Couples Therapy: Real Conversations for Fulfilling Lives & Relationships

We have talked a lot on our show about mental health and our various struggles with ensuring we take care of our own. And in this, Mental Health Awareness Month, Richard talks to Steve about how his mental health has impacted his life and his career; and he gives advice on how friends and significant others can support those going through mental illnesses.  Resources:  https://www.nami.org/Support-Education https://www.mentalhealth.gov/get-help/immediate-help https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/ Note: If you want to talk, feel free to send us a message on any of our social platforms - we are happy to listen. Sponsor: Alzheimer's Bike Ride: https://act.alz.org/site/TR/LongestDay2021/TheLongestDay?team_id=657032&pg=team&fr_id=14244 Follow us for more: http://twitter.com/richardandsteve and http://instagram.com/richardandsteve

This episode, we cover the tough topic of abuse. Prior to meeting each other, we both experienced various types of abuse. We focus mostly on Richard's experience with emotional abuse; how it happened, how he recognized it, and how it still impacts him today.  Note: If you want to talk, feel free to send us a message on any of our social platforms - we are happy to listen.  Sponsor: Alzheimer's Bike Ride: https://act.alz.org/site/TR/LongestDay2021/TheLongestDay?team_id=657032&pg=team&fr_id=14244 Follow us for more: http://twitter.com/richardandsteve and http://instagram.com/richardandsteve

It's the start of our third season! Steve sits down and talks about his experiences in being laid off twice in nine years and provides some advice for the person on the other end of the termination.  Follow us for more: http://twitter.com/richardandsteve and http://instagram.com/richardandsteve

As if dehydration wasn't enough, we now have kidney stones. And a dog on drugs. What a 2021 so far! Join us for the final episode of Fuck is Our Mantra before we kick off a new journey in two weeks!  http://instagram.com/richardandsteve http://twitter.com/richardandsteve

Sorry for missing last week's episode, but we have a good reason: Food poisoning! And Richard learns a bit of a lesson about grocery shopping.  Referenced Episode: Who ate the last of the Doritos? https://anchor.fm/richard-and-steve/episodes/Who-ate-the-last-of-the-Doritos-e3hku8  http://instagram.com/richardandsteve http://twitter.com/richardandsteve

Remember that sound? "You've Got Mail." We recently landed on it while Hulu-browsing and reminisced about the joy we had living in New York City. Go down a quick trip down memory land with us. http://instagram.com/richardandsteve http://twitter.com/richardandsteve

It's been a bit of a challenging few weeks in our house, but with some good news to share, we wanted to dive into one of the key elements we dove into the last week: Comfort. And it's impact on our lives. Curious to your own thoughts ... hit us up on Instagram or Twitter!  http://instagram.com/richardandsteve http://twitter.com/richardandsteve

We have made no secret of our personal challenges (adoption, death, stress) and this conversation is all about how we have handled these challenges and obstacles in our lives and how we support each other in our own journeys.  Sponsor: Bruck and Co. - Go to http://bruckandco.com and use code MANTRA for 10% off your purchase!  http://instagram.com/richardandsteve http://twitter.com/richardandsteve

We had quite a 2020: COVID, new job, George Strait, and Mexico! We relive all that was 2020! What are your favorite / not-so-favorite memories in 2020. Tell us on Instagram or Twitter!  http://instagram.com/richardandsteve  http://twitter.com/richardandsteve

We feel like we have been saying it a lot ... but it's been a week. And this week more than others is full of fucks. We cover the experience of January 6, 2021; how we felt, and how we plan to go forward. Thank you all for listening, we love you.  Support DC: https://www.gofundme.com/f/ongoing-mutual-aid-for-dc-frontlines Follow Us:  http://instagram.com/richardandsteve  http://twitter.com/richardandsteve

MERRY CHRISTMAS! We hope you and your family are filled with all the love and joy today. We love you all! Enjoy our Christmas-day episode! We talk great and weird traditions. :)  If you have more questions send us a message on social media (and your baking questions!): http://instagram.com/richardandsteve or http://twitter.com/richardandsteve and you can learn more about Richard here: http://richarddedor.com.

Richard has started to wonder: Why all the hate on eggnog? The holidays are all about coming together so we talk about all the sweets and treats that bring us together!  If you have more questions send us a message on social media (and your baking questions!): http://instagram.com/richardandsteve or http://twitter.com/richardandsteve and you can learn more about Richard here: http://richarddedor.com.

Three fucks of the week (our gift to you!) and a trip down memory lane on the best presents we got as kids! Also, an adoption re-hash and a wish for you all.  Richard's Speech Referenced: https://anchor.fm/richard-and-steve/episodes/We-have-a-fucking-one-year-old-plus-bonus-content-eb9mf2 Link to The Christmas House: https://www.hallmarkchannel.com/the-christmas-house  Sponsor: Use code MANTRA at BruckandCo.com for 10% off your purchase. If you have more questions send us a message on social media: http://instagram.com/richardandsteve or http://twitter.com/richardandsteve and you can learn more about Richard here: http://richarddedor.com.

In a year that has been ... different to say the least ... we take a moment to share one thing we are thankful for in the year that has been 2020. An uplifting quick pod for you as you enter the weekend.

We have arrived at the end of the long campaign. It seems like the Iowa Caucus' were forever ago! But, here we are. We sit down and answer listener questions and talk about our hopes for the future.  Sponsor: Use code MANTRA at BruckandCo.com for 10% off your purchase. If you have more questions send us a message on social media: http://instagram.com/richardandsteve or http://www.twitter.com/richardandsteve
 and you can learn more about Richard here: http://richarddedor.com.

We take some Q & A time and one of the questions goes pretty deep on some scares we both carry with us. In the end, we have a simple goal for the rest of the year you're not going to want to miss.  Use code MANTRA at BruckandCo.com for 10% off your purchase. If you have more questions send us a message on social media: http://instagram.com/richardandsteve or http://www.twitter.com/richardandsteve
 and you can learn more about Richard here: http://richarddedor.com.

We are back from vacation ... we were rested for a few days, then Kennedy decided to cut a new tooth. No bueno! But, we are finally in fall and excited for what's ahead!  Use code MANTRA at BruckandCo.com for 10% off your purchase. If you have more questions send us a message on social media: http://instagram.com/richardandsteve or http://www.twitter.com/richardandsteve
 and you can learn more about Richard here: http://richarddedor.com.

After five years of marriage (8 total together), things get a little real. LOL! It's been a funny week in our house ... we cover that and take a trip down lover's lane with a look back at our wedding and reception from five years ago.

What a two weeks it has been! Our "fuck of the week" kicks us off on the most positive of notes and we keep the theme going, covering how we are managing to maintain positivity in our lives in a BLM, COVID, and political downpour-world. Hug your friends, friends. Use code MANTRA at BruckandCo.com for 10% off your purchase. Find us online: http://instagram.com/richardandsteve & http://www.twitter.com/richardandsteve

Sorry for the delay ... that's what happens when you turn 37 (hint: Steve) and then get sick. But that's two negative COVID-19 tests out of the three of us. We catch you up on everything and talk about some random but fun things we want to do. Enjoy! Follow our friends Graham & Bradlee: http://instagram.com/grahamary and http://instagram.com/bradleeharderaychuk Support the Alzheimer's Association: https://act.alz.org/site/TR/Walk2020/IA-Iowa?px=10459621&pg=personal&fr_id=13399 If you have more questions send us a message on social media: http://instagram.com/richardandsteve or http://www.twitter.com/richardandsteve
 and you can learn more about Richard here: http://richarddedor.com.

A combined "Fuck of the Week" is how bad it was for us. And how does McDonald's run out of soda at 3.45am!? And we have our second murder on the show ... And it's also true.  Support the Alzheimer's Association: https://act.alz.org/site/TR/Walk2020/IA-Iowa?px=10459621&pg=personal&fr_id=13399 Use code MANTRA at BruckandCo.com for 10% off your purchase. The Case of the Murdered Squirrels: https://fuckisourmantrapodcast.wordpress.com/2020/04/07/episode-7-the-case-of-the-murdered-squirrels/:  If you have more questions send us a message on social media: http://instagram.com/richardandsteve or http://twitter.com/fuckisourmantra
 and you can learn more about Richard here: http://richarddedor.com.

A curious question from Steve as Kennedy starts to wear nail polish: Can a guy wear nail polish? The poll results were a bit interesting, but it got us both thinking about normalizing behavior and how empowering that can be for us all. Curious to your thoughts ...  Support the Alzheimer's Association: https://act.alz.org/site/TR/Walk2020/IA-Iowa?px=10459621&pg=personal&fr_id=13399 Use code MANTRA at BruckandCo.com for 10% off your purchase. If you have more questions send us a message on social media: http://instagram.com/richardandsteve or http://www.twitter.com/richardandsteve
 and you can learn more about Richard here: http://richarddedor.com.

We are halfway through 2020, six months to Christmas, and still basically in quarantine. What's next? We talk about health, the state of our world, and how we can make it better. Inspired by Switchfoot. :)  Support the Alzheimer's Association: https://act.alz.org/site/TR/Walk2020/IA-Iowa?px=10459621&pg=personal&fr_id=13399 Use code MANTRA at BruckandCo.com for 10% off your purchase. If you have more questions send us a message on social media: http://instagram.com/richardandsteve or http://www.twitter.com/richardandsteve
 and you can learn more about Richard here: http://richarddedor.com.

It has been a challenging 2020; now we are dealing with the reality of racial inequality across the country. We are finally being forced to have difficult and truthful conversations about race in this country. We decided to have a conversation of our own about #BlackLivesMatter and are listening to the truths about our current society. We are here to listen ... send us a message!  Support the Alzheimer's Association: https://act.alz.org/site/TR/Walk2020/IA-Iowa?px=10459621&pg=personal&fr_id=13399 Use code MANTRA at BruckandCo.com for 10% off your purchase. If you have more questions send us a message on social media: http://instagram.com/richardandsteve or http://www.twitter.com/richardandsteve
 and you can learn more about Richard here: http://richarddedor.com.

It's gonna be ... June? Instead of us coming up with the questions, we took a few from a recent New York Times article, inspired by Story Corps, and asked each other three questions designed to get to know each other. It was a fun, and quick look at some decently heavy questions. Oh, and we are preparing to celebrate an anniversary in the midst of COVID. Support the Alzheimer's Association: https://act.alz.org/site/TR/Walk2020/IA-Iowa?px=10459621&pg=personal&fr_id=13399 Use code MANTRA at BruckandCo.com for 10% off your purchase. If you have more questions send us a message on social media: http://instagram.com/richardandsteve or http://www.twitter.com/richardandsteve
 and you can learn more about Richard here: http://richarddedor.com.

We've always known we are special ... but our love of the movie Twister is second-to-none. Go with on a trip down memory lane and relive our favorite moments and some back stories along the way!  Use code MANTRA at BruckandCo.com for 10% off your purchase. Watch the Fuck of the Week on YouTube: https://youtu.be/MPd99yWBi8I If you have more questions send us a message on social media: http://instagram.com/richardandsteve or http://www.twitter.com/richardandsteve and you can learn more about Richard here: http://richarddedor.com.

In these times, many people have started to "side hustle." Richard has been doing it off and on for years, and Steve just started a new one! It's all about balance and passion. Take a look inside our crazy lives.  Use code MANTRA at BruckandCo.com for 10% off your purchase. Support the Alzheimer's Association: https://act.alz.org/site/TR/Walk2020/IA-Iowa?px=10459621&pg=personal&fr_id=13399 Watch the Fuck of the Week on YouTube: https://youtu.be/MPd99yWBi8I If you have more questions send us a message on social media: http://instagram.com/richardandsteve or http://www.twitter.com/richardandsteve and you can learn more about Richard here: http://richarddedor.com.

50 years after Apollo 13, we should talking about discovery, and failure was an apt topic. Steve is the space / science geek of the family and Richard loves it because even if he doesn't "get" science, he loves discovery. Come along for the ride!  Use code MANTRA at BruckandCo.com for 10% off your purchase. Bruck & Co.  Instagram: http://instagram.com/bruckandco Twitter: http://twitter.com/bruckandco Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Bruck-Co-100153808317819/ Apollo 13 Podcast: https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/w13xttx2/episodes/downloads  The Universe on Netflix: https://www.netflix.com/title/70143831?s=i&trkid=13747225 Cosmos on Amazon Prime: https://www.amazon.com/gp/video/detail/B00IJL0CB4/ref=share_ios_season  Watch the Fuck of the Week on YouTube: https://youtu.be/mG7PjC59bdA If you have more questions send us a message on social media: http://instagram.com/richardandsteve or http://www.twitter.com/richardandsteve
 and you can learn more about Richard here: http://richarddedor.com.

We weren't cancelled after our first season! So we decided to celebrate by re-living some of our favorites of the past year; and even some of the downtimes. We talk cookie wars, Semper Fi, and a killer re-finance.  Oh, and check in on each other. We are all in this together. Use code MANTRA at BruckandCo.com for 10% off your purchase. If you have more questions send us a message on social media: http://instagram.com/richardandsteve or http://www.twitter.com/richardandsteve
 and you can learn more about Richard here: http://richarddedor.com.

This is a preview episode for the upcoming podcast series, Live it Well, hosted by Richard Dedor. This preview is with Nick McCarvel who will be the season's opening guest! Subscribe wherever you listen: https://anchor.fm/liveitwellpodcast Follow Online: http://instagram.com/LiveItWellPodcast Host: Richard Dedor (richarddedor.com & http://instagram.com/richarddedor) Music: Ukulele Fun  by Rafael Krux Link: https://filmmusic.io/song/5441-ukulele-fun- License: http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

With all the COVID-19 news and social-distancing, we decided this podcast would be funny (and hopefully less serious). So, we each asked the other five fun and random questions. Enjoy!  Oh, and check in on each other. We are all in this together.  Use code MANTRA at BruckandCo.com for 10% off your purchase. If you have more questions send us a message on social media: http://instagram.com/richardandsteve or http://www.twitter.com/richardandsteve
 and you can learn more about Richard here: http://richarddedor.com. If you want to watch this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/FHcU4yPc52c

What a year. Over the past two weeks we watched Mayor Pete drop out of the race and our daughter turned one. ONE. Fuck. It's real. As a special bonus, we have a quick Q&A and the full audio of Richard's speech from the Des Moines Register's Storytellers event at Hoyt Sherman Place!  Use code MANTRA at BruckandCo.com for 10% off your purchase. If you have more questions send us a message on social media: http://instagram.com/richardandsteve or http://www.twitter.com/richardandsteve
 and you can learn more about Richard here: http://richarddedor.com. You can also watch the bonus content on YouTube: https://youtu.be/n_HpNp4LgO0

As Kennedy nears her first birthday, we thought it might be fun (and rather reflective) to look back on things we wish we had known when she was born. Trust us, this is f-cking funny and real as hell.  If you have more questions send us a message on social media: http://instagram.com/richardandsteve or http://www.twitter.com/richardandsteve
 and you can learn more about Richard here: http://richarddedor.com.

With a house of sick people, we are sharing this preview of Season 2 of Gen2Gen: Love is in the Air.  P.S. Happy Valentine's Day Subscribe here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/live-it-well-with-richard-dedor/id1476389491

Two marketers are married. What do they talk about at dinner? Marketing. That's right. In this episode, we find some gems online (some NSFW) that you're going to love. We also talk a bit about the upcoming Super Bowl! (Go 9ers!)  If you have more questions send us a message on social media: http://instagram.com/richardandsteve or http://www.twitter.com/richardandsteve
 and you can learn more about Richard here: http://richarddedor.com.

Joy can be elusive. Especially when you're working hard, raising a toddler, and building a life. Now that Richard is 36 and we are into a new year and new decade, we thought it was time to talk about joy; and how we find it.  Support the Alzheimer's Association: https://act.alz.org/site/TR/Walk2020/IA-Iowa?px=10459621&pg=personal&fr_id=13399 If you have more questions send us a message on social media: http://instagram.com/richardandsteve or http://www.twitter.com/richardandsteve and you can learn more about Richard here: http://richarddedor.com.

We start the year off with a classic Fuck of the Week from Richard ...  Then we cover our New Year's Resolutions and how we are planning to approach this new year, and new decade. So much has changed but we are move forward in such a positive and healthy direction, we wanted to share that with you all! Happy New Year! Support the Alzheimer's Association: https://act.alz.org/site/TR/Walk2020/IA-Iowa?px=10459621&pg=personal&fr_id=13399  If you have more questions send us a message on social media: http://instagram.com/richardandsteve or http://www.twitter.com/richardandsteve
 and you can learn more about Richard here: http://richarddedor.com.

It's true. Until Steve, Richard didn't know the joy that is eggnog. In this special Christmas episode, we talk about our traditions, our holiday highs and lows and our favorite Christmas movies. It's going to be the hap, hap, happiest Christmas! NYC: A State of Mind Link: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1502906120 If you have more questions send us a message on social media: http://instagram.com/richardandsteve or http://www.twitter.com/richardandsteve
 and you can learn more about Richard here: http://richarddedor.com.

We can't wait for you to enjoy this episode ... we welcome our dear friend and retired teacher, Deadra Stanton to the show! We cover what it was like having Richard as a student, her journey as a teacher, her love of Christmas, and the weekend she spent in jail.  Use code MANTRA at BruckandCo.com for 10% off your purchase. Support the Alzheimer's Association: https://act.alz.org/site/TR/Walk2020/IA-Iowa?px=10459621&pg=personal&fr_id=13399 If you have more questions send us a message on social media: http://instagram.com/richardandsteve or http://www.twitter.com/richardandsteve
 and you can learn more about Richard here: http://richarddedor.com.

Happy Thanksgiving!  We both love Thanksgiving ... Potatoes! Pumpkin Pie! And Steve's homemade cranberry sauce! We talk traditions and what we are thankful for in this tremendous year of change.  NYC: A State of Mind Link: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1502906120 If you have more questions send us a message on social media: http://instagram.com/richardandsteve or http://www.twitter.com/richardandsteve
 and you can learn more about Richard here: http://richarddedor.com.

You hear it every year: “It’s too early for Christmas music!” Steve and I debate when it’s okay to play Christmas music, watch Christmas movies, and put up Christmas decor.  We end the episode with a recap of this same week in 2018 and a lesson for you all.

Spooky! We take a trip down memory lane in this special Halloween episode! We talk about our favorite (and not-so-favorite Halloweens as a kid. Our favorite candy, and our favorite scary movies! So, grab your buckets of Smarties and Reese's and enjoy this week's episode.  If you have more questions send us a message on social media: http://instagram.com/richardandsteve or http://twitter.com/richardandsteve and you can learn more about Richard here: http://richarddedor.com. 

We've both been through a lot and thought it would be fun to turn-back the clock and talk to our 20-year old selves. Oh, and thank goodness Morgan is okay and thanks to Switchfoot for a great show last week!  We also quote Will & Grace in this episode ... and it's a lesson about setting yourself up to be ready for the good things in life instead of focusing on getting them.  If you have more questions send us a message on social media: http://instagram.com/richardandsteve or http://twitter.com/richardandsteve
 

What a week it has been! We dealt with vomit from two of the three of us. And since we just celebrated our fourth wedding anniversary, we thought it would be fun to talk about dating before each other. Trust us, there are some doozies in here.  If you have more questions send us a message on social media: http://instagram.com/richardandsteve or http://twitter.com/richardandsteve
 and you can learn more about Richard here: http://richarddedor.com. 

Don't get on Steve's bad side. (We're talking about you Similac and Hy-Vee.) We also tell some personal stories from 9/11. With the 9/11 anniversary, we both got to thinking about our love of New York City and wanted to share some of that with you. We love to travel (currently planning our next trip!), have enjoyed a few drinks in our day (Steve's story here folks you don't want to miss it!), and we ask for your help in planning our next trip. Connect with us on Instagram or Twitter: http://instagram.com/richardandsteve / http://twitter.com/richardandsteve

After a two-week hiatus, we come with *bonus* fucks of the week and a major fuck of the week for you! We have an adoption update (YAY!) and we talk about September 11 and its impact on Richard's political life and our lives today.  If you have more questions send us a message on IG or TW:  http://instagram.com/richardandsteve http://twitter.com/richardandsteve Meet Richard: http://richarddedor.com  Check out Gen2Gen: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/live-it-well-with-richard-dedor/id1476389491

In lieu of a new F*ck is our Mantra episode comes this preview episode of Richard's latest project, Gen2Gen: Conversation with Perspective. This year is the 18-year anniversary of September 11, 2001, and Richard brings together five people of unique backgrounds and ages to talk about that day. It's a unique and new look at one of America's darkest days.  Subscribe Here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/live-it-well-with-richard-dedor/id1476389491

Now Richard is on the "hot seat" with Steve asking all the questions (including some from the audience)! We find out Richard wanted to be an astronaut, loves Taco Tico ($1.09 tacos!), and picks books over music. (Yes, Steve is still praying for Richard.)  We dive into coming out, his three most influential people, and a final lesson for himself and you.  If you have more questions send us a message on IG or TW:  http://instagram.com/richardandsteve http://twitter.com/richardandsteve Anthem Podcast: https://anchor.fm/anthem Meant to Live by Switchfoot: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OXcrEVFZOXs Live It Well by Switchfoot: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ov_lnXy7tkQ

Now that Kennedy is almost five months old, we’ve learned a lot. Like the value of food. And sleep. And the great outdoors. What else has our silly kid taught us? Listen and find out.  Support the Alzheimer's Association: https://act.alz.org/site/TR/Walk2020/IA-Iowa?px=10459621&pg=personal&fr_id=13399 If you have more questions send us a message on IG or TW:  http://instagram.com/richardandsteve http://twitter.com/richardandsteve Meet Richard: http://richarddedor.com 

Happy July 4th! This holiday has new meaning for us as a newly minted Marine family. This episode is all about Steve … Richard interviews him about life, his grandparents, coming out, and the least favorite food Richard has ever made him.  If you have more questions send us a message:  http://instagram.com/richardandsteve http://twitter.com/richardandsteve Meet Steve: http://lifeasdaddy.com Meet Richard: http://richarddedor.com