She Wears The Pants
By Tay and Sade
She Wears The PantsJul 30, 2020
Episode 310 "Distractions"
It's the season finale and it has been a memorable journey. On this season ender, Tay and Sade reflect on the season they had and look forward. They also talk about the Pink Moon and unloading baggage (14:21), Tay talks about dealing with obsession (20:00), how the world is one big distraction (27:40), what are we distracting ourselves from (38:23), cults (55:13) and more. The AHA Moment (1:00:00) asks why do you stop liking someone after you learn they like you?.
Book Recommendations:
Just Kids by Patti Smith
Salvation by bell hooks
Episode 309 "The Sex Talk Pt. 2: The Ladies' Perspective" w/ @dorianarielle_
On this episode, Tay and Sade continue their conversation from last week about sex but this week she wears the pants! Singer/songwriter, Dorian Arielle, joins as they give the womanly perspective on sex and how each of their sexual experiences differ and compare. They discuss their introduction into pornography (14:49), telling partners about past relations (27:04), differences between having sex with a man vs a woman (34:42), the concept of virginity (55:00) and much more. The AHA Moment of this week (1:24:00) asks how to tell your partner you are not happy.
Book Recommendations:
Mein Kampf by Adolf Hitler
The Body Keeps Secrets by Besser Van Der Kolk, M.D
Sacred Woman by Queen Afua
Episode 308 "The Sex Talk Pt. 1: The Guys' Perspective" w/ @skygodspence
On this episode, Tay and Sade sit down to have THE talk, the sex talk. They are joined by founder of the lifestyle brand, Let a Bad Bitch Be Herself, Skygod Spence, to offer the male perspective on what all encompasses sex. They talk about how important hygiene is to sex and sexual attraction (19:19), how male ego can stifle relationship development (30:56), porn vs. reality (35:25), one night stands (55:23), and much more. The AHA Moment (1:16:00) comes from our very own guest, Skygod Spence this week.
Book Recommendation
The Ways of a Superior Man by David Deida
Episode 307 "It's All in Your Head"
On this episode, Tay and Sade talk about the misogynistic qualities and thoughts that women have internalized from generations of living within the patriarchy. They discuss what misogynistic beliefs they themselves have internalized (13:47), how it has created perception of motherhood/parenting (20:30), and the programming of a population (32:10). This then lead to the idea of marriage and how misogyny impacts modern day relationships (42:30). The AHA Moment (1:04:51) asks about how can a man navigate after being called out for creep behavior.
Book Recommendations:
Apply Where Necessary by Quay Seamster
Literally Show Me a Sane Person by Darcie Wilder
Episode 306 "Take Care"
On this episode, after discussing the breakup of Saweetie and Quavo (5:30), Tay and Sade go over some of the difficulties of breaking up (17:51). They also discuss whats proper etiquette when breaking up (24:51), break up horror stories (36:13) and the mutual friends after the breakup (40:51). The AHA Moment of this week asks how to apologize for treating someone not as nice as they would like (48:50).
Book Recommendation
This Will be Your Undoing: Living at the Intersection of Black, Female and Feminist in (White) America by Morgan Jenkins
The Gucci Mane Guide to Greatness by Gucci Mane
Episode 305 "Internet VS Reality"
On this episode, Tay and Sade discuss how the internet has evolved over the years and how it has effected our everyday lives. Tay talks about her seeing how a Tik Tok challenge led to a pomegranate shortage (8:47). Sade talks about how body image and the acceptance of cosmetic surgery has changed (11:45) Tay mentions how the internet has changed how we speak (31:00) which lead Sade to ask is that necessarily a good thing (41:00). The AHA Moment of the week (58:30) asks where is the line between accepting your partners flaws and not being a good match.
Book Recommendation:
Wreck this Journal by Keri Smith
Well Read Black Girl: Finding Our Stories, Discovering Ourselves by Glory Edim
Episode 304 "Devine Feminine Crime"
On this episode, Tay and Sade rank their top 5 "pink collar criminals", women who tried to take the legal shortcuts to reach success. Sade starts off with an a summary of the Oprah interview with Meghan Markle and Harry, former Prince of England. (1:36) They then go on to talk about some of the most famous/infamous pink collar criminals(9:11) : JT(25:01), Clermont Twins (27:37), Lori Laughlin (39:51) and more. The AHA Moment (59:27) answers the question of what to do when your guy friends make inappropriate comments about other women.
Book Recommendations:
Attached by Amir Levine and Rachel S. F. Heller
#GirlBoss by Sophia Amoruso
Episode 303 "COVID: 1 Year Later"
On this episode, Tay and Sade reflect on living through this past year dealing with COVID-19 and quarantine. Sade supplies facts about the mortality numbers(10:05), Tay recounts her experience contracting COVID-19 and how to still get tested (21:35). The ladies also talk about their expectations and lesson learned from dating women (49:17) and how to deal with intrusive thoughts about past, toxic relationships (58:00).
Book Recommendations:
All About Love: New Visions by Bell Hook
Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life by Henry Cloud and John Townsend
Episode 302 "The Rest in Life"
On this episode of SWTP Podcast, Tay and Sade have a discussion about the importance of rest to the black woman (22:06) and the relationship between black women and luxury. They also have a conversation about Lori Harvey's public perception and the stance from people like Lil Boosie (39:38) and much more.
Book Recommendations:
- The Sisters Are Alright: Changing the Broken Narrative of Black Women in America by Tamara Winfrey Harris
- Year of Yes: How to Dance It Out, Stand In the Sun and Be Your Own Person by Shonda Rhimes
- Black Girls Must Die Exhausted by Jayne Allen
Episode 301 "Welcome Back Again"
The ladies are back! Season 3 of SWTP podcast has finally arrived and its like they never missed a beat. On this episode, Tay and Sade discuss who is actually wearing the pants this week (3:18), what they've been up to during this break (11:00), Valentine's Day activities (21:00), the Justin Timberlake apology (29:17), their AHA Moments, and so much more. Stay tuned for more!