Rising Heroes Podcast w/Toluse Francis
By Toluse Dove Francis
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Rising Heroes Podcast w/Toluse FrancisAug 08, 2020
Year End Solo Special: Lessons of Health, Love and Greatness.
-The transformative power of taking a leap and embracing change, regardless of the outcome.
- How to prioritize your health and make informed choices about nutrition, sleep, and well-being.
-The profound impact of inner peace and how to cultivate it amidst life's chaos.
The Power of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy
The Power of Therapy: A Deep Dive into Different Approaches
This episode looks at the basics of therapy and different approaches that exist.
Addictions Secrets You Never Knew
Are you struggling with addiction? Do you have a secret addiction? In this video, I'm revealing addiction secrets that you never knew. I'll talk about addiction in a way that is practical and help you understand it from a mental health perspective. If you're looking for information about problem addiction, or you just want to hear about my latest addiction secret, then watch this video! I'll share with you some of the most common addiction secrets that you never knew, and I'll explain how they affects your mental health. In this video, you'll learn about addiction in a way that is easy to understand and practical to apply in your life.
Does Closure Exist?
From the moment we experience pain, we're taught that closure is the answer. We seek to find a resolution to the hurt we feel, and we are told that once we have closure, we can finally move on. But is closure really the answer to our pain?
In this video, I'm challenging the idea of closure and exploring the concept of healing in a progressive way. I talk about the benefits of exploring and addressing our pain instead of trying to hide from it or build a wall to protect ourselves. I share my story of grief and loss, and how by dealing with my pain, I was able to move on and find healing.
How To Have A Happy And Successful Relationship: The Key Ingredients
A healthy relationship is a source of joy, support, and personal growth. To cultivate and maintain such a bond, it's essential to understand the key ingredients that contribute to its success. Here are five crucial elements that form the foundation of a healthy relationship Please share, drop your comments and questions and don't hesitate to ask your questions.
12 Simple But Powerful Ways to Boost Your Mental Health
In this episode, I share some simple steps that you can take to improve your mental health and wellbeing.
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HOW ARE YOU? A cliché or a genuine one?
The Power of an Independent Mind
Individuals who are independent minded are inclined to decide for themselves what to believe and do rather than simply accept things because others say they should.
Social Anhedoniaa
Procrastination
Sanity And Mental Sanctity
Expectations!
Embrace Your Imperfections
Do you beat yourself up when you make even a small mistake?
Do you find it hard to relax and do things just for fun?
Do you avoid trying new things because you might embarrass yourself?
Do you believe your worth is based on how much you accomplish and what others think of you?
Decluttering Your Mind -book review series
Gratitude
WHY YOU SHOULD RESPECT EVERYONE
Let Us Forgive
What Makes A Man a Man: commemorating Men’s mental health month
Men have experience a lot of name calling because there’s a moral gauge used to judge who should be called a man or not but is that really the ideal thing?
Men suffer mental health problems not as much as women but they take their lives more than women do.
Do you know why? What makes a man a man? Is it the money or affluence? Is it the ability to perform in bed?
This episode tells a lot that you shouldn’t miss.
Hugging: from social well-being to mental well-being
Touch consists of two distinct systems. The first is “fast-touch”, a system of nerves which allows us to rapidly detect contact (for example, if a fly landed on your nose, or you touched something hot). The second system is “slow-touch”. This is a population of recently discovered nerves, called c-tactile afferents, which process the emotional meaning of touch.
The Wonders of Hugs
So, how many hugs should you have a day for optimal health? According to the best science, we should have as many as possible if we want to reap the greatest positive effects. So, if you want to feel better about yourself, reduce your stress, improve communication, and be happier and healthier, it seems that giving and asking for more hugs is a good place to start.
If you feel nervous about seeking out more hugs, start by asking for them from friends and family members closest to you first.
Would you take up this challenge?
Science proves that regular hugs with those closest to you, even if brief, can have especially positive effects on your brain and body. Please follow our social media channels (@tolusefrancis and @risingheroespodcast)
WHY YOU MISTREAT PEOPLE
When you think of how you were treated by people around you growing up, how do I feel?
When you think about how people treat you now, what comes to your mind?
There is a strong indication that you’d feel either of these two ways: loved or unloved, appreciated or I appreciated etc.
However way you feel, the next question is if you’re treating people the same way you were treated or being treated at the moment.
You see the truth is that unless we make conscious efforts, we’d find ourselves treating people the way we were treated by others. The treatment we met out to others is a reflection of a number of things and one of such is how you see yourself.
Would you please sit down this day to evaluate how you treat others viz-a-viz how you see yourself?
Friendship, forgiveness and communication
I often tell people that I am not good at initiating friendships but I go hard to ensure the one I have works and one major way is by communicating.
Research has shown that friendship plays a vital role in our mental well-being.
Friendship is a crucial element in protecting our mental health. Our friends can keep us grounded, help us get things in perspective, and help us manage the problems that life throws at us. If we’re experiencing a mental health problem, our instinct might be to hide away and avoid our friends. But friendships can play a key role in helping us live with or recover from a mental health problem and overcome the isolation that often comes with it. We can end up with the strongest relationships with the people who’ve supported us through hard times.
This episode features a friend of mine, Damilola Babatunde and together we looked at this subject.
Check out our blog: The Importance of Communication in relationships and its effect on our mental healthShould People Feel Loved only on their birthdays?
Signs Of Stress and Burnout You Might Be Missing
Life is a journey
Let’s Talk Body Image
WHY YOU YOU FEEL INFERIOR TO YOURSELF?
The term 'inferiority complex' isn't new to many of us since we use the word very often but we may not know is that there is an alternative to this word and we use it perhaps more often than this itself.
This episode takes you on a journey of what inferiority complex is and what it isn't
Types and how to identify the signs + treatment options
Opens you up to the subject of inferiority complex as well as self-esteem
7 TIPS ON HOW TO BE BETTER AT LISTENING AT LISTENING TO OTHERS
Now, probably more than ever, most people can use someone who really listens and understands them. With the pandemic holding countries hostage and high unemployment rates as a result, chances are if someone hasn’t been personally impacted by the pandemic, then they know someone who has. Sometimes simply listening can make all the difference in the world to that person.
Think of someone who makes you feel comfortable and relaxed no matter how chaotic your life may be. Someone who makes you feel that all is right with the world even if it may be crashing down in front of you. When you need comfort, who do you turn to? My guess is whoever this person, he or she possesses one vitally important trait: good listening skills. Being a good listener can be the difference that makes the difference in so many areas of life. For example, a partner who seems to understand and one who doesn’t, or a manager who just “gets it” or one who is missing the boat entirely.
This episode shares with you tips on how you can help someone feel better by just listening!
Val's Day is BS and Here's Why
The history surrounding Valentine's day is such a confusing one. There are various versions of what happened to St. Valentine but what is interesting to note is that there were more than one Valentine and both were killed by Claudius II.
But how did February 14th become a day to celebrate St. Valentine's day?
Is it for just a certain set of people?
In this special episode, I share with you why this day isn't it and how you can use it with wisdom
WHY PEOPLE DROOL
In this episode, I discussed that drooling, why people drool, and treatment options available such as home remedies and those that require doctor's attention
Drool is excess saliva that comes out of your mouth. While it can feel uncomfortable when it happens, most of us drool once in a while, especially during sleep. At night, your swallowing reflexes are relaxed just like the rest of the muscles in your face. This means that your saliva can accumulate and some can escape through the sides of your mouth. The medical terms for drooling too much are sialorrhea and hypersalivation.
Though drooling while you sleep is fairly common, sometimes drool is a symptom of a neurological condition, sleep disorder, or other health condition. You might drool more after a health event like a stroke, or as a result of cerebral palsy or multiple sclerosis (MS).
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Questions: do you have a partner who drools? If yes, how have you been handling it?
COMPLEX: SUPERIORITY COMPLEX as a cover for an inferiority complex
A superiority complex is a defense mechanism that develops overtime to help a person cope with painful feelings of inferiority. Individuals with this complex typically come across as supercilious, haughty, and disdainful toward others. They may treat others in an imperious, overbearing, and even aggressive manner.
Psychologist Alfred Adler first described the superiority complex in his early 20th-century work. He outlined that the complex is really a defense mechanism for feelings of inadequacy that we all struggle with. Alfred is regarded as the father of Individual Psychology.
The sad angle to Superiority Complex is that you actually might just be covering up your inferiority feelings/sense.
This episode throws light on this subject matters and signs/symptoms that you could look out for.
Note: this is not a diagnosis hence at your own risk if you swallow the symptoms hook line and sinker.
Being Inferior vs Feeling Inferior
Knowing that you’re actually inferior and feeling inferior are two different things. For example, you might realize that someone is taller than you. Or that you’re physically inferior to a professional athlete.
These are normal and sensible observations. But just because you realize you’re inferior to someone in certain ways doesn’t mean it has to make you feel inferior. Internalizing feelings of inadequacy can lead to obsessive thoughts that might signal an inferiority complex.
These amongst other issues are discussed in this episode.
COMPLEX : DEALING WITH INFERIOIRTY COMPLEX
The reality of complexes is widely agreed upon in the area of depth psychology, a branch of psychology asserting that the vast majority of the personality is determined and influenced by unconscious processes.
Complexes are common features of the psychic landscape, according to Jung's accounting of the psyche, and often become relevant in psychotherapy to examine and resolve, most especially in the journey toward individuation or wholeness. Without a resolution, complexes continue to exert unconscious, maladaptive influence on our thoughts, feelings, and behavior and keep us from achieving psychological integration.
In this episode, we will talk about INFERIORITY COMPLEX. Basically, what it is and what to do or better put how to treat it.
We all have times when we feel inadequate or insufficient compared to others, whether that be because we failed to reach our goals at work, scored low on an exam, or feel less accomplished than our peers. As children, we might have compared ourselves next to the straight-A student, or classmates who were faster, or better at singing.
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Taking Stock of 2020: Hold Your Own
HOW TIME HEALS
Time will heal they say. Does it? Does Time really heal? Do we just fold our arms waiting for time to run by with healing? I’m asking you honestly Some of you need to heal but they’ve been telling you time will heal you so you’re just seated hoping time comes with us healing Don’t stay too long Listen to this episode
How To Rise From Defeat
Too many people collapse in a heap when life knocks them down. They lie there with no apparent hope for the future. They become so consumed by the circumstance they find themselves in that they lose sight of their vision. They assume the door has been closed to their dream and that God wants them to move in a different direction. Imagine if a young child learning to walk adopted this thinking - they would never learn to walk. Why do we give up so easily on our dreams? Tough times will come, but they never last. Tough people do. You will be at the receiving end of some curveballs in life (guaranteed). Knowing this means you must make a decision on how you will respond before the circumstance or difficulty arises. Make a decision to get up every time life knocks you down. Expect to get up when life knocks you down; it’s the most natural thing to do.
How have you risen after defeat? What did you do to get back on your feet?
How can you turn negative energy into positive energy?
What breakthrough are you hoping for? What are you doing about it
How do you respond when faced with an obstacle that scares you?
I Am: Building Confidence and Affirmations
Welcome to December 2020
This year has been filled with so many ups and downs for some people
This episode isn't like the regular episodes.
I have tried to encourage you not to give up and at the end, shared an affirmation that I want to encourage you to take every day.
Have a great month ahead
How To Be Your Own Chief Wellbeing Officer
In these unprecedented times, well-being isn’t something we can outsource. We all have the power to prioritize our mental and physical health.
It goes without saying that this has been a stressful year for everybody. We all have our unique challenges, and we all react to stress differently — but we can all benefit from strategies that make it easier to prioritize our well-being.
think everyone needs to take on this same leadership role when it comes to their own lives.
So what is well-being? For me, it means taking a holistic approach, focusing on body, mind, purpose, and financial health. The truth is, although we generally know what we should be doing to take care of ourselves, we often don’t do it. And that’s because we’re not strategic; we’re not intentional about it. But the problem is that with the pace of our modern lives, day after day gets away from us and we fall to the bottom of our priority list. Our tendency as human beings is to take care of everything and everyone else before taking care of ourselves.
And when we allow that to happen, we can pay a heavy price. Daily stress can become chronic stress, and before you know it, that can lead to burnout. But your path to realizing you need to nurture your own well-being doesn’t have to involve burning out first. The key is to create a mindful and intentional system for being in charge of your well-being.
I share with you 6 strategies you can deploy for you to be your own Chief Wellbeing Officer
The science behind a broken heart and How To Heal
Heartbreak is an unfortunately common part of the human experience, and it really, really sucks. We’ve all been there, and it’s safe to say we all want to avoid experiencing heartbreak ever again.
We feel heartbroken when we lose someone or something we loved or wanted very much, like a romantic relationship or a friendship, a family member, a pet, or a job or opportunity that was very important to us.
Heartbreak can cause a large amount of stress, especially if the loss is a sudden one. This stress can affect how we feel emotionally and physically and may take weeks, months or even years to recover from.
This episode shares with you how to handle heartbreaks and how to heal
Note that this doesn't replace seeking professional help and you can reach out to me
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8 Simples Tips for Breaking Habits
Habits could be very difficult to break when you compare how easy forming that habit was but that is normal because when you picked up that habit, it wasn't deliberate but bringing it to an end, has got to be deliberate.
In this episode, I shared 8 simples tips to pay attention to if you really want to break that habit. It is not going to be easy, but it is doable.
Finally, you may not be able to do that all by yourself, I am right here if you need someone to hold your hand through the process
Stop Being Critical OF Yourself
It is very easy for us to be critical of ourselves. We find out that we aren't where we had desired to be hence we become so ashamed, unhappy, and feel some disgust. It could even hit different when you face some challenges thereby making it easy for you to regret where you are.
Hey Friend, Life is a journey and we all arrive at different destinations by going at our own pace as long as it is helpful.
These and many more I shared on this episode.
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7 Habits of Calmness
This episode focuses on the 7 habits that can be practiced when stressed, anxious etc
I have come to believe that high stress, constant anxiety over tasks and work and life, social anxiety … is all a part of the modern way of life.
Most people just don’t feel a sense of peace, of calm, of serenity, throughout their day.
I have to admit that I’m the same way some of the time, but I have learned a few things that have helped me create a feeling of calmness much more of the time than ever before.
It’s a series of habits that have developed over the last few years. I’m not perfect at them, but I do practice them, and they are always helpful.
These are habits, not a one-time change in my surroundings or work pattern. Changing your environment is great, but you can’t control the things that happen to you much of the time, and you certainly can’t control how other people act. The only thing you can control is your response — and this response matters. You can respond to the same event with anxiety or anger, or you can respond with peace and calmness.
Let’s figure out how.
Calmness in the midst of uproar
With the current uproar going on in Nigeria, there is a need to find some level of calmness.
You won't want to bottle up so much that it becomes a problem.
This episode shares with you a simple exercise that you can do everyday to calm your nerves.
Should you need some special care, you can reach out to @mentallyaware, @standtoendrape, @psychebabble etc
How to Manage Trauma from Police Brutality
police brutality is a global issue as it happens across the globe. This leaves some form of trauma with those who are direct recipients of this brutality. Unfortunately, those close to them are not left out. As at the time of making this video, there was a protest against policebrutality in Nigeria by the youths tagged endsars or endsarsnow and police reforms
Given that the 2020 World Mental Health just got wrapped up with attention on investment in mentalhealth, I thought it necessary to talk about investing in your own mental health. trauma is real and you cannot afford to let it slide. In this video, I share first aid tips on how to handle the trauma from Police Brutality even as the endsars and policereform campaign rages on. I hope that as you listen to this, you will feel better as you practice. If you need to seek therapy, please don't hesitate to reach out
Emotional Intelligence in The Workplace w/Sam Obafemi
Emotional Intelligence is not a luxury. It is a necessity for anyone who wants to succeed in the workplace. Events will happen that you aren't emotionally smart, you will be swayed and find yourself drifting here and there and the resultant effect cannot be quantified.
Sat down with an EI expert, Sam Obafemi to consider the importance of emotional intelligence in the workplace.
I hope this librates someone
7 Types of Fear and How They Hold You Back
According to Soukup’s study, the fear archetypes include the Procrastinator, the Rule Follower, the People Pleaser, the Outcast, the Self-Doubter, the Excuse Maker, and the Pessimist.
There are 7 types of fear and each of them contributes to our stagnancy except we make them work to our advantage.
You can take your fear assessment here: Fear Assessment
Rejection : Choose Your Perspective
Rejections come in different forms and from different angles.
Rejections create different impacts on our lives
In the end, it is a function of how you see it.
Do you agree with the opinion that you aren't the rejected one but whatever you have put forward?
Toxic Positivity: How Social Media can make you look less than you are
How to Enjoy a Break Up (The series)
No one enjoys a breakup
No one plans to leave a relationship or marriage
Things happen and people lose their partners
Do you hang around or do you move on?
It could be hard to move on but it is possible.
This episode is a 2-part series and this is part 1 of the series.
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