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Toxic Masculinity - Behind The Mask

Toxic Masculinity - Behind The Mask

By Shari
In this podcast series, I’ll be talking about men - masculinity, mental health and wellbeing. We will look at the role society plays in traditional and cultural perceptions of what it means to be a man and how that affects the wellbeing of the men in our lives.
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Toxic Masculinity - Behind The Mask with Jeff

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Toxic Masculinity - Behind The Mask with Neil
In this episode, I talk to Neil who is an author, meditation, mindfulness and Reiki practitioner who had a successful career as a civil law barrister. Neil embraces both his spiritual practice and his corporate background, and is the founder of The Conscious Professional offering mindfulness, resilience and emotional intelligence practices to the leaders of big corporate. We looked at how being gay in a masculine culture affected him growing up and how toxic masculine traits shows up in the corporate world. We also explored the ways a lack of positive male leadership role models has contributed to men’s mental health crisis. Without self-awareness, emotional self-regulation isn’t possible and showing men there is everything to be gained by their vulnerability can lead to the healing that is so much needed, as well as calling out toxic behaviour. More about Neil and his work can be found on his website https://neilseligman.com/ And if you would like to get in touch with me, send me a message at shari@sharilewisonfrisch.com
01:01:01
February 20, 2022
Toxic Masculinity - Behind The Mask with Gerard
In this first episode of 2022, I spoke to Gerard Long who has written a book called “Living Hope”, which is the story of how he overcame immense personal loss of not one but two children and other close family members within quick succession. A few years later, Gerard had a Near Death Experience which transformed his life and he found his purpose which was to share his story with others, to give hope to other parents grieving the loss of a child and providing support for those struggling. Gerard and his wife also set up a charity “Awakening to Love” which has provided clean water to millions of families in India and Africa. You can find out more about Gerard’s book here: www.livinghopebook.com
50:56
January 07, 2022
Toxic Masculinity - Behind The Mask with Lawrence
Lawrence Prestidge is a successful children's book author who has struggled with depression and alcohol abuse, and who lost his job as a primary school teacher because of the stigma around mental health. Arguably, mental health is a topic more widely discussed today than perhaps 5 or 10 years ago, but it doesn't mean that people are any more comfortable dealing with someone suffering from depression and struggling with their mental health. The stigma is still there but less apparent. Lawrence decided to write an autobiographical book about how he overcame depression and alcohol addiction called "The Boy Who Lost His Smile". He spoke candidly about his everyday struggles to stay alive and connected to the world without the aid of alcohol. Living with the knowledge that one day he would take his own life, an inevitability which he said he had come to terms with - a matter-of-fact. Slowly Lawrence learned to forgive himself, to make the changes necessary and to reach out for help. Now, he says, he's at peace, surrounded by people who love and support him, and raise his energy. Lawrence's story is a deep look into the many faces of depression and how faith got him through.
51:09
December 09, 2021
Toxic Masculinity - Behind The Mask with Susan
This is a fascinating and intriguing look at how an absent or abusive father can leave psychological scars on his daughter's psyche that we aren't even aware of. The father-daughter relationship is pivotal in the life of a woman, and she grows up with a hole in her heart that she can't fill when she is denied that relationship.  The absent father affects her mind, body and soul and it alters the way in which the daughter sees herself in the world, how she interacts in her close relationships and her ability to love herself. This is a story that everyone needs to listen to as we are all, in some way, affected by it. Whether we had our fathers in our lives but he wasn't there emotionally for us or he wasn't a part of our lives at all.
53:10
November 22, 2021
Toxic Masculinity - Behind The Mask with Bill
In this episode, I talk with Bill about the 6 years he spend at a military boarding school in Nigeria where he quickly learned that crying was weak. You got more respect when you didn't cry during the regular beatings -being tough was something admirable. The toxic environment taught Bill how to become self-sufficient from an early age and what he had to do to stay out of trouble. In order to survive, Bill had to grow up fast. What the experience taught him was resilience and to keep trying no matter how hard. Fortunately, it looks like he's turned out to be a level-headed, ambitious young man. If you would like to share your story, drop me an email at shari@sharilewisonfrisch.com.
30:59
November 14, 2021
Toxic Masculinity - Behind The Mask with Gabriela
In this episode, I talk to Gabriela a world-leading fertility specialist and clinical researcher, and the author of 4 books on fertility. With a 20+ year career in reproductive sciences, Gabriela gives us some incredible insights into the journey that couples have been on just to have a child of their own. Gabriela can boast a 78% success rate which is a phenomenal result! As someone who also struggled with infertility, before finally becoming a mother, I found myself relating to these couples. Gabriela's approach is holistic and looks at the bigger picture of each of the people involved - their mental state, their diet, their lifestyle - and she puts together the puzzle pieces to create a programme which is unique and individual to each couple.  We also talked about the way men and women approach infertility and how men's perception of themselves is so intricately woven into their virility and how they see themselves. I'm sure you are going to enjoy this episode as much as I did.  
01:06:24
October 17, 2021
Toxic Masculinity - Behind The Mask with Tim
In this episode, I talk to Tim about his traumatic childhood, his long career in the sports and entertainment world and how, despite the outward appearances of success, deep down Tim was struggling. It was only when he had almost lost everything, that Tim sought help and was diagnosed with severe depression. Tim speaks openly about his self-destructive behaviour and why its so important for men to talk to each other about the real stuff and to reach out for help and support. Its a thought-provoking discussion about men and their men health. So leave a comment or a review and let me know if you enjoyed this episode.
58:34
September 15, 2021
Toxic Masculinity - Behind The Mask with Andre
Andre is a life coach and intuitive healer, and in this episode we looked at how growing up with parents who were emotionally unavailable impacted his adult life. Andre started off his career as an accountant but found that he had a natural ability to connect with people at a deeper lever and left to become a life coach and healer of childhood trauma. It’s a fascinating personal journey as well as professionally.
51:10
August 28, 2021
Toxic Masculinity-Behind The Mask with Jim
In this episode Jim talks about the dark days during his struggle with depression and it wasn’t until he admitted that he had a problem and reached out for help, that things changed for the better. Now Jim runs marathons to raise awareness of mental health and has 21 under his belt so far.
58:06
July 18, 2021
Toxic Masculinity - Behind The Mask with Jeff
In this episode, I talk with Jeff about how he combines body, mind & spirituality in his health and fitness coaching business. We discussed toxic masculinity and what positive masculinity looks like and the inequalities between the sexes.
46:42
June 01, 2021
Toxic Masculinity - Behind The Mask With Jack
In this episode, Jack and I talk about what equality for men looks like when it benefits both sexes and encompasses the strengths that both men and women inherently possess. It's an open and very candid look at masculinity viewed from a different lens where men can also feel seen and heard.  
57:08
May 18, 2021
Toxic Masculinity - Behind The Mask with Justin
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In this episode, I talk with Justin about how he went from being clinicaly depressed, an alcoholic, using drugs and planning how he wanted to end his life to a becoming a proud father, podcaster and men's mental health coach. Justin's story should inspire every man out there to reach out for help and tell someone he's struggling. Let's get that conversation started. 
52:24
April 26, 2021
Toxic Masculinity - Behind The Mask with Liam
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Liam is a self-published author of a children’s book series and a soon-to-be-father. We talk about Liam’s experience of toxic masculinity, football and changing room banter and how he would raise a son.
37:06
February 27, 2021
Toxic Masculinity- Behind The Mask with Luke
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In this episode, I talk to Luke about male friendships, what feminism means to men, what male stereotypes are and how he defines toxic masculinity.
47:14
February 13, 2021
Toxic Masculinity - Behind The Mask with Jared
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I talk with Jared about his spiritual journey from losing his father to Aids, a brief stint in Corporate America to studying with the Yogis in India and living with the indigenous people in the jungles of Ecuador. And how all of this has made him into the man he is today with a strong sense of self.
37:49
February 06, 2021
Toxic Masculinity- Behind The Mask with Micah
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In this episode, I talk with Dr Micah Johnson about the challenges he had to overcome, growing up in homeless shelters, to become a professor of mental health law, a scientist, a musician and an author to name but a few.
48:12
January 19, 2021
Toxic Masculinity - Behind The Mask with Waltraud
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In this episode, Waltraud gives her perspective as a coach on working with executive men and their struggles with how they perceive themselves based on society’s expectations.
23:14
November 18, 2020
Toxic Masculinity- Behind The Mask with Bob
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In this episode, I talk to Bob a young guy who writes poetry and has his own podcast. We look at what being a man means to him, the importance of fatherhood and how his relationship with his daughter has transformed him and the pressures of needing to be a certain way according to societies ideals.
27:17
October 19, 2020
Toxic Masculinity - Behind The Mask with Zach
In this episode, I talk with Zach about his struggles with alcohol addiction and what it means to be a man in today’s society with the expectations that society, culture and tradition places on men and boys.
34:44
October 11, 2020
Toxic Masculinity - Behind The Mask with Trevor
Trevor talks about what it was like growing up in Sheffield as a Black man in the 70’s and his role now as a coach for Black men. Trevor runs a self-help group for Black men and empowers them to take charge of their lives by looking at roles they’re playing and the impact this has on their mental health.
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October 05, 2020
October 5, 2020
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October 05, 2020