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The Black Jezebel Podcast

The Black Jezebel Podcast

By Temara Today
The Black Jezebel Podcast is hosted by TemaraToday, a mental health provider, sex educator, NOLA native, and everything Black girl magic. Join her every week as she speaks to a wide range of guests, guaranteed to liberate your sexuality, enhance your mental health, and reclaim your agency. TemaraToday and guests share intimate details about their lives, their journey to sexual liberation all while challenging Respectability Politics historically aimed to "tame" the sexual desires of women. It's your perfect mix of sex, mental health, and relationships.
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Ep. 25 The Art of Seduction w/ Jade the Erotic Storyteller
This week I am talking all about seduction with Jade the Erotic Storyteller and host of the Passion After Dark Podcast. We dive into how seduction variers with each sexual partner and different ways to incorporate words, art, and even movement into your seduction rotation. Jade and I completed a seduction quiz and dove into our very own seduction archetypes. This episode gives up a break from everything that is going on in the country right now and reminds us that pleasure is a radical and revolutionary act for Black people. Dive in and Enjoy! Connect with Jade_ IG: @passionafterdarkpod       @jade_erotica https://www.womenlovepower.com/seduction-archetype-quiz/ https://anchor.fm/PassionAfterDark
1:14:19
June 23, 2020
Ep. 24 Black BDSM is a Revolutionary Act
This week we are talking all things BDSM and Black sex as a revolutionary act with BlakSyn, the self-proclaimed Kinky Black Educator. BlakSyn shares personal narratives that have led to their career as a Black BDSM educator and how the art of BDSM can be used as a tool of self-care, trauma healing, and a declaration of pleasure. We dive into consent, sub-space, the intersections of Race and Power in sex, and of course my fave, respectability politics.  We def go there this episode! I even share that one time that BlakSyn introduced me to rope play for the very first time...you don't want to miss these Black Jezebel Moments!  Don't forget to SUBSCRIBE!   RATE!    REVIEW!   SHARE! -Connect with BlakSyn IG: kinkyblackeduator -Connect with the Black Jezebel IG, Twitter, FB: @theblackjezebel, @temaratoday email: theblackjezebel@gmail.com
1:13:14
June 16, 2020
Ep. 23 Black Astrology & The Healing Power of Manifestation w/Gigi Robinson
Just like Beyonce, we are always trying to figure out which sign matches our hearts' desires. Well, look no further because the Goddess Gigi Robinson, astrologist, sacred sexuality teacher, all things manifestation power, is talking to me today about Black Astrology and the power of understanding how the stars aligned in your life. This episode is a detailed lesson into your astrology natal chart, and how you can use astrology to not only better understand yourself, but your partner's energy, and heal from the vibrations of intergenerational trauma.  Gigi walks us through all of the planets, not just our Sun Sign (which is what most people only identify with). She explains how each planet shows up in our lives, what it means to learn what your houses are saying about your healing journey, and how to manifest pleasure and success in your life that has already been written in the stars. When I tell yall this episode gave me my entire LIFE! Yes, Gigi even blesses me with a mini-reading. You don't want to miss this!  To find your own natal chart and follow along with us in the episode go to https://astro.cafeastrology.com/natal.php with your birthday, exact time of birth, and location.  For more information on natal charts and astrology check out the three websites Gigi recommends in the episode  https://astro.cafeastrology.com/natal.php https://www.astrology.com/astrology-101 https://alabe.com/ Connect with Gigi for waistbeads, readings, and much more - https://www.iamlivingaligned.com/ Ig: @iamlivingaligned Rate! Subscribe! Share!
1:31:28
June 9, 2020
Ep. 22 Therapy and Eroticism: Sexual Platforms of Healing w/Jet Setting Jasmine
Sex therapy, BDSM, Erotic films vs pornography, sexual healing...these are just a few of the topics we discuss in today's episode with the one and only Jet Setting Jasmine. Jasmine Johnson, LCSW is a virtual mental health therapist, master kink and fetish trainer, co-owner of Royal Fetish Films, and all-around BOSS in the field of mental health and sexual expression. It was such a pleasure to get to know a different, more holistic side of how Jasmine has created a career with the core tenants of healing and pleasure. This conversation is so dope, and so needed. I can't wait for you to listen! -Connect with Jasmine https://www.jsjlinks.com/ https://www.bluepearltherapy.org/ https://royalfetishxxx.com/ Follow on ig: @jetsettingjasmine -Connect w/ us email: theblackjezebel@gmail.com follow us: Ig, Twitter, Fb  @temaratoday @theblackjezebel  SUBSCRIBE!      LIKE!       SHARE!     RATE!      REVIEW!!!!!!
1:26:30
June 2, 2020
Ep. 21 "Briefcase over Baby : When mothering is not in the plans
We are coming to the close of the "Mothering While Black" mini-series and I wanted to make sure we covered a variety of stories and perspectives, including women who choose to not be mothers.  This week we are speaking to Jessica Brooks, MBA who shares how her childhood trauma, family pathology of sexual violence, and a multitude of reproductive health concerns influenced her decision to not be a mother. Jessica shares vulnerable insights into her life as a Black woman who decided that becoming a COO of a major fortune 500 corporation would be her dream, instead of the traditional script of motherhood and marriage.  You don't want to miss this episode; it's raw, vulnerable, and incredible healing. --------- Connect with Jessica Brooks - Ig:  jaejaebrooks - Connect with TemaraToday - Ig, Facebook, Twitter:@theblackjezebel Ig, Facebook, Twitter: @temaratoday email: theblackjezebel@gmail.com
1:12:32
May 26, 2020
Ep. 20 "Mothering while Black": Postpartum Disorders
Part 3 of the "Mothering While Black" mini-series.  This week I am joined by Ashley Ramclam, Ed.S, a friend, colleague, and new 1st-time mommy. Ashley addresses the various types of postpartum disorders and how they disproportionately affect Black women.  We discuss shame and stigma associated with certain postpartum disorders, why some Black women have difficulty seeking proper treatment, and signs and symptoms for new parents to pay attention to. We also dispel common breastfeeding myths and discuss the importance of finding community and support as individuals transition into "mothering while black".  Share! Like! Subscribe! Review! Connect with Ashley Ramclam - Instagram: @ashnikmacram -Facebook: Heart and Soul Wellness and Beauty Community Connect with us: -IG; Facebook; Twitter @theblackjezebel -email: theblackjezebel@gmail.com
1:05:33
May 19, 2020
Ep.19 The Path to Pregnancy: Black, Queer & Mothering
This is part 2 of the mothering while Black mini-series and I had the privilege of sitting down with my dear cousin and friend Airika Holt-Gibson. Airika shares her experience as a Black lesbian navigating the pathways to pregnancy with her partner. She offers intimate details of her experience moving from California to Georgia, and how the Black LGBT community in the South is a unique struggle as a woman, especially when striving for motherhood. This episode is a raw, authentic, and emotionally revealing insight into the potential challenges on the path to pregnancy. Connect with Airika -Email: airikaholt@gmail.com -Instagram: fat_kidz_atheart3
1:42:11
May 12, 2020
Ep. 18 "Mothering Through Pain & Suffering in Silence" w/ The Black Lotus Mother
In honor of Mother's Day and my favorite month of the year MAY, I have dedicated a 3-part series to Black mothers to share their experiences of navigating sex and mental health as a mother, their journeys to motherhood, and words of encouragement for all women nurtures. In the first part of the mini-series, I sit down with Jasmine Boudah, the Black Lotus Mother, wombman, doula, yoni-steam facilitator, published author...and the list goes on. This is an AMAZING conversation about Black mothering from a raw, open, and healing space. Jasmine recounts her journey to motherhood through generational trauma, domestic violence, PTSD, and asexuality. She shares excerpts from her book "Mothering Through Pain and Suffering in Silence"; a collection of black women's personal experiences of motherhood; truly illuminating the struggles that many Black mothers face but seldomly share. You don't want to miss this!!! -Connect with Jasmine B. social media: @blacklotusmother https://www.blacklotusmothershealing.org/new-page http://blacklotusmothers.org/ Book link: https://www.amazon.com/Mothering-Through-Pain-Suffering-Silence/dp/1542545595/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=mothering+through+pain+and+suffering+in+silence&qid=1588625442&sr=8-1
1:25:29
May 5, 2020
BONUS clip "How to Masturbate Like a Pro!"
Listen to this bonus clip from episode 5 where Kay reads a piece from her sex blog Melanin Milk, titled "How to Masturbate Like a Pro".  She shares tips, tricks, and even tells her desires when it comes to self-pleasure. --- To read more erotica and get tips on how to spice up your pleasure head over to  https://www.melaninmilk.com/ Don't forget to order your bottle or two of She Orgasms, a natural herbal supplement to enhance the female sexual orgasm. use code: JEZEBEL for 20% off your order. https://www.sheorgasms.com/
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April 28, 2020
Ep.17 SheOrgasms & Self-Pleasure with Kay Jones
This episode includes explicit content....put the kids to bed boo! Yes, this week is juicy, and I mean slippery, sloppy wet because we are talking SheOrgasms and Self-Pleasure with the amazing writer, creator and owner of She Orgasms, and self-proclaimed vagina activist. Kay talks all things pleasure, from how she started her popular sex blog, Melanin Milk, to how she created She Orgasms, a natural herbal supplement for women so you can have the sex you deserve! Yes, I'm talking increased vaginal lubrication, regulated blood flow, heightened sensitivity, greater focus, and SOOO much more. You even get to here my Black Jezebel Moment of the first time I gave these magic pills a try!!! You are in for a ride so buckle up! Want to show your support for the show, spread the word to your friends and follow us on social media: @theblackjezebel @temaratoday --- To get 20% off your order of She Orgasms click the link below and enter the code: JEZEBEL at checkout! Follow Kay Jones @sheorgasms @the.vagina.activist https://www.melaninmilk.com/ https://www.sheorgasms.com/
1:05:03
April 28, 2020
Ep.16 "What I Survived Might Kill You!": Resiliency and Marriage
What's Love Got To Do With It? That is the million-dollar question because this week we are talking to Tori Wilson, who shares a personal narrative of love, marriage, and the legal system. Tori candidly speaks about her experience as a wife and defendant after being charged with criminal offenses related to her now ex-husband's illegal activity.  She discusses what it was like navigating the legal system and how she has restored her life post-divorce. This episode is truly therapeutic and I know you will enjoy it just as much as I did when having this conversation. Buckle up...This one gets good!
1:12:46
April 21, 2020
Ep.15 “Do You Trust Me?": Breaking Down the Barriers of Vulnerability
This week I am joined by a reoccurring guest, my kindred spirit and sister-friend, Miana Graves, M.A., clinical psychology doctoral student. This episode explores trust and vulnerability. We break down attachment styles and how they relate to trust and emotional safety. We even share personal examples of tethering the lines of trust in romantic relationships.  Rate! Subscribe! Review!
1:02:24
April 14, 2020
Ep14. Sex Down South 2020 with Tia Marie and Marla Stewart
I know yall remember the ranting and raving from my 1st experience at Sex Down South 2019. I had such an amazing time I even did an entire episode on my experience, which you definitely want to make sure you hear that episode. This episode I am speaking with the founders of the Sex Down South Conference, Tia Maria and Marla Renee Stewart. The sex educators, sex enthusiast, and everything Black Girl Magic share everything you want to know about the conference from how it started, to some of their best and sexiest moments. You do not want to miss this! We are even dropping some gems on hot new sexy additions that attendees can expect this year.  The black Jezebel podcast will be presenting a workshop at Sex Down South Conference 2020 in Atlanta, GA September 10-12, 2020 and am so excited for all of you to experience this amazing Black sex experience with me.  To receive $20 off of your conference registration ticket use CODE: JezebelSDS at checkout.  @sdscon @blackbettiee Tia Maria @1marlastewart
51:54
April 7, 2020
Ep. 13 Mourning "Normalcy": COVID-19 Through a Clinical Lens of Grief
This opening episode of season 2 is diving into the global pandemic, COVID-19, and its effects on our lives and relationships. Your host, TemaraToday,  approaches this novel virus from the lens of grief and clinical identifying how the loss of our "normalcy" and daily routines can resemble the actual grieving process of loss of life, relationships, etc. She is also diving into what it looks like to redefine and prioritize pleasure in the time of crisis and unprecedented times. This episode is not only informative, in that it provides room for self-compassion through adjusting how we view what is going on in the world, it is also inviting to create new ways of pleasure into your homes, your body, and your relationships. You don't want to miss it! Subscribe, Rate, Review! @theblackjezebel @temaratoday
49:56
April 6, 2020
Ep.12 Black Dissertations Be Like...
Its the last episode of Season 1 and I couldn't be prouder! Join me in recapping the season and I leave you with a few gems to digest until Season 2 returns in January 2020! 
42:10
November 5, 2019
Ep.11 Sex and Depression: Exploring the Intersections of Mood and Intimacy
Imagine you are experiencing symptoms of depression, your mood is off, your sex drive is affected, and it's getting in the way of living your "Best Life", how do you make sense of all of that? This week I am joined by Sherod Haynes, a Neuropsych MD/Ph.D. candidate whose research expertise is Depression. We dive into what depression looks like in the black community, how symptoms differ between men and women. We are discussing attachment styles and how that intersects with mental health and mood. Of course, sex and sexual intimacy are discussed as we dive into the effects of Depression on sex drive and performance. This episode is imperative to your life, don't miss it! 
1:14:01
October 29, 2019
Ep. 10 Sexual Shame with Nikki Coleman, Ph.D.
This week I am joined by Dr. Nikki Coleman, a Licensed Psychologist in Houston, whose research involves sexual schemas in the Black community, how sexual relationships impact our mental health, and the implications of today's culture on Black female sexuality. We dive into the origins of sexual shame in the Black community and how a history of body politics has fostered an inability to acknowledge our sexuality as an inherent right not just a luxury. Sharing personal experiences, all while providing a psychological framework for our sexual behaviors give light into how important and satisfying this conversation is. I look forward to hearing your thoughts.  Follow us on social media and keep the conversation going! Dr. Nikki Coleman  @drnikkiknows  TemaraToday @temaratoday Don't forget to RATE! SUBSCRIBE! REVIEW! on Apple Podcast
1:03:45
October 22, 2019
Ep. 9 Communicating about Sex on the 1st Date
Remember that one time when you were on a first date and the chemistry was great and sexual energy was in the air, you wanted to do more...what happened next? This week I am joined by Derion and Miana as we dive into the various perspectives of having sex on the first date or not. What factors contribute to making the decision? Are you driven by gender roles or respectability politics? Does your answer change depending on your sexuality? I can't wait to hear your thoughts.  Miana G.  @mianawho Derion @adultuncensoredpod
1:13:35
October 15, 2019
Ep. 8 Navigating Sex after Trauma
This episode Temara Today chats with sex educator and certified trauma expert, Jimanekia Eborn, about sexual trauma, healing, relationships, and body boundaries. We share intimate details regarding our own experiences with sexual trauma and what the path to healing and recovery looks like in relationships and in our own bodies. We discuss triggers, boundaries, communicating about sex and pleasure post-traumatic experiences.   Other things to consider: this is a safe space, no judgment zone! Sexual traumatic conversations are sensitive but can also be very empowering.  *Jimanekia Eborn is a Queer Media Consultant, Comprehensive Sex Educator, and Sexual Assault & Trauma Expert. She is the host of her own podcast-Trauma Queen, where she interviews survivors of sexual assault and allies in uplifting their voices and reclaiming their truth.  @theblackjezebel @jimanekia @temaratoday https://traumaqueen.love https://www.instagram.com/jimanekia/
1:15:17
October 8, 2019
Ep. 7 So you say you're a Unicorn?
My guest this week is Mina (an alias) as she chooses to stay anonymous. We dive into what is a unicorn in the polyamory community, how she both experienced a unicorn joining her marriage to how she is now a unicorn herself. We discuss everything from how her Nigerian culture has impacted her sexual expression to what happens when being a unicorn goes terribly wrong. You definitely don't want to miss this conversation!
1:13:19
October 1, 2019
Ep. 6 Bipolar Intimacy: Exploring Sex and Mental Illness
This episode I am joined by Siegna Willis, LPC who was diagnosed with Bipolar 1 Disorder at the age of 18years old. She dives into her personal experience living with the disorder, navigating her spirituality while prioritizing her mental health, and how her sexuality and sexual expression has been impacted through the journey. It's both educational, deeply healing, and an overall amazing conversation between two black female mental health professionals and consumers. @siegnalyse
1:14:04
September 24, 2019
Ep. 5 "Don't Make Me Choose": Bisexuality as a Black Female
Bisexuality...what's the first thing that comes to mind? Dive into bisexuality with two black, bi-women who just so happen to be sister-friends from NOLA. We get into the stigma, family structures, and marriage as a bisexual woman. We even discuss the implications of parenting in a homophobic community. You don't want to miss it! Ig, Facebook, Twitter @never_shyra @temaratoday @theblackjezebel
1:14:44
September 17, 2019
Ep. 4 Black, Poly & Queer
This episode I am joined by Denitia Flemming, referred to as "Cara", who shares her journey of sexual identity through marriage, the swingers lifestyle, polyamory and much more. We dive into the depts of fluid relationship style and how that shows up within the black community from a female's perspective.    Cara takes us through the highs, lows, and all the shit in between that gives you a lens into female sexual fluidity. I can't wait for you to listen and share your thoughts! Ig, twitter, facebook @likesaltonfruit @temaratoday @theblackjezebel
1:16:13
September 10, 2019
Bonus Episode: Sex Down South and TemaraToday's Pleasure filled weekend
On this bonus episode, I bring to you the highlights of my weekend at the 5th Annual Sex Down South Conference in Atlanta. The whole weekend was LITTTT AF. You definitely don't want to miss me dungeon experience run down! This is a great episode to get you prepared for tomorrow's rundown on Polyamory: A Black Queer Women's Experience.
44:18
September 9, 2019
Ep. 3 Toxic Masculinity: A Black Man's Memoir
This episode we are diving into black men, gender roles, sex and a ton of other things. I am talking with Andre Mitchell, a black male educator of over a decade and a good friend of mine. Listen in as we discuss Toxic Masculinity in the Black Community.
1:10:37
September 3, 2019
Ep. 2 Sex Education in the Black Community
How did you learn about sex? What messages did you get as a child that directly influenced your sexual activity? This episode I am joined by Teakia Brown, a sex educator in Boston who works with black and brown youth and educates them on anatomy, pleasure, and sexual health. You don't want to miss this! Guest: Teakia Brown  Instagram: @t._yvette Host: Temara Today Instagram: @temaratoday
55:58
August 27, 2019
Ep. 1 Sex Initiation
The Black Jezebel Podcast is hosted by TemaraToday, a mental health provider, sex educator, NOLA native, and everything black girl magic. Join her every week as she speaks to a wide range of guests, guaranteed to liberate your sexuality, enhance your mental health, and reclaim your agency. It's your perfect mix of sex, mental health, and relationships.
1:00:47
August 20, 2019
Season 1 Teaser
Season 1 sneak peek by the Black Jezebel herself, Temara Today.
03:32
August 14, 2019