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Healing Courageously

Healing Courageously

By Randy L Boyd
We will be discussing topics surrounding recovery of addictions, abuse, and spirituality.Our goal is to encourage people to “Heal Courageously” and support them on their journey. Encouraging them to take the risk to do what they’ve always wanted to do yet were afraid to do. We will be delivering a strong message of hope and healing through interviews with professionals in the field and courageous stories from others who have Healed Courageously.
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The Power of Spiritual Abuse

Healing Courageously

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Healing Courageously

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Personal Communication
How good is your communication... in all your relationships? We will explore, practice, and develop skills that lead to effective communication. What is your body language, facial expressions, and tone of voice saying? Communication is more than speaking. More importantly, it is listening and hearing what is being said. Personal results from attending this workshop Communicate in a manner that prevents misunderstandings from occurring Find your voice—your voice does matter Gain the courage to stand up for yourself with love Be able to be honest & speak your truth with love Learn to ask for help Develop intuitive listening skills So much more—come and begin a new way of communicating with love within yourself, others, and family WORKSHOPS FACILITATED BY Pastors Randy & Cathy Boyd MORE INFORMATION Contact Allyssa: ATackman@courageoushealers.org UPCOMING WORKSHOPS IN THE 4-PART SERIES Journey to You October 16 , 2021  Secrets & Silence November 13, 2021 Forgiveness December 11th, 2021 WHO IS THIS WORKSHOP FOR? Anyone who would like to experience better communication skills. DATE & TIME September 11, 2021 9am – 4pm LOCATION 74040 El Paseo, Suite F Palm Desert, CA 92260 To Register go to: www.courageoushealers.org/workshops.html
37:37
August 30, 2021
Whatever is Hidden, Will Come to Light
Secrets and Lies are two things that will keep us in bondage. We hope no one will discover our secrets, yet it is inevitable that they will be exposed at some time in our life. Usually this will happen at the most inopportune times. We forget about the lies we have told in the past and eventually, we get caught telling a lie to cover up a lie we have been covering up in the past. It is a vicious circle with no good ending. What is hidden, WILL come to life. 
33:04
August 23, 2021
Child Abuse and the Bible
Growing up in a very toxic and abusive Christian home, I often times had scripture thrown at me in very inappropriate ways. We began walking with God in God in 2012 after a 38-year period of walking on the darkside, I decided I wanted to see what the bible had to say about abusing children. There are two very profound and direct scriptures that talk about the consequences of abusing children. On of the scriptures is found in Matthew, Luke, and Mark. The second scripture can be found in Colossians and Ephesians. In this episode I talk about these scriptures and how easily they can be disobeyed.
41:43
August 16, 2021
Child Abuse and the Bible - Part 1
Growing up in a very toxic and abusive Christian home, I often times had scripture thrown at me in very inappropriate ways. We began walking with God in God in 2012 after a 38-year period of walking on the darkside, I decided I wanted to see what the bible had to say about abusing children. There are two very profound and direct scriptures that talk about the consequences of abusing children. On of the scriptures is found in Matthew, Luke, and Mark. The second scripture can be found in Colossians and Ephesians. In this episode I talk about these scriptures and how easily they can be disobeyed. 
38:16
August 9, 2021
Death of the Old Self
We get a lot of payoff in our society for being inauthentic. We grew up learning how to pretend to be what we thought other people wanted us to be. We are taught that we receive love and approval from others based on how well we conform to what they want from us. The price tag for that kind of approval is far too high. We give up our own sense of self-worth when we change who we are in order to get someone else’s approval. You might be thinking, Naw, Randy, that’s not me. I’m not that guy. I’m not a fake. I didn’t think I was that guy, either. But as I delved deeper and deeper into personal growth, I realized that I was inauthentic most of the time.
20:14
August 2, 2021
Dating
After the excitement of the honeymoon wears off, it's easy to to get lost in the everyday grind of life. Climbing corporate ladders, getting kids to and from school, soccer games and dance recitals. Our partners no longer seem to be a priority and before you know it, your spouse is more like a roommate than a spouse. There is a easy solution, never stop dating it really is that simple. 
27:31
July 26, 2021
Childlike
Proverbs 22:6 says: “Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.” It is important to know that if you train up your child to act like a kid when matured, then that is what he/she will do. Conversely, if you train up your child to be a responsible adult and act like a responsible adult, then they will be and act responsible.
28:22
July 19, 2021
Belonging
Have you ever felt as though you do not belong here, as though you are alone? I did. My true sense of belonging happened when I found and was able to present my true authentic, imperfect selve to the world. My sense of belonging can never be greater than my level of self-acceptance, and neither can yours. 
30:20
July 12, 2021
Anger
Anger is a misperceived emotion. For many of us from a very young age, we are told that we should not be angry, we have no right to be angry. We shouldn't be angry with God, our parents, our pastor, our____________you fill in the blanks. The reality is that when we see a person blow up in "anger," it is actually rage, repressed, or unresolved anger. In this podcast we talk about anger and how it can be used in a healing way. 
19:27
July 6, 2021
Acts of Kindness
In a world that is so divided, so full of hate and unkindness, a little act of kindness can go a long way. Everybody is going through something, you are not alone. Acts of kindness do not have to be extravagant, grandiose, or expensive. Often times the simplest acts of kindness, such as a smile, a simple hello, or holding the door open for someone will turn a person's day around. I have found that when I am having a bad day, being kind to others is the best way to turn my day around. Try it sometime and see how your day will turn around. 
29:18
June 28, 2021
Acceptance vs Approval
Acceptance really is the answer to all our problems today. Until we can accept life completely on life's terms, not ours, we cannot truly be free or happy. We need to concentrate not so much on what needs to change in the world, but as on what needs to be changed in us and our attitudes. If we do not accept the things we cannot change, then we are fighting them. We are at war within our own mind. What are we fighting for, control over people, places, and things that you have not, nor will ever have control over. We must stop fighting everyone and everything. Remember, acceptance does not mean approval. 
22:26
June 15, 2021
The True Pandemic
With the COVID pandemic raging over the past year, there is another pandemic far worse, unseen, and not talked about. What is it? Mental health. With substance abuse, overdoses, suicides, depression, anxiety disorders and many more mental health issues increasing, it is the true pandemic we need to be not only worried about, but talking about. The CDC reported the highest number of U.S. overdose deaths "ever" in May 2020. Between May 2019 and May 2020 there were 81,000 drug overdoses just to mention one part of the real pandemic. Randy talks about others in this episode of Healing Courageously. 
42:06
June 7, 2021
Generational Curses & Blessings
Generational curses have a lot to do with who we have become today. Until we can recognize and confront these curses as they have shown up in our lives today, we cannot truly receive the blessings that God has in store for us. We are not what has happened to us or the labels that ourselves or others have put on us. We were born with an assignment from God put us. In order to fulfill that purpose, we must first become the person God intended us to be. 
36:57
May 31, 2021
Never Forgetting
To often and by well intentioned people, survivors of abuse and trauma are told they need to forgive, forget, and move on, or they are told to get over it, it is done and over with. These words need to be removed from the vocabulary of those using them. Yes we need to learn to forgive and we need to be able to move on. However, this is a process. Forgetting our past is actually not a good thing nor is it psychologically possible. However, we never want to dwell or stay stuck in the trauma of our past. This podcast talks about why we do not want to forget our past, instead we need to learn from our past 
40:13
May 17, 2021
The Lure of Temptation
Temptation is a desire to engage in short-term urges for enjoyment that threatens long-term goals. In the context of some religions, temptation is the inclination to sin.Temptation also describes the coaxing or inducing a person into committing such an act, by manipulation or otherwise of curiosity, desire or fear of loss something important to a person. Temptations have been around since the beginning of time. Adam and Eve were tested in the Garden of Eden and succumbed to that temptation. King David was tempted by Bathseba, succumbed to that temptation, and paid a heavy price. Jesus himself was tempted after spending forty days in the desert, only he defeated the devil at his game. I have even succumbed to temptation and paid some heavy prices. Succumbing to temptation is a choice. We can NEVER blame others for succumbing to our temptations. The decision lies squarely in or hands. In all temptations lets us consider not what he offers but what we shall loose. Episode analytics All time
42:17
April 19, 2021
Self-Sabotage vs Self-Belief
Are you always self-sabotaging yourself? Waiting for the other shoe to drop? Deep in your subconscious mind do you believe that you are not worthy of having a loving husband or wife? Do you doubt that you are worthy of love? If you do, you're not alone. Please hear me loud and clear, YOU ARE WORTHY OF ALL THE GOODNESS COMING YOUR WAY. I was once a master of self-sabotaging. Now I am on the road to to self-believing and it is easier than you might think. 
41:34
April 12, 2021
Call to Discipeship
What is discipleship? Do have fear around the idea of discipleship? Fear of being vulnerable and transparent with mentor or people you are discipling? You're not alone, it's natural. In this episode I talk with one of my mentees I have been discipling for over a year now. There are many ways that we can disciple others. Joins us as we discuss a few of these ways.  
44:04
April 5, 2021
The Mustard Seed
How is your faith walk? Do you have more doubt than faith? Do you say you have the faith of a mustard seed, yet in the back corner of your mind there is that mustard seed size doubt? Build your faith slowly. Believe for the small things first. Like the mustard seed or oak tree seed (acorn). It starts small and weathers the small storms first in order to be able to weather the large storms that lie ahead. What is the mountain you are facing. Give it to God having the faith that he will help you move it, then get busy doing your part. 
40:22
March 29, 2021
Miracles
Keep coming back until the Miracle Happens What kind of miracle are you looking for? The burning bush miracle, rising from the dead, terminal illness healed. Yes they do happen. However, few and far between apart. What about the small miracles that happen everyday. A baby being born, every breath you breath. The alcoholic or addict that never drinks again. The beauty of Gods Work in the artwork of his sunrises and sunsets. There are so many miracles that happen in our lives on a daily basis, yet many people never recognize or appreciate them. If you will just remain open minded and hearted, you too will start to see and appreciate the little miracles that are surrounding you everyday. KEEP COMING BACK UNTIL THE MIRACLE HAPPENS
35:09
March 22, 2021
Finding Your Bliss
What is bliss?  A state of supreme happiness; utter joy or contentment Most of us are so conditioned to follow our pleasure, or our responsibilities, that we have nearly forgotten that our bliss is what we are truly meant to find.
39:54
March 15, 2021
Whats Lurking Around Your Child - Part 2
In this 2 part series we will be focusing on SB-145, what it is, its contradictions, and it's deceptions. In this episode we will be focussing strictly on SB-145
44:05
March 8, 2021
The Importance of Fatherhood - Part 6
One of the biggest tragedies in today's world is boys growing up with absentee fathers. Fathers are to be role models, instill language, create believes,  transfer self-worth, provide standards for the types of friends sons should have, teach their boys how to treat women and so much more. Fathers also help their daughters develop their worth and teach them how they are to be treated by men. In this episode we will continue our  talk about -Generational Fathering
38:23
March 6, 2021
The Importance of Fatherhood - Part 5
One of the biggest tragedies in today's world is boys growing up with absentee fathers. Fathers are to be role models, instill language, create believes,  transfer self-worth, provide standards for the types of friends sons should have, teach their boys how to treat women and so much more. Fathers also help their daughters develop their worth and teach them how they are to be treated by men. In this episode we will continue our  talk about - How Fathers instill Self-Worth
40:25
March 4, 2021
Whats Lurking Around Your Child - Part 1
In this 2 part series we will be focusing on SB-145, what it is, its contradictions, and it's deceptions. In this episode we will be discussing some realities of sexual abuse and sex trafficking and how it ties into SB-145
44:18
March 1, 2021
The Importance of Fatherhood - Part 4
One of the biggest tragedies in today's world is boys growing up with absentee fathers. Fathers are to be role models, instill language, create believes,  transfer self-worth, provide standards for the types of friends sons should have, teach their boys how to treat women and so much more. Fathers also help their daughters develop their worth and teach them how they are to be treated by men.   In this episode we talk about - How Fathers instill Self-Worth
41:52
February 8, 2021
The Importance of Fatherhood - Part 3
One of the biggest tragedies in today's world is boys growing up with absentee fathers. Fathers are to be role models, instill language, create believes,  transfer self-worth, provide standards for the types of friends sons should have, teach their boys how to treat women and so much more. Fathers also help their daughters develop their worth and teach them how they are to be treated by men.  In this episode we talk about - The power of a father - How fathers instill behaviors and character in boys who become men - Ladies don't marry men, they marry histories - Fathers transfer Self-Worth
44:59
February 1, 2021
The Importance of Fatherhood - Part 2
One of the biggest tragedies in today's world is boys growing up with absentee fathers. Fathers are to be role models, instill language, create believes,  transfer self-worth, provide standards for the types of friends sons should have, teach their boys how to treat women and so much more. Fathers also help their daughters develop their worth and teach them how they are to be treated by men. In this four part series will look at how God fathered Jesus and how we in turn are to father our children. In this episode we will discuss: Qualities of a Good Father - Fathers Provide Character - Fathers Provide Language and Beliefs - Can You repeat what your father said, and much more. 
40:16
January 25, 2021
The Importance of Fatherhood - Part 1
One of the biggest tragedies in today's world is boys growing up with absentee fathers. Fathers are to be role models, instill language, create believes,  transfer self-worth, provide standards for the types of friends sons should have, teach their boys how to treat women and so much more. Fathers also help their daughters develop their worth and teach them how they are to be treated by men. In this four part series will look at how God fathered Jesus and how we in turn are to father our children. 
30:14
January 18, 2021
God in the "Christian" sense
I recently read a post on FaceBook from someone new in recovery that asked this question: What are some Higher Powers that you use other than God in the "Christian Sense?' It got me wondering about what has happened to people to make them believe that there is only  a God in a "Christian" sense. What have "people" done to turn people away from the one and only God. God Yaweh, God the Father. On this episode I dive into this topic with my good friend and fellow believer Albert.
33:58
December 11, 2020
You Say You Don't Believe in God
Are you a person that struggles believing there is a God that loves and cares for you? Do you believe that if there is a God, he forgot about you and has no time for you? I can relate as I was in those exact shoes fifteen years ago. However, today is different. 
41:50
September 14, 2020
The Silent Cancer
There is an pandemic not only in this country that throughout the world that no one wants to talk about. In fact most people act as though it never happens. If it happens in their family, to their son or daughter, more often than not they will blame it on them saying he/she must have asked for it. So what is this pandemic I am talking about? Sexual abuse of boys and girls. Statistically 1:3 girls will be sexually abuse before the age of 18 and that statistic stands firm. On the other hand the statistic for boys that have been sexually abused is all over the board. The statistic I use in my presentations is 1:4 boys will be sexually abused before the age of 18 (Lisa Project 2010). In many ways sexual abuse of children, of any gender, is like an out of control cancer, and like any cancer there is a treatment for it. However, before the treatment can begin we must acknowledge the fact that we do indeed have a cancer growing inside of us. Next lets look at some comparisons.
37:46
August 24, 2020
Two Sides of One Coin
“Everything belongs; God uses everything. There are no dead-ends. There is no wasted energy. Everything is recycled. Sin history and salvation are two sides of one coin” –Richard Rohr
42:57
August 6, 2020
Faith in the River
"Faith does not need to push the river precisely because it is able to trust that there is a river. The river is flowing; we are in it. The river is God’s providential love - so do not be afraid.” – Richard Rohr
44:56
July 30, 2020
Fear and Anxiety
In the atmosphere of todays world and times, fear and anxiety are on the uprise and rightfully so. It's okay to be fearful, let's just not live in fear. In this episode of Healing Courageously, I talk about how fear has existed even in some of he biggest biblical leaders and how we can learn to deal with our fear through some biblical principles. 
46:28
July 9, 2020
What Does the Bible Have to Say About Spanking?
There is much confusion and controversy around the subject of spanking our children especially in the realm of Christianity. Many parents believe that there is a biblical mandate that tells them they must spank their children or chance committing a sin by not not having control of their children. All to often parents take "spare the rod and spoil the child" literally. The truth is that by doing so they are miss understanding the true concept of the "rod."  In this episode your host explores this topic biblically and brings to light the reality of how the "rod" and scriptures are taken out of context in order to justify a parents abusive behaviors. He also brings to light scripture that are rarely if ever talked about regarding how God looks at parents who harm little ones. 
47:04
June 24, 2020
The Power of Spiritual Abuse
In order for abuse to happen, by definition, it has to come from a place of higher power to a place of lesser power. When someone perpetrates abuse from a position of power, the victim is vulnerable because, if he does not comply with the abuser’s demands, he fears that his spiritual and emotional needs, and perhaps even his basic survival needs, will not be met. If the victim is a child or adolescent, he is reliant on his parents to meet his basic survival needs, which include food, shelter, clothes, and love. A victim of simultaneous sexual and spiritual abuse feels that if he does not give his power over to the abusive spiritual leader, these basic survival needs will not be met. So, let’s always remember that spiritual “spiritual abuse is always a power issue.”
37:49
May 28, 2020
The Legacy of Spiritual Abuse
As a child abuse and neglect therapist, I do battle daily with Christians enamored of the Old Testament phrase “Spare the rod and spoil the child.” No matter how far I stretch my imagination, it does not stretch far enough to include the image of a cool dude like Jesus taking a rod to a kid. —Chris Crutcher In the same way that sexual abuse can be devastating because it leaves the child no safe physical space to go to heal from the trauma, spiritual abuse denies the victim any soul-based solace. On this episode we will be discussing what Spiritual abuse looks like, how it used, and the long term ramifications it1 is has the victims of said abuse. 
43:50
May 21, 2020
What is Spiritual Abuse
Many people resonate with the idea of spiritual abuse but have not had the chance to explore the parameters of this unique type of abuse. It is important to understand it, and to know its possible repercussions, so you can address the specific issues you might be dealing with.
40:34
May 18, 2020
Spiritual Abuse
Have you ever been or are you currently Spiritually confused. I know that growing up and into much of my adult life I was. I can only imaging that in todays times, many of you are spiritually confused. I know many survivors of abuse are very confused, Have you ever asked you questions similar to the ones listed below.  – Does God really exist?  – Is the Devil real?  – Is meditation a form of satanic worship?  – I yoga a form of satanic worship and a satanic belief?  These are questions I struggled with as a result of the spiritual abuse I endured growing up. What exactly is spiritual abuse: Abuse of any type occurs when someone has power over another and uses that power to hurt. Thus spiritual abuse happens when a leader with spiritual authority uses that authority to coerce, control, or exploit a follower, thus causing spiritual wounds. In this episode we will discuss in detail using real life examples of spiritual abuse, how it is manipulated and how it can effect our out look on the bible, church and God. 
38:38
May 6, 2020
A Radiator, Tree and a Rock…Not!
The founders of AA are likely rolling over in their graves today. Why? Because the God that most people in the rooms of A.A. understand today is more commonly referred to as a tree, stone, radiator, fan and so many other tangible items. This is not the God that Dr. Bob and Bill W. are talking about in Step 3. If you notice that God is spelled with a capital “G” which is referring to God the creator or Yahweh. Not the false god’s that are being referred to in the rooms of A.A. today as mentioned above. Even the “H” in Him is referring to God. This has always been something that stumped me. So, I decided to do a little research of my own. I was referred to the book titled “The James Club and The Original A.A. Programs Absolute Essentials,” – By: Bick B. This book answered all of my questions regarding the original intent of A.A.’s founders.
46:44
April 28, 2020
Healing Courageously Intro
We will be discussing topics surrounding recovery of addictions, abuse, and spirituality.Our goal is to encourage people to “Heal Courageously” and support them on their journey. Encouraging them to take the risk to do what they’ve always wanted to do yet were afraid to do. We will be delivering a strong message of hope and healing through interviews with professionals in the field and courageous stories from others who have Healed Courageously. 
01:34
April 23, 2020
Welcome to Healing Courageously
We will be discussing topics surrounding recovery of addictions, abuse, and spirituality.Our goal is to encourage people to “Heal Courageously” and support them on their journey. Encouraging them to take the risk to do what they’ve always wanted to do yet we're afraid to do. We will be delivering a strong message of hope and healing through interviews with professionals in the field and courageous stories from others who have Healed Courageously. 
01:34
April 22, 2020
Welcome to Healing Courageously
This is an introduction to the Healing Courageously podcast where we will be discussing topics surrounding recovery of addictions, abuse, and spirituality.Our goal is to encourage people to “Heal Courageously” and support them on their journey. Encouraging them to take the risk to do what they’ve always wanted to do yet are afraid to do. We will be delivering a strong message of hope and healing through interviews with professionals in the field and courageous stories from others who have Healed Courageously. 
01:34
April 11, 2020