Salty Hair Self Care Conversations
By Clare Foale
Hi. I’m Clare Foale.
Welcome to the Salty Hair Self Care Conversations. Join me as I chat with thought leaders, wisdom weavers and self care believers as we explore what taking care of yourself looks like.
I want to help you to find self-care which feels simple, powerful and which you want to do.
I'd love to connect with you on my socials too:
Facebook: www.facebook.com/thezimzumconnection/
Instagram: www.instagram.com/thezimzumconnection/
Salty Hair Self Care Conversations
Welcome to the Salty Hair Self Care Conversations. Join me as I chat with thought leaders, wisdom weavers and self care believers as we explore what taking care of yourself looks like.
I want to help you to find self-care which feels simple, powerful and which you want to do.
I'd love to connect with you on my socials too:
Facebook: www.facebook.com/thezimzumconnection/
Instagram: www.instagram.com/thezimzumconnection/
Salty Hair Self Care Conversations
Salty Hair Self Care ConversationsFeb 06, 2020
00:00
22:12
019 Self Devotion with Clare Foale
Welcome to this week's Salty Hair Self-Care Conversation. This is the first podcast of 2020. In the midst of so much happening, for me, it hasn't felt right to say, 'Happy New Year'.
It feels flippant and doesn't reflect what I'm feeling. Yet I wanted to say something to mark the beginning of a new year and a new decade.
And I guess that is this:
"Thank you for being here. I am deeply grateful to be in this community with you, sharing ideas with you. I send you my blessings. And whatever happens this year and this decade, know that we are not alone."
What I talked about:
- I acknowledged the original custodians of the land, and gave respect to the Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islanders as the first people of Australia. I support the Uluru Statement from the heart and hope that this year, massive leaps are taken towards this happening.
- I reflected that 3 or 4 years ago, I was challenged to meditate for 10 minutes every morning for 10 days.
- At that stage my daughter was a year or so old, and it felt impossible, but I did it
- The effect of 10 minutes of silence with myself at the beginning of each day was profound.
- It was a pivotal moment in my ideas around self-care
- I came to understand the act of self-devotion. I learned the importance of starting the day by putting myself as the top priority
- It forms one of the pillars of the self-care I talk about, of starting the day off doing something, even for 2 minutes, for yourself
- The act of self-care first thing in the morning is an act so powerful that it says to myself, to my family and to the universe that I matter. That I count
- In contrast, I found that, having little children, when I didn't start the day with self-care, by afternoon I'd have done nothing for myself and everything for them, leading to resentment and a feeling of claustrophobia.
- Putting Peppa Pig on for my daughter at 6am so that I could have some time for myself had a huge impact on the trajectory of my day
- I believe that the two most important questions that we can ask ourselves, particularly at the beginning of the day are 'How am I?' and, 'What do I need?'
- At the start of the school holidays I was often choosing sleep over self-devotion, and it didn't feel good. I felt grumpy. Short tempered.
- I noticed this and started rising at 5.20am to go to the beach.
- It has been beautiful and profound. It has deepened my devotion to self-devotion.
- One day at the beach I cried for 20 minutes. It was a great release
- Another day I released my frustration and sadness through journaling (20 pages!)
- I came to realise I was depending on going to the beach like my happiness depended on it. I didn't want this action to become fear based. I realise there are other ways to devote time to my own well-being
- What does self-devotion in the morning look like to you? Share with me via my social media
Connect With Clare:
Instagram
Facebook
Membership
It feels flippant and doesn't reflect what I'm feeling. Yet I wanted to say something to mark the beginning of a new year and a new decade.
And I guess that is this:
"Thank you for being here. I am deeply grateful to be in this community with you, sharing ideas with you. I send you my blessings. And whatever happens this year and this decade, know that we are not alone."
What I talked about:
- I acknowledged the original custodians of the land, and gave respect to the Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islanders as the first people of Australia. I support the Uluru Statement from the heart and hope that this year, massive leaps are taken towards this happening.
- I reflected that 3 or 4 years ago, I was challenged to meditate for 10 minutes every morning for 10 days.
- At that stage my daughter was a year or so old, and it felt impossible, but I did it
- The effect of 10 minutes of silence with myself at the beginning of each day was profound.
- It was a pivotal moment in my ideas around self-care
- I came to understand the act of self-devotion. I learned the importance of starting the day by putting myself as the top priority
- It forms one of the pillars of the self-care I talk about, of starting the day off doing something, even for 2 minutes, for yourself
- The act of self-care first thing in the morning is an act so powerful that it says to myself, to my family and to the universe that I matter. That I count
- In contrast, I found that, having little children, when I didn't start the day with self-care, by afternoon I'd have done nothing for myself and everything for them, leading to resentment and a feeling of claustrophobia.
- Putting Peppa Pig on for my daughter at 6am so that I could have some time for myself had a huge impact on the trajectory of my day
- I believe that the two most important questions that we can ask ourselves, particularly at the beginning of the day are 'How am I?' and, 'What do I need?'
- At the start of the school holidays I was often choosing sleep over self-devotion, and it didn't feel good. I felt grumpy. Short tempered.
- I noticed this and started rising at 5.20am to go to the beach.
- It has been beautiful and profound. It has deepened my devotion to self-devotion.
- One day at the beach I cried for 20 minutes. It was a great release
- Another day I released my frustration and sadness through journaling (20 pages!)
- I came to realise I was depending on going to the beach like my happiness depended on it. I didn't want this action to become fear based. I realise there are other ways to devote time to my own well-being
- What does self-devotion in the morning look like to you? Share with me via my social media
Connect With Clare:
Membership
Feb 06, 202022:12
018 Human Design with Aycee Brown
Welcome to this week's Salty Hair Self-Care Conversation, where I'm chatting with Aycee Brown about Human Design, who does a beautiful job of giving an overview of what Human Design is, and the five different aura types which fall under Human Design.
Aycee takes the theory of Human Design and makes it relevant to living our lives. She helps thought leaders and entrepreneurs tap into their magic and unleash their desires by becoming who they truly are, through the power of Human Design.
Personally, as I have started learning a little about Human Design, I have found it has helped me understand why I find something's really easy and flowing and other things really hard.
It has given me permission to not beat myself up about it. To not say, 'That's good or that's bad', but to have an acceptance of all that.
Human Design is a tool designed to help us understand ourselves more.
'I like to really focus on the healing part of Human Design. The healing part of uncovering those inner child wounds through it. And figuring out things like, "Oh, this is why I felt like this or this is why I felt like that."'
Self-care is protecting yourself from the things that you have learned to tolerate. Whether it's family, whether it's friends, whether it's certain situations, certain work environments, it's really about putting yourself first'.
What we talked about:
- Human Design is a combination of astrology, Kabbalah, the I Ching system and metaphysics.
- It is like an instruction manual on how to achieve your potential.
- Aura types. You can find out what yours is based on your birth date and time.
- The five aura types are Manifestor, Generator, Manifesting Generator, Projector and Reflector
- Using it to understand why certain things may not have worked out or why you felt the way you did.
- Human Design helps you make better decisions about moving forward towards your destiny moving forward towards your purpose in life.
- Different auras have different ways of making decisions.
- When life is challenging, 'there's so much opportunity in certain seasons for people to grow, for people to learn, for people not to repeat the same mistakes again, that we just miss it sometimes because we want to get out of that situation so bad.'
- Self-care is putting yourself first, but that may lead to having to make hard decisions.
- Different aura types require different forms of self-care
- These modalities are a brilliant tool But don't let them define you. Let them be a part of you.
Connect With Aycee:
Instagram
Subscribe to her podcast 'Is My Aura On Straight?'
Connect With Clare:
Instagram
Facebook
Membership
Aycee takes the theory of Human Design and makes it relevant to living our lives. She helps thought leaders and entrepreneurs tap into their magic and unleash their desires by becoming who they truly are, through the power of Human Design.
Personally, as I have started learning a little about Human Design, I have found it has helped me understand why I find something's really easy and flowing and other things really hard.
It has given me permission to not beat myself up about it. To not say, 'That's good or that's bad', but to have an acceptance of all that.
Human Design is a tool designed to help us understand ourselves more.
'I like to really focus on the healing part of Human Design. The healing part of uncovering those inner child wounds through it. And figuring out things like, "Oh, this is why I felt like this or this is why I felt like that."'
Self-care is protecting yourself from the things that you have learned to tolerate. Whether it's family, whether it's friends, whether it's certain situations, certain work environments, it's really about putting yourself first'.
What we talked about:
- Human Design is a combination of astrology, Kabbalah, the I Ching system and metaphysics.
- It is like an instruction manual on how to achieve your potential.
- Aura types. You can find out what yours is based on your birth date and time.
- The five aura types are Manifestor, Generator, Manifesting Generator, Projector and Reflector
- Using it to understand why certain things may not have worked out or why you felt the way you did.
- Human Design helps you make better decisions about moving forward towards your destiny moving forward towards your purpose in life.
- Different auras have different ways of making decisions.
- When life is challenging, 'there's so much opportunity in certain seasons for people to grow, for people to learn, for people not to repeat the same mistakes again, that we just miss it sometimes because we want to get out of that situation so bad.'
- Self-care is putting yourself first, but that may lead to having to make hard decisions.
- Different aura types require different forms of self-care
- These modalities are a brilliant tool But don't let them define you. Let them be a part of you.
Connect With Aycee:
Subscribe to her podcast 'Is My Aura On Straight?'
Connect With Clare:
Membership
Jan 23, 202044:10
017 The Power of Rest with Judi Taylor
I am joined this week by Judi Taylor. Spoiler alert! Not only is Judi a wonderful and wise woman but she's also my mum J
Judi has, for 40 years, been a social worker by trade as well as a spiritual counsellor and an events organizer. She has been practicing and involved with meditation across many faiths and traditions and now teachers in the Christian tradition.
She's involved with running retreats at Dango Island with Paul, her husband, and also running groups in jails with marginalized groups and in interfaith discussions.
This conversation explores the idea of rest and what a nourishing and vital part of self-care and life this is.
We explore why rest is so important and what rest looks like. It is not only sleep, but also having space to let our mind wonder, whether that's meditation or walking bare foot or reading or napping or painting.
What rest looks like for each of us on any day can be different. But that is a really spacious and rejuvenating way of spending time and it creates space for us to be with ourselves.
It is something that requires trust. That is a recurring theme in this conversation.
'I am so busy is often the mantra of culture. We amaze each other with our impossibly crowded schedules. Is this how we feel worthwhile? Is there a note of pride in this?
If we do not rest, we'd lose our way. We forget who we are, what we are doing and what we are doing it for.
Rest before we are tired, before we become ill, surrender to this wonderful gift we have been given, remembering who we are and who we have been created to be, knowing all is well.'
What we talked about:
- Judi wrote a piece called Sabbath ponderings, which prompted this conversation
- Everything is within us, but at speed we don't notice it
- In meditation, 'We become the person we were created to be'.
- Intentional resting, as Christians do with the Sabbath, allows us to take stock of where we are, what we've got to give thanks for and to realize how blessed we are, how enough we have. That we don't need more.
- It helps us get off the treadmill of 'go go go' and moves us towards 'enough-ness' and recognising our blessings.
- Rest as a form of activism and rebellion. To stake our claim that this is enough. We are enough.
- Connecting with the natural world.
- Giving ourselves permission with tender generosity to rest. To stop. To take time to follow our curiosity without trying to 'achieve'.
- Juicy thoughts and creativity occur in this space.
- Acknowledgement that neither work nor rest are better.
- We can't listen at speed. We can't love at speed.
- Trust is necessary to be able to rest. We need to feel safe to rest. We need to trust that life will go on without us and trust that it's worthwhile to take this time to rest.
- Sometimes it happens that we don't rest until we get sick, and that is a shame.
- Let the soul meander and dream
- Don't look for large chunks of time, if that is unrealistic. It might be 5 minutes. It can be that you start to notice little spaces of opportunity to rest.
- Be aware of your beliefs around your indispensability or needing to achieve.
To find out more about the meditation Judi is involved with and the work she does, head to the World Community for Christian Meditation here
Connect With Clare:
Instagram
Facebook
Membership
Judi has, for 40 years, been a social worker by trade as well as a spiritual counsellor and an events organizer. She has been practicing and involved with meditation across many faiths and traditions and now teachers in the Christian tradition.
She's involved with running retreats at Dango Island with Paul, her husband, and also running groups in jails with marginalized groups and in interfaith discussions.
This conversation explores the idea of rest and what a nourishing and vital part of self-care and life this is.
We explore why rest is so important and what rest looks like. It is not only sleep, but also having space to let our mind wonder, whether that's meditation or walking bare foot or reading or napping or painting.
What rest looks like for each of us on any day can be different. But that is a really spacious and rejuvenating way of spending time and it creates space for us to be with ourselves.
It is something that requires trust. That is a recurring theme in this conversation.
'I am so busy is often the mantra of culture. We amaze each other with our impossibly crowded schedules. Is this how we feel worthwhile? Is there a note of pride in this?
If we do not rest, we'd lose our way. We forget who we are, what we are doing and what we are doing it for.
Rest before we are tired, before we become ill, surrender to this wonderful gift we have been given, remembering who we are and who we have been created to be, knowing all is well.'
What we talked about:
- Judi wrote a piece called Sabbath ponderings, which prompted this conversation
- Everything is within us, but at speed we don't notice it
- In meditation, 'We become the person we were created to be'.
- Intentional resting, as Christians do with the Sabbath, allows us to take stock of where we are, what we've got to give thanks for and to realize how blessed we are, how enough we have. That we don't need more.
- It helps us get off the treadmill of 'go go go' and moves us towards 'enough-ness' and recognising our blessings.
- Rest as a form of activism and rebellion. To stake our claim that this is enough. We are enough.
- Connecting with the natural world.
- Giving ourselves permission with tender generosity to rest. To stop. To take time to follow our curiosity without trying to 'achieve'.
- Juicy thoughts and creativity occur in this space.
- Acknowledgement that neither work nor rest are better.
- We can't listen at speed. We can't love at speed.
- Trust is necessary to be able to rest. We need to feel safe to rest. We need to trust that life will go on without us and trust that it's worthwhile to take this time to rest.
- Sometimes it happens that we don't rest until we get sick, and that is a shame.
- Let the soul meander and dream
- Don't look for large chunks of time, if that is unrealistic. It might be 5 minutes. It can be that you start to notice little spaces of opportunity to rest.
- Be aware of your beliefs around your indispensability or needing to achieve.
To find out more about the meditation Judi is involved with and the work she does, head to the World Community for Christian Meditation here
Connect With Clare:
Membership
Jan 16, 202041:31
016 Language Revitalisation + Barri Dhimbuyn with Gemma Lloyd
Gemma Lloyd is a proud Dunghutti woman originally from New South Wales, Australia.
Gemma is a yoga teacher, honouring the lineage of Sadhana Yoga and studied in Indonesia in 2015.
She incorporates her knowledge of Barri Dhimbuyn earth spirit and the ancient wisdom of yoga and Ayurvedic to offer a unique perspective of yoga practice here in Australia.
Her business also creates and supplies beautiful affirmation cards and yoga products.
She was the Ayers Rock Resort Yoga teacher from 2015-2018, and currently offers private digital classes.
She currently resides in Brisbane and is the co-owner, operator of Dhunuwi Wa Durrgan.
This business creates opportunities for all people to find wellness in mind, body, and spirit, and believes that people equipped with the right tools can achieve their greatest potential. They aim to be a global leader in self-development and hope to raise awareness of sustainability and ethical practice.
'When an Aboriginal person has the opportunity to find that connection, whether that is language, whether it's walking on country, whether it's learning how to paint or sitting with an elder and hearing story, that revitalization of culture can happen in many, many ways.
I hope that through providing these cards to people that they too can feel like they have that connection and they could possibly learn something else than what they just see in the media.'
What we talked about:
- Clare discovered Gemma and her business after becoming uncomfortable with using oracle cards featuring Cultural appropriation
- Clare reached out to Gemma to ask if it was okay for her, as a white woman, to use the cards Gemma creates. Gemma replied, 'We would absolutely love for you to incorporate these into your practice.'
- Language revitalisation as a source of empowerment
- Gemma grew up in Wollongong and was involved in several Aboriginal corporations and belonged to a dancing group
- She felt a connection to her ancestry through her family, but felt something was missing.
- She went to Ayers Rock Resort to work
- She worked closely with Aunties there who spoke the Pitjantjara, which they taught her
- This was her connection to story telling, to language, to culture, to history that she had been longing for
- She was incredibly excited to discover children's books and a dictionary in her Dunghutti language. She did not know that any such resources existed.
- Learning the language is a personal journey for Gemma. This is what lead her to create the affirmation cards
- Gemma grew up on a farm, in nature, and saw the world as a living being. Not as 'something'.
- Mother Earth spoke to her and nurtured her
- The significance of dreaming in Aboriginal culture.
- Dhunuwi Wa Durrgan means 'sun and moon'
- The three pillars of Gemma's business are sustainability, development and wellness.
- The Barri Dhimbuyn are printed on recycled paper and shipped in compostable bags
- Every time you just walk with no shoes on, on country, you're meditating
- Every Aboriginal person is writing their Songlines
- How to show respect for the nation's first people
'I think wellness is using the tool, the opportunities you have right there at your feet or your fingertips and implementing them into your life, however that suits you. wellness is whatever my body, mind and spirit feels like it needs that day.'
Connect With Gemma:
Instagram
Facebook
Website
Connect With Clare:
Instagram
Facebook
Membership
Gemma is a yoga teacher, honouring the lineage of Sadhana Yoga and studied in Indonesia in 2015.
She incorporates her knowledge of Barri Dhimbuyn earth spirit and the ancient wisdom of yoga and Ayurvedic to offer a unique perspective of yoga practice here in Australia.
Her business also creates and supplies beautiful affirmation cards and yoga products.
She was the Ayers Rock Resort Yoga teacher from 2015-2018, and currently offers private digital classes.
She currently resides in Brisbane and is the co-owner, operator of Dhunuwi Wa Durrgan.
This business creates opportunities for all people to find wellness in mind, body, and spirit, and believes that people equipped with the right tools can achieve their greatest potential. They aim to be a global leader in self-development and hope to raise awareness of sustainability and ethical practice.
'When an Aboriginal person has the opportunity to find that connection, whether that is language, whether it's walking on country, whether it's learning how to paint or sitting with an elder and hearing story, that revitalization of culture can happen in many, many ways.
I hope that through providing these cards to people that they too can feel like they have that connection and they could possibly learn something else than what they just see in the media.'
What we talked about:
- Clare discovered Gemma and her business after becoming uncomfortable with using oracle cards featuring Cultural appropriation
- Clare reached out to Gemma to ask if it was okay for her, as a white woman, to use the cards Gemma creates. Gemma replied, 'We would absolutely love for you to incorporate these into your practice.'
- Language revitalisation as a source of empowerment
- Gemma grew up in Wollongong and was involved in several Aboriginal corporations and belonged to a dancing group
- She felt a connection to her ancestry through her family, but felt something was missing.
- She went to Ayers Rock Resort to work
- She worked closely with Aunties there who spoke the Pitjantjara, which they taught her
- This was her connection to story telling, to language, to culture, to history that she had been longing for
- She was incredibly excited to discover children's books and a dictionary in her Dunghutti language. She did not know that any such resources existed.
- Learning the language is a personal journey for Gemma. This is what lead her to create the affirmation cards
- Gemma grew up on a farm, in nature, and saw the world as a living being. Not as 'something'.
- Mother Earth spoke to her and nurtured her
- The significance of dreaming in Aboriginal culture.
- Dhunuwi Wa Durrgan means 'sun and moon'
- The three pillars of Gemma's business are sustainability, development and wellness.
- The Barri Dhimbuyn are printed on recycled paper and shipped in compostable bags
- Every time you just walk with no shoes on, on country, you're meditating
- Every Aboriginal person is writing their Songlines
- How to show respect for the nation's first people
'I think wellness is using the tool, the opportunities you have right there at your feet or your fingertips and implementing them into your life, however that suits you. wellness is whatever my body, mind and spirit feels like it needs that day.'
Connect With Gemma:
Website
Connect With Clare:
Membership
Jan 09, 202054:03
015 Prolapse and reclaiming our tummies with Meg Berryman
This interview came about as a result of an Instagram post I shared. I posted a photo which featured a silhouette of my body. The caption read, 'I am not pregnant'. Because often I get asked if I am pregnant. I went on to share that it's taken years to come to a place of accepting and loving my body and not being upset every time that I'm asked that.
Meg commented, 'Love this Clare! I liberated my belly this year after being diagnosed with a prolapse and learning how the way we are conditioning women to move and hold ourselves contributes. I could literally talk about my belly all day long! I love how my back now has a curve and I can wear different types of clothes! ❤️❤️❤️'
The idea of accepting and embracing your body as self-care became apparent and I knew I would love to interview Meg to explore this topic further.
Meg is a mother, a feminist, a coach, a facilitator, and a yoga teacher who helps women liberate themselves from socially prescribed ideals to step into sacred social leadership.
She believes that relationship breakdowns and career crises are portals into deep individual and planetary healing that centres healthy relating, holistic wellness and earth stewardship.
Meg brings together more than 10 years of work around social change, her Masters Degree in Gender and Public Health, and her experience as a yoga teacher, coach and leadership facilitator to create incredible learning experiences for women seeking radical wellbeing, deep connection, and an unshakeable sense of purpose.
"The starting point sometimes of changing our internal language is changing how we relate to others about this stuff. And so that's why I'm so grateful to be having these conversations with you because I am so happy to have zero filter and share all of the gory details because I think that it's truly in service of what we're trying to move culture toward", says Meg.
What We Talked About:
- Self-care as an act of rebellion.
- Our relationship with our bellies as a portal into how we relate to women, to womanhood, to mothers, to each other as women, and then also how we relate to the earth.
- Being diagnosed with a prolapse, which took 10 months after the birth of her second child to be discovered.
- Discovering Christine Kent's work on the pelvic area, and her assertion that prolapse is a postural condition
- According to Christine, the optimal posture for women is different to what we are taught in Western Culture
- This posture leads to the belly poking out, which Meg found liberating and a home coming. She no longer lived to fit into an unnatural, unattainable ideal.
- Belly in or belly out of the undies.
- Learning not to make others comfortable at the expense of yourself.
- Lessons in standing up for yourself against microaggressions. Allowing someone else to experience discomfort rather than wounding the self.
- Being devoted to your personal truth rather than the other person's comfort.
- Getting 'bikini ready' versus 'putting on a bikini'.
"If we all listen to our inner knowing, we would be honouring our cycles. We would be honouring the seasons. We would not be living the way we are living. We would be in deep connection with people and each other. We would be in deep stewardship of our land. We would be in deep self-responsibility around our impact", Meg says.
Connect With Meg:
Instagram
Facebook
Website
Connect With Clare:
Instagram
Facebook
Membership
Meg commented, 'Love this Clare! I liberated my belly this year after being diagnosed with a prolapse and learning how the way we are conditioning women to move and hold ourselves contributes. I could literally talk about my belly all day long! I love how my back now has a curve and I can wear different types of clothes! ❤️❤️❤️'
The idea of accepting and embracing your body as self-care became apparent and I knew I would love to interview Meg to explore this topic further.
Meg is a mother, a feminist, a coach, a facilitator, and a yoga teacher who helps women liberate themselves from socially prescribed ideals to step into sacred social leadership.
She believes that relationship breakdowns and career crises are portals into deep individual and planetary healing that centres healthy relating, holistic wellness and earth stewardship.
Meg brings together more than 10 years of work around social change, her Masters Degree in Gender and Public Health, and her experience as a yoga teacher, coach and leadership facilitator to create incredible learning experiences for women seeking radical wellbeing, deep connection, and an unshakeable sense of purpose.
"The starting point sometimes of changing our internal language is changing how we relate to others about this stuff. And so that's why I'm so grateful to be having these conversations with you because I am so happy to have zero filter and share all of the gory details because I think that it's truly in service of what we're trying to move culture toward", says Meg.
What We Talked About:
- Self-care as an act of rebellion.
- Our relationship with our bellies as a portal into how we relate to women, to womanhood, to mothers, to each other as women, and then also how we relate to the earth.
- Being diagnosed with a prolapse, which took 10 months after the birth of her second child to be discovered.
- Discovering Christine Kent's work on the pelvic area, and her assertion that prolapse is a postural condition
- According to Christine, the optimal posture for women is different to what we are taught in Western Culture
- This posture leads to the belly poking out, which Meg found liberating and a home coming. She no longer lived to fit into an unnatural, unattainable ideal.
- Belly in or belly out of the undies.
- Learning not to make others comfortable at the expense of yourself.
- Lessons in standing up for yourself against microaggressions. Allowing someone else to experience discomfort rather than wounding the self.
- Being devoted to your personal truth rather than the other person's comfort.
- Getting 'bikini ready' versus 'putting on a bikini'.
"If we all listen to our inner knowing, we would be honouring our cycles. We would be honouring the seasons. We would not be living the way we are living. We would be in deep connection with people and each other. We would be in deep stewardship of our land. We would be in deep self-responsibility around our impact", Meg says.
Connect With Meg:
Website
Connect With Clare:
Membership
Jan 02, 202055:50
014 Belonging with Becca Piastrelli
In this episode I chat with Becca Piastrelli.
Becca is a writer, a women's coach, and host of the 'Belonging' podcast, which is probably my favourite podcast.
Becca holds space for women to explore ancestral wisdom, to connect with the earth and to find meaningful and inclusive sisterhood. In the age of loneliness, Becca shows us how to feel like we truly belong to each other, to the earth and to ourselves.
One of my favourite weekly rituals and self-care practices is to listen to this podcast. She speaks about ideas which resonates so deeply.
Sometimes listening to her feels like a remembering of something I knew long ago.
A few weeks ago, in a fit of courage, I reached out to Becca and said, 'Would you come on my podcast?", and she said yes!
What we talked about:
- The nagging sense Becca experienced of not feeling worthy or like she belonged.
- Examining her life, relationships and ancestry.
- Learning about the witch burning times, the burning times of Europe, and the ancient ways before patriarchal Christianity.
- Realising that she held in her system the energies of the oppressor and of the oppressed.
- The concept of feeling a lack of belonging is from generations of harm being caused and failing to look at it
- Becca realised that she was a descendent of those who had caused great harm.
- She now feels a deeper calling to care for herself, her neighbours and the descendants her ancestors harmed.
- The age of loneliness. We are more connected via technology that ever before, yet data is showing us that we have the highest levels of anxiety, suicide and depression.
- We've forgotten how to be neighbours. How to disagree. How to grieve. How to celebrate.
- The power in acknowledging and naming our emotions.
- The land. Our connection to it and what it teaches us.
- Cooking as self-care - or as a nuisance and inconvenience.
Connect With Becca:
Becca's 'Belonging' Podcast
Instagram
Facebook
Website
Connect With Clare:
Instagram
Facebook
Membership
Becca is a writer, a women's coach, and host of the 'Belonging' podcast, which is probably my favourite podcast.
Becca holds space for women to explore ancestral wisdom, to connect with the earth and to find meaningful and inclusive sisterhood. In the age of loneliness, Becca shows us how to feel like we truly belong to each other, to the earth and to ourselves.
One of my favourite weekly rituals and self-care practices is to listen to this podcast. She speaks about ideas which resonates so deeply.
Sometimes listening to her feels like a remembering of something I knew long ago.
A few weeks ago, in a fit of courage, I reached out to Becca and said, 'Would you come on my podcast?", and she said yes!
What we talked about:
- The nagging sense Becca experienced of not feeling worthy or like she belonged.
- Examining her life, relationships and ancestry.
- Learning about the witch burning times, the burning times of Europe, and the ancient ways before patriarchal Christianity.
- Realising that she held in her system the energies of the oppressor and of the oppressed.
- The concept of feeling a lack of belonging is from generations of harm being caused and failing to look at it
- Becca realised that she was a descendent of those who had caused great harm.
- She now feels a deeper calling to care for herself, her neighbours and the descendants her ancestors harmed.
- The age of loneliness. We are more connected via technology that ever before, yet data is showing us that we have the highest levels of anxiety, suicide and depression.
- We've forgotten how to be neighbours. How to disagree. How to grieve. How to celebrate.
- The power in acknowledging and naming our emotions.
- The land. Our connection to it and what it teaches us.
- Cooking as self-care - or as a nuisance and inconvenience.
Connect With Becca:
Becca's 'Belonging' Podcast
Website
Connect With Clare:
Membership
Dec 26, 201954:32
013 Storytelling with Taiia Smart Young
Today I am talking with Taiia Smart Young. She is a writer, amongst many other things.
The core of Taiia's work is helping people to uncover their truth through writing.
She runs 'Write and Sip' workshops in Brooklyn and 'Rock Your College Essay' writing courses for high school kids.
She also has written a book called, 'Famous'.
The common thread in her work is around who you are, beyond the iPhone and clothes and other external things we use to define us. She encourages us to get to the core of who we are, using various prompts and techniques. Taiia encourages us to tell the stories each of us have to tell.
Her words and her energy nudged me to tell the truth about myself and my story during Suicide Awareness Week. I hope her words help you as well.
'We always get a little bit stronger, enjoy small transformations and heal wounds when we tell our stories', says Taiia.
What we talked about:
- Taiia makes a point of taking a moment to take a breath and set an intention about what she wants to happen in her day
- Self-care can be deciding to order online if crowded stores lead to anxiety
- Self-awareness, therapy and self-care
- 'No' is a complete sentence
- Doing things on terms that suit you
- Asking questions to help reveal the story you didn't know you had in you
Connect With Taiia:
Instagram
Facebook
Website
Connect With Clare:
Instagram
Facebook
Membership
The core of Taiia's work is helping people to uncover their truth through writing.
She runs 'Write and Sip' workshops in Brooklyn and 'Rock Your College Essay' writing courses for high school kids.
She also has written a book called, 'Famous'.
The common thread in her work is around who you are, beyond the iPhone and clothes and other external things we use to define us. She encourages us to get to the core of who we are, using various prompts and techniques. Taiia encourages us to tell the stories each of us have to tell.
Her words and her energy nudged me to tell the truth about myself and my story during Suicide Awareness Week. I hope her words help you as well.
'We always get a little bit stronger, enjoy small transformations and heal wounds when we tell our stories', says Taiia.
What we talked about:
- Taiia makes a point of taking a moment to take a breath and set an intention about what she wants to happen in her day
- Self-care can be deciding to order online if crowded stores lead to anxiety
- Self-awareness, therapy and self-care
- 'No' is a complete sentence
- Doing things on terms that suit you
- Asking questions to help reveal the story you didn't know you had in you
Connect With Taiia:
Website
Connect With Clare:
Membership
Dec 19, 201931:21
012 My Journey From Hating Self Care To Today by Clare Foale
In this episode it's me, Clare Foale, going solo.
I have loved sharing these nourishing conversations and the beautiful wisdom on self-care with my guests.
But today I wanted to take a step back and share my story with you. To let you know why self-care matters so much to me today. It wasn't always this way. I hated the concept of 'self-care'.
"If I had heard someone speaking about self-care, like I speak about self-care, I would have probably thrown something at me"
What I talked about:
- 10 years ago, my husband Simon and I had moved back to Sydney from London.
- We were hoping to have children, but it wasn't happening
- I'd always found that if I made the effort. If I worked hard, I could get what I wanted. This didn't apply to trying to fall pregnant
- I was learning the lessons of trust and patience
- I fell pregnant with Nina.
- My self-care journey began when Nina was born, 9 years ago
- I had wanted to be a mother as long as I could remember
- Motherhood did not come as easily as I had expected. It was hard. Which was nothing to do with Nina. It was me.
- I have been able to make an effort. To make things happen and achieve. All the things that had defined me were stripped away when I became a mum. I lost my identity.
- It felt really hard and lonely. I was suffering with Post Natal Depression
- I was encouraged to 'go do something for myself' by caring family members, but this didn't help. I didn't even know what I liked to do
- Going shopping for clothes was depressing. My body and identity had changed. Shopping exacerbated my difficulty knowing who I was now and what I needed
- I still didn't like the idea of 'self-care'
- I was asking 'What should I like to do?' rather than "What would I like to do?
- A kinesiologist helped me get in touch with my heart and get out of my head
- I worked with Rebecca Campbell, who told me that I was having a spiritual awakening
- Rebecca introduced me to the idea of courage, which means to live from the heart.
- The death of loved ones lead me to stop playing by imaginary rules and leading from my heart
- Leonie Dawson's workbooks taught me the power of questions
- Answers poured out of me and it helped me to see there was a lot of wisdom inside me when I tapped into my heart
- A key question I ask in the morning is, 'What do I need?'
- Self-care is a muscle. It can be strengthened.
- It's a devotion to yourself. Choosing yourself.
- What Self-care is not: It's not stressful. Not guilt inducing. Not a 'to do' list. It's not selfish. It doesn't have to be expensive or time consuming.
- What self-care is: Tuning in to what you need and consciously receiving it gratefully. It is simple and powerful. It is nourishing. It is self-connection. It is connection with the soul
Connect With Clare:
Instagram
Facebook
Membership
I have loved sharing these nourishing conversations and the beautiful wisdom on self-care with my guests.
But today I wanted to take a step back and share my story with you. To let you know why self-care matters so much to me today. It wasn't always this way. I hated the concept of 'self-care'.
"If I had heard someone speaking about self-care, like I speak about self-care, I would have probably thrown something at me"
What I talked about:
- 10 years ago, my husband Simon and I had moved back to Sydney from London.
- We were hoping to have children, but it wasn't happening
- I'd always found that if I made the effort. If I worked hard, I could get what I wanted. This didn't apply to trying to fall pregnant
- I was learning the lessons of trust and patience
- I fell pregnant with Nina.
- My self-care journey began when Nina was born, 9 years ago
- I had wanted to be a mother as long as I could remember
- Motherhood did not come as easily as I had expected. It was hard. Which was nothing to do with Nina. It was me.
- I have been able to make an effort. To make things happen and achieve. All the things that had defined me were stripped away when I became a mum. I lost my identity.
- It felt really hard and lonely. I was suffering with Post Natal Depression
- I was encouraged to 'go do something for myself' by caring family members, but this didn't help. I didn't even know what I liked to do
- Going shopping for clothes was depressing. My body and identity had changed. Shopping exacerbated my difficulty knowing who I was now and what I needed
- I still didn't like the idea of 'self-care'
- I was asking 'What should I like to do?' rather than "What would I like to do?
- A kinesiologist helped me get in touch with my heart and get out of my head
- I worked with Rebecca Campbell, who told me that I was having a spiritual awakening
- Rebecca introduced me to the idea of courage, which means to live from the heart.
- The death of loved ones lead me to stop playing by imaginary rules and leading from my heart
- Leonie Dawson's workbooks taught me the power of questions
- Answers poured out of me and it helped me to see there was a lot of wisdom inside me when I tapped into my heart
- A key question I ask in the morning is, 'What do I need?'
- Self-care is a muscle. It can be strengthened.
- It's a devotion to yourself. Choosing yourself.
- What Self-care is not: It's not stressful. Not guilt inducing. Not a 'to do' list. It's not selfish. It doesn't have to be expensive or time consuming.
- What self-care is: Tuning in to what you need and consciously receiving it gratefully. It is simple and powerful. It is nourishing. It is self-connection. It is connection with the soul
Connect With Clare:
Membership
Dec 12, 201936:07
011 Spiritual Sustainability with Kellie Guenther
In this conversation I am talking with Kellie Guenther.
It is difficult to describe who Kellie is and what she does in a succinct way.
She discusses how we can live in alignment with Mother Earth and what that involves. She points out that the initials of Mother Earth spells 'ME'. It is Kellie's belief that care of the self (or 'ME') and care of Mother Earth are one and the same.
Kellie is uniquely qualified in what she does. She holds a Masters of Environmental Engineering Management. She has a Diploma in Yoga and is a Certified Intuitive Guide. She combines these modalities to offer an integrated and holistic approach to care of the self and care of Mother Earth. She calls this approach 'Spiritual Sustainability'.
"You don't give a shit about the planet until you give a shit about yourself," she says.
What we talked about:
- How we treat the earth and how we treat ourselves is similar
- When we are in fight or flight mode, we can't focus on caring for the earth
- When we are stressed, we lose sight of our core values
- The restorative effects of being close to nature
- Addiction is anything external to you that you rely on to make you feel good
- Sustainable action is about learning how to do things differently and getting the 'buy in' of the people in your household
- Having a solid connection with yourself and the universe
- Projecting yourself into the past or future is suffering.
- Taking action from love and gratitude rather than fear and anger
- Dealing with fatigue when you are an environmental activist
- Taking action to empower and reduce stress
- Speaking up about your actions for the environment, so that you might inspire others
- Kellie's guidance sessions are 90 minutes of "you time" that feels like a retreat. They involve being listened to, heard, and offered solutions that suit you and your life, taking into consideration where you are at and what you need
- Caring for the environment, according to Kellie, consists of three spheres: The Environmental, the Physical and the Soul
- Simple strategies to address each of these three spheres
- Gratefulness as a life changer and a way to connect with your heart, soul and the universe
- Strategies for plugging into the feeling of gratitude
Connect With Kellie
Facebook
Website
Listeners can book in for an obligation free 30 min chat below here
Connect With Clare:
Instagram
Facebook
Membership
It is difficult to describe who Kellie is and what she does in a succinct way.
She discusses how we can live in alignment with Mother Earth and what that involves. She points out that the initials of Mother Earth spells 'ME'. It is Kellie's belief that care of the self (or 'ME') and care of Mother Earth are one and the same.
Kellie is uniquely qualified in what she does. She holds a Masters of Environmental Engineering Management. She has a Diploma in Yoga and is a Certified Intuitive Guide. She combines these modalities to offer an integrated and holistic approach to care of the self and care of Mother Earth. She calls this approach 'Spiritual Sustainability'.
"You don't give a shit about the planet until you give a shit about yourself," she says.
What we talked about:
- How we treat the earth and how we treat ourselves is similar
- When we are in fight or flight mode, we can't focus on caring for the earth
- When we are stressed, we lose sight of our core values
- The restorative effects of being close to nature
- Addiction is anything external to you that you rely on to make you feel good
- Sustainable action is about learning how to do things differently and getting the 'buy in' of the people in your household
- Having a solid connection with yourself and the universe
- Projecting yourself into the past or future is suffering.
- Taking action from love and gratitude rather than fear and anger
- Dealing with fatigue when you are an environmental activist
- Taking action to empower and reduce stress
- Speaking up about your actions for the environment, so that you might inspire others
- Kellie's guidance sessions are 90 minutes of "you time" that feels like a retreat. They involve being listened to, heard, and offered solutions that suit you and your life, taking into consideration where you are at and what you need
- Caring for the environment, according to Kellie, consists of three spheres: The Environmental, the Physical and the Soul
- Simple strategies to address each of these three spheres
- Gratefulness as a life changer and a way to connect with your heart, soul and the universe
- Strategies for plugging into the feeling of gratitude
Connect With Kellie
Website
Listeners can book in for an obligation free 30 min chat below here
Connect With Clare:
Membership
Dec 05, 201956:13
010 Weaving self care into our every day and skin care with Renee Tilley
In this episode I have the pleasure of chatting with the gorgeous Renee Tilley.
Renee is a naturopath and the founder of Paudha Healing, which supplies beautiful plant-derived skincare products handmade in the Blue Mountains.
She is committed to supplying ethical, organic, beautiful products. Our conversation is around how you using these products is self care and the ritual of daily routines.
I believe that it's really important to recognise and name the things that we do on a daily basis and the decisions we make on a daily basis as self care,
When we choose to use something rich, beautiful and organic. When we use things that make us feel beautiful. These are acts of self care, that can really help to nurture and nourish us.
"I think that's such a big focus on people eating healthily, going back to basics, eating plant based foods and moving away from processed foods. It's the same with skincare. Let's get back to basics and use these beautiful plant basting ingredients. We don't need the synthetic chemicals. They're a lot cheaper to produce. But that doesn't make them good for you."
What we talked about:
• Renee's own frustration with rosacea and inability to use most over the counter products
• What she learned and applies from studying naturopathy
• Why all her products are natural, cruelty free and vegan
• That vegan does not necessarily equal natural or healthy
• Natural deodorant and why it matters
• How to make the switch to natural products with being overwhelmed
• Using Rose Quartz as part of your skin care and self care
• The 'why' and 'how' of natural skin care and how to keep it simple
Connect with Renee:
Instagram
Facebook
Website
Connect With Clare:
Instagram
Facebook
Membership
Renee is a naturopath and the founder of Paudha Healing, which supplies beautiful plant-derived skincare products handmade in the Blue Mountains.
She is committed to supplying ethical, organic, beautiful products. Our conversation is around how you using these products is self care and the ritual of daily routines.
I believe that it's really important to recognise and name the things that we do on a daily basis and the decisions we make on a daily basis as self care,
When we choose to use something rich, beautiful and organic. When we use things that make us feel beautiful. These are acts of self care, that can really help to nurture and nourish us.
"I think that's such a big focus on people eating healthily, going back to basics, eating plant based foods and moving away from processed foods. It's the same with skincare. Let's get back to basics and use these beautiful plant basting ingredients. We don't need the synthetic chemicals. They're a lot cheaper to produce. But that doesn't make them good for you."
What we talked about:
• Renee's own frustration with rosacea and inability to use most over the counter products
• What she learned and applies from studying naturopathy
• Why all her products are natural, cruelty free and vegan
• That vegan does not necessarily equal natural or healthy
• Natural deodorant and why it matters
• How to make the switch to natural products with being overwhelmed
• Using Rose Quartz as part of your skin care and self care
• The 'why' and 'how' of natural skin care and how to keep it simple
Connect with Renee:
Website
Connect With Clare:
Membership
Nov 28, 201933:35
009 Yarning circles and ancestors with Emma Steward
I'm excited to present this interview with Emma Stewart.
This interview is the catalyst for why this Salty Hair Self Care podcast now exists. Due to technical difficulties, a video component to this interview refused to record, and I was left with the audio only.
This was the nudge I needed to realise these big, beautiful conversations which I had been sharing only on Facebook were, in fact, too important not to be shared as a podcast.
Emma is a proud Aboriginal woman and the founder of Jirribitti Healing. Jirribitti means 'snake'. Emma chose this name to pay respect to traditional rainbow serpent creation stories. It also represents evolving, in the way that a snake evolves and sheds its skin.
Through Jirribitti Healing, Emma works with agencies to build strong, sustainable relationships with Aboriginal communities and creates amazing digital toolkits around self preservation and empowerment and self care practices. This includes facilitating yarning circles.
"People don't know how to treat you until you tell them. People will only treat you the way that you allow them to treat you."
What we talked about:
• The importance of giving yourself love and not neglecting yourself while giving all to others
• Give to yourself first and foremost so that you don't run on an empty cup
• Speaking to yourself kindly
• Journaling for self awareness and healing
• Daily affirmations
• Aboriginals live in the now
• Small changes leading to major healing
• The importance of boundaries
• Not giving to the point of exhaustion and resentment
• Learning to say 'no', with love
• Yarning circles - a tradition involving everyone sitting in a circle for a discussion with a desired outcome
• Yarning circles bring back that traditional concept of sitting, gathering, listening, learning
• Yarning is always done outside for connection to land
• Awareness of and connection to ancestors
• Creativity as a way of switching off over thinking, of connecting to what makes the spirit happy
Connect with Emma:
Instagram
Connect With Clare:
Instagram
Facebook
Membership
This interview is the catalyst for why this Salty Hair Self Care podcast now exists. Due to technical difficulties, a video component to this interview refused to record, and I was left with the audio only.
This was the nudge I needed to realise these big, beautiful conversations which I had been sharing only on Facebook were, in fact, too important not to be shared as a podcast.
Emma is a proud Aboriginal woman and the founder of Jirribitti Healing. Jirribitti means 'snake'. Emma chose this name to pay respect to traditional rainbow serpent creation stories. It also represents evolving, in the way that a snake evolves and sheds its skin.
Through Jirribitti Healing, Emma works with agencies to build strong, sustainable relationships with Aboriginal communities and creates amazing digital toolkits around self preservation and empowerment and self care practices. This includes facilitating yarning circles.
"People don't know how to treat you until you tell them. People will only treat you the way that you allow them to treat you."
What we talked about:
• The importance of giving yourself love and not neglecting yourself while giving all to others
• Give to yourself first and foremost so that you don't run on an empty cup
• Speaking to yourself kindly
• Journaling for self awareness and healing
• Daily affirmations
• Aboriginals live in the now
• Small changes leading to major healing
• The importance of boundaries
• Not giving to the point of exhaustion and resentment
• Learning to say 'no', with love
• Yarning circles - a tradition involving everyone sitting in a circle for a discussion with a desired outcome
• Yarning circles bring back that traditional concept of sitting, gathering, listening, learning
• Yarning is always done outside for connection to land
• Awareness of and connection to ancestors
• Creativity as a way of switching off over thinking, of connecting to what makes the spirit happy
Connect with Emma:
Connect With Clare:
Membership
Nov 21, 201942:14
008 Mitley Southey on not fitting in, sister wounds and healing ourselves
Mitle is a dear friend. A circle holder. An intuitive guide. A mentor. A mum and a partner.
She is a story shifter. A truth seeker. A believer in the power of radical alignment, courage, women, sisterhood, tea and cake, baths, journalling, co-creating, tapping and storytelling.
Her mission is to bring women together to share safely and sacredly, as we have done for hundreds and thousands of years.
In this episode, she chats with me about Sister Wounds.
"As women, we can have a tendency to talk about the sisterhood and it's become, in my view, it's become a bit of a slogan and perhaps there's not a lot of substance under it sometimes.
When I look back at my history of relationships with women, my first experiences, I've never felt that I fit it in. I've never found it easy to make friends. My first experience of kind of being really ostracized was when I was 11 years old at my very first boarding school. And I was ostracized by an entire year level.
It was an experience that showed me how girls, women can treat one another. And it wasn't just the women in my year. When my parents complained, I was then treated in a dreadful way by the house mistress. And I was really singled out for being a troublemaker."
In exploring other women's experiences, Mitle discovered:
"We all had times and places where we had been abused, mistreated, ostracized, fallen out with, had conflict that was never resolved with another woman. And so as we were stepping into this idea of women rising again, and coming together in these places to share and be with one another, underlying that was a current of mistrust"
What we talked about:
• Being honest enough to admit, 'I have supported other women. I have been harmed by other women. And, I have harmed other women'.
• Owning and unpacking the shadow helps us heal it
• Being radically honest with ourselves
• Taking care of ourselves means taking care of ALL the aspects of ourselves, mind, emotions, soul and body
• Looking at ourselves with curiosity, forgiveness, compassion and love
• The history of witch hunts and how this affects women today.
• During these times, any gathering of women could be accused of being witchcraft
• Past lives and how they affect our current situation
• Fight or flight response is based on masculine energy. There is very little attention to women and how women react in stress
• Women's response is often gather together to tend and befriend, rather than fight or flight
• The experience of women being pitted against each other in a competitive way
• A subtle mis-trusting of each other which may not be something that is recognised at a conscious level
• A great way to heal these wounds is in a circle, with women who are open to this work
• Becoming aware of your judgements. How do you judge other women?
• Where there is judgement, it is a reflection that it's a part of yourself that you're not accepting.
• Journalling is a great way to dig deep and uncover what is going on.
• Tapping (EFT) as another helpful tool to clear blocks and heal
Connect with Mitlé
Website
Facebook
Instagram
Connect With Clare:
Instagram
Facebook
Membership
She is a story shifter. A truth seeker. A believer in the power of radical alignment, courage, women, sisterhood, tea and cake, baths, journalling, co-creating, tapping and storytelling.
Her mission is to bring women together to share safely and sacredly, as we have done for hundreds and thousands of years.
In this episode, she chats with me about Sister Wounds.
"As women, we can have a tendency to talk about the sisterhood and it's become, in my view, it's become a bit of a slogan and perhaps there's not a lot of substance under it sometimes.
When I look back at my history of relationships with women, my first experiences, I've never felt that I fit it in. I've never found it easy to make friends. My first experience of kind of being really ostracized was when I was 11 years old at my very first boarding school. And I was ostracized by an entire year level.
It was an experience that showed me how girls, women can treat one another. And it wasn't just the women in my year. When my parents complained, I was then treated in a dreadful way by the house mistress. And I was really singled out for being a troublemaker."
In exploring other women's experiences, Mitle discovered:
"We all had times and places where we had been abused, mistreated, ostracized, fallen out with, had conflict that was never resolved with another woman. And so as we were stepping into this idea of women rising again, and coming together in these places to share and be with one another, underlying that was a current of mistrust"
What we talked about:
• Being honest enough to admit, 'I have supported other women. I have been harmed by other women. And, I have harmed other women'.
• Owning and unpacking the shadow helps us heal it
• Being radically honest with ourselves
• Taking care of ourselves means taking care of ALL the aspects of ourselves, mind, emotions, soul and body
• Looking at ourselves with curiosity, forgiveness, compassion and love
• The history of witch hunts and how this affects women today.
• During these times, any gathering of women could be accused of being witchcraft
• Past lives and how they affect our current situation
• Fight or flight response is based on masculine energy. There is very little attention to women and how women react in stress
• Women's response is often gather together to tend and befriend, rather than fight or flight
• The experience of women being pitted against each other in a competitive way
• A subtle mis-trusting of each other which may not be something that is recognised at a conscious level
• A great way to heal these wounds is in a circle, with women who are open to this work
• Becoming aware of your judgements. How do you judge other women?
• Where there is judgement, it is a reflection that it's a part of yourself that you're not accepting.
• Journalling is a great way to dig deep and uncover what is going on.
• Tapping (EFT) as another helpful tool to clear blocks and heal
Connect with Mitlé
Website
Connect With Clare:
Membership
Nov 14, 201949:52
007 Swapna Thomas on owning our zone of genius
Swapna Thomas is a Business Mentor, Message Liberator, Content Queen & Resident Rebel.
She is on a mission to help creative, trailblazing and driven women take their genius and convert it into a MAGNETIC MESSAGE and COMPELLING CONTENT.
I have always been drawn to Swapna for her passion and energy with which she shows up in all aspects of her life.
She describes herself as a 'raging feminist'.
She works with people to embrace their inner rebel and do business and life 100% on purpose.
"Having our own identity is the first part of finding our purpose, knowing who we are and what are we meant for here.
It's the pursuit of self. That's the focus. And you will find layers upon layers of what your purpose is all the time.
When you're looking at everything from your business lens, you don't look at your love life. You don't want to look at your childhood and you don't want to look at how did you do arts and crafts at that time. But those are the things that enriche your business. Especially any time before we were 10 or younger. There are things that you do did unconsciously because you didn't have all these filters."
What we talked about:
- What does it mean to live 100% on purpose
- India's history of slavery, displacement and shame, and therefore loss purpose of purpose and belonging that followed
- Women's role of belonging first to their father, then after marriage, belonging to their husband and his family
- Women's identity as being in relation to someone
- Pursuit of self is what is required to discover purpose
- Swapna's purpose is to raise consciousness and enable women to own their genius
- Swapna's approach to guiding clients to find their purpose through questions
- She delves into her client's timeline. What has lead you to this moment? What are the forgotten pieces of your journey?
- Holding space for people so that they feel safe to reveal the things that are going on in their head.
- One of the biggest reasons women struggling their business is their fear around stepping into a bigger version of themselves.
- The importance of owning your genius
- Overcoming the programming women have had ingrained over generations to stay small and don't attract attention
Connect with Swapna:
Instagram
Facebook
Website
Connect With Clare:
Instagram
Facebook
Membership
Nov 07, 201953:42
006 Natasha Arora on the power of dance
This is an especially joyful episode. I chat with Natasha Arora. Natasha is a dancer and a dance teacher. She holds dance classes where women, mainly mums, can dance to retro music and rediscover forgotten aspects of themselves.
So this episode is about dancing as self care.
Natasha has a beautiful insight into how dancing physically helps us. She also articulates how dancing has helped her through tough periods in her life. It made her feel like she was escaping. Becoming someone else.
As she reflects back, she has now come to realise that dancing actually helps her recognise and reclaim who she truly is.
What we talked about:
• Dance was a form of escape for her during troubled times in her childhood
• The importance of doing more of what lifts your energy. That's where your values are.
• Music and dance is about letting go
• Dance helps bring back your inner diva. Your lost mojo.
• Natasha's classes are intended to help you remember how it feels to be the most confident you
• Dance helps remind you that you still have 'that hot sauce in your bag'
• Having a regular dance class helps 'to remind me that I have that part of my personality, which is jovial and wants to be lighthearted'
• Self care can be having coffee on the balcony with amazing view
• Adding new, positive rituals to crowd out the bad ones, so as not to feel deprived
• Keep doing the things you love
• Clare's challenge: dance! Film yourself. Post it with the hashtag #ZimZumDance
Connect with Natasha:
Instagram
Facebook
Connect with Clare:
Instagram
Facebook
Membership
Everything Else
So this episode is about dancing as self care.
Natasha has a beautiful insight into how dancing physically helps us. She also articulates how dancing has helped her through tough periods in her life. It made her feel like she was escaping. Becoming someone else.
As she reflects back, she has now come to realise that dancing actually helps her recognise and reclaim who she truly is.
What we talked about:
• Dance was a form of escape for her during troubled times in her childhood
• The importance of doing more of what lifts your energy. That's where your values are.
• Music and dance is about letting go
• Dance helps bring back your inner diva. Your lost mojo.
• Natasha's classes are intended to help you remember how it feels to be the most confident you
• Dance helps remind you that you still have 'that hot sauce in your bag'
• Having a regular dance class helps 'to remind me that I have that part of my personality, which is jovial and wants to be lighthearted'
• Self care can be having coffee on the balcony with amazing view
• Adding new, positive rituals to crowd out the bad ones, so as not to feel deprived
• Keep doing the things you love
• Clare's challenge: dance! Film yourself. Post it with the hashtag #ZimZumDance
Connect with Natasha:
Connect with Clare:
Membership
Everything Else
Oct 29, 201933:25
005 Samantha Payne on the journey of pregnancy loss
In this episode I chat with Samantha Payne of The Pink Elephants Network.
This episode is dedicated to women and their partners who have been through the loss of their pregnancy and infants, and the bubbas who are not in their arms but forever in our hearts.
I invite you to listen with discernment: please be aware if this topic is tender and upsetting for you.
Through her work with The Pink Elephants Network, Samantha has helped over 15,000 couples and has been named Telstra Business Woman of the Year in the Purpose and Social Enterprise category.
What we talked about:
- How do you take care of your self and keep a sense of who you are through miscarriage?
- Her journey of pregnancy loss
- The beautiful work of The Pink Elephants Support Network of validation, peer support, online communities and advocacy
- Women who have been through miscarriage are some of the most courageous and strong - they deserve to be celebrated and held
- What is "normal" and the power of grieving - your loss matters, your babies matter - no matter how early or how small
- What self care looked like for Sam in the midst of her journey: talking, acknowledging those babies, journaling, yoga, slowing down for some of the day, sleep, working hard on other things, psychologist, medication
- "I didn't need fixing - just people to sit with me in the darkness"
- The power of women - it is cathartic and healing to be in the presence of other women
- The power of validation and acceptance of self - that it is ok and normal to feel jealous, guilty, "why isn't it me?"
- What self care now looks like: finding pockets of time for her self, breathwork, the wisdom of Gwinganna retreat: how to live sustainability, surrounding her self with a group of women who hold space and help with the practical side too, she is always learning
- Details of the Pink Elephants Support Network online resources for women, partners and friends
- October is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month
Connect With Sam:
Website
Facebook
Instagram
Connect With Clare:
Instagram
Facebook
Membership
This episode is dedicated to women and their partners who have been through the loss of their pregnancy and infants, and the bubbas who are not in their arms but forever in our hearts.
I invite you to listen with discernment: please be aware if this topic is tender and upsetting for you.
Through her work with The Pink Elephants Network, Samantha has helped over 15,000 couples and has been named Telstra Business Woman of the Year in the Purpose and Social Enterprise category.
What we talked about:
- How do you take care of your self and keep a sense of who you are through miscarriage?
- Her journey of pregnancy loss
- The beautiful work of The Pink Elephants Support Network of validation, peer support, online communities and advocacy
- Women who have been through miscarriage are some of the most courageous and strong - they deserve to be celebrated and held
- What is "normal" and the power of grieving - your loss matters, your babies matter - no matter how early or how small
- What self care looked like for Sam in the midst of her journey: talking, acknowledging those babies, journaling, yoga, slowing down for some of the day, sleep, working hard on other things, psychologist, medication
- "I didn't need fixing - just people to sit with me in the darkness"
- The power of women - it is cathartic and healing to be in the presence of other women
- The power of validation and acceptance of self - that it is ok and normal to feel jealous, guilty, "why isn't it me?"
- What self care now looks like: finding pockets of time for her self, breathwork, the wisdom of Gwinganna retreat: how to live sustainability, surrounding her self with a group of women who hold space and help with the practical side too, she is always learning
- Details of the Pink Elephants Support Network online resources for women, partners and friends
- October is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month
Connect With Sam:
Website
Connect With Clare:
Membership
Oct 24, 201944:47
004 Tamana Ehsan on self care that was already there
In this conversation I'm talking to Tamana Ehsan. I love how she came to realise that her daily rituals she was already practising as a Muslim woman were actually an opportunity for self-care.
Tamana beautifully articulates how she realised that when she prays 5 times a day, she has 5 opportunities for moments of self-connection and connection to God.
"That five times of prayer is that moment where I can just connect and just have that peace of mind. It's become a form of meditation when I'm standing in that position five times a day that I'm actually pausing in between what I'm saying, and taking a deep breath in and a deep breath out"
What we talked about:
- Salah - the prayer that is performed five times per day
- Hijab as an opportunity to express your faith and identity, as some people do with tattoos and other forms of visual expression
- Judgement versus respect in how we ask about people's choices in how they present themselves
- Recognising acts of self-care in daily actions. Becoming conscious.
- Remembering to notice beauty in the everyday and being thankful to God
- Shifting perspective from obligations to opportunities and gratitude
- Shifting from 'I want' to 'I'm grateful for'
- How Ramadan can help in becoming conscious of choosing your thoughts and becoming aware of how you spend your time
- The sense of communal connection in practising rituals of faith together
- The power in the last ten days of Ramadan
Connect With Clare:
Instagram
Facebook
Membership
Tamana beautifully articulates how she realised that when she prays 5 times a day, she has 5 opportunities for moments of self-connection and connection to God.
"That five times of prayer is that moment where I can just connect and just have that peace of mind. It's become a form of meditation when I'm standing in that position five times a day that I'm actually pausing in between what I'm saying, and taking a deep breath in and a deep breath out"
What we talked about:
- Salah - the prayer that is performed five times per day
- Hijab as an opportunity to express your faith and identity, as some people do with tattoos and other forms of visual expression
- Judgement versus respect in how we ask about people's choices in how they present themselves
- Recognising acts of self-care in daily actions. Becoming conscious.
- Remembering to notice beauty in the everyday and being thankful to God
- Shifting perspective from obligations to opportunities and gratitude
- Shifting from 'I want' to 'I'm grateful for'
- How Ramadan can help in becoming conscious of choosing your thoughts and becoming aware of how you spend your time
- The sense of communal connection in practising rituals of faith together
- The power in the last ten days of Ramadan
Connect With Clare:
Membership
Oct 23, 201901:00:35
003 Robyn Silverton on Base Chakra & Over Mattering
In today's episode I chat with the delightful, gorgeous, wise Robyn Silverton, and we dive into the topic of chakras, focusing on the base chakra and the concept of 'over mattering'.
For more than 30 years, Robyn has been working with people who really want to feel better. First as a physio, then as a yoga teacher and also running retreats as an integrative health practitioner.
She has a completely wholehearted and holistic approach and and is really interested in and passionate about tending to the physical as well as the emotional and the spiritual bodies.
From personal experience, I can say she has a truly intuitive, quiet, strong, wise and kind approach that is an absolute gift to behold.
The key to it in my book to self-care is self awareness because when you have self-awareness, you have choice.
What we talked about:
- How, as a practitioner, it isn't a matter of her treating her patient. She and her patient are a unit. It's a dance together in an energy field
- Her work is about seeing and feeling into what is
- How self-awareness is key to self-care
- The root chakra is about stability, foundations, solidity, your matter
- Robyn asks, 'What matters too much? What are you over invested in?'
- Techniques for grounding and centering yourself before dealing with difficult situations
- Walking, breathing and moving to move stagnant, heavy energy
- Short self-care activities that don't take any extra time in your day
- The root chakra and the energy of the earth
- Becoming aware of the places in nature that give you that sense of support
- The importance of knowing what you stand for, what you believe in, how you can embody your beautiful, unique energy
- Also the importance of becoming aware of what you are overzealous about. Where are you a control freak in your life?
- And we do a delicious meditation practice to close! J
Connect With Robyn:
Website
Facebook
Instagram
Connect With Clare:
Instagram
Facebook
Membership
For more than 30 years, Robyn has been working with people who really want to feel better. First as a physio, then as a yoga teacher and also running retreats as an integrative health practitioner.
She has a completely wholehearted and holistic approach and and is really interested in and passionate about tending to the physical as well as the emotional and the spiritual bodies.
From personal experience, I can say she has a truly intuitive, quiet, strong, wise and kind approach that is an absolute gift to behold.
The key to it in my book to self-care is self awareness because when you have self-awareness, you have choice.
What we talked about:
- How, as a practitioner, it isn't a matter of her treating her patient. She and her patient are a unit. It's a dance together in an energy field
- Her work is about seeing and feeling into what is
- How self-awareness is key to self-care
- The root chakra is about stability, foundations, solidity, your matter
- Robyn asks, 'What matters too much? What are you over invested in?'
- Techniques for grounding and centering yourself before dealing with difficult situations
- Walking, breathing and moving to move stagnant, heavy energy
- Short self-care activities that don't take any extra time in your day
- The root chakra and the energy of the earth
- Becoming aware of the places in nature that give you that sense of support
- The importance of knowing what you stand for, what you believe in, how you can embody your beautiful, unique energy
- Also the importance of becoming aware of what you are overzealous about. Where are you a control freak in your life?
- And we do a delicious meditation practice to close! J
Connect With Robyn:
Website
Connect With Clare:
Membership
Oct 10, 201947:54
002 Mary Houston on Rewriting Our Stories
In this episode I chat with Mary Houston.
I have been coached by Mary in life and business. She is a personal growth pioneer.
She home schools a high needs son and understands firsthand that finding ways to care for the self can be easier said than done.
Mary's approach is compassionate, insightful, intuitive with a touch of ass kicking and radical honesty.
What we talked about:
- That what self-care 'should' look like is non-existent in Mary's life, with the demands of raising and home schooling a high needs son
- The challenge of having zero time to one's self
- Noticing the small things in the moment as an act of self-care
- Letting 'self-care be what it needs to be on any given day'
- Lessons on self-care from Nelson Mandela
- Feeling hopeless in your situation and anger at those who suggest your reasons for not caring for yourself are 'excuses'.
- Self-love as the gateway to self-care
- Loving yourself because of your humanness, not despite it
- Using your hardships and challenges as anchors by facing them and embracing them. Not easy, but possible.
- Challenging the absolute truth of your stories
Connect With Mary:
Website
Facebook
Instagram
Connect With Clare:
Instagram
Facebook
Membership
I have been coached by Mary in life and business. She is a personal growth pioneer.
She home schools a high needs son and understands firsthand that finding ways to care for the self can be easier said than done.
Mary's approach is compassionate, insightful, intuitive with a touch of ass kicking and radical honesty.
What we talked about:
- That what self-care 'should' look like is non-existent in Mary's life, with the demands of raising and home schooling a high needs son
- The challenge of having zero time to one's self
- Noticing the small things in the moment as an act of self-care
- Letting 'self-care be what it needs to be on any given day'
- Lessons on self-care from Nelson Mandela
- Feeling hopeless in your situation and anger at those who suggest your reasons for not caring for yourself are 'excuses'.
- Self-love as the gateway to self-care
- Loving yourself because of your humanness, not despite it
- Using your hardships and challenges as anchors by facing them and embracing them. Not easy, but possible.
- Challenging the absolute truth of your stories
Connect With Mary:
Website
Connect With Clare:
Membership
Oct 03, 201951:21
001 Clare Foale - Welcome to Salty Hair Self Care
Hello and welcome to the Salty Hair Self Care Conversations! I'm Clare and I just wanted to take this opportunity to say hi and to welcome you.
Before we dive into it, there's a couple of things that want to explain about how these conversations go.
I like to start each episode by opening the space, which is here for these conversations.
Each episode, I invite you take a few deep breaths and take a few moments to get centred and present, as we set our intention for the conversation.
Then we acknowledge the traditional custodians of our land, wherever we may be.
For me, I acknowledge the traditional custodians where I'm sitting and this is the Guringai People. They are the traditional custodians of this land. I recognise and respect their cultural heritage, beliefs and relationship. Since time began. I pay my respects to elders past and present and acknowledge the Aboriginal and Torres Strait islanders as the first people of Australia. They have never ceded sovereignty and remained strong in their enduring connection to land waters and culture. I support Uluru Statement from the Heart.
In this first episode I introduce you to this podcast and how it came to be.
I talk about:
- My journey discovering and understanding self care and self connection
- My changing perception of what self care looks like and means
- Asking 'What do I need today?'
- From Zim Zum to Salty Hair
- Lessons and opportunities from life and it's challenges
- Embracing imperfection
- The gifts others have to offer and will be sharing with me in this podcast
- My plan going forward
I can't wait for you to join me on this journey of self-care discovery together.
Connect with Me:
Instagram
Facebook
Membership
Everything Else
Before we dive into it, there's a couple of things that want to explain about how these conversations go.
I like to start each episode by opening the space, which is here for these conversations.
Each episode, I invite you take a few deep breaths and take a few moments to get centred and present, as we set our intention for the conversation.
Then we acknowledge the traditional custodians of our land, wherever we may be.
For me, I acknowledge the traditional custodians where I'm sitting and this is the Guringai People. They are the traditional custodians of this land. I recognise and respect their cultural heritage, beliefs and relationship. Since time began. I pay my respects to elders past and present and acknowledge the Aboriginal and Torres Strait islanders as the first people of Australia. They have never ceded sovereignty and remained strong in their enduring connection to land waters and culture. I support Uluru Statement from the Heart.
In this first episode I introduce you to this podcast and how it came to be.
I talk about:
- My journey discovering and understanding self care and self connection
- My changing perception of what self care looks like and means
- Asking 'What do I need today?'
- From Zim Zum to Salty Hair
- Lessons and opportunities from life and it's challenges
- Embracing imperfection
- The gifts others have to offer and will be sharing with me in this podcast
- My plan going forward
I can't wait for you to join me on this journey of self-care discovery together.
Connect with Me:
Membership
Everything Else
Sep 26, 201914:22