostlydating. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review!
To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, submit it here.
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The Biggest Red Flag In Any Relationship
Welcome back! In today’s solo episode I talk about not feeling seen, heard, or understood in your relationship, how to get back to your authentic self, and what to do when you feel like you're constantly putting on an act in relationships, friendships, etc.
We also talk about things you should know before defining the relationship, advice for meeting the family, and more,
As always, find me on Instagram @mostlydating. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review!
To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, submit it here.
Ready to Level Up Your Dating Game? It’s time to make dating exciting again with First Round’s On Me! Discover real, meaningful connections that go beyond the small talk.
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The Best Timeline For Getting Over A Breakup
Welcome back! In today’s solo episode I talk about timelines for breakups, how to know when you're ready to get back out there, and what to do when you don't feel ready at all.
I also discuss ways to get to know someone better without just asking questions and more types of dates you should always go on before defining the relationship, and answer listener questions on sharing a dog with your ex, going to couple's therapy, and more.
As always, find me on Instagram @mostlydating. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review!
To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, submit it here.
Ready to Level Up Your Dating Game? It’s time to make dating exciting again with First Round’s On Me! Discover real, meaningful connections that go beyond the small talk.
Grab a FREE month of FROM’s premium Terracotta subscription with the code MOSTLYDATING.
How To Navigate Misaligned Timelines in Relationships, with Ilana Dunn
Welcome back! Today we're chatting with Ilana Dunn, dating coach and host of the hit podcast Seeing Other People.
We chat about:
- How to deal with misaligned timelines in relationships
- What to do when you have no idea what someone is looking for in dating
- Conversations you should have before moving in together
- How to continue getting to know your partner in a long term relationship
& more!
As always, find me on Instagram @mostlydating. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review!
To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, submit it here.
Ready to Level Up Your Dating Game? It’s time to make dating exciting again with First Round’s On Me! Discover real, meaningful connections that go beyond the small talk.
Grab a FREE month of FROM’s premium Terracotta subscription with the code MOSTLYDATING.
How To Use Astrology To Optimize Your Wellness & Relationships with Erica Stein
Welcome back! Today we're joined by Erica Stein, health coach, wellness astrologist, and host of the Courageous Wellness Podcast.
Erica breaks down all the elements of the astrological birth chart and how to use it to optimize your wellness and your relationships.
Listen along as she gives Carleigh a deep dive into her own chart and learn what aspects of your chart to use for insights into your ideal partner and best relationship.
Find Erica on Instagram @courageouswellness and @wellnessastrology to learn more about booking a reading with her.
As always, find me on Instagram @mostlydating. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review!
To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, submit it here.
Ready to Level Up Your Dating Game? It’s time to make dating exciting again with First Round’s On Me! Discover real, meaningful connections that go beyond the small talk.
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Sarafiena Watkins Tells All: Life Before, During, & After The Bachelor Season 29
Welcome back! You may remember her from her famous “my mom’s watching” line on The Bachelor Season 29. Sarafiena Watkins quickly became a fan favorite this year, and today she’s joining Carleigh to spill all the tea.
we chat about:
- Dating in NYC & Sarafiena’s dating life before the bachelor.
- What led her to apply for the show (and what the process was like)
- Her initial impression of Grant and of the other women
- The friendships she formed on the show (yes, we address the drama too)
- The moment Sarafiena fell for Grant
- Moving on after having her heart broken on TV
- Where she is in her dating life now (+ whether her DMs are open 👀)
& a lot of great listener questions
Follow Sarafiena at @sarafienawatkins, and of course tune in tonight 3/24 for The Bachelor finale.
As always, find me on Instagram @mostlydating. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review!
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Ready to Level Up Your Dating Game? It’s time to make dating exciting again with First Round’s On Me! Discover real, meaningful connections that go beyond the small talk.
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6 Types Of Dates You Should Always Go On Before Defining The Relationship
Welcome back! In today’s solo episode I talk about the six types of dates I think you should always go on before defining the relationship, and then dive into listener questions about who should plan early dates, why you shouldn’t try to get a lot of likes on dating apps, should a relationship feel like work? and more.
As always, find me on Instagram @mostlydating. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review!
To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, submit it here.
Ready to Level Up Your Dating Game? It’s time to make dating exciting again with First Round’s On Me! Discover real, meaningful connections that go beyond the small talk.
Grab a FREE month of FROM’s premium Terracotta subscription with the code MOSTLYDATING.
A Wakeup Call To Break Your Dating Patterns & Elevate Your Relationships, with Sabrina Zohar
Welcome back! Today we’re joined by Sabrina Zohar, dating and relationship expert and host of the Sabrina Zohar Show.
what we talk about:
- Sabrina’s old dating patterns and relationship history that led her to becoming a coach
- How Sabrina met her current partner and what made it different from past dating experiences
- How to take accountability for your the part you play in your dating outcomes (+ how to break those patterns)
- Real, actionable tips for anxious daters (speaking from experience and psychology)
- How to get over "what could have been" with someone you never really dated
- Conversations to have to find out if they're emotionally available
- How to be authentic on early dates and find what you’re *really* looking for
& a lot more!
Find Sabrina on Instagram @sabrina.zohar and @thesabrinazoharshow or head to her website to take one of her courses.
As always, find me on Instagram @mostlydating. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review!
To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, submit it here.
Ready to Level Up Your Dating Game? It’s time to make dating exciting again with First Round’s On Me! Discover real, meaningful connections that go beyond the small talk.
Are You Dating A Partner Or A Project? With Christine Lang
Welcome back! Today we're joined by spirit channel and medical intuitive & healer, Christine Lang.
what we talk about:
why people are drawn to those who they think need to be “fixed” & how to decide if a relationship is worth the investment you’re putting into it.
relationship issues manifesting as physical symptoms
supporting a partner through shifts and life changes in a long term relationship
signs someone is emotionally available
why you’re not attracting the best people you could be
should you wait for someone who says they aren’t “quite” ready
+ our spirits answer a few controversial listener questions
As always, find me on Instagram @mostlydating. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review!
To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, submit it here.
Ready to Level Up Your Dating Game? It’s time to make dating exciting again with First Round’s On Me! Discover real, meaningful connections that go beyond the small talk.
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How To Stop Dating With A Scarcity Mindset & Be More Abundant with Michael Tennant
Welcome back! Today we're joined by Michael Tennant, author, entrepreneur, and founder of Actually Curious.
what we talk about:
- the meaning of abundance and how to create more of it
- what is compassion fatigue and where does it come from?
- how to support your partner when you feel annoyed by their venting
- signs your operating with a scarcity mindset in dating
- how gratitude plays into abundance
- jealousy, comparison, and other things keeping you from abundance
- signs you’re not actually ready for a serious relationship
& more!
Past episodes with Michael:
- How to Get Clear On Your Values For A Better Dating Life
- The One Trait That Could Save Your Relationships
Find Michael on Instagram @michaeltennantnyc and @actuallyc_rious and check out his new Abundance journalhere.
As always, find me on Instagram @mostlydating. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review!
To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, submit it here.
Ready to Level Up Your Dating Game? It’s time to make dating exciting again with First Round’s On Me! Discover real, meaningful connections that go beyond the small talk.
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How To Attract Better Matches & Master The Early Dating Stages with Logan Ury
Welcome back! Today we’re joined by Logan Ury, behavioral scientist turned dating coach, director of relationship science at Hinge, and bestselling author of How to Not Die Alone: The Surprising Science That Will Help You Find Love.
What we talk about:
- Logan’s experience as the dating coach on Netflix’s The Later Daters
- Pros and cons of dating 55+
- Hinge’s latest features and how to use them to attract better matches
- Logan’s top tips for a great dating app profile
- Logan’s research on the three dating tendencies and how it helped me meet my boyfriend
- Things you should do before defining the relationship
- How to have the “what are we” talk without saying “what are we”
- How to tell someone you don’t like the way they kiss
& more!
You can find Logan on Instagram @loganury and purchase her book everywhere books are sold.
Learn your dating tendency here and sign up for Logan's newsletter here.
Listen to our previous episode with Logan Ury: Episode 81. How To Not Die Alone.
As always, find me on Instagram @mostlydating. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review!
To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, submit it here.
Ready to Level Up Your Dating Game? It’s time to make dating exciting again with First Round’s On Me! Discover real, meaningful connections that go beyond the small talk.
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Half Baked Harvest's Tieghan Gerard on Embracing Career Success & Letting Love Happen
Welcome back! Today we're joined by Tieghan Gerard, also known asHalf Baked Harvest, content creator, recipe developer, and best-selling author of four cookbooks.
What we talk about:
- Tieghan's career path and tangible steps for how she's built and grown Half Baked Harvest
- Where Tieghan gets her recipe inspiration
- The best meal to make for Valentine's Day (or any date night)
- How Tieghan quiets the internet haters
- Lessons she's learned from her parents' 40 year marriage
- Balancing career growth with dating and relationships
- Dating in your 30s vs dating in your 20s
+ we answer listener questions about dating and Tieghan's day to day life
You can find Tieghan on Instagram and TikTok@halfbakedharvest and head to herwebsite to find all your cooking inspiration.
As always, find me on Instagram @mostlydating. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review!
To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, submit ithere.
Ready to Level Up Your Dating Game? It’s time to make dating exciting again with First Round’s On Me! Discover real, meaningful connections that go beyond the small talk.
Grab a FREE month of FROM’s premium Terracotta subscription with the code MOSTLYDATING.
What It Really Means When You Keep Getting The "Ick" On Early Dates, with Matchmaker Anna Morgenstern
Welcome back! Today we're joined by Anna Morgenstern, matchmaker and dating expert.
What we talk about:
- How Anna became a matchmaker + real success stories
- The most common reason both men & women don't want to go on a second date
- What to do when you keep getting the "ick" on early dates
- How to decide if you should go on another date if you aren't really sure
- How to make early dates more fun
& more!
You can find Anna on Instagram @annamorgenstern and head to her website to make a free matchmaking profile and learn more about working with her.
As always, find me on Instagram @mostlydating. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review!
To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, submit it here.
Ready to Level Up Your Dating Game? It’s time to make dating exciting again with First Round’s On Me! Discover real, meaningful connections that go beyond the small talk.
Grab a FREE month of FROM’s premium Terracotta subscription with the code MOSTLYDATING.
Real Stories From People Who met Their Partner Later Than They Expected
Welcome back! Today's episode is for people who are feeling frustrated and hopeless and like they'll never find their person. What we talk about:
- dating timelines
- my own dating trajectory leading up to how I met my boyfriend
- the importance of mindset in dating
- how having "expanders" can help you manifest your dream relationship
- real stories from listeners who met their partner later than they expected
As always, find me on Instagram @mostlydating. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review!
To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, submit it here.
Ready to Level Up Your Dating Game? It’s time to make dating exciting again with First Round’s On Me! Discover real, meaningful connections that go beyond the small talk.
Grab a FREE month of FROM’s premium Terracotta subscription with the code MOSTLYDATING.
Falling In Love & Healing From Heartbreak: Marissa George Talks Life After Love Is Blind
Welcome back! Today we’re joined by Marissa George, a fan-favorite cast member from Netflix’s Love Is Blind Season 7 who was recently named one of Variety’s most powerful women in reality TV.
Marissa opens up about her experience on the show and how she healed from the heartbreak of her on-screen breakup.
We also talk about:
- How Marissa decided to go on Love Is Blind & how she prepared for the show
- Obstacles Marissa and Ramses encountered on their journey to the alter
- Scenes we didn't see from season 7
- Boundaries during breakups
- Talking to a new partner about intimacy and birth control
- How serving in the military has impacted Marissa’s dating life
- Marissa’s current relationship: how they met, how they became official, and what’s going on in their relationship now
& more!
Find Marissa on Instagram at @rissa.george and TikTok @official_marissag.
As always, find me on Instagram @mostlydating. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review!
To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, submit it here.
Ready to Level Up Your Dating Game? It’s time to make dating exciting again with First Round’s On Me! Discover real, meaningful connections that go beyond the small talk.
Grab a FREE month of FROM’s premium Terracotta subscription with the code MOSTLYDATING.
Forecasts For Your Love Life In 2025, Based On Your Zodiac Sign with Kelley Knight
Welcome back! Today we're joined by returning guest, Kelley Knight, spiritual development teacher, founder and CEO of Modern Mystic Shop, and co-author of Spells For The Modern Mystic.
In today's episode, Kelley gives tarot readings for every zodiac sign, with tangible advice for what steps to take to make 2025 your best year in dating/relationships.
We wrap up the episode with listener questions (which Kelley answers using her tarot deck!), plus what the cards say is in store for Carleigh in 2025.
Past episodes with Kelley:
- Episode 19: Intuition, Tarot, & Spells For The Modern Mystic
- Episode 159: How To Manifest Your Dream Partner
Find Kelley on Instagram: @kelley__knight and @modernmystic_shop.
As always, find me on Instagram @mostlydating. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review!
To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, submit it here.
Ready to Level Up Your Dating Game? It’s time to make dating exciting again with First Round’s On Me! Discover real, meaningful connections that go beyond the small talk.
Grab a FREE month of FROM’s premium Terracotta subscription with the code MOSTLYDATING.
How To Keep The Spark Alive In A Long Term Relationship
Welcome back to Mostly Dating!
what we're talking about today:
- the honeymoon phase (why it happens & what it means when it ends)
- what to do when your relationship starts to feel boring
- should you tell someone to kiss you on a date if you want them to?
- is it okay to have a defined relationship when your divorce isn't final yet?
- shifts in communication in the early dating stages
Posts referenced in today's episode:
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To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, submit it here.
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Are We Compatible Or Do We Just Have Good Chemistry?
Welcome back to Mostly Dating!
what we're talking about today:
- the difference between chemistry and compatibility
- how to have better conversations on dating apps (that actually lead to dates)
- how to talk about difficult topics in relationships (sex, money, etc.)
- when/how much should you tell your family about a new person you're going on dates with?
- real stories from people who found out their partner cheated right before the wedding
- how much should you tell your current partner about the divorce you're going through?
As always, find me on Instagram @mostlydating. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review!
To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, submit it here.
Exclusive Offer: Ready to Level Up Your Dating Game? Tired of bad dates, endless ghosting, and mindless messaging? It’s time to make dating exciting again with First Round’s On Me! Discover real, meaningful connections that go beyond the small talk.
The best part? You can grab a FREE month of FROM’s premium Terracotta subscription with the code MOSTLYDATING!
"My Family Doesn't Want My Partner To Come To Our Holidays"
Welcome back to Mostly Dating (the new era of Mostly Balanced!).
what we're talking about today:
- how to flirt
- my guidelines on gifting in early dating
- signs you're ready to meet each other's families
- what to do if your family doesn't want your partner to come to your holidays
- meeting your situationship's family
- how to keep the spark alive in early dating when you're apart for the holidays
- should you stay on the apps through the holidays/end of year or take a break until 2025?
Posts I referenced:
- Tips for how to flirt better on dates
- Tips for meeting your partner's family
- Tips for introducing your partner to your family
As always, find me on Instagram @mostlydating. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review!
To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, submit it here.
Exclusive Offer: Ready to Level Up Your Dating Game? Tired of bad dates, endless ghosting, and mindless messaging? It’s time to make dating exciting again with First Round’s On Me! Discover real, meaningful connections that go beyond the small talk.
The best part? You can grab a FREE month of FROM’s premium Terracotta subscription with the code MOSTLYDATING!
Should You Try Again With Your Ex? How To Decide
Welcome back to Mostly Dating (the new era of Mostly Balanced!). Today we’re talking about exes and the holidays. Should you reach out or are you just lonely? We’ll break down how to decide mindfully.
+ we answer listener questions about:
- Keeping your independence in a relationship
- Is debt a dealbreaker?
- How to talk about money with your partner
- How to tell when a relationship isn’t right
- How to define the relationship without asking “what are we?”
- Are you settling for the bare minimum in relationships?
- How to decide what you really want in a relationship
- Pros & cons of dating in your 30s, 40s, 50s, and beyond
As always, find me on Instagram @mostlydating. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review!
To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, submit it here.
Exclusive Offer: Ready to Level Up Your Dating Game?
Tired of bad dates, endless ghosting, and mindless messaging? It’s time to make dating exciting again with First Round’s On Me! Discover real, meaningful connections that go beyond the small talk.
The best part? You can grab a FREE month of FROM’s premium Terracotta subscription with the code MOSTLYDATING!
How To Get Clear On Your Values For A Better Dating Life with Michael Tennant
Welcome to Mostly Dating (the new era of Mostly Balanced!). We’re kicking things off with the return of one of our OG favorite guests, Michael Tennant.
Michael is a speaker, entrepreneur, and author. He’s the founder of my favorite conversation deck, Actually Curious, a card game created to build empathy, trust, and connection.
What we talk about:
- How Michael created a movement to spread empathy
- What are values? & how do we know what ours are?
- Signs your values are on autopilot
- How to learn someone’s values early on in dating
- How knowing your values can help you discover what you’re looking for (& ultimately find it)
- How to actually learn from past relationships
- What is empathy? & how to look for it on early dates
- How to build your own empathy muscle
& more!
👀 check out our first episode with Michael to hear more of his backstory.
🎟️ Join our values event on November 20! We’ll have an open discussion about how to use values to have more fun (& success) in dating, with a guided exercise from Michael to help you discover your core values.
🔗Find Michael on Instagram @michaeltennantnyc and @actuallyc_rious and grab your own deck here.
As always, find me on Instagram @mostlydating.
To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, email hello@wearemostlybalanced.com.
And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review!
Is It A Dealbreaker If They Lie About Their Age?
Welcome back! Today we're answering rapid fire listener questions.
what we talk about:
- Someone lying about their age
- One-sided effort in a relationship
- Feeling distant after sex
- When the spark can grow (& when it can't)
- Someone lying about their past "to spare your feelings"
& more!
Links I mentioned:
📣 Get a custom dating app profile makeover from me
As always, find us on Instagram @mostlydating.
To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, email hello@wearemostlybalanced.com.
And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review!
The Best Place To Meet New People This Fall (Not Sports Bars)
Welcome back! Today we're answering rapid fire listener questions.
what we talk about:
- Signs someone is into you on early dates (+ how to reciprocate)
- Where to meet people outside of dating apps
- How to approach someone you see everyday in the same place
- Is it a red flag if you're not in their close friends circle on Instagram?
- Is it a red flag if they go out drinking a lot with work and say it's "part of the job?"
- When is the earliest you should move in together?
& more!
Links I mentioned:
- My review of my air purifier
- Christine's free guided meditation to uncover and overcome dating blocks
📣 Get a custom dating app profile makeover from me
As always, find us on Instagram @mostlydating.
To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, email hello@wearemostlybalanced.com.
And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review!
Are We Using Triggers As An Excuse To Not Do The Work? with Christine Lang
Welcome back! Today we're joined by a highly anticipated guest: Christine Lang, soul channel, intuitive, and energy healer.
We're chatting all about common fears and blocks that are stopping us from finding our ideal partner, and Christine even made an exclusive free guided meditation for all listeners to uncover—and overcome—their own fears and blocks.
*ACCESS THE FREE MEDITATION HERE*
what we talk about:
- Why you keep attracting people who bring out your triggers?
- How to stop dating with the mindset of wanting to be "picked"
- How to let go of the scarcity mindset in dating
- How to communicate with partners who don’t express their feelings
- Is it a real connection or just surface level?
- Triggers and blocks in dating vs. in long term relationships
& (a lot) more!
*ACCESS THE FREE MEDITATION HERE*
Find Christine on Instagram @christinelang_intuitive.
📣 Get a custom dating app profile makeover from me
As always, find us on Instagram @mostlydating.
To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, email hello@wearemostlybalanced.com.
And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review!
218. Do You Need To Be Fully Over Your Ex To Date Again?
Welcome back! Today we're answering a few longer listener questions.
what we talk about:
- What to do when your needs are not being met in a relationship
- What does it really mean when someone wants to “take things slow?”
- What to do when they finally change but it feels too late?
- Do ultimatums work in relationships?
- Exactly what to say when you’re stuck in a situationship
& more!
Links I mentioned:
📣 Get a custom dating app profile makeover from me
As always, find us on Instagram @mostlydating.
To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, email hello@wearemostlybalanced.com.
And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review!
217. Help! He Forgot My Birthday 2 Years In A Row
Welcome back! Today we're answering rapid-fire listener questions.
what we talk about:
- Ways to improve communication in a relationship
- What to do when the person you're dating forgets your birthday
- Am I the red flag for being underwhelmed by their birthday celebration?
- What to do when you're only attracted to people who aren't emotionally available
- Is it a red flag if they tell you they paused their dating apps?
& more!
📣 Get a custom dating app profile makeover from me
As always, find us on Instagram @mostlydating.
To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, email hello@wearemostlybalanced.com.
And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review!
216. The One Question I Always Ask On Early Dates
Welcome back! Today we're answering rapid-fire listener questions.
what we talk about:
- 7 steps to get over a breakup
- Is it a red flag if they call you their ex's name?
- How to handle different sex drives in a relationship + what to do when your partner never initiates
- Early signs someone is emotionally available
- Who should initiate early dates?
- What to do when you hit it off with someone while traveling but it fizzles when you get home?
& more!
📣 Get a custom dating app profile makeover from me
As always, find us on Instagram @mostlydating.
To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, email hello@wearemostlybalanced.com.
And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review!
215. Is It Possible To Slow Down A Love Bomber?
Welcome back! Today we're answering rapid-fire listener questions.
what we talk about:
- My rant on how dating is actually a lot like finding a job
- How to let go of your partner's past
- Is it normal to want to break up with them because they are messy?
- Why you're having trouble getting beyond the first date
- What to do when there isn't physical attraction on early dates
- Getting back together with an ex who has changed
- How often to respond to someone's messages on an app
- When to stop dating other people
& more!
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As always, find us on Instagram @mostlydating.
To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, email hello@wearemostlybalanced.com.
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214. 11 Common Behaviors That Are Damaging Your Relationship
Welcome back! Today we're talking about behaviors that damage your relationship, create distance, and ultimately cause breakups.
what we talk about:
- the difference between the silent treatment and taking time to think/cool down
- how to stop assuming your partner's feelings/thoughts/needs & what to do when they assume yours
- what happens when arguments go unresolved
- my thoughts on "never go to bed angry"
- why you need to talk to your partner more about sex (& how to do it)
- what to do when actions don't match words (or vice versa)
- when comparison to past relationships is helpful (& when it's not)
& more!
👀 the post I reference all episode
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Instagram post: https://www.instagram.com/p/CnreDjkuU3Z/
213. Signs They're Falling In Love With You
Welcome back! Today's episode starts with a few listener questions and then we dive into some subtle and telltale signs someone is in love with you.
what we talk about:
- Timelines for saying I love you
- Should you slide into someone's DMs if they didn't match you back on a dating app?
- My new favorite way to write a Bumble bio
- Questions to ask to see if someone is right for you
- Signs someone is falling in love with you
& more!
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As always, find us on Instagram @mostlydating.
To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, email hello@wearemostlybalanced.com.
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212. Why You Need To Have Uncomfortable Conversations & How To Do It
Welcome back! Today's episode dives into a few recent viral topics and wraps up with listener questions.
what we talk about:
- Tips for introducing a partner to your family or friends (+ my own experience)
- Why it's important to have deep conversations in a relationship
- Deep conversation starters for dates
- How to bring up uncomfortable conversation topics in a relationship
- The differences between dating 30+ vs. dating in your 20s
- The best ways to start a conversation on a dating app
& more!
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the posts I referenced:
- 5 uncomfortable conversations to have before getting engaged
- 9 deep conversation starters for better dates
As always, find us on Instagram @mostlydating.
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211. The Lesson We Can All Learn From Work Crushes
Welcome back! Today we're answering rapid-fire listener questions.
what we talk about:
- How to talk to your partner about something they do that's bothering you
- What to do when you feel "blank" or like you aren't good enough
- Why we need to stop using our dating lives as a measurement tool for how great we are.
- How to get over a crush on a married coworker
& more!
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📖 Date with intention with my digital dating planner or ebook (use code IG10 for $10 off)
As always, find us on Instagram @mostlybalancedpodcast.
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210. Your Complete Guide To Defining The Relationship
Welcome back! Today we're talking about all things DTR.
what we talk about:
- Things to do before defining the relationship
- Things you should know before defining the relationship
- Signs it's time to define the relationship
- How to get comfortable talking about sex with your partner
& more!
Other posts, episodes, & products referenced:
- Episode with Emily Morse (@sexwithemily)
- How to DTR
- Wonderlust Intimacy Deck (use MOSTLYBALANCED for a discount)
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📖 Date with intention with my digital dating planner or ebook (use code IG10 for $10 off)
As always, find us on Instagram @mostlybalancedpodcast.
To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, email hello@wearemostlybalanced.com.
And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review!
209. The Best Date Spots In NYC For Every Relationship Phase with The Carboholic
Welcome back! Today we’re joined by Rachel Brotman, creator and founder of @thecarboholic. This episode is a little different, we're doing a deep dive into all the best dating spots in NYC.
Don't live in New York? Save this for your next visit!
what we talk about:
- How Rachel became a food content creator & eventually quit her full time job
- How to find out about all the best new restaurants & how to get the hard-to-get reservations
- Where to go for: a first date, second/third date, affordable date, non-drinking date, double date, group date, meeting the parents date, special occasion date, & more
- Our thoughts on who should pay & how to offer
- What to do when you don't like the date location they suggest
- How to approach someone IRL in a restaurant/bar setting
& more!
Find Rachel on Instagram or TikTok or head to her website where she has a ton of free guides and resources.
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As always, find us on Instagram @mostlydating. To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, email hello@wearemostlybalanced.com. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review!
208. Send Help: I'm Anxious & I'm Dating An Avoidant
Welcome back! Today we're chatting about staying healthy in a new relationship, encouraging your partner to be healthier, and answering more listener questions.
what we talk about:
- My thoughts on "if they wanted to they would," "if you're confused they're not interested," and other common dating advice. (+ what to do instead)
- A listener question on how to make a relationship work with an avoidant and anxious attachment style combination
- How to get over a situationship
& more!
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📖 Date with intention with my digital dating planner or ebook (use code IG10 for $10 off)
As always, find us on Instagram @mostlybalancedpodcast.
To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, email hello@wearemostlybalanced.com.
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207. How To Motivate Your Partner To Be Healthier + Do Men Always Come Back?
Welcome back! Today we're chatting about staying healthy in a new relationship, encouraging your partner to be healthier, and answering more listener questions.
what we talk about:
- Staying in your health/fitness/wellness routine in a relationship
- How to motivate your partner to be healthier
- Who should pay for early dates?
- What to message someone who doesn't have good prompts
- Should you share feedback after a bad date?
- Breakups within a friend group
- Why I hate the phrase "men always come back"
& more!
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💌 Sign up for my free newsletter, Mostly Dating
📖 Date with intention with my digital dating planner or ebook (use code IG10 for $10 off)
As always, find us on Instagram @mostlybalancedpodcast. To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, email hello@wearemostlybalanced.com. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review!
205. How To Avoid Future Tripping & What To Do If You Were Too Clingy
Welcome back! Today we're chatting about future tripping in early dating & answering a few listener questions.
what we talk about:
- what is future tripping?
- how to avoid creating a false sense of intimacy early on
- how much messaging is too much before a date & in the early dating stages
- how to voice boundaries around texting early in dating
- how soon to sleep together
- what to do when you were clingy and then they ghosted
- is it a red flag if you rarely argue?
& more!
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📖 Date with intention with my digital dating planner or ebook (use code IG10 for $10 off)
As always, find us on Instagram @mostlybalancedpodcast. To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, email hello@wearemostlybalanced.com. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review!
204. How Dating Changes After 30 & Our Best Tips For Manifesting with Elizabeth Endres
Welcome back! Today we’re joined by Elizabeth Endres, creator and co-founder of @sweatsandthecity and host of The Wellness Process podcast.
what we talk about:
- Elizabeth’s favorite wellness practices
- Dating in your 20s vs dating in your 30s+
- How to get in a good mindset before a date
- Our thoughts on “dating is a numbers game”
- Being friends with exes
- How to manifest the right relationship (& what to do once you get it)
- Approaching someone IRL
& more!
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📣 Book a 1:1 video or phone call with me
💌 Sign up for my free newsletter, Mostly Dating
📖 Date with intention with my digital dating planner or ebook (use code IG10 for $10 off)
As always, find us on Instagram @mostlydating. To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, email hello@wearemostlybalanced.com. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review!
203. How To Get Over Imposter Syndrome In Your Relationship
Welcome back! Today we're chatting about imposter syndrome in relationships & answering listener questions.
what we talk about:
- why imposter syndrome happens in relationships
- how to stop worrying things are "too good to be true"
- ways to be more confident
- balancing busy schedules in a relationship
- what to do if your needs aren't being met
- deciding if it's worthy trying long distance
& more!
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💌 Sign up for my free newsletter, Mostly Dating
📖 Date with intention with my digital dating planner or ebook (use code IG10 for $10 off)
As always, find us on Instagram @mostlybalancedpodcast. To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, email hello@wearemostlybalanced.com. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review!
202. Why Are All My Relationships Ending At The 3 Month Mark?
Welcome back! Today we're diving into listener questions.
what we talk about:
- is it a red flag if they say they don't like labels?
- getting from "exclusive" to DTR
- should you double text or consider it ghosting?
- is it a red flag if they don't wish you a happy birthday in early dating
- how to handle "awkward" silences on dates (& in relationships)
- what to do when you can't get past the 3 month mark in dating
- exchanging numbers on a dating app before going on a date
& more!
📝 Questions to ask about the future early on
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As always, find us on Instagram @mostlybalancedpodcast. To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, email hello@wearemostlybalanced.com. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review!
201. A Step-By-Step Guide To Building The Best Dating App Profile
Welcome back! Today's episode starts with a step-by-step guide to creating the best possible dating app profile for better matches and better dates that will lead to a relationship. We end with three listener questions (starting at 30:40).
what we talk about:
- How to pick the best photos for your app profile
- A specific breakdown of what photos to use
- Which prompts spark the most conversation
- How to write better prompt responses (with examples)
- A listener question on saying I love you
- What to do when they say they want to go out but keep putting off plans
- What to do when they keep bringing up past fights in new arguments
& more!
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📖 Date with intention with my digital dating planner or ebook (use code IG10 for $10 off)
As always, find us on Instagram @mostlybalancedpodcast. To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, email hello@wearemostlybalanced.com. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review!
200. Friends & Family with Different Relationship Timelines + Working While Mom-ing with Lucie Fink
Welcome back! It's episode 200 (!!) of Mostly Balanced, and today we're joined by content creator and 2x TEDx speaker, Lucie Fink.
what we talk about:
- a brief rundown of Lucie's career and why she recently decided to start her podcast, The Real Stuff
- Lucie's relationship with her now husband, dating back to high school, college, and moving to NYC
- maintaining independence and a sense of self in a relationship
- how we were both impacted by having a twin
- friends and family members with different dating timelines
- how sex changes when you move in together
- dividing responsibilities between parents
- balancing motherhood with working full time
& more!
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As always, find us on Instagram @mostlybalancedpodcast. To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, email hello@wearemostlybalanced.com. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review!
199. Is It Okay To Date Multiple People At Once In Early Dating Stages?
Welcome back! Today we're answering listener questions...
what we talk about:
- How to book a live 1:1 dating consultation with me before the prices increase!
- Should you try again with someone one year after a first date that never panned out?
- Is it weird for a dating app match to mention other dates they have planned?
- If you go on a great first date but the person says they aren’t looking for something serious at the moment, should you still try a few more dates to see where it might go?
- The biggest indicator that you’re about to end up in a situationship
- How to stop a relationship from moving too fast (and why you might want to slow down)
- Is it okay to date multiple people at once in the early dating stages?
& more!
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**The post referenced during the last question in the episode.
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As always, find us on Instagram @mostlybalancedpodcast. To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, email hello@wearemostlybalanced.com. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review!
198. What To Do When You're A Few Dates In & Don't Know What They're Looking For
Welcome back! Today we're answering listener questions...
what we talk about:
- how to enter our 100K giveaway!
- what you should know by dates 3 and 5
- timelines in dating and relationships
- is it a bad sign if they update their app profile after a few good dates?
- what to do when you're a few dates in and you haven't talked about what you're looking for
- should you stay with someone when you know there's potential for a relationship but they aren't there yet?
& more!
As always, find us on Instagram @mostlybalancedpodcast. To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, email hello@wearemostlybalanced.com. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review!
197. How To Break Your Dating Patterns & Find A Better Relationship with Ilana Dunn
Welcome back! Today we have Ilana Dunn, host of Seeing Other People, back on the podcast.
What we talk about:
- Ilana’s dating patterns before meeting her fiancé
- Conversations she had before getting engaged
- Tips for better communication in relationships
- The hardest parts of wedding planning, why she isn’t having bridesmaids, and what she’s looking forward to most about being married
- What to do when your family is disappointed about your breakup
- Boundaries to set early on in dating
- How to have better conversations on dating apps
& more!
As always, find us on Instagram @mostlybalancedpodcast. To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, email hello@wearemostlybalanced.com. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review!
196. Getting From Dating To A Relationship + How To Improve Communication
Welcome back! Today we're answering listener questions...
what we talk about:
- how to enter our 100K giveaway!
- how to integrate into each other's lives in the early dating stages
- what does it mean when someone keeps viewing your social media?
- how to get past your bf dating someone else while you were on a break
- what to do if you feel like you aren’t in someone’s league but they ask you out
- what to do when you're 2 months into a relationship and it feels like you barely know each other
- how to strengthen communication in a 3 year relationship
& more!
As always, find us on Instagram @mostlybalancedpodcast. To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, email hello@wearemostlybalanced.com. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review!