Treasures For Trauma, Inc. (Beyond Childhood Abuse)

Hello everyone!! This is episode #10 and this the last episode for the season #1. I (Ranee) am taking a break from the podcast to take care of some other things regarding my journey to health and healing. Treasures For Trauma, Inc. will return after the first of the year (2021) with new ideas and topics. See you in 2021! Stay safe and be well.  -Ranee Jones 

Now... Let's Talk About Love For Survivors

Let's talk about being so hurt, confused, toxic, and angry... So, broken that we are only capable of hurting others as a safety guard to protect ourselves and to satisfy our skewed perspective about the opposite sex

Let's talk about how some of us were poison with malicious intentions for any romantic connections

Let's talk about how we afforded others chances to hurt us in relationships, because that's what we thought we had to accept to have and maintain romantic relationships

Let's talk about being so hurt and disappointed in the opposite sex that we quit on the possibilities of Love altogether

Let's talk about doing the hard work to get the rewards on our journeys to health and healing

Let's talk about the possibilities of allowing ourselves to become vulnerable

Let's talk about the possibilities of practicing gaining trust and at some point walking therein

Let's talk about the possibilities of affording another fallible human being the opportunity to misuse the power we would give them when we place our Love in their care to hurt us to our cores or Love us to life

Let's talk about not having superior-inferior romantic connections

Let's talk about how some of us simply could not and cannot attach ourselves to someone who does not see us as their equals

For me, playing house is not an option. You know...boy meets girl, and she suffers silently because she loses everything she ever was and hoped to be in that connection. For me, that would be simply trading one abuse/trauma to gain another. No thanks!

I would need the romantic connection to be two real people with a strong desire to work at open and great communication. This would have to be a real relationship of mature and mutual love, respect, and commitment.

I am in no rush (at all). Perhaps, in time God will say, “Yes and amen to the possibility of real love for me.” Although, I am opening up to the idea, no matter how things play out in the romance arena for me, I will continue preparing myself to be the best possible me I can be for God's purposes and for myself (because no matter where I go, I will always live with me - and as I progress I want very much to continue to like me).

Today, like never before, I am merely awakened and open to the plans God has for me – whatever they are.

See you inside. - Ranee  

Boundaries - Our Basic Instincts

Q.) What are Boundaries?

A.) Boundaries are parameters (even limits) we place on people to define what are acceptable and what are unacceptable behaviors from other people in our lives.  

To set boundaries is really like our basic instincts to keep people in perspective per our comfort zones.  We just over think it giving ourselves time to dread the disagreeable thoughts and responses of other people. 

Let's talk about setting and enforcing boundaries for self-protection against abuse.

Let' discuss the "push back" we will receive from other people, and how we should respond.

We will also talk about the "in your face" rejection of our efforts to set and enforce our boundaries, and what we can do in those cases.

Let's talk about the anger, resentment, bitterness, and unforgiveness we feel when we have not set boundaries and we allow other people to handle us with disregard and disrespect.

Join this compelling conversation! See you inside! - Ranee

Let's talk about how and why our pain has purpose. 

Let transparency have it's perfect work, as we talk about how pain from childhood trauma (or any trauma) has a far greater purpose than we may have considered.

Hear what answers I have discovered about my WHY's in reference to the pain I have endured for 41 years now due to the trauma of my past, as I share how an illuminating moment transformed my life. 

Today, I am happily experiencing revolutionary life changing liberation from old mind sets, the old conversations, the old behaviors, and old connections that only served to maintain my captivity. 

I have been hopefully awaited an opportunity to share with you my HOW and WHY I have been set free from the pain of my childhood trauma in hopes that my story will serve to free you in some fashion too. 

Be encouraged and inspired as we walk through my unmasked journey and share the story of how I managed to finally get free!

 See you inside.    - Ranee 

This episode helps answer the question for some of us (Survivors), "Why did or do we stay in abusive relationships that cause(d) us trauma, when we had/have the liberty to simply walk away?"  

I learned that "Trauma Bonding" is one very good answer to some of our "WHY's" in these cases.

These "toxic" relationships prevent us from simply saying "ENOUGH," and walking away. The abusers entangle us in their webs of manipulation and false promises to keep us reeled in and hooked on them like addicts who are dependent on highly addictive drugs.

I believe, our decision to stay was/is not just a mere matter of us being weak. It is a combination of factors that are internal. Therefore, we generally have no knowledge that these things are occurring inside of us. Therefore, we do not have a fair chance at ending these relationships (if, like me, that is what it comes to for you) before we have, otherwise, sustained a greater measure of undue psychological and perhaps physical damage had we been aware. 

Listen to hear more about our internal need for love, our seeking to find it in the wrong places and WHY we stay!

See ya inside.  - Ranee

This episode is a chilling story about Child Safety, and need to entrust others and verify their behaviors regarding care for our children. 

It is terribly disheartening to have to consider the horrific things some people will do to other human beings. 

The the only thing I can find to highlight in this story is the fact that I am retelling it to increase awareness and prevention of child abuse. 

In the words of Former US President Ronald Reagan we should always, "Trust but verify." This is a quote we can use for just about anything including in life the welfare of our children. 

Thank you for joining me! 

This episode discusses some reason survivors find it hard to begin the healing process. 

Such as...

We are accustomed to being silent and powerless

We do not have all of the background details/understanding about our truths to move forward toward resolve and liberty

We make others feel uncomfortable  

We remain connected to our abusers 

Child abuse is a problem for people of all walks of life (no exclusions), but nobody wants to hear or talk about it 

 Season 1, Episode 4

This episode is about the survivor making the toughest decision ever to attain freedom from demons of their traumatic past and move forward.

She is an example of how making tough life choices is not for the immature or the faint. 

She is an example of how we are strong because we afford ourselves opportunity to search, discover, and feel what is true and good for us.   

She is an example of how we make the hard decisions that afford ourselves room to grow and thrive. 

She is an example of how we are stronger than we know!

The Survivor Battles Becoming The Abusive Parent

Survivor had a community to rally around her in support of gaining her improved quality of life and self development.

The inner struggles of the survivor to avoid personally displaying behaviors she learned from her abusers.

How the survivor realized she needed to make some inner changes and attain professional assistance to achieve her goals. 

Survivor loved her children enough to do the work to become a better person. 

Survivor overcame the desire and practice of using abusive behaviors. This is her WIN - Her VICTORY over childhood trauma!!!

NOTE: THIS SHOW IS BASED ON HYPOTHETICAL SCENARIOS AND RECOUNTED DETAILS OF REAL LIFE STORIES. NO PROFESSIONAL ADVICE IS PROVIDED. 

As parents, what would we do when we realize our child has experienced abuse?

What might be the response of a parent after discovering their child has been the victim of abuse? And Why?

How might the abuse affect the whole family (parents and the other children)? 

What family dynamics might need to change once the abuse is discovered? And why?

How might we (victim and family) move forward after this infiltration or invasion of our family?  

Being open and tactfully honest with each other. Listening to one another. Communication would be vital!  

I would not try to always be right. I would encourage us all to work together to find a remedy for each issue for our good.

Rebounding wouldn't be easy. Every family member would have to pull his/her weight if the end-game-goal is one unified, whole, thriving family.

Let's talk about it!

Let's talk about how and why Treasures For Trauma, Inc. (TFT) came into existence  

Let's talk about the purpose of Treasure For Trauma, Inc. 

Let's talk about how TFT will operate. What kind of shows will we produce 

Let's talk about what I call "Survivorship" 

Let's talk about the "Survivorship" of Ranee Jones in storytelling form 

Note: Hope is endless for you and me 

"Together, let's build a strong community, a strong voice, and a strong case that effects positive change in the world"