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The Narcissistic Abuse Rehab Podcast provides a trauma-informed evidence based perspective on topics related to abusive power and control dynamics. Selected as one of Feedspots Top 10 Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Podcasts of 2021. Host Manya Wakefield is a recovery coach, educator and author specialized in cognitive behavioral therapy and post-traumatic stress recovery. Download your FREE of the e-Book 'Are Your in An Emotionally Abusive Relationship?' bit.ly/2zfZeu3 For One-On-One Coaching visit www.narcissisticabuserehab.com/coaching/
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How Narcissists Use DARVO To Escape Accountability

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A New Season of The Narcissistic Abuse Rehab Podcast
A New Season of The Narcissistic Abuse Rehab Podcast
'A NEW SEASON OF THE NARCISSISTIC ABUSE REHAB PODCAST' discusses the upcoming season of the show. Listeners are invited to participate in selecting the topics we'll be discussing and to share their preferences for the updated design of our website. Click here to participate in our survey. The Narcissistic Abuse Rehab Podcast is about the dynamics of abusive power and control. Created by recovery coach Manya Wakefield, the podcast aims to provide a trauma-informed, evidence-based perspective on this topic. In 2021, the series ranked among the Top 100 Apple Podcasts in the Mental Health genre in the USA. In January 2022, The Narcissistic Abuse Rehab Podcast was named one of Feedspot’s 10 Best Narcissistic Abuse Podcasts. For more information visit narcissisticabuserehab.com ONE-ON-ONE COACHING To book a consultation with recovery coach Manya Wakefield send an email to hello [at] narcissisticabuserehab [dot] com DOWNLOAD Access your free copy of 'Are You In An Emotionally Abusive Relationship?' SOCIALS Instagram, Twitter, TikTok. LINKS MENTIONED https://uxmetrics.com/card_sort_reports/3U7GUA DISCLAIMER: The content of this podcast expresses the content creator's thoughts and opinions. It provides general information only. Please seek the relevant professional or specialist advice before taking or refraining from any action based on the information in this video.
07:16
October 29, 2022
Why Do Narcissists Avoid Accountability?
Why Do Narcissists Avoid Accountability?
'WHY DO NARCISSISTS AVOID ACCOUNTABILITY?' answers a viewer question about why highly narcissistic people act out when being held to account for their behavior. Some of the topics discussed in this episode are narcissistic fragility and narcissistic rage.  The Narcissistic Abuse Rehab Podcast is about the dynamics of abusive power and control. Created by recovery coach Manya Wakefield, the podcast aims to provide a trauma-informed, evidence-based perspective on this topic. In 2021, the series ranked among the Top 100 Apple Podcasts in the Mental Health genre in the USA. In January 2022, The Narcissistic Abuse Rehab Podcast was named one of Feedspot’s 10 Best Narcissistic Abuse Podcasts. For more information visit narcissisticabuserehab.com   ONE-ON-ONE COACHING To book a consultation with recovery coach Manya Wakefield send an email to hello [at] narcissisticabuserehab [dot] com DOWNLOAD Access your free copy of 'Are You In An Emotionally Abusive Relationship?' SOCIALS Instagram, Twitter, TicTok. RESOURCES & LINKS MENTIONED DSM-IV and DSM-5 Criteria for Personality Disorders + Wakefield, M. 'What Is A Narcissistic Injury?' NarcissisticAbuseRehab.com. May 1, 2020. DISCLAIMER: The content of this podcast expresses the content creator's thoughts and opinions. It provides general information only. Please seek the relevant professional or specialist advice before taking or refraining from any action based on the information in this video.
10:52
February 28, 2022
Ireland’s First Coercive Control Conviction
Ireland’s First Coercive Control Conviction
'Ireland’s First Coercive Control Conviction' talks about the landmark trial of Daniel Kane, the first person in Ireland convicted on the crime of coercive control. This episode will help you understand: The importance of active bystanders in ending domestic abuse. Moving from victim to survivor in safe spaces. The extreme, high level violence of coercive control. Sarah Benson (Women’s Aid) on domestic abuse in the context of coercive control. Catríona Gleeson (Safe Ireland) on the social impact of the legislation. Why Dr. Evan Stark defines coercive control as a gendered crime. Ireland as the only EU country with coercive control legislation. For a full transcript of this podcast and links to source material visit narcissisticabuserehab.com. Host: Manya Wakefield SPONSORS For an exclusive 10% discount at femallay.com use the code NARCREHAB Download 'Transcendent Parenting: A Workbook For Parents Sharing Children With Narcissists' by Michael Kinsey, Ph.D. FOLLOW NAR on TWITTER | MEDIUM | REDDIT | PINTEREST | INSTAGRAM IN THE MEDIA Huffington Post (11 Little Ways To Make 2021 Feel Like A Fresh Start - Even If It's Not) | Cosmopolitan (Friendly PSA: Do Not Text Your Ex "Happy Birthday") | Elle (Promising Young Woman is a Devastating Portrait of Survivor's Remorse). DISCLAIMER: This podcast is published with the understanding that while the content creator aims to inform, enlighten, and provide accurate general information regarding the subject matter discussed, the content creator is not engaged in providing medical, psychological, financial, legal, or other professional services. If users need or want professional advice or assistance, the services of an appropriate professional should be sought.
11:58
January 27, 2021
How Narcissists Use DARVO To Escape Accountability
How Narcissists Use DARVO To Escape Accountability
'How Narcissists Use DARVO To Escape Accountability' will help you understand: What is DARVO? Who Gets Targeted For DARVO? What is the purpose of DARVO? DARVO as a collective grooming tactic Why Bystanders Participate in Collective Betrayal The Longterm Effects of DARVO on Survivors of Narcissistic Abuse For a full transcript of this podcast and links to source material visit narcissisticabuserehab.com. Host: Manya Wakefield - - - SPONSORS For an exclusive 10% discount at femallay.com use the code NARCREHAB Download 'Transcendent Parenting: A Workbook For Parents Sharing Children With Narcissists' by Michael Kinsey, Ph.D. - - - FOLLOW NAR TWITTER MEDIUM REDDIT PINTEREST INSTAGRAM DISCLAIMER: This podcast is published with the understanding that while the content creator aims to inform, enlighten, and provide accurate general information regarding the subject matter discussed, the content creator is not engaged in providing medical, psychological, financial, legal, or other professional services. If users need or want professional advice or assistance, the services of an appropriate professional should be sought.
10:45
January 07, 2021
Co-Parenting with a Narcissist, Episode 2 feat. Michael Kinsey, Ph.D. (Toxic Relationship, Narcissism, High Conflict Partner)
Co-Parenting with a Narcissist, Episode 2 feat. Michael Kinsey, Ph.D. (Toxic Relationship, Narcissism, High Conflict Partner)
CO-PARENTING WITH A NARCISSIST FEATURING MICHAEL KINSEY, PH.D. is a discussion about how to answer your child's questions about their narcissistic parent in a healthy, constructive way. Host: Manya Wakefield Guest: Michael Kinsey, Ph.D. RESOURCES & LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS VIDEO OFFICIAL SITE: narcissisticabuserehab.com MINDSPLAIN: mindsplain.com 'DREAMS OF ZUGUNRUHE': Buy the book. 'TRANSCENDENT PARENTING: A WORKBOOK FOR PARENTS SHARING CHILDREN WITH NARCISSISTS': Download 2 FREE chapters or BUY THE BOOK. COACHING For a FREE 15 minute consultation send an email to  narcissisticabuserehab[at]gmail.com or book a narcissistic abuse coaching session. SUPPORT OUR FREE CONTENT Donate via PayPal. SOCIAL MEDIA Twitter  Instagram Medium Reddit Pinterest
10:05
October 27, 2020
Why Narcissist Parents Scapegoat Their Children
Why Narcissist Parents Scapegoat Their Children
'What Narcissistic Parents Scapegoat Their Children' is a response to a viewer question about adult children of narcissists (ACONs) who are targeted for scapegoating and punishment by narcissistic parent.  This episode discusses narcissistic family roles using Bowen Family Systems theory in the context of a dysfunctional narcissistic family. It talks about why narcissistic parents:  • Cast their children in the scapegoat role.  • Narcissistic injuries.  • Some of the circumstances that give rise to the narcissistic personality.  The viewer question is about narcissistic father's and their sons but this message can also be applied to narcissistic mothers and their daughters and narcissistic parents and their children in general regardless of gender. - - -  RESOURCES & LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS VIDEO:   • McBride, Karyl. 'The Narcissistic Family Tree.' Psychology Today. Published May 1, 2011. Retrieved May 18, 2020.  • Wise, Jerry. 'How The Narcissist Tears Your Heart Out.' Jerry Wise Relationship Systems. Published May 14, 2020. Retrieved May 18, 2020.  • Narcissistic Abuse Rehab. 'Co-Parenting with a Narcissist featuring Michael Kinsey, Ph.D.' Narcissistic Abuse Rehab. Published May 15, 2020. Retrieved May 18, 2020.  • Narcissistic Abuse Rehab. 'The Narcissist's False Self.' Narcissistic Abuse Rehab. Published May 2, 2020. Retrieved May 18, 2020. • Dodgson, Lindsay. 'The 5 most common themes in narcissistic families, from 'flying monkeys' to the "needy sibling."' Business Insider. Published April 29, 2020. Retrieved May 18, 2020. - - -  FOLLOW NAR   • TWITTER  • MEDIUM  • WORDPRESS  • REDDIT  • PINTEREST  • INSTAGRAM DISCLAIMER The content of this video expresses the content creator's own thoughts and opinions. It is provided for general information only. It is not intended to and is not meant to be advice which you should rely on. Please get the relevant professional or specialist advice before taking or refraining from any action based on the information in this video. If you have medical questions, please consult your doctor or other professional healthcare providers without delay.  #narcissistparent #toxicfamily #manipulation #narcissistmother #narcissistfather
10:44
May 19, 2020
Co-Parenting with a Narcissist featuring Clinical Psychologist Dr. Michael Kinsey, author and founder of Mindsplain.com
Co-Parenting with a Narcissist featuring Clinical Psychologist Dr. Michael Kinsey, author and founder of Mindsplain.com
CO-PARENTING WITH A NARCISSIST, PART I is a discussion with Dr. Michael Kinsey, Ph.D. about some of the unique challenges parents raising children with narcissistic partners face.   Dr. Kinsey is an award-winning clinical psychologist and author of the children's book 'Dreams of Zugunruhe.' He received his doctorate at the New School for Social Research and is a therapist in private practice in New York City. He is also the founder of the mental health blog Mindsplain.com.   He uses his expertise in parent-child attachment, intergenerational trauma and the dynamics of personality to answer questions from survivors of narcissistic about the complexities of parenting with a narcissist.  In this episode we talk about:  - Do children of narcissists risk developing personality disorders and, if so, what parents can do to prevent it.   - Estrangement from children, also known as, parental alienation in narcissistic families.   - Triangulation with the narcissist's new partner (also known as the "new supply") A transcript of this video is available at narcissisticabuserehab.com - - -  FOLLOW NARCISSISTIC ABUSE REHAB  •  OFFICIAL WEBSITE •  TWITTER •  MEDIUM •  INSTAGRAM  •  WORDPRESS •  REDDIT  •  PINTEREST - - -  FOLLOW MINDSPLAIN   • Mindsplain Official Blog  •  Mindsplain Twitter  •  Dreams of Zugunruhe Official Website  •  Medium •  Thrive Global - - -  💲 DONATIONS   📩 EMAIL: narcissisticabuserehab@gmail.com. - - -  DISCLAIMER: The content of this video expresses the content creator's own thoughts and opinions. It is provided for general information only. It is not intended to and is not meant to be advice which you should rely on. Please get the relevant professional or specialist advice before taking or refraining from any action based on the information in this video. If you have medical questions, please consult your doctor or other professional healthcare providers without delay. #parallelparenting #coparentingwithnarcissist #ihaveachildwithanarcissist #narcissistparent
17:03
May 15, 2020
6 Tips for Psychological Safety in Recovery
6 Tips for Psychological Safety in Recovery
6 TIPS FOR PSYCHOLOGICAL SAFETY IN RECOVERY is a collection of recommendations for survivors of narcissistic abuse who are considering working with mental health professionals on YouTube. In this podcast, we talk about how to do due diligence before purchasing the services of licensed therapists, counselors or life coaches on YouTube. These are important considerations to ensure your psychological safety as you navigate recovery from narcissistic abuse. RESOURCES & LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS PODCAST:   '5 Signs of a Psychologically Safe Person' - Narcissistic Abuse Rehab  'Exposing Bad Behavior on Narcissism Channels on YouTube' - Narc Free Formula
05:51
February 21, 2020
4 Subtle Ways Narcissistic Parents Abuse Their Children
4 Subtle Ways Narcissistic Parents Abuse Their Children
'4 SUBTLE WAYS NARCISSISTIC PARENTS ABUSE THEIR CHILDREN' talks about the effects of exposure to pathological narcissism on children.  This video describes the emotional abuse children suffer within a narcissistic family system with a narcissistic mother or narcissistic father at the helm. This message is also available on YouTube. DONATE: https://bit.ly/2qd1n59  RESOURCES & LINKS MENTIONED: DSM-IV and DSM-5 Criteria for Personality Disorders Kernberg, Otto F. Borderline Conditions and Pathological Narcissism. Lanham: Rowman & Littlefield Publ., 2004.  Kohut, Heinz. The Analysis of the Self A Systematic Approach to the Psychoanalytic Treatment of Narcissistic Personality Disorders. Chicago: University of Chicago Press, 2013.  Ronningstam, Elsa (2005). Identifying and Understanding the Narcissistic Personality. New York City: Oxford University Press. pp. 22–27.  Ronningstam, Elsa (19 January 2016). “Pathological Narcissism and Narcissistic Personality Disorder: Recent Research and Clinical Implications.”  Malkin, Craig. Rethinking Narcissism: the Bad — and Surprising Good — about Feeling Special. New York, NY: HarperWave, 2015.  Wakefield, M. Narcissistic Family Dynamics: Collected Essays: A curated selection of essays on narcissism in the family. (version Kindle). 1st ed. Narcissistic Abuse Rehab, 2020. DISCLAIMER: The content of this podcast expresses the content creator's own thoughts and opinions. It is provided for general information only. It is not intended to and is not meant to be advice which you should rely on. Please get the relevant professional or specialist advice before taking or refraining from any action based on the information in this video. If you have medical questions, please consult your doctor or other professional healthcare providers without delay.  #narcissism #narcissisticabuse #narcissistandkarma
07:17
January 16, 2020
5 Reasons Why A Narcissist Won't Change
5 Reasons Why A Narcissist Won't Change
5 REASONS WHY A NARCISSIST WON'T CHANGE explains why asking a narcissist to change their harmful behavior is an exercise in futility. Narcissist Personality Disorder is notoriously treatment resistant. Highly narcissistic people are unable and unwilling to recognize the harm their behavior causes to others.   'ARE YOU IN AN EMOTIONALLY ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP?' PRINTABLE WORKBOOK  Download your free copy at https://bit.ly/30L89vJ  DONATE: https://bit.ly/2qd1n59  EMAIL: narcissisticabuserehab@gmail.com. RESOURCES & LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS VIDEO Narcissists and Critical Thinking https://youtu.be/fYJcWZPTWNU  Why All Narcissists Use The Same Playbook https://youtu.be/sgArwF1Qc2w FOLLOW NARCISSISTIC ABUSE REHAB TWITTER: https://twitter.com/NarcAbuseRehab  MEDIUM: https://bit.ly/2P3QWeT  WORDPRESS: https://bit.ly/2nQNCs6   REDDIT: https://bit.ly/33y6xHe  PINTEREST: https://bit.ly/2IWT58i DISCLAIMER: The content of this podcast express the content creator's own thoughts and opinions. This podcast is provided for general information only. It is not intended to and is not meant to be advice which you should rely on. Please get the relevant professional or specialist advice before taking or refraining from any action based on the information in this video. If you have medical questions, please consult your doctor or other professional healthcare providers without delay.
08:60
December 10, 2019
Depression, Anxiety and the Narcissist
Depression, Anxiety and the Narcissist
DEPRESSION, ANXIETY AND THE NARCISSIST discusses some of the mental health consequences of the narcissist's thinking and way of life.  Many survivors wonder how karma affects the narcissist. This message take a closer look at how karma (or cause and effect) can play out in the life of a narcissist.   Often, it manifests as mood disorders such as anxiety and depression. Narcissists often suffer from insomnia, as well.   Because of the narcissist's mentality and behavior, bad karma is often constant and on-going in their lives.  This message takes a look behind the curtain at the hidden reality that is often taking place behind closed doors. This message is also available on YouTube. DONATE: https://bit.ly/2qd1n59   RESOURCES & LINKS MENTIONED: Heaney, Katie. “What It's Like to Be a Diagnosed Narcissist.” The Cut. New York Magazine, January 16, 2019.   Malkin, Craig. “Rethinking Narcissism: The Secret to Recognizing and Coping with Narcissists.” New York: Harper Perennial, 2016.   Rosenberg, Ross. “The Human Magnet Syndrome: Why We Love People Who Hurt Us.” Eau Claire, WI: Premier Publishing & Media, 2013.  Webber, Rebecca. “Meet the Real Narcissists (They're Not What You Think).” Psychology Today. Sussex Publishers, September 5, 2016.  Holliday, Quinn. "Narcissist Spiritual Ties With Evil." Assc Direct, 2019.   Holliday, Quinn. "The Fake Tough Exterior of Narcissist." Assc Direct, 2019.  DISCLAIMER: The content of this podcast expresses the content creator's own thoughts and opinions. It is provided for general information only. It is not intended to and is not meant to be advice which you should rely on. Please get the relevant professional or specialist advice before taking or refraining from any action based on the information in this video. If you have medical questions, please consult your doctor or other professional healthcare providers without delay.  #narcissism #narcissisticabuse #narcissistandkarma
11:27
December 04, 2019
5 Signs of a Psychologically Safe Person
5 Signs of a Psychologically Safe Person
5 SIGNS OF A PSYCHOLOGICALLY SAFE PERSON discusses the concept of psychological safety coined by Amy Edmondson, the Novartis Professor of Leadership and Management at Harvard Business School. Professor Edmondson defines psychological safety as “a shared belief that the team is safe for interpersonal risk taking.”  This message applies her concept to personal relationships for survivors of narcissistic abuse and talks about some of the ways survivors can set themselves up for deep healing and positive health outcomes by recognizing the signs of psychologically safe people. This message touches on the importance of discernment in the aftermath of narcissism exposure with regard to the individuals a survivor chooses to associate with as well as the environment(s) the survivor chooses to occupy which play a key role to the survivor's recovery process. Download your FREE copy of the Narcissistic Abuse Rehab printable workbook: "ARE YOU IN AN EMOTIONALLY ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP?" RESOURCES “Creating Psychological Safety in the Workplace.” Harvard Business Review, January 22, 2019.  Delizonna, Laura, Anthony K. Tjan, Carol A. Walker, Steven D’Souza, and Diana Renner. “High-Performing Teams Need Psychological Safety. Here's How to Create It.” Harvard Business Review, August 24, 2017.  Kinsey, Michael.  "The 'No' Quadrant: A Tool to Help Determine When To Say 'No' and Maintain Healthy Boundaries." Mindsplain.com. February 20, 2020. Edmondson, Amy. "Psychological Safety and Learning Behavior in Work Teams." Administrative Science Quarterly, Vol. 44, No. 2 (Jun., 1999), pp. 350-383. Johnson Graduate School of Management, Cornell University
07:41
October 19, 2019
Coercive Control: The Narcissist's Weapon of Choice
Coercive Control: The Narcissist's Weapon of Choice
COERCIVE CONTROL: THE NARCISSIST’S WEAPON OF CHOICE is a breakdown of Coercive Control, the subtle, insidious of psychological abuse favored by narcissist’s seeking to subjugate their targets. “Coercion is an act or a pattern of acts of assault, threats, humiliation,  and intimidation or other abuse that’s used to harm, punish or frighten the victim.” “Controlling behavior is a range of acts designed to make a person subordinate and/or dependent by isolating them from sources of support, exploiting their resources and capacities for personal gain, depriving them of the means needed for independence, resistance and escape and regulating their everyday behavior.” Forensic Criminologist Dr. Jane Monckton Smith describes Coercive Control as the most significant predictor of domestic homicide. She also cites ‘gaslighting’, a form of psychological manipulation aimed to make the target question their reality, as the hallmark of Coercive Control. For more information watch, 'WHAT IS COERCIVE CONTROL' on our YouTube Channel. Download your FREE copy of our printable workbook 'AM I IN AN EMOTIONALLY ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP?'
06:52
October 14, 2019
Scapegoating in Narcissistic Families
Scapegoating in Narcissistic Families
SCAPEGOATING IN NARCISSISTIC FAMILIES is about how children are assigned roles in dysfunctional families where one or both of the parents may have a personality disorder and how this can affect Adult Children of Narcissists. In families where one or both of the parents have Narcissistic Personality Disorder, it's common for a child who questions the worldview of the Narcissist to be scapegoated and targeted for emotional and sometimes physical about. One of the distinguishing features of the abuse experienced by the scapegoat child is that they are gaslit by a caregiver who questions their reality. They are also triangulated and smeared by the narcissistic parent(s) among their siblings and other relatives until they submit to the Narcissist's authority. Scapegoating is bullying of the child within their own family unit therefore the scapegoat child grows up in an environment that is psychologically unsafe. They are often ridiculed and rejected within their own family unit. The abuse they experience at home conditions them to have a dangerous tolerance for aggressive behaviors which they have been taught to call love. This can erode the ability of someone who was scapegoated in childhood to recognize the coercive and controlling behaviors that lead to domestic violence and narcissistic abuse in their relationships as adults. For more information watch 'THE FAMILY SCAPEGOAT' on our YouTube Channel. RESOURCES: Wakefield, M. Narcissistic Family Dynamics: The Scapegoat: A Conversation with Family Systems Expert R.C. Mandeville, MA, MACP. (version Kindle). 1st ed. Narcissistic Abuse Rehab, 2020. Download your FREE copy of our printable workbook 'AM I IN AN EMOTIONALLY ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP?' Contact: narcissisticabuserehab@gmail.com
05:42
October 13, 2019
The Cycle of Narcissistic Abuse
The Cycle of Narcissistic Abuse
In the inaugural episode of THE NARCISSISTIC ABUSE REHAB PODCAST, our host Manya Wakefield discusses THE CYCLE OF NARCISSISTIC ABUSE. Manya is a recovery coach and the author of the books 'ARE YOU IN AN EMOTIONALLY ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP?' and 'RECOVERY JOURNAL: A HEALING TOOL FOR SURVIVORS OF NARCISSISTIC ABUSE.' Learn more at narcissisticabuserehab.com. Contact: narcissisticabuserehab@gmail.com FOLLOW US: YOUTUBE TWITTER MEDIUM REDDIT PINTEREST Sq7fcQ7OXyxyxIYyKBJ7
07:30
October 09, 2019
Sex and the Female Narcissist
Sex and the Female Narcissist
SEX AND THE FEMALE NARCISSIST is a discussion about how female Narcissists use their sexuality in the context of a relationship. Our special guest J.C. Dezmen of the YouTube channel ‘Love Over Narcissism’ shares his experience of some of the typical behaviors and tactics of a  female Narcissist partner. He also reveals his Top 3 Red Flags to help spot a female Narcissist.   Download your FREE copy of the 'Are You In An Abusive Relationship?' eBook when you enter your email at at https://bit.ly/30L89vJ
19:32
October 09, 2019