say what?

say what?

By Say What?

On the say what? podcast, we help Christian women overcome toxic purity culture, be confident in their sex lives, heal from painful sex, and feel less alone!

Hanna believes that everyone has a seat on her couch, regardless of who you are, and it will never be too full for you to sit down. She currently lives in North Carolina with her husband, Thomas, her son, and her dog. Let's talk about things people don't want to say... out loud!
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Getting Pregnant Is Hard

say what?Feb 05, 2025
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I Had A Miscarriage

I Had A Miscarriage

TW: baby lossHanna experienced a miscarriage and is sharing her experience. If you’ve been through this, you are not alone ❤️
Apr 14, 202552:41
How to Talk to Your Partner About Sex

How to Talk to Your Partner About Sex

Talking to your partner about sex doesn’t have to be scary or awkward! Today Hanna breaks down how to talk about sex, how to initiate, and how to talk about it when you’re engaged.Condoms LubeThe Christian Sex Educator Courses
Apr 02, 202530:55
Purity Isn’t The Enemy, Purity Culture Is

Purity Isn’t The Enemy, Purity Culture Is

Hanna is back after taking a week off! We catch up about the past few weeks and then talk about how purity isn’t the enemy, but purity culture is.Hanna’s new fave tank top!! She wears MediumThe Eden USE CODE ‘POD’
Mar 26, 202535:28
“Un-Sexy” Products That I Can’t Live Without

“Un-Sexy” Products That I Can’t Live Without

Today Hanna shares some of her (and yours!) favorite daily products that you can’t live without, or just elevate your life and make it better!All Productssay what? Instagram
Mar 12, 202534:55
How To Track Your Fertility

How To Track Your Fertility

Hanna is joined by Holly Grigg-Spall from the Daysy team! Daysy is a hormone-free fertility tracker device. They chat about why tracking your fertility improves your overall health, how using Daysy can help with pregnancy planning, and how knowing your data helps you plan for your life. Use code SAYWHAT for 15% off Daysy!Daysy on instagram
Mar 05, 202544:37
How to Look Forward to Sex w/ Kingdom Sexuality

How to Look Forward to Sex w/ Kingdom Sexuality

Alana and Tiera from the Kingdom Sexuality Podcast joins us today to help the Christian girls actually ENJOY sex, so it’s something you look forward to! Kingdom SexualityFollow Kingdom Sexuality on Instagram!
Feb 26, 202554:21
Is Masturbation a Sin?

Is Masturbation a Sin?

Today Hanna chats about a very nuanced topic, masturbation. Miss Virginia Williams StoryInstagramTikTokYouTube
Feb 19, 202558:07
Your Hairstyle Means You Consented to Sex?

Your Hairstyle Means You Consented to Sex?

TW: Sexual abuseHanna chats about a new law in Colorado that makes it illegal to say “what was she wearing?”! More Info About The Lawhttps://sbaproject.org/what-were-you-wearing/
Feb 12, 202526:29
Getting Pregnant Is Hard

Getting Pregnant Is Hard

Hanna is not pregnant, but would like to be! Today she shares life updates, thoughts on The Grammy’s, and gets vulnerable about trying to get pregnant with baby number 2. Vaginismus & Valentine’s Day grwm vlog! My favorite jewelry - Ana Luisa!
Feb 05, 202527:55
Unequally yoked relationships, condoms, & imposter syndrome

Unequally yoked relationships, condoms, & imposter syndrome

It’s time for an advice column! We chatted about red flags in relationships, what to do when painful sex isn’t getting better, and tips for finishing during sex.  Dr. Janelle Jess from Pain Free Intimacy Mind-Body-Sex Reset use code SAYWHAT5 for 5% off! Vibrator
Jan 29, 202546:04
Men Can Handle the Mental Load - VIDEO

Men Can Handle the Mental Load - VIDEO

Today Hanna gives life updates about getting hit on at Target, her sourdough journey, and her vision board. She talks about a piece of marriage advice that is game changing for your lives! MENTIONABLES: https://www.shopmentionables.com/SAYWHAT Code: Saywhat
Jan 22, 202544:26
Men Can Handle the Mental Load

Men Can Handle the Mental Load

Today Hanna gives life updates about getting hit on at Target, her sourdough journey, and her vision board. She talks about a piece of marriage advice that is game changing for your lives! MENTIONABLES: https://www.shopmentionables.com/SAYWHAT Code: Saywhat
Jan 22, 202544:22
Shifting Your Mindset about Vaginismus w/ Jess Seitz

Shifting Your Mindset about Vaginismus w/ Jess Seitz

Jess Seitz from Pain Free Intimacy joins us today to use The Eden specifically for overcoming negative mindsets with vaginismus. We talk about lies you believe while having vaginismus and how to replace them with truth.  The EdenMind-Body-Sex Reset use code SAYWHAT5 for 5% off!
Jan 15, 202553:37
At home date night ideas!

At home date night ideas!

This year we are having more date nights at home! Hanna shares how to prep & plan the coziest & most connecting date nights at home.  Purchase The Eden Amazon Storefront
Jan 08, 202529:42
2025 Dreams

2025 Dreams

Happy New Year!! Hanna shares how she’s feeling going into the new year & her hopes and dreams for 2025!  www.theedenotepad.com
Jan 01, 202534:29
Healing Vaginismus w/ Vagina Rehab Doctor, Dr. Janelle

Healing Vaginismus w/ Vagina Rehab Doctor, Dr. Janelle

Dr. Janelle Frederick joins Hanna today to chat about the MAPP process of healing your painful sex. They also discuss ways to spice up your sex life while dealing with painful intercourse.  Vaginimus 2 Vagilicous 7 Day Challenge 10% off using code: HANNA Follow Dr. Janelle on Instagram!  Vagina Rehab Doctor Website https://amzn.to/3Bz15L6
Dec 19, 202401:00:19
How to Prioritize Your Marriage w/ Young Kids

How to Prioritize Your Marriage w/ Young Kids

Prioritizing your marriage with young kids is difficult, but not impossible! Hanna shares what has worked in her marriage and what she wished she’d done differently in the early stages.  THE EDEN IS NOW ON AMAZON!  Would love if you would grab The Eden on Amazon and leave a review letting me know how much you love it!
Dec 11, 202440:52
Surviving Vaginismus During the Holidays

Surviving Vaginismus During the Holidays

Hanna shares her life updates (a big one for Tate!) and her guide to surviving vaginismus during the holiday season! Getting through the holidays with vaginismus is hard, but not impossible. You are not alone! ShopMy  The Eden
Dec 04, 202434:21
Vibrators in the Trunk

Vibrators in the Trunk

This week Hanna reads some of your insane Thanksgiving stories!!

Nov 27, 202423:06
Boundaries Are Getting In Your Way

Boundaries Are Getting In Your Way

Today is one year since Hanna had surgery on her leg due to breaking it! She talks about how she was taken care of by her family and community and how life changing that was. She talks about how sometimes boundaries can stop us from doing nice things for others.  The Eden - code POD for 10% off!
Nov 20, 202429:59
Disconnecting Your Sexuality from Your Worth

Disconnecting Your Sexuality from Your Worth

Today Hanna chats about disconnecting your sexuality from your worth as a person or wife. She talks about purity culture linking your purity to your identity and then when you get married, the harmful effects of obligation sex.  THE EDEN! Use code “POD” for 15% off!
Nov 13, 202430:28
Someone's Screw Is Loose

Someone's Screw Is Loose

Dropping in some quick encouragement for you today. Whether you’re rejoicing or grieving, we are called to be kind to others. Hanna shares life updates that include hospital visits, a loose screw, losing a medical bill battle, and more!
Nov 06, 202419:44
Spooky Purity Culture Stories!

Spooky Purity Culture Stories!

It’s a haunted house, but it’s actually your teacher making you put a quarter in your pants to see how tight they are?? These stories are truly CRAZY! Nothing actually *scary* in this episode though, no worries! THE EDEN - use code “POD” for 10% off!
Oct 30, 202431:41
MEET THE EDEN!!

MEET THE EDEN!!

Hanna reveals her new product: THE EDEN! Hear the story of how she got this idea, created it, the Lords blessings over it, and more!  GET YOURS TODAY AT www.theedennotepad.com. Use code “POD” for 10% off!
Oct 23, 202428:46
Recovering From Purity Culture with Dr. Camden Morgante

Recovering From Purity Culture with Dr. Camden Morgante

Dr. Camden Morgante joins us today to talk about her new book, Recovering From Purity Culture! We talked about the 5 myths of purity culture, soul ties, deconstruction and more! Follow Camden on Instagram! https://www.instagram.com/drcamden Buy Recovering From Purity Culture https://drcamden.com/book/ Watch on Youtube https://www.youtube.com/@say.whatpodcast Follow say what? on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/say.whatpodcast
Oct 16, 202449:16
My Husband Asks Me “Men” Questions!

My Husband Asks Me “Men” Questions!

It’s Thomas’ turn to ask Hanna some questions about “men” things! 

Oct 02, 202445:37
Encouragement for the Vaginismus Girlies

Encouragement for the Vaginismus Girlies

If you’re experiencing painful sex or have vaginismus, this episode is for you
Sep 25, 202430:05
Overcoming Intrusive Thoughts

Overcoming Intrusive Thoughts

Today Hanna chats about turning her crappy day around, spiritual warfare, a recap of The Secret Lives of Mormon Wives, and shares how she overcomes her intrusive thoughts. If you love the podcast, can you please leave a 5 star rating and review?! Would mean the world!! Follow Hanna on Instagram! YouTube
Sep 18, 202438:56
A Guide to Increasing Sex Drive with Ladies Talking Love

A Guide to Increasing Sex Drive with Ladies Talking Love

Hanna is joined by Ariel Finlinson to chat about how to increase your sexual desire! Do you feel like your desire is basically none? Honestly, it’s probably not that low, it just doesn’t look like we think it should.  Follow Ariel on Instagram! Ladies Talking Love Website Follow Hanna on Instagram say what? On YouTube
Sep 11, 202450:48
Asking my husband “women” questions!

Asking my husband “women” questions!

Hanna’s husband Thomas joins her today to answer questions like “what’s a peplum top?” and “what’s a wand?” Lots of laughs were had. Follow @workharddadhard on Instagram say what? On Youtube @say.whatpodcast on Instagram
Sep 04, 202430:34
Vaginismus, period products, BJs, and more!

Vaginismus, period products, BJs, and more!

Hanna is giving you her best advice today! From husbands writing in about vaginismus, to helping 18 year olds make a decision about college, she really covers it all! Pixie Cup Skyn Condoms Follow on Instagram! YouTube
Aug 28, 202436:01
We Need Equal Dress Codes

We Need Equal Dress Codes

We need equal dress codes and it’s time to talk about it! JOVI! Code “saywhat”  Ana Luisa  Follow on Insta!  Subscribe on YouTube
Aug 21, 202429:53
IUDs & being a WFH mom

IUDs & being a WFH mom

Hanna shares her insane story about her visit with her grandma, the recent news around IUDs, and her experience as a work from home mom. New York Times post about IUDs Subscribe on YouTube Follow on Instagram Follow on TikTok
Aug 14, 202442:15
Sex drives & healing updates!

Sex drives & healing updates!

Hanna’s leg is healed!!! Today’s episode she shares a vacation recap, the miraculous healing of her broken leg, and her recent discovery about sex drives.
Aug 07, 202435:05
Talking to Your Kids About Sex w/ The Christian Sex Educator

Talking to Your Kids About Sex w/ The Christian Sex Educator

Carlie Palmer-Webb, The Christian Sex Educator, joins Hanna to chat about how to talk to your kids about sex. Hanna and Carlie talk about the barriers that keep you from talking to your kids, how to prevent assault, how to talk about abstinence, and more! Follow Carlie on Instagram All of Carlie’s Guides
Jul 31, 202453:05
INSANE in-law stories

INSANE in-law stories

Hanna’s bestie Caroline joins her to chat about life updates (spoiler: Hanna cut her hair and she hates it) and shares your insane in-law stories.
Jul 24, 202432:51
healing isn't happening...

healing isn't happening...

Hanna shares her disappointments with her physical healing. She also talks about the Dallas Cowboy Cheerleaders! Subscribe on YouTube Follow on Instagram
Jul 10, 202433:04
Helping Women Overcome Porn Addictions w/ The Victory Collective

Helping Women Overcome Porn Addictions w/ The Victory Collective

Amanda Aanestad from The Victory Collective joins Hanna to talk about having a porn addiction as a woman. We talk about her story and experience, and tips for overcoming the addiction.  Follow The Victory Collective on Instagram! The Victory Collective Resources  Follow say what? podcast on Instagram say what? on YouTube
Jul 03, 202401:02:19
For the MOMS!

For the MOMS!

 I’ve been a mom for 18 months and wanted to share some things I’ve learned! Not an expert by any means but here’s some advice
Jun 26, 202452:46
Initiating sex, coconut, and squatty potties w/ Kristen Lemmon

Initiating sex, coconut, and squatty potties w/ Kristen Lemmon

Kristen Lemmon joins us today to talk about purity culture, sex, talking to your kids about sex, removing shame, and more! We laughed until we cried !!! Follow Kristen on Instagram! Follow say what? on instagram
Jun 19, 202401:05:46
spice it up & try new things!

spice it up & try new things!

Hanna chats about trying new things with your partner and how to make it FUN!  Like and Subscribe on YouTube Vibrator!  Christian Friendly Sex Positions Christian Love Toys
Jun 13, 202428:19
she's NOT a Christian! abstinence-only sex education talk

she's NOT a Christian! abstinence-only sex education talk

Today we are chatting about abstinence only sex education and how people on the internet were telling Hanna she’s not a Christian (spoiler alert, she’s very much a Christian).  Get the $8 vibrator that will change your life!!! Jovi: Discomfort Relief, 10% off Follow Hanna on Instagram to continue the conversation 
Jun 05, 202445:10
premarital sex, porn, & female friendships

premarital sex, porn, & female friendships

It's time for another advice column!! Hanna gives her big sister/friend advice and answers your questions. She talks about premarital sex, husbands watching porn, being dependent on your bff, how to reignite intimacy, and more!! THANK YOU TO OUR SPONSOR: P.S. GETAWAYS! P.S. Getaways are a certified Travel Advisor/Planner duo and can help you plan your dream vacation, girls trip, or honeymoon! Follow P.S. Getaways on Instagram Email Emily directly to get started at emily.buchanan@luxrallytravel.com. Fill out P.S. Getaways form for more info Follow say.what podcast on Instagram to keep the convo going!
May 29, 202438:51
A Response to Harrison Butker

A Response to Harrison Butker

Harrison Butker recently gave a commencement ceremony speech at a Benedictine College. His speech spoke directly to women, telling them they have been lied to about their roles in society.  Read the transcript to the speech here: https://www.forbes.com/sites/jamesfarrell/2024/05/15/heres-harrison-butkers-controversial-commencement-speech-in-full/?sh=df53abe79374 Watch the speech here: https://youtu.be/-JS7RIKSaCc?si=FD7SEYv9Bk7ADK8_ Read about women who’ve changed the world here: https://www.historyextra.com/100-women/100-women-results/ Follow @say.whatpodcast on Instagram to continue the conversation!
May 22, 202457:32
Breast Implant Illness & Doula Things w/ Misty Stewart

Breast Implant Illness & Doula Things w/ Misty Stewart

Hanna’s doula Misty joins her on the podcast today to talk all about her journey to becoming a doula, why a doula is needed, breaks down some misconceptions about being a doula, and more! She also shares her experience with Breast Implant Illness and removing her implants recently. Follow Misty on Instagram!! Intuitive Birth website
May 15, 202454:50
Purity is for the boys, too!

Purity is for the boys, too!

Hanna chats about Taylor Swift controversy, an update on her first postpartum period, and talks about how we are ALL called to purity. 10% off the best lingerie!!! Mentionables  code: SAYWHAT
May 08, 202429:17
your partner’s beige flags

your partner’s beige flags

Hanna reads your submissions about your or your partner’s beige flags… like getting out of the shower and never drying off?? Enjoy lots of laughs today!
May 01, 202424:11
Dilating in the Desert with Jess Seitz

Dilating in the Desert with Jess Seitz

Hanna is joined by Occupational Therapist and Vaginismus Coach Jess Seitz to talk about the mental load of dilating! We talk about how to view dilating in ways other than a chore and we answer your questions.  Follow Jess on instagram Dilators 101 Resource  Follow say what? on Instagram!
Apr 24, 202443:58
All About Breastfeeding

All About Breastfeeding

Hanna shares her experience with breastfeeding, the good, the bad, and the hard. She shares one piece of advice she wishes she could tell every woman who breastfeeds, and how to navigate breastfeeding in public. PARADE! Use code “say.whatpodcast” for 20% off! Nipple Shields Breast pump - Hand held Breast pump - Hands free
Apr 17, 202427:09
Your CRAZY Sex Stories!! w/ Caroline Hughes

Your CRAZY Sex Stories!! w/ Caroline Hughes

Hanna is joined by her bff Caroline to share your crazy and funny sex stories! From breast milk to animals getting involved, these stories are so good and funny. Remember, sex isn’t like the movies! Hanna’s fave bedsheets: https://amzn.to/3JdbH2w
Apr 10, 202446:59