Rudderless

It's our 20th episode! In our Golden Jubilee, we have a listener's audio question: what to do about physical affection & sexual desire imbalances in a relationship. Then we dive into what's fucked about "The Secret" thinking, Tai rants about Pitbull, and did we tell you how infuriating our neighbor is? But it might not be entirely her fault.

Nathan and Tai address a listener question about distinguishing valid relationship needs from just... neediness. Are you trying to get milk from the hardware store? How do you know if you're just looking for some sweet, sweet - but ultimately ineffective - external validation? 

Nathan and Tai do baby feet and talk trauma, therapy, incest, rape, and cutting. 

Trigger warning: trauma, incest, rape, and cutting.

Nathan calls in from the road to discuss negative body image and caller questions about adult makers of adult art.

After trying not to swear so Nathan's mom can give Tai gardening tips, we answer questions on whether life is worth it after age 18 and what to do about a spying boyfriend.

This week, Nathan and Tai cover questions about relationships red flags, coping with clinginess, and college vs career.

This week, we answer questions on how to be done with a creative piece, standing up to a rude boss, and finding motivation for mundane and thankless tasks... 

Nathan and Tai discuss misogyny in podcasting and try their hand at solving questions sent to advice columnist Carolyn Hax.

We take on questions about creepy neighbors, dealing with criticism, and making sober friends.

Nathan and Tai solve many different kettles of fish this week! How to stop self-sabotage, reclaim "lazy," make kinky connections, and more.

We answer your questions on how much self-care is too much, thwarted love, and Tai tells a story about being the colonizer.

Nathan and Tai talk about what works for them when having a PTSD crisis, and what to watch in the zoo of reality TV.

Nathan and Tai solve what to do when your friend joins a culty MLM and how to support the queer youths in your life.

Nathan and Tai bash baths and discuss how to care for yourself when the outside world is going to shit.

Grim ways to stop shopping and how life can be different by going car-free.

Nathan and Tai discuss ACA, SLAA, boundaries, and Facing Love Addiction.

Nathan and Tai can barely get through an episode - just long enough for a hearfelt PSA on vaginal elasticity and the best way to deter stalkers.

Tai and Nathan cover how to recognize love, the best and worst ways to break up with someone, and the steps to creating a hedonistic sexual revolution.

Nathan and Tai ring in the new year with two letters: car-buying and remnants from past loves.

Nathan and Tai take on your questions, including how place relates to depression, knowing Jason Molina, and why people aim for the status quo.