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Hey, Siri?

Hey, Siri?

By Siri Wilder

Welcome to Hey, Siri! A podcast about psychology, relationships, and -- most importantly -- piping hot tea. Resident pop culture expert, Xochi, and struggling PhD student, Siri, take you through the what? Why? And how? Of relationship research and what that means for your non-scientifically researched relationships.
All of this research is coming out all the time, but academic literature can be intimidating and difficult to connect to “real life”. So let us do it for you!
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Community and On Again Off Again Relationships

Hey, Siri?Mar 09, 2023

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Community and On Again Off Again Relationships

Community and On Again Off Again Relationships

Welcome to Hey, Siri! A podcast about psychology, relationships, and -- most importantly -- piping hot tea. Sit down, take a sip, and remember to subscribe as...

Resident pop culture expert, Xochi, and struggling PhD student, Siri, take you through the what? Why? And how? Of relationship research and what that means for your non-scientifically researched relationships.

All of this research is coming out all the time, but academic literature can be intimidating and difficult to connect to “real life”. So let us do it for you!

Siri will tell us all about what research is taking the psychology world by storm! On today’s episode, she will tell us all about on again/off again relationships? Maybe! Because Xochi forgot the research side of this episode :-)

After hearing the research on something, Xochi will tell Siri all about the zany and wacky world of Greendale Community College and the relationship between Jeff and Britta.

Investigating Relationship Dispositions as Explanations for On-Again/Off-Again Relationships

Rene Dailey, Lingzi Zhong, Rudy Pett, Darby Scott, and Colton Krawietz

Published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships in 2022

Mar 09, 202301:48:00
Superstore and Blending Families

Superstore and Blending Families

Welcome to Hey, Siri! A podcast about psychology, relationships, and -- most importantly -- piping hot tea. Sit down, take a sip, and remember to subscribe as...

Resident pop culture expert, Xochi, and struggling PhD student, Siri, take you through the what? Why? And how? Of relationship research and what that means for your non-scientifically researched relationships.

All of this research is coming out all the time, but academic literature can be intimidating and difficult to connect to “real life”. So let us do it for you!

Siri will tell us all about what research is taking the psychology world by storm! On today’s episode, she will tell us all about blending families. How does it affect your relationship? How does it affect your kids? What’s the best way to go about it?

After hearing the research on how to successfully blend a family, Xochi will tell Siri all about the hilarious and never exciting world of NBC’s Superstore, and the relationship between Amy and Jonah.

Blending Families: What Couples Should Know and Consider

Curtis Fox

Published in the Journal of Family Research and Practice, July 2022

Feb 23, 202301:32:36
How I Met Your Mother and Working With Children Part 2

How I Met Your Mother and Working With Children Part 2

Welcome to Hey, Siri! A podcast about psychology, relationships, and -- most importantly -- piping hot tea. Sit down, take a sip, and remember to subscribe as...

Resident pop culture expert, Xochi, and struggling PhD student, Siri, take you through the what? Why? And how? Of relationship research and what that means for your non-scientifically researched relationships.

All of this research is coming out all the time, but academic literature can be intimidating and difficult to connect to “real life”. So let us do it for you!

Siri will tell us all about what research is taking the psychology world by storm! On today’s episode, she will tell us all about marriage after you have kids. How can you navigate it? What kind of strain will be put on relationships? Is there a way to make it better?

After hearing the research on how to keep your children and marriage alive, Xochi will tell Siri all about one of the seemingly most beloved couples on TV; Lily and Marshall.

Parents’ Work Arrangements and Time Use During the COVID-19 Pandemic

By Thomas Lyttelton, Emma Zhang, and Kelly Musick

Working paper, uploaded in SocArXiv (“open archive of the social sciences”) in January, 2022

Feb 16, 202301:20:21
How I Met Your Mother and Working With Children Part 1

How I Met Your Mother and Working With Children Part 1

Welcome to Hey, Siri! A podcast about psychology, relationships, and -- most importantly -- piping hot tea. Sit down, take a sip, and remember to subscribe as...

Resident pop culture expert, Xochi, and struggling PhD student, Siri, take you through the what? Why? And how? Of relationship research and what that means for your non-scientifically researched relationships.

All of this research is coming out all the time, but academic literature can be intimidating and difficult to connect to “real life”. So let us do it for you!

Siri will tell us all about what research is taking the psychology world by storm! On today’s episode, she will tell us all about marriage after you have kids. How can you navigate it? What kind of strain will be put on relationships? Is there a way to make it better?

After hearing the research on how to keep your children and marriage alive, Xochi will tell Siri all about one of the seemingly most beloved couples on TV; Lily and Marshall.

Parents’ Work Arrangements and Time Use During the COVID-19 Pandemic

By Thomas Lyttelton, Emma Zhang, and Kelly Musick

Working paper, uploaded in SocArXiv (“open archive of the social sciences”) in January, 2022

Feb 09, 202301:17:23
Happy Endings and Staying Playful

Happy Endings and Staying Playful

Welcome to Hey, Siri! A podcast about psychology, relationships, and -- most importantly -- piping hot tea. Sit down, take a sip, and remember to subscribe as...

Resident pop culture expert, Xochi, and struggling PhD student, Siri, take you through the what? Why? And how? Of relationship research and what that means for your non-scientifically researched relationships.

All of this research is coming out all the time, but academic literature can be intimidating and difficult to connect to “real life”. So let us do it for you!

Siri will tell us all about what research is taking the psychology world by storm! On today’s episode, she will tell us all about staying playful in long term relationships. How can we keep having fun? Why is it important? Does this mean we all have to get into RPG’s?

After hearing the research on how to keep relationships enjoyable and exciting Xochi will tell Siri all about one of TV’s most competitive and passionate couples; Brad and Jane Kerkovich-Williams.

Revisiting Adult Playfulness and Relationship Satisfaction: APIM Analyses of Middle-Aged and Older Couples

Kay Brauer, Rebekka Sendatzki, Tiziana Scherrer, Garry Chick, and Rene T. Proyer

Published in the International Journal of Applied Positive Psychology in September, 2021

Sep 29, 202201:28:22
We Need To Talk About Kevin

We Need To Talk About Kevin

Welcome to Hey, Siri! A podcast about psychology, relationships, and -- most importantly -- piping hot tea. Sit down, take a sip, and remember to subscribe as...

Resident pop culture expert, Xochi, and struggling PhD student, Siri, take you through the what? Why? And how? Of relationship research and what that means for your non-scientifically researched relationships.

All of this research is coming out all the time, but academic literature can be intimidating and difficult to connect to “real life”. So let us do it for you!

On today’s episode, Siri and Xochi will share their (at least half research based) thoughts on one of TV’s most disrespected couples; Captain Raymond Holt and Dr. Kevin Cozner.

Sep 16, 202201:01:53
Brooklyn 99 and Transitioning to Parenthood Part 2

Brooklyn 99 and Transitioning to Parenthood Part 2

We couldn't fit all of our Brooklyn 99 thoughts into one episode... So here's the rest! Enjoy!

Welcome to Hey, Siri! A podcast about psychology, relationships, and -- most importantly -- piping hot tea. Sit down, take a sip, and remember to subscribe as...

Resident pop culture expert, Xochi, and struggling PhD student, Siri, take you through the what? Why? And how? Of relationship research and what that means for your non-scientifically researched relationships.

All of this research is coming out all the time, but academic literature can be intimidating and difficult to connect to “real life”. So let us do it for you!

Siri will tell us all about what research is taking the psychology world by a storm! On today’s episode, she will tell us all about what happens to relationships after you become parents.

After hearing the research about how to navigate parenthood and romance, Xochi will guide Siri through the world of the most passionate and eccentric precinct in New York, and the relationship between Jake Peralta and Amy Santiago.

Stress, Marital Relationship and Quality of Life of Couples Across the Perinatal Period

Fei-Wan Ngai and Winsome Lam

Published in the Maternal and Child Health Journal, October 2021

Sep 09, 202201:18:09
Brooklyn 99 and Transitioning to Parenthood

Brooklyn 99 and Transitioning to Parenthood

Welcome to Hey, Siri! A podcast about psychology, relationships, and -- most importantly -- piping hot tea. Sit down, take a sip, and remember to subscribe as...

Resident pop culture expert, Xochi, and struggling PhD student, Siri, take you through the what? Why? And how? Of relationship research and what that means for your non-scientifically researched relationships.

All of this research is coming out all the time, but academic literature can be intimidating and difficult to connect to “real life”. So let us do it for you!

Siri will tell us all about what research is taking the psychology world by a storm! On today’s episode, she will tell us all about what happens to relationships after you become parents.

After hearing the research about how to navigate parenthood and romance, Xochi will guide Siri through the world of the most passionate and eccentric precinct in New York, and the relationship between Jake Peralta and Amy Santiago.

Stress, Marital Relationship and Quality of Life of Couples Across the Perinatal Period

Fei-Wan Ngai and Winsome Lam

Published in the Maternal and Child Health Journal, October 2021

Sep 02, 202201:11:48
Scrubs and Social Media

Scrubs and Social Media

***CORRECTION!!!*** Xochi is not a Masters student/PhD candidate, therefore it is understandable they got confused while these episodes were recorded (out of order) and some details from last episode were accidentally included in this weeks episode: Turk did not reconnect with his ex girlfriend on FaceBook, he did not specify how or why they got back in touch. So just... use your imagination. xoxo -Xochi

Welcome to Hey, Siri! A podcast about psychology, relationships, and -- most importantly -- piping hot tea. Sit down, take a sip, and remember to subscribe as...

Resident pop culture expert, Xochi, and struggling PhD student, Siri, take you through the what? Why? And how? Of relationship research and what that means for your non-scientifically researched relationships.

All of this research is coming out all the time, but academic literature can be intimidating and difficult to connect to “real life”. So let us do it for you!

Siri will tell us all about what research is taking the psychology world by a storm! On today’s episode, she will tell us all about social media and its effect on relationships. Is it good? Is it bad? It’s probably bad.

After hearing the research for and against the Metaverse, Xochi will guide Siri through the intense and amazing world of Sacred Heart Hospital and examine the relationship between Carla Espinoza and Christopher Turk.

Are Online Behaviors Damaging Our In-Person Connections? Passive Versus Active Social Media Use on Romantic Relationships

Selena Quiroz and Kristen Mickelson

Published in the Journal of Psychosocial Research on Cyberspace, 2021

Feb 17, 202201:25:15
Modern Family and Opposites Attract

Modern Family and Opposites Attract

Welcome to Hey, Siri! A podcast about psychology, relationships, and -- most importantly -- piping hot tea. Sit down, take a sip, and remember to subscribe as...

Resident pop culture expert, Xochi, and struggling PhD student, Siri, take you through the what? Why? And how? Of relationship research and what that means for your non-scientifically researched relationships.

All of this research is coming out all the time, but academic literature can be intimidating and difficult to connect to “real life”. So let us do it for you!

Perceived Similarity in Personality, Ideologies Predicts Relationship Satisfaction Across Sexual Orientation Spectrum

Virginia Wickline et al.

Published in the Association for University Regional Campuses of Ohio Journal, Spring 2021

Dec 17, 202101:18:01
Parks and Rec and Communication

Parks and Rec and Communication

Welcome to Hey, Siri! A podcast about psychology, relationships, and -- most importantly -- piping hot tea. Sit down, take a sip, and remember to subscribe as...

Resident pop culture expert, Xochi, and struggling PhD student, Siri, take you through the what? Why? And how? Of relationship research and what that means for your non-scientifically researched relationships.

All of this research is coming out all the time, but academic literature can be intimidating and difficult to connect to “real life”. So let us do it for you!

Within-Couple Associations Between Communication and Relationship Satisfaction Over Time

Johnson et al.

Published in Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, 2021

Dec 10, 202101:24:16
The Office and Working Together

The Office and Working Together

Welcome to Hey, Siri! A podcast about psychology, relationships, and -- most importantly -- piping hot tea. Sit down, take a sip, and remember to subscribe as resident pop culture expert, Xochi, and struggling PhD student, Siri, take you through the what? Why? And how? Of relationship research and what that means for your non-scientifically researched relationships.

All of this research is coming out all the time, but academic literature can be intimidating and difficult to connect to “real life”. So let us do it for you!

On today’s episode, Siri will tell us all about the in’s and out’s of office romance. Why does it happen? Is it a good idea? What about if it ends badly? After hearing the research for and against office relationships, Xochi will guide Siri through the wonderful world of Dunder Mifflin, a small paper supply company in Scranton, Pennsylvania, and we will discuss one of the most beloved TV couples of all time; Jim and Pam.

The Inevitability of Workplace Romance

Dallas Bilyk

Published in the Canadian Journal of Family and Youth, 2021

Dec 02, 202159:11
Friends and Taking A Break

Friends and Taking A Break

Welcome to Hey, Siri! A podcast about psychology, relationships, and -- most importantly -- piping hot tea. Sit down, take a sip, and remember to subscribe as...

Resident pop culture expert, Xochi, and struggling PhD student, Siri, take you through the what? Why? And how? Of relationship research and what that means for your non-scientifically researched relationships.

All of this research is coming out all the time, but academic literature can be intimidating and difficult to connect to “real life”. So let us do it for you!

The Lived Experience of Ambiguous Marital Separation: A Phenomenological Study

Sarah Crabtree and Steven Harris

Published in the Journal of Marital and Family Therapy, 2019

Nov 26, 202101:08:22
Divorce

Divorce

Welcome to Hey, Siri! A podcast about psychology, relationships, and -- most importantly -- piping hot tea. Sit down, take a sip, and remember to subscribe as...

Resident pop culture expert, Xochi, and struggling PhD student, Siri, take you through the what? Why? And how? Of relationship research and what that means for your non-scientifically researched relationships.

All of this research is coming out all the time, but academic literature can be intimidating and difficult to connect to “real life”. So let us do it for you!

In the case of union dissolution of couples with children. Who decides to avoid the courts and why?

Amalia Gomez-Casillas, Marc Anjenjo, and Montserrat Solsona

Journal of Family Issues, 2021

Nov 18, 202101:29:42
Bonus Episode: The Office

Bonus Episode: The Office

Welcome to Hey, Siri?'s second bonus episode! This time we take on one of the most iconic workplace sit-coms of all time; The Office. Join Siri guessing our favourite characters' storylines (based on the GIFs she's seen around the internet) and Xochi trying to explain Michael's antics and why we keep watching this cringefest of a show. 

Some advice will be given, some questions will be answered, and we talk a weird amount about Brooklynn 99 and Parks and Rec. What's not to love? 

Nov 11, 202101:09:29
Reddit

Reddit

Welcome back everyone!!! After a long, treacherous hiatus forced upon us by a shattered computer screen (that almost shattered Xochi's dreams) we are back in full swing... And what better way to return than judging strangers on the internet?

Find out what Relationship Experts have to say about dating apps, flirting, co-parenting, and lots more! So welcome to Hey, Siri?’s penultimate episode. It has been a long and wonderful journey so far learning about the in’s and out’s of psychological relationship research and how it relates to celebrity dating. But today I thought we would get even more connected with the everyday, non-celebrity relationships a lot of us are a part of, and have Siri give advice on how to solve relationship drama we can all probably relate to. 

Today Siri and Xochi tackle two subreddits; Relationship Advice and Am I The Asshole


Nov 04, 202101:36:25
Bonus Episode: Friends!

Bonus Episode: Friends!

Welcome to Hey, Siri! A podcast about psychology, relationships, and -- most importantly -- piping hot tea. Sit down, take a sip, and remember to subscribe as...

Resident pop culture expert, Xochi, and struggling PhD student, Siri, take a few minutes (or hours...) to watch an episode of Friends and unabashedly judge everything that the characters do and say. Join us for a crash course in why the relationship between Ross & Rachel is... less than ideal. 

Oct 21, 202101:05:54
Minor Episode Delay: Technical Issues

Minor Episode Delay: Technical Issues

Hey all! This week's episode (planned post date: October 14, 2021) will be slightly delayed due to technical issues. Thanks for listening, we'll be back soon! 

Oct 15, 202100:28
Sleeping

Sleeping

Welcome to Hey, Siri! A podcast about psychology, relationships, and -- most importantly -- piping hot tea. Sit down, take a sip, and remember to subscribe as...

Resident pop culture expert, Xochi, and struggling PhD student, Siri, take you through the what? Why? And how? Of relationship research and what that means for your non-scientifically researched relationships.

All of this research is coming out all the time, but academic literature can be intimidating and difficult to connect to “real life”. So let us do it for you!

Siri will tell us all about what research is taking the psychology world by a storm! On today’s episode, she will tell us all about sleep and relationships. Does co-sleeping help or hurt sleep quality? Could cuddling be the solution to your insomnia?

After hearing the research and evidence for or against sleeping with a partner, Xochi will baselessly speculate on people we do not know; celebrities!! Today Xoch will be discussing the many couples who have made the decision to sleep separately, and have Siri rate their set-ups.

Couple Relationships Are Associated with Increased REM Sleep – A Proof-of-Concept Analysis of a Large Dataset Using Ambulatory Polysomnography

Henning Johannes Drews and Annika Drews

Brief research report published in Frontiers in Psychiatry, 2021

Oct 07, 202159:54
Long Term Relationships

Long Term Relationships

Welcome to Hey, Siri! A podcast about psychology, relationships, and -- most importantly -- piping hot tea. Sit down, take a sip, and remember to subscribe as...

Resident pop culture expert, Xochi, and struggling PhD student, Siri, take you through the what? Why? And how? Of relationship research and what that means for your non-scientifically researched relationships.

All of this research is coming out all the time, but academic literature can be intimidating and difficult to connect to “real life”. So let us do it for you!

Partner’s traits which motivate people to stay in an intimate relationship: An explorative analysis

Menelaos Apostolou & Christoforos Christoforou

Personality and Individual Differences, 2021

Sep 30, 202158:15
Age Gaps

Age Gaps

Welcome to Hey, Siri! A podcast about psychology, relationships, and -- most importantly -- piping hot tea. Sit down, take a sip, and remember to subscribe as...

Resident pop culture expert, Xochi, and struggling PhD student, Siri, take you through the what? Why? And how? Of relationship research and what that means for your non-scientifically researched relationships.

All of this research is coming out all the time, but academic literature can be intimidating and difficult to connect to “real life”. So let us do it for you!

Research hour: Siri will tell us all about what research is taking the psychology world by storm! On today’s episode, she will tell us all about age gaps. What are they? Why do they happen? Are they acceptable?

Pop culture connect: After hearing the research and evidence for or against cell phone usage, Xochi will baselessly speculate on people we do not know; celebrities!! Today Xoch will lead us through possibly the worst gameshow of all time; How Old Are They??

“A Matter of Age?” Love Relationships Between Older Women and Younger Men: The So-Called “Cougar” Phenomenon

Elisabeth Vanderheiden

Published in International Handbook of Love: Transcultural and Transdisciplinary Perspectives (2021)

Sep 23, 202101:10:29
Does Size Matter?

Does Size Matter?

Welcome to Hey, Siri! A podcast about psychology, relationships, and -- most importantly -- piping hot tea. Sit down, take a sip, and remember to subscribe as...

Resident pop culture expert, Xochi, and struggling PhD student, Siri, take you through the what? Why? And how? Of relationship research and what that means for your non-scientifically researched relationships.

All of this research is coming out all the time, but academic literature can be intimidating and difficult to connect to “real life”. So let us do it for you!

Siri will tell us all about what research is taking the psychology world by storm! On today’s episode, she will tell us all about one of the biggest dating questions; Does size matter?

After hearing the research and evidence as to whether it does or doesn’t, Xochi will baselessly speculate on people we do not know; celebrities!! Today Xoch will be discussing how the rumor that Pete Davidson has a large, ahem, Peter, (sorry siri lolololol) got started and why he blames Ariana Grande.

Does Size Matter? Perceptions of Indian Women About the Size of the Penis

Gajanan Shripad Bhat & Anuradha Shastry

Published in Journal of Psychosexual Health, 2021

Sep 16, 202101:14:56
Working Together

Working Together

Welcome to Hey, Siri! A podcast about psychology, relationships, and -- most importantly -- piping hot tea. Sit down, take a sip, and remember to subscribe as...

Resident pop culture expert, Xochi, and struggling PhD student, Siri, take you through the what? Why? And how? Of relationship research and what that means for your non-scientifically researched relationships.

All of this research is coming out all the time, but academic literature can be intimidating and difficult to connect to “real life”. So let us do it for you!

Siri will tell us all about what research is taking the psychology world by a storm! On today’s episode, she will tell us all about couples working together...

After hearing the research and evidence for or against cell phone usage, Xochi will baselessly speculate on people we do not know; celebrities!! Today Xoch will be discussing the ups, downs, and musical masterpieces that came from Jennifer Lopez’s relationship with Marc Anthony.

Do You Really Want to Share Everything? The Wellbeing of Work-Linked Couples

Juliane Hennecke & Clemens Hetschko

Published in SOEPpapers in 2021

Sep 09, 202101:01:35
Cheating

Cheating

Welcome to Hey, Siri! A podcast about psychology, relationships, and -- most importantly -- piping hot tea. Sit down, take a sip, and remember to subscribe as resident pop culture expert, Xochi, and struggling PhD student, Siri, take you through the what? Why? And how? Of relationship research and what that means for your non-scientifically researched relationships.

All of this research is coming out all the time, but academic literature can be intimidating and difficult to connect to “real life”. So let us do it for you!

Siri will tell us all about what research is taking the psychology world by storm! On today’s episode, she will tell us all about disloyalty, infidelity, and cheating within relationships. What happened? Why did it happen? Is there a way to avoid it?After hearing the research and evidence for or against cell phone usage, Xochi will baselessly speculate on people we do not know; celebrities!! Today Xoch will be discussing one of the biggest cheating scandals in celebrity history; Sandra Bullock and Jesse James.

Studies used in this episode:

Both Sides of the Story: Narratives of Romantic Infidelity

Dulce Wilkinson and William Dunlop

Published in Personal Relationships, 2021 volume

Sep 02, 202101:10:02
Long Distance

Long Distance

Welcome to Hey, Siri! A podcast about psychology, relationships, and -- most importantly -- piping hot tea. Sit down, take a sip, and remember to subscribe as...

Resident pop culture expert, Xochi, and struggling PhD student, Siri, take you through the what? Why? And how? Of relationship research and what that means for your non-scientifically researched relationships.

All of this research is coming out all the time, but academic literature can be intimidating and difficult to connect to “real life”. So let us do it for you!

Siri will tell us all about what research is taking the psychology world by storm! On today’s episode, she will tell us all about long distance relationships. Are they good? Are they bad? Are they going to ruin your relationship or make it stronger?

After hearing the research and evidence for or against LDRs, Xochi will baselessly speculate on people we do not know; celebrities!! Today Xoch will be discussing the relationship and break up of Vanessa Hudgens and Austin Butler.

Relational Dialectics in College LDRs: Managing the Tensions of Long-Distance Dating in College

Kenessa Copeland

Published in Digital Commons at University of Nebraska, March 2021

Undergraduate Honors Thesis

Aug 26, 202101:02:45
Phubbing

Phubbing

Hey friends! On today's episode Siri and Xochi will tell you all about cell phones within relationships. Balancing the online world with your real life partners can be hard and there are a lot of ways it could be affecting your love life without you even knowing. Listen and relax as we lead you through studies and a healthy dose of celebrity gossip that could help you and your partner better navigate the wild world of romantic relationships.

Studies used in this episode:

Camiel Beukeboom & Monique Pollmann

Vrije Universiteit Amsterdam, the Netherlands

Tilburg University, the Netherlands

Computers in Human Behavior, June 2021

Aug 19, 202101:01:24