Hope Beyond Trauma Podcast
By Rhoda Hostetler
We talk about trauma, faith, healing, individual beliefs, community beliefs, resilience, relationships after trauma, practical steps to overcoming specific difficulties, and more. This podcast is designed to host a conversation between trauma survivors and the Christian community. Trauma comes from a variety of sources and presents immense challenges but God is present in our stories--even the horrific parts.
The episode where I say Goodbye
In this episode, I look at some lessons learned along the way, some behind-the-scenes, and my reasons for stopping the podcast.
June 30, 2022
I have matured and grown in my views of forgiveness, so I wanted to re-address the topic before I close the podcast. How does Scripture define it? How is it portrayed? Does it mean we take the relational hit for the sake of taking the hit?
June 16, 2022
Champion of Human Dignity: William Wilberforce
"You may choose to look the other way, but you can never say again that you did not know." What were some of the experiences and beliefs that shaped Wilberforce's success as an abolitionist?
June 02, 2022
Psalm 6 Amplified: A Psalm for those in deep grief
Excellent for those whose bodies and minds are showing the strain of grief and/or anxiety.
May 19, 2022
Pornography: An episode for those filmed, those who consume, and betrayed partners. Explicit.
This episode is explicit and is not intended for minors. I speak to the connection between pornography and sex trafficking. Porn use has never been my battle, and I have never been married to an addict, so I reached out to two people who could speak into those aspects of the porn topic. Sarah McDugal speaks to betrayed partners. Find her work here: https://www.wildernesstowild.com/ or traumamamas.app/get. Andrew J. Bauman speaks to those (especially men) who consume. Find his work here: andrewjbauman.com or christiancc.org Books mentioned in the course of the hour were the following: Your Sexually Addicted Spouse, by Steffens & Mean How Not to be an *ss, by Bauman The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex, by Gregoire & Gregoire Leaders Eat Last, by Sinek Leading with a Limp, by Allender Try Softer, by Kolber
May 05, 2022
Engaging Church While Healing from Severe Church Pain, Pt. 2
How do you find truth? Related, but slightly different: how do you build healthy theology? How do I personally filter out theology or advocacy found online? How do you recognize healthy, unhealthy, or Pharisaical churches? What can I tell you about finding a healthy church, or dealing with anger or fear in regards to church?
April 21, 2022
Engaging Church While Healing from Severe Church Pain, Part 1 of 2
This is, by far, the most common topic behind the questions I received from audience members. Who is God? Is there room in the church for the broken? How does one not give up on American Christianity? How do we identify and relate to other believers after experiencing violence within religion?
April 07, 2022
Champion of Human Dignity: Harriet Tubman
I relied heavily on the biography, Harriet Tubman: Imagining a Life, by author Beverly Lowry.
March 24, 2022
Psalm 5 AMP
If you want to read along, I use the Amplified version.
March 10, 2022
Interview with Rebecca Davis
Find Rebecca's work at https://heresthejoy.com/, or order the first of her Untwisting Scriptures books here: Untwisting Scriptures: that were used to tie you up, gag you, and tangle your mind https://www.amazon.com/dp/0998198102/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_DX5XKQXEV8S07EA0QF6M
February 24, 2022
Relaunching: the re-introductory episode
A brief introduction of myself and the podcast. #churchtoo #trauma #religioustrauma #recover #heal #grow #mature
February 10, 2022
My experience & views on doubt
When people (image-bearers of God) are unfaithful, cruel, or absent, it can begin to feel as if God Himself is that way. I don't know everything there is to know about doubt, but if you are struggling with it (as I have!), this might be a gentle discussion that you find refreshing.
October 29, 2020
Marc's Story: Interview with Marc Masoner
A story of what happens when people professing to love God abuse a child--and what happens when God meets you at the bottom of your spiral. Rated explicit. Marc has specifically requested no solicitation for anything related to his past as a pornography performer. Any and all solicitation is unwanted and will be considered harassment.
October 22, 2020
Domestic Violence: Interview with Rosanna Brubacker
What are the common signs? What can an observer do? What are some common myths? Marked "Explicit" for a brief description of marital rape.
October 15, 2020
Coping vs. Rebuilding: A Review of Literature
Referenced study: Kinney, A. R., Graham, J. E., & Eakman, A. M. (2020). Participation Is Associated With Well-Being Among Community-Based Veterans: An Investigation of Coping Ability, Meaningful Activity, and Social Support as Mediating Mechanisms. American Journal of Occupational Therapy, 74(5). doi:10.5014/ajot.2020.037119 Link: https://ajot.aota.org/article.aspx?articleid=2766482
October 08, 2020
Parenting after trauma: an Interview
How can we raise our children well when our own histories are full of pain? Some long-time friends of mine share their story and wisdom.
October 01, 2020
Forgiveness Cliches Held Against Bible Stories
How many of these cliches have you heard? "Forgiveness brings healing." "Forgiveness brings restoration." "Forgiveness causes the other to come to repentance." "Forgiveness unlocks a cage, only you find that you are setting yourself free." How do these cliches stack up against Scripture? Hopefully, this will help church people who haven't been through a violent crime to be more truthful and gracious about the messy realities of our favorite forgiveness stories, and it will help survivors to confidently walk through the grief, lament, and legal process without trying to live up to false non-ideals.
September 24, 2020
Trauma and Marriage: Interview with Dale and Faith Ingraham
How do trauma and recovery impact marriage? What should the spouse of a survivor know or do? What can a survivor do to address their trauma so that it doesn't harm the marriage? What separates trauma-background marriages that make it from those that don't?
September 10, 2020
Secondary Victimization: Interview #2 with Jimmy Hinton
It is not an abuser and a victim in a bubble; there are people around the abuser, and people around the victim, who also get hurt in the process of abuse. What should we know about secondary victims? What resources are out there? Why do religious cliches fall flat?
September 03, 2020
Church, Abuse, Leadership, and Wisdom in the Face of the Unthinkable: Interview #1 with Jimmy Hinton
What would you do if your father, your church's former pastor, was found out to have sexually molested children for over 40 years? What would you do if you were the church's only leader, and had been in leadership for only two years? This is one man's story. It is a grueling story of unusual wisdom in the face of immense pain.
August 27, 2020
Part 2: Rest--practical tips
In this episode, I address how to experience spiritual restfulness, physical rest, emotional rest, and mental rest. Be comfortable saying, "no," to good busy-ness in favor of high-quality productivity and high-quality rest. You were made for more than the rat race and perpetual restlessness.
August 20, 2020
Part 1: Response to Listener Q on rest
"I’m on a search for why the sabbath is such a big deal in the bible. My intuition says there’s a link between this and trauma and healing from trauma. Have any of you studied into this?" --Listener question on the Hope Beyond Trauma podcast group on Facebook. I didn't find any research on Sabbath and trauma, but we do know that “In returning and rest you shall be saved; in quietness and in trust shall be your strength.” Rest is necessary! In this episode, I discuss why the need for rest is amplified for trauma survivors, what the Sabbath is, and what rest is not. References Hughes, J. W., Dennis, M. F., & Beckham, J. C. (2007, October 22). Baroreceptor sensitivity at rest and during stress in women with posttraumatic stress disorder or major depressive disorder. https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1002/jts.20285. ScienceDaily. Parasympathetic nervous system. ScienceDaily. https://www.sciencedaily.com/terms/parasympathetic_nervous_system.htm.
August 13, 2020
Is Healing Possible? What does it look like?
Our view of this has an impact on how we as a community respond to survivors--and that, in turn, has an impact on how they recover. I explain this. I also ask church people some difficult questions. Click "support this show" to bring more episodes like this, and more interviews! References Christine E. Agaibi, J. (n.d.). Trauma, PTSD, and Resilience: A Review of the Literature - Christine E. Agaibi, John P. Wilson, 2005. Retrieved August 01, 2020, from https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/1524838005277438 Wilson, J. (1970, January 01). The Lens of Culture: Theoretical and Conceptual Perspectives in the Assessment of Psychological Trauma and PTSD. Retrieved August 01, 2020, from https://link.springer.com/chapter/10.1007/978-0-387-70990-1_1
August 06, 2020
Grief, Lament, and the Psalms: Interview #2 with Jonathan Trotter
This episode is more in-depth than the previous episode. Jonathan gives practical wisdom here. Here's a link he recommends: https://www.alifeoverseas.com/when-the-thief-steals/?fbclid=IwAR1jlSiMruja8nNSJ1meNkYgdoPlM64v34OGMHPYIpurDZwt5uGw6JMMOaM If you've benefited from this, and wish to hear more episodes like this, click the "Support this show" button. Many, many thanks!
July 30, 2020
Grief, Lament, and the Psalms: Interview #1 with Jonathan Trotter
This is the first interview in a two-part series. What are the stages of grief? What should survivors know about grief? What's a five-minute test you can give your church to see how comfortable they are in walking through the difficult emotions associated with trauma? Jonathan is conversant in this subject, and you will benefit from his wisdom. Here's a link he mentions: https://www.alifeoverseas.com/an-empty-ocean-and-the-10-things-we-must-remember-about-grief/
July 23, 2020
Tell Me The Old, Old Story: the Gospel as it speaks both to guilt and to shame
If you've never heard the Gospel told through the lens of an honor/shame worldview, do yourself a favor and listen. For further study, I recommend http://honorshame.com/. If you've benefited from this, and wish to hear more episodes like this, click the "Support this show" button. Many, many thanks!
July 16, 2020
Terms and Conditions
ACEs questionnaire, PTSD, C-PTSD, PISD, RAD, and vicarious trauma; a little bit of knowledge of these terms can help you more accurately understand the people in your life who are hurting. In order to keep this under 30 minutes, I did not elaborate excessively on any of them. So much could be said about each term's history and research. This is an overview episode. If this episode intrigues you, and you want to study for yourself, I recommend that you start with the 2002 work by Dr. Felittle, referenced third in the list below. This episode is marked "explicit" for discussion of violent crimes. If you've benefited from this, and wish to hear more episodes like this, click the "Support this show" button. Many, many thanks! References Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. (2020, April 13). About the CDC-Kaiser ACE Study |Violence Prevention|Injury Center|CDC. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. https://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/acestudy/about.html?CDC_AA_refVal=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.cdc.gov%2Fviolenceprevention%2Fchildabuseandneglect%2Facestudy%2Findex.html. Felitti, V. J., Anda, R. F., Nordenberg, D., Williamson, D. F., Spitz, A. M., Edwards, V., … Marks, J. S. (1998, July 21). Relationship of Childhood Abuse and Household Dysfunction to Many of the Leading Causes of Death in Adults: The Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE) Study. American Journal of Preventive Medicine. https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0749379798000178. Felitti, V. J. (2002). The Relation Between Adverse Childhood Experiences and Adult Health: Turning Gold into Lead. The Permanente journal. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6220625/. Jenkins, S. R., & Baird, S. (2005, June 30). Secondary traumatic stress and vicarious trauma: A validational study. Wiley Online Library. https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1023/A:1020193526843. Louw, D. (2015). Scientific Electronic Library Online. SciELO. http://www.scielo.org.za/scielo.php?pid=S0259-94222015000300022. Mayo Foundation for Medical Education and Research. (2018, July 6). Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). Mayo Clinic. https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/post-traumatic-stress-disorder/symptoms-causes/syc-20355967. MM. Richters, F. R. V., B. Tizard, J. H., B. Tizard, J. R., Spitz, R. R., Goldfarb, W., Minde, K., … A. Greig, D. H. (1994, January 1). Reactive attachment disorder-a theoretical model beyond attachment. https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s00787-006-0539-2.
July 09, 2020
Reporting a Crime: Interview with Hope Anne Dueck
Why is reporting important? Why do some victims never report? What can the friends, family, and church of victims do to assist in the reporting process? What about the Statute of Limitations in historical cases? Does a victim who no longer lives near the location of the crime need to physically go into the police station to report, or can they make a phone call? What can the family of a child victim expect? In some states, mandatory reporters have 24 hours to report a crime. Given that we live in the age of the internet, it is unwise to delay, using the full 24 hours. Why? **Content labeled as 'explicit' due to discussions surrounding the topic of child sex abuse. If you've benefited from this, and wish to hear more episodes like this, click the "Support this show" button. Many, many thanks!
July 02, 2020