Welcome to Synergy Mindset Coaching, we are working hard at creating a gym for your mindset. A place where you can have less doubt, negative thoughts and fear holding you back and experience more love and success in your life.
On the podcast I interview experts, authors, and entrepreneurs sharing stories of transformation. You get to hear their failures, wisdom and takeaways to help you achieve your goals and dreams.
Have you ever made a mistake that took a while to get over? You asked yourself questions such as how did this happen and why? How about losing a couple hundreds of thousands of dollars? Join me as we walk along Misha’s journey through life as he learned a hard lesson by losing a lot of money. He has a curious mindset and looked for the answers to learn what he needed to change to make sure he didn’t make the same mistake again.
Tune in to hear the whole story, learn about crypto currency and if you are interested in buying it yourself, a few tips and resources to help you along your way.
His Book: Bullish on Bitcoin
His website: https://mishayurchenko.me
Fav. book mentioned: https://www.amazon.com/UNSCRIPTED-Life-Liberty-Pursuit-Entrepreneurship/dp/0984358161
Fav. podcast mentioned: https://samharris.org/podcast/
John began life as an adventurer. He took on climbing mountains that have never again been climbed, was active in wars, revolutions and many thrill-seeking adventures that brought him near death a dozen times.
In the midst of a war, he had a light bulb moment and realized that all the thrill and adventure had not brought him meaning in life. He shares his story and journey of how he found the life of serving and helping others that he lives today.
Some areas of discussion:
· Life as an adventurer
· Taking enormous risks in the battle in Vietnam
· Solving difficult public problems
· Life in the Foreign Service
· Life as a Diplomat
· The power of story to change people
· Creating curriculum for students to provide the best service-learning free on the planet.
· Realizing the fullness of who you are
· Overcoming PTSD
· Life’s moral compass in asking big questions such as: what will build justice, end pain?
· Men struggling to find their feminine side
-Loving your kids is meaningful
-Playing catch, being a coach to your kids team, taking your grandkids for a while
-Being compassionate to someone that hates your guts
· Finding what your meant to do
· Creating meaning that lasts in your life
Our guest today often speaks on topics such as:
· How to raise millions for your startup
· Productivity hacks that work and
· Travelling the world
He was told as a boy that he had a disorder called ADHD. Today instead of sharing his business expertise, he has joined us to share his story about how he turned ADHD into Super Power. He learned how to build a team, use his creativity and started a successful company. Today he enjoys location independence and the opportunity to serve and help thousands of peoplewake up in the morning, reduce cravings, quit smoking, and defend against distractions.
This call takes place is in a café in Columbia. Our connection struggled at times and there is background sounds. If you are wearing earbuds, be careful as the sound has some people talking and a dog barking in the back ground. It is amazing, as we hear his story and learn about how to change our habits to achieve our mission in life.
Julie Ann Sullivan speaks about business culture and shares her journey from quitting her first job on the spot without savings or a plan to being the successful entrepreneur she is today. She has interviewed over 40 C-Suite leaders about the award-winning cultures they have created and maintained.
Julie Ann Sullivan is a business culture expert. She knows how to retain good talent and increase productivity, problem solving and profitability. She creates a more positive and productive environment into every organization she works with.
Julie Ann Sullivan’s diverse background gives her a unique business perspective. She earned a BA in Psychology and an MBA in Accounting, earning the designation of CPA and spent decades involved in accounting and business functionality. Julie Ann is a Professional member of the National Speakers Association, C-Suite Network Advisor and proud member of the SHRM Blog Squad. She is an international best-selling author. Her newest book titled, Blueprint for Employee Engagement, 37 Essential Elements to Influence, Innovate and Inspire, is a roadmap for the complex journey to create a best place to work. Her next book: Catalysts of Culture – How Visionary Leaders Activate the Employee Experience, is coming in 2019.
Julie Ann also is the host the Businesses That Care Podcast, speaking to leaders on how they have created and sustain amazing business cultures.
The Four Agreements
Be impeccable with your word
Do your best
Don’t take things personally
Read the book to find out!
Businesses That Care
Here’s The Thing with Alec Baldwin.
Living in LA as an artist is quite an adventure. Lisa shares her ups and downs with us today on the show! We talk about divorce, the grieving process and how to have fun in life.
The Alchemist: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/865.The_Alchemist
The Illustrated Man: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/24830.The_Illustrated_Man
On Being with Krista Tippett: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/on-being-with-krista-tippett/id150892556?mt=2
podcast website- www.projectwoowoo.com
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Music Credit to: Corporate Innovative by Scott Holmes scottholmesmusic.com
Episode 75 on The Synergy Mindset Podcast and Community.
Driving a long way down a country road, contemplating sending his car off the road, Scott made a decision in his mind to end his life. He had thought that his wife could pay off the debt with the life insurance payout.
As he was wrestling with his decision, Dave Ramsey came on the radio and he began to hear stories of couples that had become, "debt free". Each night he drove home, he listened more and more until he had the courage to speak to his wife. The plan never came to fruition.
Have you ever felt that you were at the end of your rope? That all hope was gone and unsure of where to go? Perhaps you are still working a mundane 9-5 job that seems to go nowhere. In this interview with Scott, we hear how his journey unfolded. He and his wife got out of debt, became John Maxwell Certified Coaches, he quit his corporate job and now helps others. He helps people master their time, their talents, and their treasures and if you listen you will learn a little bit about how you can as well.
In 2017, Scott and his wife Carrie started Inspired Stewardship as a business to serve Christian men and couples that are struggling to live out their calling. They work to help align the way you use your time, your talent, and your treasures so that you can identify and live a fully authentic life that allows you to authentically live your calling, serve others, and provide for your family. As certified Human Behaviour Consultants and members of the John Maxwell Team, they focus on helping you understand yourself, understand others, and through that understanding build the Kingdom. Scott and Carrie through Inspired Stewardship are living out their own calling that started with a call to coaching in 2011 and has slowly grown to a full-time business through one on one coaching, speaking, and workshops.
The Bible https://www.bible.com
Deep Work http://calnewport.com/books/deep-work/
Read to Lead Podcast: https://readtoleadpodcast.com
Also mentioned: http://cashcarconvert.com
Scott has a free gift to help you with your personal growth journey.
My podcast on 7: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/inspired-stewardship/id1332063720?mt=2
Today I have the honour and privilege to speak with the cohost of the Eternal Leadership Podcast. He interviews incredibly inspiring and successful business professionals alongside his good friend John Ramstead.
Steve Reiter is an entrepreneur, Husband, Father, Podcast Host and shares his story of how he faced burnout, left his job, began to work for himself and helped his wife heal from a long term illness. It is an incredible journey of faith, time to listen to God and we get into the tough moments and the difficult decisions he faced long before the fruit came into his life.
Steve worked for Focus on the family for 15 years with Dr. Dobson. He was his Chief Audio Engeneer. It was the first religious broadcast inducted into the National Radio Hall of Fame .
His work began taking a toll on his health. There was a tension, and stress present and after about 6 months, he turned in his resignation. He had lost 20lbs in one month and his doctor advised him to take his health seriously.
Steve experienced tangible pain listening to spoken word, his body was saying STOP!
He took 6 months off and began to listen and notice what was coming next into his life. He had several friends that told him he should be a financial advisor. He took a couple of weeks to pray about it, and has clients lining up before he got his licence.
Steve likes to hike 14ers. They are mountains 14000 feet and higher, he hiked Mt. Antero and went to the top of the mountain thinking he would hear the answer from God, but…… he got nothing.
Upon thinking on why that was, he began to think, maybe he had been given the answer through the circumstances.
He had John Ramstead mentoring him, with clients in the 50-500-million-dollar range. He did great his first year until his wife got sick.
She was sick for six months, and then again for another 6 months and most of it bed ridden. It was because of the clients that he has already established, that he was ok. It kept the roof over his head, food on the table.
His journey was over 7 years long and was about inner growth. Those close to him advised him that he had inner crap holding him back and it was causing him to doubt himself. He was consistent and kept trying different things.
Steve received a break through and others noticed. They ask him what he did in pursuit of a formula. He tells us the path is different for everyone and always keeps going.
The internal reality needs to match the external reality or people self savage when they reach a higher level of success. Steve knew that he was going to make it to a higher level and that he needed to have his internal reality exceed it.
Listen to the podcast to hear the whole story!
The Fourth Turning: What the Cycles of History Tell Us About America's Next Rendezvous with Destiny
Bulletproof Radio with Dave Asprey
Daily Personal Growth Community
Music credit: Scott Holmes http://freemusicarchive.org/music/
Kelly Baader is here to share her inspiring story of how she had to overcome insurmountable odds since her childhood to achieve the success she enjoys today.
She is a wife and Mom, lives in Switzerland with a well-traveled Labrador, a renowned Digital Sales and Marketing Strategist, Certified Business Coach, Mentor to emerging Christian entrepreneurs, Host of Christian CEO podcast and author of a best selling book.
How she overcome being told she wouldn't make it in business.
What it was like to be a female CEO when it was mostly a male occupation.
When Kelly experienced the presence of God and was asked what she wanted for her birthday present.
How to write a letter to God
Why we need more people that love God in the top 3% of the business world.
Being a Christian in today's business world.
Who are you called to serve, what kind of problem are you solving and what kind of solution will you provide?
Atomic Habits: James Clear https://jamesclear.com/atomic-habits
Story Brand: Donald Miller https://storybrand.com
Youpreneur by Chris Ducker https://youpreneur.com/podcast/
The Synergy facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/synergymindset
Photo by Lukas Budimaier on Unsplash
Music Credit to: Corporate Innovative by Scott Holmes scottholmesmusic.com
Over half of people that set intentions fail at succeeding with them but it's not you, it doesn't have to be. If you have started to fall away from the intentions you set on New Years or have fallen away completely, don’t worry, Karen is here to share with you some great ways that you can not only get back on track but ensure success to see them through.
Karen is at her best when she is surrounded by nature in the great outdoors. She offers life coaching in green spaces and parks in and around London.
She helps professional men and woman who, "appear" on the surface to be doing well yet feel unfulfilled, have a real worry and fear that they are missing out on opportunities and that they are wasting time. They don't quite know what to do. Karen helps them to live a more meaningful life.
There are some people that are ready to leave their current job, they don't know what to do. Others experience conflict at work, difficulty in their relationship and Karen helps them to be able to overcome the fear of face conflict and experience more meaningful conversations.
January to March is a busy time at Greenspace Coaching when everyone is setting intentions. Something happens and over half of the people that set them, believe they have failed.
This is important, Karen tells us, we can start again every day!! If we bring awareness and curiosity to the conversation, we can ask questions and find out what is going on. Karen calls this a growth mindset vs. a failure mindset.
When we fail at something we go into habitual ways of negative thinking and beat ourselves up. It is a narrow mindset that can only see the negative. Our self-talk becomes, "I am rubbish, can't do it, I will never do it." It comes from our evolution we have a tendency to focus on the negative, called a negativity bias, we no longer need this, although we tend to go there.
This is where we are able to step back a little bit, look at what happened and be curious, kind and compassionate when we fail. As we understand ourselves better, we are able to find alternative ways to get what we need and honor our goals.
Our Attitude Towards Ourselves:
I asked Karen if she notices that we are harder on ourselves than others and she sure did. We engage in painful thoughts and judgments about ourselves in a way that we would never speak to others.
How do we break this????
Karen tells us practice, practice, and practice. She also sought out mentors, partook in some therapy, increased her self awareness and made a habit to practice mindfulness and meditation.
She tells us it was easier to bring kindness and self-compassion to her friends, family, clients than herself as she had felt it was a little self-indulgent to give it to herself.
Over time, with hard work, she brought this kindness and compassion to herself and it lights her up as she speaks, it is inspiring that you and me, we can find this too.
"If we want to live a meaningful life, one that is satisfying, rich and enjoyable, that takes effort. Nothing in life falls in our lap, we need to dedicate ourselves to our own life, it is a life practice."
Coaching to help you succeed with your goals, intentions:
Ask yourself what the value is of setting it, what matters, what is the purpose? Consider writing down 3 words to express the importance of the intention.
What are the benefits?
Karen Liebenguth is a certified coach, MBTI facilitator and accredited mindfulness teacher. She trained in Eco-therapy and specializes in working with individual clients, teams and groups in natural settings tapping into the beneficial impact nature has on our psychological,
Marina Pearson is a mother, bestselling author, international TEDx speaker, investor and Joy Retreat Facilitator. Most of all she is a human Be-ing. She lives her life working on projects that light her up and in the process assists others to also light up their lives.
Over 14 years’ experience in the transformation industry has culminated in Marina helping mums to ditch the stress at her Joy Retreats she hosts from her home in Javea, Spain.
As host of the Joy of Being podcast, Marina interviews transformation professionals, business owners and creatives on how to live a life we can truly enjoy.
Marina’s work has been featured on ITV’s This Morning, Marie Claire, Spirit & Destiny, The Guardian and the Daily Mail.
If you are interested in finding out where your joy gaps are and what you can do about them, visit: www.MarinaPearson.com/scorecard.
You can also join Marina on the Joy of Being podcast at www.MarinaPearson.com/podcast.
Nicole Burgess is a licensed psychotherapist, host of Soulfilled Sisterhood podcast, and introvert empowerment coach to high achieving and sensitive professional women. She helps highly sensitive women end the overwhelm and stressed out cycle, perfectionism and find balance in their life. They go from surviving to thriving in our busy world.
Nicole began her career in Corporate America as an accountant before she followed her true calling as a psychotherapist to empowerment coach. She helps other visionaries, non-conformists, and truth sayers reach their potential without burning out.
We learn how to reframe your thoughts:
Listen to mind chatter
Write the thoughts down, you can become objective and figure out where it comes from, you can ask: What story am I telling myself? Where did this thought come from? (most of the things we tell ourselves comes from before the age of 9.
You have to recognize it is there to be able to change it. Many women are shocked at how much they put themselves down and how negative they are in their own mind.
Compassion and forgiveness is the cure and you can begin to shift and change it. You can begin to love yourself and then love others.
Some Tips from Nicole:
We all need to be working with a therapist and or a coach. We can all benefit from working with someone that is at least one step ahead.
Review every day
-What are your wins? What worked really well?
Anyone can learn it! Some woman do not ask for a raise, if they have their own business, they don’t raise their rates and may not keep good track of their money. There is a lot of shame around not knowing and you really, truly can learn!
A money mindset is being aware of what you are telling yourself, what your limiting beliefs are. Then, taking steps, knowing that it is ok to not know and then take little steps towards it.
Listen to the podcast interview above or on your fav. smartphone app to hear the whole interview.
Caroline Myss, Sacred Contracts
Podcast: Soulfilled Sisterhood www.nicoleburgesscoaching.com/podcast
Free online workshop "The 5 Step Strategy My Clients Use to End Overwhelm, Get Rid of Guilt, and Increase Connection to Their Partner as a Highly Sensitive Woman":
Music Credit to: Corporate Innovative by Scott Holmes scottholmesmusic.com
Our Daily Personal Growth Group
"This too shall pass" is a powerful quote we hear when going through a storm in life. Our guest today is in the middle of one and instead of postponing the interview, he shared with us from a place of vulnerability and truth. What do you do when you feel like a failure? How do you move forward?
James shares his walk through these questions and the balance between waiting and taking action. We will dive deep into the mindset of overcoming the paralyzing effects of feeling like a failure and how to move forward to embrace a mindset that we are wyred to win?
Some topics that we will cover are:
Divorce, starting a podcast, wisdom form interviewing many musicians and successful artists and more. Check out the entire interview above or on your favorite podcast app.
James Newcomb is a father, musician, podcaster, and entrepreneur.
Jame's Morning Routine
Turns on the light and burner to make his Kion coffee
Counts to 300 while waiting for the water to boil
Makes coffee in a french press and opens up the Bible
Reads bible gateway on the app on his phone. He reads the featured scripture and the whole chapter. He then reads the Tora followed by the Proverb.
He reads from a success type book
Walks on the beach when the sun is out or exercises
By 8:00 he is ready to go and gives himself the first and best hour of the day to devote to his business
Edits and produces podcasts for most to the day
When his son is home he exercises indoors and sometimes with his son sitting on his back as a weight as he does pushups. They plank together.
Principles by Ray Dalio
Tom Woods Show
Music Credit to: Corporate Innovative by Scott Holmes scottholmesmusic.com
Our Daily Personal Growth Group
"You can not be in gratitude and have lack at the same time. It is a conscious choice that you as a human being are making to say, I don't have enough or look at how full my cup is." -Rachel DesRochers
Show notes coming soon.........
5 Love Languages https://www.5lovelanguages.com
Instagram - @racheldesrochers
Suicide rates continue to rise and it has been estimated that it is the second leading cause of death in teens. Although it is all too common it is not often spoken about and it can be difficult to find support if you have a teen that has attempted to take their life. There is often a stigma attached to what it means to have a child try to take their own life and also the fact that society seems to only deal with things when it is too late.
Anna has been through this and due to the lack of support ended up shifting her entire career to create that support as well as be available to support her daughter. She faced one of the worst events that a parent can when her daughter attempted to take her own life. She shares her story openly and vulnerable today and lives her life to empower Moms.
Welcome to the Synergy Mindset Coaching Podcast. We share inspiring stories and expert advice to help you with your daily personal growth to achieve the life you desire. I am your host and certified life coach Gina Johnson.
Anna Milne is your lifeline thrown out to support you in the midst of the storm; pulling you back to shore away from the guilt, overwhelm and towards peace and calm. Flourishing Moms was created for moms to have a place to go, to learn, grow and not Survive but to Flourish.
Anna is a trained Child, Youth and Family Counsellor, and Life Coach who has years of experience working with families all around the world. Her focus changed from Children to working with Moms out of her own need of support while walking through her youngest daughters suicide attempt. She is that much-needed spark of light in the midst of that at times overwhelming Chaos.
She shares the story of how they healed as a family and how she overcame feelings of guilt. Listen to the interview by clicking on the player to hear the whole story. She speaks to the heart of a parent, in saying, "it is not your fault".
Favorite Book: The Four Agreements
The Flourishing Moms Podcast: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/flourishing-moms/id1442910743?mt=2
Instagram Anna Milne https://www.instagram.com/flourishing_moms/
Music Credit to: Corporate Innovative by Scott Holmes scottholmesmusic.com
Our Daily Personal Growth Community https://www.facebook.com/groups/synergymindsetcoaching/
Do you ever tire from hearing about how positive you should always be while juggling all that life demands each day? There is a time for positivity and reality that there are negative things that happen, we must acknowledge, feel and move through. That is what Terri, podcast host of Mom Like that, wife and working Mother has come to share.
Today we deep dive into the life of a working Mom, mindset and how to be real in a world of pseudo-happiness. We learn about how to set a schedule at the beginning of the week, have grace when things go wrong and all about self-care.
Terri is the Mom of a 3 and 5-year-old boy, wife and currently in the transition of a new career. She is a podcast host and has a passion to bring different motherhood perspectives together.
Some key takeaways:
How do you keep feeling that you are growing? You can ask yourself these questions.
What did I achieve this week?
Where did I fail this week?
How can I improve upon?
2. How having self-care allows us to give back more to others and be there for our family.
3. Allowing yourself to feel sad, to hurt, to be a little bit miserable for a short time is helpful to your happiness.
4. How to set a schedule at the beginning of each week and have grace for it's unfolding.
Never Split the Difference: Negotiating As If Your Life Depended On It
The Birth Order Book: Why You Are the Way You Are
The Gold Digger Podcast
Mom Like That Podcast https://itunes.apple.com/ca/podcast/mom-like-that-podcast/id1438325544?mt=2
This post is for the secondary parent that struggles with feeling stress, fear and anxiety when being left alone with their children. In many cases it is Dad, and for the purposes of this article, I will refer to Mom as the primary parent and Dad as the secondary yet acknowledge that in 2019 there are many different combinations of parenting.
My kids range from graduated to elementary school age and I have been supporting my daughter raising her child as a single Mom for almost two years now. I can't even begin to tell you how much I have learned and I am excited to share it with you because I have seen far too many Dad's in my 18 years of being a parent, check out because they don't feel valued, equipped or capable of being a Dad.
Can you be a good Dad? This is the very question that Dale Carnage was asked over and over again about the topic of being a public speaker, and he answered them, I know you can.
What is the difference of being a Dad and a good Public Speaker, Businessman, or CEO? Comfort, experience, and mindset are a few that come to mind. What you have learned in business school you can learn about being a Dad, you can strengthen the things you are good at and seek support for the things you are not.
I made the mistake of acting as a Mom to my Grandaughter before realizing that I am not. I am her Granny and there are some big differences. A few differences were:
Mom breastfed and created the primary attachment
Mom took a year off school and was there every day and night and I worked
Mom cuddled her, loved her and was there for every moment, I filled in for a bit
When I had my kids I was Mom and I was used to being able to pick them up, rock back and forth and comfort them. When I picked my granddaughter up, she wanted her Mom, not me, it took a lot of time, consistency and communication with her Mom for me to create a relationship where she wanted me and sometimes, she still only wants Mom.
Because I am Granny, that is ok. I have seen many Dad's take this very thing personally and become defeated. They think that their child doesn't love them, or that they are not good at being a Dad and what I have seen them do makes it worse.
Dad's take a step back........ instead of taking two forward. Each step they take back, increases their disconnection with their child. The connection is what they are seeking and disconnection is what they get.
Music credit with gratitude to Scott Holmes. Song Innovative Corporate scottholmesmusic.com URL:
Photo: Photo by Sam Headland on Unsplash
Thank you to my daughter Emily
Today we take a deep dive into the scripture and talk about having a renewed mind, forgiveness and Grace. Mike is a serial entrepreneur with a passion to share the Grace of Jesus.
He co-hosts the Grace Coach Podcast with Kevin Smith and after finding it over the holidays, I reached out to ask him to share with you. Today we cover the following topics:
How his heart for Jesus helps him as a business owner.
How Jesus offers us forgiveness for our sins, grace and unconditional love.
For Mindset Monday, how we renew our minds as you will hear in Romans.
Favorite Book and Podcast
Classic Christianity, Bob George
Music credit to
Bob Christopher has a great book and podcast where you can call in to ask questions. https://basicgospel.net/about/bob-christopher/
Links and Credit
The Grace Coach Podcast
Music with permission and credit with gratitude to Scott Holmes. Song Innovative Corporate scottholmesmusic.com URL:
Rhonda Britten shares a story that takes most peoples breath away. Today she is here to share the story of how her childhood was taken away in a moment when her father murdered her mother in front of her. The years between him taking his own life after to appearing on Oprah and sharing her story for the first time were difficult. She engaged in self-destructive behavior and built walls to keep people from getting to close.
She has dedicated her life to helping people become fearless and is a Master Coach. One of the skills she teaches is how to listen to a difficult story. Today she is brave, courageous and vulnerable and opens a window for us to walk along her on her journey of healing.
When Rhonda was only 14 her father murder her Mother and then shot himself. The whole story unfolds in the podcast episode that you can listen to above or on Apple Podcasts.
Fearless Living Gift
Music: Music credit with gratitude to Scott Holmes. Song Innovative Corporate scottholmesmusic.com URL: http://freemusicarchive.org/music/Scott_Holmes/Corporate__Motivational_
Have you ever had one too many drinks at a social event and suffered from that regret of having said or done something that you only wish you could take back? I had the privilege of having James Swanwick stop by for the second time to share some great stories about how people are having fun and enjoying the Christmas season without the hangovers, regrets or alcohol.
We dive into his expertise in helping people sleep better, find more clarity, focus, energy and even make more money. If you would like to hear his story from the first interview you can find it here: James
James Swanwick is an Australian-American investor, entrepreneur, speaker, former SportsCenter anchor on ESPN, host of The James Swanwick Show podcast and the author of The 30 Day No Alcohol Challenge. Forbes listed James as one of 25 Professional Networking Experts to Watch.
James quit drinking alcohol in 2010 and hasn't touched it since. His life radically transformed and he has had a lot of success since. His life is about positive mindset and positive health habits and he has created businesses around them.
We talk about failure, staying positive after a failure, the 30 day, no alcohol challenge, sleep and how his new product, Swannies blue light blocking glasses are improving lives. You can hear the entire interview here and be sure to check out the first where he shares his own personal story.
Music credit with gratitude to Scott Holmes. Song Innovative Corporate scottholmesmusic.com URL: http://freemusicarchive.org/music/Scott_Holmes/Corporate__Motivational_Music
Burnout to Thriving Entrepreneur with David Ralph
David was determined to see his business thrive. When he was given a stern warning from his doctor that he may only have 6 months left if he didn't slow down, he increased his workload intending to accomplish his goal before his health runway ran out. His ended up burning out and in the hospital needing to scale back his 20 hour days. In today's interview, he shares his journey and the process he created to live a healthy life and run a successful business.
David Ralph is the host of the top-ranked online show, Join Up Dots where he joins up the dots of his guest's lives, highlighting their failures and successes (with more than a few laughs in between)
He is an ex-corporate trainer, with a wife, five kids, a grandson, a cat, and a snail (that might actually be dead already...who can tell?)
When David began Join Up Dots, he was working 20 hour days and wearing all the hats required to get the jobs done. He tells us that being an entrepreneur requires learning new skills daily to keep up with everything that needs to be done.
In the beginning, David had not figured out what he was really good at and he did everything. His friends commented that he didn't look well and his hair began to fall out. That was when the doctor told him that he needed to slow down and that he may have a heart attack or stroke in the next 6 months. David figured, if he had 6 months then he could work even harder and as long as he finished the job, before the time was up, he would be ok.
He was living life as if he were Superman but like all mere mortals, burn out hit him again. David is not the type of man to give up and on he pressed. He was determined to figure it out.
Optimized Entrepreneurship for The Solopreneur
David figured out how to optimize his tasks and put systems into place. He has interviewed over 1200+ successful guests on his show and what he took away from all those interviews was that the most successful people are not all that smart. They focus on what they are best at doing, the 10%.
He told us that that thing that you are the best at, the thing that no one can do better than you is the exact thing that you feel guilty for charging for. We dive into some great conversation about how to charge for a service and offer value each step of the way, check out the whole podcast to catch all of the details by listening to the player above or on Apple Music here. David Ralph Interview
The path to success for David was not straight and easy yet he demonstrated some skills along the way to achieve victory. Here are a few that really stood out to me.
Savouring: Putting a spin on a cold rainy day by enjoying the time in his warm bed.
Vision: Having a vision and the ability to work away towards it each day without giving up until the objective has been achieved.
Optimism: Being able to see the good in situations and to know when it's bad that it will get better. Not giving up.
Humour: From the intro, he used humour as he does on his own show, it lightens up life!
If you want to do something, know that it is there waiting for you. It is in your head for a reason, you never get ideas that pop into your head that you don't want to do. That thing that pops in your mind is waiting, it is knocking on your door and it is your duty to open it.
The 4 Hour Work Week with Tim Ferris
The Rules of Life by Richard Templar
Meaningful Money with Pete Matthew
Welcome to the Synergy Mindset Podcast, Mindset Monday Edition. Nate Ridgeway is here to share about the Scarcity Mindset vs. the Abundance Mindset. We will find out what the Abundance Mindset is and how can we adopt an Abundance Mindset?
Nate is a Husband, Father, Entrepreneur, John Maxwell Certified Coach, Pastors’ Son, the Leader of Life Tribe and also has an amazing Second Chance Story. On his website, he says that he is grateful for his second chance at living life wisely and well.
He grew up, The Son of a Preacher Man, that was also, The Son of a Preacher Man and he was also The Son of a Preacher Man. Being the 4th generation involved in church ministry and it taught him to love and value people and how to build things.
Whether you are building things or peoples lives it is in Nate's DNA, in his blood.
Not an Abundance Mindset
Nate shares that he was not always living with an abundance mindset and started off his family in debt by putting the hospital bills on his credit card. They took vacations and paid utilities and at one point got to 50K credit card debt on high-interest cards.
He had the wrong mindset about life, got up to 247 lbs, was totally stressed out, hated life and ended up wondering how he ended up overweight, broke, and frustrated. He has massive desires to make a massive impact in the world and he was not making an impact at that time.
Nate was given the name, Life Architect, by a dear friend of his that had a branding firm and put the story in front of his face. He showed him how far he had come and how he was helping people to re-engineer and redesign their lives. This really played to the DNA of his heart.
A Change in Life
. When he realized change needed to take place in his own life it began step by step. He experienced frustration while he was trying on his wedding/funeral suit and it just wasn't buttoning and he punched the mirror in frustration. It as a wake-up moment of the physical state his body was in. The next was when he went to a financial coach and they uncovered his $600.00 a month Starbucks Habit. He tells us that when you are accountable and you really want to move from scarcity to abundance you are willing to take those kinds of, "spankings" from a coach.
His mindset was a scarcity mindset because he had a lack of abundance in his mindset to be honest with himself and know how to use whatever resources were available to him. He was not in abundance because he had money to spend at Starbucks, he was in scarcity because he was using money that he could have put towards his debt so that he could move towards abundance.
Moving toward abundant living is knowing how to use your resources; time, energy, money, a skill, talent or the gifts that God has given you responsibility.
The Power of a Coach or Mentor
You have to be willing to submit to a coach if it is going to be effective. There are many coaches and areas of coaching and Nate feels that the coaching fit is special. He recommends taking the time to find a coach where the relationship is the right fit, someone that can help you get what you are looking for. Find someone that has done what you want to do or has been where you want to go.
Listen to the whole interview to find out what those steps are and hear the rest of Nate's Journey. Find out how he developed a Rockstar Abundance in his life and how it has allowed him to make a massive impact in the world. Listen on Apple Podcasts or by clicking on the player above.
Nate's Fav Book:
Think and Grow Rich
The PodcastNate's Listening to:
Nate's Website: http://nateridgeway.com
Life is a gift and at any moment can be taken from us. It is a miracle that our guest today is alive and here to share his amazing story. He brings hope in the darkest of places and wisdom he learned from a difficult journey.
Danny Bader is a best-selling author, inspirational coach, a member of the Elite Catholic Speakers Organization, CatholicSpeakers.com, and he has an inspiring Instagram page. He has worked with some of the biggest organizations in the nation and has delivered over 10,000 hours inspiring others to live their best life. His purpose of sharing his time with us today is to tell us about how a near-death experience transformed his life.
Danny Bader lives outside of Philadelphia Pennsylvania with his wife and three children. He spends time with his family, travels, works, goes to the beach, runs and works out a little bit.
Second Chance Story
Take us to the moment in time that you would consider the worst moment of your second chance story and tell us the STORY. We’ll share what you learned.
Danny was in an accident before he was 29 years old. He and his friend were lowering a ladder and tragically and certainly mistakenly hit an electrical line that had 8-10,000 volts of electricity in it. It came down the metal ladder and went into their bodies and killed his friend Bruce that day. Bruce was a great father of 3 a husband and only 36 years old.
Danny had an experience of peace and knew he was dying or dead. His soul, spirit, life force, energy (whatever you want to call it), left his body. He absolutely believes now that when our human bodies stop working, there is a part of us that continues on. He called his book, Back from Heaven’s Front Porch, because he had an experience of that but he knew he had further to go, he explains that experience as being on Heaven's front porch, and then he was back in his body. It was the strangest experience he has had and not of this world.
He crawled over and helped the other brother Stew, and he was trying to help Bruce. He asked him how he was here? Danny took his boots off because his feet were killing him. He took off his boots and socks and feet had little holes in them. There was not any blood because the electricity cauterized them.
Stew came over and asked Danny what happened. Danny told him he must have hit a wire and Stew said he knew. Danny said he saw him coming down the ladder and was yelling at him to get his brother. Stew said that he had not said anything, that Stew had rolled him over and given him CPR and tried to save him, given up and thought he was dead. He left Danny to try and save his brother Bruce. Danny was without oxygen for 7-8 minutes, this is a lot longer than the human brain can live. He doesn’t know if there is a medical reason he is here.
The Second Chance Story came after that because he went into a dark place, he wouldn’t let anyone help him, he was experiencing Survivors Guilt.
The Turn Around Point
Take us to the moment in time of an incredible turnaround point you’ve experienced and tell us the STORY. We’ll explore the steps you took or the faith you used to walk your journey.
He came out of a bar after drinking way too much, went into a phone booth and phoned his Mom. She asked him when he was coming home and said they couldn’t wait to see him. This changed his life direction. He had made plans to engage in an act of self-destruction and be done with it all. With tears in his eyes and a lump in his throat he told her he would come in a few days.
Something inside him shifted and he asked a question, “I wonder what it’s gonna be like when I get better?”
He got up the next day and began to make the trip to see his Mom, it wasn’t all better but it was certainly the turn ar...
Today on Mindset Monday I speak with Jiaying Zhao about the Scarcity mindset and how it impacts everyone. She brings her own story about growing up in China living in an area experiencing poverty and tells us that is has led her to dedicate her life to researching and helping some of the most vulnerable and poor people. She shares her lens on this topic as well as some research and statistics from her work.
Jiaying has her PhD in Cognitive Psychology and is an Assistant Professor for the Department of Psychology at UBC. She is a Canada Research Chair (t2) in Behavioral Sustainability. She belongs to the Institute for Resources, Environment and Sustainability. She loves her work of research, supervising students, research projects, teaching, and service.
On The Synergy Mindset Podcast, she takes us back to the beginning of her story and shares about her life growing up in China. She tells us she grew up poor and had intimate experiences in her family and in society at that time. Her family got out of poverty and she was able to pursue an education in Canada.
She was interested in poverty because of her personal experience and when she was in graduate school, one of her Ph.D. advisors was working on poverty. Jiaying jumped on board immediately because it was a personal interest and passion of hers since childhood. They wanted to understand what makes the poor poor and for the last decade have been investigating a psychological cognitive explanation of the behaviors of low-income individuals.
Scarcity Mindset is a condition of not having enough or the feeling of not having enough. This can be money, time, calories, pretty much anything. It is experienced by pretty much everyone in the world.
When someone is feeling scarcity they begin to tunnel their resources. They focus only on the task at hand and can end up making poor decisions due to a lack of seeing the big picture.
Jiaying uses the example of money scarcity and how people borrow money, such payday loans, with high interest to solve the moment's problems. They neglect everything else and those other things are equally important. This is a cognitive phenom.
There are other scarcity mindsets. There are social driven ones as well. In society, we tend to view low-income individuals as lazy or not-competent and it is most of the time, unfair and not true. The poor suffer a lot of stigma because of their poverty identity. Therefore, a poor person may be worried about how others view them based on the perception that they know the average person will view them. These are mental burdens on the poor.
It uses cognitive resources and the worry has effects. This constant worry reduces IQ, decreases performance and testing, When Jiaying grew up in China in the 80's everyone was poor therefore she experienced equality. Here in Canada, we have inequality of super-rich to all ranges which causes even more of a stereotype.
We need to change the public perception of the poor and there are several initiatives on the way.
A vicious cycle, the person perceives the stereotype is true about them, therefore, acts with behavior that is destructive or will be in ways to confirm the belief and ends up becoming the person that the stigma projects. It can be broken by realizing the stereotype or belief is not true. This is how we can begin to dissociate the situation from the individual. The individual can change their belief about themselves and therefore change their behavior.
Policymakers can help make a difference as well. Jiaying has met with leaders to discuss how the government can help by increasing the overall income for low-income people. She suggests that we look at the impact the cash incentives will have on a person and what their individual needs...
Have you felt the pain of losing someone that you love followed by the frustration of thinking about how difficult starting over would be? Post Traumatic Growth can show up from failed relationships. If you are hurting or keep repeating the same cycle of relationship- single- relationship tune in to this podcast interview with Katrina Goff.
Katrina Goff, CAPP, CRT, is a positive psychology practitioner, and a certified resilience trainer, licensed to facilitate the Bounce Back Better(R) system, a Flourishing Center Program.
Katrina spent the majority of her career working in Health Care and with the Military. She came across the term, Post Traumatic Growth in a Psychology class she was taking and was able to share it with several service members in active duty over the years. It gave them some hope, and she could help them to see a different side of life other than just Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.
She is passionate about helping people have happier and healthier relationships and helping people see there is something else outside of just being stuck in the trauma of a situation, that you can find good in situations and you can have maybe a different life than you anticipated but that it can be even better than you dreamed.
It's all about how we choose to look at things and really being aware of the thoughts that come into our minds and what we do with them.
Sometimes we are getting something out of holding into trauma and are not ready to let it go. The longer we entertain a negative or painful thought the quicker it will pop back into our head. We have automatic thoughts and we have the power to take control over it, we do not have to entertain them.
We may not have had control over the initial situation but what we think and feel about it is definitely in our control.
We often think of war, a serious illness, death of a loved one, rape or anything traumatic but when we think about a failed relationship that can be one of the most traumatic events that ever happen to us in our life.
We have invested our time, our heart, our mind into believing we are going to have that relationship forever. Perhaps that person is your best friend and you never imagined not having them in your life. Due to some circumstances regardless of fault, it can be debilitating.
We can want to lay in bed and our thoughts can focus on the negative like how our life will never be the same and that we won't have it back again. These thoughts don't lead us forward.
Post Traumatic Growth (PTG)
When we can see it and know how it shows up we can build more of it into our lives. One way that it shows up for Katrina is in Spirituality. Knowing she has a Heavenly Father that loves her and being part of something bigger than herself is very important to her. She knew when she was hurting that she was never alone.
She tells us that when our heart feels it is breaking we tend to want to isolate ourselves and we feel we are the only person that ever felt that way but we are not alone, everyone feels this way and have had a heartbreaking experience.
Meaning - I can make an understanding of what happened and expect that something is going to be better in the future because of it.
We are meaning-making creatures and want to figure out what we learned so we can share it with others. PTG comes from asking questions such as, What was my part in that breakup, what did I miss? How can I help other people? It is hard to do but if we don't get to the heart of this, we can end up in that repeating cycle of relationship, single and heartbreak or we never believe we can have it.
Purpose - Future focuses, What am I going to do with that info that came from meaning?
What gifts, skills,
Mindset Monday with Doug Holt
What do you do when others think you have it made but deep inside you still feel like something is missing. You long for more than the life you have right now, what do you do?
Back in 2007, Doug was one of the youngest business owners on the main street in Santa Barbara, CA. Owning an elite private training gym, a fitness magazine, and doing consulting for several companies. By all accounts he had it made... but he wasn't fulfilled. That's when Doug made a dramatic shift and began to ask the question: If you put down the last few years of your life into a book would it be a book you'd even want to read? Better yet would it be a page turner? If not, it's time to make a change and a change is exactly what Doug set out to make... and he did.
Meet Doug Today
He has been traveling with his family for 4 months. His 17-month son is his life and his goal and mission is to be the best possible husband and father he can be.
Doug wakes up in the morning and journals, gets some work done and then spends a lot of time with his son. He runs 6 companies and the journey he shares today is all about how he made his business run around his life and not the other way around.
Doug grew up an entrepreneur and it started in Orange County California where he grew a garden in his backyard and sold the produce door to door. He has always been that way and gave a lot to charity. Two cornerstones in his life were Entrepreneurship and Philanthropy.
He was one of the youngest business owners and was running three business at the time. He ran a magazine, was consulting and ran a networking group that consisted of some celebrities and business people.
From the outside, he felt that something was missing and went to his mentor to share this. His mentor told him to, "buck up" and be happy with how lucky he was. It didn't sit right in his stomach so he went to a coffee shop and started writing.
The turn around point
Doug asked a powerful question in his journaling, If someone followed him around for the last couple of years of his life and wrote it down, would it be a best seller, a book Doug would be interested in reading, a page turner? The answer shocked him, it was NO!
Doug took an honest appraisal of his life and noticed that he was stressed and that his time away from work was lonely. He decided he wanted to have a family and time to spend with them and when he consulted his mentor he was told that he couldn't have both.
Observing others, Doug noticed that others in the business world weren't happy with their family life and he knew he wanted to have both. I asked him how he overcame being given this advice, advice being given by extremely successful people in life and business, neighbors of Ellen and Oprah.
He went on a quest that lasted about four years and attended seminars, had coaching and mentoring and took it all in. He started piecing it all together like a puzzle. He gamified it into where he could get wins and figured out how he could make his business work for him. He sold the studio that required him to be there in person and took his businesses online. It required a lot of hard work and utilization of processes and systems to make it successful.
He shared with his mentor and his mentor was very happy that he was able to create the life of his dreams.
The 90-day game plan
Doug created the 90-day game to help gamifie your own life. You an find it at https://www.the90daygame.com
Mindset Monday with Ana Melikian
Ana shares her fascinating story of moving from Portugal to Phoenix Arizona in the United States. She had been traveling the world speaking in her academic life as a Psychotherapist and left is behind to be with her husband.
She had recently finished her PhD and to practice in the United States, she would have had to jump back into more time in school so she decided to start her own coaching business. Ana tells us that jumping back into school felt as if she had completed running a marathon and was about to run the second one right away.
She felt that life coaching pulled her skills and academic life together and she went on and became certified through the best coaching programs. She had found that her coaching business was much different than her practice in Psychotherapy. Using a Growth Mindset, she began to look to find a way to make success in coaching.
Ana began to train with Michael Port, the NY Times Best Selling author and creator of Book Yourself Solid®. She became certified, then became an elite coach.
As Ana shares about mindset, she mentions Carol Dweck and her book. Mindset.
Ana's steps to changing your thoughts:
Become aware of our fixed mindset, we all have blind spots and a self-awareness muscle. We can become aware of our talk telling us that we can not do something.
Recognize we have a choice, decide if we will do something about it.
Talkback with our growth mindset. Reframe negative thoughts into we can do it attitude. Add yet, to your thoughts, I am not good at this yet!
Effort, it is not desire alone that does something, we must put in a lot of effort and it is totally possible.
FACEBOOK PAGE: https://www.facebook.com/AnaMelikian
“Watch your thoughts, they become words;
watch your words, they become actions;
watch your actions, they become habits;
watch your habits, they become character;
watch your character, for it becomes your destiny.”
Woman are like the thermostat of the home, there is a ripple into their families, jobs and everything they do if they are not well. This week on Mindset Monday is our first Practitioner interview with Dr. Cobi from Essential Health Natural Wellness Clinic.
We all know it is important to have a healthy body but I ask her why is it important to have a healthy mind?
Dr. Cobi tells us that it doesn't really matter how healthy your physical body is if your mind is not. If you are struggling with depression or anxiety you may not answer you are doing alright. If you have a really healthy mindset and are struggling with physical symptoms, you can sort of overlook them if your mindset is healthy.
How do you help woman achieve optimal health?
Dr. Cobi's specialty is Hormonal Health. She found that the underlying cause of many of the woman she would see was because of a hormone issue. Upon realizing this Dr. Cobi returned to school to earn her Ph.D. in Endocrine Function, (Basically Hormone Issues) She found herself falling more and more in love with hormones as she witnessed the impact it had on her patients.
She tells us that Woman's hormones shift throughout the month and depending on the sensitivity during these shifts, it can equal a lot of issues. When a woman comes in and is struggling with fatigue, mood swings, menstrual issues, weight gain or other symptoms the first thing she helps them with is to recognize why they are feeling that way and discover the underlying cause. She helps them to discover it through comprehensive hormone testing, kind of the, "Hallmark foundation", of her practice.
You could be feeling anxiety that could be coming from several different hormone issues, that is why is very important to find out the cause of the symptoms before treating them.
She uses lifestyle changes first such as asking questions like, how did you get here in the first place? If it is stress, she will help her to make lifestyle changes. She uses specialized natural hormone therapies, natural herbal medicine remedies supplements and detox.
How did Dr. Cobi find her path?
Growing up, her Mom was always interested in natural health and her Grandpa was a herbalist so she got a bit of exposure from him. Dr. Cobi knew she was going to be a doctor or pharmacist from a young age.
While he was in school her Mother developed a rare blood condition and was in the hospital for a year. She had to leave school and witnessed her mother go from being told that she would not live a healthy productive life to thriving. She tapped into her belief of natural medicine and although conventional medicine saved her, Natural Medicine brought her back to fully living.
After this experience, she switched her path into Natural Medicine Healing.
Q. What is something that you find you are often repeating to your clients?
A. That when you come to Dr. Cobi, you won't be just taking a couple of pills and going home. She makes a reference to a marriage, both people have to work at it.
Q. What can a first-time client do to best prepare for a first appointment.
A. She finds most people have been down the path for a while and are ready for some changes or a shift in a different direction. She hopes they are open to making some changes in the foods they eat, the lifestyle they are living and this question, how do I treat the cause so I don't have to keep treating the symptoms? This is about 50% of the work she tells us.
Q. Is there anything you would like to share?
A. Her passion is to help people live their best life. She is on the team of the patient no matter what that looks like. It could be conventional medicine, natural medicine, coaching.... whatever that looks like that is what you will get.
Ashley knows what it is like to feel like life is dark, hope is something for others, health is a dream and it is hard. At her worst point, she had Polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS), type two diabetes, chronic fatigue, brain fatigue and a list of health issues holding her back from living the life of her dreams.
Today she is thriving, has overcome all of her health challenges and is helping others to create a life of thriving through her podcast, coaching and by sharing her personal journey.
The Foundation of Health
Sleep -We should be getting at least 8 hours of sleep you can listen to her full interview on sleep hygiene
Moving your body -Get outside, hug a tree, breathe in the fresh air and move your body
Eat Vegetables -Aim for two cups per meal or 6-8 cups per day
Drink Water -Aim for 1/3 of your body weight plus extra for your vices such as sugar and sitting all day.
Mentioned on the show
Dr. Molly Niedermeyer her interview on the Learn True Health Podcast http://learntruehealth.com/dr-molly-niedermeyer/
Back to Eden Gardening https://www.backtoedenfilm.com/organicgardening.html
Every Day is A Second Chance to gain new learnings, learn something new, learn from others, your own experience, the past, the painful things.
Music credit with gratitude: http://freemusicarchive.org/music/Scott_Holmes/
The Ryan Banks Academy was a dream in Valerie's Mind for many years before it became a reality for the 2018/2019 school year. She shares the story and mindset behind the school opening.
Valerie Groth was a Social Worker in the South side of Chicago and worked with awesome kids facing a lot of challenges. They had such tough environments that they self-harmed and tried to commit suicide.
She had the dream to create a boarding school that would provide a safe place for kids to receive an education for 11 years. She had thought she would do it once she retired, perhaps when she had piles of cash lying around. Haha, she jokes with us as that is unlikely to happen.
A few events happened that caused her to begin now. She quit her job four years ago and began to make it a reality.
What happened in your mindset to take this from someday to today?
She lost a student to gun violence. It was not the first, it was one she was close with and enough was enough.
Valerie attended the World Domination Summit in Portland and Michael Hyatt was giving a speech. He told the audience that an actuary had told him that someone in the audience would die in the next 30 days.
She had the realization that her dream was so big that no one else would know what to do, not Oprah, not the President, They Mayor didn't have a blueprint so therefore it helped her to ask, Why can't I do it. The bigger the plan is, the easier it was for her to see, it is never about the How, it is making the decision that you are going to do it.
She made the realization that, "this is massive, audacious and requires sacrifice" and she made the decision every day to keep on moving forward.
Her dream is for it to be a boarding school in a few years. Today, they are operating with their first grade 7 class as a day school.
Talking about team
Valerie shares that there are two teams. The Ryan Banks Academy team and the team of people that support her personally. They helped her by coaching, advising and mentoring her along the way.
Book The Power of the Possible https://www.amazon.com/Valerie-Groth/e/B077T5PRB1
Valerie's Website http://valeriegroth.com
Music credits: http://freemusicarchive.org/music/Scott_Holmes/
Today on Mindset Monday, Ryan M. Esquivel shares his journey to overcome Survivors Guilt, PTSD and trauma to living a life that is full of love, joy and helping others on their own personal journey.
His journey began in February of 2004 when his roommate and best friend was killed in action. He was with him a couple of hours before he died and that moment kept playing in his head long after he returned home.
When he returned home he threw himself into work and his military relationship suffered, his personal relationships suffered, because he wanted his friend back. Ryan began to blame people and his world contracted as people began leaving him. It wasn't until about 2008 when he experienced a one in a million moments.
A private ran into him in Southern California and asked him if he knew his roommate. It turned out that it was his best friend. They learned to value each other and became really good friends over the years. Ryan tells us that was the start of his faith, a belief in a God, energy, something out there. He began to start to put his life together and see-sawed back and forth of finding a job, losing a job, in and out of that dark place.
He discovered that you need to find the joy, your purpose and the meaning of life. It may sound cliche but when you are on a journey you learn that when you share your pain it feels better. It wasn't until 2018 that looking back he was able to see, people had been taking care of him all along.
His Fav. Book
Mindset: The New Psychology of Success by Carol S. Dweck
Secrets of the Millionaire Mind: Mastering the Inner Game of Wealth by T. Harv Eker
As we get deep into Ryan's journey he shares how carrying Survivors Guilt began to impact his relationship with his family. He replayed the picture in his mind and wanted to go back and change it. He realized that loving people is hard, sharing is hard and the more you love and share the easier it becomes. Listen to the whole interview to hear the whole story.
Music credit to: http://freemusicarchive.org/music/Scott_Holmes/
Take control of your thoughts, reduce your stress and flourish in this season of life.
School is back and for us Professional Mom’s it can be a time of stress or joy. It’s a lot of jugging time; making lunches, putting on make up, getting kids off to school, arranging afterschool care, commuting to our work or business, answering emails and phone calls, fulfilling our duties, picking up our kids, organizing drop off and pick up for activities, helping with homework, eating dinner together, spending time with our family, reading and getting our kids to bed followed by balancing the last couple of hours between finding some self-care time, reading or going to bed early so we may rise early to start our morning with a workout or prayer time.
It’s all in this video, if you would prefer the fun song that was so famous a few years back.
Now, what if your mind is wandering all over the place while you are navigating through all these activities. Your putting on your makeup and thinking about what you need to do later in the day, you're on a coaching call thinking about what you are going to make for dinner, you're watching your child’s soccer game and when they score a goal, you are thinking about how your speech will be next week. (I just watched Click with my daughter, if you haven't seen it and enjoy Adam Sandler, I recommend it)
This is something a lot of Mom’s are struggling with and you are not alone. Here are a couple of things you can do to help start this season off strong.
Start a morning routine that includes time to pray or meditate, exercise, journal about gratitude for a few minutes, read, enjoy a cup of coffee. A great resource is Hal's Miracle Morning If you are a night owl there is always a bubble bath and a good book.
Taking good care of yourself is a great way to keep your mind clear. It is also an easy thing to postpone to make way for everything else. Consider scheduling at least 30 minutes a day if not 2 hours each day before you work out your schedule.
Evaluate your commitments
With the committees at the office, your kids school PAC committee, the many positions that are filling up to support your children’s activities, your church’s sign up for the Christmas Concert that will be starting soon, and many other various activities that are popping up in this season it is a great time to evaluate what you have committed to and what you will be committing to.
When you consider the commitments you will make, ask yourself these questions?
-will this bring me joy, use my talents or help me reach a goal?
-will this give me more time with my family?
-does it meet my values?
-do I want to spend more time with these people?
-what is the time commitment?
-if there are financial costs what are they?
-will this matter in 5 years
Try a Mind Dump
One of the coaching exercises I use with the Mom’s I coach with are Mind Dumps. If you have never done one try doing one large on first. Then consider doing this as a regular exercise.
Begin by writing down everything that is in your mind. You can work on it through the day or do it all at once. Snap a photo before you begin to write over it.
Next, prioritize the items into several categories.
Need to do today
Need to do in the next week
Need to do this month
Need to file on a separate list ie. Ideas
Scratch the rest that you don’t feel you need.
The first time I did this my will was #4 Long term, it took me one year to complete it and I celebrated wh...
When Rachel first found out she had Mitochondrial Dysfunction and experienced her body shutting down she had nearly lost all hope. Severe fatigue and muscle pain had kept her unable to live the life she desired and she took a big risk to find the doctor that kicked off her healing journey.
She took her life into her own hands and went on a journey to achieve the life of her dreams.
Second Chance Story
Rachel's Second Chance Story began seven years ago when she began to experience pains and aches in her body. She ended up being limited to only seven foods as they were causing her excruciating pain in her entire body. She was diagnosed with Fibromyalgia and Small Intestine Bacteria Overgrowth. Rachel saw several doctors without any success towards healing. She made the decision to take a big leap in faith and invested everything she had to go see a doctor in California.
Turn Around Point
The doctor in California introduced her to a program that helps retrain your brain. Rachel committed to it was so invested in the training she did it on her wedding night and honeymoon. For 6 months she did it every day and found incredible results.
Rachel changed her diet and it calmed her inflammation and cleared her brain fog so she could focus on the program. She started supplementation months through the journey when her body began to accept them.
Every Day Is A Second Chance to: Get clear on what your purpose on this earth is and follow it.
Links and Resources Mentioned
Brain Retraining Program https://retrainingthebrain.com
Podcast The Lively Show http://jesslively.com/livelyshow/
Book You Can Heal Your Life by Louise Hay
Heather was born premature and with Cerebral palsy. She was the first handicapped child mainstreamed into Calgary, Alberta’s public school system and subjected to many years of bullying and abuse. At the age of two, her parents were told that she was to be put into an institution because she would never amount to anything. She is on this show sharing her story because they were very wrong.
She had to overcome the damage that was done and when Heather was only 14 years old she was suicidal and had made a plan.
She tells us God had a plan that was greater for her and that she experienced his love and realized this at an event she attended.
Her dream of becoming a nurse couldn't be due to the physical pain and limitations that CP caused her and she shares a story that includes multiple mindset shifts coupled with the will to go on despite challenges.
In this inspiring interview, she shares her journey to becoming a Christian Inner Healing Coach. She helps Woman overcome deep, deep wounds by shifting their mindset to come into alignment with God's mindset.
The Holy Bible, https://www.bible.com
Hinds' Feet on High Places, by Hannah Hurnard
Lisa Bevere’s I Am Adamant
Scripture Mentioned James 1:2-4
2Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters,1:2 The Greek word for brothers and sisters (adelphoi) refers here to believers, both men and women, as part of God’s family; also in verses 16 and 19; and in 2:1, 5, 14; 3:10, 12; 4:11; 5:7, 9, 10, 12, 19.whenever you face trials of many kinds, 3because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. 4Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.
13 For you created my inmost being;
you knit me together in my mother’s womb.
14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
your works are wonderful, I know that full well.
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Wade hosts the 4-Day Work Week Entrepreneur podcast and is committed to helping 4,444,444 people create their own 4-day work week lifestyle. Wade has a Bachelor's Degree in Marketing, a Master's Degree in Mental Health Counseling Psychology, and
has been a Certified Integrative (Life) Coach with the (Debbie) Ford Institute.
When he’s not working, he enjoys spending time with family and friends, traveling the world, coaching youth sports and playing beach volleyball on Fridays.
He lives happily with his wife, children, and dog in Naples, Florida.
In this episode, he shares his journey to living the life of the 4-day work week as well as the mindset shift that is needed to start working towards this. It is a process he tells us that should usually take time and starts with the first step.
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When I went to the Place Maillardville Community Centre for a community event I was drawn to the Princess table and shortly after her performance began. My son and granddaughter were very excited and it didn't take long for a huge crowd of people to come over. Many were filming and taking pictures as she performed.
What really captivated me was how she sang as if no one was in the room. Her eyes were on the kids and the performance was spectacular. I reached out and asked Katrina Froese to share her story on the show so we could all learn the strategies she learned to be a successful Professional Princess.
In this podcast interview, we explore the journey she went on before she opened her business. her mindset while she is performing and more. You can find out more information about the work she does or book a party for your own children or class by clicking on the links below.
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Every Day Is A Second Chance Real Life Story Edition. Sharing real-life stories of those that have overcome illness, accidents and trauma. Welcome to our community! Show notes available at synergymindsetcoaching.com
Sharing inspiring stories of healing at everydayisasecondchance.com Find out the skills and mindset our guests have used to heal from illness, accidents and trauma.
Our guest today is Angela True sharing her courageous story of healing from the trauma of losing her Father to gun violence at a young age followed by her mother from illness. http://everydayisasecondchance.com/angelatrue/
Jan’s Second Chance Story
Imagine finding out you have Leukaemia when you are still under 30, not only with a three-year-old but while pregnant. The fear, the worry, the what iffs’ yet Jan shares a story that is positive, uplifting and offers hope and inspiration to realize that Cancer is the beginning and not the end.
Her Second Chance Story
Jan found out she had Leukaemia while she was pregnant and was more concerned about her son than her own health. She went to the doctors' office for a test for Rubella and the doctor called her the next day and told her they needed to see her right away.
She went to the doctor worried that he would tell her she had a miscarriage because she had one eight months prior. He came in looking like he had lost his best friend, and with tears in his eyes told her they thought she had Leukaemia.
Jan didn't know what it was and had thought that they were telling her that her baby had Leukaemia. As she began to realize what it meant, she asked him if he was telling her she was going to die and his answer was, "not necessarily"!
This was not very comforting to her. He checked out the baby and told her it was healthy. At this time, there were no cell phones so she went to find a payphone and called her husband. She told him that she had good news and bad news, the good being the baby was fine and the bad, she may have Leukaemia.
Can you imagine how long that weekend must have been, waiting to see the specialist?
She took the weekend off and went home. Although she tried to act as normal as possible, her thoughts went to what iff's and she decided she was going to make it through.
She went to the doctor and then the specialist a couple of days later. He confirmed that she had Leukaemia and very coldly, went over her options. He felt the odds were against her and recommended she have an abortion and gave her two weeks to make a decision.
Jan was a strong and courageous young woman and stuck with her belief that she would give birth to a healthy baby. Although the doctor didn't give her any hope or encouragement she found a way to find it herself. He did a bone marrow aspiration without pain medicine due to the pregnancy. He had told her there was no possibility of having a bone marrow transplant and would need extensive chemotherapy.
She came back two weeks later and he looked at her chart with a grim look on his face and told her she had the terrible, horrible type of Leukaemia. She was 1,000 away from having Acute Leukaemia. He asked her again if she decided about having the baby and she told him she was keeping the baby.
The specialist had a connection to a doctor at Vancouver General Hospital that was a woman and also pregnant that may be able to help her. God is good!
She went home that day and although she was not a religious person, she went on her hands and knees and prayed to God. She tells us she didn't believe before this but believes that "There are no Atheists in a foxhole". She prayed to God on her knees and said that if there is a God please help her and she promised to help other people with Cancer.
God listened to her and n the way to the doctor she saw a semi truck with a message on the sign that said Cancer can be beaten and she thought, oh my God, that is my sign.
The Turn Around Point
The doctor at Vancouver General Hospital worked with her and she also saw an Oncologist. Her white blood cell count went down every three weeks. Without any treatment, she kept getting better and the Oncologist couldn't believe it. Jan ended up with diabetes during her pregnancy and her doctor was so worried, Jan kept the mentality she was going to make it and make it she did! Her son was born 7 lbs 8 oz,
Today I have the privilege of speaking with James Swanwick, the author of the 30 Day No Alcohol Challenge, helping people reduce or quit using alcohol. He will be sharing his own personal Second Chance Story with you after I tell you a bit about his professional life.
He is an Australian - American entrepreneur, a speaker, The CEO of Swanwick Sleep and creator of blue light blocking glasses helping people sleep better.
He has interviewed celebrities including Brad Pitt, Angelina Jolie, George Clooney and Arnold Schwarzenegger. He has been interviewed on podcasts such as Art of Charm and Entrepreneur on Fire and places such as Huffington Post and Psychology Today.
Wow, His time is in high demand, James, thank you for taking the time out of your day to share your story, please take a minute to tell us a bit about yourself so everyone can get to know you.
His Second Chance Story
James decided to try giving up alcohol for 30 days and never started drinking it again. He tells us that he never felt he was an alcoholic but was what society would call a “social drinker”. In 2010 he was staying in a hotel room in Austin Texas and noticed he had put on about 25 lbs over a year just from casual social drinking and one day, he looked in a mirror and noticed he only looked like a 5/10.
The casual drinking was making him just a little bit irritable, slowing him down just a little bit, making him a little bit unhappy, and he had just a little bit less money.
In the 30 days, he lost 13 lbs, noticed his sleep improved, the quality of his friendships began to improve and these small changes led to even more changes.
He began new habits of meditation, self-improvement, watched less tv and read more books. Breaking one habit kindled the spark that led to many new habits that in the end led him to help thousands of other people and create a business.
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Nicole spent over 30 days in the hospital and was diagnosed with a rare lung disease. She was told she would have a lifespan of up to 8 years and she never allowed that belief to enter her mind. Many others living with this have not survived and Nicole had some survivor guilt to work through. She faced post-traumatic stress and was able to find a mindset of gratitude and thanksgiving. https://www.everydayisasecondchance.com/nicolewipplam https://www.nicolewipp.com
In the blink of an eye, Jake's life changed course and he ended up being paralyzed from the chin down. In just a few short days, he made the decision to choose to adopt the motto Life Happens, Live it! It took some time for him to live that motto to its fullest and he shares his journey with us here.
I want to thank Joel from Relaunch for introducing me to Jake. What really inspired me to share Jake's story was listening to the podcast Mere Mortals Unite, with Julie Ann Sullivan.
Jake tells us that people can see his wheelchair so they know exactly what he is dealing with, but other people have some kind of wheelchair that we just can't see.
He is a University of Idaho graduate and a huge fan of anything outdoors.
Despite the difficulties he has encountered in his life, he is able to make others smile and turn things away from a victim mindset into a being the leader and speaker that he is today.
His Second Chance Story
Jake was on top of the world and, celebrating receiving his degree, to work in his dream job in forestry. He had been drinking and celebrating when he ran into his old childhood best friend. A freak accident took place between when his friend took him down in a headlock, and Jake couldn’t brace his fall landing head first in the pavement. He later found out he became a C6 Quadriplegic that evening. Sharing his story, we will find out how he was able to find happiness in a different way that he had planned the day he had graduated.
The Turn Around Point
When he was in the therapy room he was surrounded by people who were really hurting. He witnessed another patient whom’s way of looking at her situation changed his whole perspective. This is when he began to look around and realize that he was not the worst off in the world. He committed to healing as victoriously as he was able to.
You can listen to the whole interview to hear all the details of Jake’s experience.
A Closer Look
What about you changed the most from this experience?
Jake was no longer able to do many of the things he once could. He tells us how his Mom was amazing and taught him to never give up. With his perseverance and courage, he learned how to do many things again including driving.
What is one piece of guidance you would like to share with us?
He tells us a hilarious story about how someone brought him a hot pink wheelchair and his friends had a good laugh and called it ManGenta. He asks what has happened in your life that you can turn into you own ManGenta situation and how can you find the funny in the situation?
What is one resource you couldn’t have made it without?
Never Give Up! Success in Life Is an Attitude Paperback – 2005. by Ron Heagy (Author), Donita Dyer (Author) https://www.amazon.com/Never-Give-Success-Life-Attitude/dp/0975417207
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Louise had just completed 4 years of university and began her dream job as a Dental Hygienist when she was given a cancer diagnosis and only 4 years to live without life changing surgery.
In this interview she courageously shares her story for the first time.
Chris Shea tells us about a low point in his life and then shares what he learned from it and how he found inner peace. Sharing a few coaching tips, he tells us how we to can begin the journey to find inner peace. www.everydayisasecondchance.com/chrisshea
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C.J. Huff is a Husband, Father, Inspirational Speaker and Professional Consultant living in Joplin USA. For 7 years he was Superintendent of Joplin Schools. He led his district of 1,100 employees and 7,700 students through the recovery effort of one of the most devastating tornadoes in U.S. history.
Connie Strasheim is a health care reaseacher and writer sharing natural and holisic methods of healing. She focuses on helping others with Cancer and Lyme disease and in some cases helps shorten their treatment.
She shares her story of how she lived with Lyme Disease for many years. Never, did it stand in her way of writing, helping others and loving God. She shares her story as inspiration to others overcoming difficulty as well as hope.
Miklós Szigeti's Mother was told her son would not attend law school or function in any normal capacity by the doctors helping him after he was involved in a horrible car accident in Hungary.
Despite the doctor's opinions, his mother refused to believe this about her son. She couldn't be convinced that her son was would not recover and told others that God didn't bring him through it if he didn't have a plan for her son.
Could you imagine what it would feel like to shift careers without realizing that it would lead to a path of overcoming marital betrayal (with special circumstances), alcohol abuse, job loss, divorce, six months of incarceration and bankruptcy? Vidal had hit rock bottom. In a state of an alcoholic depression, he awoke in a jail cell to hear his name plastered all over the local news as the driver in a high-speed chase. He thought, "If the worst nightmare can happen, then so can the best outcome possible — Why not?!?"
This is the story where he allows himself to be vulnerable and shares it all. May his second chance story inspire you from where ever you are to believe you to can overcome any obstacle in your way! Vidal knows that you can use your story to help yourself create the life of your dreams and help others to as well.
No one survives a plane crash.... this is what Dave thought as the plane went down and he watched out the window to see when his last seconds would be.
Dave heard his mom say, "If you do the right thing God will take care of you". His mom had passed away in 1997 but he heard her say this and that's why he waited in the back of the plane to make sure everyone else got out. Once he knew everyone was off the plane he got off himself.
Why do some people get PTSD and others experience Post-Traumatic Growth? Dave was asked this question and he has been really looking into this. He will be giving a TED talk called Jolt and sharing how you can use your own personal experience to go up. The movie shows quite vividly what PTSD looks like as the Capitan of the plane would see troubling images over and over again.
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Are you in search of real happiness, joy fulfillment and perhaps satisfaction? Could you imagine what life would be like if you had good jobs, relationships and friends all around you?
Perhaps you like many others think that this is not possible and that is is not for you............ What if it was, what if it is?
Today we learn about how Angus went from lying under his Christmas tree, all alone, wishing he would die ............ To a family man, helping fortune 500 companies, writing books and traveling.
Melissa Marshall, of the, No You Cant'cer Foundation, was diagnosed with stage III colorectal cancer and ended up receiving a colostomy bag in 2013. This meant that, for the rest of her life, she would be living with an ostomy bag.
Today she is here to share her journey through this difficult time and the beautiful story of how she defeated Cancer created the No You Cant'cer Foundation. She was able to overcome the odds and return to her singing career.
Could you imagine putting off a medical checkup for three years while trying to support your wife and family? Then finding out you have cancer and it is serious.
Imagine fighting it until you don't feel that you have anything left to give, surgery, chemo, radiation, an Ostomy and sickness......... then losing your wife to divorce. Most of us fear cancer, fear the struggle that comes with sickness and for good reason, cancer kills.
Noel shares his story for the first time, the good and the bad, the raw truth. His life today is inspiring, offers hope that healing and happiness are possible. Find out how he healed from cancer and went on to work a full-time job, ride a Harley and find a life of camping and enjoying nature.
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Claire Yeung contracted a mysterious virus that took her out of life for over 6 months. Looking back she tells us she believes it was caused by career burnout. She quit her job as a lawyer with no plan, thankfully with the support of her partner. Today she is certified as a Whole person coach, speaker and teacher at the Justice Institute in Canada.
Hear the story of how she made it through the tough time and healed, turned her life around and now, is using her experience to help others as the author of, The Eighty-Year Rule.
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David Rachford wanted to get off the farm and joined the military. He had a dream of going to explosive ordnance disposal school. First, he had to do some time as a Naval Fire Fighter, stationed on the USS Abraham Lincoln, which was an aircraft carrier, on the Persian Golf.
An unfortunate accident happened while training and took away his chances leaving him crippled and devastated at only 23 years old. David slipped into depression and ended up facing a narcotic addiction.
Today he is a successful web developer, host of two podcasts and a blog. He has succeeded in healing and has come today to share the story of his difficult journey. He tells us how he overcomes his injury and addiction, weight loss of over 70 lbs, and how he created a healthy lifestyle.
There seems to be a definite link to mental and physical health. By listening to others, my hope is that you may be able to avoid going down some of these dark allies by finding positive people to surround yourselves with and finding ways to keep your head up while you follow your own healing journey.
Listening to Davids story is sure to help you get a good leg up on your own journey!
David Ratchford's website http://davidrachford.com/
This Family Shares Their Pain And Miracles So You Never Have To Feel Alone John John Genovese shared his story of how he healed from Degenerative Disc Disease and Gastric Bypass in the last episode. After months of hard work he lost a lot of weight and was able to strengthen his back and live a healthy life.
John John and his wife decided it was time to fulfill their dream to start a family. They went on a trip to Europe as they knew it would be a long time before they would get away alone again. Once they arrived his wife became very ill.
Their first baby girl was conceived but before she was born, they found out she had suffered two massive strokes in utero. She lost 70% or the right half or her brain and 90% of the left half of her brain. That was devastating news and the family they had imagined would never happen the way they imagined it. They were told that she would be deaf and blind and would only live to be 5 months old.
After she was born they miscarried twice before having a healthy and beautiful baby girl. Once she was a year old they became pregnant with another baby girl and were told she has Down Syndrome.
Through all of the difficult challenges that they have lived through, John John shares a story full of hope and optimism with the message, "No matter what you are going through, there is someone else that is going through something similar that shares your pain. The worst thing is to be alone".
Music by Lori Jean, I put on my gloves
John John Genovese dreamed of living the good life of being a newlywed and starting a family. Having an early start to his working career, his life should have taken off and he should have excelled!
However, at only 27 years young, John John was walking on crutches and canes and using a wheelchair to get to the store due to Degenerate Discs Disease.
He was told back surgery was his only solution to be able to walk again. Since he was only a year into his marriage it left him struggling with wanting to provide for his wife and navigating months of medical decisions and healing.
Over time, he watched his weight creep up higher and higher making the pursuit of health even more difficult. He decided to have a gastric bypass surgery and with time, dedication and hard work, overcame his disc pain to enjoy his marriage and start a family.
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Could you imagine finding out that the charming man you married was really a sociopath that was cheating on you? Now imagine that the difficult part was only beginning and divorcing a sociopath was really the hard part.
Our guest today has lived through all of this and she shares the true, raw story with us here. She found writing and was able to share her story while healing herself.
Please welcome the brave and beautiful Stacy Curtis!
Romans 12:12 New International Version (NIV)
12 Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer.
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Healing From Physical Abuse by Creating Music
with Lori Finnila
Imagine having seizures as a child from abuse at a young age, then being abused by the father of your child and suffering very physical injuries. The wonderful women we interview today opens up and shares the hard truth of the abuse in her life.
Passionately driven by an intense love for her child, she turns to other women's horrifying stories of survival that end with great strength and inspiration! She finds music and falls in love with creating it and singing, bringing herself closer to healing.
This interview is an incredible story of healing, single parenting and the courageous decision to go back to school. She learns screen write, becomes a singer and songwriter and all while healing her brain injury and the scars of abuse that can only fade over time, becoming a memory far less than the joy that now fills its place.
Lori's facebook page https://www.facebook.com/Lori-Jean-aka-Finnila-1409627002672898/?fref=ts
website, with free excerpt, from her book: https://lorifinnilawrites.wordpress.com/
He was raised in two parent home with good morals and values yet slipped into the street culture and made some poor choices in his early years. Eugene ended up in prison and found his passion, chess.
The "Chess Man", in prison told him he would always be a loser if he didn't accept responsibility for his own actions. He told him, "you are the king, you're responsible for every rule that is made on your side of the board, stop blaming people. Until you accept your kingship you are always going to be in and out of prison."
These were the seeds that were planted and a paradigm shift happened. Today Eugene is the father of an inner-city chess club that helps children stay off the streets and make wise decisions.
His story was made into a movie, Life of a King, starring Cuba Gooding Jr. Hear the story and all the details here!
Eugine's website http://www.bigchairchessclub.org/index.htm
Imagine taking medicine that your doctor prescribed and then suddenly finding yourself in the hospital suffering an adverse reaction, that burns two layers of your skin from your body.
Then surviving to end up having sleepless nights full of nightmares, a fear of taking medication or worse a fear dying from a reaction to anything you put in your body.
Michele had only a 30% chance of survival and after surviving she lived with PTSD for decades. She went on a healing rampage and was able to completely heal her PTSD, being symptom-free for over 10 years.
If you are living with PTSD or supporting someone who is, it may be hard to believe this is possible. Michele dedicated years of her life learning about PTSD and now helps others overcome it. By listening to this interview, or reading this blog post, my hope is it brings you a light of hope in the darkness you may be living in now.
Website = HealMyPTSD.com
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Holly was living the life she had dreamed of. She was living in her happy home, in a nice neighborhood with her happy family and then while preparing for Thanksgiving dinner, she discovered a lump the size of a ping-pong ball in her breast.
She was 30 years old and had really thought she was quite invincible in a way that most young people do. The doctor confirmed she had something in there, and in a week she had a mammogram and ultrasound.
They determined it was a mass, not a cyst, and she met with a surgeon to have it removed. They decided to biopsy it and take it out at the same time. It was Dec 23 2009 when she went in for surgery and everybody had predicted it was not cancer.
She went in with humor and asked to wake up with a DD Breast and size 0 waist!! She didn't wake up with any of these things, but she was given a cancer diagnosis.
Hear Holly's inspiring story here, about how she overcame cancer while raising two young children.
How To Survive Cancer With Children
Holly told me that attitude it the most important. She did feel she was in control of her attitude, and since children pick up on it so well, she changed the way she was looking at life.
Take the Help!! She didn't want any help and thought she could do it on her own. She was forced into it a few times and ended up liking it. She realized that it gives the people who love you a way to have some control as well as they want to help you, so take it for their benefit and remember, you aren't meant to do it all on your own!
Healing As A Community!! Holly said, "we can do everything better together."
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Terri was given a second chance at life after she was hit by a truck while riding her bicycle. She had a backpack full of flowers that she had picked for her, then boyfriend, now husband, that just may have saved her life.
Unfortunately, she was not wearing a helmet and ended up with a serious concussion that left her having to learn life all over again. The neurologist told her it would take 14 years to recover. Amazingly she completed her schooling and recovered within only 11 months. As she created a life changing program to help others, she ended up healing her own brain.
If you have suffered a traumatic brain injury, concussion, PTSD or have ADHD, Autism, Dyslexia, a reading problem, Scitsofrenia or Alzheimer's, then this interview explains how the program she created may be able to make a big difference in your life.
***** An amazing bonus to this interview was that I was able to see the joy this work brings to her. Teri is a scientist and whenever she was explaining the brain to me, she looked alive, excited and passionate!! This I hope for each of you, may you find work that lights you up and makes you shine*****
Dr. Teri Lawton
CEO, Founder, Director of Research
Perception Dynamics Institute
Early Childhood Parenting Institute
P.O. Box 2206, Del Mar, CA 92014
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Join us as Bobbi Parish, A Trauma Recovery Coach, shares her own personal story of overcoming sexual abuse.
She struggled with shame, depression, feeling unloved and went through a period of homelessness.
Bobbi found the strength and courage to walk down the path of healing, stand up and say, no more, no more shame!
She united forces with two other ladies and has created many different methods of supporting others, healing from sexual abuse.
Today she shares her personal story and tells us why we heal best with support and love from others.
Do you know what it is like to put everything you have into something and then have it come to an end? You put so much into it that it became your identity and now without it, you don’t know what to do?
Jamie Gilbert shares his personal story with us. He has been through that time where he lost his identity and he takes us on his journey to success. We talk about how he found his passion, overcame fear and worked really hard to become successful.
Today Jamie, Joshua Medcalf and their team at Train 2 Be CLUTCH, speak, coach and give workshops. They have self-published a book called:
Burn Your Goals, The Counter Cultural Approach to Achieving Your Greatest Potential
If you are looking to find your own identity, get ahead in life and be successful, you can start today, start now by listening to this interview.
Have you ever felt as if life has handed you too many problems and felt like you would never be able to break away from the darkness? Perhaps you have lost a child, and understand what it is like to live with heart wrenching grief, end up with bills that are more than you can deal with, and then have your marriage come to an end. Perhaps you have had cancer and been through the battle, with children depending on you to raise them.
Today we interview a man who has been through all of this in just one lifetime. What came as a surprise to me, is that I requested to interview him about meditation........ Ok, I am a little embarrassed to admit..... from first impressions on the outside he looked to me like someone who had a great, perfect life that surely let to his success today.
Well, I WAS WRONG, and I AM GRATEFUL that he was so honest, and so transparent, because his story INSPIRES me, MOVES me to try harder, LIFTS me up, makes me feel HOPE and I hope after listening that you feel ready to tackle whatever it is that is blocking your way! (I am learning that people don't become successful because they had a great perfect life, but because they learned from their mistakes and misfortunes and used them to help others.)
I would like to welcome our guest, Bruce Van Horn from Life Is A Marathon http://www.lifeisamarathon.com/
Fidel shares a story about how his life hit rock bottom, and he wanted to disappear into the shadows. It is hard to find hope when you're in that place, but he did, and today he tells us how.
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Have you ever been in a relationship that failed and been left with feelings of hurt, anger, frustration or wondered Why? I know I sure have, and so has Paul Colaianni. We talk about subconscious behaviors that can sabotage our relationships.
Find out how you can improve the quality of your relationships with Personal Development Coach Paul Colaianni. In this episode, he shares his own personal failures and how he used them to his advantage by asking this question; "If I was the problem in this relationship? What could it be?"
Find Paul at http://theoverwhelmedbrain.com/ https://twitter.com/paulcolabrain
What does Rich mean to you and why should you take the time to think about it?
"For so long, I felt like I was failing in life because I never had a lot of money. Rich to me was how many dollars you had, what you owned and what you gave your kids."
Redefine Rich shares with us that there are many ways to feel rich. I began to see the gifts in having children to love, guide through life and play with. The richness in having a husband that supports my own personal growth and journey, a mom that loves me and supports me as well as true friends makes me feel full of richness.
What is being rich for you? I hope you get as much out of this interview as I did. I sure hope you find richness in your life today, and believe that you can achieve your dreams.
Meet Matt Ham, author of Redefine Rich.
Matt is a family man passionate about his wife and three children. Secondly, he is an insurance agent and had experienced great success in his day job.
Then he felt a calling to write a book.
He tells us a story about how his aunt was terminally ill, and while in the hospital the nurse helped her. They exchanged words and the nurse said, "You make my life rich."
Matt knew this deeply touched him and later on it helped shape his book. He knew why he needed to write the book, but didn't know how. He feels her legacy is being carried on through this book.
He shares a story about his Aunt Trish, I fell in love with her and if had been her time to stay, I would have loved to share her story with you. Thankfully Mat shares a few pieces with us of her life.
She had a Disney mentality. Every movie has a similar story. There is always a tragedy that ends in victory and triumph. Aunt Trish had been diagnosed with Cancer a few weeks before Christmas, and still hosted a big party. She ran around being cheery and passing out eggnog.
"Rather than seeing our scars as places of brokenness we need to see them as places of healing."
How can you invest in others when you feel you have nothing to give?
Matt told us without a moment's hesitation, there are many ways. Here are a few that you can start today
Smile at people
Hold doors for people
Hold a door and smile at someone!!!
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The book Redefine RICH http://mattham.com/redefine-rich/
The Book: Mans Search for Meaning USA or Canada
TED talk by Victor Frankl
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The Fort Leavenworth Story
Mike served his country, was a responsible and respectable member of society until one night he made a choice that changed his life forever. He was offered a pill; that happened to be ecstasy. He took it and his whole life changed as he knew it.
David Mike shares his story about his life before and after his visit at Fort Leavenworth. He served his country, fell into drugs and became a drug dealer. At one point, he could see his own car on the street, outside of his prison window.
Since prison, he has become a Husband, Father, Cosmetology instructor and blogger. His story inspires forgiveness, self-love and sends a message that everyone deserves a second chance.
He heard a broadcast while being transferred prisons, that helped him embrace faith and was able to let go of everything and forgive himself.
“If you don’t forgive your self it will be hard to accept the forgiveness of others.”
We talk about how he got into cosmetology and then started a family. He shares the secret, about what a hairdresser really does!! David shares his evolution of writing and how he has been sharing his story.
What Can We Learn From A Death Coach?
Could you imagine finding out that someone you love died suddenly and unexpectedly? Stephen lost his sister and realized that everything he was striving for “wasn't really worth it”. He gave up his six-figure income, BMW’s and suits to become a social worker.
His first year as a social worker he made $12,000 and he had made that each month as a Stock Broker. He almost went back when times were difficult, but he paid more attention to his heart and stuck with it.
Through the years he found his calling and became a Death Coach or The Death Shaman. He helps people plan for death, have conversations about it, heal and find life.
Questions I ask Stephen and Important Points
What is a Death Coach?
Why are people afraid of fear?
Why will a coach and surrounding yourself with support make it easier to start over with a new lifestyle?
Why did you become a coach?
What separates us from Vancouver's Downtown East Side sex trade workers, drug attics and homeless?
How he learned to embrace death.
How to be with someone who is dying.
What it is like to live with grief.
What are healthy ways to be with grief?
Does everyone going through grief change their life's?
How to help someone who has lost a loved one.
Links And Contact Information
Just Alive Consulting Inc. 604-328-7054
Bean Around Books http://www.beanaroundbooks.com/
How can a small measure of faith help some overcome the challenges that come with having a stroke?
What happens when you know the odds are not with you, to be independent again? Today we talk with Reverend Ray.
Even when he wanted to die, give up and call it quits, he kept going. He believes that there is so much in you that you have to give to somebody else. There is somebody else that needs you. This is the part of the emotional battle that he fought within.
This is his first time telling his story, and he shares a message that,
What We Talk About In This Interview:
Ray shares his experience of having a stroke
He shares a message from God
We talk about his time in the hospital and recovery
What it was like when he first came home
He shares his journey along his recovery and finding what he is passionate about
We talk about the impact on his family
The power of prayer
We talk about suicide, both having the will to go on and helping others see the good within themselves.
facebook group, Christians Against Suicide
Honor is very important to Marines. You always do the right thing. What happens when someone does something that is against their own moral framework?
What happens if it is so bad to them, that it affects their marriage and relationship with their kids? What happens if they view themselves as horrible people and end up caring a tremendous amount of guilt around with them?
It is critical to get rid of the guilt. We learn ways to cleanse, remove guilt and lessen guilt on today’s show.
What happens when we want to help someone through these tough situations and it is hard for us to listen to the events that have taken place? How can we listen and how do the experts cope with these traumatic events?
It starts with finding someone to listen to you after you have listened. In this interview, we hear about how a community can help people through really difficult memories.
We are talking with Mike Moreno on the show and he talks about spirituality, the war in Iraq, and shares some topics that may be difficult for some listeners.
He is a Navy Chaplin and shares his experience with us and guides us through some of these tough questions.
I've taken a life, how does that change who and what I am?
The sticky wicket, Do you believe that God will protect you?
What makes someone feel safe?
Can spirituality strengthen personal resilience?
How does one know who and what god is?
What is my purpose here?
I did not die, what is the meaning I am going to attach to that.
How can you help someone after a near death experience?
How can we be good at listening to someone that has experienced a loss?
How can you share your faith, your view in a constructive way?
How can you listen to someone whose stories and memories make me feel sad and sick?
What is a moral injury?
Could you imagine if your child was playing in the backyard, and the next thing you know, his friend has come to get you, to let you know he has been shot?
Imagine you are in the hospital wondering if he is going to be alright. How would this affect your family and how would this affect your child? Chris shares his experience for the first time on radio, a story of hard times, strong family, healing and then a journey to help others.
I found Chris on Google, his website was ranking near the top when I was searching for something. His story took my attention from the second I saw it. Since the interview, I feel like we instantly connected; he is a strong, inspiring and deeply caring family man. I hope you enjoy his story and are inspired by it as much as I am.
Chris was playing in his backyard when he was only 5 years old. His life memories pretty much start the day of the accident. He was swinging on the swing set and playing with a friend.
His neighbor was a Vietnam Vet, perhaps having an episode, thinking his gun was unloaded and shot his gun. It was not unloaded, and it shot, ricocheted off a trailer hitch and hit Christopher.
Thankfully Christopher's friend ran to get help and his Dad happened to be home. He was able to resuscitate him and get him to the hospital.
Listen to the show to hear the whole story, of how Christoper recovered, the pain he endured and then the life he created. Now he is able to help others and share his story.
Christopher Hostetler is an Integrative Health Coach. He can support you with counseling on nutrition, lifestyle, and mental and physical wellness. He tailors appropriate programs to fit YOUR lifestyle. You can find him to ask a question or see if his services are what you need at:
NICOLE WIPP, ESTATE PLANNING IS AN ACT OF LOVE PART 2
Hi everyone, I am so grateful that you're here and listening to the information Nicole is going to share about estate planning, elder law and share some great reasons that may help you decide if you would like to have a will.
Today our podcast is the second part of estate planning. I would like to thank Nicole for all her time and for sharing her knowledge. You can find her at http://www.smartplanning101.com/ or http://miestatelawyer.com/
Nicole is an attorney in the state of Michigan and is also licensed in Hawaii. She is here today not as an attorney, but to give general advice on this topic. She suggests you seek an attorney for specific information to your situation.
Her law practice is called, The Family and Aging Law Center. They help families manage crisis and prepare for a crisis.
“Estate planning is an act of love, When you fail to plan, it causes a burden.”
We start off the second half of the interview talking about how you can make decisions and what you need to do to make them legal when leaving money to children or grandchildren.
Nicole recommends that children do not have control of money until they are 25. "There are ways of lovingly incentivizing your children to be responsible."
The ways Nicole shares to teach your children are not to punish them, but if you just give them money they become spoiled.
You don't want them to go without anything, but you don't want to give them too much responsibility either.
If you are 18 or older, we all need to have powers of attorney. I was on the hot seat, but I had ended up in the hospital with serious heart problems and did not have anything written down.
Nicole shares some tips to help you get your will done. If there is conflict, in making decisions, she has a few ideas to help you get through it and leave with a will.
Planning for your parent's old age is very important. We have a lot more older people in our countries than ever. It is causing a burden on the Canadian and American countries.
How are we going to ensure that our parents are getting the care they need? How do you afford it? That type of care is not necessarily paid for by the government.
The cost of care, where Nicole lives, is about $8,500.00 a month. That is a lot of money, and not everyone is aware that it is that high. If you have aging parents, you should know about this.
If you have had a near-death experience, you may wonder how this relates to you. For myself, I had a realization that every day is precious, as I know that it could be my last.
It is really important to me to plan ahead now. I want to make sure if I leave this planet before my family; they are all taken care of. This gives me peace of mind and happiness.
Another way I see it, is that if I live to be very old and need to be in a home; I want to be prepared to have it taken care of so I am not putting a burden on my family.
I would love to hear your thoughts on this, and how you feel about it. Please leave a comment below or email me at firstname.lastname@example.org/gina
Hi everyone, I am so grateful that you're here and excited to bring our guest, appearing as an expert in estate planning. She will not be giving legal advice, and you should consult a lawyer in your area for specific advice. She will share a lot of information I hope you will find helpful today.
Today our podcast shares some advice that I am really passionate about.
Could you imagine if your life was to end today......... Are you prepared?
I put off these decisions and was suddenly faced with the fact I had not planned, and It was really scary. If you do not plan legally, your children could end up living a very different life than you may want This interview will help you take control and plan for your loved ones and your own piece of mind.
Nicole is an attorney in the state of Michigan and is also licensed in Hawaii. She is here today not as an attorney, but to give general advice on this topic. She suggests you seek an attorney for specific information to your situation.
Her law practice is called, The Family and Aging Law Center. They help families manage crisis and prepare for a crisis.
"Estate planning is an act of love, When you fail to plan, it causes a burden."
Nicole was a litigator for many years. She practiced mostly in family law, really it is divorce law. She had a very busy practice, but it just was not satisfying for her. She did help people and felt like she was helping people, but it was not satisfying to her.
It would stress her out and she became a mother. She had a son, and her husband wanted her to be more involved and work fewer hours.
At first estate planning seemed like it would be very boring, fill in the blank kind of lawyering. She could not have imagined that as she was not that kind of person. Once she understood how it could really help people, and added in the component of elder law, she became a really passionate advocate of it. It was not a natural fit or something she considered doing during law school.
Finding Your Passion
Nicole did not have a near-death experience, but it almost felt like it was. She was at a crisis point in her life when she made the decision to walk away from her old life and started this as a new life.
It is really amazing, what opens up to you when you make the choice to dedicate your self to following what is in your heart.
Nicole was a successful attorney before, but she is expediently more successful today, now that she is doing what she is passionate about. Her business has grown in leaps and bounds in the last two years and she can say it is because she has pursued her passion, she has the energy for it and it is in her heart to do it.
It took an act of courage and faith to say she was going to walk away, but sometimes that is what needs to happen.
Why Should You Plan Ahead
Life is uncertain. Nicole shared my story, about how I neglected to plan for my children and ended up in the hospital. I had posted on facebook that I needed help quick, and estate planning is not quick.
Nicole has clients in their 70 s and 80 s that have put off planning because they are in so much denial. None of us are exempted from dying, and there is no planning day as there is a tax day. It is not pleasant to think about and easy to put off.
After Nicole responded to my post, and I realized how much I had failed to plan, and that there was not much I could do from the hospital, I wrote my wishes down on a piece of paper.
Timothy lives in The District of Columbia. He has lived in about a dozen different places over the last 10 years but came from the Greater North West. He spent about 5 ½ years in the Marine Corps, serving as a marine security guard.
He is just finishing his degree in broadcast journalism. He started a business with Lawson Entertainment that revolves around a podcast network.
Timothy had a blog and a friend suggested he turned it into a podcast. He then became involved with Veteran Empire and started doing a podcast with them. He then started Lawson Entertainment and a few podcasts.
He often talks about Veterans on interviews but rarely about his own near-death experience. He is pretty transparent about his life, and he likes to share the experiences he has, and share them with people.
His father was in the military and kept being stationed where he grew up. He never really experienced a true military life or moved. One morning, he woke up, he was a senior in high school;17 years old, did a little stretch and found a golf size lump come out from under his collarbone.
He went to his mom, and she panicked and thought it was a cyst. Something told him it was cancer and more serious than not. An ultrasound confirmed it was. He then had surgery to remove it, and after was told it was Hodgkin's lymphoma.
He remembers watching his mom hang her head in worry, and said casually, “Mom I have cancer, but was still hopped up on painkillers. At first, he was optimistic, and only said he felt lazy, perhaps from being a teenager. It was hard to imagine he had cancer because he felt physically fine, and was break dancing and being a normal teenager.
I asked if his optimism may have helped him to have a successful recovery. He is sure it had something to do with helping his body tolerate the effects, and recover. He would be interested in seeing the results of a study, to see if there is any correlation between an optimistic mindset with recovery.
He wanted cancer to be over by the time he graduated. He went to, Seattle Cancer Care Alliance, One of the best hospitals in the world for Hodgkin's lymphoma.
He sat down with an Oncologist and another doctor. They talked about Hodgkin’s and found out he was stage 2. They found another tumor of a much smaller size in his chest and cancer cells in his chest and in his abdomen. They believed that a few cycles of chemotherapy would take control of the cancer cells, and some radiation would reduce the size of the tumor.
Being the optimistic teenager he was, he was like yea, let’s do this. Thankfully he was under his father's medical insurance and it was mostly covered.
They rolled with three cycles of chemotherapy and then one month of radiation. One cycle was two visits.
“It’s not like I could call up many of my friends and ask them what Chemotherapy was like”
The few people he could ask, he wasn’t sure his experience would be the same. He started to understand why his friends and family were so shocked and he was young in comparison to most of the people getting treatments.
He had a chicken wrap from the hospital cafeteria before his treatment, and then he felt nauseous for at least a year after his treatment, every time he thought about eating a chicken wrap. He had associated how he felt from the Chemotherapy treatment to the chicken wrap.
The week of Christmas, he was receiving Chemotherapy. He watched a guy walking around with an iv tower. He followed the iv down and seen a kid receiving Chemotherapy,
John served 13 months in Iraq, with the USA military. He had numerous near-death experiences. Today he shares the most prominent one with us, and the effects it had on him.
After his time in the army, he was able to find his passion and created EntrepreneurOnFire, a 7 day a week podcast. He interviews top and successful entrepreneurs and has was awarded Best Of iTunes in 2013.
From there, John and Kate created an amazing forum of podcasters from around the world, called Podcasers' Paradise, and were featured in Forbes magazine.
How To Podcast For Profit ($2M Sales In Year 2) With Entrepreneur On Fire John Dumas
I listened to an interview he did with Ryan Holiday about Stoicism. I have been touched by learning about it, and although I could go on and on about all the good that John is doing in the world, I will let you hear in this interview for yourself. What a truly inspiring and amazing person John is, but most importantly to me, he was my first mentor in the business world, and I wouldn't have created the podcast without his guidance.
Stay tuned after and I will share a review and a few words with you.
John was deployed to Iraq for 13 months. In his platoon, 4 soldiers gave their lives in sacrifice, to defend the U.S.A, and bring freedom. John saw first hand, "freedom is not free."
John had a sense of foreboding before his very near death experience. At about month 12.5 of his 13 month period in Iraq, he was sent for training. He had a bad feeling about it. They were sent for training in a room, at a base, watching powerpoint slides for an hour, and he could have watched the information over skype from safety.
They had to travel two hours down a road, known as RPG alley. RPG stands for a rocket-powered grenade. They were going in a slow-moving convoy, which was very appealing to the Iraqi army.
John had to follow orders, and about halfway there, a massive explosion shook his Humvee, spun it around in a circle and blew the back-end off. The big convey truck behind, slammed into them at full speed, further damaging the vehicle. John had a big gash under his chin, the lieutenant next to him was basically unconscious.
It was an IED. improvised explosive device. The firing started and there were bullets flying everywhere. They had to jump to another vehicle. The lieutenant suffered a concision and had to be flown in a helicopter, all the way to Baghdad. Then his helicopter was fired at. He had a really messed up experience. This was all because one person high in command wanted to feel important, and forced everyone to attend this training in person.
From this near-death experience, the entrepreneurial seed was planted. It never lost its grip, and years later, still with the same mindset, John has turned it into a good thing, and taken control of his own life.
They proceed like nothing happened and continued their training. John had a bandage placed on his chin, still bleeding and continued as if nothing happened. Then they took the slow trip back to the base, about 5 hours round trip.
DEALING WITH TRAUMA
There is no special training, but they try. The military thrives in war, battle, winning and taking the fight to the enemy.
It comes up short re-integrating soldiers into society and the civilian world. It comes up short giving the soldiers support getting through these traumatic experiences and having a normal life after and post-military.
John tells me it is not really the militaries job. There job is to take the fight to the enemy and win. If they dedicate a lot of resources to other things, you might not win. If you don't win then nothing else matters.
John tells me, "don't begrudge the army, especially not the US army,
At the young age of 20, Dale slipped and fell from a railroad trestle, and in that moment, his life was dramatically changed. He spent two and a half months in the hospital and had to learn how to live life in a wheelchair. Dale shares his journey and how his positive thinking led him to become a speaker and deliver the important message to Think First .
Dale lives in the western suburbs of Chicago. He is a mortgage broker and a key-note speaker in many topics. I asked him about his religious beliefs prior to the interview, to get an idea of how they may have changed.
He was brought up Catholic and went to church every Sunday. As a kid, you don't realize the full understanding of spirituality and faith. When it came to his injury it really put his faith to the test, as well as his family.
It was December or 1988. Dale was with his friends from Northern Illinois University and it was the end of his first semester, junior year.
He had to take a break from studying and they went to a local party and went on foot. They decided to take a shortcut and had to go on railroad tracks. A very unsafe place to begin with.
He was a 20-year-old guy, wasn't too worried, just thought they would be careful. It was a poorly lit area, about 1 am, they were walking along the tracks, and came upon a railway trestle.
They walked across and were spread apart. Dale slipped on a railroad tie and fell about 4 stories into a river. It was only about a foot deep, and what may have saved him is the fact that he was conscious.
After Effects and Inside the Experience
Dale knew something was wrong. He opened his eyes and tried to process that one moment he was walking along the tracks, the next he was looking up at the trestle partly submerged in freezing cold water.
He jerked his back to move and had a tremendous and very acute and sharp pain going down his vertebrae, his legs were completely numb.
He couldn't move so he yelled out to his friends. He had no idea how far away they were. He kept screaming and screaming until they were able to follow his voice and find him. He didn't know if it was 5 minutes or an hour.
They knew not to move him and went to a nearby house and called an ambulance. The ambulance was there within minutes. They asked him some questions and knew he had a serious injury. They didn't want to cause further damage so they collared his neck, put a flat board underneath him, picked him up slowly, put him in the ambulance and took him to the local hospital.
They couldn't treat him at the local hospital, so they transferred him by helicopter to, North Western Memorial Hospital, downtown Chicago, a level one trauma center.
On the way to the hospital, they checked his vitals and they were doing a skin poking test to see where he could feel. At that time, he thought that it was just a shock to his system, he thought he would get the feeling back in his legs.
He had a battery of tests, exams, and x-rays. It was conclusive that he had a spinal cord injury. It was horrific every moment he was awake, but it gave him clarity, exactly what happened to him every step of the process.
Dale believes the whole notion, that things happen for a reason, and for the last 20 years, he has been talking to high school and middle school students about injury prevention. He takes them through the whole process of everything he went through every step of the way.
He was in the hospital for about 2 1/2 months. He had an operation right away. There are 3 sections of vertebrae that surround the spinal cord. He landed on his feet, and snapped his back forward and that t-12 sliced right into the spinal cord.
I am blessed to share an inspiring story that touched my soul and filled my heart. John overcame tremendous injury in an accident that he miraculously survived. This is a story not only about becoming Christian but also really connecting and feeling our creators love.
Today he is the co-host of The Eternal Leadership podcast, as well as a successful business coach.
As a kid, he had a dream to be a fighter pilot and never thought he could achieve it. John went to college on a ROTC scholarship, then Navy Flight school and through a lot of hard work became a F14 pilot. He flew in desert storm, flew combat sorties.
Then he had been given dream orders to go back and instruct at Top Gun, but he had a softball accident and suffered nerve damage to his eye.
No longer able to fly, John was completely unsure about the path of his life. His dreams were taken away and that was the only thing he wanted to do since being a child.
He needed help, direction, and purpose as his life didn't have any meaning. John was lead to the Gospel in April of 1995 and he became a Christian. It gave him a foundation and a grounding for the rest of his life that was invaluable for him. It opened incredible doors.
A year later his wife became a Christian, he tells us it was an interesting year!
Imagine what it would be like, being given orders to go to Top Gun, flying F14's and F16's to selling cell phones door to door, with the planes flying above.
"When you don't have a purpose in your life you don't understand who you are, what you want to do and the meaning you want your life to have."
This was 1995 and he started his own company.
He did three different tech start-up companies, then worked for a fortune 100 company, then to a Wall Street firm, then in 2011, he left to start a new company. Then 5 1/2 month into it, he was involved in an accident that radically changed his life.
The Horse Ride That Changed John's Life
John was invited by a friend to a non-profit called Family Talk. He was invited to learn more, and perhaps become more involved. He flew himself up, and they gathered at a Ranch in Montana.
Friday, they were going to ride to the back of the Ranch, and John had his horse saddled first. He had a picture taken just before, and he had a big smile on his face, having no idea that in the next five minutes his life was going to change permanently.
John's horse began to trot, then all of a sudden the horse did a 90-degree turn and bolted and threw him backward. John was holding on with his legs, as hard as he could. John was able to get himself back up in time to see a steel fence coming up.
John grabbed the reins and pulled left, the horse nearly pulled the reins out of John's hands. John pulled the horse's head left again, but the horse pulled his head back and kept going towards the fence.
John was thinking he needed to jump, starting to panic, but would have broken his neck. He didn't feel the horse would be suicidal and run into the wall. Soon John realized there was no way one of them wasn't going to get really hurt.
He was a fighter pilot, he flew in combat; low-level missions, 500 mph at 100 feet and never felt this feeling before in his life.
About 20 yards from the fence, it was as if someone hit the pause button and everything slowed down. John recalls thinking, "this is not going to end well."
The horse bucked so hard he slammed into the fence rump first. He launched John into the top bar of the fence. About a 3" solid steel beam.
After The Accident
The beam hit John across the face, from his teeth to his left eye.
I can hardly type as I listen to this, let alone imagine what it must have been like to go through.
John lost 7 teeth, shattered his cheek, crushed his left eye orbit,
Martin Bailey shares his extraordinary story of recovering from a brain tumor, optimism and achieving your dreams.
Martin was in Antarctica on a boat when he felt a popping sensation in his head. It happened several times, and the ship doctor asked him if he had hit his head.
The fits had stopped on the journey home but began two months after.
His wife and his brother were very supportive.
The neurosurgeon, Dr. Joki, means always happy in English. He thought it was a brilliant name!
They went in through his nose, but he had a plate in his nose cartilage from when he broke it as a child. They couldn't get the apparatus in, so they had to take it out, straighten the bone, make a passage, and punch a hole in his skull.
One afternoon Dr. Joki was in his room, his brother joked that Martin was the clever one in the family, and for 20 minutes they joked back and forth about who was the clever one. Then they laughed because this conversation was in front of a brain surgeon!!
Then he prepared himself for the surgery mentally. When he heard about all the risks of the surgery, he did start to become concerned. He had a risk of becoming blind or paralyzed. The doctor had lost a patient earlier from the same type of tumor.
Martin’s tumor was benign, so he didn't have to go through cancer treatment.
He never had a will; one of his most emotional moments was when he spoke his will in English and Japanese on a recording.
He wrote it out and had his brother and his wife sign and witnesses it as well.
The first time he cried was partly through fear but was when he realized he had not been to Africa yet. He had a bucket list, and never realized he may not be able to complete it.
He had not stood on the red soil of Africa and looked out across the Savanna.
When they went into the surgery they asked him what type of music he wanted to listen to. He doesn't remember what they played, then they did the countdown, and he was asleep.
When he woke up, the doctor said he was sorry. Martin moved his fingers and toes to make sure he wasn't paralyzed. He could move his fingers and toes, and told the doctor not to worry!!
Then they told him, 5 1/2 hours into the surgery, he was bleeding really badly. They couldn't get it all out and if he lost any more blood, he would have needed a blood transfusion. If they kept trying to get the cyst out, they may have blinded or paralyzed him.
Martin asked what the next course of action was. They told him medication should get rid of the rest. It was almost golf ball size, after 3 months it was the size of a baby's finger, then after 6 months, it disappeared.
There is still a tiny bit of the tumor left, the medication keeps his prolactin countdown, (prolactin caused the tumor), so it is not growing anymore. Martin worries a little but has decided not to let it worry him and live life as it never will.
After and beyond
He went to Africa on a tour with a friend. He did an Iceland tour, with a German friend who lives in Iceland. A year after he made two of his bucket list ideas.
It has not slowed him down and probably made him stronger. I think Martin is very positive and strong. He calls himself an eternal optimist.
He still gets anxious, when he has his yearly checkups until he sees that there is nothing there. But he tries to stay positive.
Rather than changing him, this experience just gave him a deeper appreciation of life. The fact that we are here at this present time is a miracle in itself.
There is a huge gap between the wealthy and the poor.
Nick was given a second chance at life when he was hit head-on by a Buick as a teenager. He was incredibly resilient and bounced back quickly. Life crept up on him and before he knew it he was successful in business but not as much at home. He was working over 60 hours a week...... He shares the journey he took to become a good husband and father. As a bonus, he shares important information about wills and guardians, to help you make sure you have everything in order and a good sense of security in your family.
I asked Nick about his faith before his accident. He grew up in a Greek Orthodox family and is a Greek Orthodox Christian. He was relatively connected with his church before and still is today.
He is a little more introverted with his church and prefers to take it all in. He feels connected, and his family lives a Greek Orthodox Christian life. Nick's accident and life events did not seem to have any influence on his faith.
When Nick was only 17 years old, he was involved in a terrible accident. A Buick driving on the wrong side of the road hit him head-on. He was driving an ice cream delivery vehicle, and unfortunately, was not wearing his seatbelt. Nick was thrown into the windshield and the column of the steering wheel was pushed into his chest.
Nick didn't have a detectable heartbeat and thankfully there was a paramedic living nearby that came to his aid.
Nick recalls having a seizure, then everything went dark and he passed out. He never experienced a stereotypical near-death experience and tells us it was a physical, traumatic experience more than a spiritual one.
Nick had to recover in the hospital and had major injuries. The only thing that wasn't damaged on his face was his nose. It took hours to pick all of the glass out of his head and he needed several surgeries.
You can hear the whole story on the podcast.
He finished high school, recovered from the accident and went full steam ahead, putting his near-death experience behind him.
Nick graduated college, went to law school and moved to New York City. He went to undergrad, 5 years, and 3 years of law, 8 years total. He made a lot of great friends, but he was in the zone. He studied and worked 20-40 hours while he went to school.
He then hustled, worked 60-80 hours a week as a corporate litigation lawyer in New York. 7 years later he started to feel uncomfortable, and something started pulling him away. He had kids and was needed more at home. He wanted to connect more with his wife, kids and be a family.
He felt a strong family wouldn't have to worry about putting food on the table, they would work together and make it work. When things started getting weak at home he knew something had to change.
He started blogging and making changes. He is big on personal responsibility but never made the connection to it at home. He was pointing the finger as opposed to helping at home. When he started writing, he talked about personal responsibility.
He made the connection through the writing a book, blogging about personal responsibility and marriage. That was the biggest change to his family.
Why you need a will and guardians for your children. How do you choose someone?
If you die and do not have a will, the decision of who your children will live with may be put in the courts' hands. Your money, assets, and belongings could end up being divided in a way that doesn't benefit your children.
*Each state has different laws, therefore you should have your will re-done if you relocate.
Choosing a guardian/godparents for your children may be difficult. You do not want to overload someone with too many children, in the event you pass away.
Joel shares such an impactful and moving story, that I found myself tearing up during the interview a few times. Tissue alert, he was only 5 years old when he slipped from a train trestle and somehow escaped death. Joel was truly given a second chance at life and how grateful am I. Today he helps thousands of people Relaunch their life with confidence.
Joel's Life Today
Joel and his wife co-host together Relaunch. They do daily shows throughout the week. They bring in the hottest and in-demand authors. They share inspiring ideas and practical steps to help people set themselves up and get ready for their own relaunch.
Joel's parents separated when he was 3 years old. He lived with his mom and spent weekends and holidays with his dad.
When he was 5, his dad took him hiking in the Texas hill country. He wandered off with the other kids and started their own hike. They climbed to the top of a cliff and found a bridge.
At 5, the bridge represented a jungle gym. He walked to the middle of the bridge with the other kids. They laid down on their stomachs and called to their dad's below.
Joel doesn't remember, but the bridge started shaking and a whistle sounded. It was a train trestle. The train has screeched to a halt, and Joel was nowhere to be found.
He was laying in a pile of his own blood on the jagged rocks on the bottom. Through heroic and divine intervention, they were able to get him to the hospital.
I asked him if this experience had any impact on his religious beliefs later?
Yes, he tells me, he knows it was divine intervention that he survived. He had three skull fractures, he is very comfortable knowing that.
He had a Christian upbringing and fell away for a while after. He drifted away like a lot of teenagers and young adults sometimes do. He found his way back to church and renewed his relationship with Christ and with God.
He invited his dad to go back with him, and he accepted his invitation. It was another chapter in the bond and growing.
After Effects and Inside the Experience
He lost so much blood his veins collapsed, they couldn't start a vein. Joel was in a coma for 3 weeks, during his 6th birthday. He was in the hospital for about 6 weeks.
When he woke up his family was there and he started talking. It was a tremendous occasion because the doctors had told his family he was done for.
His family was there the whole time. His mom, every minute that she could be. His dad had just started a brand new job, and was trying to support and rebuild, and kept it. They worked out a wonderful system so that someone was always there, his mom, dad, and grandparents.
Joel is not sure if he really remembers or not, but there was a lot of love, prayers, and people who came. There is a list of people who donated blood, goes on and on. He needed a lot of blood and it was in short supply.
Joel wrote a book that shares this experience called, "Finding your voice."
When he was 6, his parents were distraught, no money, living off food stamps and 100 dollar a month gift from a family member. His mom was working to get her nursing certification when his accident happened.
Joel didn't have life insurance at 5. The medical bills were astronomical. There were so many specialists, hospital bills, on and on and on.
The recovery was amazing. He remembers bits and pieces of it. Doctors were completely surprised at the bounce back that this poor little kid made, that was carrying the black ink of a death sentence.
Joel's wife Pei, of 13 years, told him that because the doctors put in the reports that he wouldn't be no...
Les works in the food industry and takes time for his health every day as well as spends time with his family.
My podcasting friend Sam Lomelli introduced Les and I. He interviewed Les on his podcast, Tips Of The Scale. If you want to hear Les tell his amazing weight loss story you can listen by clicking the link below.
Les has a blog that is inspiring, click here http://boml.wordpress.com/
In 2010 Les weighted 510 lbs. He was having difficulty breathing, and when he couldn't take 6 steps without being out of breath, he went to the hospital.
He had 6 blood clots and needed emergency surgery immediately. His options were given to him and he ended up having surgery while he was awake.
He had a clean bill of health when the Cardiologist told him there was no damage, and his nephew was happy to celebrate with him.
He believes in God. He went to Christian school. He found organized religion turned him off a little bit towards attending religiously so to speak. When he walked out of the hospital with a clean bill of health he thanked God.
He started walking little by little with his nephews' support. He felt uneasy until he had seen the doctor and took it easy. Once he was given the clean bill of health, he increased the distance and put in a lot of effort.
He continued to up the goals, and try and achieve them to make himself feel good. Now he focuses on strength training.
His most recent yearly check up the doctor could not find anything he needs to work on!!!! He has lost 300+ lbs.
Other people heard his story on Sam's podcast and reached out to him. He began public speaking and motivation others by sharing his story.
Books and Music
Amy Grant's music got him through his tough times. He was able to meet with her backstage to share his story. https://itunes.apple.com/ca/artist/amy-grant/id94363
"If you get a second chance don't waste it. Grab the bull by the horns and just focus."
Jordan is only 19 years old!! He works in a marketing company that has an incredible culture. He has a podcast, a mastermind group and has recently earned his black belt in Taido.
Jordan was raised in a Christian family. went to Christian school and church every Sunday. The accident did not have any bearing on his religious beliefs. He did begin to question them around 17 years old. Today he is searching what it is he finds to be true but labels himself as agnostic when people ask.
Jordan's brother was driving down a regular 2 lane road in Georgia. Jordan was a passenger and egging his brother to go faster. They came to a yellow light and tried to stop, causing the breaks to lock.
They skidded and hit a car making a right hand turn onto the street, and hit the back going 50- 60 mph. Thankfully there were no passengers in the car.
They hit a tree and it stopped the car. They were wearing their seatbelts, and that was what saved them from being thrown from the car.
No one was seriously injured. Jordan may have broken a rib, they had bruising and the other driver had a mild neck injury.
After Effects and Inside the Experience
Jordan saw a massive white flash, which may have been the airbag. They heard a hissing sound in the engine and thought it may blow up. It was hard to get out because the car was facing 90 degrees downward.
Jordan laid on the sidewalk, it was about 10:30 at night. They saw a man come from nowhere and asked if everyone was OK, and told him he called the police. Then he disappeared. In 5 seconds he came and disappeared. Jordan's brother said it may have been an angel.
Jordan was scared to get into a car for a while. He was disappointed for doing something so stupid, and I am thankful he is so honest in sharing this as it may help others avoid this situation.
He tried to put it out of his mind, so he could drive and move past it. It had an impact on him, he told me,
"We have one life and one opportunity to live, and it can be taken from us in one instance. We need to live life each day intentionally and passionately, and realize this may be the last time we get to do whatever we are doing."
His Dad took his brother driving that next day, so he could get past that fear.
This experience helped Jordan conquer his fears and be able to get past fear when it comes. There was fear to start a podcast Jordan pushed past, thankfully as Teenage Entrepreneur inspired me to start a podcast!