When you hear the word “seduction” you may immediately get images of some suave guy at a bar trying out his latest pickup lines on the nearest female or an image of some scantily clad woman playing strip tease to the hot guy across the room with her eyes. Seduction, in other words, is often synonymous with sexual “manipulation”.

But what if there were an entirely new way understanding of seduction? One that has nothing to do with pickup artists or master sexual manipulators (or bars!)

What if we understood seduction as our innate capacity to access desire and pleasure within our very own bodies and as a pathway to navigating erotic connection with another? (And nothing at all to do with fake pickup lines or false eyelashes?)

When we come to understand seduction by this definition, we gain greater access to our ability to:

Create deeper intimacy in our relationships
Create emotional safety
Understand how our past lives on in our bodies and what to do to resolve negative memories and emotions for good.
Share our sexual fantasies with our partners in a way that feels safe for us to do so.

From this perspective, seduction becomes an ongoing practice of learning to slow down, of learning how to re-connect deeply with our own bodies, of becoming radically present to exactly what is happening in in the here and now. It is an art of becoming more and more present. And in becoming more present we gain access to greater and greater amounts of pleasure, connection, intimacy and love.

Seduction is ultimately the art of knowing ourselves more deeply and learning to share ourselves more authentically with another (this is a far cry from manipulation!)

In this weeks episode of the Sex Talk Cafe I have the pleasure to introduce you to my dear friend and colleague Peter Craig, MA, LPC. Peter will be sharing with us more about this erotic art of seduction and how you can gain access to more pleasure in your own life when you learn the skillful art of presence and awareness.

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Sex Talk CafeBy Susan Morgan Taylor, MA, Couples Sex Therapist, Intimacy and Relationship CoachFeb 06, 2024