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By Amber.O
Podcast | Blog: How the crazy life lessons can bring about the sanity of aging gracefully as a hot mess. Over fifty years of crazy experience leads to embracing the fact, it's all OK!
Grab some wine or detox tea, let's get deep into it. There might be tears and laughter, and the discussion on how both make us pee a little.
Join Amber.O for some fun, awkward, unnecessary, intense discussions about life.
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I should be the SOFTest person alive!


I should be the SOFTest person alive!


Seriously, what is my problem?
Self help and self sabotage are over rated. Put the freaking red high heels on and get out of the comfort zone. Even for a moment or holy crap moment, it goes towards your success. We all need a push to do things that make us uncomfortable but the person that really needs to push you is you, now the trick is to find that push.
September 30, 2021
The mango happiness project: it is just an orange car
The sound is off, there is interference and I cry. You are going to love this one. for blog post related. Join the group! The mango happiness project is about mental health and finding a bit of happiness to help you deal. A very personal private thing that reminds you that you will survive it. Grief is a personal interruption to a normal way of living. It makes you change your normal to a new normal where you have to deal with loss every day. Finding a small beacon of happiness within it, is not selfish but instead a necessity to mental survival. This episode had so much technical difficulties and was so emotional but I kept it short. For more about #themango please join us on
August 06, 2021
Be KIND to yourself...
Be kind to yourself, give yourself permission to feel Not ok! If it were easy the self care book section would be empty. Are we too hard on ourselves?
June 21, 2021
I should be the SOFTest person alive!
Inherited way too much lotion! This episode expresses a celebration of emptying a bottle of leave-in hair condition. What do we need with all the little things we own? Will it be passed on after we are dead? What happens to all that junk (treasure)? I own lotions for every body part and then some. Some I acquired myself and some I carted home after my mom died. Yes...I own an abnormal amount of lotion one way or another. Tell us what you will pass on and/or what you have inherited. What will we do with it all to make us sane? @sexnfries facebook page let us know #amberslotion
April 29, 2021
Boudoir: The Self Confidence Connection
Women want to feel pretty, sexy and self confidence. Many things in life can affect our feelings of self worth and deter us from the pleasure of feeling good about ourselves. We search for self help tools to bring back our sparkle and grace. This episode explores the self confidence connection with Boudoir Photography. Interviews with the photographers that have been bringing sexy back to many women's lives. These boudoir photographers have experience in making women look sexy and helping them with their self confidence. Self image can be distorted when we internalize our doubts and expectations about our bodies. Boudoir shows a different view of ones beauty compared to our mirrors. We don't always see what others see but with these beautiful pictures we break our own boundaries and open our minds. 
December 15, 2020
The Next Episode Will Be Great! not this one
I have been working on an episode about Boudoir Photography and the self confidence connection. This episode is my crazy brain getting it ready. Creativity is weird and complicated.. or it is just me, I laugh at goat sounds also. When putting together a project from your big idea and then you actually have to focus on that project. Business can be a great thing when life does not get in the way. Productivity might be a learned quality.
December 04, 2020
Just Lose It! It is Ok to be NOT Ok
Could you suck it up buttercup, if you were told to? Do you want to? Crying sucks, being miserable sucks but it is totally OKAY to acknowledge your grief, sadness and bad mood. This does not mean you stay in a miserable state but sometimes all the positive feeling fluffy stuff covers up emotions, when they should be dealt with. This is not a happy episode but an honest look at happiness vs misery and how they need each other.
November 18, 2020
If I knew then, what I know now. All life lessons are valuable, it is never late to learn and grow into your ‘Great’. We talk about it anyway with too amazing ladies that are proving the best is yet to come as we learn from our past and find new comfort zones. Barb and Tracy and I open up the conversations about age, how life has changed and where we go from here.
September 01, 2020
This is what fifty looks like?
A fifty year old woman walks into a bar. The rest is history! We are talking menopause, emotions and mirrors. This is what fifty looks like and it takes us on a journey. We are talking about it any way! I struggled with turning 50 years old. I felt as though I was walking through a one way trap door. Once you cross
August 19, 2020
Depressed? Let's Talk About It
Just letting it all hang out and talking about depression. This is not a clinical discussion. Sit quietly, listen to my crazy and let’s discuss both sides of this depression crap that looms over us. Sorry for the buzzing in the audio, tried to cover up with some music but it is what it is.  Welcome to a version of depression that has no headlines to grab your attention. This is a conversation that allows you to think about your depression, A conversation on how others view your depression. This conversation is never easy, but...stigma should not shelter us, we can talk about it and laugh, be awkward and accept what level we are at. The sides of depression are so difficult. If you are depressed and need to talk and if you are someone who needs to talk to someone with depression...we are talking both sides and in all directions. Take that deep breath and join us on getting to know THE conversation  that does not have to scary or avoided.
April 23, 2020
Stop faking it, it is a waste of time.
Here is my rant on faking the good stuff. Stop faking everything, do not fake your emotions, feelings and orgasms. Be you no matter what. Build up from the bad and discover your good. You cannot cover up the bad stuff with a positive quote.  Just be yourself, we have all heard this before. Is it as easy as it just having the words pop out of your face?
February 28, 2020
Why "Sex'n'Fries" Exists
Sexnfries and a whole lot of whys. Finding your authentic self and telling your story to connect, laugh, discover and heal. This is the first time I exposed myself and got confused on what my authentic self was. What the hell is finding yourself anyway? It is a difficult road for most of us, to let it all hang out, let people judge you. It took me a long time to put my big girl panties on and tell my story and my truths.
January 30, 2020
Who Do You Think You Are? Self Image
In this episode, I try to bring some light on self image. I may have brought on more questions than anything else. After talking to a few people and doing some research, self image is a broad conversation. A great conversation and we need to talk about it more. What is your ideal identity and what do you want to portray to the world? Internal conversation and what we release to the world sometimes can be collide. We start with the self doubt and question things we should be comfortable with.
January 13, 2020
How Mental Are You?
How to talk about mental illness. What it means and what is the stigma surrounding it. Welcome to mental illness, the conversation that has to go past a simple sentence. You have to commit to that conversation. You can’t just say, “Hey I have a mental illness” and leave it there. You have some explaining to do. People should not fill in the rest because you will be avoided or come off crazier than you are.  Although I discuss mental illness on the podcast, thought I would put some more information on the blog also.
December 19, 2019
What the Hell Am I Doing?
How to start something you are totally afraid to do. Where do you find bravery and ignore your shaky voice, keep focused and not run out of the room. My first episode is not the best and the sound is off and I talk too slow but I did it and it feels amazing and terrifying all at one time. It is real, honest and I can finally breathe except for the moments of anxiety I will have, thinking that someone might actually listen to it.
December 09, 2019
Sex’n’Fries by Amber.O
Conversations, topics, subjects, we don’t like to talk about but will anyway. Discussions for living authentic. Subscribe now to the podcast and don’t miss out talking about self care for body, mind and spirit. We get real and talk about things that hard to talk about. We will laugh and cry but do it with out big girl/boy pants on
December 08, 2019