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The Barbershop GroupOct 07, 2022
Handling Things When Your Kids Get In Trouble
Parents, are you equipped to deal with your kids getting in trouble? All kids get into trouble at some point, so it’s a good idea to prepare for it. Here are 7 ways kids can get into trouble (and how to handle it when it happens).
Be sure to watch 10 Ways to Discipline Your Children by Dr. Christian Conte
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4 Ways To Maximize Gym Time
These four tips ensure you'll get in, get out, and get the most out of each exercise session.
Ways To Stop Drinking So Much
First, how does drinking make you feel? Alcohol consumption can have a negative effect on your mood, energy levels, and more in ways that can be difficult to notice over time.
Ask yourself why you’re drinking. What are the reasons you drink, and what are the conditions under which you have another?
It’s one thing to say you’ll drink less and another to do it. These hacks can help.
Be sure to download the SoberGrid or LOOSID app if you're looking for a solid community of people who are trying to manage their drinking and stress. Be sure to check out their podcast!
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Friend Dating. It’s Worth It
How To Deal With Irritating People
Ever had an irritating neighbor or a child that always seems to grind your gears? What do you tend to tell yourself when you feel the irritation growing? Ever had trouble dealing with an unnerving coworker? Check out this article to learn more about how to address them. Be sure to check out How To Agreeably Disagree With Your Spouse.
You can also watch this video on YouTube.
Here are some tips to help deal with annoying neighbors.
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How To Begin To Know Yourself-Jordan Peterson
Do I know myself? Where do I start? Am I afraid of knowing who I am? Do I hide my true self from others? Do avoid difficult things about myself or about others and do I procrastinate in life a lot?
If you've ever asked yourself nay of these questions, Dr. Peterson has some intelligent, straight-forward words for you today! Enjoy!
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Should You Pay For Good Grades?
While paying kids to improve their grades can result in better studying habits and improved scores, it may not effectively encourage them to engage with school. Studies have shown that rewards incentivize students to do the minimum necessary to receive their prize, after which point they lose interest.
This doesn't mean you shouldn't give incentive programs a try however. But there are some things you may want to consider.
If you're considering paying your kids for their school work, make sure all of your kids understand what they can each do to earn their rewards.
Check out Grown and Flown: How to Support Your Teen, Stay Close as a Family, and Raise Independent Adults
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Things To Let Your Teen Struggle With
Sometimes our teens actually need to struggle. When a teen struggles, she learns to persevere, to adapt, to grow in areas she otherwise might not. Here are 5 areas where your teen needs to struggle.
Learn how to Be A Better Parent By Partnering With Your Teen
You can also read How Teens Learn Life Lessons.
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How to BECOME a BETTER PARENT: Positive vs. Toxic Parenting Tips with Dr Gabor Maté
Dr. Gabor Maté is highly sought after for his expertise on a range of topics including addiction, stress and childhood development.
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A Common Relationship Breaker
IN SICKNESS AND HEALTH
Common condition ‘makes you notice your partner’s annoying habits MORE’, scientists warn
According to a new study published in Social Psychological and Personality Science, how married couples see each other can be affected by their stress levels and the strains going on in their day-to-day lives.
Be sure to check out Kenya Nunez as she uncovers how stress can screw up your marriage.
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Cognitive Distortions in Relationships
There is a term in psychology known as “cognitive distortion.” This is when your mind convinces you that something is true, when it really isn’t.
These thoughts are inaccurate and reinforce negative thinking. This is a problem because there is a direct link between what we think and how we feel.
Check out How Cognitive Distortions Can Impact Relationships Part 1 and Part 2.
Find out how laughter can help you!
Develop Our Integrity
In research on leadership, integrity is consistently rated as one of the most important character traits of a respected leader. Integrity can be defined as making values-based decisions, not decisions based on personal gain.
When integrity is missing from our relationships, our leaders or ourselves, a break down in trust occurs, support disappears and as a result no one achieves their goals. Aligning our internal values with our external behaviors sounds easy, but putting it into practice can be a challenge.
Take a look at Jack Canfield's The Success Principles: How to Get from Where You Are to Where You Want to Be
You can also check out what The Rising Man Movement has to say about becoming a man of integrity.
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How To Deal With An Unhappy Marriage with Aditi Shukla Fozdar
Marriage can often be a rollercoaster ride. It’s a lifelong commitment with frequent ups and downs because two people can’t have the same thoughts, perspectives, opinions, and judgments. Due to which misunderstanding, mistrust, and miscommunication occur every so often. However, when these moments of strife or unpleasantness become the defining elements of a couple’s relationship dynamics, they can cause depression symptoms and mental health problems.
Read more about Unhappy Marriages today!
Here is some research about marital conflict and depressive symptoms.
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Common Mistakes We Men Make About Sex
The Biggest Challenge Kids Face Today
Technology has made it easier to communicate with friends, for example. But this new age brings a lot of challenges for kids, and as parents, we need to understand those challenges so we can guide them effectively.
Of all of the challenges our kids face, this is what I believe is the biggest one.
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7 Things Your Kids Will Always Remember About You
For good or for bad, parents leave indelible marks on their kids. It’s hard to know what moments or conversations our kids will remember, and there are some we’re hoping they’ll forget! But knowing what stays with our kids can help us be more intentional.
Here are 7 things kids never forget about parents.
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Don't Dig A Deeper Grave for Yourself
Has your ego ever gotten in the way of effective communication with your wife?
Have you found yourself playing defense only to learn that what your spouse wanted to talk about wasn't all that bad after all?
Do you ever speak too harshly without considering how it will make her feel?
Today you can learn how to prevent yourself from digging a deep hole when talking with your spouse.
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Mistakes Fathers Make When Approaching A Serious Subject
If you haven’t connected relationally with your kids, it’s best to hold off on addressing the serious stuff.
What’s one parenting mistake you’ve made when trying to talk to your kid about a serious topic?
Check out Focus On The Family's Better Ways to Communicate With Your Children (Part 1 of 2)
And here is a great video on How To Talk To Kids So They Listen
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3 Ways To Keep From Giving Up On Fatherhood
•Listen to your conscience.
•Don’t give temporary feelings too much attention.
•Resist comparing yourself to other Dads.
Have you ever thought, “I don’t want to be a father?” What do you do when you feel like giving up as a dad?
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Making Father's Day A Priority
- All too often men throughout America make the oft-repeated mistake of waiting for someone other than them to make a big deal about fatherhood and their status. Men sometimes look to their wives or mothers of their children to celebrate them as fathers and it leaves them feeling deflated and a bit like they were an after-thought in comparison to the way mothers are treated for Mother's Day. We like to remind fathers that it's up to themselves and their children (if they have a decent relationship with them) to make Father's Day a big deal. There isn't any use in hoping scorned women will come around to sit the man on the throne of fatherhood. Don't get us wrong. It's great and highly appreciated if they do, but let's face it. If a man has been bickering with his child's mother, has broken her heart, or has an open child-support order which he may or may not be in arrears for, it'll be damn-near impossible to hear your praises sang. It's important for fathers to take ownership of Father's Day, whether they're great fathers or struggling to improve their relationship with their kids.
- We will also discuss ways to talk to your daughters about masturbation IF they ask you. Sometimes children feel more comfortable talking to one or the other parent about sensitive topics. Fathers need to be prepared to have sensitive talks without deflecting.
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Becoming The Father You've Always Wanted To Be
Welcome to the first episode covering psychologist Stephan Poulter's comprehensive work on parenting for fathers. "Father Your Son: How to Become the Father You've Always Wanted to Be" breaks down many of the barriers men face as they attempt to show up in the lives of their sons.
Men either place obstacles in their own way or have walls erected by those in their early childhood environment.
Join us as we break open a discussion that will help countless men change the way they raise their sons.
Emotional Pain and Porn Use: Are they related?
It's often been said that addiction to drugs is the result of a type of emotional disconnection. Either we're disconnected from our reality, from ourselves, or from our loved ones. Have you ever used people, places, or things to cope with emotional pain? Porn seems to be one of today's common salves. Does it work?
8 Tips For Buying Your House!
With demand strong and supply agonizingly low, buyers in many U.S. metros have gotten used to fierce bidding wars where it feels like you have to give up your right kidney to actually win.
Are would-be homeowners destined to fall into a cycle of losing offers and feelings of dejection? Thankfully, no. Here are some expert tips to help you stay positive and gain the upper hand.
The Intersection of Drugs & Sex Addiction with Claudia Rodriguez
Dynamic duo Paola Rodriguez, LMHC, and her sister Claudia Rodriguez, MD., help guide our fans through the world of porn and pills. Is there a correlation between sex addiction and drug use? And Charles needs your help starting his "OnlyFans" page!
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Men And Public Mental Health Breakdowns: Can we handle them?
How comfortable are you witnessing a man exhibit behavior that might be indicative of an emotional breakdown? We know there is a push in our society to make space for men to be vulnerable but is it just lip service?
Stop Pulling The Cart
We’ll break down the blowback of affairs and uncover some of the hurts beyond the affair itself, tracing the origin of the feelings leftover even months and years after the initial affair.
Our Relationship’s Residual Effects
The accumulation of lost dreams, broken promises, disillusionment, regret, emotional setbacks, disenchantment, with the past romantic partners, and unrealistic expectations all make up your ex-factor. Consider the following:
- The cycle of despair and desperation
- Emotional histories repeating themselves
- Setting yourself for failure
The hardest part of creating a new relationship is stopping the old, negative emotional patterns and antiquated styles of intimacy and connection.
Communication Mistakes Guys Make
Interrupting
Not Paying Attention
Belittling Her Opinion
Ignoring Bids For Emotional Connections
Some ways to fix your relationship and communication style:
Only get into relationships you want, not the ones you need. Strive to cultivate relationships that fully stimulate you, both physically and intellectually. Make sure you care about the people around you, both in the sense of getting to know them and be willing to invest in their happiness and not just your own.
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What Does A Man Need From His Spouse?
Today Charles talks with Professional Counselor, Divorce Mediator, motivational speaker, and the founder of Project Compassion, NFP Rachel Jackson about her take on Wendy's backhanded slight towards Tabitha and her husband Chance. Rachel has worked with countless women to help them steer clear of toxic relationships and navigate changing gender and spousal roles to maintain their marriages. If you're confused about what you need from your spouse or from the person you're dating, Rachel has a clear, concise answer for you.
Build A Happier Marriage
A Dental Date with Dr. Jay Grossman
While we know many guys out there don’t visit their primary physicians or mental health professionals regularly, we don’t get to hear much about men’s relationships with their dentists. And this leads us to the question: “What is the state of men’s oral hygiene?”
Dr. Grossman will answer this question and many others and will share some experiences that have shaped his view of wellbeing along the way. You’ll definitely want to go brush and floss after this.
Don’t Be Mr. Bill Shenk-Instructions For Passive Husbands
Richard Sherman, CTE, Racism and Trevor Bauer’s curveball
Servant Leadership Beyond...
Not too long ago The Barbershop Group shared some words from the founder about leadership as many men still desire to be leaders of their families and teams but would like to do so in a more comprehensive and cohesive manner. And this isn’t a bad thing but sometimes we miss teaching opportunities because of the words chosen for various audiences.
Jamiere adds his voice to expand the concept of servant leadership beyond the status-quo. Hopefully you’ll find his take useful and down-to-earth. And stay tuned for more from Jamiere!
Five Ways To Be A Great Dad
How To Show Love To Our Kids
Humility, Habits & Rituals
Why did former NBA point guard John Stockton visit a chiropractor four times a day? Karl Malone believed in habits and rituals, even when eating at restaurants.
Every great person pays attention to detail. Every single detail.
Peak performers always find the silver lining. They practice reprogramming their minds for positive outcomes.
Don’t let the media, your friends, or your family dissuade you from reaching your goals. Execute healthy habits and rituals.
Get Friends Who Motivate You
What’s better than your own personal cheerleading squad? Surrounding yourself with positive people throughout your life will provide you exactly that. They compliment you, push you, and overall encourage you to grow and become the best version of yourself. They have the utmost confidence in you to achieve your goals and live the life of your dreams.
Your circle should consist of your own role models. Gravitating towards people you admire will not only inspire you to rise up to their level, but also their best and most successful traits will start to influence your behavior.
If you’re spending time with people who complain, procrastinate, and always make excuses, you’ll start to follow suit in your own daily activities and life. However, if you’re surrounded by others who push themselves, have uplifting attitudes, and always strive for their best, these qualities will also start to seep into your daily life and character.
What kinds of habits and traits do you want in your life?
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What Men Want: Tackling Sexual Perceptions
Popular maxims attest to the pervasive belief that men are always ready and eager to bed almost any woman:
* Men have only one thing on their minds.
* Men lust; women want to feel desired.
* What single word can women say to sexually arouse men? Hello.
Chances are you’ve heard one or more of these, which attests to the prevalence of assumptions about rampant male lust. But sexual urgency, the feeling that I need sex now, is age-related. A recent study shows that after age 30, men’s desire for sex becomes more nuanced, more complex—and in contrast to the stereotype, more like women’s.
Resources:
Davies, S et al. “Sexual Desire Discrepancies: Effects on Sexual Relationship Satisfaction in Heterosexual Dating Couples,” Archives of Sexual Behavior (1999) 28:553. doi: 10.1023/A:10187211417683.
Levine, SB. “Re-Exploring the Concept of Sexual Desire,” Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy (2002) 28:39. doi:10.1080/009262302317251007.
Levine, SB. “The Nature of Sexual Desire: A Clinician’s Perspective,” Archives of Sexual Behavior (2003)32:279 doi: 10.1023/A:1023421819465.
Murray, SH et al. “A Qualitative Exploration of Factors That Affect Sexual Desire Among Men Aged 30 to 65 in Longterm Relationships,” Journal of Sex Research (2017) 54: 319. doi:10.1080/00224499.2016.1168352
ABCs of Eliminating Debt
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Between a mortgage, car loan, student loans, credit cards, and medical bills, debt can get out of control before you realize what's happening. Whether your debt stems from a job loss, unexpected expenses, or overspending, it’s possible to reduce and eventually eliminate it.
Tackling your debt takes time and effort, but combining strategies and staying consistent can help you successfully dig your way out of debt. Here are some tips to help you get out of debt.
Today we’ll talk about:
Freezing Credit
Build an Emergency Fund
Use the Debt Snowball Method
Ask Your Creditor for a Lower Interest Rate
Increase Your Income
Withdraw From Your Retirement Fund
Cash Out a Life Insurance Policy
Debt Settlement
Credit Counseling
PODCAST SOURCES
* IRS. "Retirement Topics - Exceptions to Tax on Early Distributions." Accessed June 3, 2021.
* Fidelity. "Thinking of Taking Money Out of a 401(k)?" Accessed June 3, 2021.
* Ameriprise Financial. "Tax Planning Tips: Life Insurance," Expand "What Are the Tax Consequences of Cashing in Your Life Insurance?" Accessed June 3, 2021.
Romance For The Common Man
Read The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts by Gary Chapman
You can find out more about your own Love Language by taking this quiz.
You can also learn more about The 5 Love Languages For Men.
Some other neat ways to spark romance:
Make a scrapbook with photos, mementos, and little notes from you lives together.
Kiss in the rain.
Ride a ferris wheel.
Sneak away from a party and make out.
Bring home great take-out, and light some candles.
Fix something or fix up the house just to make your partner happy.
Slow dance to romantic music.
Take a nap together.
Kiss slowly, touching his or her back and neck and nape — slowly.
Make a list of everything you love about him or her.
Write a love letter.
Budgeting Made Easy
We get it. Guys want to make money. Even if you’re a humble dude, you probably still want to feel like you’re not broke, like you could walk into Tiffany’s with confidence or book that trip to Bali in the spur of the moment. But avoiding budget planning and your finances or lack thereof won’t help you get there.
Here are 6 easy steps to help you take control of your financial life. No, these steps won’t make you rich, but they’ll definitely keep you from feeling poor and overworked.
General Budgeting Tips
Once you have set up a basic budget, customize it according to your financial situation and goals.
* If you work on commission, be aggressive in saving to help cover periods when the market is slow.
* If you have cash flow issues because you are paid only once a month, divide that payment by weeks, and keep the cash you planned to spend in remaining weeks in a separate account until you need it.
* Pay with a credit card only if you will have the money to pay it off at the end of the month. Otherwise, you will owe interest on top of the price of whatever you bought.
* Adjust your budget monthly if you find you overestimated or underestimated your expenses. Keep an eye on large expenses that only occur every few months, such as insurance payments.
* If you tend to overspend in certain categories, use budgeting hacks such as switching to a cash-only budget.
* Once your expenses are lower than your income, budget towards savings goals before you increase your spending.
* Take time to learn other financial skills to improve your financial literacy and make your money work harder for you.
Live Longer Man
Average life expectancy in the United States dropped by a full year—from 78.8 to 77.8 years—in the first six months of 2020, according to provisional data from the National Center for Health Statistics (NCHS), and the life expectancy gap between the sexes widened.
Women now outlive men by an average of 5.4 years versus the 5.1-year average in 2019, the NCHS reported and it’s even lower if you are an African-American or Hispanic male.
Today take a moment to consider what you can do to take control of the longevity of your life and be sure to sign up for our podcast and blog at tbgmen.com.
Stop Raping Us Too
Finding Masculine Spirituality
How often have you seen the divine masculine discussed or revered (as opposed to the divine feminine)? Be honest: not much. Maybe a few people here and there have touched on the matter … but overall people aren’t paying that much attention to the topic.
Why is this the case?
We have mostly been presented with the shadow side of the masculine, both by men who haven’t always been at their best and by women who, in recent times, have grown accustomed to focusing on those men.
We have seen how bloodthirsty, arrogant, domineering, and destructive masculine energy can, be so many people have lost interest in discussing all things masculine. And this includes masculine or male spirituality.
So today, lets take a look at some ways to find our masculine higher selves.
What About Your Friends?
While we know guys have a hard time making friends, that isn’t a reason to forgo being on the lookout for cool companions and solid bros! It requires work, but it’s worth it.
Here are several types of friends every man could benefit from.
Get Her Honest Opinion
It’s also crucial for each man to be curious about how his partner views him and his actions. All too often, we tend to fall into ruts in our relationships; we get complacent and rely on auto-pilot. We can also begin to tell ourselves stories about our behavior that may not be congruent with a comprehensive view involving our spouses.
Here are a set of questions we men should ask our partners as part of a relationship checkup and for our own personal development.
Shame and Suicide
Mental disorders, particularly mood disorders, schizophrenia, anxiety disorders, and certain personality disorders
Alcohol and other substance use disorders
Hopelessness
Impulsive and/or aggressive tendencies
History of trauma or abuse
Major physical illnesses
Previous suicide attempt(s)
Family history of suicide
Job or financial loss
Loss of relationship(s)
Easy access to lethal means
Local clusters of suicide
Lack of social support and sense of isolation
Stigma associated with asking for help
Lack of healthcare, especially mental health and substance abuse treatment
Cultural and religious beliefs, such as the belief that suicide is a noble resolution of a personal dilemma
Exposure to others who have died by suicide (in real life or via the media and Internet) Know the Warning Signs
Some warning signs may help you determine if a loved one is at risk for suicide, especially if the behavior is new, has increased, or seems related to a painful event, loss, or change. If you or someone you know exhibits any of these, seek help by calling the Lifeline.
Talking about wanting to die or to kill themselves
Looking for a way to kill themselves, like searching online or buying a gun
Talking about feeling hopeless or having no reason to live
Talking about feeling trapped or in unbearable pain
Talking about being a burden to others
Increasing the use of alcohol or drugs
Acting anxious or agitated; behaving recklessly
Sleeping too little or too much
Withdrawing or isolating themselves
Showing rage or talking about seeking revenge
Extreme mood swings
You Gotta Get Some Zzz’s
If you have noticed any of the following, this episode is for you.
* Tossing and turning
* Waking up frequently
* Teeth grinding
* Daytime sleepiness
* Snoring
* Consecutive sleepless nights
* Restless legs
* Falling alseep at work or behind the wheel
* Concentration problems
* Feelings of anger
* Irritability or edginess
* Absentmindedness
Your path to better sleep starts here!
Be sure to check out sleep monitoring apps and software like Whoop and Oura Ring.
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Maximizing Your Success
Recognizing Maturity
Being a grown man is about being true to yourself, developing your character, and living with integrity.
How do you know you’re there?