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Patterns of Possibility

Patterns of Possibility

By Coach Lee Hopkins

Coach Lee Hopkins is an expert in helping people build more fulfilling social connections in both their personal and professional lives. As a transgender man, he knows firsthand the difficulties that come with trying to make meaningful connections in today's world. But he doesn’t attribute his struggle to connect solely to his gender identity. He learned that by speaking from the heart and being true to himself, he could have meaningful conversations that lead to lasting friendships and more fulfilling relationships with others.

Listen as Coach Lee shares his life lessons and experiences.
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Interview #17 Beginning a pattern of having deeper conversations w/ Kevin Strauss

Patterns of PossibilityOct 04, 2022

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Are You Seeking Outside Validation?
May 07, 202424:54
No Future in Past Friendships
Apr 30, 202422:54
Don't Do Favors
Apr 23, 202422:29
How To Build Resentful Relationships
Apr 16, 202424:01
Meetup Mastery - 3 Tips To Connect
Apr 09, 202426:21
3 Kinds Of Friends That You Want To Ghost

3 Kinds Of Friends That You Want To Ghost

In this week's episode, I share why people are ghosting you.


👉🏽 Everything you need to create a more fulfilling social life is ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://linktr.ee/patternsofpossibility

  • Complimentary Meaningful Connections Workbook
  • Speed Friending (In Person)
  • Boundaries Blueprint Workshop and Workbook
  • & More...


Want me to answer your questions? Write me at patternsofpossibility@gmail.com

Apr 02, 202428:46
3 Things People Who Love Themselves Do

3 Things People Who Love Themselves Do

In this week's episode, I share 3 things that people who love themselves do.


👉🏽 Everything you need to create a more fulfilling social life is ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.

  • Complimentary Meaningful Connections Workbook
  • Speed Friending (In Person)
  • Boundaries Blueprint Workshop and Workbook
  • & More...


Want me to answer your questions? Write me at patternsofpossibility@gmail.com


Mar 26, 202421:45
They're Not Your Friends

They're Not Your Friends

In this week's episode, I share why you should stop classifying people your friends if they don't meet real friendship standards.


👉🏽 Everything you need to create a more fulfilling social life is ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.

  • Complimentary Meaningful Connections Workbook
  • Speed Friending (In Person)
  • Boundaries Blueprint Workshop and Workbook
  • & More...


Want me to answer your questions? Write me at patternsofpossibility@gmail.com

Mar 19, 202421:19
How Do You Know When To End The Friendship?
Mar 12, 202421:07
Don't Be The Therapist Friend
Mar 05, 202421:14
How I Found My Tribe
Feb 27, 202423:06
Lonely With Lots of Friends
Feb 20, 202420:19
Your Conversations Are Boring
Feb 13, 202423:50
Are You In A Toxic Friendship?
Feb 06, 202425:04
What It Really Means To Love Yourself First
Jan 30, 202426:40
How to Make Small Talk Into Big Talk

How to Make Small Talk Into Big Talk

In this week's episode, I share how to make Small Talk into Big Talk. I also answer the Reddit post "Why do people hate small talk?"

👉🏽 Everything you need to create a more fulfilling social life is ⁠here⁠.


Love Yourself First Conference: ⁠https://bit.ly/LYF2024⁠

Super secret podcast ticket promo: FRIEND15


Want me to answer your Reddit friendship question? Tag me in your post or email me.

Email: patternsofpossibility@gmail.com

Jan 23, 202427:35
Fine is a 4-Letter Word
Jan 16, 202421:24
Level Up Your Social Game In 2024

Level Up Your Social Game In 2024

In this week's episode, I give some tips to level up your social game in 2024. I also answer the Reddit post "Where to make friends?"

Become the best version of yourself at the Love Yourself First Conference 2024!


👉🏽 Everything you need to create a more fulfilling social life is here.

Want me to answer your Reddit friendship question? Tag me in your post or email me.

Email: patternsofpossibility@gmail.com

Jan 09, 202420:23
REWIND: Shadow Work

REWIND: Shadow Work

In this week's episode, return back to one of my most heartfelt and fun episode about my experience with depression. It's fun, I promise. Enjoy!

👉🏽 Everything you need to create a more fulfilling social life is here: ⁠https://linktr.ee/patternsofpossibility⁠.


Want me to answer your Reddit friendship question? Tag me in your post or email me.

Email: patternsofpossibility@gmail.com


Want a more fulfilling social life?

Apply for Social Connections Coaching and join the Patterns of Possibility community.

Click Here: https://s1pnko98o6r.typeform.com/to/Ttb5MnQh


Visit my website:

⁠⁠https://www.patternsofpossibility.com


Follow me on:

Facebook: https://fb.me/Patternsofpossibility

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Reddit: https://www.reddit.com/user/BrilliantNResilient

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Twitter: https://twitter.com/PatternsPossi

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCk_sXvnjqwhFlpI-NYV845g

Email: patternsofpossibility@gmail.com

Jan 02, 202420:38
A Powerful Technique To Deal With People Who Hold Grudges

A Powerful Technique To Deal With People Who Hold Grudges

In this week's episode, I share a powerful, yet difficult technique to connect with people who hold grudges against you. I also answer the Reddit post "How often do friends fight?"


👉🏽 Everything you need to create a more fulfilling social life is here: ⁠https://linktr.ee/patternsofpossibility⁠.


Want me to answer your Reddit friendship question? Tag me in your post or email me.

Email: patternsofpossibility@gmail.com


Want a more fulfilling social life?

Apply for Social Connections Coaching and join the Patterns of Possibility community.

Click Here: https://s1pnko98o6r.typeform.com/to/Ttb5MnQh


Visit my website:

⁠⁠https://www.patternsofpossibility.com


Follow me on:

Facebook: https://fb.me/Patternsofpossibility

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/patternsofpossibility

Reddit: https://www.reddit.com/user/BrilliantNResilient

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@patternsofpossibility

Twitter: https://twitter.com/PatternsPossi

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCk_sXvnjqwhFlpI-NYV845g

Email: patternsofpossibility@gmail.com

Dec 26, 202333:27
3 Daily Habits for Stronger Relationships

3 Daily Habits for Stronger Relationships

In this week's episode, I share three ways to strengthen your relationship with others. I also answer the Reddit post "What do you do if your friend takes more than 24 hours to respond to your text." 👉🏽 Everything you need to create a more fulfilling social life is here: ⁠https://linktr.ee/patternsofpossibility⁠.


Want me to answer your Reddit friendship question? Tag me in your post or email me.

Email: patternsofpossibility@gmail.com


Want a more fulfilling social life?

Apply for Social Connections Coaching and join the Patterns of Possibility community.

Click Here: https://s1pnko98o6r.typeform.com/to/Ttb5MnQh


Visit my website:

⁠⁠https://www.patternsofpossibility.com


Follow me on:

Facebook: https://fb.me/Patternsofpossibility

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/patternsofpossibility

Reddit: https://www.reddit.com/user/BrilliantNResilient

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@patternsofpossibility

Twitter: https://twitter.com/PatternsPossi

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCk_sXvnjqwhFlpI-NYV845g

Email: patternsofpossibility@gmail.com

Dec 19, 202323:25
Dealing with Fake Compliments
Dec 12, 202328:11
8 Toxic Friendships You Should Know
Dec 05, 202326:55
Best way to decide if you'll be vulnerable with someone.
Nov 28, 202322:15
Stop Being Nice! It's Hurting Your Relationships
Nov 21, 202322:51
When to Stop Investing in Your Friendship

When to Stop Investing in Your Friendship

Nov 14, 202324:39
3 Fundamentals of a Great Relationship
Nov 07, 202322:09
Don’t Care For Other’s Feelings... That’ Their Job!

Don’t Care For Other’s Feelings... That’ Their Job!

In this week's episode, I share how not caring about people's feelings hurt our relationships and how considering is more impowering. I also suggest how a Redditor can consider their close friends feelings when confronting an uncomfortable situation in the Reddit post "How to bring up an uncomfortable topic with a friend?"

Build better bonds with your family in time for the holidays. Take the ⁠⁠⁠Friends with Family Course⁠⁠⁠. Now through November 4, 2023.


Want a more fulfilling social life? Click⁠⁠⁠ ⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply for Social Connections Coaching and join the Patterns of Possibility community.


👉🏽 How strong are your social circles? Take the ⁠⁠⁠⁠quiz⁠⁠⁠⁠.


Want me to answer your Reddit friendship question? Tag me in your post or email me.


Visit my website:

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patternsofpossibility.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Follow me on:

Facebook:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://fb.me/Patternsofpossibility⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/patternsofpossibility⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Reddit:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.reddit.com/user/BrilliantNResilient⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

TikTok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@patternsofpossibility⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Twitter:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://twitter.com/PatternsPossi⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

YouTube:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCk_sXvnjqwhFlpI-NYV845g⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Email: patternsofpossibility@gmail.com

Oct 31, 202321:19
Tell Your Friends I Said It's Ok To Ghost
Oct 24, 202328:16
Do "The Work" & Heal Your Relationships
Oct 17, 202327:29
The problem with breaking generational patterns...
Oct 10, 202327:13
What kind of people do you attract?

What kind of people do you attract?

Oct 03, 202328:08
I didn’t expect this at the Meetup
Sep 26, 202324:33
What Should I Talk About?
Sep 19, 202325:04
Your Yearly Friendship Review
Sep 12, 202327:28
Lie to the people you don't like. Don't lie to your friends.
Sep 05, 202324:36
The Real You
Aug 29, 202323:54
3 Questions to Ask To Create Better Connections
Aug 22, 202324:17
When to let go of one-sided friendships
Aug 15, 202325:58
Be the friend you want to see in the world.
Aug 08, 202326:16
If you could change one thing your relationships would be better.
Aug 01, 202326:58
How to Turn Conflict Into Conversation
Jul 25, 202328:47
REWIND: All Fakes Are Not Fools and Other Things That Are True
Jul 18, 202329:55
How to Express Your Needs in Relationships
Jul 11, 202324:11
When their help hurts you…
Jul 04, 202321:23
Be Actively Chosen
Jun 27, 202323:23
5 Tips to Heal When a Friendship Ends

5 Tips to Heal When a Friendship Ends

In this week's episode, I share 5 practical tips to heal after a friendship ends. I answer the Reddit post, "Is it okay to end a friendship for any reason?"

👉🏽 How strong are your social circles? Take the quiz.

Want a more fulfilling social life?

Want me to answer your Reddit friendship question? Tag me in your post or email me.

Visit my website:

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patternsofpossibility.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Follow me on:

Facebook:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://fb.me/Patternsofpossibility⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/patternsofpossibility⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Reddit:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.reddit.com/user/BrilliantNResilient⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

TikTok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@patternsofpossibility⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Twitter:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://twitter.com/PatternsPossi⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

YouTube:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCk_sXvnjqwhFlpI-NYV845g⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Email: patternsofpossibility@gmail.com


Want me to answer your Reddit friendship question? Tag me in your post or email me.

Visit my website:

⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patternsofpossibility.com⁠⁠⁠

Follow me on:

Facebook:⁠⁠⁠ https://fb.me/Patternsofpossibility⁠⁠⁠

Instagram:⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/patternsofpossibility⁠⁠⁠

Reddit:⁠⁠⁠ https://www.reddit.com/user/BrilliantNResilient⁠⁠⁠

TikTok:⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@patternsofpossibility⁠⁠⁠

Twitter:⁠⁠⁠ https://twitter.com/PatternsPossi⁠⁠⁠

YouTube:⁠⁠⁠ https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCk_sXvnjqwhFlpI-NYV845g⁠⁠⁠

Email: patternsofpossibility@gmail.com

Jun 20, 202322:54
I'm at the Meetup, now what?

I'm at the Meetup, now what?

In this week's episode, I share what to do in places when the only purpose is to connect with others. I answer the Reddit post, "People generally hate me because I'm too honest."

👉🏽 How strong are your social circles? Take the quiz.


Want a more fulfilling social life?

Want me to answer your Reddit friendship question? Tag me in your post or email me.

Visit my website:

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patternsofpossibility.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Follow me on:

Facebook:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://fb.me/Patternsofpossibility⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/patternsofpossibility⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Reddit:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.reddit.com/user/BrilliantNResilient⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

TikTok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@patternsofpossibility⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Twitter:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://twitter.com/PatternsPossi⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

YouTube:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCk_sXvnjqwhFlpI-NYV845g⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Email: patternsofpossibility@gmail.com


Want me to answer your Reddit friendship question? Tag me in your post or email me.

Visit my website:

⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patternsofpossibility.com⁠⁠⁠

Follow me on:

Facebook:⁠⁠⁠ https://fb.me/Patternsofpossibility⁠⁠⁠

Instagram:⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/patternsofpossibility⁠⁠⁠

Reddit:⁠⁠⁠ https://www.reddit.com/user/BrilliantNResilient⁠⁠⁠

TikTok:⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@patternsofpossibility⁠⁠⁠

Twitter:⁠⁠⁠ https://twitter.com/PatternsPossi⁠⁠⁠

YouTube:⁠⁠⁠ https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCk_sXvnjqwhFlpI-NYV845g⁠⁠⁠

Email: patternsofpossibility@gmail.com

Jun 13, 202324:25
Being authentic is difficult but doable
Jun 06, 202325:43
Better Connections Start with Me
May 30, 202324:52