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A Dental Date with Dr. Jay Grossman
Today we’ll talk to Jay Grossman, DDS, US Navy veteran and founder of Homeless Not Toothless, a 501(c)(3) nonprofit program, opened to provide free dental care to the homeless and underserved in 1992. Presently, hundreds of local dentists participate in the greater Los Angeles area. Most of the patients are referred by the Venice Family Clinic and local shelters, where their dental needs and the necessity for treatment are assessed. While we know many guys out there don’t visit their primary physicians or mental health professionals regularly, we don’t get to hear much about men’s relationships with their dentists. And this leads us to the question: “What is the state of men’s oral hygiene?” Dr. Grossman will answer this question and many others and will share some experiences that have shaped his view of wellbeing along the way. You’ll definitely want to go brush and floss after this.
40:28
July 27, 2021
Don’t Be Mr. Bill Shenk-Instructions For Passive Husbands
In the movie “Cheaper By The Dozens” a character by the name Bill Shenk, played by Alan Ruck, is the husband of Tina Shenk and also the father of Dylan Shenk. He is far kinder and nicer than Tina and actually likes the Bakers. He hates Tina being rude to the Bakers and being overprotective of Dylan. But he won’t dare speak up. The only thing Bill hates more than anything is ruffling Tina’s feathers. Though you may think you’re doing the right thing by keeping the peace to keep your wife happy, you’re probably doing way more damage than you realize.
09:21
July 23, 2021
Richard Sherman, CTE, Racism and Trevor Bauer’s curveball
Today join us as we discuss the recent mental health news of San Francisco football player Richard Sherman. We’ll also cover ESPN commentator Stephen A. Smith’s racist(?)gaffe about MLB phenom Shohei Ohtani and of course, we can’t leave without delving into the abuse allegations involving pitcher Trevor Bauer and his uncontrollable fetish.
48:49
July 21, 2021
Servant Leadership Beyond...
Today cohost Jamiere Abney dissects servant leadership, a concept often associated with Christian thought-leaders and corporate management executives to encourage their subordinates and mentees to cultivate and develop people through their own service. Not too long ago The Barbershop Group shared some words from the founder about leadership as many men still desire to be leaders of their families and teams but would like to do so in a more comprehensive and cohesive manner. And this isn’t a bad thing but sometimes we miss teaching opportunities because of the words chosen for various audiences. Jamiere adds his voice to expand the concept of servant leadership beyond the status-quo. Hopefully you’ll find his take useful and down-to-earth. And stay tuned for more from Jamiere!
11:32
July 14, 2021
Five Ways To Be A Great Dad
If you're like many fathers who are engaged in present parenting or want to get better at relating to your kids and raising them, you probably have a list of things that are part of your core parenting values. You may have gotten some of these from your father, stepfather, an uncle, a grandfather or another father-figure in your life. And hopefully these traits have proven to be indispensable to your parenting style and your children's overall wellbeing. And yet, sometimes there are things that either aren't passed down to us or that we somehow get lax about and these things could impact our relationship with our children and their moms. Today we present five tips to help sharpen your ability to be a great dad. If you're already doing these things, great! If you've forgotten, hopefully these will serve as helpful reminders.
10:21
July 13, 2021
How To Show Love To Our Kids
There are a few core things fathers can do to show their children that they love them. When done regularly and sincerely, these actions also show children how to exhibit loving traits in their own relationships with family members, friends and future spouses. See if you recognize any of these practices in your own lives.
09:43
July 12, 2021
Humility, Habits & Rituals
If you want to be the best at what you do, if you want to succeed at virtually anything in life, you need to be able to execute using habits and rituals. Why did former NBA point guard John Stockton visit a chiropractor four times a day? Karl Malone believed in habits and rituals, even when eating at restaurants. Every great person pays attention to detail. Every single detail. Peak performers always find the silver lining. They practice reprogramming their minds for positive outcomes. Don’t let the media, your friends, or your family dissuade you from reaching your goals. Execute healthy habits and rituals.
21:20
June 28, 2021
Get Friends Who Motivate You
“MAKE A CONSCIOUS EFFORT TO SURROUND YOURSELF WITH POSITIVE, NOURISHING, AND UPLIFTING PEOPLE – PEOPLE WHO BELIEVE IN YOU, ENCOURAGE YOU TO GO AFTER YOUR DREAMS, AND APPLAUD YOUR VICTORIES.” – JACK CANFIELD What’s better than your own personal cheerleading squad? Surrounding yourself with positive people throughout your life will provide you exactly that. They compliment you, push you, and overall encourage you to grow and become the best version of yourself. They have the utmost confidence in you to achieve your goals and live the life of your dreams. Your circle should consist of your own role models. Gravitating towards people you admire will not only inspire you to rise up to their level, but also their best and most successful traits will start to influence your behavior. If you’re spending time with people who complain, procrastinate, and always make excuses, you’ll start to follow suit in your own daily activities and life. However, if you’re surrounded by others who push themselves, have uplifting attitudes, and always strive for their best, these qualities will also start to seep into your daily life and character. What kinds of habits and traits do you want in your life? Watch the full video on our website at tbgmen.com.
10:44
June 18, 2021
What Men Want: Tackling Sexual Perceptions
Let’s be honest, women don’t know everything about men and men have tried like hell to get women to listen without making assumptions or lumping them altogether. Many women want to know why older men seem less interested in relationships and less motivated to make sexual advances. Men are now speaking out about their real thoughts. They might surprise you. Popular maxims attest to the pervasive belief that men are always ready and eager to bed almost any woman: * Men have only one thing on their minds. * Men lust; women want to feel desired. * What single word can women say to sexually arouse men? Hello. Chances are you’ve heard one or more of these, which attests to the prevalence of assumptions about rampant male lust. But sexual urgency, the feeling that I need sex now, is age-related. A recent study shows that after age 30, men’s desire for sex becomes more nuanced, more complex—and in contrast to the stereotype, more like women’s. Resources: Davies, S et al. “Sexual Desire Discrepancies: Effects on Sexual Relationship Satisfaction in Heterosexual Dating Couples,” Archives of Sexual Behavior (1999) 28:553. doi: 10.1023/A:10187211417683. Levine, SB. “Re-Exploring the Concept of Sexual Desire,” Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy (2002) 28:39. doi:10.1080/009262302317251007. Levine, SB. “The Nature of Sexual Desire: A Clinician’s Perspective,” Archives of Sexual Behavior (2003)32:279 doi: 10.1023/A:1023421819465. Murray, SH et al. “A Qualitative Exploration of Factors That Affect Sexual Desire Among Men Aged 30 to 65 in Longterm Relationships,” Journal of Sex Research (2017) 54: 319. doi:10.1080/00224499.2016.1168352
26:46
June 15, 2021
ABCs of Eliminating Debt
*SIGNUP for our updates on www.tbgmen.com *Pledge your monthly contribution by clicking “SUPPORT” Between a mortgage, car loan, student loans, credit cards, and medical bills, debt can get out of control before you realize what's happening. Whether your debt stems from a job loss, unexpected expenses, or overspending, it’s possible to reduce and eventually eliminate it.  Tackling your debt takes time and effort, but combining strategies and staying consistent can help you successfully dig your way out of debt. Here are some tips to help you get out of debt. Today we’ll talk about: Freezing Credit Build an Emergency Fund Use the Debt Snowball Method Ask Your Creditor for a Lower Interest Rate Increase Your Income Withdraw From Your Retirement Fund Cash Out a Life Insurance Policy Debt Settlement Credit Counseling PODCAST SOURCES * IRS. "Retirement Topics - Exceptions to Tax on Early Distributions." Accessed June 3, 2021.  * Fidelity. "Thinking of Taking Money Out of a 401(k)?" Accessed June 3, 2021. * Ameriprise Financial. "Tax Planning Tips: Life Insurance," Expand "What Are the Tax Consequences of Cashing in Your Life Insurance?" Accessed June 3, 2021.
16:07
June 14, 2021
Romance For The Common Man
After a long period of time, the passion in a marriage or a long term relationship can begin to fade. Keep the flame alive with these ten ways to romance your wife. Read The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts by Gary Chapman You can find out more about your own Love Language by taking this quiz. You can also learn more about The 5 Love Languages For Men. Some other neat ways to spark romance: Make a scrapbook with photos, mementos, and little notes from you lives together. Kiss in the rain. Ride a ferris wheel. Sneak away from a party and make out. Bring home great take-out, and light some candles. Fix something or fix up the house just to make your partner happy. Slow dance to romantic music. Take a nap together. Kiss slowly, touching his or her back and neck and nape — slowly. Make a list of everything you love about him or her. Write a love letter.
10:24
June 10, 2021
Budgeting Made Easy
If you want to control your spending and work toward your financial goals, you need a budget. In many households across America, men may be the primary wage-earners but stats suggest their spouses and partners do most of the heavy lifting when it comes to financial planning, budgeting and personal finance management. We get it. Guys want to make money. Even if you’re a humble dude, you probably still want to feel like you’re not broke, like you could walk into Tiffany’s with confidence or book that trip to Bali in the spur of the moment. But avoiding budget planning and your finances or lack thereof won’t help you get there. Here are 6 easy steps to help you take control of your financial life. No, these steps won’t make you rich, but they’ll definitely keep you from feeling poor and overworked. General Budgeting Tips Once you have set up a basic budget, customize it according to your financial situation and goals. * If you work on commission, be aggressive in saving to help cover periods when the market is slow.  * If you have cash flow issues because you are paid only once a month, divide that payment by weeks, and keep the cash you planned to spend in remaining weeks in a separate account until you need it. * Pay with a credit card only if you will have the money to pay it off at the end of the month. Otherwise, you will owe interest on top of the price of whatever you bought. * Adjust your budget monthly if you find you overestimated or underestimated your expenses. Keep an eye on large expenses that only occur every few months, such as insurance payments. * If you tend to overspend in certain categories, use budgeting hacks such as switching to a cash-only budget. * Once your expenses are lower than your income, budget towards savings goals before you increase your spending. * Take time to learn other financial skills to improve your financial literacy and make your money work harder for you.
14:44
June 8, 2021
Live Longer Man
June is Men’s Health Month and once again men are being faced with some dire health circumstances and according to many health research agencies, our situations are getting better. Average life expectancy in the United States dropped by a full year—from 78.8 to 77.8 years—in the first six months of 2020, according to provisional data from the National Center for Health Statistics (NCHS), and the life expectancy gap between the sexes widened. Women now outlive men by an average of 5.4 years versus the 5.1-year average in 2019, the NCHS reported and it’s even lower if you are an African-American or Hispanic male. Today take a moment to consider what you can do to take control of the longevity of your life and be sure to sign up for our podcast and blog at tbgmen.com.
14:35
June 7, 2021
Stop Raping Us Too
•“We can’t solve the problem of violence against girls and women without also addressing violence against men and boys... •”If we want to raise boys differently, we must start believing that they are equally capable of feeling pain and doing violence.” •”When we convey to boys that unwanted touch is a serious issue of sexual assault only when it affects girls and not when it affects boys, we are sending a message that only girls’ bodies are worthy of protection.” Have you ever heard of "brooming?" Are girls & women really sexually assaulted more than males? How do we stop violence against women? Why won't the news media talk about male sexual abuse & the research? Are gay men at higher risk? Listen to today's podcast to find out! Check out https://www.washingtonpost.com/magazine/2021/02/22/why-we-dont-talk-about-sexual-violence-against-boys-why-we-should/ and research on the tbgmen.com website.
45:48
June 4, 2021
Finding Masculine Spirituality
We hear a lot these days about wild women, female spiritual ascension, and the awakening of the sacred feminine. Go on any form of social media and you’re bound to find discussion surrounding sisterhood, female mysticism, womb magic, and contacting/worshiping the goddess within. How often have you seen the divine masculine discussed or revered (as opposed to the divine feminine)? Be honest: not much. Maybe a few people here and there have touched on the matter … but overall people aren’t paying that much attention to the topic. Why is this the case? We have mostly been presented with the shadow side of the masculine, both by men who haven’t always been at their best and by women who, in recent times, have grown accustomed to focusing on those men. We have seen how bloodthirsty, arrogant, domineering, and destructive masculine energy can, be so many people have lost interest in discussing all things masculine. And this includes masculine or male spirituality. So today, lets take a look at some ways to find our masculine higher selves.
22:30
June 2, 2021
What About Your Friends?
Good friendships are hard to find. They’re even harder to maintain, especially when life ramps up, and marriage and fatherhood start to narrow your focus. But it’s even more important to make time for them when you become a dad.  While we know guys have a hard time making friends, that isn’t a reason to forgo being on the lookout for cool companions and solid bros! It requires work, but it’s worth it. Here are several types of friends every man could benefit from.
13:37
June 1, 2021
Get Her Honest Opinion
Curiosity is crucial in marriage and relationships. It’s great to ask questions that prompt you to learn more about your partner. Those questions help create tighter bonds and deeper intimacy. It’s also crucial for each man to be curious about how his partner views him and his actions. All too often, we tend to fall into ruts in our relationships; we get complacent and rely on auto-pilot. We can also begin to tell ourselves stories about our behavior that may not be congruent with a comprehensive view involving our spouses. Here are a set of questions we men should ask our partners as part of a relationship checkup and for our own personal development.
13:43
May 31, 2021
Shame and Suicide
Today Dr. Poulter discusses his findings on suicide, suicide attempts, ruminating thoughts and shameful emotions. If you’re thinking about suicide, are worried about a friend or loved one, or would like emotional support, the Lifeline network is available 24/7 across the United States. Call 1-800-273-8255 if you need someone to talk to. Risk factors are characteristics that make it more likely that someone will consider, attempt, or die by suicide. They can't cause or predict a suicide attempt, but they're important to be aware of. Mental disorders, particularly mood disorders, schizophrenia, anxiety disorders, and certain personality disorders Alcohol and other substance use disorders Hopelessness Impulsive and/or aggressive tendencies History of trauma or abuse Major physical illnesses Previous suicide attempt(s) Family history of suicide Job or financial loss Loss of relationship(s) Easy access to lethal means Local clusters of suicide Lack of social support and sense of isolation Stigma associated with asking for help Lack of healthcare, especially mental health and substance abuse treatment Cultural and religious beliefs, such as the belief that suicide is a noble resolution of a personal dilemma Exposure to others who have died by suicide (in real life or via the media and Internet) Know the Warning Signs Some warning signs may help you determine if a loved one is at risk for suicide, especially if the behavior is new, has increased, or seems related to a painful event, loss, or change. If you or someone you know exhibits any of these, seek help by calling the Lifeline. Talking about wanting to die or to kill themselves Looking for a way to kill themselves, like searching online or buying a gun Talking about feeling hopeless or having no reason to live Talking about feeling trapped or in unbearable pain Talking about being a burden to others Increasing the use of alcohol or drugs Acting anxious or agitated; behaving recklessly Sleeping too little or too much Withdrawing or isolating themselves Showing rage or talking about seeking revenge Extreme mood swings
24:23
May 28, 2021
You Gotta Get Some Zzz’s
If you’ve been struggling with getting enough sleep or with getting quality sleep, you may want to talk to a professional who can help you make some healthy changes in your life. If you have noticed any of the following, this episode is for you. * Tossing and turning * Waking up frequently * Teeth grinding * Daytime sleepiness * Snoring * Consecutive sleepless nights * Restless legs * Falling alseep at work or behind the wheel * Concentration problems * Feelings of anger * Irritability or edginess * Absentmindedness Your path to better sleep starts here! Be sure to check out sleep monitoring apps and software like Whoop and Oura Ring. https://ouraring.com/product/heritage-silver/step1 https://www.whoop.com/?gclid=EAIaIQobChMIpPTIyKXq8AIV2HRvBB3AQwlVEAAYASAAEgKVKvD_BwE
16:25
May 27, 2021
Maximizing Your Success
We men often feel like we have to win every single battle. We feel like we can’t lose or we’ll be the laughing stock or humiliated by our haters. But we’re not required to win all the time and quite often, we could fare far better if we changed our outlook. Take a listen!
09:45
May 26, 2021
Recognizing Maturity
Gentlemen, just because you’re an adult doesn’t mean you’re a grown man. I know plenty of guys who are well into their 30’s and 40’s who still act like man-babies. Being a grown man is about being true to yourself, developing your character, and living with integrity. Being a grown man is about being true to yourself, developing your character, and living with integrity. How do you know you’re there?
18:13
May 25, 2021
Hard Money Questions
Have you done a financial self checkup lately? If you were to ask a lot of folks the last time they did any maintenance on their finances, you’d probably get some confused looks.  The fact is, some regular self-reflection when it comes to money matters is absolutely critical if you hope to reach your life goals and keep your family protected should the unexpected happen. Today Charles reminds us to ask and answer several questions that can help us prepare for a more financially secure future.
17:07
May 24, 2021
How To Meet Other Guys
Men are generally pretty bad at making friends—at least with other guys. Especially as we get older, men often have fewer close male friendships. Yet, according to research, we crave intimacy in our friendships just as much as women. Worst of all, this lack of close relationships could be very, very bad for us. Prolonged loneliness can have serious consequences for cognition, emotion, behavior, and health—and may even speed up physiological aging. Growing up, most men are pretty motivated to learn how to approach and talk to women. It’s a natural part of becoming an adult (heterosexual) male—and even though it’s far from easy for everyone, the rules of engagement are clearer. For this reason, many men find that in their adult years, they are still far more comfortable talking to women—even in a platonic situation. If you crave more male friendships in your life but feel anxious or uncertain about how to do it, don’t worry—there is hope.
15:09
May 21, 2021
Masturbation Myths For Guys
Many myths exist about the risks of masturbation, however none of these have been proven. There are many myths about masturbation. Even though many of these have been debunked several times, they seem to resurface time and time again. Most claims about masturbation are not backed up by science. There is often no scientific evidence to show that masturbation causes any of the adverse effects suggested. Some people may feel embarrassed, guilty, or ashamed when talking about masturbation. But masturbation is normal, healthy, and not something to feel guilty about. See if you’ve heard of some of these myths. You might be surprised.
22:07
May 20, 2021
The Trauma of War and Occupation
*Support The Barbershop Group podcast by going to www.anchor.fm/thebarbershopgroup. Select $4.99 or $9.99 for your monthly contribution* ===================================================== You can also follow The Barbershop Group on Twitter, Facebook and Instagram for informative news, research and daily inspiration for men and those who love them. ===================================================== WATCH on YOUTUBE: https://youtu.be/OjpAIlBXTdk LISTEN on your PODCAST App: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/the-barbershop-group/id1309669109 https://open.spotify.com/show/34l7nA8skXKE9r1sHDgo9e https://play.radiopublic.com/the-barbershop-group-6rVxn9 https://www.google.com/podcasts?feed=aHR0cHM6Ly9hbmNob3IuZm0vcy8xNmI0ZmQwL3BvZGNhc3QvcnNz Today The Barbershop Group speaks with 3 men connected to the Gaza strip in the Occupied Palestinian Territories (OPT). As many of you know, there have been countless protests around the world in support of the Palestinian people’s right to life and to avoid further displacement as Israeli settlers expand throughout the area. Concurrently, citizens are struggling to find shelter and food as their homes are being demolished by Israeli Defense Forces targeting suspected Hamas outposts. Mohamed, Tariq and Yusuf get candid, opening up their emotional lives to give listeners and viewers a peak into the psychological trauma they endure. ===================================================== Suggested Reading: “A Peace to End All Peace” by David Fromkin https://www.amazon.com/Peace-End-All-Ottoman-Creation/dp/0805088091 In This Place Together: A Palestinian's Journey to Collective Liberation https://www.amazon.com/This-Place-Together-Palestinians-Collective/dp/0807046825/ref=asc_df_0807046825/?tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=509436355622&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=7827778474900102267&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9016881&hvtargid=pla-1227160367699&psc=1
01:04:23
May 19, 2021
The Art of Apologizing
The perfect apology consists of six steps. Master them and learn how to repair mistakes before they turn into constant conflicts and cause irreparable damage. Understanding these six steps will allow you craft an apology that really, truly means something.
10:44
May 19, 2021
Work Smarter. Not Harder.
Learning to work smarter, not harder can improve your productivity and performance while increasing your overall job satisfaction. It can also make you a valuable asset to the organization for which you work, increasing your job security. Implementing the strategies necessary to work smarter, not harder takes some practice and development. Check out these 12 ways to work smarter instead of pushing yourself to the brink of burnout.
12:48
May 18, 2021
Stop Resisting
A chance encounter with a neighbor leads to a great deal of depth and honesty. Sometimes our Higher Power puts people in our way when we need them the most. Enjoy this quick story from Charles about an emotionally lost man who never came to terms with his own pain.
10:33
May 17, 2021
Fix My Self-Esteem
*Support The Barbershop Group podcast by going to www.anchor.fm/thebarbershopgroup. Select $4.99 or $9.99 for your monthly contribution* ===================================================== You can also follow The Barbershop Group on Twitter, Facebook and Instagram for informative news, research and daily inspiration for men and those who love them. ===================================================== WATCH on YOUTUBE: https://youtu.be/6sdQx5lLSLY LISTEN on your PODCAST App: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/the-barbershop-group/id1309669109 https://open.spotify.com/show/34l7nA8skXKE9r1sHDgo9e https://play.radiopublic.com/the-barbershop-group-6rVxn9 https://www.google.com/podcasts?feed=aHR0cHM6Ly9hbmNob3IuZm0vcy8xNmI0ZmQwL3BvZGNhc3QvcnNz Today Charles and Dr. Poulter discuss several aspects of poor and healthy self-esteem for men. We have all heard of it before but we may not be able to explain what self-esteem is or how it originates for each of us. Esteem is one of the most crucial aspects of our being. It can easily become a major part of our life’s story. For people with good self-esteem, normal ups and downs may lead to temporary fluctuations in how they feel about themselves, but only to a limited extent. In contrast, for people with poor self-esteem, these ups and downs drastically impact the way they see themselves. We’ll take a look at: What is Self-Esteem? Poor vs. Healthy Self-Esteem Where Does Self-Esteem Come From? What Does Your "Inner Voice" Say? Three Faces of Low Self-Esteem Consequences of Low Self-Esteem Three Steps to Improved Self-Esteem Be sure to check out the resources on self-esteem below. ===================================================== Purchase The Shame Factor today! https://www.amazon.com/Shame-Factor-Deepest-Fears-Yourself/dp/1633885224 ===================================================== Self-Esteem: A Proven Program of Cognitive Techniques for Assessing, Improving and Maintaining Your Self-Esteem by McKay, Matthew and Patrick Fanning. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger Publications, 2000. Born to Win: Transactional Analysis with Gestalt Experiments by James, Muriel and Dorothy Jongeward. Perseus Press, 1996. Learned Optimism: How to Change Your Mind and Your Life by Martin Seligman. New York: Pocket Books, 1998. The Mindful Path to Self-Compassion: Freeing Yourself from Destructive Thoughts and Emotions by C.K. Germer. New York: Guilford Press, 2009. Self Compassion: Stop Beating Yourself Up and Leave Insecurities Behind by Kristen Neff. Harper Collins, 2011
36:53
May 14, 2021
Dad’s Way Or The Highway
*Support The Barbershop Group podcast by going to www.anchor.fm/thebarbershopgroup. Select $4.99 or $9.99 for your monthly contribution* ===================================================== You can also follow The Barbershop Group on Twitter, Facebook and Instagram for informative news, research and daily inspiration for men and those who love them. ===================================================== WATCH on YOUTUBE: https://youtu.be/bjoYzsx-lCA LISTEN on your PODCAST App: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/the-barbershop-group/id1309669109 https://open.spotify.com/show/34l7nA8skXKE9r1sHDgo9e https://play.radiopublic.com/the-barbershop-group-6rVxn9 https://www.google.com/podcasts?feed=aHR0cHM6Ly9hbmNob3IuZm0vcy8xNmI0ZmQwL3BvZGNhc3QvcnNz Today Charles asks Dr. Steve a very personal question directed at him and all of our viewers and listeners. It’s not very often that professional men speak openly about the battles they’ve faced. While some do, it requires the right space and high degrees of comfort for men to open up to strangers. Therapists, life-coaches, medical doctors, financial advisors, etc are no different. We all still struggle with vulnerability and transparency. Though some of our difficulties opening up may be attributed to any number of factors in society, many men have one particularly painful memory in common. Take a listen! You may be able to identify with this painful memory too! ===================================================== Purchase The Shame Factor today! https://www.amazon.com/Shame-Factor-Deepest-Fears-Yourself/dp/1633885224
21:37
April 30, 2021
It’s Raging Men
*Support The Barbershop Group podcast by going to www.anchor.fm/thebarbershopgroup. Select $4.99 or $9.99 for your monthly contribution* ===================================================== You can also follow The Barbershop Group on Twitter, Facebook and Instagram for informative news, research and daily inspiration for men and those who love them. ===================================================== WATCH on YOUTUBE: https://youtu.be/wiyBk_46IGo LISTEN on your PODCAST App: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/the-barbershop-group/id1309669109 https://open.spotify.com/show/34l7nA8skXKE9r1sHDgo9e https://play.radiopublic.com/the-barbershop-group-6rVxn9 https://www.google.com/podcasts?feed=aHR0cHM6Ly9hbmNob3IuZm0vcy8xNmI0ZmQwL3BvZGNhc3QvcnNz Today Charles and Dr. Steve talk about the grim reality of men, anger, acting out and violence. In the wake of the recent Colorado and Indiana mass shootings and increased road rage incidents around the country, its becoming apparent that men may need to pressingly consider how anger and rage impact the lives of countless people. John Bradshaw, author of “Healing The Shame That Binds You” wrote that we often overlook rage as an addictive emotion that is often the result of one or more family members grappling with other shameful, debilitating emotions. Psychologists say unchecked anger can often grow into rage and Dr. Poulter has an interesting take on how rage develops right in front of us despite our good intentions. ===================================================== Purchase The Shame Factor today! https://www.amazon.com/Shame-Factor-Deepest-Fears-Yourself/dp/1633885224
25:03
April 23, 2021
Stop Asking Black People
*Support The Barbershop Group podcast by going to www.anchor.fm/thebarbershopgroup. Select $4.99 or $9.99 for your monthly contribution* ===================================================== You can also follow The Barbershop Group on Twitter, Facebook and Instagram for informative news, research and daily inspiration for men and those who love them. ===================================================== WATCH on YOUTUBE: https://youtu.be/y5nPzYguSZQ LISTEN on your PODCAST App: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/the-barbershop-group/id1309669109 https://open.spotify.com/show/34l7nA8skXKE9r1sHDgo9e https://play.radiopublic.com/the-barbershop-group-6rVxn9 https://www.google.com/podcasts?feed=aHR0cHM6Ly9hbmNob3IuZm0vcy8xNmI0ZmQwL3BvZGNhc3QvcnNz Today Stephan B. Poulter, the author of “The Shame Factor: Heal Your Deepest Fears and Set Yourself Free” and Charles, the founder of The Barbershop Group have an honest and candid discussion about the Derek Chauvin trial, White guilt, empathy, indifference and general disbelief. Many Black men face racism on a regular and recurring basis. Only the most heinous acts make it to our TV and cellphone screens. Though one victim of micro-aggression may not sense a racist slight, another individual may experience symptoms commensurate with PTSD or PTSS. If you are White, you may want to reconsider how you talk to Black people about traumatic events playing out today and ask yourself why you want to invite them to to discuss their pain with you. ===================================================== Purchase The Shame Factor today! https://www.amazon.com/Shame-Factor-Deepest-Fears-Yourself/dp/1633885224
27:40
April 16, 2021
Aging & Healthy Sexuality
*Support The Barbershop Group podcast by going to www.anchor.fm/thebarbershopgroup. Select $4.99 or $9.99 for your monthly contribution* ===================================================== You can also follow The Barbershop Group on Twitter, Facebook and Instagram for informative news, research and daily inspiration for men and those who love them. ===================================================== WATCH on YOUTUBE: https://youtu.be/iIT1M1YAaz8 Today we’re talking with Miami, Florida-based Sex Therapist Paola Rodriguez and Stephan B. Poulter, the author of “The Shame Factor: Heal Your Deepest Fears and Set Yourself Free” about aging and healthy sexuality. We know women talk about the ways their bodies change as they age and how those changes impact areas of their sex lives but men typically don’t discuss these things openly or even at all. We’ve collected quite a few questions from our male followers on social media and from men in our private Whatsapp support group. As you watch or listen, you may find yourself connecting some of these questions or developing other questions of your own. Feel free to send us a message on Facebook, Instagram or Twitter and we’ll have one of our guests send you a direct response. ===================================================== Purchase The Shame Factor today! https://www.amazon.com/Shame-Factor-Deepest-Fears-Yourself/dp/1633885224
59:02
April 2, 2021
Helping Your Man Get To Therapy
*Support The Barbershop Group podcast by going to www.anchor.fm/thebarbershopgroup. Select $4.99 or $9.99 for your monthly contribution* ===================================================== You can also follow The Barbershop Group on Twitter, Facebook and Instagram for informative news, research and daily inspiration for men and those who love them. ===================================================== Today Charles and Stephan B. Poulter, Ph.D, author of “The Shame Factor: Heal Your Deepest Fears and Set Yourself Free” (available on Amazon) are responding to a query about ways to get men to engage in therapy. WATCH on YOUTUBE: https://youtu.be/d30Kl0aPwDc Many women report feeling frustrated with men in their lives who routinely avoid seeking help from therapists, psychologists and psychiatrists and attempt to develop their own methods of coercion and care to encourage men to get help. The dilemma however is that many women’s best efforts are often informed by other women in the absence of input from men. In this episode the guys will speak from the standpoint of guys next door and as men in mental health about effective ways to support men who may be adverse to therapeutic processes. Though they are speaking to women here, men may also find this episode helpful and may want to listen with their partners in order to discover new ways of communicating about mental health that meet their individual and collective objectives. ===================================================== Purchase The Shame Factor today! https://www.amazon.com/Shame-Factor-Deepest-Fears-Yourself/dp/1633885224
35:57
March 27, 2021
Making The Invisible Visible
Join Jamiere Abney and Charles Catchings as they explore the mind of Dr. Lee Pelton, outgoing president of Emerson College, about his contribution to the field of academia for African-American students. Though many Black men and women are continuing to make progress in education and in their professional lives, the rates at which they do so are dismal in comparison to White or Asian-Americans. Dr. Pelton believes this is partly due to the lack of opportunity and exposure given to African-Americans by others. He also firmly posits that Black men are in need of strengthened networking skills and that mentorship programs should be developed across the nation to foster professional and personal growth for disadvantaged youth. Dr. Pelton pulls the audience into his adolescence in Wichita, KS on the heels of Brown vs. The Board of Education, where his family had faith, commitment to each other and hard-working values of Mid-West America, values that still didn’t couldn’t convince local politicians to offer indoor plumbing his predominantly African-American community. Like many boys of his youth, he was not afforded opportunities to see much of the world beyond Kansas. Dr. Pelton’s strong commitment to his value system helped ensure that he’d move beyond the sticks of Kansas into more prominent positions. Today, he spends much of his time helping others like Jamiere, chart their own paths to success. ======================================================================================================== Marvin Lee Pelton (born September 27, 1950) is an academic administrator and college president. A native of Wichita, Kansas, Lee studied English literature at Wichita State University and Harvard University. He then held various deanship positions at Colgate University and Dartmouth College before becoming president of Willamette University (1998-2011) and Emerson College (2011-2021). In June of 2021, Pelton will take the helm as the President and CEO of the Boston Foundation. In 1974, Pelton graduated from Wichita State University. There he earned a degree in English and psychology, while graduating magna cum laude with a focus in 19th century British literature. He earned a doctorate in English and American literature from Harvard University in 1984. Pelton holds or has held positions on several educational boards and committees including the American Council on Education, the Harvard University Board of Overseers, the Oregon Shakespeare Festival, the Oregon Symphony, Oregon Health & Science University Foundation, American Association for Higher Education, National Association of Independent Colleges and Universities, and National Collegiate Athletic Association. Pelton serves on the board of directors of Portland General Electric, the local publicly traded electric utility. ======================================================================================================== Please visit www.anchor.fm/thebarbershopgroup and click the “Support” button or click ‘Support” on our podcast page to make a contribution to our show today! Be sure to ‘Like’ and ‘Subscribe” to our Youtube page and download the podcast to stay up to date on all of our programming.
46:06
March 19, 2021
Emotionally Funding Our Sons
Ever wondered why or if fathers were really important for growing boys? Of course we all think fathers matter. Well, we hope so anyway. But we don’t spend a lot of time talking about father/son relationships unless they involve sports, deadbeat dads, or toxic fathers. We’ll definitely discuss the detrimental impact of financially irresponsible fathers and those who are desperately in need of therapeutic modalities and pattern interruptions, but we will also uncover the beauty of healthy relationships between fathers and sons and how those bonds build strong foundations for young men beyond their families of origin. Below are some quick bullets to consider: • Fathers, like mothers, are pillars in the development of a child’s emotional well-being. • Children look to their fathers to lay down the rules and enforce them. • They also look to their fathers to provide a feeling of security, both physical and emotional. • Children want to make their fathers proud, and an involved father promotes inner growth and strength. •Studies have shown that when fathers are affectionate and supportive, it greatly affects a child’s cognitive and social development. It also instills an overall sense of well-being and self confidence. ======================================================================== Be sure to like, comment and share this video your with family, friends and colleagues. Your feedback is essential for our growth and evolution of the podcast. ======================================================================== You can purchase “The Shame Factor: Heal Your Deepest Fears and Set Yourself Free” at https://www.amazon.com/Shame-Factor-Deepest-Fears-Yourself/dp/1633885224 You can also purchase “The Father Factor: How Your Father’s Legacy Impacts Your Career” at https://www.amazon.com/Father-Factor-Fathers-Impacts-Psychology/dp/1591024102
44:19
March 12, 2021
Working Through Shame For Better Sex-Part 1
Today Stephan B. Poulter, Ph.D. and Charles kick off March talking about shame and better sex for men. This month we’ll have several guests on the podcast who will share their personal and/or professional experience encountering shame and sexuality and a bit of how they’ve helped others work through painful processes or how they’ve done so for themselves. When it comes to women and sex, we men often think we know more than we actually do about women’s pleasure. We can sometimes give in to our ego. We can be close-minded and display overt or subtle denial and disdain towards our own partners when we hear them express what creates pleasurable sexual experiences for them. According to Dr. Poulter, this can often be the result of deeply engrained shame-filled emotions and thoughts, many of which have been transferred to us first by family and friends throughout our childhood and during our maturation processes and later reinforced by music and other forms of media. The following 12 suggestions have been presented in this podcast to help open-minded guys increase sexual gratification with their partners: • Talk About Sex • Be Present • Set The Scene • Put Your Phones Down • Don’t Always Focus On The End-Zone • Take Your Time • Practice Whole Body Adoration • Talking During Sex Isn’t Bad/Be Expressive Before, During & After Sex • Use Your Hands...A LOT!!! • Practice “eye-gazing” If you find yourself struggling to accomplish any of these suggestions with your partner, you may want to check out what qualified, licensed professionals in the field of sex therapy have to say. Or, you may want to reach out to a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist(CSAT) in your area for a consultation. ======================================================================== Much of what Charles and Dr. Poulter discussed today is also discussed, in part, due to Dr. Poulter’s fabulous book, “The Shame Factor: Heal Your Deepest Fears and Set Yourself Free”. You may purchase at https://www.amazon.com/Shame-Factor-Deepest-Fears-Yourself/dp/1633885224 ======================================================================== Be sure to like and subscribe to our channel and share this video with your friends! You can also follow The Barbershop Group on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter for great posts and articles!
56:00
March 6, 2021
Radically Authentic Fatherhood
In this episode Charles delivers a list of things sons need to hear their fathers say or do. Some of these actions and words need to be executed in the context of an intimate relationship while others require sons see men beyond intimate partnerships. These tips will undoubtedly help boys boost their emotional intelligence, emotional regulation, and treatment of others.
27:43
August 25, 2020
Race, Mental Health & My Inner Self
Today cohost Jamiere Abney, Associate Dean of Admissions at Colgate University and Coordinator of Outreach for Opportunity & Inclusion speaks with Ben Schneider, University of Milwaukee grad, sales professional, and an avid follower of The Barbershop Group about his professional efforts to change how corporate America engages people of color and about his own desire to understand more about mental health and illness. Ben is a Diversity and Inclusion Facilitator for a company in Wisconsin. He and his team have been challenged to lead in efforts to retool D&I processes. It sounds like a mammoth task considering some of the obstacles and goals of the organization but he is definitely up for it. On one of his recent walks through his neighborhood saw a Take a Book /Leave a Book box. Knowing Elm Grove is a 90%+ white community, he wasn't surprised to see any books celebrating diversity or on the concepts of anti-racism. Ben wanted to make sure that changed, so he dropped off some books he felt almost every White man needs to read. Ben says White men like him need to feel uncomfortable.And he isn’t just speaking about random men. He has found himself at the forefront of discussions about race with many of his close family members, former schoolmates, and colleagues. Thoughts? Comments? Likes/Dislikes? Let us know! You can email us at: info@thebarbershopgroup.org. Also, if you or someone you know would like to be on the podcast, you can email us with the subject line: ’Co-host’ or ‘Guest’ Don’t forget to follow us on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram @TheBarberShopGrp. You can also follow Jamiere on Instagram @jamabney26.
36:28
August 18, 2020
Men's Bullsh!T Barriers To Therapy
In this podcast, Charles Catchings discusses 30 barriers that men often times say and do as an excuse to not focus on their mental health. From lack of time to financial burdens, Charles talks about the reasons why seeking therapy is better for your health than you may think. Resources discussed in the podcast: ⁃ Talk Space ⁃ 7 cups of tea ⁃ Better help ⁃ Woebot This episode is sponsored by: ⁃ Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app ⁃ Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/thebarbershopgroup/message ⁃ Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thebarbershopgroup/support Thoughts? Comments? Likes/Dislikes? Let us know! You can email us at: info@thebarbershopgroup.org. Also, If you or someone you know would like to be on the podcast, you can email us with the subject line: ’Co-host’ or ‘Guest’ Don’t forget to follow us on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram @TheBarberShopGrp and follow me @TheMindBarber
38:34
July 25, 2020
Making Room For Our Kids’ Stress
The world as kids know it has been thoroughly upended and they are justifiably anxious, whether they show it or not. It’s up to the adults in the room to get them to open up about those feelings so that they can be addressed. Doing so takes finesse, curiosity, and a very light touch.
12:46
June 30, 2020
What Does George Floyd’s Death Mean For Americans?
A few of The Barbershop Group board members take some time to reflect on the untimely homicide of George Floyd by former Minneapolis police officer Derek Chauvin, who pressed Floyd’s head into the pavement with his knee on his neck until he lost consciousness, dying moments later. Florida-based LMFT Genesis Games, Human Resource specialist Carl Chambers and Dr. Shakeer Abdullah, Vice President of Student Affairs at Clayton State University, weigh in on what this tragedy has meant for them and how they envision ways forward for diverse groups in America.
54:47
June 16, 2020
Nowhere To Go-Impacts of COVID19 on Latino-Americans
Today Charles from The Barbershop Group speaks with LMFT Yvette Nava of Burbank, CA about the impact of COVID19 on Latino-American families in the region. While some Americans have been enjoying time away from hectic schedules and implementing some much needed self-care, other segments of American society are caught between a rock and hard place as they're finding lockdown and stay-at-home orders in conflict with basic survival. Yvette takes a moment to share the concerns of both older and younger Latino-Americans, from heightened anxieties and worries about ICE to farm workers and role reversals in many traditional homes. You can also view this podcast on YouTube. Be sure to follow Yvette on Instagram and LinkedIn for more information about how she can help you address feelings of fear and anxiety in your life and help you experience a healthier relationship with yourself and others. And as always, you can follow The Barbershop Group on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook for a slew of articles on mental health and overall wellness. If you'd like to connect with Charles, you can contact him on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter. Don't forget to leave a review and share the podcast with a friend!
26:53
April 17, 2020
Prepare Your Family For Your Death
In this episode Charles breaks his silence on the passing of Kobe Bryant to send a hard, remindful message to all. We know the untimely death of Kobe, his daughter Gigi and their colleagues rocked much of the world and people are still very distraught over it. In fact, Charles also speaks about considering anti-depressants to help snap out of the fog and he knows many people who’ve had similar thoughts and feelings. Today Charles reminds us about what so many religious texts and spiritual paths know to be true: death is always near and that most of us aren’t prepared for it and while we can never truly prepare for it, we can use this tragedy and others like it, to make some changes for our loved ones. This is very raw and unfiltered but you’ll get the message.
38:54
February 15, 2020
Paola Rodriguez-Valentine's Day Resolutions
Today Charles speaks with a good colleague, Miami and Ft. Lauderdale-based couples and sex therapist Paola Rodriguez. Paola is the owner/operator of Life Discovery Psych services. Paola focuses on cognitive behavioral therapy, couples counseling, group therapy and handles countless requests for workshops focusing on sex, intimacy and reigniting passion in relationships battered by today's expectations.  A fan and avid Valentine's Day reveler, Paola believes many people and couples either become Valentine's Day scrooges due to stress, anxiety and the demands of life or have had negative experiences that create barriers to appreciating the special day of love. But that isn't her only focus. Though many people make New Year's resolutions (some good, some bad) we don't really consider making Valentine's Day resolutions for ourselves and our partners. Paola gives us a bit of insight into getting started.  If you've been in a longer-term relationship but never heard of "the secret garden" this is definitely a show you don't want to miss! You can follow Paola Rodriguez on Instagram and Facebook or visit her website.
34:28
February 15, 2020
Alia Salem- A Fight Against Religious Abuse
Today Charles talks with Sister Alia Salem, Founder and Executive Director of F.A.C.E (Facing Abuse in Community Environments) about the much needed work to highlight issues of abuse in religious environments and hold leaders accountable for immoral and predatory behaviors.  In many churches, mosques and synagogues around the country, faithful practitioners look to their trusted spiritual guides for spiritual, financial, professional and moral guidance among other things. But what happens when those looking for help fall prey to leaders bent on satisfying their own personal, wordly agendas? Who holds them accountable? Where can people turn for help? Why is the problem so widespread? Just who are these victims of religious abuse and what might it look like in your own religious community? Follow F.A.C.E on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter for more information. 
36:11
February 14, 2020
The Change Triangle for Guys: Normalizing Emotions for Men with Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Hilary Jacobs Hendel, LCSW, takes the complex world of emotions and makes them easy to understand and work with for greater peace, calm and confidence. She is the developer of the Change Triangle tool for emotional health. Hilary is also the author of the award-winning self-help book on emotions called, "It’s Not Always Depression: Working the Change Triangle to Listen to the Body, Discover Core Emotions, and Connect to Your Authentic Self" (Random House, 2018). She is a certified psychoanalyst and AEDP psychotherapist and supervisor. She has published articles in The New York Times, TIME, Oprah, Salon, and professional journals. Hilary also consulted on the psychological development of characters on AMC’s Mad Men. Hilary’s blog on emotions and how to use them for wellbeing is read worldwide. For more FREE resources on emotions and emotional health, visit: Hilaryjacobshendel.com Facebook: Facebook.com/AuthorHilaryJacobsHendel Twitter: @HilaryJHendel Instagram: Hilary Jacobs Hendel The Change Triangle on YouTube Order It’s Not Always Depression: Working the Change Triangle to Listen to the Body, Discover Core Emotions, and Connect to Your Authentic Self (Random House, 2018): 
46:05
January 17, 2020
Accepting My Chocolate Mess
This show is dedicated to Devon. (1/6/1995-11/28/2017) *Please support our shows by going to www.patreon.com/thebarbershopgroup* Today Charles talks with former Spokane NAACP vice-president and president Phillip Tyler about cultural competency at universities across America and in the field of criminal justice. Phil made the difficult decision to move on from his post in corrections at a time when Black America was reeling over the Trayvon Martin tragedy. He was compelled to get involved with the NAACP and other groups to highlight and address racial disparities and traumas. As the father of two sons, he was dedicated to preserving the lives of his progeny as well as other men of color in the area and around the country. He continues to do so today. Unfortunately, though Phil was pressed to protect his young sons from America's historic sin, he faced one of the biggest tests of his life in 2017.  You can follow Phillip Tyler on Instagram or Twitter. And be sure to check out Phil's vlog, COLORful Conversations with his wife Meg.
38:18
January 3, 2020
The Queer Guy Next Door
*Please support our media and advocacy outreach by making a donation on our Patreon page.* Today Charles sits down to speak with photographer, Dj, producer, mental health worker, and queer activist Jamon Kimbrough about subtle forms of racism directed at queer men of color (even how men of color perpetuate continued racism among themselves) in fashion, design and media fields. We first came across Jamon after receiving this article. Hailing from Minnesota, Jamon recently launched a website that solely features the stories of black gay men and other gay/queer people of color. The goal is to feature voices rarely heard with such openness and vulnerability. Jamon uses his platform to showcase photography, music, podcasts, fiction, and nonfiction stories as well as short films. The content is robust, uncensored, and unflinchingly tells hard truths about what it means to be black and gay, or trans, or nonbinary, or a straight man who loves trans women, which can be confusing for those who aren’t up on current gender norms. He says mainstream media is still wary of showcasing Gay Black men and men of color, arguing that there is a social chain of hierarchy even among gay men, with Black men sitting at the bottom.  Jamon also retells the story of coming out to his father and discusses the current state of his relationship with his dad. He is an avid and vocal supporter of queer people and works with disenfranchised young men in need of mental healthcare. He sets the record straight on the fears of straight guys and adds to our discussion of men and mental health as a queer person seeking out a therapist for himself. Let us know what you think. You can email us at info@thebarbershopgroup.org or DM us on Facebook, Twitter or Instagram.
35:10
December 20, 2019
Including Voices On Race & Masculinity-Mark Greene
*Please support our show by visiting our Patreon site and making a pledge!* The Barbershop Group founder Charles Catchings sits down to have an honest heart-to-heart with “The Little #MeToo Book For Men” author Mark Greene. Mark is also a contributor on Medium, The Good Men Project and works with corporations to develop competencies for diversity and inclusion in the workplace and beyond. You can also watch this interview on Youtube. Some key takeaways: Men who mistreat women and men are at war with men who want to change. Men have been in denial about the harm they've caused women and children. Men have expressed a great deal of ambivalence towards women in the wake of the #metoo movement. Though the discussion of masculinity is center-stage, it is primarily White men and women talking to White men and women about White men. Other ethnic groups and voices must be heard, invited and pondered in order to avoid another authoritarian definition of masculinity. Like the episode? Disliked it? Let us know your thoughts! You can email us at info@thebarbershopgroup.org. You can also follow us on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. And guys, the holidays are coming up quick and if you haven’t started on your holiday shopping, now’s the time. Don’t worry though, a last-minute gift doesn’t have to be meaningless or anything you find lying around. Instead, head to Cabela's for some amazing options. Cabela’s is more than the World’s Foremost Outfitter of outdoor gear, with an awesome reputation for offering a wide selection of high-quality outdoor apparel and supplies. They also have helpful buying guides, exceptional customer service, and collections that anyone would be excited to receive a gift from. Check it out…
38:35
December 14, 2019
Mindfulness For Men In Relationships
*Please help us reach more men and those who love them by making a financial contribution on our Patreon page.* Today Charles speaks with Ontario-based counselor Melanie Tsesler; a speaker, mindfulness meditation teacher, individual and couples counselor and the founder of Mindful Beginnings. Known for her down-to-earth, engaging and kind-hearted demeanor, Melanie specializes in relationships of all kinds.  What is mindfulness? We're hearing the word a lot these days. Through practicing mindfulness -- or being able to stay in the moment  without judgment -- the mind develops strength of attention and the power of focus. By loosening one's mental hold on a constructed ideal  and becoming curious rather than controlling, a person actually has the  chance to "wake up," or become enlightened. Simply put, mindfulness is to be aware. It's the reminder we need to come back into this present moment. Melanie says its "natural that our minds wander to either a moment that has already passed, or we focus on something yet to happen in the future. Mindfulness and relationships go hand in hand. Developing the awareness of where our relationships are, and where we would like them to be gives us the ability to move to the next step-and to heal. You can learn more about Melanie by visiting her website or by following her Instagram and Youtube channel. 
23:10
December 6, 2019
Addressing Facts & Myths of Male Sexual Abuse
Please support our programming on our Patreon site for exclusive content. You can also download our podcast on iTunes, Spotify, RadioPublic, and Castbox or any of your favorite podcast apps. ***This topic may elicit uncomfortable feelings*** Today Charles discusses some of his own professional and personal experiences with sexual abuse, other victims and offenders along with myths surrounding it and how assault of boys and men can be serious obstacles to understanding and healing. It's important to learn how wrong they are.  Here are several myths surrounding male sexual abuse that many of us, victims and non-victims, have absorbed in our thinking: Men and boys can’t be sexually used or abused, and if you have been, you're not or won't be a “real man.” If you experienced sexual arousal during abuse, you must have wanted and/or enjoyed it, and if you ever partly wanted the sexual experiences, then it was your fault. Sexual abuse is less harmful to boys and men than it is to girls and women. Most men who sexually abuse boys are gay. Boys and men who were abused by males must have attracted the abuse because they are gay or they become gay as a result. If a female used or abused a boy, he was “lucky,” and if he doesn’t feel that way there’s something wrong with him. The myth that boys who are sexually abused will go on to abuse others. For any man harmed by unwanted or abusive sexual experiences – and anyone who wants to support him – becoming free of these myths is necessary to overcoming the effects of the abuse, and to achieving the life he wants and deserves.  Researchers have found that at least 1 in 6 men have experienced sexual abuse or assault, whether in childhood or as adults. And this is probably a low estimate since it doesn’t include noncontact experiences, which can also have lasting negative effects. If you’ve had such an experience, or think you might have, you are not alone.
49:41
November 30, 2019
Mighty Mission with Nick Emeigh of NAMI Bucks County, PA
Outreach & Development Director for NAMI of Bucks County, PA speaks with Charles about their mission to normalize conversations about mental health among everyone in America! Nick also took a moment to talk about his own struggle living with a mental illness and how it threatened his life.  NAMI of Bucks County, PA has several initiatives addressing mental health. They even have 25 support groups for people in the area so there is always a seat for you. If you'd like to get involved with the great folks at NAMI in Bucks County, PA or if you'd like to get involved with NAMI in another region, just click the link: https://namibuckspa.org/get-involved/become-a-member-2/
23:41
November 22, 2019
Muslims Moving Mental Health Beyond Traditions
*Please support our podcast at www.patreon.com/thebarbershopgroup Today Charles gets to talk with Rabab Alma, MBA, MA, LMFT and Adjunct Professor at The Department of Education & Counseling at Villanova University about working to remove the stigma of cultural, social and religious stigmas from applied mental healthcare and wellness. Early on in Charles' advocacy work, he attempted to reach Muslims to foster discussions about issues of mental health, only to be ignored or dissuaded. That was almost two decades ago and things are starting to change for therapists like Rabab, but there is still work to be done.  Enjoy the podcast and share it with your friends and family.  https://www.facebook.com/RababAlmaTherapy/ https://www.instagram.com/rabulama_lmft/ Twitter RababTherapist YouTube Rabab Alma https://www.linkedin.com/in/rabab-alma-mba-ma-lmft-80353321/ https://www.onlinecounselling.com/online-counsellor/?pdb=336
38:57
November 22, 2019
FALL-ing Into Depression
*Be sure to sign up for all of our news and articles on Facebook and Twitter (If you only follow us on Instagram, you're missing out!) *You can support the podcast and male wellness initiatives by going to patreon.com/thebarbershopgroup *You can also download the audio podcast by visiting thebarbershopgroup.org/podcast Today Charles talks with North Carolina-based clinical psychologist Dr. Damon A. Silas about Seasonal Affective Disorder, how it impacts him and shares some of these difficulties with others with the hope that they will seek help for feelings of depression and lethargy. Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) is a type of depression that comes and goes with the seasons, typically starting in the late fall and early winter and going away during the spring and summer. Depressive episodes linked to the summer can occur, but are much less common than winter episodes of SAD. Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) is not considered as a separate disorder. It is a type of depression displaying a recurring seasonal pattern. To be diagnosed with SAD, people must meet full criteria for major depression coinciding with specific seasons (appearing in the winter or summer months) for at least 2 years. Seasonal depressions must be much more frequent than any non-seasonal depressions. Symptoms of the Winter Pattern of SAD include: Having low energy Hypersomnia Overeating Weight gain Craving for carbohydrates Social withdrawal (feel like “hibernating”)
37:05
November 15, 2019
America Is Stressed The F*CK OUT!
Support our show by clicking "Support The Podcast" in your app. You can also watch the show at https://www.patreon.com/thebarbershopgroup Whether you're in corporate America, an entrepreneur, a stay-at-home Dad (or Mom) or a student, you probably rarely recognize the extent of your own stress level. Though stress-levels and stressors have increased over the last two decades, most people have simply gone on with life. Society at large seems to have become desensitized to the pressures of life. But is this a good thing? Isn't it a part of American grit and her work ethic to acclimate ourselves to new and changing demands of life? Miami-based psychotherapist and lifestyle coach Melinda DeSeta, the owner of Insight Counseling Center says "No!"  Today we're talking workplace stress. Can it be defined? We hear a lot about stress, but what is it? As stated by the Canadian Mental Health Association: “Stress is a reaction to a situation – it isn't about the actual situation. We usually feel stressed when we think that the demands of the situation are greater than our resources to deal with that situation. For example, someone who feels comfortable speaking in public may not worry about giving a presentation, while someone who isn't confident in their skills may feel a lot of stress about an upcoming presentation. Common sources of stress may include major life events, like moving or changing jobs. Long-term worries, like a long-term illness or parenting, can also feel stressful. Even daily hassles like dealing with traffic can be a source of stress.” From: “Stress”, Canadian Mental Health Association, 2018 Numerous studies show that job stress is far and away the major source of stress for American adults and that it has escalated progressively over the past few decades.  Increased levels of job stress as assessed by the perception of having little control but lots of demands have been demonstrated to be associated with increased rates of heart attack, hypertension, and other disorders.  In New York, Los Angels and other municipalities, the relationship between job stress and heart attacks is so well acknowledged, that any police officer who suffers a coronary event on or off the job is assumed to have a work-related injury and is compensated accordingly (including heart attack sustained while fishing on vacation or gambling in Las Vegas). Check these stats out: 80% of workers feel stress on the job, nearly half say they need help in learning how to manage stress and 42% say their coworkers need such help 25% have felt like screaming or shouting because of job stress, 10% are concerned about an individual at work they fear could become violent 14% of respondents had felt like striking a coworker in the past year, but didn’t 9% are aware of an assault or violent act in their workplace and 18% had experienced some sort of threat or verbal intimidation in the past year
31:26
November 8, 2019
The Fragility of Straight Black Male Identity & Forgiveness
*Be sure to sign up for all of our news and articles on Facebook and Twitter (If you only follow us on Instagram, you're missing out!)  *You can support the podcast and male wellness initiatives by going to patreon.com/thebarbershopgroup  *You can also download the audio podcast by visiting thebarbershopgroup.org/podcast. And we know it's getting cold out there guys, so don't forget toShop the Cabela's Bargain Cave - Save up to 70%! Today I talk to board member and licensed psychotherapist Dr. Reginald Cunningham about R&B music crooner Tank's recent statement about a guy not being gay because he had oral sex "twice" with a man. Here are some points to mention:  Tank did not say he was speaking of himself though many people began to speculate. Tank was responding to a question the host asked wherein she tried to pigeonhole him by using an example of giving oral sex. Tank was asked how often a person could lie before being known as a liar. At that point, the host made an attempt to press Tank using the topic of male oral sex.   Unfortunately, very few people weighed in about the primary topic of dishonesty and chose instead to focus on Tank. This unleashed a barrage of anti-gay and accusatory comments by a host of Black men. Well, Dr. Cunningham and I are here to tell you guys to get over your fragile ego. If you're straight, cool. If you're gay, cool. If you don't want to label yourself, cool. We're here to challenge you all to learn to move beyond both "traditional" and non-traditional views that hinder healthy support of your fellow men.  We also touch on the Amber Guygar conviction and the backlash given to the Botham Jean family and the presiding judge. It seems we've got a lot to learn about individuality and forgiveness.
52:34
November 1, 2019
12 Common Arguments Couples Have
What kind of conflicts are married couples having? Researchers have found that fights come in all different sizes about everything from intimacy to commitment, and tend to fluctuate in size with time. Ever dare to keep track of your arguments? These topics are sure to have you shaking your head and side-eyeing. Be sure to check out The Gottman Institute, LMFT Kiaundra Jackson and Whitney Goodman to learn more about fighting fair and couples’ counseling.
48:44
October 19, 2019
Dr. Allison Mark Breaks Down What Makes Dads So Lonely
Please support our podcast today by visiting our Anchor page. In this follow-up episode to our “Loner Dad” show, Dr. Allison Mark joins Charles to dissect why so many fathers experience loneliness. While there have been many studies focusing on postpartum depression in new moms, and while for-profit, non-profit and state agencies worked to support mothers, a similar set of interests have been scarce for fathers. And it doesn’t help that a lot of us guys want to go it alone. Dr. Mark throws her hat into the ring today to help us reevaluate how we look at fatherhood, parenting, and friendship.
22:30
October 12, 2019
Real Relationship Don't Have Rules
Please support the show at Anchor. You can also watch the podcast video recording on our website. What are the rules for a happy relationship? There aren’t any, really. What works for you may not work for someone else. If you leave it up to Pinterest and Instagram, one of your Facebook groups or even your favorite religious text, relationships should be formulaic. Most of what we've learned about relationships include expectations; a bunch of shoulda's, coulda's and woulda's. Happy relationships aren't happy all the time. And there is an argument to be made elsewhere that maybe, happiness isn't really the goal of a satisfying relationship or life in general. They require fluidity, communication, evolution, curiosity, and an agreement from both partners to constantly do the work to help it adapt and flourish. In this episode, Charles gets real about relationships, admitting that the rules most of us try to adhere to don't end up working out as well as we'd hoped. Be ready to take some notes on this one! Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter!
46:23
October 4, 2019
Real Talk Therapy for Emerging Men-Veronica Clanton-Higgins
Please support our show by clicking the "Support This Podcast" button in your app or on our Anchor website. We typically talk about issues adult men face on our shows. Today our host spends some time with Veronica Clanton- Higgins, MSW,  to talk about her raising teen boys during what undoubtedly seems like tumultuous times for young men. Are parents really having conversations with their sons about intimate relationships or are we imposing rules and expectations that are based on our own childhood while ignoring our child's development? Are we feigning silence, treating sex as a taboo subject?  Most of us desire our children to have a religious or spiritual grounding, but are we listening to our children as they break away from being closely attached to us and our perspectives about a higher calling? How do we help them navigate through the exploration of the universe and their experiences? Lastly, Veronica and Charles discuss balancing their own parental expectations against the reality of their children's lives. It isn't easy to accept that children won't always live according to our parental precepts. But, if we think back on our own childhoods, we definitely diverged from the ideas of our families of origin at times too. Veronica shares how she deals with these real-life conundrums as a therapist, wife, and mother.  Veronica Clanton-Higgins, MSW, is an author, educator, transformative emotional healer, motivational speaker, and Founder of VCH Prosperity Consulting. A native of Compton, CA, Veronica is known for her support & emotional healing within her community. Her unique style of Life Coaching is a combination of empowerment, emotional transformation, manifesting intentions, and affirming self. She has made it her life’s purpose to improve the lives of others by helping them transform their hurt to healing through the use of mindfulness and self-affirming techniques. Veronica is also the primary licensee for TedXCompton events. You can connect to her by visiting her website, or by following her on Facebook and Instagram. If you are not in immediate danger, please refer to one of the suicide hotline numbers below. If you or someone you know is in immediate danger of hurting yourself or someone else, call 9-1-1 (or your local emergency number) immediately. Do not wait. 1-800-273-TALK (8255) To chat online with a national suicide hotline counselor, click here: https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/chat/ The veterans suicide hotline (Veterans Crisis Line): 1-800-273-8255, press 1 or text to 838255 (available 24 hours a day, seven days a week) Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender and Questioning (LGBTQ) Suicide Hotline (the Trevor Lifeline): 1-866-488-7386 (available 24 hours a day, seven days a week) TrevorChat online chat: https://www.thetrevorproject.org/get-help-now (Available 7 days a week (3:00 p.m. - 9:00 p.m. ET / 12:00 p.m. - 6:00 p.m. PT).) TrevorText text messaging: Text the word "Trevor" to 1-202-304-1200 (Available on Fridays (4:00 p.m. - 8:00 p.m. ET / 1:00 p.m. - 5:00 p.m. PT  
57:15
September 27, 2019
Want more sex? Stop F*cking In Your Bedroom
Most people want more sex. Well most guys do anyway. But most men don’t realize that we can’t keep relying on the old 1-2 punch we used as teens and younger adults to keep hitting home runs when it comes to sexual intimacy. Today Charles talks about some things you might be open to trying IF you want to get laid more. Consider these pointers something like cliff notes. Use what works, discard what doesn’t. But before you throw them all away, consider talking to your partner about what she desires and wants before you end up using a foo foo or a blow-up doll for the rest of your life.
26:10
September 26, 2019
How Sex Offenders Groom Kids And Their Parents
Please support the show at https://www.patreon.com/thebarbershopgroup Do you know the warning signs and red flags of sex abuse grooming? Grooming, a process in which an adult befriends a child to lower their defenses and eventually sexually abuse them, is unfortunately all too common. One of the most common ways that a child is sexually abused involves people the family already knows. Knowing the signs of sexual abuse and if someone around you might be an abuser is important so you don’t fall into paranoia or general distrust of adults.
42:13
September 13, 2019
Black Dads & Parental Stress-Jessica Reed LPC-MHSP, NCC
Please support the show at https://www.patreon.com/thebarbershopgroup Today Charles talks with Clinical Psychotherapist Jessica Reed about the impact of racism and stress on father-child relationships. While fathers are under new scrutiny as a result of changing gender norms, political ideologies, religious interpretations, and family dynamics, arguably no men are feeling the pinch and stress more than Black fathers who are often caught between the expectations of the dominant group and the mothers of their children. If talking about mental health is difficult, as an extension, discussing parental stress and racism presents dilemmas few people are prepared to address. Join Jessica and Charles as they discuss some of the difficulties Black fathers encounter. Be sure to follow Jessica on Instagram(_readbyreed) and Reed Counseling & Consulting on Facebook and visit her website at https://reedcounseling.com/. You can also contact her if you're in Tennessee or Mississippi at (901.610.1720) or visit her office at 190 W. South Street, Hernando, MS 38632. Please visit her new location at 1045 Church Rd. East Ste. 2, Southaven, MS 38671 in October.
23:38
September 6, 2019
Tired Of Trying To Be Black
Please support the show at https://www.patreon.com/thebarbershopgroup In this episode, Charles opens up about a recent conversation with his scouting and piloting son about being tired of America’s traditional race problem and the old and young people who won’t dare let him forge his own identity. This is a dilemma many young men of color face and it’s an issue many older men and women are reinforcing despite varied thoughts and feelings of the young. Could we be killing the spirits of our children while trying to highlight and combat issues of racism? Many older people have tried to find answers. Will we let young people try as well?
29:17
August 31, 2019
What Are Your Bumper Stickers?
Please support the show at https://www.patreon.com/thebarbershopgroup Charles shares his personal perspective about bumper stickers and how they become embarrassing and debilitating.
20:45
August 17, 2019
Loner Dad Syndrome: Part 1
Please support the show at https://www.patreon.com/thebarbershopgroup A growing number of men are losing close friends within the first year of having a child, according to a new survey. Becoming a father is considered by many as one of life’s most rewarding experiences but the transition into parenthood can also be challenging and a time when support from colleagues, family and friends is crucial. Becoming a father can be one of life's most rewarding experiences, but until recently it hasn't been acknowledged how challenging that transition can be for new dads, especially with regard to mental health.
44:44
August 10, 2019
Don't Take Bullshit Home: How to focus on your loved one
Please support the show at https://www.patreon.com/thebarbershopgroup A lot of guys aren't getting relationship advice from guys. They're getting it from women. And while that isn't a bad thing, it's equally important for guys to hear other guys talk about what has worked and about what doesn't. As it turns out, there are a lot of people who desire their own version of a relationship without the input or considerations of the person they're involved with. That presents a myriad of problems. Past social standards led some men to believe that muscles and money were the common core principles for a happy, healthy relationship; one in which both he and his woman gushed over each other. Though some existed this way, troubled bubbled beneath the surface and it's evident by conversations taking place today.  Charles some personal accounts and some resources for rethinking what we all thought would make men better husbands and boyfriends.  When you walk in the door at night, take a moment to remind yourself that you are not at work anymore. Let go of the day’s distractions, or at the very least, make a conscious decision to put them off until later. A new study published in the Journal of Applied Social Psychology has found that phone snubbing, or phubbing, actually facilitates relationship dissatisfaction on an almost-subconscious level by creating emotional distance between romantic partners. Emotional Labor: Constant management of their entire families’ needs takes a toll on women and especially wives and mothers, who often grow exhausted and resentful if their partners ignore the invisible burden. If a husband finds himself asking his beleaguered wife “what can I do to help?” chances are the question came too late. Go to your local library or bookstore and pick up "More Love Less Conflict: A Communication Playbook for Couples" by Jonathan Robinson Research shows that the happiest couples with the most sustainable marriages are the ones who actively cultivate them all the time and prioritize them as opposed to waiting around for them to happen. Check out "The Flirting Bible" to learn new ways to connect to your partner.
38:02
August 2, 2019
Dad-Shaming: Is It Real? Just how bad can it be?
Please support the show by clicking the "Support This Podcast" button. The C.S. Mott Children’s Hospital helps uncover just how bad dad-shaming is for guys’ parenting styles and mental and emotional health. Mom-shaming has been well documented. From the moms who are ridiculed for feeding their babies formula instead of breast milk to the ones who are reprimanded by total strangers for their child’s behavior in public, shaming is a harsh reality that seems to happen far too often. But a new poll finds moms aren’t the only ones dealing with shaming when it comes to their parenting.  As Father’s Day creeps up, the C.S. Mott Children’s Hospital National Poll on Children’s Health asked dads across the country with kids up to 13 years old “about their perceptions of being criticized about their parenting style.” Turns out, 52 percent of dads said they’ve been criticized for the way they parent. Whoa! And the majority of criticism isn’t only coming from outside sources: 44 percent is from their child’s other parent. It makes sense, says study author Sarah Clark, because the opportunity for criticism rises when you’re around someone on a regular basis. But it can affect dads on a greater level because “it undercuts the concept of the parents as a team that is working together,” Clark tells Parents.com. The data backs it up: over a quarter of dads in the poll said the “criticism made them feel less confident” while 1 in 5 said it made them want to be “less involved as a parent.”
19:52
July 27, 2019
Setbacks Make Boys Men
Please support the show at https://www.patreon.com/thebarbershopgroup We all know hard-charging young men that have their foot planted firmly on the accelerator. They claim that easing off would damage their career and be an admission of failure. They are wrong. Those enjoying early successes can grow up overstressed by trying to stay on the fast track at any cost. These alpha boys are doing what they think others want them to do. In many cases, they are influenced by subtle and overt pressures from parents, peers and celebrity lifestyles, as well as advertising and video games. Charles shares some of his own personal and professional insight about alpha male behavior, being a hard-charger and adjusting to diminishment and setbacks. We can't have it all, be everything or do it all, but when we are open to three-dimensional living and spiritual growth, we'll find that we have enough and that we are enough.
30:54
July 19, 2019
Two Guys And A Girl: A Tale of Male Bonding Part 2
Please support the show at https://www.patreon.com/thebarbershopgroup Today Charles speaks with good friend, author, spoken-word artist and activist Waheed Abdul Muhaimin about male bonding and moving through the continuum of life. Loyalty and friendship don’t always happen the way we think. Listen in to learn how this “hard-headed” snake-charmer and our host developed a life-long bond despite being pitted as enemies. And if you haven’t heard Waheed talk about the impact of losing his brother Juan to suicide, you’ll definitely want to check out our previously released episode “Violence, Suicide & Grief: Numbing The Pain.”
46:07
July 12, 2019
Two Guys and A Girl
Please support the show at https://www.patreon.com/thebarbershopgroup The Barbershop Group founder Charles Catchings was ecstatic to bring long-time friend, confidant and supporter Zach Haupt on the show to reminisce about the beginning of their friendship along with male bonding and loyalty. Some of the things we now consider uncouth and suspect about how men bond may still produce long-lasting, intimate and viable friendships.  We often say a man is the reflection of his five closest friends. Ponder over this. Is it true? Who are your friends and how do they impact your life?  We'd love to hear from you. You can email us at info@thebarbershopgroup.org. You can also follow us on Instagram, Twitter, Facebook and be sure to sign up for our daily news briefs by clicking this link.
33:59
July 5, 2019
The Science Of Complaining
Please support the show at https://www.patreon.com/thebarbershopgroup Steeping yourself in negativity has seriously terrible consequences for your mental and physical health. Charles provides an abbreviated look at how complaining becomes addictive and infectious.
21:39
June 30, 2019
Therapy Is For Everyone -Saadia Z. Yunus LMFT
Join New York-based Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist Saadia Z. Yunus as she encourages self-improvement and living happier, healthier lives. Saadia is an advocate of finding meaning in not just what we do, but who we are. To learn more about Saadia and her unique therapeutic practice, you can visit her website at www.saadiazyunus.com, or follow her Instagram, Facebook, Twitter and YouTube.
04:02
June 29, 2019
Treading Water For Better Health
Please support the show at https://www.patreon.com/thebarbershopgroup When it comes to chiseling muscles, recovering from injury or reducing stress, men are finding that hitting the pool might even surpass hitting the gym. Charles passes along some information about water aerobics based on his own experimentation.
12:58
June 29, 2019
Fatherhood: This Is Us
Please support the show at https://www.patreon.com/thebarbershopgroup With Father's Day behind us, Charles takes a minute to discuss a bit of controversy in some circles regarding the reverence or lack of reverence for the holiday and who the holiday is intended to celebrate. Though it started off as an innocent celebration most Americans appreciated and respected, even with a bit of humor, it has lent itself to social commentaries that appear to be enlightening and righteous, but are hiding both aggression and malfeasance by people in society. How did we get here? What is it doing to fathers? Why has an attempt to pay homage to fathers been met with a type energy lacking from Mother's Day?  Charles talks a bit about his own experience and others and how perception and mental models haven't helped fathers. He also encourages men to get beyond needing validation from people outside themselves. Fatherhood is about relationships between fathers and children, not others.  We hope this will provide a pause and an opportunity to revisit how we treat a holiday or two(including Mother's Day), getting beyond gender politics and blame. We are all responsible for Father's Day is and for what it may become. Be sure to hit the “support this podcast” button to contribute. For as little as $5 a month, you can help us create more content, attract more guests and reach more diverse men with messages of mental health and overall wellness. We appreciate your support!
27:16
June 21, 2019
Practicing Authentic Fatherhood
There are many fathers who want to give their children the world. And there is nothing wrong with that from a loving perspective. One thing to remember however, is that this endeavor, in order to be fully realized, must include a father giving his whole and authentic self to his child.
10:04
June 15, 2019
Supporting Dad's Mental Health
Please support the show at https://www.patreon.com/thebarbershopgroup Unfortunately, men aren’t great about getting help for their mental health problems. Men in our culture aren’t often encouraged to talk about ­— or even identify — their emotions. There’s a lot of stigma around mental health problems, and men often see them as a sign of weakness. This can be especially true among men of earlier generations. That doesn’t mean they have to suffer in silence. If you’re concerned about your dad’s mental health, these strategies can help.  Did you know that you can donate to The Barbershop Group to help continue our advocacy work along with our network content?
13:54
June 13, 2019
10 Common Men's Health Issues
Please support the show at https://www.patreon.com/thebarbershopgroup It's June, men's health month and we're focusing in on several health issues impacting men around the country. Most guys aren't great at acknowledging mental health issues but we also avoid addressing physical health concerns to the detriment of ourselves and our loved ones.  Men are often at risk for a variety of different illnesses and health problems throughout our lives, depending on family history and lifestyle. But regular wellness exams with a doctor can help prevent and manage common men's health issues. Maintaining a healthy lifestyle early on can help prevent conditions like diabetes, for example, while getting early cholesterol screenings can help lower your risk of heart disease — the leading cause of death for men. Make a list of your health questions and make a commitment to see your healthcare provider in the near future. Be sure to sign up for our alerts and our newsletter https://paper.li/e-1559836737#/.  Like our content? You can also donate to The Barbershop Group right in the app!
32:16
June 6, 2019
Taking On The Ego Part 4- “I Am Not Separate From Everyone Else”
Please support the show at https://www.patreon.com/thebarbershopgroup Taking On The Ego Part 4- “I Am Not Separate From Everyone Else” In this continued solocast on the ego, Charles discusses Thomas Merton’s statement, “We are already one. But we imagine that we are not. And what we have to recover is our original unity.” He offers an approach to life suggesting that we continuously try to differentiate ourselves from others through labels, judgments, categorizations and alliances based on historical, social ego-ladened identity politics. If you believe you have an enemy, you may find his thoughts provoking. Enjoy! Have comments or questions? You can email him at charles.catchings@thebarbershopgroup.org or DM us on Facebook, Twitter or Instagram.
24:35
May 27, 2019
Taking On The Ego Part 3-We Are Not What Others Think Of Us
Please support the show at https://www.patreon.com/thebarbershopgroup Throughout our lives we’re bombarded by ego messages attempting to convince us that our worth comes from the observations and opinions of others. Charles continues discussing the reduction of ego and our need for external validation and acceptance. He challenges us to rethink how we interact with the many authority figures in our lives based on superficial ranking systems in society. Take a listen. And don’t forget to leave a review, question, or a comment.
20:45
May 16, 2019
Taking On The Ego-Part 2
Please support the show at https://www.patreon.com/thebarbershopgroup Today Charles delves into the ego’s tendency to attach identity to what we do, to our occupations and accomplishments. All too often when we do well or better than those we judge as our counterparts, we erroneously ascribe value to ourselves. Charles begins to set forth the notion that we did not arrive on Earth to do, or to compete with anyone else, but to be.
28:60
April 25, 2019
Taking On The Ego-Part 1
Please support the show at https://www.patreon.com/thebarbershopgroup Today Charles takes a moment to begin answering a question about how he learned to let go of the ego. It is a process with no end in sight. He isn’t a guru or master of his own ego but is often asked to try to explain aspects of the ego and letting go. So join him on Earth Day to listen to the first part of discovering how ego evolves for many of us.
24:45
April 22, 2019
Michelle Steeg - Accepting The Whole Man
Please support the show at https://www.patreon.com/thebarbershopgroup Join The Barbershop Group Founder Charles Catchings as he sits down with fellow St. Louis, MO native Michelle Steeg, a licensed professional counselor working with young men and women to chat about manhood, shame, anger, fear and so much more! Are men and women perpetually angry with each other? Do women care how men feel? Are men listening to women at all? Do men and women really want the same things? You'll get to hear her take! Michelle's journey started with echoing the same sentiments she heard her clients expressing. "What is this aching desire for more I can’t shake? Is this it? This can’t be it … I want more!” These questions and feelings haunted her in her early 20s as she sought to understand her own deep yearning for something bigger—something she couldn’t define. For her, the answer came when she began working as a therapist. Michelle feels becoming a therapist was her calling. It’s what she is on this earth to do. For years she observed a disconnect and a void between what people were seeking and the therapeutic options available to them. She even felt a disconnect between what she was taught to do in school and what her instincts were telling her to do as she worked with clients. To learn more about Michelle and her practice, you can follow her on Instagram, LinkedIn, visit her website or if you're in the St. Louis, MO area, you can call 314.309.2499 or email michellesteeg@gmail.com with questions.
25:15
March 22, 2019
Portraits Of Men: Dr. Reginald Cunningham on Leaving Neverland
Please support the show at https://www.patreon.com/thebarbershopgroup Join Dr. Reginald Cunningham and Charles on The Barbershop Group episode of "Portraits Of Men" as they discuss some of the new information about Michael Jackson which was revealed on the HBO documentary "Leaving Neverland". Did we give the star singer a pass on behavior? Were we blind? Was this another attempt to ruin the legacy of an African-American icon? Are Black men in America outspoken enough about sexual boundaries and sexual misconduct? Give us your feedback! For more info or to contact Dr. Reginald Cunningham, visit Counseling Solutions, LLC or email him at reginald@thebarbershopgroup.org. Subscribe and Donate today!  
52:25
March 7, 2019
Uphold 31:8 - The Backwoodz Social Worker
Please support the show at https://www.patreon.com/thebarbershopgroup Gary "Trey" Taylor received a Bachelor’s Degree in Psychology from Virginia Commonwealth University. He then received his Master’s Degree from George Mason University in Social Work with a concentration in Policy and Advocacy in 2015.  Trey is the owner of Uphold 31:8, a consulting business dedicated towards providing education, awareness, and resources to the world about Mental Health, with a specialty in the African-American community. Through his business, he is also passionate about community initiatives and created an event called Stop The Violence Movement now named U.I.E. (Unify, Illuminate, Empower), aimed at unifying the community via the school system, community leaders and elected officials through dialogue, workshops and solution focused goals to ensure a safer community. He is also the author of “You Good Fam? An Analysis of Mental Health in the Black Community” and “Mental Health Keys”, a manual for managing your Mental Health. You can also purchase his book here. In his spare time, he enjoys collecting sneakers, customizing his car, writing and playing/watching/coaching basketball. He is also the creator of The Backwoodz Podcast, in which he, his wife and two family members speak about black millennial content, social issues and sports. Follow Trey on Instagram, Facebook and Twitter. Want to help us reach more men? Donate today!
26:52
February 23, 2019
Moving Past Sexual Trauma- Eliza Boquin, LMFT
Please support the show at https://www.patreon.com/thebarbershopgroup As a Licensed Psychotherapist, Relationship & Sexuality Expert, Owner & Founder of The Relationship & Sexual Wellness Center, the Flow & Ease Healing Center and Co-Founder of Melanin & Mental Health, LLC Eliza Boquin works with couples and individuals to overcome any traumas, pain, or destructive patterns that keep them from enjoying healthy, satisfying, and pleasure-filled lives.  By working with clients in her office, online, and in workshops Eliza helps people gain the skills necessary to get closer to their life and relationship goals. She believes that pleasure is our birthright and shame is the greatest blocks to enjoying healthy, balanced lives. Eliza's journey of overcoming the messages of shame that were passed onto her and finding self-compassion along the way drives her mission to help others free themselves from shame and a embrace a more holistic mind, body, and spirit balance.  Topics of discussion she frequently comments on include: Unapologetic Self-Care, Healthy Sexuality, Pleasure-Focused Sexual Experiences, and Mutually Satisfying Healthy Relationships.  Her advice has also appeared in Bustle, ThriveWorks, Good Therapy, Stylecaster, and Business Insider, and various local radio stations in Houston, TX including Amazing 102.5. You can follow Eliza on Twitter, Instagram and on Facebook. You can help us reach more men with a donation today!
34:16
February 22, 2019
Cultural Diversity and Toxic Masculinity
Please support the show at https://www.patreon.com/thebarbershopgroup Join Dr. Reginald Cunningham and Charles on The Barbershop Group episode of "Portraits Of Men" as they discuss some cultural differences regarding toxic masculinity and patriarchy without and within the Black community. While the words "toxic masculinity" have become popular, the idea has often been misunderstood by men and women. Though years of study in colleges and universities preceded general public awareness, toxic masculinity has been reduced to emotionally-charged shorthand. Charles asks Dr. Cunningham if there are any positive traits of traditional masculinity and if Black men might be fighting someone else's battle. For more info or to contact Dr. Reginald Cunningham, visit Counseling Solutions, LLC or email him at reginald@thebarbershopgroup.org. Subscribe and Donate today! 
53:49
February 19, 2019
Be Unshakable: Getting to the heart of men
Please support the show at https://www.patreon.com/thebarbershopgroup Today I get to ask our guest just what seems to be going on with men. And he has a lot to say! Mike Sagun is the founder of The Authentic Man, an organization focused on men’s total health & wellness, success, purpose, and fulfillment. And he is the creator of The Unshakable Program, an 8-week program to help men reboot and rebuild their lives. Mike is a Certified Professional Co-Active Coach (CPCC), facilitator, and speaker. He works with companies like Dropbox, Google, LinkedIn, Kaiser Permanente, and Saje Wellness. Before founding The Authentic Man, Mike spent 10 years as a teaching artist, educating and coaching young people to make healthier choices for their lives. He’s spoken in front of thousands of people on stage with TEDx and TFCU. When he’s not coaching, facilitating, or speaking, you can find him leading men at The Authentic Man retreat and EVRYMAN men’s group. You can follow Mike on Instagram, Facebook or visit his website for more information. Want to help us reach more men? Click this link to donate today!
29:55
February 15, 2019
The "Secret" to Success - Riley & Charles
Please support the show at https://www.patreon.com/thebarbershopgroup In this episode, Riley and Charles kick back for some Superbowl banter and a deep discussion about the success of Tom Brady, P.K Subban, the Manning brothers and just what it takes to replicate this in our own lives. Is there a formula? There just has to be one. Is it the money? If so, like us, you're probably doomed! Or could it be something much simpler yet hard to do? Find out! And while you're listening, head over to our page to donate to The Barbershop Group today!
25:42
February 1, 2019
When Faith and Experience Collide
Please support the show at https://www.patreon.com/thebarbershopgroup Thomas Garvin is a Registered Nurse based in Charlotte, NC. He currently works in Critical Care at a major Research and Trauma Center and is the owner and founder of Tommy Allgood Coaching and Consulting. He has a passion for helping individuals to develop a practice of zooming in and out of their roadblocks to figure out the best way to develop resilience in the face of adversity and resistance. He also works with organizations to create cultures that are people-centered and compassion oriented, breaking down what it means to be in authentic service to communities. He is a member of the Critical Care Nurses Association and the Holistic Nurses Association. His current work includes advancing holistic medicine in hospital settings with an emphasis on the mind, body, spirit connection and sharing his knowledge with organizations so that they foster healthy people and healthy environments. He also has a passion for spiritual connection, growth, and emotional vulnerability (especially with men). He speaks and writes frequently on topics like oneness, connection, ego, and community. You can follow Tommy on Facebook, LinkedIn, Twitter, Instagram or visit his website. Love our content and want to help us reach more listeners? Donate today!
31:03
February 1, 2019
Charles Unchained(NSFW) or kids
In this episode Charles delivers a personal monologue. He is tired. Tired of the texts, emails and phone calls reporting the negative actions of men in relationships and beyond. He is tired of watching men ignore the men in their lives who care. He is tired of male avoidance and dishonesty. He is tired of the tactics and barriers men use to justify themselves. He is tired of the women who are hijacking the #metoo movement and tired of gender-war identity politics. Listen if you can. Feel him if you can. If not, thoughts are things and things change.
21:55
January 19, 2019
Living Past Sexual Assault with Marcel Anderson
Please support the show at https://www.patreon.com/thebarbershopgroup Through a real-life home invasion incidence, Marcel Anderson brings more than just writing experience about being a victim and a survivor of sexual assault. Designed to help men and women who have gone through something similar, his book shows how you can still move in your purpose in spite of your situation. Still Living: A Victimized Man’s Journey was listed #2 on Amazon Kindle download top 100 best sellers list under Men’s Developmental Growth and was also listed #95 on the Amazon top 100 under Counseling Recovery. Marcel Anderson also released his debut album called Still Living in 2014. Still Living is designed to inspire and motivate every listener to giver moving forward in God. He has been featured on several talk shows and news outlets.
29:00
January 12, 2019
Relearning Fatherhood with Dion Chavis
Please support the show at https://www.patreon.com/thebarbershopgroup The Triangle knows him as the night jock for K-97.5/WQOK where he plays hip-hop and R&B. Dion "Showtime" Chavis joins host Charles to share the perils and positive lessons he has learned as a non-traditional father. Chavis was raised by a single mom who worked three jobs to afford their middle-class lifestyle. He was a latchkey kid who came home to Nintendo and the radio and often spent afternoons taping over his mother’s gospel cassettes to record his favorite songs. Now a father of two, Chavis shares his reflections on fatherhood and journey to becoming a radio personality. He also sheds light on hip-hop culture and its influence on the masses.
34:00
January 11, 2019
Living Life Sober: Drugs & Process Addictions
Please support the show at https://www.patreon.com/thebarbershopgroup Genesis is a bilingual Licensed Mental Health Counselor in the state of Florida. She earned her Bachelor’s in Psychology from Florida International University and continued to earn her Master’s in Mental Health Counseling with a certificate in Marriage, Couples, and Family Therapy from the University of Central Florida. Genesis has worked in outpatient and residential treatment centers for co-occurring disorders providing her with ample experience working with individuals presenting with an array of mental health issues and substance use. She provided relationship education to couples and individuals at the Marriage and Family Research Institute at the University of Central Florida. Most recently, Genesis administered trauma-informed therapy to unaccompanied minors under the Office of Refugee Resettlement. Genesis uses evidenced-based approaches including Rational Emotional Behavioral Therapy, The Gottman Method,  Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, and Solution-Focused Techniques to help clients make meaningful and long-lasting changes. She meets each client where they are on their journey and tailors her approach to each client’s unique needs. Genesis works with individuals, couples, families, and conducts group sessions. She is passionate about working with individuals in early recovery, the loved ones of individuals impacted by addiction, and immigrants struggling to adjust to a new life away from home. She also conducts psychological evaluations for immigration cases with the goal of keeping families together. Follow Genesis on Instagram, LinkedIn, or visit her website for more info.
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December 28, 2018
What is the 411 on anxiety?
Please support the show at https://www.patreon.com/thebarbershopgroup Join us for Anxiety 411 with Mishka Kimball. Just what is anxiety? How does it impact our society? What are some of the symptoms? How pervasive is it?  Find out today! Mishka Clavijo Kimball, MS, AMFT, CAMC is a bilingual, Associate Marriage and Family Therapist working in private practice under the supervision of Anita Avedian, LMFT. Mishka earned her Master of Science in Counseling Psychology, with a specialization in Marriage and Family Therapy from Mount Saint Mary’s University, Los Angeles in 2015. Mishka is also a Certified Anger Management Counselor and provides anger management groups and one on one sessions for both volunteer and court-mandated clients. She is fluent in Spanish and loves to work with the Latinx population, young adults and families. She also loves speaking at events, teaching, and connecting with the community! Fun fact: She has a Russian name, but is 100% Latina! You can connect with Mishka on Instagram and Facebook with the name Kimball Therapy, you can also find her on Psychology Today, and her website: www.kimballtherapy.com. Mishka is currently practicing in Sherman Oaks and Woodland Hills. You can reach her at 818-253-9404 to schedule a free phone consultation.
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December 14, 2018
Self-love & Self Compassion with LMFT Saadia Z. Yunus
Saadia Z. Yunus, MA, LMFT is a licensed marriage and family therapist, motivational speaker, and community leader. She has extensive experience working with individuals, couples, families, and groups. She is a graduate of the Institute of Islamic Sciences, a mental health columnist, and the cofounder of Muslimahs of Long lsland. She serves on the advisory board of Dolan Family Health Center in Huntington, NY. Born and raised in Florida, she now resides on Long lsland, NY with her husband and four children. She has an active social media presence on Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, and Twitter, and can be contacted via her website: www.saadiazyunus.com.
35:00
December 10, 2018
Dominique Battle on Transitions & Co-parenting
Please support the show at https://www.patreon.com/thebarbershopgroup Dominique Battle is a therapist specializing in individual, couples and family therapy and a life coach. She maintains a private practice in Winter Park, Florida. She has over 8 years of education, training, and experience in the mental health field. She holds a Bachelor of Science degree in Public Service/Human Services, a Master of Science Degree in Rehabilitation Counseling and Case Management, and a Master of Science Degree in Marriage, Couple and Family Counseling. She specializes in Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy, Emotionally-Focused Therapy, and Systems Theory.  Dominique has presented at counseling conferences on the state, national, and international level on topics related to women, couples, and military families and is currently preparing presentations for the Florida Counseling Association Conference in October. She has a passion for individuals and women-in-transition and helping them navigate successfully from one phase of their lives to another. Whether that be women/individuals recently divorced or recently married, individuals dealing with a break-up, newly single women/men and women/men changing careers, she finds that she deeply resonates with people who are on this path and looking to come out happier and healthier on the other side. She also enjoys working with dual-career couples attempting to find balance in their overall lives together and couples attempting to find reconciliation after infidelity. Dominique is the Founder/CEO of CreativeCounseling Living & Wellness, offering counseling and coaching services in-person at her office in Winter Park, Florida and online via video. Follow Dominique on Instagram and Facebook.
33:00
December 7, 2018
Former NBA star Dontell Jefferson talks NBA life, goals and forgiveness
Please support the show at https://www.patreon.com/thebarbershopgroup Dontell Jefferson is a Former NBA player, Youth Speaker and Bestselling author who wants the youth to understand that “Circumstances don’t determine your future… YOU do.” With only one Division 1 scholarship offer out of high school, he chose to attend a junior college with dreams of playing basketball at a major university.  He then accepted a full scholarship to Atlanta Metropolitan College and graduated two years later with an associate degree in Recreational Leadership.  Living by his motto “Believe in Yourself” he would later attend and graduate from the University of Arkansas and eventually sign with the Charlotte Bobcats. Over his 12 year playing career, Dontell has played in 8 different countries and has gained a wealth of knowledge and experience about life situations. Visit his website at www.dontelljefferson.com or follow him on Instagram.
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November 30, 2018
Paola Rodriguez on Sex Problems: Who is responsible?
Please support the show at https://www.patreon.com/thebarbershopgroup Sexual Desire and desire problems are best understood as a couples issue. It is important to remember that sexuality is complex, starting with each individual’s cultural differences, sexual attitudes, experiences, and values. We all learn about sexuality differently, whether we are told, educated or left to our own devices, it takes two to have sex.  Join us live Friday, November 23rd, 2018 at 1:30pm as we speak with Gottman-trained Couples and certified sex therapist Paola Rodriguez of Life Discovery Psychotherapy in Ft. Lauderdale and Miami, Florida. We'll be taking your calls and Facebook comments live! Dial (929) 477-1283.  We'll discuss how attitudes, experiences, values, and even cultural differences impact our sex lives and how this creates sexual problems in relationships. Ever felt like you weren't getting enough sex? Do you feel like your partner doesn't desire you or initiate the way you'd like? Does your partner want sex too much or too little? Is your sex life taking a back seat to work, bills, kids, religious ideas or other things like running a business? Have current talks about gender and consent caused your libido to drop? You'll be able to give Paola a call live at (929) 477-1283 to have your question answered! You can also join us live by following our Facebook page @TheBarbershopGrp. You can follow Paola on Instagram @lifediscoverypsych, visit her website at www.lifediscoverypsych.com or call (786) 719-4721.
55:00
November 23, 2018
A Man's Mind and Money in Relationships with Dr. Cozette White
Please support the show at https://www.patreon.com/thebarbershopgroup Dr. Cozette M. White is an acclaimed bestselling author, nationally recognized finance and tax strategist, international speaker and philanthropist. Through resilience, White transitioned from Welfare to Warrior and now she’s Winning!  She inspires individuals to live in purpose, embrace passion, and achieve personal greatness through a balance in work and life. Dr. White is the Founder and CEO of My Financial Home Enterprises a global financial consulting firm providing comprehensive accounting, tax and financial management services for businesses and individuals.  White received her Master of Business Administration degree from the University of La Verne and her Bachelor of Science degree in Accounting from California State University, Dominguez Hills.  Later Dr. White was awarded an Honorary Doctorate Degree of Philosophy Letters.   She is involved in her community and is a member of Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Inc., and she is a member of the National Association of Black Accountants.  Additionally Dr. White is the Founder and Executive Director of Achieving My Dreams Foundation, Inc., a non-profit organization that provides scholarships to graduating high school seniors. In 2017, Dr. White was awarded the President’s Lifetime Achievement Award by President Barack Obama and Huff Post named her “Top Expert to watch in 2018.” Follow her on Facebook, visit her website at www.myfinancialhome.com or call 805-983-1151.
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November 16, 2018
Black Men Are Sick & Tired of Being Sick & Tired with Patrice Douglas
Please support the show at https://www.patreon.com/thebarbershopgroup Will celebrities change how Black men view therapy? Might women influence them to get better today or will it discourage them? What are some of the differences therapists need to consider in offering therapeutic modalities to Black men? How might the Black conservative religious establishment and it's history be reconciled with therapy which tends to be liberal-leaning in many applications?  Patrice Douglas has always had a deep sense of compassion for helping others. Over the course of some years, Patrice has gained extensive experience dealing with a wide range of medical conditions including substance abuse, depression, anxiety, Bipolar, addictive behaviors, relationship issues, women/men’s issues, and multicultural issues. Patrice is extremely dedicated to ending stigmas in minority communities such as the Black and Native American communities by educating the importance of mental health. Her personal, hands-on approach, has enabled her to achieve major breakthroughs with each client. Each session is designed to help the client feel knowledgeable about how to adapt their session into navigating in real-world settings. She wants her clients to feel encouraged, empowered and ready to conquer any challenge going forward. You can visit www.patricedouglas.com or follow her on Instagram at The Patrice Nicole and Facebook.
40:00
November 9, 2018
The New Man with Joshua Ireland
Please support the show at https://www.patreon.com/thebarbershopgroup Today we'll speak with Joshua Ireland about the politicization of toxic masculinity and he'll uncover academic research by men for men that we often hear so little about. Joshua is a husband and father of two. Joshua had a unique childhood that led him to ask the question “what does it mean to be a good man?” at an early age. Seeking the answer to this question led him to study philosophy and history in undergraduate work. Now pursuing his PhD in Clinical Psychology, Joshua has discovered that there are decades of research on men and masculinity. Using his background in history, philosophy, and psychology as a foundation, Joshua is writing articles designed to speak to the average man. Articles that explore the challenges faced by men today, the problems with toxic masculinity, and exploring the path toward healthy masculinity. You can follow Joshua on Facebook, on Instagram @joshua_ireland, on Twitter @joshuaireland13 or on LinkedIn. You can read Joshua's article "The New Man" for more insights.
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October 8, 2018
Why Are Men Dying By Suicide?
Join us as we discuss male suicide in industrialized, Western nations with our guest Steph Slack, who has worked in copywriting, corporate social responsibility, and internal communications for some of the top law firms in London and Melbourne. But her passion has long been men’s health, and specifically, raising awareness of male suicide. She is a facilitator, a writer, a speaker, and a consultant, while also having recently returned to school to pursue her Master’s in Mental Health, Ethics, and Law from Kings College in London. She recently delivered her first Ted talk at TEDx Folkstone, called “We Need To Talk About Male Suicide.” She believes that talking saves lives. You can visit her website at www.hellostephslack.com or you can follow her on Instagram at steph.slack or Twitter at Hello Steph Slack.
30:00
October 6, 2018
Speak The Truth (About You) Even If Your Voice Shakes...
Today we're talking with Maryland-based Licensed Clinical Social Worker Bashea Williams, author of Dear Future Wife. He is a dedicated father, Mental Health Professional, Relationship Specialist and Writer. He works with at-risk youth and specializes in marriage and family, couples, and individual counseling. He writes about life, love, and fatherhood. His writing, acting, and public speaking has been featured on several popular websites, BET, Huffington Post, Fatherly, nationally syndicated radio shows, television, movies, and conferences all over the nation. You can follow his work at BasheaWilliams.com, @basheawilliams on Instagram, Facebook, and YouTube.
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September 14, 2018
The Formation of TBG & Transcending Boundaries
Charles made a guest appearance on the Talking Off The Couch podcast with Tatiana Smith. In this episode, Charles lays it bare as an example for other men. The Barber Shop Group is an umbrella organization that advocates for all men’s wellness while creating space for targeted groups to have serious discussions without fear of reprisal and shame. In today’s climate, many people shake their sticks at such an approach but my professional and personal experience has shown me the most effective way for our organization to advocate for men’s mental health. Currently, we have three media ventures: our podcast, a live weekly radio show allowing listeners to interact with a trained therapist, and an upcoming webtv talkshow. We host men’s retreats around the country allowing men to engage in group discussions of wellbeing and gain access to one-on-one counseling and mentoring, all while doing “guy” stuff.  Email: charles.catchings@thebarbershopgroup.com Web: www.thebarbershopgroup.org Facebook: @thebarbershopgrp Instagram: @thebarbershopgrp Twitter: @thebarbershopgrp
38:00
September 10, 2018
We Can't Keep Up With The Kardashians
If you are successful in your job, have a social life, and a filled calendar; if you feel your life is going well but are also feeling social pressures to dress the part, earn the high salaries, and stay physically fit, you won't want to miss this episode. Today we'll talk with Melinda Clark at the Insight Counseling Center in Brickell-Miami, Florida; the peninsula's investment district sometimes referred to as a southern Wall Street. Melinda spends her time addressing addiction, anger management, depression, relationship conflicts, sexual issues, and self-esteem. She is here to tell us that all that glitters isn't gold and that we can't keep up with, and don't have to keep up with the Kardashians. You can follow Melinda on Instagram @insightmiami and on Facebook @insightcounselingmiami. If you're in the Miami area, you can schedule a consultation by calling (305) 505-3789 or visit her at the Insight Counseling Center located at 1330 SW 22nd St Miami, Miami-FL 33145.
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September 7, 2018
Philadelphia Teen Trauma at All-Time High with Nicole Thompson
Nicole Thompson is a Certified School Psychologist. She completed her graduate studies at the Philadelphia College of Osteopathic Medicine, and her undergraduate studies at Temple University, where she is now an Adjunct Professor. For the past five years, she has worked as a psychologist in a large urban high school. Her role has been to collaborate with students, families, staff members and stakeholders from the school and community to serve the student population. Nicole is also known as "The Urban School Psychologist" and is the founder of Reverse The Adverse, a trauma-competent training program. Her mission is to raise awareness and teach educators to service urban students plagued by traumatic experiences. For more information about Reverse The Adverse or to have Nicole speak at your organization, please email nt@theurbanschoolpsychologist.com. You can also follow her on Instagram at The Urban Psychologist.
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August 25, 2018
Violence, Suicide & Grief: Numbing The Pain
Join some of The Barbershop Group members on August 10, 2018 as we discuss the impact of violence on Black men and the assumption that we are predisposed to violence as a result of nature. A closer look may reveal that violence isn't part of nature but of nurturing and environment. We'll ask what comes first? The chicken or the egg? Are Black men seen as inherently more violent and so desensitization ensues? Or are Black men desensitized resulting in violence? Just what happens in the mind when violence and the rumors of violence are perpetuated constantly? What happens when we witness violence either to ourselves or someone else and we can't process it? Does despair create some of this propensity? We know Black men die by suicide. Not as much as White men currently, but it is happening much more readily than we like to admit. We'll let one member share his personal struggle to come to grips with experience the loss of a loved one to suicide.
47:00
August 10, 2018
Staying Sane In An Insane World & Real Talk Relationships with Kiaundra Jackson
Today co-host Riley McGhee, and I talk with therapist, author, and entrepreneur Kiaundra Jackson of KW Essential Services and KW Couples Therapy about her recent book, Staying Sane In An Insane World: A Prescription for Even Better Mental Health and about relationships. What can we do to make our relationships better? Do we have to be confrontational and rude? Do we have to spend all of our time with our partner? Do we get to have some time away? How should we express our needs? What should we do when our spouse/partner makes us feel bad for stating a need? Are men to blame for failures to communicate in relationships or are women in need of changing how they communicate with men as well? Kiaundra will answer these questions and more on our show today. For more information you can click the links above or follow Kiaundra Jackson on Facebook @Kiaundra Jackson and on Instagram @kiaundrajackson.  400 Continental BLVD El Segundo, CA 90245 kiaundra@kwcouplestherapy.com (310) 751-0389
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August 3, 2018
What does Ron Swanson & Boyz n The Hood have in common? Bad mental health.
Join us as we host two passionate guests from our partners at Healthy Men Michigan and The YB Men Project. Today we'll talk with Dr. Jodi Frey. of the University of Maryland where she is an Associate Professor at The University of Maryland, School of Social Work.  Dr. Frey chairs the Employee Assistance Program (EAP) sub-specialization and the Financial Social Work Initiative. Dr. Frey’s research focuses on workplace behavioral health, including the impact of employee health and well-being on productivity and safety. We'll also speak with Dr. Daphne Watkins who is an Associate Professor of Social Work, Faculty Associate at the University of Michigan-Ann Arbor. Her research has focused on understanding the social determinants of health that explain within group differences among black men; developing evidence-based strategies to improve the physical and mental health of black men; and increasing knowledge about the intersection of culture, ethnicity, age, and gender. Dr. Frey and Dr. Watkins discuss their respective endeavors and projects created to reach men who may be adverse to seeking mental health treatment, or, are beyond the scope for the purposes of research and evaluation for suitable, traditional and non-traditional therapeutic models. For more information, click the links above. You can also take a look at Man Therapy.
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July 26, 2018
Waking Up The Invisible Man When You Can't Find Him
Intake specialist, minister and mental health advocate Cliff Roy Jr. talks with The Barbershop Group founder about the difficulties of centering healthy messaging for men and waking them up. Though Cliff is adamant about his work, he admits that it can be cumbersome to get men to live healthier, impassioned lives due to social conditioning. Today he takes on the chalenge without fear, but it wasn't always this way. Come listen as Cliff discusses some of his tools to access the psyches of men.
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July 21, 2018
Men Down: Addressing Suicide on The American Home-Front
Please support the show at https://www.patreon.com/thebarbershopgroup Dr. Heather Stevenson is a licensed clinical psychologist in private practice who works as both a therapist and coach for men who want to achieve a better balance in their life and create more connection and intimacy in their relationships.  Dr. Stevenson has worked with countless men both individually and in groups in the general public and prisons around issues of masculinity, gender norms and stereotypes, disconnection in relationships, self-development and enhancement, stress management, burnout, anger management, and mental health issues such as depression, anxiety, PTSD, substance use and more. Dr. Stevenson believes that not enough men are given the space and opportunity to fully get in touch with and express their emotions in a safe and vulnerable way, without judgment or restriction. Dr. Stevenson is on a mission to create more spaces and opportunities for men to come together in groups to explore these issues and learn how to enhance, elevate and evolve as human beings.  Join us today for Part 1 of our Man Down series covering the emotional rollercoaster, the social misunderstandings and miscues surrounding men and suicide.  For more information or to follow Dr. Stevenson, you can follow her on Instagram @drheatherstevenson.
39:00
July 20, 2018
LMFT Melissa Dumaz - The Love Challenge
Please support the show at https://www.patreon.com/thebarbershopgroup Today we'll speak with LMFT Melissa Dumaz out of Torrance, CA. Melissa graduated from the University of La Verne with an undergraduate degree in Psychology and obtained her master’s degree in Marriage and Family Therapy from California State University Long Beach. She is the owner of U Help You, a counseling center in Beverly Hills, CA and the author of a new book entitled The Love Challenge: 30 Days, 30 Ways To Increase The Love In Your Relationship. Melissa believes each individual possesses innate skills, strength, and qualities to overcome difficulties in their lives. She specializes in guiding clients through the complexities of overcoming emotional and physical trauma. She also helps clients of all ages deal with grief, relationship issues, parenting, transitions in life, family conflict, self-esteem and stress management. You can follow Melissa on Facebook at @UHelpYou and on Instagram @UHelpYou. Melissa's book, The Love Challenge: 30 Days, 30 Ways To Increase The Love In Your Relationship can be purchased on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, and iBooks.
35:00
July 20, 2018
Mental Health First Aid in Urban Country Clubs
Please support the show at https://www.patreon.com/thebarbershopgroup Barbershops have represented a safe-haven for men, and especially those who have historically found themselves locked out of opportunities to be served by the status-quo. Today we've invited several panelists to discuss the impact of barbershop culture on these men and how we might integrate models of health and healing without recreating places of machismo, false bravado and toxic masculinist ideologies.  Join Lennie Carter of My Tru Circle (www.mytrucircle.com), Dr. O'Shan Gadsden Ph.D. of Gadsden Consulting & Evaluation (www.oshangadsdenphd.com), Gary Taylor MSW of Uphold 31:8  and Seanathan Polidore- Masters in Psychology and author of "What's Your Kick: The Guide to Unlocking Your Passion" as we discuss a healthy past, present and future for barbers and their clients.
01:22:00
July 19, 2018
Natalie Jambazian: The Culture of Bullying & Male Silence
We'll discuss the culture and processes of bullying and its impact on young people with a bit of a look into the life of bullied boys who become men. Natalie is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Certified Anger Management Specialist in Sherman Oaks, CA, working in private practice. Natalie works with individuals, families, children, teens and adults including but not limited to relationship issues, divorce, anger, anxiety, depression, trauma, and the impact of bullying. Natalie is currently a certified Anger Management specialist who works with both court-ordered individuals and volunteers in her practice. In addition, Natalie has worked in the entertainment industry for several years, her experience has led her to understand the fast-paced environment and the challenges the industry can bring to an individual. For more information or a consultation, visit www.therapywithnatalie.org/ or call 818 334-8786. You can also follow Natalie on Instagram at @natalie_therapy.
45:00
July 19, 2018
Whitney Hawkins: Win, Lose or Draw- A man's guide to arguing
Please support the show at https://www.patreon.com/thebarbershopgroup Whitney Hawkins is a licensed psychotherapist and marriage & family therapist. She is the owner of The Collaborative Counseling Center in Miami, FL. Whitney provides “Modern Therapy to Make Life More Manageable.” We'll discuss why men prefer to avoid arguing and choose emotional disengagement during conflicts and arguments with significant others. We hear it in countless reports from women as well as from gay men, that their partners often prefer complete withdrawal when and where tensions ride high. Avoidance seems to reign supreme where men can't win and where they feel there is a loss of traditional dominance. We'll dig in on this episode with Whitney. We'll also get her qualified take on the gun vs. mental health/mental illness debate U.S. media and pundits seem to be making so prevalent. https://www.facebook.com/TheCollaborativeCounselingCenter Email: whitney@collabcounseling.com Website: www.collabcounseling.com Phone: 305-382-7525 150 SE 2nd Ave Miami, FL 33131
33:31
July 6, 2018
If You Could Read My Mind with Dr. Reginald Cunningham
Today we'll talk to Dr. Reginald Cunningham about vulnerability and the struggle for personhood through the eyes of a Black male therapist. We'll also discuss some of the thoughts former Duke and NBA basketball star Jason Williams expressed regarding success after a great failure. Tune in and share Dr. Cunningham's wisdom with your family and friends. For more information or a consultation, can contact Dr. Cunningham at (410)961-7192 or visit http://www.rvccounseling.com/. Please visit www.patreon.com/thebarbershopgroup to make a contribution to our show today! As always, thank you for your continued support!
48:16
July 2, 2018
Natalie Jambazian: The Culture of Bullying & Male Silence
Please support the show at https://www.patreon.com/thebarbershopgroup We'll discuss the culture and processes of bullying and its impact on young people with a bit of a look into the life of bullied boys who become men. Natalie is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Certified Anger Management Specialist in Sherman Oaks, CA, working in private practice. Natalie works with individuals, families, children, teens and adults including but not limited to relationship issues, divorce, anger, anxiety, depression, trauma, and the impact of bullying. Natalie is currently a certified Anger Management specialist who works with both court-ordered individuals and volunteers in her practice. In addition, Natalie has worked in the entertainment industry for several years, her experience has led her to understand the fast-paced environment and the challenges the industry can bring to an individual. For more information or a consultation, visit www.therapywithnatalie.org/ or call 818 334-8786. You can also follow Natalie on Instagram at @natalie_therapy.
42:37
June 29, 2018
The Weight of The World & Man's Struggle For Self-Care
Today we're talking with Eliza Boquin, LMFT of The Relationship & Sexual Wellness Center in Houston, Texas about the barriers to self-care for men. How have men managed to get away from the practice of self-care in the 21st century and the millennium? There was a time in history when men took a break from the harrows of life to recharge and reinvigorate their minds, bodies and souls whether it was through the arts and literature, manual hobbies like glass-blowing, iron-working, wood-working, writing, etc. Has trauma and unstable families of origin and toxic families impacted many men’s abilities to learn and practice self-care?. We'll cover this and more! Enjoy! For more information visit http://www.trswc.com or call (281) 849-9914.
01:01:20
May 7, 2018
Check Your Eyesight
Enjoy this mono-cast with Charles as he reflects on the fallacy of his own vision.
07:36
May 3, 2018
Gay and Mental?: An Unequal Opportunity Hazard
Justyn Smith is the founder of The Queer Center (www.thequeercenter.com) and a therapist that specializes in providing counseling services for Gay Men and the Queer Community. His work as a therapist, trainer, consultant, advocate, educator, and researcher are all connected to his desire to support and make a positive impact on the mental health of the Queer Community. What are men in the hetero-world doing wrong with regard to understanding mental health in the gay community? How are biases impacting health? There are countless ways for straight men to meet potential partners and spouses and it's still difficult to find suitable people. We'll talk about the psychological difficulty of dating as a gay man. How should we address gay men who may be experiencing self-loathing or who are engaging in unhealthy habits looking for external validation? And Justyn will answer so much more! Join us! Justyn can be contacted at 713-868-1232 or by email at justyn@thequeercenter.com.
39:26
April 25, 2018
Mental Health First Aid in Urban Country Clubs
Barbershops have represented a safe-haven for men, and especially those who have historically found themselves locked out of opportunities to be served by the status-quo. Today we've invited several panelists to discuss the impact of barbershop culture on these men and how we might integrate models of health and healing without recreating places of machismo, false bravado and toxic masculinist ideologies. Join Lennie Carter of My Tru Circle (www.mytrucircle.com), Dr. O'Shan Gadsden Ph.D. of Gadsden Consulting & Evaluation (www.oshangadsdenphd.com), Gary Taylor MSW of Uphold 31:8 (www.yougoodbro.squarespace.com) and Seanathan Polidore- Masters in Psychology and author of "What's Your Kick: The Guide to Unlocking Your Passion" as we discuss a healthy past, present and future for barbers and their clients.
01:19:26
April 19, 2018
From Childhood Trauma to Personal Finance Consultant
Entrepreneur and veteran James Johnson speaks with Charles about being a CODA(Child Of a Drug Addict), and overcoming some traumatic experiences to lead a healthy life and give back to others. James has worked in the financial sector for a number of years and grew passionate about helping people rid themselves of debt and venture into home ownership. You can visit www.MyCreditRepairNow.com or call (404) 429-4952 for more information.
46:04
April 17, 2018
Learning To Let Go
A solocast about my personal shifting.
27:31
April 9, 2018
Zeahlot Lopez MFT & Licensed Cosmetologist talks Men
The impact of parenting on men's relationships; Struggling to overcome infidelity; Sexual incompatibility; Male emotional intelligence? Please visit www.vidatherapy.co or @vidatherapy on Facebook and Instagram for more information! Zeahlot Lopez is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and a Licensed Cosmetologist helping humans rebuild their spirit. Guided by her intuition, clinical training, and life experience…and some luck….she currently helps individuals and families lead a happier life! Aside from providing mental health services to better the lives of her clients, she enjoys providing coaching services to entrepreneurs and those looking to increase their emotional intelligence. She enjoys comedy, singing in her shower, and cooking new dishes.
29:59
April 9, 2018
Talking Addiction, Opioids and Family Consciences
We're interviewing Robbie Shaw, an Addictions Recovery Coach and public speaker in North Carolina about his quest into addictions counseling, his own recovery and the winding road into the dynamics of families and codependent consciences.
40:00
March 30, 2018
Adventure Therapy with Ryan Howes of Northern Vertical
Maine-based rock-climbing instructor and life coach Ryan Howes of Northern Vertical and Ryan Howes Health speaks with us about overcoming neglect, abuse and negative self-images and finding his inner peace through climbing.
32:03
March 23, 2018
How to handle information overload with Regi Adams
Knowledge Manager and self-help enthusiast Reginald Louis Adams discusses how to keep information overload from derailing our personal and professional lives. He also offers some helpful tools and resources to add to our smartphones and calendars. Its a good dose of stress relief.
31:25
March 16, 2018
Rick Lewis on Fitness, Fatherhood & Entrepreneurship
Ex-football player, personal fitness instructor & founder of AIP Fitness, Rick Lewis discusses what it takes to be his own boss, remain committed to his family, encourages guys to go get a check-up and lose the egos.
23:21
March 12, 2018
Let The Anxiety Go Bro!
We recently spoke with Chad Dennis about the practice of mindfulness and what led him to the brink of losing his sanity. Chad is full of energy and is passionate about sharing his personal experience with others. Dealing with stress, anxiety or situational hypertension? Check out the latest talk with us!
28:57
March 9, 2018
Breathing For Better Sex
Please support the show at https://www.patreon.com/thebarbershopgroup Today we're learning about the impact of yoga on men's health and our sex lives. Join us as yoga instructor Jamilah Shakir out of Atlanta, GA takes us to school!
39:13
March 2, 2018
Introducing Riley McGhee, co-host & performance coach
With a background in sport psychology, counseling, youth development and a passion for helping others reach their dreams and goals Riley launched his business as a Mental Performance Coach. Since starting his own business he has worked with individuals ranging from youth and young adults, to parents and mid-career professionals. He has consulted for athletic teams and departments, organizations, and small businesses ranging from yoga studios to law firms. His goal is to help dream chasers run faster and to tear down the wall that separates our dreams from reality. Riley firmly believes that if you achieve the right mindset you can become your best self.
20:14
February 26, 2018
Mental Potential with Nicholas Powell
We need to commit to change for ourselves. All too often we let dreams and aspirations fizzle as a result of something we're lacking. Find out more in this informative dialogue.
34:50
February 26, 2018
Thoughts on men minimizing
Please support the show at https://www.patreon.com/thebarbershopgroup As men, we need not stick our feet in our mouths when we don’t understand or can’t feel empathetic.
26:54
February 24, 2018
What We Do
Our purpose
01:12
February 24, 2018
Don’t kill us with memes
Some thoughts about the danger of memes on the internet.
18:15
February 24, 2018
Episode 23: Being a Boss & Rites of Passage
Today I spoke with Morehouse alum and Change Management Consultant Ron Spears about the difficulties of working in, and leaving corporate America for non-traditional opportunities. Ron also discussed his experience in a rites of passage program for young men.
53:46
February 23, 2018
Patreon Contributions
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01:08
February 22, 2018
LCSW John R. Edwards
Please support the show at https://www.patreon.com/thebarbershopgroup Failed relationships, barriers to counseling & how to seek a therapist are some of the topics covered today.
54:27
February 17, 2018
Get Off Porn Man
Please support the show at https://www.patreon.com/thebarbershopgroup Speaking of my own porn use and of men’s denial
21:29
February 15, 2018
Circle Your Square
Sometimes when our sensibilities and sensitivities have been disturbed we can lose our steam. How do we keep moving?
11:38
January 23, 2018
Love, Drugs & Sexuality of African-American Men
Please support the show at https://www.patreon.com/thebarbershopgroup Love, Drugs & Sexuality of African-American Men
55:41
January 22, 2018
Millennial Problems & Concerns In The Workplace
Millennial Problems & Concerns In The Workplace
48:32
January 22, 2018
More On Unhealthy Isolation
More On Unhealthy Isolation
21:31
January 20, 2018
Unhealthy Isolation
A man on an island is in trouble
10:07
January 19, 2018
Podcast 11: Yank Those Negative Emotions
Please support the show at https://www.patreon.com/thebarbershopgroup Yank Out Those Negative Emotions
04:57
January 15, 2018
Quit Renting Love
What TBG is really about and a young man attempts to buy love.
23:48
January 5, 2018
Getting Real About Us
7 Ways To Get Real
38:10
December 30, 2017
Introducing TBG
Introducing The Barbershop Group; Inviting Mental Health professionals
15:13
December 22, 2017
Dr. Damon Silas-Psychologist
EFT, Dancing Mindfulness, Career Influences, at-risk youth, grief, men’s barriers
42:60
December 15, 2017
Death and Dying For A Man
Please support the show at https://www.patreon.com/thebarbershopgroup Death and dying for men, the dilemma of religious centers for African-American men and the fragile state of male friendships
35:37
December 5, 2017
Male boundaries questioned
Track 01 • Male sexual boundaries, Mike Pence, the weed kids and Facebook • Male sexual boundaries, Mike Pence, the weed kids and Facebook
44:59
November 28, 2017
Manhood redefined???
Please support the show at https://www.patreon.com/thebarbershopgroup Iron sharpens iron. Only healthy men can lead the way in developing healthy realities of manhood and masculinity despite others attempting to do so.
34:11
November 17, 2017
Compete Against You
Compete Against Yourself
09:38
November 8, 2017